Motivation Daily by Motiversity - STOP NEGATIVE SELF TALK

Episode Date: June 6, 2022

Stop negative self thinking and start betting on yourself. Take a moment to look at yourself in the mirror and realize that you are enough, instead of talking yourself out of what you want. One of the greatest motivational speeches ever on stopping negative self talk and overthinking by Mel Robbins. Thank you to Tom Bilyeu for providing this interview: https://www.youtube.com/TomBilyeuSpeaker:Mel Robbins: https://www.melrobbins.comMusic:Really Slow Motion Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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The link is in the description. Jealousy is one of the most powerful directional signals on the planet. Because you're only jealous of people that are doing things or have things that you actually want. It's impossible to be fake jealous. Whatever you're jealous of is hitting something deeply personal. fucking pay attention to it. Instead of stewing in it, go, oh, flip it. How could I take those things that I'm really now really inspired by

and take action and go get them in my life? Because the thing about jealousy is, it's just your inspiration that's why. Most folks know what they dream about and what they want. And yet, They're spending all of their time and energy arguing against what they want. And so you can have all these epiphanies. I hope that when somebody listens to our conversation and watches this,

that they have a massive aha moment. But it's not going to mean fucking shit if you don't take action and do something about it. The aha moment is the door that opens. But your new life does not begin unless you can step through the door. I keep going. I am saying, I believe in myself. Tearing yourself down over the shit that you've done, it's not going to empower you to change the patterns that are keeping you stuck.

People will cheer for you and me. They won't cheer for themselves. I'm the same way. The point of the story is it's so easy to see what somebody else should do. It's so easy to cheer for somebody else. We all do that, right? We cheer for our favorite sports teams. We follow our favorite influencers and authors.

We plan birthday parties for our friends. We take on extra work from our colleagues. We support everyone around us. We do not know how to do it for ourselves. The most motivating force in the world on the planet based on research, hands down, is empowerment, encouragement, support, and celebration. And for our entire lives, we have outsourced that to somebody. else. And that moment in the mirror every morning could be a profound moment where you lift yourself up

and you check back in with your intention. What I've discovered that is heartbreaking is the average person cannot celebrate themselves. I'm going to ask everybody who's watching this to tomorrow morning stand in front of the mirror. We're going to unpack this whole thing and try to high-five yourself. You can't raise your hand to your own reflection without now grounding yourself in the moment. Instead of going, I got this, let's go, and high-fiving yourself to step forward, most of us go, I don't know if I'm worth that. I don't know if right now is the right time to do this. I don't think I'm good enough. I failed so many times I can't go through that door. And that's the problem I want to attack right now, that there is somewhere in your

life that you know what you want, you can feel it pulling you, and you are actively arguing against it. You're bringing yourself down. You're beating yourself out. And so this Uber driver, I get into the car and we start driving and I'm on the phone as we're driving. And I'm having a conversation with somebody about this daytime talk show that I launched, which was a dream with Sony pictures television and then was promptly fired after season one. It was a huge, fucking failure because we didn't make it to season two. Huge failure in real world terms. Massive success when it comes to the timeline of my life.

And so I'm talking to this person about the talk show. I hang up the phone and this Uber driver comes alive. He's like, oh my gosh, I can't believe you're in my cab. And I'm like, why? And he says, because I want to talk to you about something. I think you can help me. And I'm like, great, how can I help you? And he says, I have a dream of being a.

Oscar-winning actor and creating opportunities for other black and Latino men to do the same in acting. And I'm like, freaking fantastic. What the fuck are you doing in Dallas? Right? You know, the guy's 25. And so I go, you know, the game is in New York and L.A. I mean, sure, you can act, you can write stuff. You can be here in Dallas.

But why are you not in L.A.? Why are you not in New York? And he's like, you're right, you're right, you're right. I need to move to L.A. Like, why not? and he says, I have $700 in my bank account. And I'm like, that's freaking fantastic. You have $700 in a car?

Dude, drop me off and get driving. What are you waiting for? And so we have this whole conversation, and I write about it in this book, where I am actively arguing for his dream. And he is actively arguing against his dream. And what is so sad, is throughout this conversation, Tom, he's like, you're right, $700 could get me there. You're right, I am only 25. You're right.

If I keep thinking and thinking and thinking and thinking about what I want to be doing, I'm not only going to drive in circles. My whole life is going to spin in circles as I think about what I want, and I don't do shit about it. And then you are going to find yourself not at 25, but at 45 or 65, and you're going to be so filled with regret that you never fucking put a bet on yourself. And so this conversation ends with him declaring that he's going to go to California and me giving him a bunch of tools that I talk about in this book. The point of the story is it's so easy

to see what somebody else should do. It's so easy to cheer for somebody else. We do not know how to do it for ourselves. When somebody high fives you, you feel seen, you feel heard, and you You feel like somebody has acknowledged you for the unique person that you are. One of the biggest objections that people had to standing in front of the mirror, take a moment, look at yourself, and then raise your hand. As people said, over and over and over again, I haven't done anything worthy of high-fiving. High-fiving feels like a celebration. I don't have the number on the scale that I want. I don't like my bank account.

I don't enjoy what I do for a living. I've made a shitload of mistakes. I'm struggling with trauma. I don't have anything to celebrate. And what I realized is people are making a fundamental mistake. You are withholding the very support, empowerment, and celebration that you need to change and to do the hard work and to face it. the things that you're scared of. And that's why you're not changing. Because if you can't stand

in front of the mirror and raise your hand and high-five yourself just because you got your ass out of bed and you're breathing, you will never get what you want in life. Is the negative shit you're saying and the support that you're withholding helping you feel better? If it's not, try this try celebrating yourself five days in a row. Literally, try starting your day by waking up and raising your hand and high-fiving yourself in the mirror just because you're breathing. So if you just are like, I'm doing the best I can. That's pretty empowering if you think about it. Or I can learn from this.

Or this is temporary. I'll be okay. Those sorts of things are little ways to high-five your mind instead of again going. low. You got a choice. Do you take yourself down or do you lift yourself up? That's where it begins. It begins with you. Begins with you. Begins with you.