On Purpose with Jay Shetty - 9 Personality Types & How to Understand Your Type to Know Your Strengths & Improve Your Relationships
Episode Date: July 15, 2022Do you want to meditate daily with me? Go to go.calm.com/onpurpose to get 40% off a Calm Premium Membership. Experience the Daily Jay. Only on Calm Our personality is a major component of who we are ...as a person and is often how people see us. Depending on the personality type that is dominant within us, our reactions to different situations vary from others. And these varying reactions may be viewed negatively by other people because their personality is the exact opposite of ours.In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty shares the key qualities of the different personality types and what can be done to improve our personality development.Want to be a Jay Shetty Certified Life Coach? Get the Digital Guide and Workbook from Jay Shetty https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/ Key Takeaways:00:00 Intro01:18 Why is it important to know your personality type? 06:45 Type #1: The Perfectionist13:10 Type #2: The Giver19:34 Type #3: The Performer22:24 Type #4: The Romantic24:42 Type #5: The Observer26:58 Type #6: The Loyal Skeptic Like this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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We spent our lives following the rules, following the guidelines, doing what
was good, doing what was polite and right, even if we didn't
feel aligned with ourselves, which naturally leads to anger, to tension, to stress. Notice
how the suppression of anger develops tension and resentment. Hey, thank you so much for listening and tuning in today.
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Now, today's episode is an important one.
For as long as I've known,
I've been fascinated by learning about personality types, about psychology, and about human behavior.
And before we dive in, I want to talk a bit about why I think it's important to know and understand your personality type, your psychology, and your nature, and how it impacts your behavior, your actions, your choices, and your nature and how it impacts your behavior your actions your choices and your decisions and
The reason I got fascinated is because I realized I loved learning about myself
How many of you love learning something about yourself?
It's one of the reasons why we love astrology or why we love doing personality tests or any sort of fun
test that you see come up on social media where you're like, oh, let me learn what my
weirdest guilty pleasure is or whatever it may be because self awareness is really fulfilling.
Let me say that again, self awareness is really fulfilling and when we get to know ourselves, when we get to
learn about ourselves, we're able to love, care and deeply understand ourselves.
All those things that we want someone else to do, this is something that we get to do
for ourselves.
So let's dive in to why it's important.
The first thing is that knowing your personality type is important because it helps you understand why you think the way you do, why you are
the way you are. You've developed certain traits through nature and nurture
that have led to this psychophysical position that you currently have. And then
you start to be able to notice why you
react in a certain way, why you're triggered in a certain way, why you move in a
certain way. So it's really practical and powerful to get a deeper understanding
of why your mind works the way it works. The next reason why it's really
important to understand your personality type is you can do the same for others. You start to
realize that everything's not that personal. You start to realize that not
everything is directed towards you. That not everything that someone does or
says is because it makes sense to you. it may not make sense with your rationale or your logic,
but it makes sense to them because of their wiring. The third reason is that you can now change
how you use your personality type. You can focus in on your strengths, you can double down on your
superpowers. You can try to improve your weaknesses and areas that they may be limiting you or holding
you back.
You now have availability and accessibility to a whole new set of tools to transform your
life.
Learning about your personality type makes you a better communicator because you now know
how to speak to someone in their personality language
not yours.
One of the biggest challenges in our communication is we talk to people how we want to be spoken
to not how they want to be spoken to based on their emotions and wiring.
Learning about your personality types makes it easier to make better decisions because
you start recognizing which decisions are in alignment with who you are, which parallels are there to unleash your potential. And learning about your personality
type improves your emotional regulation. When you understand your personality type, you're
able to better emotionally remain stable and regulated through all the ups and downs because you now recognize the patterns.
Now today I'm going to be looking at a specific book called The Essential Anyogram
and this is the definitive personality test and self-discovery guide by David Daniels, MD, at the Stanford University Medical School.
I'm using the Anygram in this book because it simplifies it.
It allows you to make it clear for this episode, but hopefully it's a great introduction
into the Anyagram for you.
Now some of you may be aware of the Anyagram, some of you might not, and therefore I will
start by first of all, just defining what anyogram is.
Now, the anyogram, of course, is a personality system
that helps us understand our different patterns
of thinking, feeling, and acting.
And the book goes on to say that anya is a Greek word
for nine, and gram means a figure or something written.
Hence, the anyogram personality system is represented by a diagram
of nine pointed star within a circle. Each of these nine patterns and nine points forms one
of the personality types. Today I will be giving you an overview of the different personality types
and if you grab this book there's a test in it, there's lots of tests online as well to help you figure out which is
yours. I'm going to leave that for you to do. But today I want to talk about the
different types and talk about how learning about this could change how you
behave at work in life and your relationships. So let's dive straight in. The
first personality type is the perfectionist.
Now a word of caution, when I walk through this, you're going to be listening going,
that's me. Oh, that's me as well. Oh my gosh, I'm like four of these. The truth is,
we are all, of course, a mixture and a blend of many of these, but we have one predominating one.
of many of these, but we have one predominating one. At the same time, we have a certain sense of intention that guides and is the underlying principle to all of these. So, sometimes you may have
several similar behaviors, but the reason for that behavior is what the personality goes through,
the reason goes to the root. So, the first one is the perfectionist. The perfectionist belief
is that we are all one and are perfect as we are. People are not accepted for who they are,
they good behavior is expected and taken for granted. Their bad behavior and impulses are judged
negatively and punished. Based on that belief they have a strategy which is,
I learn to gain love and self-regard by being good,
responsible and conscientious,
doing things the correct way,
meeting my high internal standards and following the rules.
I suppressed anger and developed tension and resentment.
How many of us can align and identify with this?
We spent our lives following the rules, following the guidelines, doing what was good, doing
what was polite and right, even if we didn't feel aligned with ourselves, which naturally leads to anger, to tension, to stress. Notice
how the suppression of anger, the book goes on to say, develops tension and resentment.
And so, because of this strategy, a perfectionist's tension is on what is right, what is wrong, and what should
be corrected. The rightness and wrongness of other people's behavior compared to theirs,
self-criticism and others' criticism of themselves, their blind spots, and the grey zone between
black and white and often to both urge and desire.
They put all their energy into getting things right,
issues about integrity,
and they do everything they can to avoid making mistakes.
Notice how this goes beyond just being a perfectionist
in a task.
It becomes a way of life where all you focus on is on being right, getting things right,
and doing things right. Now we all know that things are not that black and white. We know things
are not that clear. So what does that lead to? It leads to stress. And what causes you stress is
not being able to quiet the internal critic and the associated
anxiety and worried.
You feel overburdened by a sense of personal responsibility and conscientiousness.
And you start recognizing that a lot of that anger and defensiveness develops.
Now of course there are strengths to this type as well.
The strengths and integrity concern for improvement, putting forth a lot of effort, idealism,
self-reliance, keeping of higher standards, self-restraint. These are all qualities that
David Daniels points out as the strengths of the perfectionist. And their communication style is being precise, clear, direct, all positive things.
Now notice how the balance of this, when someone is in balance as a perfectionist, they
can be highly powerful and impactful in society.
I mean, most of us would say we need more people like this, but when the balance is tipped,
when we're not sure what is right and wrong, this can also be very harmful. So as always on this podcast,
what I want to focus on, and the book does this beautifully is, how does this type
focus on personal development, observing the way you constantly monitor good and bad,
appreciating that there is more than one right way and that others wrong ways may
simply be individual differences, accepting imperfections in myself and others is what
we need to focus on, practicing forgiveness for ourselves and for others.
And even on a deep level, questioning and refining the rules we
live by, do we really understand them? Are we fighting for right? Or do we deeply
understand the rules? These are the pathways to personal development for this type.
And what ends up hindering your personal development is that inner critic all
over again
that doesn't let you accept yourself and doesn't let you accept others. It's constantly worrying
about getting everything perfect and getting everything right. Now, raise your hand if you feel
this is you. Raise your hand if you feel you're constantly governed by right and wrong. Not just
do you think about it sometimes. This is your mode of living and take a second to
be kinder to yourself.
Take a second to be conscious with yourself.
Take a moment to forgive yourself and recognize that this is something you want to work on.
You're not going to be hard on yourself, You're not going to strengthen that inner critic. And the way others can support your development is by encouraging you to go easy
on yourself and to make time for yourself, providing you with a non-judgmental viewpoint
because that's what you struggle with. So you can literally tell your friends, hey, could
you remind me to take it easy on myself? Could you remind me to not judge myself as strongly? This is Type 1. How many of you enjoying this session so far? I hope you are. I hope you're
feeling that sense of reflection. You may even have a Type 1 in your life.
And now you're feeling better equipped to deal with them. This book is fantastic. David Daniels,
the essential enneagram. I've had it for a ton of time. It beautifully gives you an intro
into the enneagram, which you can then dive into deeper. Number two is the giver.
Oh, how many of you are already thinking you're the giver?
Their belief is to get you must give, to be loved, you must be needed. Their adaptive strategy is I learn to get my personal needs fulfilled
by being needed and by giving others what I felt they needed and wanted and I expected that
they would then do the same for me. I developed feelings of pride in being indispensable. Wow.
How many of you know a family member that has lived this way as a giver? How many of you know a family member
that has lived this way as a giver?
How many of you know someone that gets their sense of value
and self-worth and self-belief
because they give?
They want to feel needed, they want to feel useful,
they may get territorial about certain things.
So because of this strategy, their attention
is on the needs and wants of others,
especially if people they care about
and would like to have more care about them.
This obviously creates so many challenges.
People can't always reciprocate in the same way,
people can't always give back in the same way.
And this person ends up putting their energy
into sensing the emotional needs
of others and doing what pleases them, feeling good about being able to meet others needs
so well. And that's massively difficult, whether it's romantic relationship, family
or friendships. And they're trying to avoid disappointing others. They're trying to avoid feeling unappreciated.
So they bend and they shift and they break
whatever it takes to feel needed.
Now the strengths is being giving and helpful,
being generous, at the core,
they are supportive, appreciative,
and you may think, wow, this person's amazing
because they love and care about me so much, not recognizing that they may want the same back.
Their communication style is friendly, expressive, but they can often tell you how they truly
feel as well.
Now, let's really talk about how to gain personal development in this regard, because we know
we can already understand that they're stressing challenges that come
with this approach. And sometimes they can have intense or sudden emotional outbursts,
saying that they don't feel reciprocated weird, saying that they don't feel loved, saying
that they don't feel taken care of. So this person needs to realize that being loved does not depend on changing yourself for others.
Gaining clarity about who the real me is and about my own wants and needs.
This is the key part.
It's recognizing, well, what do I need?
What do I want?
And how can I give that to myself?
If I'm such a giver, let me give to myself first.
And let me not give to expect.
Let me form relationships where there is natural reciprocity.
Let me form relationships where I'm happy to maintain boundaries.
And of course, this would have to be a big focus area for this individual as well.
Now I'm sharing the challenges because I think we all relate to the challenges more,
but we have to realize this is also a beautiful mindset.
If you have the ability to give, if you have the ability to love, that is one of the most beautiful gifts.
But when we give to get, when we love to be loved back, that often feels empty and uncertain.
So I want you to think about how you can give more credit
to yourself, give more love to yourself.
And at the same time, whenever you feel selfish,
accepting that you can only give to others
if you give to yourself first.
Learning to set healthier boundaries and barriers
can be really, really protective.
So that is type two.
And if you're a type two,
or you know someone in your life that's a type two,
the way to get support from others
is appreciating my independent self
instead of being seduced by or dependent on the help I give.
Paying attention to my real needs and asking about them.
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for you, reach out to them and ask them to take care of themselves.
Next time they offer to go above and beyond for you, help them help themselves.
Or go above and beyond for them, but be clear about the expectation you're setting as well.
That is type number two.
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Okay, the third type is known as the performer
They believe that everything works and gets done naturally according to Universal
laws and they feel that they've learned to get love and approval by achieving success by working hard
to be the best and by maintaining a good image. They believe they developed a self-driving go-ahead
energy that masked their own true feelings.
And their way of operating is all the things that
have to be done, task goals and future achievements,
the most efficient solutions, how to be the best.
And getting things done quickly and efficiently,
staying active and busy, competing, achieving
recognition, and credit for accomplishments,
adjusting to whatever is required for success, promoting themselves looking good.
They do everything they can to avoid failing to achieve their goals, being overshadowed by others, losing face, experiencing uncomfortable feelings.
And their strengths are being personable, enthusiastic, leadership, self-assurance. Again, as you can see, all of these personality
types have lots of positive traits. But the thing that we don't recognize is that if
we're not aware of the narrative that we've built or the story that we've built, often
we can end up feeling worse even when we understand this about ourselves. Their communication style is direct, topic focused, fast-paced, and
confident. Now, what causes them stress is the pressure that comes from basing how good they feel about themselves
on how much they get done and on status, prestige, and power, not knowing their real feelings and values. So if you're one of these people and you want to be on top, knowing your true feelings
and values and working towards your values, engaging that work ethic to something you
really care about, directing that towards your purpose is what purifies this personality
type and makes you feel healthy.
Other ideas for personal development are moderating your pace by practicing patience and allowing
things to be as they are.
While comming their emotions, asking yourself what really matters, practicing looking inward
for your own identity apart from success and the expectation of others, setting limits
and boundaries on work, allowing yourself to listen and be receptive. Notice how there
is a way forward in each of these to have a great relationship with yourself. And what
ends up happening is that because we're unaware of this, we push it aside and we don't give
it the energy and the focus that it truly needs.
Type 4 is the romantic. Now this isn't about relationships, this is just how they think about life,
a romantic view of life. So their belief is people experience a painful loss of their original connections,
leaving them feeling abandoned and feeling that they are missing something important.
They learn to keep searching for an ideal love or perfect circumstance to make them feel
loved, whole and complete again.
They developed feelings of longing and envy for what is missing.
So they end up putting their energy into a range of intense feelings associated with what seems to be missing
or lacking in life, finding love, meaning and fulfillment through self-expression and
deep connection, endeavouring to be a unique individual.
Their strengths are sensitivity, a creative orientation, we see a lot of musicians in this
field, a lot of poets, a lot of artists.
They have a capacity
to empathize with suffering. How many times have you listened to a musician or an artist or
a friend who plays an instrument and you just think, they understand me. They know how I feel.
This person has emotional depth, authenticity and introspection. It's why so often we feel so
and introspection. It's why so often we feel so understood by musicians, but why they don't feel understood. They communicate through expressive feelings, often personal and self-focused. They can be self-absorbed.
They can be dramatic at times. And what causes them stress is people and experiences not living up to their romantic
ideals or their desire for intensity. They can envy what others have that they do not
have or what they are that they are not. Now, how does this person move forward?
Focusing on what is positive in life right now, rather than what is missing, maintaining a consistent
course of action despite fluctuating in intense feelings, cultivating happiness in others
in order to become less self-absorbed, delaying reactive action until intense emotions begin
to subside.
And if you know someone like this, encourage them to keep their attention on what is positive
in the present.
Okay, so personality 5, there's nine altogether.
We may or may not get through all of them today.
I may need a part two, but step five is the observer.
Now the observer has learned to protect themselves from intrusive demands and being drained
of their resources by becoming private and self-sufficient.
They do this by limiting their desires and wants and by accumulating a lot of knowledge.
They developed a sense of avarice, but only for things they could not do without.
Now this person puts their energy into retracting in order to observe,
learning all there is to know about a subject, thinking and analyzing in advance, dampening and reducing feelings,
remaining self-contained to conserve energy, maintaining sufficient privacy, boundaries
and limits.
And their strengths are scholarly-ness, being knowledgeable, thoughtfulness, calmness in crisis, being
respectful, keeping confidences, dependability, appreciation of simplicity.
Now what causes this person's stress is failing to maintain sufficient privacy, boundaries
and limits.
And the way this person can move forward is allowing them to experience feelings instead of
detaching and retracting into their mind. Notice how so many of us are hiding
our feelings for different reasons. So, so far, we've gone through nearly five
personality types. Notice how some are hiding their feelings because they're
focused on success. Others are hiding their feelings because they're focused on
knowledge. So, we start realizing that we're all hiding our feelings, but we're hiding them for different
reasons. And when we become aware of the underlying reason, that's when we can truly make
shifts. Another thing for their personal development is taking action in the realization
that they have ample energy and support to carry it off, finding ways to engage in conversation,
to express themselves, and to reveal personal matters. Hence, a lot of observers need therapy
or coaching in order to create that safe space, to be more vulnerable, to be more honest,
and to be more open. Okay, number six is known as the loyal skeptic.
Okay, number six is known as the loyal skeptic. Now, this one has developed one of two strategies to seek security and certainty,
phobic or accommodating stance.
While I became doubting vigilant and questioning, I also learned to obey authority and to avoid
perceived threats and hazards, or counterphobic or challenging stunts.
While I became doubting, vigilant, and questioning,
I also learned to defy authority
and to battle perceived threats and hazards.
This person puts their energy into doubting, testing,
looking for double messages,
fingering things out through logical analysis,
playing the devil's advocate.
We all have the one friend who says, I just want to play devil's advocate here, right?
Gaining security, but obtaining the goodwill of others.
Their strengths include trustworthiness, loyalty, thoughtfulness, questioning.
It can be a really powerful skill, but sometimes, of course, it can become stressful if they put
pressure on themselves in their efforts to deal with uncertainty
and insecurity. They struggle with feeling that lack and what makes them angry is untrustworthy
ness, betrayal. Now how did these people move forward with their personal development?
Being and acting as my own authority, reclaiming faith in myself, others and the universe, accepting that someone
certainty and insecurity is a natural part of life.
Checking out my fears and concerns with others, recognizing that staying busy is a way to reduce
awareness of anxiety, and recognizing that both fight and flight are reactions to fear.
So today we've covered six of the Anyogram personality types,
and there are nine in total.
I will definitely do a part two if you like this episode.
Make sure you let me know in the reviews, make sure you tag me on Instagram
and let me know that you want a part two of this to go over the other three.
Remember I was reading from David Daniel's book, the essential
enneagram. It's a short book, really simple.
And I really wanted to focus on it today because I think it covers so much
ground in such simplicity.
I really hope this episode helped you today.
I'm so grateful to each and every one of you for listening.
I can't wait for part two and I'll see you soon.
Thanks for listening, I can't wait for part two and I'll see you soon. Thanks for listening everyone.
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Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
Or cityoftherails.com.
Listen to City of the Rails on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your
podcasts.
Or, cityoftherails.com.