Motivation Daily by Motiversity - The Most Eye-Opening 120 Minutes You’ll Ever Hear - Best Motivational Speech Compilation

Episode Date: December 17, 2025

Some of our best motivational speeches of the year!Special thanks to our partners:Chris WilliamsonLewis HowesTom BilyeuThe Diary of a CEOValuetainmentSpeakers Include:Admiral Mcravenhttps://www.instagram.com/williamh.mcraven/?hl=enTom Bilyeuhttps://www.youtube.com/@UCnYMOamNKLGVlJgRUbamveA Arnold Schwarzeneggerhttps://www.instagram.com/schwarzenegger/?hl=enMatthew Mcconaugheyhttps://www.instagram.com/officiallymcconaugheyAlex Hormozihttps://www.instagram.com/hormozi/Dry Creek Wrangler https://www.youtube.com/@DryCreekWranglerSchoolTony Robbins https://www.tonyrobbins.com/?srsltid=AfmBOooqrDvsAEinDUTngfnHNBfRk3lyXwC-Xt7CYmlerEFZPbeYfu9lChris Williamson https://www.youtube.com/@ChrisWillx/videosMusic: Paradise Found - Confidential Music, Inc.And the Sky Turned Red - Secession StudiosThe World Burns Around Us-Secession StudiosValor is Dead - Secession StudiosPiano Theme - Secession Studios Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hello listeners, Motivosity is excited to share that we have launched a new podcast called Morning Motivation by Motivore. If you are looking to start your day with positivity and the most uplifting motivational audio, this is the show for you. For today's episode of Motivation Daily by Motivority Podcast, we are sharing a recent episode from the Morning Motivation Podcasts. If you like it, go follow the show. New episodes are being released every week. The link is in the description. Changing the world can happen anywhere and anyone can do it. So what starts here can indeed change the world?

But the question is, what will the world look like after you change it? Imagine the majority of people don't know where they're going. I knew where I was going. Learn from your mistakes. Because those lessons are greater. than someone just telling you to not do it. You know if you zoom out far enough you can't see the earth? It's just like it just puts everything immediately into perspective

of how ridiculous some of the things that we're concerned about are. But I think it's more important is to realize that self-esteem is earned. It's only earned by you with yourself. If you want to change the world, measure a person by the size of their heart, not by the size of their flippers. The upside of never trying is never having to feel the pain of failure. family. I came to a place in life where I just didn't like me anymore. I looked in the mirror

and I'm like, I will not spend the next 50 years with this guy. I'm in no way foolish enough to think that everybody out there is on their best behavior. No, me neither. No, that life is not fair and that you will fail often. We all have a pattern of focusing on what we have and at times on what's missing. Which one do you think most people spend more time focusing on what they have or what's missing? What's missing? What's missing? Yes. The price that people pay to be somebody that you admire is one of the most fascinating questions, I think.

And brother, let me tell you in this day and age, we don't need more weak. The focus on what's missing is not something that comes with someone who is a failure. It comes very much with people who are very successful. Either the people that you're worried about judgment are going to die or that you're going to die. or that even if you do achieve the thing, they won't care anyways. Or if you don't do anything, they won't think about you to begin with and don't you want to be thought about to begin with? Like, don't you want some level of significance?

The question then becomes, if you always focus on missing, how can you sustain happiness? What starts here, changes the world. They expected the officers to set the example always, to be there on time, to have the best-looking uniform, to run harder than anybody else, because that's what leadership is all about. And the only thing that we had in common when it was all done was we didn't quit. And while these lessons were learned during my time in the military,

I can assure you that it matters not whether you ever served a day in uniform. It matters not your gender, your ethnic or religious background, your orientation or your social status. It always came back to me. A one in command, command. Throughout your career, you've got to find this right balance of professional distance. And always understand you. Never forgetting that the decisions you make have a direct impact on the men and women that work for you.

Our struggles in this world are similar, and the lessons to overcome those struggles, and to move forward, changing ourselves and changing the world around us, will apply equally to all. Your responsibility as a leader is to always keep your head up and give people optimism and hope because you have done the hard work to get them through the tough times. But then there's a point where it is the fight or flight. and that's when you see the real courage come out. Things go bad.

Things go bad in combat. Things go bad in universities. Things go bad. If you allow those failures to crush you, then you're not going to make the next hard decision. Seal training was a great equalizer. Nothing mattered, but your will to succeed. And you always need to be in a position

to make the next hard decision, but take into account the failures you've had. So here are the 10 lessons I learned from basic shield training that hopefully will be of value to you. as you move forward in life. Every morning in seal training, my instructors, who at the time were all Vietnam veterans, would show up in my barracks room, and the first thing they'd do was inspect my bed. If you did it right, the corners would be square, the covers would be pulled tight, the pillow

centered just under the headboard, and the extra blanket folded neatly at the foot of the rack. It was a simple task, mundane at best, but every morning we were required to make our bed to perfection. That seemed a little ridiculous at the time, particularly in light of the fact that we were aspiring to be real warriors, tough battle-hardened seals. But the wisdom of this simple act has been proven to me many times over. If you make your bed every morning, you will have accomplished the first task of the day. It will give you a small sense of pride, and it will encourage you to do another task, and another and another. another. And by the end of the day, that one task completed will have turned into many tasks completed. Making your bed will also reinforce the fact that the little things in life matter.

If you can't do the little things right, you'll never be able to do the big things right. And if by chance you have a miserable day, you will come home to a bed that is made, that you made. And a made bed gives you encouragement that tomorrow will be better. So if you want to change the world, start all. by making your bed. During training the students are all broken down into boat crews. Each crew is seven students, three on each side of a small rubber boat, and one coxin to help guide the dinghy. Every day your boat crew forms up on the beach and is instructed to get through the surf zone and paddle several miles down the coast. In the winter, the surf off San Diego can get to be eight to ten feet high, and it is exceedingly difficult to paddle through the plunging surf unless everyone digs in.

Every paddle must be synchronized to the stroke count of the coxswain. Everyone must exert equal effort, or the boat will turn against the wave and be unceremoniously dumped back on the beach. For the boat to make it to its destination, everyone must paddle. You can't change the world alone. You will need some help. And to truly get from your starting point to your destination takes friends, colleagues, the goodwill of strangers, and a strong coxon to guide you. strong coxon to guide you. If you want to change the world, find someone to help you paddle. Over a few weeks of difficult training, my seal class which started with 150 men, was down

to just 42. There were now six boat crews of seven men each. I was in the boat with the tall guys. But the best boat crew we had was made up the little guys, the Munchkin crew we called them. No one was over five foot five. The Munchkin boat crew had one had one's one's one had one American Indian, one African American, one Polish American, one Greek American, one Italian American, and two tough kids from the Midwest. They out paddled, outran, and out swam all the other boat crews. The big men in the other boat crews would always make good-natured fun of the tiny little flippers the munchkins put on their tiny little feet prior to every swim. But somehow these little guys, from every corner of the nation and the world, always had the last laugh, swimming faster than everyone and reaching the shore long before the rest of us.

Steel training was a great equalizer. Nothing mattered but your will to succeed, not your color, not your ethnic background, not your education, not your social status. If you want to change the world, measure a person by the size of their heart, not by the size of their flippers. Several times a week, the instructors would line up the class and do a uniform inspection. It was exceptionally thorough. Your hat had to be perfectly starched, your uniform immaculately pressed, your belt buckle shiny and void of any smudges. But it seemed that no matter how much effort you put into starching your hat or pressing

your uniform or polishing your belt buckle, it just wasn't good enough. The instructors would find something wrong. For failing uniform inspection, the student had to run, fully clothed, into the surf zone, then wet from head to toe, roll around on the beach until every part of your body was covered with sand. The effect was known as a sugar cookie. You stayed in the uniform the rest of the day, cold, wet, and sandy. There were many a student who just couldn't accept the fact that all their efforts were in vain,

that no matter how hard they tried to get the uniform right, it went unappreciated. students didn't make it through training. Those students didn't understand the purpose of the drill. You were never going to succeed. You were never going to have a perfect uniform. The instructors weren't going to allow it. Sometimes no matter how well you prepare or how well you perform, you still end up as a sugar cookie. It's just the way life is sometimes. If you want to change the world, get over being a sugar cookie and keep moving forward. Every day during training, training, you were challenged with multiple physical events, long runs, long swims, obstacle courses, hours of calisthenics, something designed to test your medal.

Every event had standards, times you had to meet. If you failed to meet those times, those standards, your name was posted on a list, and at the end of the day, those on the list were invited to a circus. A circus was two hours of additional calisthenics designed to wear you down, to break your spirit, to force you to quit. No one wanted a circus. A circus meant that for that day, you didn't measure up. A circus meant more fatigue.

And more fatigue meant that the following day would be more difficult and more circuses were likely. But at some time during seal training, everyone, everyone made the circus list. But an interesting thing happened to those who were constantly on the list. Over time, those students who did two hours of castrchalastinics got stronger and stronger.

The pain of the circuses built inner strength and physical resiliency. Life is filled with circuses. You will fail. You will likely fail often. It will be painful. It will be discouraging. At times it will test you to your very core. But if you want to change the world, don't be afraid of the circuses.

At least twice a week, the trainees were required to run the obstacle course. The obstacle course contained 25 obstacles, including a 10-foot wall, a 30-foot cargo net, a barbed wire crawl, to name a few. But the most challenging obstacle was the slide for life. It had a three-level 30-foot tower at one end and a one-level tower at the other. In-between was a 200-foot-long rope. You had to climb the three-tiered tower, and once at the top, you grabbed the rope, swung underneath the rope, and pulled yourself hand over hand, until you got to the other end. The record for the obstacle course had stood for years when my class began in 1977.

The record seemed unbeatable until one day a student decided to go down the slide for life head first. Instead of swinging his body underneath the rope and inching his way down, he bravely mounted the top of the rope and thrust himself forward. It was a dangerous move, seemingly foolish and fraught with risk. Failure could mean injury and being dropped from the course. Without hesitation, the students slid down the rope perilously fast. Instead of several minutes, it only took him half that time. And by the end of the course, he had broken the record. If you want to change the world, sometimes you have to slide down the obstacles head first.

During the land warfare phase of training, the students are flown out to San Clemente Island, which lies off the coast of San Diego. The waters off San Clementi are a breeding ground for the Great White Sharks. To pass seal training, there are a series of long swims that must be completed. One is the night swim. Before the swim, the instructors joyfully briefed the students on all the species of sharks that inhabit the waters off San Clemente. They assure you, however, that no student has ever been eaten by a shark, at least not that they can remember.

But you are also taught that if a shark begins to circle your position, stay on your ground. Do not swim away. Do not act afraid. And if a shark, hungry for a midnight snack, darts towards you, then summons up all your strength and punch him in the snout, and he will turn and swim away. There are a lot of sharks in the world. If you hope to complete the swim, you will have to deal with them. So if you want to change the world, don't back down from the sharks. As Navy SEALs, one of our jobs is to conduct underwater attacks against enemy shipping. We practice this technique extensively during training.

The ship attack mission is where a pair of seal divers has dropped off outside an enemy harbor and then swims well over two miles underwater, using nothing but a depth gauge and a compass to get to the target. During the entire swim, even well below the surface, there is some light that comes through. It is comforting to know that there is open water above you. But as you approach the ship, which is tied to appear, the light begins to fade. The steel structure of the ship blocks the moonlight. It blocks the surrounding street lamps.

It blocks all ambient light. To be successful in your mission, you have to swim under the ship and find the keel, the center line, and the deepest part of the ship. This is your objective. But the keel is also the darkest part of the ship, where you cannot see you. your hand in front of your face, where the noise from the ship's machinery is deafening, and where it gets to be easily disoriented, and you can fail. Every seal knows that under the keel, at that darkest moment of the mission, is a time when you need to be calm, when you

must be calm, when you must be composed, when all your tactical skills, your physical power, and your inner strength must be brought to bear. If you want to change, you want to change, you change the world, you must be your very best in the darkest moments. The ninth week of training is referred to as Hell Week. It is six days of no sleep, constant physical and mental harassment, and one special day at the mud flats. The mud flats are an area between San Diego and Tijuana, where the water runs off and creates the Tijuana sloos, a swampy patch of terrain where the mud will engulf you.

It is on Wednesday of Hell Week, let you paddle down to the mud flats and spend the next 15 hours trying to survive this freezing cold, the howling wind, and the incessant pressure to quit from the instructors. As the sun began to set that Wednesday evening, my training class, having committed some egregious infraction of the rules, was ordered into the mud. The mud consumed each man until there was nothing visible but our heads. The instructors told us we could leave the mud if only five men would quit. Only five men, just five men, and we could get out of the oppressive cold.

Looking around the mud flat, it was apparent that some students were about to give up. It was still over eight hours till the sun came up, eight more hours of bone-chilling cold. A chattering teeth and the shivering moans of the trainees were so loud it was hard to hear anything. And then one voice began to echo through the night. One voice raised in song. The song was terribly out of tune, but sung with great enthusiasm.

One voice became two, and two became three, and before long, everyone in the class was singing. The instructors threatened us with more time in the mud if we kept up the singing, but the singing persisted. And somehow the mud seemed a little warmer, and the wind a little tamer, and the dawn not so far away. If I have learned anything in my time traveling the world, it is the power of hope. The power of one person, a Washington, a Lincoln, King, Mandela, and even a young girl from Pakistan, Malala.

One person can change the world by giving people hope. So if you want to change the world, start singing when you're up to your neck and mud. Finally, in seal training, there's a bell. a brass bell that hangs in the center of the compound for all the students to see. All you have to do to quit, all you have to do to quit, is ring the bell. Ring the bell and you no longer have to wake up at 5 o'clock. Ring the bell and you no longer have to be in the freezing cold swims. Ring the bell and you no longer have to do the runs, the obstacle course, the PT,

and you no longer have to endure the hardships of training. All you have to do is ring the bell to get out. If you want to change the world, don't ever, ever ring the bell. It will not be easy. And what started here will indeed have changed the world for the better. Thank you very much. Seal training, which is six months long, really was a microcosm of life. I mean, it was about the chapter.

that you had every day in seal training were the same sort of challenges you were going to face in life You were going to fail you had to build relationships there were going to be bullies out there there were bad things that happened in that six months That to me after you know now almost 37 years after I had gone through seal training I realized that it really was a reflection of life at large Only about a quarter of those who go through Navy SEAL training actually make it. Yeah, it's an astoundingly low percentage. What's the difference between those who succeed and those who fail? In my class, we had an American Indian, we had African Americans, we had, you know, Polish, French, we had a lot of first-generation kids. There's only one thing that we all have in common, and it isn't our physical fitness. It's the fact that we didn't quit. I'm going to kind

of walk you through my career and just give you this sense of some of the things that I have learned along the way. And the only thing that we had in common when it was all done was we didn't quit. And the reason that's so important, I think, for a seal is not about the concern are you going to quit on the mission. Because the mission sometimes fills you full of adrenaline and you just keep going. But you're going to have a thousand opportunities to quit in your career. You know, in the military, you move every couple of years, it's hard on your family. You can always find reasons why you're just not going to move another time.

It's hard on your family, it's hard on your friends, it's hard on everything. And so there's a lot of opportunities to quit on your family, to quit on your friends, to quit on the mission. But if you have learned early on that the one thing that sets you apart is that you don't quit, then you can make it through those tough times. I didn't want to be a quitter. I didn't want someone to think that I wasn't tough enough to make it through. Oh, you better get out of my way now.

I was a midshipment here going through the Naval ROTC program, and in the very first semester of Naval ROTC, you get Navy history. And so we talk about all the great naval battles out there, but the young lieutenant, who was teaching the class at the time, talked to us about Chester Nimitz. So the Japanese bomb Pearl Harbor in 1941. In 1942, now Nimitz is debating whether he is going to engage the Japanese fleet at this tiny little island in the Pacific called Midway.

Well, most of his staff thought it was a bad idea. Nimitz is really grappling with this, should I try to engage the Japanese fleet in Midway? And he goes to see one of his closest friends, Admiral Bull Halsey. And Halsey at the time had shingles, and he was in the hospital in Pearl Harbor. So Nimitz goes to see him, and he tells him about his dilemma. And he says, you know, I just don't know what to do.

And Halsey was this kind of gruffled Admiral, and he says, well, Admiral, you used to tell me, when in command, command? And the point was, you're in charge, take charge. Make the hard decisions, because that's what people expect when you are the commander. Whenever I thought about the difficult decisions that I had to make, I thought how they paled in comparison to the decisions that Nimitz had to make. And it always came back to me, they went in command, command.

It's just that kind of, that kind of, it kind of soothes the soul. When you are in a leadership position, and I don't care whether you, you're, you know, leading two people at Starbucks or whether you're leading a giant corporation, or whether you're leading, you know, Navy SEALs, you get a certain energy in command. And we used to talk about it in the military. There is the energy of command. People a lot of times think that that energy comes from, you know, the clouds or from, it comes from the people you're leading. You know that as a leader, you have a responsibility to the men and women that you are leading. When things are, they're toughest, that's when they need you the most.

that's when you have to show up. And if you show up and your heads hung and your shoulders are slumped and you don't look like you have a plan for getting through the tough times, that will spread through an organization like wildfire. And so your responsibility as a person in a leadership position is when things are their worst, that's when you have to step up. And you can't have a bad day on those days. Now, we all have bad days.

I mean, we all have bad days, but you take those bad days and you keep them in your office or you, as I talked about with your swim buddy, you talk to somebody about it, but when you have to address the people that are serving you, that you are serving, that are responsible for getting the work done, you better make sure you are, you know,

clear-eyed, shoulders back, head up, look confident and make sure you've got a plan to move forward through the tough times. And there are so many times when, you know, you're doing an after-action report and you're talking to a young soul, who you know charged a machine gun nest or saved his buddies or whatever it was and invariably when you talk to them They say look, I was just doing my job. I was doing what I was trained to do and I would offer that that's a large part of it

You know when you're being trained that okay my job is to do this and I'm gonna stay here You know fighting the enemy in my field of fire whatever it happens to be But then there's a point where it is the fight or flight and that's when you see the real courage come out If there is a way out of the problem set, those that don't have the courage will run. Those that do will stay and fight. And it is always, you know, again, this may not come out quite right. But a lot of people think it is about, you know, the values we hold dear, you know, the flag. And yes, that is part of it.

But it is more about this connection. It's about the man or the woman on your left and right. How much do you care about them? Are you willing to sacrifice your life so that they can live? And it is in the quieter times where you reflect on why you did that and you realize it is about America. It is about our values. It is about the fact that we grew up with similar values, which is why I want to save your life. But it is more the connection.

I had General I used to work for talked about kind of the four stages They said look We all go through this stage When we're young men in particular You know, and I went through it with SEAL training You have this challenge

Okay, there's a challenge before me I'm going to overcome that challenge And then the challenge becomes an adventure And for me I'm sailing around the world I'm jumping out of airplanes, locking out of submarines I'm doing the sorts of things that I always wanted to do And then it becomes a profession And when I was about 15 years in, I became a commanding officer, and it's a profession.

It is the profession of arms, and you value that profession of arms, and you learn everything you can. But at some point in time, it becomes a calling. And it is when it becomes a calling that it has this, you know, this effect on you that is hard to explain to people. Oh, Lord, I want to stay. Oh, Lord, I want to stay. When you go through seal training, for safety purposes, you are never by yourself.

And frankly, when I went through, they were all Vietnam veterans that were my instructors. And they made sure you understood, look, I don't care where you are. You always have a partner. You always have a swim buddy. And when you are actually going through training and you are diving, scuba diving, you are actually attached by a line, a short line, to your swim buddy. And so you have to work together. But your swim buddy is also there to make sure if you're underneath a little.

ship that you don't get tangled in lines that if you run out of air he's going to take his regulator share his air with you and this idea of a swim buddy in the seal teams it you know it starts with your swim buddy underwater but it's also when you're parachuting you know in the middle of the night it's your swim buddy who kind of parachutes beside you and lands in you know enemy territory together it's oh by the way it's your swim buddy that checks your parachute before you jump when you are kind of patrolling and you're out on the ground you know who you know who your swim buddy is, they're the ones that are checking your six to make sure the enemy doesn't come. And it is this idea that I don't care who you are. You need a swim buddy in life. You know,

whether it is your spouse, whether it is your close colleague, you know, no matter who it is, you have to have somebody you can, you know, trust implicitly. You had to get up every morning in the seal training and make your bed because it was going to be inspected. And as I've told folks before, the value of that, of the idea that you're going to get up, you're going to take a little pride in it, and it encourages you to do another task in another, and also about the little things in life. And that was what one of the instructors said, look, if you can't even make your bed to exacting standards, how are we ever going to trust you to lead a complex seal mission? Learn to do the little things right, and you'll learn to do the big things, right? But in Iraq and

Afghanistan it actually took on a little bit of a different meme particularly when I was in Afghanistan so I was a three-star Admiral in Afghanistan I was a second-ranking guy in Afghanistan and I lived in what we referred to as a bee hut made by the Navy sea bees and it was just a plywood room and in my plywood room was a bed that was it the latrines the heads were outside there was no shell just a bed a rack by in Navy parlance and every morning I would get up I'd go do my PT I'd come back and I'd make the bed because outside my bee hut was a wartime environment.

Unfortunately, every week we lost kids in combat. You know, civilians were inadvertently killed. Some admiral, some general, some president, some prime minister, somebody was yelling at me about something outside that door. And my days were long. I mean, my average day was probably 20 hours a day. And some days you'd go days before getting back to that room.

But when I got back to the room and I opened my plywood door, the bed was made and it gave me some sense of control of my life and and it I mean in again hard to kind of square the circle on why that's the case but when it when you open the room and the bed is made there's a sense of order and I've told folks look it it's a simple task but I really do think it it it makes a difference certainly makes a difference for me it's just that kind of that kind of that kind of suits the soul so so So yeah, we have problems today, but here's why I am optimistic. I have great faith in this young generation.

Take it from the millennials to the Gen Z to whatever's below the Gen Z, the Gen X. And I think people are always surprised by that when I say that, because there's this narrative out there that, you know, the millennials are these soft little entitled snowflakes. And of course, I've said it a thousand times. but then you've never seen them in a firefight in Afghanistan, or going to the University of Texas to make a better life for, you know, themselves and their families.

It's a great generation of young men and women. Every generation thinks the next generation isn't good enough because they didn't walk three miles in the snow to get to school or whatever. Well, I'm telling you, this generation is absolutely good enough to get us out of whatever problems we're in. And I think they will. And so I always, remain optimistic. You have to. You've got to have a purpose, have a vision. I was very fortunate

that I stumbled on my vision. I mean, as you know, I was born in 1947 in Austria after the Second World War, and I didn't really like Austria when I grew up. I couldn't wait to get out of there. I couldn't see myself becoming a farmer or a worker in a factory or anything like that. Even though my parents wanted me to stay there and have a normal life. The father wanted me to become a police officer like he was. My mother wanted me just to stay there and marry a girl with the name of Heidi, hopefully, and have a bunch of kids and run around like the Fenn trap family and the sound of music. But that was their vision, not mine. My vision was totally different. I felt that I was born for something special, for something unique.

for something big. Then one day I went to school, I remember I was 11 years old, and they showed a documentary about America. And there they showed in this documentary the huge skyscrapers, the high rises, the huge bridges, the six-lane freeways, the huge cars with the wings sticking out, and all of this stuff in the same myself, that's where I want to be. I don't want to be around here with these little farmhouses and these little buildings and everything is old. I want to be in America. One day after school I walked by a store in Graz, which was called Brul. And it was the only store that really sold kind of American stuff.

So one day they had jeans there, American jeans. And then they had the pool walker, then had an expander and some bumpers. and some barbells and some dumbbells and exercise bench in the window. So I went inside and I looked around and I looked at this stuff and then I saw a magazine. I saw a bodybuilding magazine that had Reg. Park on the cover. Reg. Park was then a three-time Mr. Universe. And I saw him on a big screen as Hercules. And on the cover it said, how Reg. Park missed the universe

became the Hercules star. That's what the cover story was all about. So I looked at the cover and I said, I said, I got to get this magazine. So I bought the magazine, I took it home and I read it over and over from the front page to the back. It had everything in there, how he trained, how he was working out in Leeds, England,

in a factory town, how he worked out every day for three, four hours, and became the strongest man of Europe. Europe and how he won Mr. Europe, Mr. Great Britain, and then eventually missed the universe. And how he won the second Mr. Universe and the third Mr. Universe. And how he was discovered to play the starring role in Hercules. I read that and I said to myself, wow, this is the blueprint for my life. This is exactly what I want to do. I want to become a bodybuilding champion just like Rich Park. I want to get into movies just like Rich Park. And I want to make millions of

dollars and be rich and famous, just like Reg. Park. Seventy-four percent hate their job in America. Now, there is not much different when you come to Europe. The majority of people don't like what they're doing. Because they're really not doing it because they didn't have a goal and they followed this goal. They're just aimlessly drift around and then over a sudden there's a job opening so they get their job because you have to work but then when you work it's a chore it's work it's not fun so if you think about only a quarter of the people really enjoy what they're doing in life that is unbelievable if you think about it so I felt so blessed that I knew what I was doing it's like a medical student that studies and knows

he wants to become a doctor, you know where to go. So I knew where to go. So people always ask me, when they saw me in the gym in the pumping iron days, they say, why is it that you're working out so hard, five hours a day, six hours a day, and you have always a smile in your face? The others are working out just as hard as you do and they look sour in the face. Why is that? And they told people all the time, I said, because to me, I'm shooting for a goal. In front of me is the Mr. Universe title.

So every rep that I do gets me closer to accomplishing that goal to make this goal, this vision, turn into reality. Every single set that I do, every repetition, every weight that I live will get me a step closer to turn this goal into reality.

So I couldn't wait to do another 500-pound squat. I couldn't wait to do another 500-pound squat. I couldn't wait to do another 500-pound bench press. I couldn't wait to do another 2,000 reps of sit-ups. I couldn't wait for the next exercise. For the next half hour of posing and all the kind of things that you have to do, you'll be a champion. And with the age of 20, with the age of 20, I went to London and I won the Mr. Universe contest as the youngest Mr. Universe ever. And it was because I had a goal. Visualizing your goal and going after it makes it fun.

You've got to have a purpose, no matter what you do in life, you've got to have a purpose. They told me, it says, and your accent, even if you reduce all your body weight and everything, and have a normal body, you accent. I said, you accent, I mean, it will go give people goosebumps. With the German accent, it will get people to creeps. They will get scared. He says no one in Hollywood ever has become a leading man that had an accent. Doesn't happen.

People in America want to hear their actors talk like John Wayne or like Bert Reynolds or like Clint Eastwood. Don't listen to the naysayers. Everything I ever did. The thing that they heard out of people's mouth was, that's impossible. That can't be done or no. I remember when I want to be a bodybuilding champion. including my parents and everyone else around me, said this is impossible.

Why don't you become a ski champion? That's what they do in Austria or bicycle champion or do some track and field. You can't be a bodybuilding champion. That is exactly what I heard. And of course, I proved to the people that it can't be done. So whenever someone said to me, it can't be done, I heard it can be done. When they said, no, I heard yes. And when they said it's impossible, I heard,

it is possible. When you start doubting yourself, that's very dangerous. Because now what you're basically saying is that if my plan doesn't work, I have a fallback plan. I have a plan B. And that means that you start thinking about plan B and every thought that you put into plan B, you're taking away now that thought and that energy from plan A. And it's very very, you're very, you're taking away now that thought and that energy from plan A. important to understand that we function better if there is no safety net because plan B becomes a safety net it says that if I fail then I fall and I get picked up and I have something else there that was they will protect me and that's not good because people perform better when there's no safety net people

perform better in sports and everything else if you don't have a plan B. I'm telling you I've never ever had a plan B. I say I made a full commitment that I'm going to go and be a bodybuilding champion I made a full commitment that I'm going to be in America I made a full commitment that I'm going to get in the show business and I'm going to be a leading man no matter what it takes I would do the work I would do the work over and over and over until I get it. And the same was in politics and everything like that. So to me, it is very dangerous to have a plan B because you're cutting yourself off from the chance of really succeeding. And the reason, one of the main reasons why people want to have a plan B is because they have worried about failing. What is if I fail, then I don't have anything else? Well, let me tell you something. Don't be afraid of failing because there's nothing wrong with failure. failing. You have to fail in order to climb that ladder. There's no one that doesn't fail. Michael Jordan said in one of his interviews when they said, you're unbelievable, you're the greatest basketball player of all times.

I mean, tell me about that. And he says, well, you're just mentioning the successes. But he says, for me to become the greatest basketball player, I missed 9,000 shots. when I was playing basketball at the NBA games. So during these games that he was so successful, he missed 9,000 shots. Does it make him a failure? No. He's one of the greatest basketball players of all times, but he failed 9,000 times. Do you get it?

We all fail. It's okay. What is not a case is that when you're not, you fail, you stay down. Whoever stays down is a loser. And winners will fail and get up. Fail and get up. Fail and get up.

You always get up. That is a winner. That is a winner. I failed in bodybuilding. I lost bodybuilding competitions. I lost powerlifting competitions. I lost weightlifting competitions. I had movies that went in the toilet

and that were terrible and got the worst reviews. And in politics, I remember, I had many of the initiatives on the ballot and we lost. My approval rating in California went down to 28%. And then it went back up again and they won again the governorship. Hey, we all lose. We all have lost us. This is okay.

And this is why I say, don't be. be worried about losing because when you're afraid of losing then you get frozen. You get stiff, you're not relaxed. You got to be in order to perform well in anything if it's in boxing or if it is on your job or with your thinking is only happening when you relax. So relax. It's okay to fail. Let's just go all out and give it everything that you got.

That's what it is all about. So don't be afraid to fail. I believed. that I can be a leading man. I believe that I could be another Green to Eastwood or another Bert Reynolds or another Warren Beatty or whatever those characters were Charles Bronson and so on.

I believe that I could be those people. I said there's enough room in that ladder that I can fit up there. And I look back again and learned from what I learned in sports. In my case in bodybuilding, it's all about hard work that he put in. And after I did Conan the Barbarian, the director at the press

conference said to the press, he said to the press, if we wouldn't have had honored, we would have had to build one. The very body that they said can never be sold because the time is wrong. A few years later, I'm doing Conan the Barbarian and it was the number one hit at the box office when he came out in the summer of 82. Think about that and the director says if we wouldn't have had his body we would have had to build one So all of a sudden my body became an asset not a liability and the same thing was with terminator after we were finished filming Terminator Jim Cameron said to the press if Arnold wouldn't have had that accent and talked like a machine I think the movie wouldn't have worked

so think about that the body and the accent and the accent that they attacked was an asset. But I didn't listen to those losers. I didn't listen to them at all. Work your ass off. There is no magic bill. There is no magic out there. You cannot get around, you have to work and work and work.

And Muhammad Ali worked his butt off. And I saw it firsthand. And I remember that there was a sports writer, that was there in the gym when he was working out and he was doing sit-ups. And they asked him, how many sit-ups do you do? And he said, I don't start counting until it hurts. That is working hard. And so you can't get around the hard work.

It doesn't matter of who it is. As a matter of fact, I believe what Ted Turner said, work like hell and advertise. Work like hell. Go to bed. and early early to rise work like hell and advertise so you work your ass off and then you let the world know about your work that's what it is all about that people know if you have a company if you have a movie if you do a sports work your ass

off but then advertise and let everyone know imagine if you will work on the business on some business that you want to develop every day for an hour imagine how where the along you will go and get. So it drives me nuts because we have, when people say we don't have the time, we have 24 hours a day. We sleep six hours a day, so it gives you still 18 hours. The average person works around eight to ten hours. So let's assume it's ten hours, so we have eight hours left. Then you travel around an hour a day, maybe two hours a day.

So now you have still six hours left. So what do you do with this six hours? But you can see how much time there is available if you organize your day. So you got to work hard. I mean, let me tell you something. When I went to America, I went to college, I went and worked out five hours a day. And I was working on construction. because in those days in bodybuilding there was no money.

I didn't have the money for food supplements or anything. So I had to go to work. So I worked in construction. I went to college. I worked out in the gym and at night from 8 o'clock at night to 12 midnight. I went to acting class four times a week. So I did all of that. There was not one single minute that I wasted.

And this is why I'm standing here today. People only root for people who don't need it. The amount of times when I was on my lonely path where I was too different from the friends that I had, but not successful enough to be friends with the people that I wanted to be friends with, that's when you want people to root for you. That's when you want people to support you. Once you've already won, people are like, he's amazing, he's so good. But like, that's the time when you needed this. the least. People struggle to do things alone. And the path of the exceptional person is one of an

exception, which means that you are not with other people. And rather than fighting that or bemoaning it, see it as an indicator that you're on the right path. Because if everyone else were cheering you on, then it means you're not in the right place because it means you're just like everyone else and that's not where you want to be. You always have to be the person who roots for you before right where else does. And it's usually a single clap in the auditorium for a very long period of time. It is a slow clap that's just you, rooting for you. I think most people feel really lonely when you want something that doesn't currently exist.

And so some people call that dream, some people call that goals, whatever it is. You're trying to pull something from your mind into reality. And you want it done a certain way. And if it's not done that way, it's not what you imagined. And so people on the outside will throw stones and call you names that they think will change your behavior and get you to stop. And the more I have been the person trying to pull things in the reality, the more I've tried to weather and build kind of defenses against those things so that when those stones get hurled at you by being called a control freak or by saying you micromanage things or that you have incredibly high standards, the answer is yes, because I want it done. right the first time. Everybody when I was sleeping on the gym floor, right? Like, you know, I was the underdog. You know, my clients were all like, oh, good for you. You know, you're going after your dream.

They'd see my blanket and my pillow in the corner of the gym and they knew I was sleeping there. And it was evident. You know, I lived there. I didn't have a shower to go to the YMCA, I had to go shower. And everybody was like pro me. And then people would come in, they sign up like, I'm going to support you, right? And then within nine months, I had hired people and I had a manager. And I pulled up and I remember I walked in the lobby and all the same, the same people were like, ah, boss man's here. Oh, you're not too good for us now, right? And I remember being so jarred by the experience and I was like, you guys rooted for me.

And I was like, and now I did what you said you were rooting for me to do. And that was when I realized that people want you to do well, but not better than them. There's this period of discomfort when you change anything because everyone around you wants you to fit within the label that they are comfortable with. But they also have the anchor of what you were before. Yeah, exactly. And so they try and like, people don't like that. And so they're like, no, no, I like you in this box.

So just say, I know, you're having a little thing right now. Don't worry, just, just, and they just want to shove you back into it. And there's, there's a lot of uncomfortable conversations that you have to have where it becomes really socially awkward. And so like, I said one the other day about like going home for the holidays and the reason I don't like doing it is because often I have to confront a lot of people that I haven't seen in a long time. And they'll speak to me in a way that I don't like. And before that, I would roll it off, like, whatever, no big deal.

But I don't accept that. If you're going through that right now, and I promise you, every single person who wants to do something with their life and has done something with their life has gone through the exact chapter that you're going through. And it's the lonely chapter. It's the chapter where you don't fit in with your own friends, but you don't have the outcomes yet to fit into a new group of friends. And you're doing this thing, you're consuming content on the internet, you're doing these free tutorials online to try and figure out how to set up a podcast and what do I host this thing. And you're going through this and you're like, am I, is this even worth it because you have no signs of success, right? But if there's anything that you can take away from what we're saying right now is that the sign of success is the hate that you get along the way. And what you can't do is bend the knee to their hate and fit back into the conformity because it's comfortable and it's warm because like in the Matrix when Trinity opens the door when when Neo's about to go take the red pill and he wants to get out of the car she says

You know that right? You know exactly where it is and I know that's not where you want to be and then he closes the door like right now this moment that you're going through is Trinity opening the door and being like you could go back But then you'd have to remember exactly what the reason was that you decided not to go out to begin with. Just because you listen to this podcast and you consume this content, you're like, I can fucking do more than this. The skills that you develop along the way, like Steve Jobs learning calligraphy, that then became Apple fonts that transformed how we type, those early days that little trench winning in the weeds, oftentimes gives you these huge advantages later on because you have more context than anyone else. And so rather than lament them and hate the fact that you're going through it,

remembering that these will be arrows that you put in the quiver that you're going to be using to slay the future bigger dragons. And so expecting it to be easy is what makes it much harder than it ever is. I'd say one of the strongest mental frames that has gotten me through my hardest times is thinking this will be the story that I will one day tell. And that means the harder it is, the bigger the dragon, the more epic the story. And by consequence, the more epic the hero. And if you think about the difference between winners and losers, winners define themselves by what they made happen. And losers define themselves by what happened to them. And the difficult part of the lonely chapter is that the rocky cut scene lasts 90 seconds in the movie and lasts five years in reality.

The first time you squat, you're orienting yourself to your environment. you're barely actually squatting. You're just looking like you have a bar on your back. But you learn so much between that first rep and your 10,000th rep of squats. And so I think for most people, it's like if I can just decrease the action threshold for people to begin and be okay with the fact that they're going to suck and it is okay to suck, it is you should expect to suck.

And it would be unreasonable for you to be good if you haven't done it before. And so it's like, are you asking the universe to be unreasonable for you by expecting to be good on your first try? And I think that's where a lot of people, it's the expectation that destroys their ability to be successful because they expect to win on the first shot. And no one does. It's not speed of activity. It's elimination of waste. There's all these other things that people are distracting.

They're distracting themselves with. And so if you were that young man, it's you have to recognize the tradeoffs that you have to be willing to make. You have to change your environment so you can change your behavior. And you have to delete everything that's not the thing that you want most. And if you can't decide what you want most, then that's what you need to do first. But once you know what you want, then go get it. People want the confidence before the reps. But especially in confidence, the proof comes before the pudding.

You have to do the reps before people are like, wow. Because you can fake confidence. People are now, yeah, yeah, yeah. You'll know. And as far as I'm concerned in life, I'm the only one I'm trying to impress. And so if I know I'm fake, I'm the one who in the middle of the night is looking up being like, I can't believe himself for it. I would hate that.

It's an empty life. It's also living for other people. And so if the toxic trade is people wanting the outcome without the repetition, right, it's without the price. That's how I say that's number one. The second one is, has everything to do. It's an offshoot, but it's entitlement, right? And it's fundamentally believing you deserve things. You have to be willing to trade the things you love right now for the things you want.

And you may not like the price. of what you want, but you can't change the price. And so there's all this groveling that goes back and forth for younger men of like basically wishing it didn't cost this much time or cost as much failure or cost as much risk in order to get to where they want to go. And so they basically stomp their heels and then retreat inwards into their basement and video games and whatever else rather than confronting their own inadequacy

because the first thing you have to do is say, it's my fault. Everything that I have in my life is my life. But if it's your fault, it's also under your control to change. Because you cannot change what you do not control. And so, to me, it's taking full accountability. If you have a belief and you can't explain why you believe it, it's not yours, it's someone else's. And most people walk around, parroting other people's words

for the vast majority of their lives. And so they basically act as recorders, where they clicked recorded at one part of the life, and then they click play. They click play in another time of their life, and they're just clicking record, play, record, play, record play over and over again. And the reason there's that, in my opinion, that other self that's behind it is because none of those words are yours. And so it makes sense that people feel alone and they feel like they're acting because they never say what they think. And as a result, they also sound like everyone else because they were never themselves to begin with. giving myself permission to be unhappy for an extended period of time in order to get what I wanted

gave me so much relief from honestly I don't like using the word nowadays because it has so many associations but just from like the depression or the funk that I was in for a few years right yeah I just I just didn't like my life and I'd achieved by most measures because I did I don't have the I you know school failed me I was a whatever like I wasn't that I finished in three years I did really well in school and I had a really good job. But it was empty for me. And so my goal is things we talked about earlier, but my personal goal was to squeeze every ounce of potential out of whatever I have.

And I think that if you feel like you have potential left over, then it will eat you alive until you do something about it. Nine, eight, leaving children to follow a dream. It's lift off. I grew up only knowing sort of the courage of the persistence. You're resilient, endure, get up, dash yourself off, go. I honestly think I'd written myself with one-way ticket out of Hollywood. People close to me.

Basically, almost everybody besides my wife was like, what is your major malfunction, little brother? By not trying to play the game, there is no risk of failure. I'm rolling the dice, I'm sticking with it. I was feeling like my work was more vital than my... work with more vital than my life. What's better? Eight big risk in life. Sin wants, miss the mark once, but get seven, achieve seven,

seven out of eight, or take a hundred risk. My hunch is that there's a God, he's saying, go for the hundred and get eight, rather than eight and get seven. If you're not taking enough risk to sin or miss the mark, which is what sin means, to fail. What are you doing? Don't come back with even money. Come back with safe beds.

If you get up and get the courage to keep on going every time and get up and dust yourself off, you make the same mistakes each time around because you never backed up to have what I've now learned and still learning is the courage to go. No, I'm going to let some people pass me in the race right now because I'm going to look at why I keep stepping that damn same pothole to twist my ankle. The same spot. Sacrifice a plastic ring today for a gold crown tomorrow. Sacrifice something today for more freedom tomorrow. Sacrifice something today for a possible healthier future for you kids.

well, if you don't have the hope or believe in something, you're going to end up, you're definitely got to remain where you are. And if you have hope and faith in something, I'm not saying it's 100% get out of jail, you're going to absolutely get out, but you've got the best chance to. The script flipped on me five years ago. I felt like I was going through the motions more in my life,

but I was really getting major life experiences through my work. I had the same question. I was like, well, let's see where I can challenge myself more in the documentary, the one life I'm living, rather than the characters I'm going to play that somebody else wrote, someone else directing, someone else is lensing through their camera and editing. What are we doing on this one take that we've had since the day we're born and we cut the day we die?

Why are you throwing a jackknife in this stuff? You're tripping yourself running downhill, man. You did it. I had my wife and myself to remind myself for that 4 a.m. clarity that I had. in tears when I was like, no, I'm rolling the dice, I'm sticking with it. And I did think I wrote myself a ticket out of Hollywood. I did look at other vocations, become a teacher,

a wildlife guide. I'm seriously, seriously, look at those things. But over time, and it was about 20 months, it was gone long enough, had found anonymity enough, was not in your living room in a theater in a rom-com, you didn't seem on a beach shirtless, Where is he? And then I think I told you the story, turning down the $14.5 million offer,

many people go, oh shit, what's he up to? You don't just step out of Hollywood. Unless you turn that down because you've got a plan. You've got somewhere you want to go. And I think that made me more attractive as a new novel idea. But that was, yeah, that risk took a, I think it's fair to say, that took a fair amount of courage from me. What virtue is there in balance if there was no such thing as imbalance to fight against?

I wish more people, I'm going to flip the word, we're more involved with themselves. Embrace your record. Instead of self-involved, that has a bad term. I wish people were more involved with themselves. I think that's where we're more deficient. Believe in yourself or invest in yourself. Do more of what you can to be great at a craft or vocation

or to get what you want. I sit here with a life where I have the luxury to project, ask myself and ask others. No, make a sacrifice today. Sacrifice a plastic ring today for a gold crown tomorrow. Sacrifice something today for more freedom tomorrow. Sacrifice something today for a possible healthier future for your kids. I understand that's a luxurious position.

I'm not going to apologize it. I'm in it, but I understand to someone in misery, they're going, good for you, man. I'm trying to feed family tonight. I'm not thinking past that. I can't think past that. what he asked him to do. My indirect thing I would say and understand is, well, if you don't have the hope or believe in something,

you're going to end up, you're definitely got to remain where you are. And if you have hope and faith in something, I'm not saying it's 100% get out of jail, you're going to absolutely get out, but you've got the best chance to. Amen. Cumbaya. I get it. I don't think that's how peace is coming.

I think that's a great place. Hope for. But to get there or closer to there is going to take punk rock or rage. It's going to take getting wild. It's not going to be necessarily logical. It's not going to be tame. It's not going to be whispered. I don't think.

No emotion gets more shit done than rage. For good or for bad. It seems like rage really moves the needle. You know what I mean? And I think that that, emotion and that approach shouldn't be thrown out when you're talking about a pursuit of peace or contentment. I think it takes sweat equity. It would take blood being drawn. I don't believe that we are as evolved enough species to just behave as we intellectually can agree we should be.

I don't see it happening. You can all agree with it. In an open form, enough of us go back on our own and what we're doing, you know? It's a good idea. But boy, when we're cornered and what we got's being possibly trespassed on, very primal. Some lines need to be drawn. I believe so.

Model the rise, not the result. I like that. Model the rise, not the result. Because the result is where they're at now. Do not ask Warren Buffett about how long he, He spends reading the newspaper and pouring over old books. That guy was a hustler. He was a hustler when he was young.

What did you do when you were at the stage that I am at? Not what do you do now. Because I want to get to where you are. That means I don't do what you do now. I do what you did to get that. Don't study the result. What was the person doing when they got there? And everybody who's achieved something great was some sort of outlaw.

Some sort of hustler. Out of balance. Out of whack, dark times. Whoa. Still wakes up in the middle of the night and glad they went a mouth guard because they'd have chipped all their teeth with that fucking nightmare

they were having about those things they did back then. I'm one of those. Without complacency, trust that time is on your side. What do you mean, though? Yeah, man. I'll get a header behind it. And I can get in a rush.

And I haven't found... Look, and I know how to hustle and let's go. The clock's ticking. We're all behind. All hands on deck. We got a bust ass. No time for pause.

there's no sleep, no nothing. Get the caffeine out, let's go. Sometimes we've got to do that. But that is usually because an unforeseen circumstance has happened, that there's a crisis we've got to deal with, or we've procrastinated and I've put myself in that position. We've got to cram. But it's not those two circumstances.

We've got to watch ourselves getting ahead of time. And it's on your side. It's a little what I mean about the living longer and living more quality. Time's on our side. And we're forced to think. think and feel, especially today with how fast things move. That more productivity, faster pace, more information, faster pace, it's better.

We're ahead of time a lot. But time's still moving at the same speed. And they're not given more than 24 hours a day, even though me, like a lot of people, are looking for more. There's not any more unless you just want to change your workday. And some people do. Me, I need my nine and a half hour of sleep. I want to say I'm getting four hours sleep.

and get five and a half miles more of a work day to be more productive I would, but not to making that trade-off. It's on our side. It's the Lego set, man, and you sit there and you get in a rush, you don't read the directions, you get to the end, and you've got 12 pieces left. And you're like, shit. Because you've gotten a hurry. You got ahead of time instead of just that feeling of, I've checked out what I need to do, and it's all adding up, and this thing's built right in the foundation right, and boom, there's the last piece it fits. Walla. It was with time.

Time's on our side. It's not an enemy. The end. Death is not the enemy. I do believe that part of, you know, not in a rush to get there and we can stave it, we want to stave it off sometimes, and that it can be a screaming fight, and partially denial can help us get there. I understand that, but still, it's on our side. It's going to happen. And since it's going to happen, and that's non-negotiable, might as well go, well, I'm not going to rush to try and make more of it than there is.

I want to try and spend the time I got as well as I can produce, succeed, achieve, whatever those things are, but also at a pace that I'm me, that I like the dance to, I like the giving the take, I like the reverb, I like the cause and effect of how things are happening at this pace. I overthink a lot. And when I've heard myself back, I'm not going,

Dude, you're kind of seeing so much significance that none of that shit's significant. Hmm. Every detailed frame, you're giving it a proper name. Oh, if everything's significant, there's no significance at all, man. Some shit's just like, I don't have the capacity to deal with it, or I don't really care. It's just how it is. Some of the inevitables, man, sometimes you've got to let those ride. I'm going to deal with that.

Now I'm going to deal with what I can deal with. I get the mental meditations on that. And I listened to myself back, and I'm like going, whoa, you need to get some sleep. You need to have a drink. You need to relax. What's the difference between a nice guy and a good man? That's, I was at time when I was doing the rom-coms,

and that's all I could do. I was feeling like my work was just me as a nice guy. And in life, I was not just a nice guy. Like I said, Camilla was pregnant. I got a child coming. I was feral with masculinity. And I'm going to work, maybe I was feeling a bit neutered. And I was like, I'm a good guy and a good man in life, but I'm just a nice guy at work.

Can I be a roles that can be a good man? And that was dramas. Because the dramas you can stand for, stand against something, your ceiling for pleasure and your basement for pain are up to you. How do you feel about it? And no direction can go, that's too much. That's not enough. You got too angry there. Oh, you meant that too.

much. Those that didn't come in a drama. Those come in a rom-com, right? Because the emotions and how you feel are compressed to be an aboyant level in the threshold that's up balancing from cloud to cloud only. Dramas are as much pain, as much evil as you want to go, as deep, dark, you want to go. Get there. Let's see how far you go. How high you want to fly. How close to that sun you get for you, before you get burned, go. See how far you go. That's what you get in a drama. Much more like real life. Being a good man is a lot harder for good reason.

Not going to be most popular. Not going to be always most affable. It also doesn't mean you've got to be a dick or an asshole. This means sometimes you've got to go, I believe in this is this for me, this is for me. And that is not for me. And because that is not for me,

if you do trespass into my space, upon me and my family, there will be, I will do my best to cause consequences. And I'm going to let you know that. I'm not going to intrude on you. But if you trespass that, I mean, I'm going to stand up for it. And that, we can talk our way out of that? Great.

It doesn't always work that way. You know? A good man's not looking for trouble. But if it comes and if he or something he cares about and those were susceptible being trespassed on by trouble, A good man does what he can to do to stop that. Truly masculine man is not macho. It's not chauvinist.

But he's damn sure masculine. Most masculine I've ever felt. That's the birth of my first child. Never were my head, heart and loins in such synchronicity and the power that I had. Was, I mean, it's probably the best husband. ever at that time too. Men want to be,

and I don't know if this is biological, because I'm not saying women don't, but men want to and are looking for ways to be relied upon. And so we say, yeah, but you always want to be the Savior and you always want the solution. Okay, cool. There's nothing to find the solution to things?

Great, let's work with that. Thank you women for saying, glad you got the solution, but just listen to me for a second long because I'm not looking for solution. Actually, I just want to talk this out and I'll probably answer my own question. You know what I mean? Doesn't mean don't be the male side of you that wants to find the solution or wants to be relied upon in the pursuit of it. Are we measuring quality of life along the way? Some people aren't. And I personally don't want to have the highest number, but then go, I didn't enjoy that or I didn't enjoy that or I didn't that sucked.

I'm just trying to remind everyone that just like in business when I say success without the profit. We have plenty of people that succeed. If you've got the most money, the most toys, you succeed. And we talked about those people earlier that have the end of the day have problems with their relationships or they can't sleep. They didn't profit. They're not profiting with their success. Profit measures quality with the quantity. So I'm saying real success is when you're.

you have profit. Well, really great longevity would be for those quality years, quality time left in this life. I also say that because while I'm not looking forward to it, I'm not really afraid of death or dying. Not looking forward to it. I'm shaking my boots if I'm face to face with that great white. I mean, I'm not looking forward to it. But I see it as a, obviously it's inevitable. And obviously, I personally see it as hopefully a comma. You know, not a period. So I do think, inevitably, you might be, if you're so obsessed with the projection length

that you're going to miss a couple of really, really worthwhile parties now, where you may learn something, have the great love of life, take a certain risk that, oh, you may not make it out of that, but we're going to do it anyway. And I'm off for projection.

It's a lot of what might get my, it's a lot of my jam. How far can we project in the future? Boy, the further we can project, the further I think we can see in the past. The more we have the ability to invest in ourselves today to get that more ROI tomorrow. I just think an obsession with the number can sometimes get in the way of seeing more of an obsession with the quality and the meaning of what we're doing right here, what's now and tomorrow. The average man, I believe, the average real man, does not need to go get therapy for the battles and the burdens he's carried inside. What he needs is for those that he's carrying them for to recognize that they're there and to respect it and to be grateful for it. they don't need therapy, they need gratitude.

Let's take away vulnerability, okay? Because a lot of times men won't open up, they won't respond because this looked at is becoming vulnerable. If I'm sitting here and if I'm one of these guys and my significant other is sitting there, I can communicate to her what I need to communicate without being vulnerable. I can maintain my strength and communicate to her.

I can say, look, I'm working 60 hours a week. And the environment that I'm working in is very, very difficult. And I come home and I only have eight hours here at the house, and this is the only place of peace I have in this entire world. And when I come home, you're angry all the time. You're not satisfied about anything. about anything, you know, whatever the situation is. If you're not going to provide for me

that little bit of peace that this is the only place I can get, what are we doing? Young men these days were never taught by another man how to treat a lady like a lady. And they go into a relationship, girlfriends, marriages, getting all their information from Hollywood. And it's a crash and burn because they don't understand relationships. They don't understand communication.

They don't understand the balance between being a man and being a bore, being a buffoon. How does he find that balance that fits him? I've heard you say that a good man is born to serve, not born to make money. Absolutely. What's that mean to you? If I pour all my life into making money, that's for me. But if I pull my life into as many people as is fitting, their life is better for me having come through. What means the most of me is that when you leave here today, in some small way, your life is better for us having sat down and talk.

I'm really bothered by these guys who are financial gurus who will fire you if you don't have a six-pack. There's a problem. There's a main thing, stay in the main thing. problem with that viewpoint on life. I want to see men that I want to see them find balance. I don't want to see them find money. I don't want to see them find six-packs. If that is part of the result of it, fine. Okay. But I want them to find balance and I want them to find that place inside where they're like, my main thing is my main thing and it's enough. I think a real man is born to serve. And serve means provide for those that are in your sphere of you to provide

for it. It means to protect. It means to encourage. It means to teach and to train. And sometimes it means to step back and let them hit the wall. Sometimes the best service you can do for somebody is to when it's all done, walk up and look down and say, did that hurt? You know, that's what they need it. But we won't do that because it makes us look bad. And even in our service to others, it for ulterior motives, you know. But yes, I believe that very strongly. I believe, I believe if you spend your whole life to yourself for yourself, you have no purpose of being there. This planet is not in any way better for you having been there. Is that what a good man is to you? That's what a good man is to me.

What do you think about the balance when it comes for men between strength, And softness. You know, I'm still old enough. And I'm of the, I'm of the school. It's like, just deal with it. Suck it up. Suck it up. I broke three ribs one time in a barn,

saddling the horses, horse to a fit, took eight aspirin, and got on that horse and did a four-hour ride. Because I had a job to do. It's my job. Let's go back to balance. Okay. I was about to mention that.

I understand. I'm with you 100%. But at the same time, your balance and my balance and his balance are different. And so I think a man has to find his own balance. I think it could be taken to the point that men just become weak. And brother, let me tell you, in this day and age, we don't need more weak men. I think checking in with yourself and not treating your first, response is always the correct one. I think the immediate sort of reflex that we often have,

especially as young men, young and men, is an issue because you haven't accumulated enough experience for you to be able to call it gut instinct wisdom. Don't believe everything you think. Can we boil it down to a bull your base and say, look, when you have the thought, don't trust the thought, I need to do this or I need to do that. What if we start asking ourselves, why? Why do I need to run 300 miles with two broken legs? Because David Goggins said so, you know, why do I need to do that? What is the purpose?

Not why for me, but why do I need to do that to make myself the man I need to be for those around me? why do I need to say you know what I need to spend more time in the backyard with a cigar why do I need to do that and if the answer is because I'm becoming an overwound overtight losing my balance losing my focus on what really matters in life I'm becoming hard to live with to those that I care the most about to those who I am the most responsible for So the why is this will make me a better person for those around me. How have you learned to have a better relationship with yourself, the voice inside of your head to be kinder if things go badly? You're smiling.

I like me. I like me. I would buy me a drink. I look at me now and I see all the warts. okay i see all the negatives more than anybody else does i see the positives and over the whole balance of stuff i like me and i can give myself the same grace if you and i were friends i can give myself the same grace i can give you because i like me i like me in spite of my understanding and the reality of my weaknesses and my warts and my scars and everything but you know all in all i'm a pretty good dude

and man you got to get to that point outside of arrogance arrogance is pride mixed with ignorance all right that that's the definition of arrogance i'm not talking arrogance i'm talking about look as a human being i've failed at this i've succeeded at that i've wrecked this but i've built that and all and all, you know, I've tried, and, but I like me, so I'm going to give me some grace. Hence the simple as that. I would buy me a cigar. I wonder how many men can say that? Not as many as should. There are guys out there that don't have someone like that in their life. Someone who's going to be that person that makes them feel good about themselves. But if we become the person that we like, I have come to the place in my life where when I meet somebody in there and they don't like me, and you can tell, I don't care.

And when I meet somebody that, you know, they're like, they really like me, it's like, okay, but it doesn't carry much weight either. Because I'm going to be leaving. I'm going to be leaving, you know, we're not staying. I like me. And it's enough. Arrogance is pride mixed with ignorance. All right, that's the definition of arrogance. I'm not talking arrogance.

I'm talking about, look, as a human being, I've failed at this. I've succeeded at that. I've wrecked this, but I've built that. And all in all, you know, I've tried, but I like me. So I'm going to give me some grace. And how many people can say that? How many people say I like me? They would give more grace.

more care, more attention, more love to somebody else than themselves. There's a statistic around, I think, on average, the likelihood that you are going to complete a course of antibiotics yourself, it's about 50%. Right. The likelihood of your dog completing it is 95%. Yes, yeah. So we're literally capable of caring for a pet. Right.

Nearly double as well as we can for ourselves. Remembering that if you die, no one can look after the pet. Serving others from a cup which overflows around your own is important. Tell me, how do you like yourself? Find somebody that you like, that you genuinely like, and figure out what it is about them you like. I like that. That's something I like.

That person is, uh, their understanding, they're gentle. they're hardworking, they're honest, this is what I like about that, and incorporate that stuff into your own life. If that's the stuff you like, then incorporate that stuff into who you are. And then you like yourself. It's not rocket science. But if we become the person that we like, I have come to the place in my life where when I meet somebody and they don't like me, And you can tell, I don't care. I like me. And it's enough.

You know, this was a lesson that I realized toward the end of my 20s, where I accumulated a lot of success and status in maybe the way that modern society tells a young man that he should with freedom and notoriety and women and stuff like that. And that was cool and to look back on fun. but it was beginning to get to the stage where I didn't like me all that much. I didn't do anything bad, but I just felt like I was built for more. I was built for different, built for something else. And I realized that I wasn't keeping promises to myself.

Right. That if I said I was going to wake up at a certain time, the snooze button would be hit three times. Right. If I said that I was going to stick to my diet or go to the gym or do this thing, maybe it would happen, but it wouldn't happen quite the way that I'd meant it to, and there would be some negotiating and some cajoling and some falling short. You know, how can you have faith that you're going to go and do all of the things that you want in life when you can't not hit the snooze button?

Right. But you can't not cheat on your diet. You can't not do, you know, you are constructed by the tiny decisions. that you make every single day? Well, I'll just say I came to a place in life where I just didn't like me anymore. I wasn't a very nice person. And I was just very on edge, very angry.

So I had to make some decisions. I can't continue to live like this. Angry, there's no benefit to it. You know, it doesn't fix anything. You know, anger, it just turned out, I'm like, this is not profitable. And this is eating me up inside and I'm making stupid decisions and this is this has just got it in So I had to make some decisions what what's making me like this? I need to get it out of my life and slowly over time

Got a handle on stuff and Kind of got some of my perspective back So imagine that you had a friend and every time that you invited this friend out for lunch They showed up an hour late or they didn't show up at all. After a while, you'd stop trusting them and stop inviting them out at all. You are that friend to yourself. Yeah.

And I think this is such an important lesson for people who want to be liked, who struggle socially and want to become better. People like people that make them feel good. Right. They don't care that much about how impressive the person is. So I was riding for an outfit in Alaska, guiding. and they brought in a mare, and the best I could understand,

she was a retired barrel racing horse from here in Texas. And so when I signed on, they assigned her to me, because nobody else, we couldn't put guest on her, none of the other wranglers wanted to ride her, because her go-to was run. If something disturbed her,

her head came up, and it's run, just run. That's my answer. to escape to just run. And it wasn't something that I could physically fight and stop. And so that horse really made me step outside of the thought process of physically controlling something that has a mental, emotional issue. And getting in her head and figuring out what can I do if the problem is mentally or emotionally, what can I do to get into her head and get into her emotions and fix that for her? And so what I did, and it's so simple, it probably wouldn't even make sense to a lot of

folks. But while we were sitting there and while she was calm, sitting there at the ranch, waiting for others to get on the horses, I would just come in with the lightest low pressure and get her to tip her nose, not pull her nose in, just give a signal, hey, tip your nose. So she'd tip her nose. and we just do that and just do that. And then when we get out on the trail and she started getting anxious about something and her head would come up, I would just default to that.

And so she would find something that she was secure the signal and she would calm down and she would calm down. And working with that mare for the summer, I made huge strides of myself in stepping outside of the norm of trying to physically control something that isn't ideal.

Yeah, I mentioned that I had ridden a horse for the first time in Texas, and they gave me whatever the leader of the group is for the horse, whatever that's called. And I was right far at the back, and this horse was eating. And the lady that was guiding the group said, just give him a little pole, and he'll come along. I gave him a little pole, and he didn't move. I mean, it is absurd to explain how strong these things necks are. Yeah.

And I'm like, so I don't think he doesn't want, doesn't want to come. She's like, no, no, just a little bit more, a little bit more. I'm like, I'm a pretty strong guy. So I was like, right, okay, I'll give it a big pole. Didn't move. I'm like, and by this time, they're 100 yards away. Yeah. I'm like, still, it doesn't seem like you want,

so no, like a really big pole. So I went mixed grip like you do on a deadlift. Yeah. Set my feet into the same. stirrups and like, like one rep maxed this horse's head up. And finally he got up. And that was absolutely not the most efficient way to get him to do that thing. There would have been a much better way than me. Right. Now, what I teach folks is I don't want his body. Okay, I want his mind. Now, if I physically, like you just went through, if I physically get his body to do what I want,

but I don't have his mind. As soon as he gets a chance, he's going to go back again. But if I ignore the body and I get the mind, if I have the mind, I have the body. So in a situation like that, what I do is I don't pull his head up. Okay, I take the reins and I bounce that bit that's in its mouth. I bounce it pretty sharp. And he decides in his mind, I don't like that.

I think I will pick my head. out. I'm going to suggest to you that you decide it's in your best interest for you to pick your head out. And we go for the mine. And how much in life, you know, you've got all these folks working for you here. And you have to, you can't physically browbeat and nag and threaten. You've tried, does it work? No, no, no, no. The belligerent. Yeah, I've already heard stories.

Yeah, it's just, yeah. Yeah. But you want to make things so that they decide that if this is what Chris wants done, it's in my best interest. I want to go do that. And again, it's communication, you know, and again, it's getting in the horse's mind and working with a horse in that manner. I'll give you an illustration if I can, all right? One of the cardinal sins in my book is when I go to get on a horse and the horse walks off, when I'm part way up. You know, I'm stepping up.

I'm swinging my leg over and he's walking, he's leaving. Okay, that's a cardinal sin. So we have a difference of opinion here, me and the horse. It's like, I want you to plant your feet. And I want you to be still while I get on and then I'll tell you when I want you to go. He says, well, I want to go. So I'm not going to sit there and take pull back and say, whoa, and do that one leg and hop along, Cassidy down while I'm trying to get in the side. I'm not going to do that.

I'm not going to physically hold him back. I'm going to put my toe on the stirp, and I'm going to go to step up, and when he walks off, I'm going to step back out, and I'm going to make him keep walking in a circle around me, eight or ten times. I'm like, I wanted you to stand still, but you want to walk.

I'll tell you what, I'm a nice guy. I'm going to let you walk. I'm going to let you do what you want. In a controlled manner, you pick the tune, and I'll pick the dance. And I'll make him walk around. He's like, I don't want to walk anymore, but you said that's what you want.

so I'm letting you do what you want. He's like, I don't want to walk anymore. Okay, stop. Whoa. And won't you stand here while I get in the saddle? And he says, and it may take a couple of times. Better while he says, you know what? I think what I want to do is I want to stand here while he gets in the saddle, you know?

So we communicate. And when I got his mind, when I changed his want to, I didn't have to fight with his body. And so that that's just, that's how you approach it. you understand and you communicate. Good times, create weak people. Weak people, create bad times. Bad times, great strong people, strong people create great times. What I want people to get is you gotta know where you are in your life

and where you are in history and you gotta learn to take advantage of it. You can't complain that it's winter. During winter, if you start a business in winter and you succeed, 60% of all Fortune 1000 companies that are alive today, the biggest some successful companies, could have been born in any one of those four seasons. They're all born in winter. Wow.

Got a recession or depression. Gotta love it. From FedEx to Disney, Disney was depression. FedEx was a recession. I could walk you through them all. So that process makes you strong. And what changed my life was finding that part that's inside of all of us that will not give up. You know, I'm proud to be a good human being.

I believe I'm a good human being. But I think hunger often comes, not always, often comes from having gone through enough pain. Like, I've suffered enough. I don't want somebody else to suffer. Anger only gets you so. only gets you so far. It's the fuel that burns out very quickly. Now let's take a second one. Do you tend to focus more? I'm sure. I know what the answer on this one is. You're more on what you can or can't control. There's three decisions we make every moment of our lives. The first

decision we're making is what are we going to focus on. Right now there's millions things we can focus on. People listening can be focused on what they're doing, what we're saying, whether it matters or not, you know, a million things, right? But we only focus on a small band of things. And whatever we focus on, we experience in life. But then the second decision you make, as soon as you focus on something, that you give it a meaning. Is this the end the beginning. If you think it's the end of a relationship, you're going to behave very different than the beginning. Is this person dissing me? Are they challenging me? Are they coaching me? Are they actually loving me? Whatever meaning you create produces emotion. And those emotions control

your third decision, which is, what are you going to do? We don't experience life. We experience life we focus on. But once we understood seasons, we knew if you do the right thing at the wrong time, there is zero reward. But if you do the right thing at the right time, the rewards are immense. So if you plant in the winter, I don't care how hard you work or the summer. You get nothing. It's like recognizing the seasons change humanity. Well, there's a season in your own life. Some of your viewers are younger, maybe zero to 21.

Think of that at springtime. When it's springtime, what does spring have? Everything grows easily. If it's a springtime in business, you think you're a genius because your business grows. Everybody's business grows because it's a time of tremendous optimism and immense growth. The environment's different people's attitudes are different. But these cycles go through 18, 20 years cycles, if you study a thousand years of Roman history, which I've done, or 500 years of Anglo-American history, you see about every 18 to 20 years, there's a shift. It's kind of like we exhaust an emotion. Do you ever smile so much your face hurt? Yes. You know what I mean? So you need a you need a change. Sure. Well, after springtime, the easy time comes a summer time. And the summer is always a testing time. It's tougher. A lot of people plant in the spring and they go, where's my, you know, where's my crop? Are you new? You have to get through all of the summer time. You have to get through all of summer time. seasons, right? So summer tests people. And then you go to another reaping time. You go to the fall

where it's easy again. We're now things flow. Economies go crazy. People want to give you a mortgage even though you barely have a pulse and not a job. You remember those days. Of course. No income no assets. Boom, just give it to anyway. And markets go through the roof. But again, what follows that is winter. And the great thing about life is you never skip from the fall to spring. You always go through winter. Some are short, summer long, some are hard, some are easy. But we go through. them, they have a purpose. They weed out the week. They make us if we push through it stronger. They make everything better going forward. So there's a purpose in every season. What happened to that kid born in 1910 and 1929 when he's 19 thinking he's going to go get a car and he's going to go

get a party? The whole world turned upside down. The depression. People jumping out of buildings, the dust bowl, people standing in line for bread. And by the way, they made it through 10 years, 10 years of depression. Now, that doesn't mean every day is dark. You know, you can, you can be in winter and have beautiful days, 31, 32, or nice times. But the overall thing was testing, and they became strong because they had to be. Then right when they turned 29, 1939, what happens in World War II? You and I weren't alive then, but anybody was alive then. It looked like the world was ending.

Hitler was taking over countries and days, blitzkrieking everywhere. And so what happened is that generation volunteered and went to war. And they won the war, and they came back to the heroes. They're now known as the greatest American generation. And they were known as flappers and losers. What made them strong was pushing through winter. Everybody, listen to me now, everybody goes through winter if they live 80 years plus. You know, if you look at the history of the world, good times create weak people.

They're not bad people. They just have never been challenged. So I had these experiences that challenged me so strongly. And I met the challenge and it changed my sense of identity about who I was and what I was capable of. And then I couldn't help but spread that. And I slept on the hill one night. It was raining. And then the next day, I was like, I can't stay on the rain.

I went to this girlfriend's house. And they let me stay in their little, what do you call it, washing machine room. And then I took the little swoony I had, and I took these buses, and I bought a book. I went to Claremont, California. I was about 15 miles away. And I bought this book at this bookstore called The Magic of Believing by Claude in Bristol. And I talked about how to program your mind. And I was writing on the mirror in the laundry room, all of my goals.

And I made these posters that only. you know, only an idiot gets depressed, only a loser gets depressed. It's not true, but that was my way of leveraging yourself, right? And I started to make these changes. And then I tried to go to work for Jim Rohn, and it was Christmas, so I had to keep working as a janitor. And what changed my life was finding that part that's inside of all of us that will not give up. I was so driven. I wanted to, it was a way of finding love with my father was by becoming better. And I also had, I had huge drive because I just wanted to be more. I didn't want to settle. I looked at our family and all the pain that I saw my mother go through and we would go through. And I was like,

I'm not going to have a future like that. I'm going to find some way to do more. So it produced drive. So even when I was in sports, I was so competitive in junior high school that like, you know, I was a little guy, but I played linebacker and quarterback. And I would, during practice, guys would complain because I'd stick them so hard. And I'd say, you get strong. I'm half of your size. But, you know, you get low. You can take anybody out, right? So I had this intensity in that level. We don't experience life.

We experience life we focus on. Meaning, what's wrong is always available, so it's what's right. Whatever you focus on, you feel, even if it's not true. If you imagine something horrible is going to happen, you feel it. You're in your body, right? So focus equals feeling. Focus equals reality to the individual. You know it's a reality and actuality.

We decide every moment we're deciding what to focus on, but most of us don't decide consciously. It's based on habit. So we're not in control. But we can consciously choose what to focus on. When we decide what to focus on, our brain has to come up with a meaning, like we said, the end of the beginning, loving me or dissing me, whatever the case may be. And that affects your emotions, which decides the third decision, what am I going to do? Let's start with focus.

Let's take three patterns of focus for your audience. If I asked you, and I think I know with you, it would be pretty simple. But which of these do you tend to spend more time in? Do you tend to focus more on what you have or what's missing? What's missing? That's right. And when I ask most audiences that I have, I have 20,000 people in the stadium, the majority of them are achievers and the majority of them focus on what's missing. Now, since COVID, during COVID, almost every was focused on what's missing because many things were

taken from that. So now I want you to think about this. If you constantly focus on what's missing, it'll make you keep pushing, but it's very hard to sustain deep levels of happiness. Because you're all focused on what's missing. And so you're an overachiever so you can still stack those enough to still feel good. But for most people, they go, it's missing. I'm missing the love in my life. I'm missing this. I'm missing that. That puts them in a state of frustration, anger, sadness, or ultimately depression. That period of time, by the way, 22 to 42 of people are in that stage of life right now, it's statistically the most unhappy period. Because people are trying, they thought it was going to be easy. It's not so easy they eventually learn. Usually in the earth

42. Yeah. And what they learned is, well, not as easy as I thought. I'm not as invincible as I thought. and they have to figure things out, and they're trying to prove themselves to themselves and others. They haven't figured it all out yet. Now, some people do these seasons earlier, some later, but it's a good, good range. In that power period, that's when you have the greatest economic growth. That's when you start having long-term relationships. But the ultimate time is really when you get to 63 to 83 to 103 or 63 to 103 or 63 to 120,

which is the oldest humans, the final season, the winter season. But that's the season in which you really are the elder of society. and if you've done your job up front, you've reaped so much, all you want to do is give back. And you don't worry about what people think about you. It's all patterns, as you know, Patrick. Like, if anyone listening wants to say, okay, the world seems uncertain. And yeah, I look at, I have five kids and five grandkids. So I have a, I have a 50-year-old daughter and I have a three-and-a-half-year-old daughter

because three of my kids I adopted early on when I was just 24, 25 years old. And so I look at my grandkids, especially at my youngest daughter. And I think 40% of the jobs, if you believe the studies are going to be gone because of AI, because of robotics, because of nanotechnology, and so forth. So how do I arm them to do well in the future? And the answer is there's three skills everybody needs. And they're so simple. And they're the skills to make anybody masterful. It's not you successful in your insurance business.

It's what's made you successful in this business. The first thing is pattern recognition. If you start recognizing patterns, fear disappears. Because like right now, people say, oh, we've never been so divided. or now we're, you know, the country has more optimism, but we never been so divided. It's a total BS. I can show you the letters that are put out that were posted between Jefferson and Adams. And if you read what they wrote, it makes anything the left or right has said about each other look calm compared to that.

So it's like we go in cycles. So when you recognize a pattern, you no longer react. It's like losers react, leaders anticipate. Anticipation is power. So when you know the pattern, and that's what makes anybody great, they see the pattern. But what makes them really great is the second skill when you learn to use the patterns. So if you and I look at anybody and you see somebody that's great in investing, and I've been interviewed 50 of the very, more than 50, the very best in the world,

the Ray Dalio's, the Carl Lichens, the Warren Buffett's, all the best in private equity. And what you begin to see is there are certain patterns, even though they go about it differently, that are universal. If you sow the same seeds, you reap the same rewards. But they know to use it. If you see somebody great in music or dance or a movie maker, they know where to move the camera, or to move your emotion, they bring it in close, when to bring the music up, how to do it. They know it.

That makes them masterful. But the third level skill is pattern creation. That's what you've begun to do. That's what I've begun to do. It's like when you learn to play a piano, most people learn someone else's patterns. You learn to see the patterns, recognize them, then you learn to use them. But if you do enough other music, then now you get to come out and you start creating things. So I'm standing on the shoulders of all the people before me, as are you, because I learned

so many things to them, but now at this stage of my life, the last 15, 20 years, I've been able to create things because I know what those patterns are. So those skill sets, that's how my kids will do well. Because if you can learn rapidly, recognize patterns, there's nothing you can't do well at. And that's really, and by the way, noting the patterns of where we are in history, the pattern of where you are in your own life, I'll give you a simple example. What made human beings go from survival, living in fear, where we're hunter-gatherers, to where we could stay in one place, build communities, build cities, build countries, have homes, have the education. What made that possible was one pattern recognition that changed humanity?

Seasons. Seasons. Until we understood seasons, we had to constantly move from place to place and hope you could find our food. But once we understood seasons, we knew if you do the right thing at the wrong time, there is zero reward. for