On Purpose with Jay Shetty - 8 Habits of Happy & Successful Couples to Improve Your Relationship

Episode Date: November 19, 2021

A lasting relationship doesn't just thrive on love alone. It takes a lot of work… a lot of hard work from both partners. It isn’t a simple walk in the park or a picnic at the beach. It’s about putting into heart the daily grind to make the relationship work while enjoying the feelings of happiness and being loved and appreciating your partner’s effort every single day. In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty enumerates the habits that make successful relationships work and last for a long time. Sama Tea is now available! Go to http://samatea.com/onpurpose to order a box of Sama now and get access to our free live monthly tea parties, be the first to try out new tea flavors and receive a free exclusive download that shows my personal routine and rituals.Key Takeaways:00:00 Intro02:55 The relationship habits of successful couple03:54 Habit #1: Respect their value even if they have different values09:14 Habit #2: Try to notice the small things12:08 Habit #3: Encourage, not discourage each other14:35 Habit #4: Have a balance between time together, time alone, time with friends17:59 Habit #5: They argue about the issue not each other20:56 Habit #6: Think about how your decisions affect your partner22:40 Habit #7: Know the difference between your trauma and the issue25:18 Habit #8: Commit to rituals and new experiencesLike this show? Please leave us a review here  - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

I'm Jay Shetty and on my podcast on purpose, I've had the honor to sit down with some of the most incredible hearts and minds on the planet. Oprah, Kobe Bryant, Kevin Hart, Louis Hamilton, and many, many more. On this podcast, you get to hear the raw real-life stories behind their journeys and the tools they used, the books they read, and the people that made a difference in their lives so that they can make a difference in hours. Listen to on purpose with Jay Shetty on the I Heart Radio app, Apple podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Join the journey soon. What if you could tell the whole truth about your life, including all those tender and visible things we don't usually talk about?

I'm Megan Devine. Host of the podcast, it's okay that you're not okay. Look everyone's at least a little bit not okay these days, and all those things we don't usually talk about, maybe we should. This season, I'm joined by stellar guests like Abbermote, Rachel Cargol, and so many more. It's okay that you're not okay. New episodes each and every Monday, available on the iHeartRadio app or wherever you listen to podcasts. I am Jan Levan Zant, and I'll be your host for The R-Spot.

Each week listeners will call me live to discuss their relationship issues. Nothing will tear a relationship down faster than two people with no vision. There's y'all are just floppin' around like fish out of water. Mommy, daddy, your ex, I'll be talking about those things and so much more. Check out the R-Spawn on the iHeart video app Apple Podcast or wherever you listen to podcasts. In an unhealthy relationship, people argue about each other. You're the one getting everything wrong.

You're the one who needs to take responsibility. You're the one to blame. You don't get anything right, you are wasting my time, you have lied to me. We think that the other person is our enemy and we're fighting about them needing to change. When actually the biggest thing is, we need to argue in the world.

Thanks to each and every one of you that come back every week to listen, learn and grow. I am so, so deeply looking forward to sharing this week's episode with you. I have been blown away. I bumped into so many of you recently, whether I'm walking around town or even whether it's on my travels. And truly, it has been so wonderful to hear your stories and journeys with the podcast. But until I bump into you, I'm going to keep reading reviews. And this one is from Sun. Jay, I have never seen you in real life. Yet every time I hear your voice, I feel as if a good loving friend

is coming to give me the support I need. I can feel the love in your voice and your words have been helping me so much through my healing journey. Thank you so much for being you and sharing all this amazing knowledge and love with us. That message just melted my heart. Thank you so much for saying that it means the world to me that you can hear and feel how passionate I am about everything I do

through this podcast. This one is from Nicole. J, your episodes are always very impactful. Every morning, my two-year-old daughter, my newborn son, and I listen to your podcast. It's always very impactful. Every morning, my two-year-old daughter, my newborn son, and I listen to your podcast. It's always very inspiring and motivating to listen to advice and for my kids to listen to impactful words. Keep being an inspiration to all. Thank you so, so much. And I'm going to read one more, so, so difficult to pick. There's so many amazing ones here. I really, really appreciate it. This one is from Dan, wow Jay, each episode hits in a different way, but always exactly what I need. You're an absolute genius. I really appreciate it. Thank you. I've gone express enough how grateful I am for you serving your community with on purpose. You've opened my eyes to many new concepts and

reminded me of things I already knew, but forgot along the way. This podcast is an essential part of my growth journey and has become a habit to listen to weekly. Thank you, Dan. I know that one goes on further and I just want to say I am just blessed to have an amazing community like you. I don't take each of you for granted at all. I feel the opposite, I feel humbled and grateful that I get to spend this time with you. And today's theme is all about the relationship habits of successful and happy couples. Now whether you're single, whether you just started dating, whether you've been in a relationship

for a few years or whether you're in a really long-term relationship, this podcast applies to you because these rules, these habits are things that we have to continue to nurture. Maybe some of these are going to be new discoveries. Maybe some of them are going to be refining what you already know and maybe some of them are just going to be things you're already doing. But it's so important to create that assurance in our lives. Now, as always, I'll be sharing the science behind some of these reasons as well because I really believe it's important to give you some research to back some of these ideas, but I also will be sharing

stories as I love to do and I'll be giving you strategies and steps along the way so that you can actually put these into your life. So, if you're ready, I'm going to start on the first one. And the first one is, respect their values, even if they have different values. Respect their values, even if they have different values. That is a really interesting concept. You do not have to value what they value. You don't have to value the same thing or same things. You don't even have to have the same values.

Now, I do want to add a caveat that if someone is doing something completely against your values, of course, that is a time to leave. That is a time to move on. But overall, we're often told that couples have things in common and they like the same things and they like to do the same things. And of course, that is all helpful and useful. But the truth is, that as time goes on, you start to realize you have a lot more differences than you had in the first month. And it's really important to remember to respect their values, even if they have different values. The best thing to do here is to write down a list of your top three values and ask the

person to write down a top three list of their values. What are the three things that matter to the most in the world? And you can do one for people and the other for projects or things in their life or passions or hobbies or interests. So if someone asked me what were my three values in life, of course, my people would include, Rade, my family, my sister and my spiritual teachers. And if I was to look at my three priorities in my life from a professional point of view, it'd be my purpose, which I get to share with you all the time. It would also be time alone is something

that I really value and prioritize. And I would also add to that football, I love soccer, I'm addicted to it, I wish I could watch it more, I wish I could play it more, but it is a big passion in my life. And so understanding those values is really key because you start realizing that your partner is not going to value your values. They just have to respect them. And you don't have to value their values. You just have to respect them. When you show

respect in this way, it is received more deeply. What does it mean to respect someone's values? It means that you want to help them prioritize those things. It means you want to help them give more energy and emphasis to those things. What we try and do is we try and steal our partners' attention away from their priorities, and we want to be their priority. We want to be everything to them.

And so we're trying to steal their attention often away from what's really important to them because we want to be more important to them. What we don't realize is their passion is what makes them who they are. Their priorities is what makes them who they are. That person becomes more lovable, they become more attractive when they feel full.

Now of course you have to be mindful. Is there passion and excuse to avoid time with you? Is there interest in another person or people because they don't enjoy time with you? This is something you have to clarify and communicate. It's not something you assume. Often, we assume when people choose to spend time late in the office, that it's because they don't value us. We take that as an indication as a sign.

When actually if you ask them, they may say, well, actually, I'm working late in the office because I want to save up more for a vacation this year. Or I've been doing overtime because I want to be able to take a bit of a break for the family this year. Now, you may say, well, they should have asked me as well if that's what I care about. Maybe I don't care about that. Maybe I do care about them coming home from work early. But don't be the one to assume. Don't be the one to allow that to just go on. Otherwise, we get into this battle of,

well, you did this, so I did this, so I didn't ask and you didn't ask. And guess what? A few years later, we feel really, truly disconnected. So be that person who says, Hey, I want to understand this a bit more. I want to get a deeper thought around this. Can you please explain to me why you been going to the office late? Can you please tell me a bit about what you're working on? What are you excited about? When we ask questions that don't have judgment and don't have guilt in built into a question,

we actually get better answers. If you ask someone why you always late from work, what's going to happen? They're on the defensive. They're not feeling a sense of respect. And now you actually don't get a good response. You may actually trigger a reaction within them. And you don't get the right answer. Whereas if you said, hey, what have you been working on later the office, anything exciting? And they may say,

hey, I've just been trying to stay because I just want to make a bit of money. I just want to save up a bit more this year or I've been really nervous about my job. And I'm scared that people are being made redundant or losing their promotion. So I just want to make sure that doesn't happen to us. When you ask a question with trust, you receive a true answer. When you ask a question in built with guilt and judgment, you don't get an answer that truly helps you. So respect their values, even if they have different values. The second principle I want to share with you today, and this is a simple one, and you've probably heard it before, and it's something we don't do enough of, is try to notice the small things.

We think it's about the big birthday party. We think it's about the big weekend away. We save up to make Christmas really special. But we forget to thank someone for the beautiful breakfast they made us this morning. We forget to notice that someone looks incredible today. We forget to notice that someone put away our mess. It's these little things, these small moments on a day-to-day basis that define the quality of a relationship. A relationship is not defined by grand gestures of love.

It's defined by the ability to notice and spot the tiniest moments of brilliance, the smallest exchanges of love and emotion. The fact that someone's sat there and listened to you, these are the things that every single human yearns for. Now, if you're doing all of this and someone's still expecting you to do the big stuff and not feeling loved because you don't do the big grand gestures. You've got to really look at that and think whether you want to be in that relationship.

But chances are most of us are trying to make up for the fact that we miss the small things by doing the big things. We think, well, if I do this big thing, it will iron out all the small mistakes, right? It will take care of all the small challenges that I've done, that I haven't done. All the things that I missed out. From tomorrow, I want you to start thanking your partner for one thing a day. Just one thing. It doesn't have to be everything. It doesn't have to be every moment. It just has to be one thing a day. get into that habit and make it a different thing every day. Don't make it the same thing. When we lived as monks, we used to have to walk

around this pathway and every day we'd be asked to find something new. One day we had to find a new stone. The next day we had to find another stone. The next day we had to find a flower and the next day another flower. And in this way, we trained our mind to walk the same path, but find a new stone every day. Isn't this what we have to do in our relationships? We have to sit with the same person, we have to eat with the same person, we sleep with the same person, but we notice something new. That practice of mindfulness actually improves our brain, it improves our emotions. It's easy to find new in new. It's challenging and beautiful to find new in the older the familiar.

And actually, that keeps our experience ever fresh. The third thing that I want you to do, which is a huge one of successful couples, is that they encourage, not discourage each other. Rathi is so fun to watch right now. She has so many amazing projects coming away, so many exciting opportunities. And as someone who's been in this world for a while now, it's very easy to be cynical. And I know this where I've had excitement and enthusiasm about certain things,

but I know people have been in the industry far longer than I have, and they're cynical. So sometimes, Rady will share an idea with me and I have to stop my cynicism, have to be excited for her. I have to be enthusiastic, I can warn her, I can be conscious, I can be cautious about it. But often what we try and do is we try and discourage people because we've had a bad experience.

We try and discourage our partner because we want to show them that we know more and we've thought about it. We try to discourage our partner because we see their bumbling enthusiasm, but we think that they're not smart enough or they're not organized enough or they're not planned enough. Let's start to truly encourage our partners when they receive an opportunity. When we don't encourage, when we don't celebrate, when we don't recognize how beautiful and powerful this opportunity is, we're actually taking away love and connection out of our relationship. I'm Danny Shapiro, host of Family Secrets. It's hard to believe we're entering our eighth season.

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I am Miamla and on my podcast, the R-Spot, we're having inspirational, educational, and sometimes difficult and challenging conversations about relationships. They may not have the capacity to give you what you need, and insisting means that you are abusing yourself now. You human! That means that you're crazy as hell, just like the rest of us. When a relationship breaks down, I take copious notes, and I want to share them with you.

Anybody with two eyes and a brain knows that too much Alfredo sauce is just no good for you. But if you're going to eat it, they're not going to stop you. So he's going to continue to give you the Alfredo sauce and put it even on your grits if you don't stop him. Listen to the R-Spot on the iHeart Video app Apple Podcast or wherever you listen to podcasts. I'm not saying that we have to celebrate every tiny thing,

but how often do we discourage our partners? Because we don't feel comfortable about something they're doing. How often are we not celebratory? Because we feel we haven't celebrated ourselves. Sometimes we think, well, why are they so excited about that? I mean, I didn't want that. And I didn't get excited about it. Why are they so excited about it?

Start from tomorrow when your partner says something to you, allow yourself to move aside your projection, your prediction, be encouraging, be enthusiastic, of course share the insight, of course share what you think they need to know in this process. But don't let your ego get in the way of truly encouraging them. Our ego stops us from encouraging the people we love. Our ego blocks us from encouraging the people we love. We try to warn them and we're saying, well, we're doing it for them. us from encouraging the people we love. We try to warn them and we're saying, well, we're doing it for them. But really, there's a part of us that's warning ourselves as well. The fourth principle is having a balance between time together, time alone, time with

your friends, and time with collective friends. Notice how there is a lot going on there. So in an average week and average month, we're going to have to spend time alone. We have to spend time with each other. We have time with our own friends, and we have time with friends together. Now, when I think about this,

I start thinking of ratios that may be helpful. So let's take a week, and of course in a week you're not going to do all of these things, but giving you an idea. Let's say in a week, you spend one night alone. That's really healthy. To have one night for yourself, you can use it to do whatever you want. It may be to play games, it may be to read a book, it may be to watch your favorite TV show, it may be to be working late. You get one night to yourself. Then you spend three nights together. Three nights are connected time.

Maybe you watch a show together, maybe you go for a walk, maybe you go to the gym, maybe you play a game, but you have three nights that are dedicated to each other. You have two nights that you spend with collective friends, couples that you enjoy time with. Now, there's something really important here, studies show that couples that are friends with other people who are in happy relationships. This was research and interviews done by the University of Maryland

that found that healthy couple friendships have potential to make relationships more exciting and more fulfilling by increasing attraction, providing a greater understanding of men and women in general. So it gives you perspective and allowing partners to observe the way other couples interact and negotiate differences. It did go on to say that topics like sex and money were less comfortable to be discussed in these arenas, and those were more for personal interactions, but other

conversation topics flourished in these happy couple scenarios. And finally, you may have one day a week that you spend with your own friends. Now, this is just a sample of what I'm sharing with you. So in a week, you spend one day alone, you spend three days together, two days with friends that you know evenings, and then one day with your own friends, right? Apart. And this creates a great sense of a system or a structure. What I like about this is your partner is naturally the priority for those three days in a week. Three out of seven days are dedicated to your partner, but you also get one day to decompress by yourself. You get two days to be with collective friends

who are still together, but you're getting to experience other people's energy, and then you get one day to be with your own friend, to decompress in a different way. This is just a sample, and I'm recommending it because it starts giving you a flow of how to think about it. Often we feel that prioritizing our relationship means we have to be together six days a week, we have to be together five days a week.

But often that actually starts becoming boring, we run out of ideas, we run out of things to do, we run out of energy to bring to the relationship. Creating diversity in our weeks, months, and years allows for us to actually bring more back to our relationships. We have to go and borrow ideas, borrow energy, feel that contagious spirit and bring it back into our relationship. Now the fifth step that's successful and happy couples do is that they argue about the issue, not each other. In an unhealthy relationship, people argue not each other. In an unhealthy relationship,

people argue about each other. You're the one getting everything wrong. You're the one who needs to take responsibility. You're the one to blame. You don't get anything right. You are wasting my time. You have lied to me. We think that the other person is our enemy

and we're fighting about them needing to change. When actually the biggest thing is, we need to talk about the issue. We need to argue about the issue. Julie Garner is a doctor of psychology and she recommends that we keep the fights fair. She says, when you fight fair, you keep your dispute focused on the topic

without devolving into personal attacks. So if you're arguing about money the topic without devolving into personal attacks. So if you're arguing about money and how money is used, it's not about how the other person uses money. It's about how you both should want to use money. If you're arguing about the cleanliness in the home, it's not just about the other person's cleanliness standards because you probably have a challenge too, but it's about what level of standard you want to create together to create the right movement forward. And arguing is necessary and healthy. There's a great book called You Are Not Crazy, Letters From Your Therapist.

And in it, it's as similar to working out a muscle. If you can effectively survive tears in your marriage and then repair them, then it makes the relationship stronger. Most of us think, well, I can't be bothered to repair this tear. But it's the repairing of the tear that actually makes it stronger. So if you've had a few tears, don't throw it away. Don't write it off. You can still repair that relationship. Now, how do you do that? How do you do that? The way you do it is you say to yourself and your partner when you're not fighting,

let's always remind each other to focus on the issue. Now, when I'm about to bring an issue up to you, let's make sure it's the issue and not you are the issue. So let's say that you were upset that your partner spent a lot of money this month on dinners and you both had made a pact to not do that. You've got two options. You either say, well, look, you wasted it.

You broke our pact. Or you say, hey, is the pact not working for you? I wanted to understand if we can do something that's going to help us both understand what our goals and priorities are. Look at the difference in that conversation. Half the time, it's not what we say, it's how we say it. We've heard that a million times, right? But it's so true.

Half the time we put our partner on the defensive before we've even spoken about the issue. And now what are we talking about? Well, last year you wasted money on those Christmas presents for your family. Well, two years ago when you were broke, I carried you. Right, look what ends up happening. We're already in a place we don't want to beat in. I'll argue about the issue, not each other. Step number six, this one's been a huge one for me, and I think as we grow up as independent adults

and independent thinkers, this is sometimes something that we don't think about effectively, and I'll explain how to do it as well. Step number six is think about how your decisions affect your partner. This doesn't mean you shouldn't make decisions that may affect your partner in a convenient sense, but you have to think about it. When I get invited to travel for work, I know I want to do it because I'm passionate about my work, but I do think about how that's going to affect Rady. And so I'll

say to Rady, I've got this opportunity, maybe this is a time when you want to go visit home, maybe you want to spend time with friends, I just want you to know so you have enough time to plan. If I don't think about her and I just plan it, and then it comes to the day and I tell her on the day, whatever I done, I've removed an opportunity for her to do what's important to her. Think about how your decisions affect your partner and have a healthy discussion about it. Often when we make a decision, we've been thinking about it for five months. And we share it to them in five minutes and we expect them to understand what we've been thinking about for five months

in five minutes. You can't do that. You have to give someone time to catch up to your way of thinking. If you spend five months deciding to quit your job and when you share it in five minutes with your partner, you expect them to understand it. They won't. Bring them along for the journey. Give them space and time to process it for

themselves, if that's what's going to take. But don't expect them to understand something that they've heard for five minutes that you've been thinking about for five months. Step number seven is know the difference between your trauma and the issue. Know the difference between your expectation and your partner being wrong. This is probably the hardest but the most incredible skill. I'll give you an example. If your expectation of how your wife should be a mother is based on how your mother was, that's you bringing your expectation and your past into what's right for your partner. Most of us don't even think about this. Our expectations of our partners are based on how our parents were.

And so we expect our partners to be as good as our parents or maybe better than our parents or whatever it may have been. So much of the time we act with our partners in a way because of a gap that our parents had with us. Are you bringing your trauma into your relationship? Knowing the difference is so important. Me and Radi have had to really work on this when we're bringing our expectation. So for example, Radi's father is this amazing human who I adore to. I love him and he's helpful around the home. He's helpful in the kitchen and he's an entrepreneur and successful. And Rady was thankfully aware of this. And she never expected me. She knew I wouldn't be helpful in the kitchen. I'm useless. But if she expects me to be everything her father is, that becomes

really difficult. Sometimes we think our partners are wrong when all it is that our expectation is wrong and there's an assumption again and our assumptions and expectations of our partners actually make the relationship weaker. How can you take some time to recognize this? It has been established that for every negative encounter at least five positive encounters are needed. Says Dr. Avey.

This is another relationship tip from Dr. John Gottner known as the Magic Ratio. So, if you've had an interaction where you brought a bit of trauma, you bought your past, you bought your expectation, make sure you have five positive encounters for every negative encounter. It's great to count. It's great to think about it just like you would at work. If you've had a bad meeting with someone, you want to have a good meeting with them. Well, you want to have five great interactions here. But start to notice, where are your expectations of your partner actually coming from your parents? Where are your expectations of your

partner coming from what your friends said to you? Maybe your friends said to you, oh, he should do this or she should do that. But is it truly yours? Do you really believe it? Do you really think that's the only way? Step number eight, and our final habit is commit to rituals and new experiences. Doing the same things again builds a deeper bond and trying out new things together, build the deeper bond. When you're doing new things together, you want to try things that are new for both of you so that you're both beginners, you're both really getting to share a unique and

new experience. Usually, as couples, we do what one of the people likes. Oh, you like this? I'll come along. Oh, that's important to you. I'll come along. What ends up happening there is you're trying to see things through your partner's eyes. Instead of trying to see things through your partner's eyes, both of you get to see things through your own eyes for the first time.

This is what a new, unique experience is made of. And the other thing is to commit to daily rituals. Now, this one's a fun one, which I read from an article by Dr. Avey, and it said that hugging for as little as six seconds can make you feel close. The emphasis is on the actual hug lasting six seconds as there are studies indicating that if a hugging embrace is maintained for at least six seconds, it is enough time for oxytocin in the brain to be released. Of course, feel free to hug for as long as you like, but

make that connection meaningful. For Rade for as long as you like, but make that connection meaningful. For Radee and I, you know, we launched Sarmati and I know you all have all been loving it and drinking it. We launched it because it was our ritual together. We sat down for 7 to 12 minutes a day and had tea. Being able to do that every single day, brills a sense of commitment, connection, bonding. I hope that these eight steps have helped you massively today. I can't wait to see you put them into practice. I hope that these eight steps have helped you massively today. I can't wait to see you put them into practice. I'm so excited to see how your relationships develop

when you actually put these habits into reality. I hope you enjoyed this episode. Make sure you share your insights on Instagram, on Twitter, on Facebook, on TikTok, wherever you're listening. And I will see you again next week. Thank you. What if you could tell the whole truth about your life, including all those tender, invisible things we don't usually talk about? I'm Megan Devine.

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