NerdWallet's Smart Money Podcast - Escape the Infinite Workday Trap (Plus: How to Grow $200/Month Into $300K)
Episode Date: June 26, 2025Get tips to reclaim your time from the “infinite workday,” then learn how to build retirement savings as a stay-at-home parent. How do you reclaim your time in an always-on work culture? How can ...stay-at-home parents keep building retirement savings? Hosts Sean Pyles and Elizabeth Ayoola discuss the rise of the “infinite workday” and answer a listener’s question about how to save for retirement as a stay-at-home parent. First, NerdWallet senior news writer Anna Helhoski joins the show to share her conversation with Colette Stallbaumer, co-founder of Microsoft WorkLab and general manager for Microsoft 365 Copilot, who shares new research into the “infinite workday.” She discusses how flexible work has blurred the lines between home and the office, often creating burnout and a sense of always being “on,” and offers solutions, including boundary-setting practices, productivity tips, and how AI tools like Microsoft Copilot can help reclaim focus time. Then, Sean and Elizabeth shift gears to answer a listener’s question about saving for retirement as a stay-at-home parent. They break down options like spousal IRAs, the importance of emergency funds, and how even $200 a month can grow significantly under the right circumstances. They also talk through budget frameworks and how to have productive conversations with your partner about long-term goals. Use NerdWallet’s free retirement calculator to check your progress, see how much retirement income you'll have and estimate how much more you should save: https://www.nerdwallet.com/calculator/retirement-calculator Use NerdWallet’s free compound interest calculator to see how your savings and investment account balances can grow with the magic of compound interest: https://www.nerdwallet.com/calculator/compound-interest-calculator In their conversation, the Nerds discuss: infinite workday, always on work culture, work from home burnout, Microsoft WorkLab study, productivity tools, morning overwhelm, triple peak day, reclaiming focus time, meetings vs deep work, Copilot AI, Microsoft 365 productivity, flexible work boundaries, setting work boundaries, delay send email, work-life balance tips, workplace AI tools, using AI at work, spousal IRA, retirement options for stay-at-home parents, compound interest calculator, emergency fund strategy, 50/30/20 budget rule, saving while unemployed, Roth IRA withdrawals, IRA contribution limits, saving for retirement after quitting a job, financial planning for couples, money conversations with your partner, taxable brokerage account, pay yourself first, retirement savings calculator, saving for retirement with side hustle, and financial independence as a stay-at-home parent. To send the Nerds your money questions, call or text the Nerd hotline at 901-730-6373 or email podcast@nerdwallet.com. Like what you hear? Please leave us a review and tell a friend. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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If you feel like you are working all the time,
you're not wrong.
A new survey says the thing you do to make money,
your job, is keeping a lot of us tethered at all hours of the day.
Today we'll hear about the infinite workday
and what you can do to make it a bit more finite.
["Smart Money"]
Welcome to NerdWallet's Smart Money Podcast,
where you send us your money questions
and we answer them with the help of our genius nerds.
I'm Sean Piles.
And I'm Elizabeth Ayola.
Later on this episode, we're going to be getting some advice on how to save when you're
a stay at home parent.
But first, we have our weekly Money News Roundup, where we break down the latest in the world
of finance to help you be smarter with your money.
Our news colleague, Anna Hilhosky, is back with some takeaways from the study about how much we all are taking our work home with us,
especially when we work from home.
And we've got some ideas about how to tamp down
what's being called the infinite workday.
Ana, welcome back.
Great to be here, Sean Elizabeth.
So after the workday is over,
are you logging more hours than you should?
Checking your work email on your phone?
Shooting a quick message to a coworker or more likely your boss? I know I certainly am and I don't think
I'm alone. How about you two?
I do that but in reverse. I feel like my work day is starting earlier and earlier. I'm sometimes
checking my work email when I'm still in bed after waking up and it's not great.
Yeah, I do the same.
Well, I personally am guilty of checking emails after work because my emails are on my phone.
And it's so interesting how it's just subconscious.
I just check my email every couple of minutes.
So, but I do try to be conscious not to work too late, especially because I already have a second job of being a mom.
So don't need any more work.
Well, in 2017, Gettysburg College estimated that the average US worker spends 90,000 hours
of their life working.
Yikes.
But in 2025, that number may actually be a serious underestimation.
Some new research by Microsoft found that the lines between work and home have become
more blurred than ever.
And what it calls the infinite workday is on the rise.
To explore more about the report, what it means for workers, and how artificial intelligence
fits into it all, we have Colette Sahlbomber, co-founder of Microsoft WorkLab and general
manager of Microsoft 365 Copilot. Colette, welcome to Smart Money.
Hey, thank you, Anna, for having me.
So the report paints a vivid picture of what an Infinite Workday looks like. And I think
people will find it a pretty familiar one.
I know that I did.
How do you define the infinite workday and how does it typically play out?
Yeah, so my role at Microsoft, in addition to helping to shape and
make great products for our customers like Co-Pilot,
is to really study how work is changing.
My team does research on this and we've been at this now since early in the pandemic.
And this latest report looks at trillions
of productivity signals in Microsoft 365
and really reveals exactly what you said,
that we are at a point in time
where we sort of have an infinite workday, as we called it.
One that sort of flows across time zones
and attention spans.
I think there's a sense that one of the things that we gained in the past five years is flexibility,
but that also means that my workday is uniquely mine and my flexibility is mine.
And so your flexibility looks different.
And so what that's left us with is a situation where we're all kind of working on our own time,
if you will.
So how is this fed into the patterns that you're seeing?
Let me break it down a little bit.
What we see first is this concept of sort of morning overwhelm, that work starts long
before employees either walk into their office or log on.
And we saw that 40% of people who are online at 6 a.m. are reviewing email for the day's
priorities.
We also saw in the data that the average worker receives 117 emails a day and 153 chats.
And so all of that means that work is already rolling, right, by the time you roll out of
bed.
And then the second dynamic that we see is what we sort of see is happening in the middle of the day, okay, when people really need to use some of that high value time for deep focused work.
And instead, they're mostly in meetings, okay, whether they're synchronous or asynchronous, half of all meetings take place between nine to 11 and one to three.
And that's precisely when our brains are primed to be doing deep focus work.
So that's an interesting finding.
And then finally, in the evening hours,
the triple peak phenomenon is alive and well.
What that means is that people are logging back on
in the evening.
You know, evening meetings are up 16% year over year
and employees now send or receive 50 plus chats outside of core working
hours.
So can you explain a little bit when we started seeing this pattern emerging and what some
of the implications of that third productivity peak happening during a time that would usually
just be considered off hours?
We sort of saw this phenomenon emerge mid pandemic.
What was interesting to see is that, again, I think depending on your
patterns at home, right, whether you have young kids, your patterns may be different versus I have
teenagers, so my work patterns are a little bit different. But what we saw was that after that
dinner hour, they were logging back on. And now what we see again is just that that phenomenon
that we started in the pandemic is very much alive and
well. And you mentioned meetings, you know, they're part of most people's work, love them or hate them,
and I don't really know anyone who loves them. But sometimes you just got to get in the same room,
even virtually to get some of that stuff done. So you mentioned that it's not just the amount
of meetings that hinder focus time, but it's also the timing. Can you go into that a little bit more?
In the pandemic, what became normalized are back-to-back meetings, right? And we also did
some research that showed that your brain actually needs breaks between meetings. And I think what the
data is speaking to now is that by 11 a.m., that's sort of peak brain power time. And that's also when meetings are really picking up.
So this is an opportunity for people to actually in some ways reclaim time and
think about how they're prioritizing their best hours, right?
Like when are you best at doing your most focused, most innovative,
creative thinking and work and really look at meetings through that context.
You know, here's where AI offers a little bit of a life preserver because with Copilot
or another AI tool, you never have to really take meeting notes again.
So maybe I'm using that time to do what I need to do while Copilot is actually kind
of doing some of the work for me.
Do tools like Teams, Messages, or Slack help alleviate the amount of meetings or are they
just feeding into the chaos?
I think that's a great question.
Our data only covered telemetry and Microsoft 365, right?
So it doesn't include all the other notifications that you might be getting.
So I think what this is really saying to everyone is, wow, it's really important to set boundaries
and think about reclaiming your time, right?
And how are you using it to do the most important work?
We talk about something called the 80-20 rule, which is really just applying the principle
that in today's environment, you know, I have a lot of empathy for employees and people
who are in this situation.
I also have empathy for businesses and organizations and leaders who are under pressure, right, to do more
with less and to deliver results. And so I think really as individuals, as people, we have to kind
of say, okay, how do I create my own boundaries so that work does have some start and stopping
points? Because in the pandemic, that's part of what was lost.
I have to say that the concept of an infinite workday
culturally seems something that's not being driven
necessarily by us worker bees.
It's more of a top-down issue.
So it can be hard to see what we can do about it.
And yet companies love to tout their focus
on work-life balance.
Has that gone completely out the window?
I think that we've just had these evolving norms. And so I think every problem you ever need to
solve in some ways starts with awareness, right? And the data tells us that people do need to
reclaim some of their time for their own well-being and find ways to put those boundaries in place.
It's also on leaders and companies and organizations,
to establish those norms.
In my team and in our company,
we do have a norm around not sending email after 6 p.m.,
using things like delay send, using AI,
and not on weekends unless there's really a strong need to.
So it's all about flexibility and choice, I think.
And how should managers and other leaders, help their employees work smart and stay sane,
of course, in this new environment?
We're still in the early innings of AI at work, as it were. And our data shows that
only 1% of organizations worldwide have actually fully implemented AI. Okay, so you've got
this unevenness, right? Not everyone has these tools. It's not a
cultural norm yet for everyone to do their work this way. I'll give you a great example of we have
an agent called researcher, which is just basically AI that takes on increasingly complex tasks. Okay,
so this is like, researcher is like delegating to a digital colleague that can do really deep thinking
and research reports.
And I had my sister's wedding over the weekend that I was traveling to, and I needed to have
a paper written and ready to go for my leadership team meeting at 8 a.m. on Monday.
And so I used researcher on the plane to help me write the paper, and it saved me hours
and hours of work. And so I do think there's a lot
of hope and optimism for how these tools can help people. The report does suggest that AI could make
the effects of the infinite workday even worse. Unless workplaces are going to be taking a more
intentional approach, can you walk us through how it maybe could make things a little bit worse than
they already are? A lot of that speaks to the moment in time that we're in.
The technology distribution, which is the nature of tech diffusion always.
Because not everyone has the tools, we're not all working in the same way with them.
What we see, as I mentioned, with companies where there is broad adoption and people are
actually, everyone's using the tools and the norms are being created on
how to use them to save time and take on more of your work.
Whether it's more of what we call the digital debt or
the drudgery of work tasks that can be automated away through AI.
Or as a thought partner and a brainstorm and a collaborator.
Both of those things when you start really using AI like that, and I see
this on my own team, make a big difference.
But we're just at this point in time where organizations are still trying
to figure it out and people, right?
One of the hardest things to do is behavior change, right?
For all of us as humans, adopting new habits.
It is a new way to work.
And so you have to have the end in mind and the outcome you want and the goal you want
to achieve and then ask AI as a thought partner to help with that. That sort of flips the
script on its head. And that's going to take, I think, some time for people to really adopt
those new habits.
And what can an individual do to push back
against the infinite work day and restore some agency
and structure to their work?
Yes, I love that question about agency.
Okay, so again, I think the first thing is
if you're not already using Copilot or another AI tool
daily in your work, if you haven't started to make that
a daily practice, you're never gonna get to
what we describe in our work trend index as an agent boss, okay, where you're really
taking full agency and you are the boss of many agent agents doing work at your behest
on your behalf. So I think the key is daily use, making it a part of your daily practice
and starting to build the habit.
From there, I think once people start to do that,
it's actually fun.
And they actually start to see the benefit
and what they can gain from it,
and then it just builds from there.
Everyone has agency.
I think what's exciting about this time,
yes, the Infinite Workday could say,
gosh, people are pretty overwhelmed.
There's a lot to be concerned about.
At the same time, there's never been a better time
for human ingenuity, right?
To have creative courage in your work.
And if there's a skill that you've always wanted to learn
and you've never tried or you haven't mastered it,
gosh, AI can help you with that.
So I think it's a time to lean in and learn as opposed to sit on the sidelines.
You want to take the agency and be someone who knows how to use AI so that someone who
does know how to use AI doesn't take your job.
All right, Collette Stylebomber, thanks again for joining us.
Thank you so much, Anna, for having me.
And thank you, Anna.
Absolutely.
Up next, we answer listeners' question about saving for retirement when you're a stay-at-home parent.
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In a moment, this episode's Money Question.
Stay with us.
We are back and answering your money questions to help you make smarter financial decisions.
On this episode, we have a question from a listener named Teal who sent us an email.
Here our producer, Tess Viglen, is going to read it.
Hi, Sean and Elizabeth.
I was hoping that you could do a podcast segment on financial considerations for stay-at-home
parents, mainly around retirement.
I became a stay-at-home mom in the last six months.
When I was working, I was contributing to a 401k, but now can no longer contribute.
I'm worried about the future because I didn't start saving for retirement until I was 27
and I'm now 32.
As a stay-at-home mom I do have some income
and were able to make ends meet without worrying but I don't have a ton of
extra money for investing and wouldn't even know where to start. I made up 60%
of our household income when I was working so it's been a big adjustment
for us and frankly I'm scared of investing money and not having it
available for a rainy day.
My questions are, what are the best plans for stay-at-home parents to continue saving
for retirement while not working?
Would it even be worth contributing if I'm only able to contribute $200 a month?
How accessible is this money if I did have an emergency and need it?
Parentheses, we do have a savings account, but I just have a fear of not having
enough money. Anything else stay at home parents should consider for financial success. Thank
you for your consideration. Teal.
This episode, we are taking a different approach to answering Teal's question. Elizabeth and
I are going to do a little role play with Elizabeth taking the place of our listener
and I will be myself. So Elizabeth, AKA stay at home mom, let's do this.
So, what's on your mind? What do you want to talk about?
Where do you need help?
Hi, Sean.
First of all, I just want to say I'm a huge fan of the show.
You and Elizabeth are so cool.
And you just give me the best financial advice ever.
Okay, not advice, right? Nerdy tips.
Exactly.
But now that I finished fangirling,
I want to tell you about my dilemma, Sean.
Let's get into it. Tell me all about it.
I feel really blessed to be a stay-at-home mom
because I know that's something not many moms can afford to do
if they choose to.
But let me tell you, Sean, I am extremely worried
now that I'm going to be stepping away from the workforce
and caring for my two kids about my financial future.
So I essentially want to know,
how do I save for retirement while being a stay at home mom?
Well, we can get into some specific tactics
for you in a moment,
but first it's helpful to zoom out
and know what you're saving for
and how much you need to save.
So to get that,
it's helpful to use
something like a retirement calculator. We have one at NerdWallet and that can show you
the number that you might need to save for in retirement. A lot of folks can live off
of 70 to 80% of their pre-retirement income in retirement. Have you and your spouse played
with a retirement calculator at all?
I haven't, Sean. And I feel like I need to share some more details with you about where I am with retirement
right now.
Yeah, please.
So I'm currently 32 years young, and I didn't start saving for retirement until I was 27.
So I don't have maybe as much as I should have for my age.
I have about $50,000 saved in a 401k.
But now that I'm no longer going to be working,
I won't be able to contribute to that 401k anymore.
Okay, well, you've been saving for five years.
That's better than nothing at all.
And don't feel bad that you don't have as much as, quote unquote, you should have.
You have been thinking about this, which is better than a lot of people.
So pat yourself on the back for that.
But again, work with your partner, figure out what that number to say for might be.
And then you can think about how you might wanna get there.
If your partner is working and has access
to something like a 401k,
try to funnel as much money into that as you can.
But for your own retirement contributions,
I think you might wanna look into
what's called a spousal IRA.
Are you familiar with this?
I've heard about it, but I don't really know what it is. Can you explain please? Yeah, so with a spousal IRA. Are you familiar with this? I've heard about it, but I don't really know what it is.
Can you explain please?
Yeah, so with the spousal IRA,
you can put money into an IRA
without having what's called earned income.
Traditionally with an IRA,
whether it's a Roth account or a traditional account,
you have to have what's called earned income
from a job like a 1099 or a W2 gig
to put money into one of these accounts.
However, with a spousal IRA, you can put money into an IRA without that earned income.
It's important to know that a spousal IRA is just a strategy for contributing to an
account.
It's not a type of account.
So essentially, you would choose whether you want a Roth or a traditional, and then your
spouse would put money into this account on your behalf.
So that's a great way to save and it's going to be one of your best options.
Sean, I know that you're like more of a financial advisor than a marriage therapist, but honestly,
me and my husband haven't really sat down to talk about what we want our retirement
savings to look like.
I'm a little nervous about having this conversation with him because one, if you're listening, hubby, of course, I never want us to break up. But what if we break up, you
know? So I feel like maybe I should be saving for retirement separately, or Sean, should
we be saving together? And then if we do this thing that you mentioned called the spouse
IRA, and let's say my husband's also contributing to his workplace 401k, how do we both save
together like as a couple as a shared goal, you know,
like work as a team?
Well, here is the open secret in financial planning is that being a financial planner
is as much being a therapist as it is actually doing nuts and bolts planning.
So we are here to talk about any and all emotional and marital challenges that you might have.
But it can help to start by getting aligned on your shared goals.
Beyond just that number that we talked about before, how much you need to
say for retirement to get to that point.
Think about what you guys want to do with your life together.
What kind of retirement do you want?
Open up that conversation and start with a bit of dreaming and imagining, and that
can help you align on what you want to do together, but you're right that while
you and your partner are very much in love today, we know that things things can change over time unfortunately, and you want to be prepared for any circumstance
That is part of why the spousal IRA is great because it would be in your name
Even though your spouse's money would be going into it. It's completely your own
So that's something that should provide some bit of solace to you and beyond that you could you could also contribute to something like a taxable brokerage account that would be in your name.
That's a way where you are making sure that your bases are covered if and when you maybe need to go out on your own.
But when it comes to working with your partner and having your contributions to a spousal IRA and theirs in a 401k or a similar account,
and theirs in a 401k or a similar account. Have this be all working toward that ultimate goal
of that number you are saving toward
that you figured out using the savings calculator before.
But let's talk a little more about how much you can contribute
to any savings account, any sort of retirement account at all.
Do you have money coming in on your own?
Well, actually, Sean, I do.
So I make these cute handmade wine glasses and I get about
$500 a month from that. So I was thinking out of that income, I could put $200 towards
my retirement savings, but it doesn't really seem like a lot of money. I don't know if
that's worth saving at all. What do you think?
Anything you can put into retirement is worth it. That's just the bottom line. So even if you only have $200 to put in,
that can grow tremendously over time.
And I wanna point you to another cool tool
that we have at NerdWallet,
which is our compound interest calculator.
Have you heard about this or used it?
No, I've not.
Okay, go on your favorite search engine,
just type in NerdWallet compound interest calculator,
and I want you to do this with me right now.
All right. Do you have your internet up?
I got my interwebs up.
Okay.
Now go to the page that you see on top
and let's do this in real time
because it's actually so simple to do this.
There are a few things to fill in.
The first thing is your initial deposit.
Let's say that's that $200 amount that you have
and you'll be putting in over time.
Now, how many years until your retirement?
You are 32 now.
So let's just say you're going to retire at 65.
That's 33 years.
Wow.
Are you sure?
Seems a little, it's a lot of working years.
Yes, but it'll go by very quickly.
And then for estimated rate of return, let's just put in 7% to be conservative. You're
putting money in on a monthly basis. Again, $200 each month. What I'm seeing is that over 33 years,
that $200 a month could grow to over $310,000. What? So that seems pretty worth it, right?
It does. Just the $200 growing to that much money? $200 a month over time with compound interest.
That is the magic of compound interest.
They should be teaching this in schools.
They should.
And that's why we're here to teach it to people.
And here's kind of the wild thing is that you are only putting in just under $80,000,
but you'll end up with that over $310,000 balance because of all of your earnings.
Pretty remarkable, huh?
Say no more, Sean.
The $200 is going in the retirement account monthly.
Another thing for you and your partner to talk about
is how much they can put in
and whether they might be able to help you
put in more in a special IRA account
or some other sort of retirement account.
Because the maximum amount that you can put into an IRA,
if you're under 50 in 2025, is $7,000.
That would be a good goal to work toward. You can put in $8,000 if you're 50 or older, but just that
relatively small amount would grow into a good amount of money over the next 33 years
or so.
Well, Sean, this is a good segue to another thing that's been keeping me up at night,
which is my emergency fund. I made up to 60% of our household income,
and now that will be gone,
I'm worried about what's going to happen in case of an emergency.
So can I tap into the money that I'm saving for retirement
in case an emergency comes up?
Husband, I'm so sorry if you're listening to all your business,
but my husband really does not want to put that much money
towards retirement savings
because we're not going to have as much income,
so he wants liquid cash that we can easily pull from.
So I'm worried. How are we going to do this?
The good news is that if you have a Roth IRA account and it's been open for five
years or longer, you can take the contributions out.
I'm not a big fan of this because I think IRAs and retirement accounts should be
for that purpose for your retirement.
That's why emergency funds ideally held in a high yield savings account,
are most people's best bets.
Do you have an emergency fund
and is it in a high yield savings account?
We do have an emergency fund,
but it only has two months worth of expenses,
and yes, it's in a high yield savings account.
Okay, because you are a one income household
and you have how many kids?
Two.
You have two kids.
Yeah, Sally and May, four and five.
Precious.
Give them my best, Sally and May.
So a lot of financial planners would recommend that you have closer to six-month worth of
savings built up just for insurance purposes, basically.
You never know if Sally or May is going to get sick and you'll incur some hospital bills
or your car will break down. You want to make sure you have AC in that thing for these hot summer
days. And you know Sally and Mae are going to have some education expenses coming up.
You got to think about their future too. You just never know what's around the corner.
Emergency savings can help you at least have some sort of security to cover what's going
to pop up because it will pop up.
Well, with that said, how do we budget for this, Sean? Because I'm still not clear about how I'm
going to slice up this smaller income and then the little income I'm making. So my husband makes
about $80,000 a year. He's an operations manager. Then I have this $500 coming in. So how do we save
enough for retirement, as you're saying, for a six-month emergency fund, which seems like it'll take
forever to save for, and then also for our daily expenses.
This is where the 50, 30, 20 budget framework
that we talk about a lot on Smart Money comes in handy.
This can help you get a sense of where your money is going,
and it's a good jumping off point, really.
So you wanna put 50% of your income towards your needs.
Ideally, you can have everything like your car payment,
your mortgage payment, all of these necessities under 50% and then you
can have 30% going towards wants, 20% going towards savings. Because you're in
a place where you're trying to prioritize your savings a little more, you
might want to flip those actually and have 30% going towards your savings and
then 20% going towards wants. I understand that having kids is really expensive.
So think about how you can fit all of your expenses
into that 50, 30, 20 framework,
and then you can fine tune from there.
You might wanna look into where you can cut some expenses
just to really beef up what you are putting into savings.
And you're right, it may take several months,
if not years, to actually get to six months worth of savings.
It's a long-term goal,
but it's one that will help you day to day,
and it can save you from going into credit card debt
when you do have an expense pop up.
So are you saying that I can save for retirement
and also save for emergencies at the same time,
or should I prioritize one over the other?
If you don't have an emergency fund of six months, which you don't right now, you'll
want to think about putting a little bit more toward your liquid savings because as we mentioned
before, it's not often advisable to pull from your retirement to cover emergency expenses.
So how exactly that breaks down is a personal decision for you and your partner to make,
but it's something to at least have that conversation about.
And it seems like you and your partner are still pretty new to money conversations. One
thing that helps me when I'm trying to talk about something that I'm a little bit uncomfortable
with is putting on some music or going for a walk. When my partner and I were early in
our relationship and having some of those tough conversations ourselves, there was this
Erika Badu mixtape that I would always put on because it made me feel relaxed and I could
talk about things more easily.
So whatever that might be for you.
Thank you.
Um, but think about what that might be for you.
How can you make yourself more able to talk openly and candidly with your partner and
not have it become something emotional?
You know, it's like they say sometimes the best time to go to therapy
is when you're feeling good about things.
Sometimes the best time to talk about your money is when things are good
and you're not in a crisis.
So consider that with your partner.
Oh, I will. So I think I'll plan like a nice little date night
or like you said, can you send me the playlist that Eric about to make?
Sounds good.
Okay, I might have to use that.
And I think we have a lot of talking to do in terms of planning a retirement and figuring
out how we're going to get that part of our finances on track.
And I want to go a little more into an exact strategy for making sure you're getting your
emergency fund to where you want to go.
Are you familiar with the pay yourself first method of saving?
Well, if I had to take a wild guess, you pay yourself first? That's exactly it.
You set up direct deposits from your checking account or maybe even your paycheck itself
into a savings account, and that way you basically don't see it.
You know it's going into that account, you're building up your savings, you don't have to
worry about setting up a manual transfer.
It's just going on in the background.
So that's a really easy way to save continually, And that's how I approach my emergency savings too.
Wow. This has been so good, Sean. I feel like I came in here so anxious, not sure what to
do. And now I have clarity. Thank you so much.
You are so welcome. What do you think your next step will be?
My next step is to plan a date night with hubby and tell him all the things I learned on the smart money podcast
I'm also gonna make him do put out some air. I do you got it for the vibes and
I'm also gonna make him listen to this episode and then maybe we'll have a talk about it after about how we can kind of work
Together, but I'm definitely gonna put that 200 away first. I thought it was futile, but I will put it away for my savings
Yeah, and I'll work on that emergency fund too,
so that'll likely come out of Hubby's income.
But I'm excited for the future.
Well, I'm excited for you and your partner.
Let me know how things go with you.
I will.
I'll send you a follow-up,
and I'd love to be back on too.
Of course.
I'm sure we'll have you on really soon.
Fabulous, just fabulous. And cut.
That was so fun.
It was.
See, we need to do at least one a month.
I think this is great.
Well, I really hope that helps Teal and their partner because this stuff is difficult.
And I have so many friends that are in the same situation.
And a lot of my friends who have gone from working these great corporate jobs to staying
at home with their kids have pretty much stopped saving for retirement.
And they're just thinking, eh, we'll just rely on what my husband's bringing in.
But like we talked about, that might not actually be the best for their own financial security.
Yes.
As women in this world, you have to have your own money set aside.
As some people call it a F.U. fund, so you're just going to hit the road and go if you need to,
and you've got to have your own liquid cash for that.
Oh, I'm all, all, all for that.
So I love that Teal has some emergency, or rather income,
even if it seems small,
that's something that can go towards something.
Agreed.
Okay, well, I think that's a wrap for this episode.
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