Motivation Daily by Motiversity - Matthew McConaughey: This Is Why You're Not Happy | THIS SPEECH BROKE THE INTERNET

Episode Date: August 1, 2023

Recognizing unfulfillment is the antidote to being fulfilled. Recognizing unhappiness is the cure to becoming happy. In this speech and the multiple inspiring Matthew McConaughey interviews, we learn that this is why you're not happy. Special thanks to our partners and to these channels. Subscribe to them here for more inspiring content:@TomBilyeu @lewishowes SpeakerMatthew McConaugheyMcConaughey is known all over the world for his many accomplishments: Academy Award winner for Best Actor in Dallas Buyers Club, a Golden Globe, a Screen Writers Actors Guild Award, two Critics' Choice Awards, a People’s Choice Award and more.Follow Matthew:https://www.instagram.com/officiallym...https://www.facebook.com/MatthewMcCon...https://twitter.com/McConaugheyMusic:AudiojungleSoundstripe Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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The link is in the description. Happiness is an emotional response to an outcome. If I win, I will be happy. If I don't, I won't. It's an if-then, cause and effect, quid pro quo standard that we cannot sustain because we immediately raise it every time we attain it. See, happiness demands a certain outcome. It is result reliant.

And I say if happiness is what you're after, you're going to be let down frequently and you're going to be unhappy much of your time. Joy, though. Joy is a different thing. It's something else. Joy is not a choice. It's not a response to some result. It's a constant. Joy is the feeling that we have from doing what we are fashioned to do, no matter the outcome.

We all want to succeed, right? So the question that we've got to ask ourselves is what success is to us, what success is to you? Is it more money? That's fine. I got nothing against money. Maybe it's a healthy family. Maybe it's a happy marriage. Maybe it's to help others to be famous, to be spiritually sound. Leave the world a little bit better place than you found it. Continue to ask yourself that question. Now your answer may change over time and that's fine. But do yourself this favor. Whatever your answer is, don't choose anything that will jeopardize yourself. Prioritize who you are, who you want to be, and don't spend time with anything that antagonizes your character. All right, life. It's not a popularity contest. Be brave, take the hill, but first answer that question, what's my hill? Because I do know this. The sooner that we become less impressed with our life, with our accomplishments, with our career,

the sooner we become less impressed and more involved with that and these things, the sooner we get a whole lot better at doing it. I'm going to talk to you about some things I've learned in my journey. Most from experience, some of them I heard in passing. Many of them I'm still practicing, but all of them I do believe. are true. Now, they may be truths to me, but don't think that that makes them mine because you cannot own a truth. So please think of these as signposts, approaches, paradigms that give some science to satisfaction. They're yours to steal, they're yours to share, like into your own lives,

to personally apply in your own lives, in your own way, should you choose to. Look, one that is consistent that I always come back to that I think we could all shake hands with more is a certain responsibility, how you can't have true freedom without having responsibility. Gratitude, I believe gratitude is something that if you're more thankful for something in your life, you give it more value, it therefore has more meaning, and when it means more, you take care of it and you scale it and you're more generous. Gratitude actually leads to more generosity, and I also, the end point, which I want to come back to, that value as well as many others, is the most self-serving value.

The more truly selfish we are to serve ourselves, the more we can actually serve others, more self-less we can be. We see those as a contradiction. Delayed gratification. Someone would say it's a sign of maturity. It's just an investment in ourself to just believe in ourself enough to project to say,

I'm going to pass up the plastic ring today for the gold crown tomorrow. I'm going to maybe make a sacrifice today for a Monday off instead of the Friday off if I'm getting a long weekend. Give yourself the extra win, the freedom, be cool to your future self on the back end, the long money. Whether it's investment, something for our kids or thinking about the next generation, there's actions and choices we can make where you're building goodwill out there that will serve you the most. even though someone say, well, that's a self-less act. Well, ultimately, I think it's a selfish act if you redefine selfish, which I'm trying to do. There's great value in being alone.

And if we are alone and we get bored and we don't like the company, ding, may that light go off to say, that does not mean. We need to pick up our phone to get some attention or go to the bottle to ease the anxiety or go online to get some feedback to entertain ourselves. No, it's actually a great time to say, no, sit here in that discomfort long enough to go, okay, until you come out the other side to go, all right, I'm good with me again. Stick with it until you get through this uncomfortable times until you go, you know what, I can spend time with myself. I could do this. I can do this forever.

Well, then it's okay to go re-engage, pick up your phone, go see your friends, go have a drink, what have you, go look for those things that are other relationships in life. But hopefully not until there's great value in. not doing that until you go, I'm good with me and me for right now. I believe that we quit as people too quick now. I think that's one of our big faults is we quit too quick. Oh, it gets a little hot. Uh-oh.

The relationship gets a little off. Uh-oh, I'm out. We pull the parachute a little too quick. You can't commit fully to everything. There are some relationships that shouldn't last. There are some pursuits in our career that you go, no, I'm not going to pivot, take another thing. But commitment to get obsessed with making something work is a wonderful freedom. When you give yourself the non-negotiable, you don't give yourself the out.

You don't give yourself the crutch. You don't give yourself the net to fall in, if you do fall. I think we suffer from the reverse of Icarus' story. So Icarus takes his son flying and he's an angel, right, I guess. And he's got the wings and wax on his wings. And the sun went to go, I'm going to go up there close to the sun. Icarus is like, whoa, whoa, it's too hot up there. When the sun doesn't listen, flies too close, the sun melts the wax on his wings.

And so the boy falls back down to earth and into the ocean. And you know what that moral of that story is. Hey, hey, hey, hey, don't fly too high. Keep ground. I think we suffer from the opposite. I think we get up there and we think it's getting hot and our wax on our wings is going to melt. And it's only 50 degrees Fahrenheit. We put these mortal lids on our capacities all the time.

It's actually arrogant of us. I think it's extremely arrogant of us to do that. rather than being, oh, no, no, no, that's, that's, I'm wanting too much. I need to be humble. No, I think it's arrogant to say, no, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's, that's how is the roof can be. That's as, that's, what happens. We choke. Risk taking is one.

Forgiveness is another if you get real repentance from the person who persecuted you. If I do you wrong, I think it's first your step to come to me and go, hey, dude, that wasn't cool. You picked my pocket. We had a deal. and you screwed me over. Now I have to either go, yeah. So it's a character trait. So don't, don't do anymore, don't deal with me anymore.

Or I have to really repent and go, geez, you're right. And if I convince you that I'm really truly sorry for that, now you get to not only forgive me, but go, come on. Now I'm a soldier for you. I'm a soldier for you. So forgiveness is actually really selfish. Bravo. Way to go.

You're turning the page. You're wanting to do more. You're wanting to find more, something different. Bravo. Way to make it hard on yourself at the right time after you usually have already accomplished. But don't, forgive this. Let's go back to gratitude. And this is where a lot of people, I think, get hung up in the midlife crisis.

Wanting to do more and something different, it's great. But not at the expense of disrespecting what you've already done. And too many of us discount. Oh, I've done nothing. Oh, that's not worth anything. Oh, it's just stuff I've built. And when usually, no, that is something. No, that is something.

And when I say give yourself credit for that, that doesn't mean trust that you're not going to go, oh, okay then. I actually don't want to do more new stuff. I'm cool. It's not like you're going to go just retire and go to the beach or play golf or quit doing anything. But it doesn't cancel that.

Your ambitions out. But we need to give more respect to what we've already built. You're still ambitious. You can be ambitious and have an entrepreneur's spirit to want to go change things in your life. while still respecting. I actually think you'll find more and do more of what you want to do

the best way for yourself when you do have a respect and a connection to your lineage of what you actually have built. And then Craig, give yourself credit for what you have built to this point. It's not cancel that out.

So I need to feel like I'm barren to go forward. No, that's going to help you. This next story is connected to that one. All right? It's not a new book. It's the same book. It's a new chapter we're looking for, right?

Those stories are connected. It's the same. hardcover. We don't start over in our lives and start a new book. Start a new chapter, maybe. And those things that we like to tell ourselves, oh, it's a new chapter. They're usually just commas. Those things we like to say, oh, it's the end of the book. It's usually just a period of into the paragraph. And those things we go, no, it's a whole new means of communicating. It's a new encyclopedia. No, it's just a new chapter. In the same book. We all only get one book.