No Broke Months For Salespeople - Two Things That Cause You to Have Motivation

Episode Date: March 4, 2024

Two Things That Cause You to Have MotivationReal Estate Coach Dan Rochon from No Broke Months for Real Estate Agents talks about the fascinating factors that drive your motivation.Dan delves into the two primary factors significantly influencing your motivation and drive.Understand the underlying factors that drive motivation and unlock your full potential in the latest No Broke Months for Real Estate Agents episode. To find out more about Dan Rochon and the CPI Community, you can check these links:Website: No Broke MonthsPodcast: No Broke Months for Salespeople PodcastInstagram: @donrochonxFacebook: Dan RochonLinkedIn: Dan Rochon

When you understand why you want to do something, that's step one of motivation. I quit drinking at the time for my future baby because I didn't want my child to ever see that guy inebriated, incapacitated, incapable. So step one to motivation is to understand why are you doing what you're doing. Step two is to understand how. Welcome to the No Broke Months for Real Estate Agents podcast. Working as a real estate agent can be incredibly rewarding and fulfilling, but it can also be frustrating if you aren't making the money you deserve. So if you're ready to end the stressful cycle of working hard for no results, then get started with a proven step-by-step system so that every month is No Broke Months.

My name is Dan Roshan. I'm the host of the No Broke Months podcast, which is a show for real estate agents to help you have no broke months. Thanks for joining me. Enjoy the show. Two things that cause you to have motivation. Real estate coach Dan Rashan from No Broke Months for Real Estate Agents talks about the fascinating factors that drive your motivation. Dan delves into the two primary factors significantly influencing your motivation and drive. Understand the underlying factors influencing your motivation and drive. Understand the underlying factors that drive motivation and unlock your full potential in the latest No Broke Months for Real Estate Agents episode.

Today, what I'm going to teach you is the two things that cause you to have motivation. Has anybody here ever before been in a position where you felt like, man, I just don't want to do that? Yeah. Like, I just don't feel like freaking doing that. How do some people get to the point of doing it while others don't. And by the way, before I go into this, how do you feel when you don't do it, just out of curiosity? So if you ever, like, think of a specific thing in your life. Maybe it was going to the gym. Maybe it was starting a new diet. I mean, it's in the New Year's, right? So there's a lot of different, you know, resolutions, et cetera. Like, think of something specific that you wanted to do and then you didn't do

it. How'd you feel? Sometimes I feel like I got away with something, but usually I feel disappointed. Okay. Disappointed. Sometimes I feel like I got away with something. Jade, what are you, what are your thoughts? Usually I feel pretty cruddy or like, I feel like I let myself down. Yeah. I physically feel like crud. Right?

Like, like, it wears on me. Like, if I say I'm going to, like, if I know I got to clean my house, for example, and I don't clean the house and I end up doing something different, there's like this physical pain for me. It literally, it sort of rests on my shoulders, rest on my chest. And, you know, and what I find is that when I do the activity, it's like this lightness, it's this relief for me. And that's just the way that I experience it. When I stopped drinking, I was 32 years old. I'm 50 years old now. And when I stopped drinking, i'll never forget the day that i was um i was balled up on my bathroom floor in alexander virginia the primary bathroom and i'm balled up in a in a freaking

fetal position dry heaving like i'll never forget my kidneys were like, not, not pain, but they were like this sharp freaking bolt of pain. And I remember if you looked at my face today, my face, even though I'm older now, it's like sort of smooth. Well, the fact that, you know, I did shave my head. Right. So since then, but, but my face was like indented you know like like i looked older then than i do today and um i never thought that i'd be able to quit drinking right like that was the day that i decided to quit drinking but my journey throughout the days was such that I knew when I was in my young 20s, when I was building up to that, I knew I had this feeling on the inside, like I wanted to be better. I wanted to have more. Physically, I knew that I was limiting myself to be able to

create a great life, to be able to have physical things. Because I wasn't able to really produce income because I was a drunk. And I wanted it so bad. But I never took the action. I never took the action to be able to say, you know, I thought I had motivation to quit. But if I had motivation to quit, why did I wake up in the morning, hungover, dehydrated, splitting headache, pounding head, indented face every single morning, most mornings, kidneys on fire, liver on fire, stomach on fire, every single organ on fire, most days, yet about 7 p.m. that night, guess what?

I'd start drinking again. Another 12-pack, another two bottles of wine every single day. And I would just repeat that cycle over and over and over again. Every day. It wasn't a day from really from probably I was like maybe 19 to 32 that I didn't drink. I don't think there was a single day. From 13 to 19, probably half the days. And I wanted so desperately to be able to get rid of this freaking this thing that was ruling me.

But I didn't know how. That morning, April 13th, 2005, when I wake up on that bedroom floor, I was just getting ready to get married, and I knew I wanted to have a baby. And I asked myself that morning, because it was really like a day of reckoning. It was day of, am I going to continue doing this and be a shitty dad to my future kid? Or am I going to make a change? And that was the day right there where I was like, I don't know. You know, it's one way or the other. And I chose to be able to say this is the last day it wasn't until I got in my mind that I wanted to be a dad and then it's like well when do you become that

dad when do you quit drinking is it a day that we conceive is it a day that we get married is it a day that we um you know the baby's born and I couldn't come up with a good answer. I was like, okay, well, if I can't come up with a good answer, today's got to be that day. And as I look backwards, what caused me to make that choice? I'm going to tell you a little bit more about that. And that's one of the two things that I'm going to tell you about to be able to understand how to be motivated, whether it's something significant or less significant, like changing your life by choosing sobriety or less significant, like folding the laundry. Either way, there's a hack for it. I'm going to tell you more about that.

But before I do, I want to tell you about something that I did at that time. I tricked myself. How did I trick myself? I tricked myself at 32 by saying, you know what, Dan, this doesn't have to be the rest of your life. It just has to be till you're 60. That was what I negotiated with myself at the time. Because I knew that if I, at the time, 60 seemed so freaking long, you know, far from there. But now I'm 50, right? So now it doesn't seem that freaking far. At the time,

you know, I'm closer to 60 now than I am to 32. And so, but that's why I negotiated with myself. Right. I figured like, okay, I almost doubled my life at the time. but I sort of half let myself believe in it. And that was a trick that allowed myself to be able to cause me to be able to stop drinking. So how did I stop drinking and how does that apply to you? Simple. When we talked about a subconscious brain and the consciousness and the two ways that those connect to each other, what I want you to understand is that they are connected. And when you understand why you want to do something, that's step one of motivation. So I understood it wasn't until the day that I understood that I want to be a worthy father, that I do what I do to be a worthy dad, ultimately. Okay.

And I just now just sort of connected the dots that it's still about being a worthy dad. But today it's, you know, I actually have a daughter, a beautiful daughter, and I do what I do for her. Well, I do what I do to be able to be the best person I can be so that I can be worthy. Right? Like that's as simple as it can be. I quit drinking at the time for my future baby because I didn't want my child to ever see that guy inebriated, incapacitated, incapable. So step one to motivation is to understand why are you doing what you're doing? Step two, and there's only two steps, is to understand how. Now, sometimes you got to get creative with the how and then take action on that how,

right? So it's understanding how and take action. And sometimes you have to play tricks with yourself, just like I played tricks with myself to say, well, I'm just going to quit until I'm 60. Thanks so much for listening to the No Broke Months podcast today. Until the next show, I invite for you to be grateful, make good choices, help someone, have the best day of your life, and go find a listing.