Motivation Daily by Motiversity - STOP WASTING TIME! - Powerful Motivational Speech for Success - Jordan Peterson Motivation

Episode Date: July 19, 2022

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New episodes are being released every week. The link is in the description. How did I balance marriage, fatherhood, and a demanding career? Well, I stopped wasting time. That helped a lot. I stopped drinking. I stopped going to bars. I really didn't spend a lot of time with my friends when I had young kids in particular.

I had friends, and I saw that. them, you know, with some degree of regularity, but where I cut corners was more with social life outside my family. So I spent a lot of time with my wife and I spent a lot of time with my kids and I spent a lot of time on my career. And so you have to make choices. And I think those were reasonable choices. I'm not displeased with them. Don't abandon your friendships, but you can certainly look at where you're wasting time and just stop doing things that you know to be a waste of time. So, and I did. The funny thing is, if you're trying to stop drinking. You need something better than alcohol. And alcohol is pretty good. So you better find

something a lot better, man. Yeah. And then it is, and then esteemable people do esteemable things. It's like, yeah, well, you want to figure out, you want to figure out something that you're doing with your life that's worth not getting drunk and screwing up, because that's fun. I concentrated on my marriage and making time for it. I concentrated on spending time with my kids consciously, and I concentrated on developing my career. Those were the three elements of my life. some time left over for creative pursuits and and for friends. But most of it was a matter of getting rid of time wastes of any sort, you know. And I just pushed that out of my life, you know, day after day until I wasn't wasting any time or virtually no time.

And, you know, I've asked my undergraduates frequently how much time they waste per day. And general estimates are like six to eight hours of time they regard themselves as wasting. like that's a whole career right there right so if you just stop wasting time you can do a tremendous amount especially if you also try to maximize efficiency and i always found that incredibly motivating you know a motivating game how much can i do in the least amount of time possible that was that's fun to try to do that as far as i'm concerned because if you're starting to put your life together and you have friends that object those are not friends. Those are just people you know. They're not friends because a friend is someone,

this is one of the hallmarks of a friend. Here's two hallmarks. A friend is someone you can tell bad news to and they won't tell you why you're an idiot and they won't interfere with your suffering. They'll just listen and maybe they'll suffer along with you. Okay, so you can tell bad news to them and they won't tell you some worse thing that happened to them. They'll listen and they'll suffer along with you. But a friend is also someone you can tell good news to and the friend will say, Wow, in this veil of tears, something good happened to you. Great, man. I'm wonderful.

It's rare. It's unlikely. Good for you. I hope 10 more things like that happen. And they're not envious and they're not jealous and they're not one-up in you. And if you're trying to get your life together, it's actually, if you're trying to get your life together and your friends get in the way, that's actually real useful for you because you've now identified who your friends aren't. And you might think, well, I can't give them up. It's like, oh, yes, you can.

And not only can you, you should, and it would be better for them. Because if they're aiming down and they want you going down with them, there's nothing good about what's happening to them. And there's certainly nothing good about that for you. You might say, well, why do people drink too much? It's like, if you like alcohol, that's a stupid question. Yeah. Right. It's like, why do people drink too much?

Well, because it's great. You know, it's like, okay, so why stop? Well, you do stupid things when you're drunk. You hurt yourself. You compromise your health. It's really hard in the people around you. You tend to turn into a liar and it screws up your life. Yeah.

It's like, yeah, but it's pretty fun. Yeah, well, it is. But you need something better than that. And what's better isn't being straight and not making mistakes. It's like that's all prohibition in some sense. What's better is, no, you need an adventure, man. You need to get out there and have something to do. Yeah.

And something worth waking up for. And you need, that's the substitute for the addiction. Actually, the addiction is the substitute for that, if truth be known. You need to be afraid of the right thing, and you should be afraid of contaminating your soul with deceit. That's what you should be afraid of. That will definitely do you in. And I know exactly how. What happens is, you know, garbage in, garbage out.

The old programmer's saying goes, and so you'll fill your head with nonsense, and no one will call you on it except you. But you can still that voice if you try hard enough. You just wait until you get in real trouble. You know, one day they'll come a point where you have to. to make a decision. And the decision is the difference between life and death, or worse, between someone else's life and death, or worse between health and the suffering that's worse than death. And because you've compromised yourself to such a degree, you will not be able to rely on your judgment and you will make the mistake you shouldn't make. And then you're done. And that will absolutely

happen. Approach it voluntarily. Carefully, but voluntarily. Don't freeze and run away. way explore instead you expose yourself to risk but you gain knowledge and you wouldn't have a cortex that you know is ridiculously disproportionate if as a species we hadn't decided that exploration trumps escape or freezing it's like we explore that can make you the master of the situation so you can be the master of something like fire instead of just being terrified about so and one of the things that's absolutely phenomenally fascinating I think is that One of the things that the Hindus do in relationship to Kelly is offer sacrifices.

Say, well, why would you offer sacrifice to what you're afraid of? Well, it's because that is what you do. That's always what you do, is you offer up sacrifices to the unknown, in the hope that good things will happen to you. So in a sense, you're faced with something terrible, the uncertain future. That faces all of you, right? Something you're afraid of, no doubt. I mean, how many of you are worried about your future?

Yeah. Why? You're all young, you're smart, you're relatively good looking. It's like, what the hell are you worried for? What are you worried about? You have innumerable quasi-autonomous subsystems that make you up that will generate stories impulsively, and you'll just act them out. And you know that, because you watch yourself over two weeks, and you think, Jesus, I did a lot of stupid things in the last two weeks. And you think, why? And it's because you're a random, you're a class. of somewhat random quasi-autonomous personality units and lacking a leader they're just going to fire off whenever they want you know first you're hungry then you're thirsty then you want to go to bed with your wife you know then you want to sleep in then you want to tell your boss off then you want to curse at the guy that cuts you off in traffic it's like you're kind of like a two-year-old you know just it's one emotional frame after another vying for dominance there's no overarching hierarchy and there's no king at the top And so, you know, we already talked about pyramids of competence

and what's supposed to be at the top is you want to bring all those things together. We understand this neurologically. I'll show you some of that in a little bit. We understand this neurologically how this maps in some sense right onto the neural structure of your being. You want to put something in control. And the thing that you should put in control

is the bloody thing that pays attention and learns, right? Everything else in the hierarchy, should be subordinate to the thing that pays attention and learns. What advice do you have for a young man in his 20s? Make a plan. Look at what you're interested in. Get disciplined about something. Allow for the possibility that you have something important to contribute to the world

and that the world would be a lesser place without that contribution. Don't be afraid of taking on responsibility. You're so... It's where you find what sustains you in your life. You can take on too much responsibility. You have to be cautious in that regard, but that's a less common problem than not taking on enough. A lot of the things that people regard as traps are actually the means to their life.

You know, often young people are afraid of commitment, for example, in the context of a romantic relationship. And because they feel that that's going to interfere with their pursuit of something more valuable, but that's just not the case. You're not going to find something more valuable in your life than a committed relationship with someone that you love that sustains itself across time and that in all likelihood produces children. That's life. And there may be people for whom avoiding that is the better route, but those people are very rare. And you need a real reason to assume that you're one of those people.

And hopefully for you, you're not. you know I've had a very good career a very meaningful career in multiple dimensions and it's still been the case for me that the most important part of my life has been my intimate relationship with my wife and my family so don't be afraid of that or be afraid of it but don't let it that stop you from from pursuing it