No Broke Months For Salespeople - How Our Challenges Make Us Stronger

Episode Date: September 24, 2024

How Our Challenges Make Us Stronger   Sales Coach Dan Rochon of No Broke Months for Salespeople explores the transformative power of life's struggles.   Dan opens up about the hurdles he's faced throughout his career and personal life. From moments of doubt to times when the future seemed uncertain, he discusses how each challenge has shaped him into a more resilient and stronger individual.   In this new episode of No Broke Months for Salespeople, tune in to understand how overcoming obstacles can unlock new strengths. To find out more about Dan Rochon and the CPI Community, you can check these links:Website: No Broke MonthsPodcast: No Broke Months for Salespeople PodcastInstagram: @donrochonxFacebook: Dan RochonLinkedIn: Dan Rochon

And we all have things that cause us to sometimes feel like we don't measure up. You know, these emotions, they can be intense. They can just really totally, totally mess us up. But what you have to understand is that these challenging moments, they shape us. They build our resilience. They make us who we are. Welcome to the No Broke Months for Salespeople podcast, the ultimate destination

for salespeople, business people, and entrepreneurs. As you immerse yourself in this show, you'll discover the secrets to unlocking consistent and predictable income. We reveal the new way to persuade human behavior by mastering the art of the teach-to-sell method. Get ready to transform your approach and achieve unparalleled success. Hello, friends. My name is Dan Rochon. I'm the host of the No Broke Months for Salespeople podcast, where you learn how to teach-to-sell, which is the new way to persuade human behavior. And when you teach yourself, you're going to unlock consistent and predictable income. You're going to strengthen relationships to achieve self-fulfillment, and you're going

to avoid the number one sales mistake to never face rejection again and learn how to use normal realistic programming to influence and handle difficult people. Welcome to the show how our challenges make us stronger sales coach dan rashan of no broke months for sales people explores the transformative power of life struggles dan opens up about the hurdles he's faced throughout his career and personal life from moments of doubt to times when the future seemed uncertain, he discusses how each challenge has shaped him into a more resilient and stronger individual. In this new episode of No Broke Months for Salespeople, tune in to understand

how overcoming obstacles can unlock new strengths. I want to share with you something that I haven't publicly shared before. So I talk about the day that I stopped drinking. And then from time to time, I talk about my journey of, you know, I talk about the journey of when I was an alcoholic. You know, I'm still an alcoholic, but when I was an active alcoholic. And the despair that I had, you know, during that time, but I don't I've never shared publicly the day that I had my first drink. And I want to share that with you today and. Because I think it was a start of a journey. And, you know, so it was the start of a journey.

And, you know, so it was New Year's Day, 1987. I was 13 years old. You know, my older brother at the time, he beat the shit out of me every single day. I mean, I was abused. And I don't share that publicly very often because, you know, I don't feel it's appropriate. But you know what? I'm 51 years old today. Not today, but, you know, I'm 51 when I'm recording this. I figure, you know what, I'm halfway through life. I'm going to do one hundred and one hundred and two. That's my goal. That's my intention and of healthy years. And, um, you know, I figured if I'm ever going to share some of these stories, you know, I might in Kansas City, outside of Kansas City, Overland Park, Kansas. And it was just like this roach infested, you know, place. I was 10 years old. And then from 10 years old

until 13, I got the shit kicked out of me like every single day. My brother would say, hey, it's time for your daily beating. And literally, and, you know, I think between 10 and 13, I think I had maybe seven or eight black eyes and, you know, really wasn't a good environment. And I didn't have any, you know, any place for safety. My mom was just sort of chucked it up as boys being boys, you know, and I had no male model role model. And so I remember New Year's Day, 1987. My brother had this the Chevelle, chevrolet chevelle it's a you know old muscle car and i was parked in our garage it was on ken allen maryland

and um we had these condos and we had this one car garage and in that uh garage but it was it was attached to like all the garages were attached so our neighbors also had garages so there was like some space in there so i had a weight bench in there and we had a little cubby hole we used to hang out with you know as uh kids and um i discovered a warm six pack of beer i guess it was from new year's eve from the previous night was bud light and um i was by myself and um i drank four of those beers. I remember passing out on the workbench, on the weight bench. And not really passing out, but I remember spinning. And I was spinning and spinning and spinning, and I puked all over the freaking place.

And that was the day of my drinking, you know, the starting day of my drinking career. And I realize now, looking back on years and years and years later that, you know, I was, I was, you know, I was evading reality. I was leaving, um, a, an area of a really, really shitty existence. And, um, I was escaping my sense of not being worthy, my, my sense of not good enough. You know, I talk about the sales mistakes that agents make, and what those sales mistakes are is often it's not good enough. My website's not good enough. My sales product's not good enough. My service isn't good enough. When I'm able to build out a sales funnel, then I'll be able to make sales because what I have right now is not good enough. Right. But this was the start of my journey of me not being good enough.

And I wore that inadequacy throughout my life from that point for years and years and years. And I still, you know, I still bite it even today. Right. You know, even when I've done a know, done a lot of, a lot of heavy lifting with this. And so I was, you know, that inadequacy, it lingered through my entire life, you know, buried within my subconscious, you were these, you know, inconvenient moments that sabotage me throughout my life. I remember going to Seattle, this was not this was just a few years ago. And it was a conference with some of the top real estate agents in the entire country, some of the top people.

And I'm in this room filled with some of the nation's top agents. And they have confidence and success. And I remember looking at them. And I was thinking, oh, my goodness, I'm not worthy. My heart started to race. My my breathing became shallow. And, you know, I had this sense of dread. And I literally went through, I guess, what do they call a breakdown?

Right. This is just a few years ago. And it was before my divorce, because I calling my my wife at the time and I was saying hey I gotta get out of here I was booked for five days this is day number two and I was experiencing that on day one on day two I told them I told the people at the conference the organizer hey my mom she had something I gotta go take care of her I I got to leave. And I left. Right. And so that panic that surged over me, you know, that the anxiety that crashed, you know, my sense of, you know, any reason whatsoever, I just had to, I just had to leave. And looking back, I realized, you know, like after I left, you know, looking back, I realized how unfair I was to myself, to measuring myself up against the, you know, like these top,

top people in the world, right? Like, seriously, like I'm in this environment with the top people in the world, my God, even if I'm not like the last place in there, right. It, you know, I'm still in a pretty damn good room. Right. You know? And, you know, I realized I was being too hard on myself. And so these are, these are some of the ways that, that, you know, I realized I was being too hard on myself. And so these are some of the ways that, you know, that that childhood, because we all have, you know, a childhood, right? And we all have things in our past. And we all have things that cause us to sometimes feel like we don't measure up. I want you to consider a time for yourself when maybe someone betrayed you or maybe you felt let down or maybe you made a mistake and maybe you felt inadequate or frustrated or hurt. These emotions, they can be intense. They can just fuck us up.

I don't have a better way to say that. Right. Like and even like I'm sorry to curse like that. But even even saying it in those words, they could just really totally, totally mess us up. But what you have to understand is that these challenging moments, they shape us, they build our resilience. They make us who we are. And so just like that 13-year-old who was, you know, spinning around on that weight bench, puking all over the place, just like he had in front of himself his journey, he had the opportunity to be able to create his future. Here's the future right here. Your future is

within your control. And I want you to understand the stakes are freaking high. Okay? Your sense of self hangs in the balance. And I believe that this is literally life or death, right? Because those old beliefs that you may have, the ones that whisper, I'm not good enough. I'm not smart enough. I'm not ready to do this. These are the dragons that you have to slay. Because each step that you take towards discovering that you are worthy, you've always been worthy in that you have within yourself the opportunity to become the person that you deserve to be. The path is before you and you have to take the first step.

Thanks for listening to the show today. I am truly passionate about watching great business owners like you and salespeople to grow. And nothing excites me more than hearing your incredible success stories. And I invite for you. In fact, I dare you to reach out to me on social, Dan Roshan, and ask me any question, whether you're struggling or just want to share one of those great success stories. And I promise you, I'll reach back to you. So until the next time, have the best day of your life. Be grateful, make good choices, go help somebody and let's connect on social.