No Broke Months For Salespeople - How Do You Become a Better Communicator?

Episode Date: July 29, 2024

How Do You Become a Better Communicator?   Business Coach Dan Rochon from the No Broke Months Podcast explores the art of communication and reveals the secrets to becoming a better communicator.  ��Dan emphasizes active listening, empathy, and clear communication for more robust connections and fewer misunderstandings. Join our new No Broke Months Podcast episode to learn how to transform your communication style and, in turn, your life. To find out more about Dan Rochon and the CPI Community, you can check these links:Website: No Broke MonthsPodcast: No Broke Months for Salespeople PodcastInstagram: @donrochonxFacebook: Dan RochonLinkedIn: Dan Rochon

understand how to become a better communicator. Because before you enter into any process whatsoever, your ability to communicate or your inability to communicate is going to impact that significantly. And this gets a little bit challenging because you're like, well, the dude called me a bad name. Like, why do I even care about him? Right? Well, here's the thing. We only get one life. So you get to choose. You can either choose to say, I'm going to live the best life possible, or I'm going to let, you know, other people impact me negatively. That's up to you. Welcome to the No Broke Months for Real Estate Agents podcast.

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to help you have no broke months. Thanks for joining me. Enjoy the show. How do you become a better communicator? Business coach Dan Rochon from the No Broke Months podcast explores the art of communication and reveals the secrets to becoming a better communicator. Dan emphasizes active listening, empathy, and clear communication for more robust connections and fewer misunderstandings. Join our new No Broke Months podcast episode to learn how to transform your communication style and, in turn, your life. And so that's what we're talking about today, like a general overview of understand how to become a better communicator. Because before you enter into any process whatsoever, your ability to communicate or your inability to communicate is going to impact that significantly. We're going through the actual like here's how to communicate effectively. So then I talked to you about normal linguistic programming, which is the study of human behavior of excellence and the study of subjective experience.

To be able to understand how to persuade effectively, you've got to understand that there's times in your life where you've been misunderstood. Would that be correct? Has anybody here besides me ever been misunderstood? And so what we do is when we get misunderstood or when we have that experience, then oftentimes we put a meaning to that experience in our heads. Right. It's almost like you label it. And so then we recall the past or anticipate the future. And the way that we feel about these thoughts, it manipulates our actions, which then creates our reality. All right.

So let's think about this. So maybe you had a miscommunication. And now you have a thought about that miscommunication. And now you have a feeling about that miscommunication. And now that I have a feeling about that miscommunication, now that's going to impact my future and maybe other people's futures. Okay. If I assign a meaning to it, that's not, that's not, that is subjective. Instead, what you could consider to do is in communication, you could consider being more objective.

And what do I mean by being objective? You're an asshole. Objectively, what just happened? Somebody share with me. Objectively, what just happened? You just called someone a name. Okay. That's pretty correct. What's more correct is I heard Dan say you're an a-hole.

All right. That's more correct than Dan said it. Okay. Because there's filters. And we're going to learn about these filters here in a a second that we filter the information. Sometimes somebody may say something and you hear something and then you say Dan said that. But what's a better definition objectively was I heard this. Now, did anybody here make meaning when I when I said that out loud to you guys, anybody here make meaning of that? Like, did you make a negative meaning?

Like I feel bad because Dan just called me an a-hole. No. Okay, good. My, my intention was not that you had a negative experience. My intention was to display to you that I could say some words. Has anybody ever been called that in real life?

I have. Okay. In real life, when you got called, that that, was that a negative experience for you? It was for me. Okay. So what's the difference between me saying it in this context and somebody else saying it in a different context? The only difference between the two is the meaning that you assign to it. Not the intention of the giver. It's the meaning that you assign to it. Not the intention of the giver, it's the meaning that you assign to it.

All right. So when we interpret the experience, we assign the meaning in our heads, and then we recall that in the past and we anticipate the future. So let's say somebody said that to you and you assign meaning to it that was not positive. Now that's going to manipulate your actions and then that's going to create your reality. Okay, so perhaps when somebody said that to you, you assign meaning to it and then that meaning that you assigned to it created it so that you did some sort of action with that person and then it created a reality that wasn't great. Are you guys seeing, remember when we talked about ultimate responsibility and this gets a little bit challenging because you're like, well, the dude called me a bad name. Like,

why do I even care about him? Right? Well, here's the thing. We only get one life. So you get to choose. Okay. You can either choose to say, I'm going to live the best life possible, or I'm going to let, you know, other people impact me negatively. That's up to you. All right. For me, I'm always looking for the best relationship in any given circumstance, even if it's, if there's friction. And I accept if I'm not able to have a great relationship. But I'm still seeking to understand and I'm seeking to take responsibility of any misunderstandings. Because I know when I accept the responsibility for that, then I'm able to be able to live a more full life.

Thanks so much for listening to the No Broke Months podcast today. Until the next show, I invite for you to be grateful, make good choices, help someone, have the best day of your life, and go find a listing.