No Broke Months For Salespeople - How to Reset Emotions When Facing Challenges

Episode Date: December 27, 2023

How to Reset Emotions When Facing ChallengesReal Estate Coach Dan Rochon from No Broke Months for Real Estate Agents stresses the importance of understanding yourself and being able to handle tough situations with a calm mind.Dan shares a story about a recent challenge where he initially blamed outside factors, only to realize his own role as a leader in the situation.Learn how to control your emotions in the latest No Broke Months for Real Estate Agents episode. To find out more about Dan Rochon and the CPI Community, you can check these links:Website: No Broke MonthsPodcast: No Broke Months for Salespeople PodcastInstagram: @donrochonxFacebook: Dan RochonLinkedIn: Dan Rochon

I thought that somebody external to my organization screwed me, but then in a moment in time this morning, I realized, no, we screwed that. Well, I think as a leader, it's very normal to start thinking, who should I blame? Welcome to the No Broke Months for Real Estate Agents podcast. Working as a real estate agent can be incredibly rewarding and fulfilling, but it can also be frustrating if you aren't making the money you deserve. So if you're ready to end the stressful cycle of working hard for no results, then get started with a proven step-by-step system so that every month is No Broke Months. My name is Dan Roshan. I'm the host of the No Broke Months podcast, which is a show for real estate agents to help you have no broke months.

Thanks for joining me. Enjoy the show. How to reset emotions when facing challenges. Real estate coach Dan Roshan from No Broke Months for real Estate Agents stresses the importance of understanding yourself and being able to handle tough situations with a calm mind. Dan shares a story about a recent challenge where he initially blamed outside factors, only to realize his own role as a leader in the situation. Learn how to control your emotions in the latest No Broke Months for Real Estate Agents episode agents episode so then if the thoughts lead to the feelings what do the feelings lead to beliefs actions actions beliefs as well i was

looking for actions john you're right it does ultimately lead to beliefs but i was looking for the actions okay now i've had mixed reactions in and again going back like i flipped out like twice i flipped out yesterday i used some curse words when i was flipping out i never will curse at somebody but i was cursing okay and i'm being transparent so in that moment what does my barometer said my barometer says my thoughts were not serving me in that moment. And the moment I noticed my feelings, I stopped. I said, okay, stop, reset, go. And I did like in the middle of it reset, but then I was, you know, it's still sort of lingering this morning. I had a little bit of a, you know, Hey, if this ever happens again, sorry, everybody like that's probably not the right thing for a leader

to say. Okay. Let me change that. That's not the right thing for a leader to say. Okay. And I apologize. And hopefully I didn't offend anybody when I said that. Right. But that's completely inappropriate of me. But again, I'm just being transparent with you guys. The thoughts led to a momentary, like what the F? Because up until that moment this morning, I thought it was somebody else's fault. I thought somebody screwed us. But then I realized at a moment of time this morning that that didn't happen. We screwed ourselves.

I thought that somebody external to my organization screwed me. And it's like, okay, well, I can feel fine with that because I i never have to talk to them again and it's not a big deal but then in a moment of time this morning i realized no we screwed that and that's where again thought feeling action now when i think about this from a more global perspective, absent those two inappropriate responses or reactions, rather, I can still reset myself, check my barometer, say, what am I feeling? And I'm feeling bemusement. All right, rock and roll. You're good. Just keep bemused. Because a bemused leader is going to be much more effective than a pissed off leader.

Would you guys agree to that? Or leader or not leader? All right. What's your feedback before we move on? Because I'm curious, like I'm giving you a real, and I'm only using me, this as a real life example. This is what I was supposed to teach today. And I'm in this moment of time where I'm having this experience and I'm not concerned about the experience of like external to me.

What I'm asking about is like what's going on inside me and what are your observations about that? What was the wrong that was done to put you there again? Well, again, I'm not concerned about the external because that's not where I want to lead this conversation because it's hard for me to lead that without making people bad and wrong. So So that's external to me. So I'd rather just leave that alone if that's okay. What I'd really rather focus on is what's going on inside, because this is what I'm in control of. That out there, there's multiple people in control of that. My question to you is not anything external to me. My question to you is what's your observations of what I'm sharing with you about what a human being is experiencing internally and how that

impacts who that person is, what that person does, how that person impacts others? Well, I think as a leader, it's very normal to start thinking, who should I blame? The first thing we as a human being, we always like to blame someone else. But then when we realize, well, we are in charge, so it should be us. So I think what you have to go and get through is very, very normal.

Now, it becomes paradoxical when there's things that seem to be outside your control where other people do things that impact the result, which goes back into the questions I ask, well, who am I in relationship with? How have I led them? How have I supported them? How have I set expectations? Do I have the right people? These are the conversations I'm having, not who screwed me over. In fact, when I thought it was somebody external, when I thought that, it was an easy, like I didn't have to have all these other conversations. It was like, yep, she screwed

me over, external, boom, go move on. But then when I realized it was inside the organization, now there's a whole level of layer of questions to ask. So I hope that I'm demonstrating to you a way that you could choose. And then what I think is most impactful is understanding how these things all tie together. All right. Am I going to be bemused or am I going to be pissed off? And I've been both. Pissed off, I could say I'm pretty proud of the way that I managed that because in both instances, thought led to a feeling, led to an instantaneous action,

led to an instantaneous acknowledgement internally of, oh, wait, that's not who you want to be. Reset. Reset. Okay. So we may not always be in control of, you know, of that in, in real time, but we can certainly reset as quickly as possible thanks so much for listening to the no broke months podcast today until the next show i invite for you to be grateful make good choices help someone have the best day of your life and go find a listing