On Purpose with Jay Shetty - 9 Career Mistakes to Avoid & 9 Habits to Grow

Episode Date: December 3, 2021

The career path that we choose is influenced by a lot of factors - our mindset, goals, passion, and most especially the circumstances that surround us. We have a vision of where we want to be, but sometimes, we take a different route, we take a detour.And that’s completely okay. You can have stopovers, fill up your gas, grab a bite and quench your thirst. You can have those moments where you go astray. And you can always return to that path that will lead you to success. In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty shares several mistakes we unconsciously make that hinder our character growth and what we can do to correct them. Get your copy of Think Like a Monk today by clicking this link!https://thinklikeamonkbook.com/Key Takeaways:00:00 Intro00:43 Let’s focus on what we do to make money02:20 Three classes of intelligence04:40 Mistake #1: We build our careers around one revenue stream08:21 Mistake #2: Being an out and out generalist12:59 Mistake #3: Disregarding social media16:43 Mistake #4: Complacency19:34 Mistake #5: We celebrate for too long or we don’t celebrate at all22:02 Mistake #6: Over reliance on one person23:46 Mistake #7: Just watching the competition and getting disheartened24:28 Mistake #8: Listening to what your company tells you24:53 Mistake #9: Don’t ignore statistics but be led by your intuitionLike this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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If you think about the most successful people in the world, I promise you they're not comfortable. If you think about the healthiest people in the world, they're not comfortable. Now you may say, J. Comfortable is more of an important value to me than success. And I respect and accept that. But here's the thing. If you try to get comfortable, then when there's uncertainty and your comfortability is disturbed, you're not sure what to do. Hey, everyone. Welcome back to On Purpose, the number one health podcast in the world. Thanks to each and every single one of you that come back every week to listen, learn, and

grow. Now, today I wanted to focus on work. I wanted to focus on careers. I wanted to focus on what you do to make money. Because the careers that we choose, the industries we choose, the jobs that we choose end up taking up a lot of our lives. We spend a lot of time at work,

we spend a lot of energy at work. And while I do believe I was watching an interview recently with Mark Zuckerberg, it's an older interview, probably one of the earlier interviews he did. And the interviewer asked him what he wishes younger entrepreneurs would avoid, what mistakes he thinks they should avoid. And he gave a really interesting answer. He actually said that he believes that we shouldn't avoid mistakes. We should make as many mistakes as possible because you learn so much from them. But I believe that he's right. And I love that mindset because I've made a lot of mistakes to him.

I'm really happy I made them I do also feel though that there are different levels of mistake Like some mistakes don't cost you as much time as much money as much energy But the insights I'm about to share with you on this podcast will save you months if not years of Pain efforts struggle and challenges which can set you up to have immense growth in your life. So I'm doing this because I so believe that when I learned from the Vedas, they talked about three levels or three classes of intelligence. They said that the most first level class of intelligence is someone who learns through other people's mistakes simply by hearing them, seeing them, or learning about them. The smartest people in the world learn from the mistakes of others say the Vedic literature.

And you can think about this from the idea of let's say there's someone you trust on respect and they say, don't go down that street at night. It can be really dangerous. Now, as a smart individual, if you trust that individual and consider them to be smart too, I'm sure you'd agree. You wouldn't go down there. But then there's a second class of intelligence. We hear someone's experience, but we want to experience it for ourselves. This is considered a little less smart because we still have to learn from going through pain ourselves. Someone was asking me the other day,

they said, Jay, why do we only learn with pain? And I said, that's not true. We can actually learn before we experience pain by being that first class intelligence. But for most of us, we like something

to feel physical before we consider it to be real. And so often we'll go down that street, we'll have a poor experience and then we'll realize never to do that again. And then the third class intelligence to Veda say, is someone who hears the mistake, someone who makes the mistake, but then continues to make that mistake because they do not learn. Sometimes we fall into this category where we're making the same mistakes again and again and again in our careers, in our lives, in our relationships, but we don't shift or change. So as I said, the reason why I am recording this podcast to tell you about mistakes to avoid around money and careers

is because I think that if I can, in any way, pass on some of the things I've learned from people that have learned it from, that will really help. So the first one here is really powerful because I feel that this is something we all learned in a difficult way during the pandemic. And the first mistake to avoid is a lot of us build our careers around one revenue stream. We build our careers around one job. It's not just about the money and it's not really about the money at all. We also build our careers around a paycheck. We are not

exploring our curiosities, our interests, our passions. So there's a study that was completed by census.gov. And it said that a small but steady number of American workers have more than one job because either they need the extra income or they want to gain more experience or explore different interests. Now, while most of these multi-job workers only had two jobs, a small percentage, 6.9% worked more than two jobs, right? And women were more likely the men to have a second job, 8.8% compared with 8% respectively. And what was fascinating about this

is that having more than one job showed a talent in time management. Men and women with only one job were more likely to work a full-time schedule than those with multiple jobs. For example, 83.2% of men with one job worked full-time, while only 66.5% of men with at least two jobs worked full-time at their main job. Now, why am I sharing this with you?

It's because I really believe that we all need two jobs in our life, one that pays the bill and one that builds the passion. You have one job that pays the bills and you have another job that builds the passion. The job that pays the bills is your day job. It's your full time job. The passion is what you do in the evening. Whether it earns you a little bit more income or not at all in the beginning.

And I found that this is very normal for people who end up creating their dreams. It's rare for people to make a leap or a jump before something feels real to some degree. So when you're doing your safe, secure job to pay the bills, but then you make space and time beyond that to accelerate, to grow your passion and your curiosities or maybe learning and your skill to even improve your job, that sets you apart. That sets you apart in a number of ways.

One, you have an added revenue stream. Now, if anything happens to your main job or the passion, you still have what you need to take care of yourself and your family. Number two, you end up creating more passion, drive and energy for yourself. People who are pursuing their passions and their curiosities are generally more positive as well. And then thirdly, those people that are doing two jobs, you're learning new skills that you can apply in both places. You're keeping your life fresh.

Now you may say, well, Jay, I want to spend on my family. I want to take some weekends off. I get that. But how often do those weekends off turn into no quality time with anyone? How much of the time do we actually feel like we wasted that time or we didn't gain anything out of it? Often having a little bit more to do

makes us a little more effective. Right? Have you ever had one of those days where you're completely free and you feel like you wasted it? Or is it a day, even when you had three or four key things to complete, it was much more likely that you were able to achieve a lot more. So I want you to consider how you can create a life

where you can have a paycheck, job, and a passion career. The reason why I'm also encouraging you in this regard. And of course, each to the wrong, and you don't have to listen to my take on it. But the idea that when you're able to see that there are other options and opportunities, it gives you more confidence to make bold decisions in your life.

All right, the second career mistake to avoid is being an out and out generalist, right? You're kind of average at everything and the mistake can be solved by becoming a deep expert or a clear, powerful skill set in a high value skill. Focusing on building and creating and investing in that is huge. Why is being a generalist, a career mistake? It's a career mistake because when you average it everything, it's very hard to attract attention, investment, qualifications, support, networking, mentorship into your life.

Now, the question I always get asked is, well, Jay, what if I'm really good at being a generalist? Yes, that's called being a specialist in being a generalist. You're still an expert and you're still a specialist. So, even if you're one of those people that says, well, Jay, I want to be a CEO, I need to be good at lots of different things. First of all, you're not average, you're good at them.

And second of all, you're a specialist because you're prioritizing being a good generalist. So the career mistake is to be average, right? To be mediocre, to allow yourself. I even knew people at a company I worked at who became specialists in very niche technologies or very niche spaces or industries, but that gave them more value in that industry.

And so across the board, whether you're a specialist at something as broad as social media, or whether you're a specialist at something like pensions law, right? Either of those still allow you to have a successful career versus being a broad person in either of those categories. So how do you learn a skill deeply? It requires the ability to go and find a coach, to go and find a community, and to consistently go to a class or program.

Right, so there's three C's, coaching, consistency, and community. If you're serious about something in your life, and you don't have one of those three things, then you're not actually serious about it. Right? Serious means I have a coach, someone to learn from, I have a community, someone to learn with and I have a class somewhere to learn.

All three of those things make you undefeatable. And one of the biggest challenges we have is that after we finish college, we stop learning. We don't invest anymore. The next thing you know, there's a new technology that's wiping you out. I remember asking at an event, how many people believe their jobs would be replaced by robots? Most of those people would never put their hand up.

And the studies show that 70 to 80% of the jobs in the room would be replaced by a robot. We have to do more human things. We have to do more deeper things. We have to do more deeper things because there are still things that robots can't do. And this also makes your career more meaningful. These aren't just ways to avoid being broke or avoid not having a job. It actually makes life more meaningful. When you work on an art, I recently, I've seen it a few times now, King Richard. I don't know how many of you've

seen it, but you will Smith movie inspired by the story of Serena and Venus Williams' father, whose name was Richard. And you see the incredible journey of two girls, Raised in Compton, becoming the most timeless tennis stars and inspiring a generation and culture to dream, grow, improve. But what I'm really fascinated by is the gifts we receive when we refine something in our life. See, the refinement is not only to get

more appreciation from people outside of us, but when we refine an ability, we almost develop more confidence in ourselves. We develop more of a appreciation of ourselves, right? It's like me, I only cook beans on toast, but if I was able to cook something more gourmet and if I wanted to, then my appreciation and estimation of myself increases.

Our self-estimation, our self-esteem is based on our skills being deepened, refined, and enhanced. When we see what we're able to push through and break through as we develop, as skill as we develop and interest, it's amazing to see what is possible. So I want us to really, really consider that and think about that. Not too long ago, in the heart of the Amazon rain forest, this explorer stumbled upon something that would change his life. I saw it and I saw, oh wow, this is a very unusual situation. It was cacao. The tree that gives us chocolate.

But this cacao was unlike anything experts had seen. Poor tasted. I've never wanted us to have a gun fight. I mean, you saw this tax of cash in our office. Chocolate sort of forms this vortex. It sucks you in. It's like I can be the queen of wild chocolate. We're all lost.

It was madness. It was a game changer. People quit their jobs. They left their lives behind, so they could search for more of this stuff. I wanted to tell their stories, so I followed them deep into the jungle, and it wasn't always pretty. Basically, this like disgruntled guy and his family surrounded the building arm with machetes. And we've heard all sorts of things that, you know, somebody got shot over this. Sometimes I think, all these for a damn bar of chocolate.

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and sometimes shocked. Listen on the iHeartRadio app,, Apple podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Number three of the career mistakes to avoid is disregarding social media. Now I'm biased towards this one because social media obviously changed my life. I never dreamt of being a creator or a YouTuber or any of that. That was a part of the plan. I just wanted to spread wisdom. I wanted to share insight. I wanted to share what I'd learned from my teachers and mentors. And I wanted to be able to pass on all these tools and techniques that I had. And no one would give me a shot. No one would give me an opportunity.

Ten media companies rejected me. Three media execs rejected me. People told me I was too old, I was too young, I was too over-experienced inexperienced. I mean, everyone had every excuse in the book. And social media allowed me to break through. But even when I was in the corporate world, one thing that I was trained to do was always update my LinkedIn profile.

Now, this did something really special. First of all, when you update your social media with what you're doing professionally, you develop a sense of confidence in self-esteem. Why? Because when we've reflect on what we've achieved, what we've learned, how we've grown, that develops our confidence. At the same time, when you know you have to record it, when you know you're going to have have to tell LinkedIn what you've been up to, you now do more. You now want to be motivated to achieve more because you know that you're going to share it.

Now you may be saying, why would I have to share my success? Well, we're living in a time when if people can't see it, if people can't see you, if you're invisible, you actually don't exist. It's not to say that you don't matter or you're not skilled. It's to say that the world doesn't take you seriously

because you don't appear to be relevant or up to date. So if you go to someone's LinkedIn profile and you don't see their up to date experience, then that feels very different to when you go to someone's and there is, right? It's just a normal comparison. Again, I'm not saying this makes you better or worse. I'm saying that it can be helpful.

I'm saying that it can support you. I'm saying that it can make a difference. So when we're looking at this more deeply, I realized that when I updated my LinkedIn profile, it also attracted a lot of people reaching out to me and offering me jobs. Now, even when I wasn't looking for a job, I promised you this was a very, very, very satisfying feeling,

knowing that I was getting job offers was a great feeling even when I wasn't looking for a job. And a lot of people feel stuck in their job or feel scared by their job because they don't really, really know when or if ever they will able to find another one. But when you're getting inbound inquiries, when you're getting inbound interest,

it again gives you a sense of confidence and space to build from. Why do I keep going on about confidence? I keep going on about confidence because I really believe that confidence is something we lack in our careers. Tell me if I'm wrong. Confidence is something we lack in our careers. And we build it by knowing that we have value and worth and often we need to know that by knowing that the industry feels that way. So research has shown that 82% of employees think that social media can improve work relationships and 60% believe social media support decision-making processes and employees who use social media

for work are more engaged but also more likely to leave their jobs because they get that interest. So overall it improves your relationships, it improves your connectivity. It improves your ability to be hired using social media for work is powerful. Now, the fourth career mistake to avoid is complacency. This kicks in usually when you had a success or had a moment you maybe just been promoted Things are going well. Now I have a statement that I love to share when things get hard work hard When things get good Work harder right when things get hard work harder and when things are easy

work even harder Why because when things are easy, work even harder. Why? Because when things are hard, it's easy to know that you need to work hard. But when things get good, we get complacent, we get laid back, we focus less, we try less, we overall sit back and relax. Now when I think about this complacency one. I know that in my own life I Worked so much harder when things went well and that really really helped me push forward and

It really helped me gain momentum and a lot of people said to me They said Jay lives are good. Why are you working hard? I was like because I want to sustain this I want to be able to make this real and I saw a lot of people said to me, they said, Jay, life's so good, why are you working hard? And I was like, because I want to sustain this. I want to be able to make this real. And I saw a lot of people in my life who when they had their early successes, they slowed down. Now, there's reasons we slowed down. One of the reasons is we're scared of whether we'll get that success again. So sometimes we slow down. I remember after my first video, I actually wanted to stop making videos after my first video that I made that went viral.

I was like, oh no, what if my next video does a good viral? And so I actually slow down. So sometimes we get fearful, we get paralyzed by success. But sometimes that's the reason. At other times, the reason we stop creating is because we get comfortable. Now, comfortable and complacency never created anything incredible.

There's a beautiful statement that my spiritual teachers would often say is that comfort and spiritual advancement don't go hand in hand. And that's true for anything. Comfort and material advancement don't go hand in hand. Comfort and success don't go hand in hand. They really don't. They really truly don't.

If you think about the most successful people in the world, I promise you they're not comfortable. If you think about the most successful people in the world, I promise you they're not comfortable. If you think about the healthiest people in the world, they're not comfortable. Now you may say, J comfortable is more of an important value to me than success. And I respect and accept that.

But here's the thing. If you try to get comfortable, then when there's uncertainty and your comfortability is disturbed, you're not sure what to do. Whereas if you were someone who wasn't comfortable in the first place, now when you're disturbed, you have so many opportunities and things happening that you're able to reconfigure. It's just a really important consideration and

makes when things are hard work hard, when things are good, work harder. Remember that. Okay, number five, one of the biggest career mistakes we make, and again, it's one or the other, is that we either celebrate for too long or we don't celebrate a tour, or we cry for too long, or we don't cry a tour, right? So if you're winning, you celebrate that one win too long. You've been celebrating the same win for the last 12 months, right? Imagine

if someone won a Super Bowl, an NBA championship, a Champions League trophy, and they're celebrating it for 12 months after it makes no sense, right? It makes no sense. All the other problem is if you're winning, but you don't celebrate at all, you never took a moment to honor your wins or honor your triumphs or take a moment to really embrace that feeling and emotion of where you've come to. And the other extreme is that when you're losing, you cry every day for 12 months. You're just broken by it. All the mistakes you make is you don't cry even for a day. You don't lay yourself cry, allowing ourselves to experience and accept emotions that we're feeling is so important. I used to have a football soccer coach, I would say, if you win, celebrate for a day. And if you lose, cry for a night. And then tomorrow, go back to training.

And I've lived that in my career. And I think it's helped me avoid the career mistakes. If I win, like I remember when you all made on purpose, a number one podcast, when you made, think like a monk, a number one New York Times bestselling book. My celebration wasn't to throw a party, I sat there, and I acknowledged what I'd learned along the journey,

how fortunate I was to have each and every one of you in my life, and how grateful I was. Celebration doesn't mean a party. Celebration doesn't mean something external. Celebration means a check-in of honoring how far you've come. And I've also had days when I've been going through something really rough or tough and I'll let myself cry I'll let myself let it out and then I'll get back to training So I'll ask yourself have you been celebrating for too long or do you block your own celebration? That's a lot of people a lot of people to stop themselves from celebrating because they're so scared that if they celebrate

Then they won't work hard again and I was scared of that once upon a time That if I celebrate too much then I won't value hard work again, I was scared of that once upon a time, that if I celebrate two months, then I won't value hard work again. But I realized I had to give myself a day. I had to give myself that moment. Now, career mistake number six is an overreliance on one client, or one boss, or one manager, or one partner. When you create an over reliance

on one client, one manager, one person in your life, it is a big risk. Why? Because no matter how much you love that person and how much they love you, they have the potential to let you down. This doesn't mean that you set yourself life up in a way where you have lots of people.

What it means is you're not again, just dependent on one person in your life. I remember my friend at a company and they only had one big client and a couple of small ones. When they lost the one big client, that was 70% of their business. Imagine what happened to their employees. Imagine what happened to their profits that year.

Imagine what happened to the business that year. Even your best client should at most be 25% of your business. Ideally, 10% because if you lose them, if there's competition, if they leave you, if they find someone else, if they find someone cheaper, you're not affected by it. It's so important to build out your network, to build out, and all of this is in the mind I promise you,

that over-reli's comes because you go, oh, well, wow, I just got one client. I'm getting paid by one client, what I usually got paid by five. Now I don't need the other four. And then you just get focused on this one client. And in six months, they go, oh, well, we found someone cheaper, we found someone better, we found someone

who's my brother's son's cousin, right? Like you end up in this weird situation. And now you realize how much you needed those four, but imagine you had one big client and you had the other four, that were big as well. If you land a big client, go sign another big one. If you land a big contract, go sign another big contract. The seventh career mistake to avoid

is just watching the competition and getting disheartened. Instead of just watching the competition, we have to observe the competition's moves, but obsess over our own innovation and growth. Observe your competition, obsess on your creation. It's only your obsession in your creation that creates incredible things. What we often do is the opposite. We obsess over our competition and we observe. We become observers in our creation when we need to obsess over our creation and observe our competition. Step number eight is listening to what your company tells you.

I had so many friends at a company I worked at and they were told, well, why would you start again? Don't go to another company, just stay here. Why are you taking that risk? Don't buy any of that. Do what's right for you in your career. Don't waste your time and energy. Just listening to people who could leave tomorrow.

No one's loyal beyond whether at. And the last one I want to share is don't ignore statistics but be led by your intuition. The most dynamic way to live is data and intuition. Use data to be informed but then add intuition to how you are informed. Thank you so much for listening on purpose this week. I am so, so grateful. We just had the two best months of on purpose. Because of you, it's amazing to see how much you're all benefiting and gaining from this podcast.

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We've had an awesome year on on purpose. We're not done yet. We've got some really exciting episodes left for 2021. I'll see you next week. What if you could tell the whole truth about your life, including all those tender and visible things we don't usually talk about? I'm Megan Devine. Host of the podcast, it's okay that you're not okay. Look, everyone's at least a little bit not okay these days, and all those things we

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