On Purpose with Jay Shetty - Celebrity Nutritionist Mona Sharma: Stop Stress Before It Becomes Disease! (Do THIS Before Every Meal)
Episode Date: October 8, 2025How do you usually deal with stress? Does it help you feel better, or just distract you for a while? Today, Jay welcomes globally recognized nutritionist and corporate wellness strategist Mona Sharma ...to share her inspiring journey from corporate burnout to holistic healing. Mona opens up about her personal health struggles; two heart surgeries, chronic stress, and years of misalignment, that ultimately led her to rediscover the healing practices she grew up with in the ashram. Mona explains how returning to yoga, meditation, Ayurveda, and mindful nutrition helped her reclaim her health and purpose, transforming her pain into a mission to guide others toward vitality. Together, Jay and Mona explore how true wellness goes beyond diets and quick fixes. Mona emphasizes the importance of addressing root causes rather than just symptoms, teaching us that healing requires nervous system regulation, emotional awareness, and holistic nourishment. They discuss the link between stress and disease, how lifestyle choices shape gut health, and why our beliefs about our bodies matter just as much as the food we eat. Mona shares practical tools, from mindful eating and breathwork to habit stacking and visualization, that help people align with their deepest values while supporting long-term health. The conversation also highlights how modern science is finally catching up with ancient wisdom. Mona stresses the power of integrating Western medicine with Eastern practices to create a more complete vision of health. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Heal by Finding the Root Cause How to Regulate Your Nervous System Daily How to Transform Stress Into Resilience How to Build Healing Rituals That Last How to Improve Digestion Through Mindful Eating How to Start Your Day Without Sugar and Coffee How to Optimize Sleep for Deep Restoration True healing begins when we stop searching for quick fixes and start honoring the wisdom of our own bodies. Every symptom, every craving, every restless night is not a failure, it’s a message guiding us back to balance. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:54 Busting Common Health Myths 03:01 Healing by Finding the Root Cause 05:26 When Health Becomes Everything 11:37 What is The Root of All Disease? 13:37 A Regulated vs. Dysregulated Nervous System 17:56 How Stress Shapes Your Life 21:24 Building Resilience Against Stress 26:36 Morning Routines That Heal 28:36 Reconnecting with Your True Self 32:20 Learning to Listen to Your Body 34:19 How Stress Impacts Gut Health 38:11 Simple Fixes for Bloating 41:36 How Sugary Breakfasts Sabotage Your Energy 44:07 The Truth About Alcohol Intake 46:21 Healthy Alternatives to Coffee 48:20 Turning Habits into Rituals 50:47 Understanding the Causes of Brain Fog 53:12 Becoming the Healer of Your Life 56:40 Why Self-Care Starts in the Kitchen 01:01:49 Three Daily Pillars for Health 01:06:26 Mona on Final Five Episode Resources: Mona Sharma | Website Mona Sharma | Instagram Mona Sharma | TikTok Mona Sharma | YouTube Mona Sharma's Rooted Academy Complimentary guide available that Mona co-authored with Dr. Mark Hyman: 12 Wellness Tips to Awaken Your Best HealthSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Hey everyone, welcome back to On Purpose, the place you come to listen, learn and grow.
Today's guest is someone I know personally and someone I'm so excited to introduce you to.
Mona Sharma is a globally recognized nutritionist, entrepreneur and corporate wellness strategist
whose work has transformed the lives of high-performing individuals.
Mona blends Ayuratic wisdom with cutting-edge science to create personalized health
blueprints that drive lasting vitality.
Mona's approach is rooted in the belief that you are the healer, guiding clients to
reconnect with their body's innate ability to heal through nutrition, stress resilience,
and holistic practices.
Please welcome to On Purpose, Mona Sharma.
Mona, it's great to have you here.
I'm so honored to be here with you.
I was really looking forward to this because we met a few years ago now and you were helping
me with my health journey.
And since then, you've gone on to launch a podcast.
I mean, you've been helping incredible people.
I first got introduced to you through Will Smith, who is a client of yours as well.
And when Will introduced us, I remember you were working with, like, his team and everyone else.
And so I'm really glad that we finally get to do this on the show.
So thanks to joining.
It's special because we have that connection and just watching your journey too.
I'm so honored.
Oh, thank you.
Well, I want to start off because I want people to get a sense of you and your journey and your background.
And the first question I want to ask is, like, what is the number one or what are the top three reasons?
that your clients come to you.
What are they saying to you when they approach you?
Yeah, I think that, you know, my story is what resonates with people the most.
And I think that when clients come to see me,
they're ready to unlearn a way of what it takes to be healthy in this world
and ready to actually step into that.
And what does that mean?
It means breaking up with diet culture, worker culture,
and really understanding that the health goals that they're craving go so much deeper.
and for my own healing journey, which we can absolutely talk to, it's really about getting to
the root cause. And right now, I feel like there's so much disconnection, dissociation
between what's happening in the world of medicine that people are treating symptoms in its own
instead of looking at the body like a whole. So when people work with me, they really know
that they're working with their mind, their body, and their spirit. So finally, they take this holistic
approach to feel better while they heal their bodies. I think that approach seems to be
be common sense, but it's not. It feels like it's counterintuitive right now where we're speaking
about one organ or one part of the brain or one part of the body. Why do you think that's happened
that we've created this fragmented view of who we are? Well, this is conventional medicine, right?
We go to our doctors. We talk about a symptom and they are trained to treat the symptom without
looking at the body in its whole without uncovering where the symptom comes from. And we know that
our bodies are so resilient. There's intelligence within the body. So if someone comes to me and
they say, oh, Yomona, I have a headache that I get every day. I can easily put that person on
some Advil, you know, on a program to kind of help them dissipate their headache, or I can uncover
where it actually comes from. So the way that I work with my clients, kind of like I did with you,
there's two parts. There's one, the amazing world that we have with Western medicine and science.
So we run your blood labs. I do a full panel blood lab on every single system in your body.
sometimes we look at your stress level through cortisol test. We do genetic tests the way that we did
with you. Sometimes there's an MRI that's involved or a Dutch test also. But then there's also
the other side of things. So the first thing that I ask my client is, you know, if I could take away
three things, what would it be? And they typically list the symptoms that they're suffering from
and they want to know, Mona, just like, give me the protocol. Give me the workout, the supplement
protocol, the food protocol, and I'm going to go do it. And I think that most people by now know
that that's dieting. That's that cycle that you've probably tried one or a hundred times. That just
doesn't work at all. So from there, we dig a little bit deeper. And after we dig a little bit deeper,
often my clients are, they're met with tears thinking about, you know, the last time I really felt
good in my body was when I was little. And we uncover things like what their limiting beliefs are.
I know with you, we did your core value elicitation to really understand what's your core value
around healing? How do you really want to feel? It's not just about getting to a number on a
scale or a pan size. It's understanding how do you really want to feel? And then what steps can we
take every single day in order for you to align with that, right? And that's kind of a strategy that
came to me from the ashram. When I healed for my heart surgeries, it wasn't about the protocol.
It was actually on a hardcore protocol that didn't work. It took me really doing deeper work,
getting to the root cause of my own suffering in order for my physical symptoms to go away.
Yeah, let's talk about that. I want to dive into a personal experience because I believe that's why you do what you do.
Yeah. And so tell us about your journey before you were helping other people with their health. What was the state of your health? Well, it's funny how your story really paves the path for your destiny. And I can tell you from my story, nothing matters when your health is gone. So prior to working in nutrition, I worked in the corporate cosmetic world. On paper, it sounds like a really, really fun job that I had working for these great luxury cosmetic brands.
But I was working out of alignment.
I wasn't on purpose with my calling.
It was a sales job.
I ended up getting to that typical corporate burnout.
I suffered from digestive issues.
I ended up getting PCOS, which is polycystic ovarian syndrome,
which is so bad that doctors told me I would never have kids.
And then I started getting heart palpitations.
These heart palpitations would beat so fast I thought that I would black out.
And I would just bend down to pick something off the ground.
And it got to a point where if I tried to exercise or go for a run,
I would almost hit the deck. But at that point in my life, this is in my 20s, I wasn't interested
in getting to the root cause at all. I wanted quick fix, just tell me how to take care of it.
I'm too busy living this amazing fashion lifestyle, waking up in hotel rooms, not knowing
what city I was in. And I went to see cardiologists, and they figured out that I had something
called atrial tachycardia, just like these extra electrical vowels beating in my atrial center
of my heart. And the quick fix was going on a beta blocker prescription medication.
beta blocker medication ended up causing me to gain about 45 pounds. So 45 pounds later,
went back to the doctor, I'm like, this is not working. I'm completely lethargic. I felt like
any excitement to live was really gone. People on the outside probably wouldn't know that I was
suffering, but I was really suffering. There was a lot of sadness that was happening in my life
at that time also. And at that point, they said, well, let's go in for surgery. So I went in for
my first heart surgery at 23 years old. You're awake for the whole thing. It's a catheter
ablation. Awake for the whole thing. So it's not open heart. They send one catheter up through
your groin, another one through your neck, and they start pumping you full of adrenaline and
caffeine to try to induce these palpitations that I kind of knew would only happen if I was moving
my body. And so here I am on the table. They're pumping me with all these things. Finally,
you know, an hour so into it, they figure out where they can do an ablation. Ablation feels
like this explosion going off in your chest because they burn off this electrical valve.
And the next morning, I woke up and same thing. Palpitations were still there. And I was like,
this is ridiculous. I'm young. You know, I grew up with a really, really healthy background,
which we should talk about also. Why is this happening to me? And they said, well, let's go back in.
We went back in for a second heart surgery. Again, heart massive screen. I see the wires going
everywhere. There's a log keeping my leg in place that I can't move. And honestly, Jay, it was
one of those moments where like, you know, when your life flashes before your eyes, I'm sure you've
heard this from other guests. It was that moment. Doctors did another ablation, felt that bomb go
off, but there was still more tachycardia. And they said, well, you know what, Mona? We found where
we can do another ablation, but it's too close to your essay node. So if we burn that off, there's a
chance that you might have to wear a pacemaker for the rest of your life. And that's when, what am I
doing. How is this my life? How have I burnt out? I'm only in my 20s. How am I out of alignment?
And the irony of all of it is that I knew that there was a better way. So growing up, my father is
East Indian. My mom is Danish. I've only ever known my mom to suffer from debilitating
rheumatoid arthritis. So her hands are completely deformed. My dad being Indian, it's actually my
mom that found the ashram, Shivananda Ashram, in Valmaran in Quebec. Growing up, we would go and
spend summers at this ashram. We would practice yoga and meditation every day. Some kids got to go
to fun summer camp. I had to go to yoga camp as a kid. We ate vegetarian food. We sat in
satsang. We were in nature about community. And I noticed the difference of my parents' health and
happiness when we were there. The motto in my house growing up was eat it. It's good for you.
My mom tried anything and everything to get rid of this autoimmune disease. But in my 20s,
again, I didn't want any of this. And so I went for the quick fix. The
last surgery was not going to be the solution. I decided in that moment, I had to go back to
my roots to heal. And that's exactly what I did. I said no to the ablation. I went back to
the Shivananda Ashram. I became a yoga teacher, a meditation teacher. Eventually, I became a Riki
master, a holistic nutritionist. I ended up going into NLP. I probably could have got my PhD at this time,
but I was just studying all of these aspects of human healing for my own health to heal. But the crazy
thing that people need to understand is that when I went from my heart palpitations and my busy life
in the corporate world, I was already like hardcore. I was exercising a hardcore. I was dieting
hardcore. My apartment was called the house of free, sugar free, fat free, carb free, this free,
whatever it was, right? Like I was really hardcore. And when I went to the ashram, I wasn't hardcore
anymore. I started relaxing. I started listening to all of the open running tabs that we all have
our brain, but I had a lot of them. I started dealing with the actual heartache inside me that
doctors never asked about. And I started to heal through those practices that I mentioned at the
hushram. And I never looked back. The heart palpitations almost completely went away. The 45 pounds
melted off of my body. I started eating more carbs than I'd probably eaten in a year from all the
vegetarian food. And yet I felt my best. I needed less sleep. I felt more energized. I felt calm,
clear, happy, I felt like I was going to be happy again. And from there on, I knew that if I was
going to do this professionally, it was no longer about a diet and exercise protocol. Those things
are very important. But we have to uncover the deeper root of what's preventing you from making
the choices from yourself that are optimized health to begin with? Like, what is that one thing that
happens that's stopping you from fulfilling your optimal health and happiness? I think it's really
challenging for us to almost look at the root when the symptom causes so much pain. And I think
that's what kind of makes us all want to go, I just want this pain to go. And so when someone says to
you, hey, I want you to focus on finding the root, your brain automatically goes to the path of
least resistance. And it goes, yeah, maybe later, I just want to get rid of my headache. And I think
that's why generics in this country have taken off and why we pop a pill to solve every problem.
we have because we'd rather solve the symptom than focus on the root as well. If someone's listening
right now and they're listening to you going, actually, Mona, I get what you're saying because
I'm trying a lot of stuff. Like maybe someone's listening right now and they're saying, I tried that
workout. I tried the diet. I try this, but I can't lose weight. I can't get healthier. I can't
build muscle. I can't solve my gut issues, whatever it is. How does someone start to understand what the
root of the problem is. I would say the instigation of everything, and we know the instigation of all
disease in the body is stress. We need to talk about stress. Stress is happening to all of us at this
epidemic level, and it's the precursor to all disease. So I think it really is important for you
to do some deeper investigation. Like, when did your symptoms first start? What was happening in your
life at that time? Doctors asked me if I was drinking too much alcohol, eating out of McDonald's, I passed
the stress test, but they didn't ask about, you know, what was happening in my personal life,
the fact that my parents were going through divorce, there was a major move that was involved.
They also didn't ask about the state of my nervous system. So I love that nervous system regulation
is really, really becoming more aware for so many people. But we need to address the state of
our nervous system because I think that for me, what doctors didn't understand is that I lived
most of my life in this nervous system dysregulated state. Explain to me what a regulated and
dysregulated nervous system is. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So think about our nervous system, right? It basically
has three stages according to polyvagal theory. The first one is the feeling of safety. Safety,
rest, digest, life is good. I feel calm in my body. I eat when I'm hungry. I stop when I'm full.
I sleep really well. I feel for the most part happy. And then the next one is,
activation. Activation is fight, flight, freeze. We shift into that when we've got big projects,
when there's big events that are happening, maybe at work throughout the day. But a lot of us
will get stuck there. I was stuck there. And then the last one is overwhelm or shut down,
where at the end of the day, let's just say you've been living in fighter flight all day. When you go
home, you go straight for a bottle of wine and the Netflix, you're shutting down. And that might
mimic that first safety phase, that parasympathetic phase, because you're not doing anything,
but all you've done is put your stressors or your fears up onto a shelf. You know that you have to
deal with them the next day, right? So when we think about this fight-flight freeze response,
think about the things that we are bombarded with every single day from our environment,
from our stressors, our obligations, having to make money from world events, from social media,
from the news. If you're a sensitive person, you might be feeling that just like really,
in your body, right? I know, especially over the past few years, we see things on social
media, and it's like they're happening right in front of us. A brain can't discern the
difference. So if you don't catch yourself getting stuck in that fight, flight, freeze stage,
this is hypervigilance. For me, hypervigilance felt really, really good. If there was something
hard to do, amazing. If it was harder, great. If I could accomplish it, awesome. If there was a challenge
that I could go for that would really, you know, pump my adrenaline. I wanted to have it because
that was the happy state that I was in. The longer I could stay in that state means that I could
be stuck in my head, just not think about what was happening in my body. But meanwhile, for years,
I was stuffing sadness, emotion, fear, worry, anxiety into my body so that I didn't have to deal
with it. And for listeners, you know, maybe you've been stuffing these emotions down since you were a little
kid. I think where there's a misunderstanding is that when we talk about the nervous system or
trauma, for example. Trauma is simply how your nervous system metabolizes an experience. And we think
of trauma obviously as the big things. If there's abuse or neglect or something terrible that
happened, but trauma for you can also be something that really impacted you, but no one else
really noticed. So maybe you were humiliated as a little kid, or you were teased or made fun of,
or your grandmother said something to you and it really made you become shy or not want to shine your
true colors or your vibrant light, right? Now, moving forward, if you don't process that
emotion, that feeling, every time there's a resonance of that feeling coming up again,
the humiliation, the fear, the worry, the excitement, the stressors, it's like reliving that
tone, again, the frequency within your body. So throughout the day, you might shift into
fight, flight, freeze pretty consistently, and you're not even noticing that you're there
because you're not deregulating. You're not adopting that resilience within the body to
regulate your nervous system. And I would say this is probably one of the biggest pillars that
I spend with my clients, one, helping them even become aware that they're living in that
hypervigilant state and that they don't have to wear it as a badge of honor anymore. They don't
have to be busy because we celebrate busyness in our world. We see busy as a sign of success
when that's the opposite case. And I get them back into their parasympathetic nervous system
where they can rest and digest, and we now know with a nervous system, if you can live as your
parasympathetic nervous system being the kind of dominant preferred state, or you have a healthy
system that can bounce from fight-flight freeze back into a parasympathetic state, this is where
healing happens. This is your rest and digest and restore. This is when your immune system is prime.
Your digestion functions at its best. So I think it's important for people to really recognize that
as the first stage of healing in order for the diet and the exercise and all the other modalities
to work. What is your state of being? I think we all know stress is bad and too much stress
can be really, really bad. And I think we've seen over time that people have been more vulnerable
about burnout, about shutting down, about, you know, having major health issues. And we almost
wait until something goes really bad until we address something. The other side of it, though,
we also see is that laziness, a lack of motivation, the ability to not create or take on any
stress doesn't make us happy or healthy as humans either, because we almost end up at the other
end of the spectrum. When you're trying to balance it out and figure it out, how much stress
can we take on in seven days? And how should we be thinking about that? Because I think the challenge
is, you're right, we're living at one end of the spectrum, but we also know lots of people
struggling at the other end of the spectrum. So it's almost like how do we invite the right amount
of stress? How do we take on a healthy amount of stress so it pushes us forward, but not so much
that it breaks us. So how do you balance that out? I think there's a couple of ways to approach
this. So the first is how stressful is your stress? So my version of stress, if we were to imagine
that the way that I interpret stress is like wearing glasses with a yellow lens, everything is going
to have a yellow tinge to it because I'm wearing these glasses of stress with a yellow tinge.
Now, does it mean that my day is stressful? No, but I have these glasses on. I'm living in a
stress state, so I'm going to interpret everything as being stressful. So often it takes kind of
breaking that cycle, taking that lens off to really understand, like, I don't really have
to be stressed out right now. Where did I learn being this way? I don't want to be this way anymore.
This is where working with a coach can be really, really supportive. And to your point, yeah,
stress, we demonize it, but it can actually be really good for us, right? Like having a cortisol
spike in a healthy way first thing in the morning, it's actually our drive, our ambition, our
motivation. But the problem is, is that when we live in the sympathetic state for too long,
often the way that our cortisol is signal, it's spiking at the wrong times throughout the day.
Sometimes for people who've experienced this, they're waking up between two and four o'clock
in the morning, just thinking about the world crashing around them, right? This is not a healthy
stress response. And then on the opposite end of the spectrum, if people perhaps, like you mentioned,
are stuck in that, well, I'm not going to do anything. I don't like feeling stress. I don't like
what it does to my body. So I'm just going to stay over here. I'm going to stay comfortable.
We know that that could backfire in the future also. And this is where some deeper investigating
is really, really helpful. How do you want to feel? Are you happy in your day-to-day life?
Do you feel like you're being productive because we know that having sense of purpose and service
is so important to our health and our fulfillment.
And of course, activity.
Like if you're not in motion with your life,
then you're stuck in a way of being.
And, God, if you're not here to live, then what's the point?
But, you know, it really does take a leap of faith
and so much courage for people to address these things
because it's almost like, well,
I don't want anyone else to see that I'm lazy.
I don't want people to call me out of my hypervigilance
because, gosh, it just means that I've been busy
for all these years and for what.
I've been suffering, right? But it really does take a leave of faith to do the deeper dive,
again, to come back into that state of resilience where you can shift into, you know what,
today's a stressful day, but I'm going to really master my relaxation like you're so good
at doing tomorrow. And that way there's that balance so that you learn how to live in both worlds.
Let's say someone answers those questions and they say, Mona, I'm definitely exhausted.
I'm overworked. Like, I just feel like I'm just constantly chasing everything. My weekends
are just full of like social events and maybe there's a couple of work things and I just feel
like I've been on that treadmill and I'm sure you hear this a lot. I don't think this is a picture
that's abnormal. Where do they start? What should they do first? Yeah, I work with a lot of high
performers and people who are on the go all the time and it's a norm and they don't really want to
think about feeling that way because they know that they're overwork, they're over tired, they don't
have time to relax and restore. And I think the first stage really is about just the awareness
like, I'm here. I don't think I can sustain this for a long time. And now we have experts,
you know, saying it's not a good idea to sustain it, right? How long should you sustain it for
if you were to sustain it? I think it depends on the resiliency of your body and what you're
actually doing to repair. So, for example, someone like you, who I know is prioritizing their
morning, who is doing meditation, who has grounding practices throughout the day, you can live
in that world of stress and really go hard for some time, but I know that you will take time
to come back and recover. Other people, and this is like so common today, I'm thinking of a
group of men that I work with, and they're about do more, go harder, dream bigger, do a harder
race next time, do a hundred mileer next time. And they see it as a badge of honor because society's
really entrained them to believe that that's a success motivator, right? Makes them a better person,
mind over matter, right, when that's just not the case. So I think maybe a good opportunity would
be to ask, what symptoms are you suffering from? So I love doing this exercise when I'm in a group
of people and I just ask, how many people you suffer from anxiety, from worry, and they're putting
their hands up, from tension, from digestive issues, from heartburn, from gas, from bloating,
from poor sleep, from muscle pain and aches, from low sex drive.
low energy, brain fog, lack of mental focus, brutal hair, breakouts, right? By the end of all this,
every hand in the audience is up. So if you're the person who's living in that stress state for too long
and you've said yes to one, two, three of those symptoms, then it's time for you to do something to
course correct. Don't ignore the symptoms the way that I did because these symptoms are whispers
from your body. Again, it's that intelligence of your body, which is communicating with you
during every second of every day.
It's not about waiting until Monday to course correct
or next month or January 1st to course correct.
We can course correct at any point of every day
and the body will respond but it takes some time.
So step number one, the awareness, acknowledging those symptoms.
But step number two is learning what the modalities are
to really help you shift and I know you know so many of these.
So one is just take a breath.
Like right now everybody listening, take long deep breath in.
Like if I had to cue you how to do that, then chances are you're probably not breathing like
that throughout the day. Breath is number one. Meditation is a great option. Getting out and going
for a walk, doing some yoga, journaling, scribble exercises to really like get the thoughts
out of your brain and onto paper, breaking the cycle of stress. But again, that's not making the
problem go away. So you have to come back to and understand, well, what, again, where is this
coming from. What do I need to do? So coaching is really great for people who need some additional
support. Like, I just can't shake this feeling. What do I need? Coaching is great. And one of those
modalities in coaching, it's called a best self snapshot. Other people call it a circle of excellence.
So visualization is such a powerful modality to help us change our state. And if we're living in that
stressful state for too long, but we don't want to break there, we have to break the cycle.
Through visualization, if I were to ask you, Jay, like, how do you want to feel in your body?
If you were to think about yourself in the most optimal health and happiness and waking up feeling joyful, knowing that your digestion is working, your body is primed, everything is just in tune, your body is working so hard to help you heal and it knows that you're busy, but it's just it's taken care of things, it's got you, right?
By visualizing that so clearly to the point that you can make it feel real, that's a physiological.
logical shift to shift you out of that sympathetic state into a parasympathetic state, which
I think is so powerful. Breathwork is another really great way to do this. Box breathing is a really
great way to do this. But I would say that visualization, especially from an NLP front when I'm
coaching my clients, if I can get my clients in touch with their higher self, like really understand
like, what am I working so hard to achieve? You know, I'm doing so much work around living a great,
strong, happy life and dieting and exercising, but how do I want to feel in my body? If you can take
a few moments every single day and get so clear on how that feels, then your body doesn't know
the difference between it being the reality or not. It doesn't know that it's going to be in the
future, but it means that you have to practice that muscle. Is there a particular time of day that
that's more prominent? I would say first thing in the morning. If you can make your mornings,
your magic healing mornings. This is like prime time because our thoughts tend to be a little bit
more quiet and still first thing in the morning. You know, a modality that I use with my clients is
to get up, go to the bathroom, and immediately come into meditation. Now, I'm always cautious
talking about these because people think that my wellness routine is like what I'm recommending to
everybody. No, just like a healing protocol that I'm customizing for all my clients, the way that
you start your morning that feels really great for you and mindfulness is should be as unique as
your blueprint right as your thumbprint so maybe for you it's meditation or visualization or journaling
or walking or getting out the sun but figuring out what and where is a good place for you to feel
stillness then i want you to go ahead and start to answer some of those questions how do i want to feel
what does it look like i think an easy grounding practice would be to say if you were to go outside
in your favorite place in nature you can do this right now if you're listening
What is your favorite place in nature?
I want you to go outside, put your feet on the ground.
I want you to feel the sunlight on your skin.
How does the wind feel on your skin?
What does it look like?
What are the sounds in the background or the birds chirping?
Like really doing the investigating to make it feel real.
Now I want you to notice how you feel in your body in this state.
Notice that you feel a sense of happiness, of peace, of calm.
Can you turn on the feeling of joy in your body?
what happens in your body when you feel the feeling of joy?
And then all of a sudden, it's like you're turning down the noise on all of the distractions
in life that are causing you to feel stress and illness and symptoms.
And you're coming into a space that allows you to feel calm and joy.
And if you can practice that like a muscle throughout the day, then you're retraining your
nervous system to make that your core reality.
There's all of a sudden meaning behind everything that you do despite the stressors
or not.
I love that idea. And for anyone who's never tried it and wondering whether it works, it works. And why does it work? Because I think a lot of people, if they're doubtful about practices like this, how do you convince people that this works rather than it just being some sort of placebo? So 10 years ago, you used to use the word vibration with my clients. I helped shift my client's vibration from imbalance to balance. And I remember like the eye roll back then, yeah, yeah, vibration. But now these words vibration and frequency, they're not.
no longer woo-woo, they are being backed by science. Doctors like Dr. Bruce Lipton, Jodispenza
are validifying through biofeedback the ability to change our state without doing
anything. It's the feelings, our thoughts, our emotions that literally have the power to change
our physiology, right? I'm actually doing my master's in quantum healing right now because I believe
that there's so much more to healing. There's this interconnectedness between our thoughts, our
feelings and our emotions. And so when people get into that state and they can really feel or
imagine, even if they don't know what the feeling of joy is like in their body, just try to
imagine what it feels like. For a lot of my clients, a really great practices to go back to
when you're a little kid, what was your note? We all came into this world with like a really
beautiful note of frequency to play in this world. We love wearing vibrant colors and playing
outside. What did you like playing? What colors were you wearing? How did you like dressing?
Did you make a lot of noise and scream and dance?
Like, what was your core essence back then?
And even asking those questions, I see my client's faces just light up because they're going
back to a memory of what their core being is.
It's a feeling of oneness within themselves before all this stuff started happening in their
lives.
And it's like, stillness, quietness, and coming to center.
And I think that it really just takes practice for people to feel that every single day.
There's so many incredible guided meditations online, guided visualizations online that people can practice to really go back to that feeling of joy.
And I think that this is the future of medicine.
The future of medicine is really going to have to consider the integration between these Western modalities, but also Eastern medicine.
The things that we're talking about, our ancestors have known since the beginning of time.
Yoga has been practicing mindfulness and guided meditations and breathwork and visualization.
for over 5,000 years, right? But now we're backing it with science. Traditional Chinese medicine
also just recognizes the energy of your body, these systems within your body. When there's
lack of coherence, it means that there's stress and that the body simply doesn't have the tools
to deal with that stress. But what happens when we can come back into coherence, the body
shifts. Another incredible company is HeartMeth. The HeartMeth community, gosh, is understanding the
concept of the resilience of the heart and heart coherence. So an amazing heart coherence practice
to also deliver the same state is to really just start to tune into gratitude. If I would
ask you to think of something or someone that you love so much right now, make it feel real,
imagine hugging them, imagine waking up with them first thing in the morning, traveling with
them. How good does it feel to be in their presence? If you're a parent thinking about being
with your child, all of a sudden the problems from your nine to five, if you're you're you,
you're present with your child in that moment because of the love and gratitude that
you feel, everything just dissipates. That frequency of stress just turns down. And I think that
we all hold the superpower to change our frequency from imbalance to balance. And it's a muscle that
we have to practice for optimal health.
I'm Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman, host of the psychology podcast. Here's a clip from an
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I was going to schools to try to teach kids these skills and I get eye rolling from teachers
or I get students who would be like, it's easier to punch someone in the face.
When you think about emotion regulation, like you're not going to choose an adaptive strategy
which is more effortful to use unless you think there's a good outcome as a result of it
if it's going to be beneficial to you.
Because it's easy to say like go you, go blank yourself, right?
It's easy.
It's easy to just drink the extra beer.
it's easy to ignore to suppress seeing a colleague who's bothering you and just like walk the other way avoidance is easier ignoring is easier denial is easier drinking is easier yelling screaming is easy complex problem solving meditating you know takes effort listen to the psychology podcast on the iHeart radio app apple podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts
I mean, I can honestly say personally, like there's so much value in everything you're sharing and
having practiced so much of it with myself, I've found so much, it almost like gives you a
breakthrough from the place you're at. Like, I think when you're trying to change the externals,
it can kind of feel a bit clunky and almost when you change it from the inside out, it's like,
oh, wow, there is another side that there is that belief. And I think that's what it comes to
is do you even have the belief that there is a healed, happier, healthier version of you?
And if you don't have that belief and you don't have that in your vision, it's not going to
suddenly happen.
When I was sick, there was not that vision.
No, doctors had given me a label.
You have a heart condition.
You are on medication.
You're going to have heart surgery.
I identified as somebody who was sick.
I had a heart condition.
And I gave so much of my power away to the doctors, right?
The doctors were doing their job.
They recognized a symptom that they wanted to heal within me, and they tried to do that.
God bless them for trying to do that.
But they weren't uncovering, again, the root cause, right?
So at that time, I wasn't interested in getting to the root cause.
I was sick.
And, you know, you're making me think of a story.
My brother, my big brother, he was the marathon runner.
He'd done, you know, so many triathlons and everything.
And he asked me one year to do this triathlon with him.
And I was like, no, Mo, like, I can't.
my heart. And he just looked at me and he's like, how's that working for you? And it took
someone that I love just like bringing that up. Like, oh my God, kind of like shook me for a second.
I've really identified as somebody who is sick. And unfortunately, it takes those moments sometimes
from the people that we love in our life or even listening to this conversation, just questioning.
What are the thoughts that you've identified with, the symptoms that you've identified with?
Maybe you've suffered from something like digestive issues, your entire life that it's become you.
when it's not you, it's simply your body communicating with you that there's an opportunity
to resolve something within. I want to talk about the physical changes as well because I think
that that's what you're encouraging. You're encouraging this visualized change, this internal
change as well as practical external changes. And I wanted to ask you about the connection
between stress and the gut. Because I think what's only happened very recently is we've started
to, you know, at least in modern conversation, it's been around in IRADA, which you practice
for thousands of years, but only very recently if we started to understand that, wait a minute,
my emotional stress is related to my gut health. Like my mental stress is related to my physical
pain. And I wanted to ask you, talk to me about how stress is related to nutritional health
to your gut. Yeah, so we never really consider in the Western world that stress could be the
instigation of your bloating or your gas or your constipation or your diarrhea. And yet now we
understand that we have this incredible wisdom, this intelligence of the vagus nerve in the body
that runs from your brain down through your heart into your gut microbiome. And what's
incredible about this nerve is that there's bidirectional communication. If the head is thinking
stressful thoughts, I'm worried, I'm scared, I'm fearful, that is going to the gut, right? How many of your
listeners, they feel stressed about giving a presentation. All of a sudden, their stomach feels off,
right? They have to run to the bathroom. But we also know that the opposite is true, right? So we know
know that we have more nerve endings in our gut than we do in our brain. It's communication.
So if we've been living with years of imbalances, constantly communicate, like there's stress happening
down here, but we were never taught to tune into that. We were never really taught to tune into
distension. And in fact, I would even say that we live in a world where,
we're normalizing all these symptoms, right? I know as a woman going out with my girlfriend's, oh,
I'm so bloated, getting bloated after dinner. It's like, oh, yeah, me too, me too. It's like this new
norm, but the symptoms are so common. They are not normal. Again, your body is communicating with
you. So with stress being in the instigation of disease, we need to make sure that within the gut
microbiome, if the gut is the source of all health, we need to take care of our digestion.
In Ayurveda, digestion, the quality of your digestion and your gut health is really the root to all health and all disease prevention.
So digestion is everything.
So this is why we need to not ignore these symptoms.
I know that with you together, like we were really working towards healing your gut.
And I'm using you as an example because you're somebody who is a high performer, but I knew that you were doing the mindfulness work.
But I also work with so many people like you who they don't.
even notice that they're living in a stress state, but it's the same messages that are being
communicated to the gut. We've just become masters at ignoring those symptoms, right? So when it
comes to stress over time, if your digestion is compromised, what does that mean? It means that
you've got an imbalance of good and bad bacteria, right? The good bacteria help you thrive.
They're associated with longevity, with your immune system, with optimal health and energy and
motivation. And it means that you're also having probably a lot more food cravings for bad foods,
like even trying to eat really, really well, but you just don't understand why you're craving
those foods so often. You're craving lots of sugars and lots of carbs. It's also impacting your
anxiety. Like, why do I have anxiety? It's that bi-directional communication. And if we think about
that long term, if we're living with those stressful symptoms and digestive imbalance is long
term, that's what leads to further dis-ease within the body. That could lead to things like
joint pain, to getting more headaches, to having really, really poor sleep, to having lack
of sex drive to not being able to lose weight and just gaining weight because of feeling too much
stress and too much cortisol throughout the day. So healing your digestion has to be pillar
when optimizing your health. If someone's really struggling with bloating, it's so common now,
where should they start? There's a couple of things. So one, just having a look at how you're
starting your day. Two, what is the state in which you're eating? Are you eating while you're
scrolling while you're driving while you're working. You know, at the ashram, we eat without any
devices. We're eating in nature. We're eating in community. We're eating in a really, really calm
state. Remember, your body has to be in that rest and digest for your body to optimize digestion.
If you're eating in fight or flight, you cannot digest your food. The analogy of running from a lion,
if you're running from a lion for your life, you never say, oh, I'm hungry and decide to eat
an apple when you're running, right? But that's the equivalent of the type of stress that we're
living with today. The second thing is looking at the foods that you're eating. So one of the first things
that I do with my clients is I get them off of ultra processed foods. 80% of the diet in the U.S.
comes from ultra processed packaged foods. It's insane, right? And we're kind of being deceived
because on the front of the labels of those packages and boxes, it might say healthy, gluten-free,
organic, keto, all natural, and air quotes. The Ashram belief is if it comes from a box, then
it's dead food. There's no life force energy to it. There's no prana to it. Food is information
that helps every single one of the trillion cells in our body thrive. So ask yourself if what
you're eating is nourishing you and helping you become the version of yourself that you want to
become, or is the food that you're eating depleting you and taking you away from the health
that you want? The second one is inflammatory seed oils and vegetable oils. These sweet oils are in
everything. These vegetable oils, soybean oil, safflower oil, canola oil, are in everything. If you
look closely at the labels, even on healthy foods, like I'm talking, even in health food stores,
you will see those foods. And if you were a parent, please read the labels of your children's
snacks because they're in everything. These we know are pro-inflammatory omega-6 fatty acids that actually
cause inflammation to our cells. They cause free radical damage. And if you look at one of these
blood cells under a microscope, it literally looks like it has these spikes around it, right? That
leads to systemic inflammation in the body. So taking out those inflammatory seed oils is key.
The last one is sugar. A lot of my clients will say, I'm not even that much sugar, you know,
just a little bit here, a little bit there. But by the time we add it all up, it's like,
you know, 20, 30, 40 grams of sugar in a day. It's too much. Even simple things like a fruit,
organic, Greek yogurt could have 20 grams of sugar in the morning. You're starting your day off
with that sugar boost, right? General population is starting with a coffee or coffee cake or
muffins or these bars, right? These protein bars that have so much sugar and refined oils and
refined ingredients that aren't good for us.
Taking out an excess of caffeine is also a really big deal because that's a stimulant that causes
our body to feel stress. Too much alcohol. Alcohol shuts down digestion. It causes a further
dysbiosis of that good and bad bacteria within the gut microbiome. So those are definitely
the key pillars, the state in which you're digesting. And then, of course, the quality of the
foods that you're digesting also. What's the biggest problem with a sugary breakfast?
Sugary breakfast. So you're starting your day with this, you're starting your day with this,
spike in glucose, right? Whatever goes up, it's got to come down that leads to a sugar crash. So
for a lot of people who start their day with a coffee, a donut, a muffin, a bar, they crash. So at 10 o'clock,
they need another coffee. They're looking for another hit of sugar to get them back up. And then the
cycle is kind of going all day. This causes the cycle of insulin resistance. Insulin resistance
leads to metabolic dysfunction. When I'm looking at my client's blood labs, I can see over time this
type of person, their fasting glucose is rising. It's leading them to diabetes. Like, this is a big
area of concern. And again, I want to just really point out that a lot of those foods might seem like
they're healthy, but they're just laden with sugar. So it's not really about the label of the
front of the product that you're eating. It's the label of the back. Become a master at reading
that label, looking at the sugar, look at the ingredients. If you don't know what the ingredient is,
then neither will your body. So take own.
ownership of that. So over time, if we're on this cycle of insulin instability, then we're going
to continue to crave more carbs and crave more sugar. The cortisol levels within our body are
going to continue to rise. We will be more stress. It's just not how our body is meant to function.
So starting your day with a high protein breakfast, you and I talked about a savory breakfast
as being so beneficial. But protein and fiber, I would say, are like the two things that you really
want to optimize first thing in the morning or when you break your fast. When you do that,
you'll feel more satiated, right? I think, you know, a lot of my clients will work towards
between 30 and 40 grams of protein for a thing in the morning. This is going to keep your blood
glucose a lot more stable throughout the day. You actually won't be craving as many carbs and
starches and sugars. You actually be craving just more sustenance or nourishment, which means
you'll make better choices for yourself. And for people listening, they're like, yeah, yeah, I've
tried that, maybe try for a little bit longer. Give me two weeks of just focusing on a higher
protein, higher nutrient density breakfast. And you're going to notice that your taste buds are going
to change. Your glucose levels are going to change. Your mood might improve, right? Less highs and
lows. You might be less reactive. Your sleep might improve. You might have more creativity because you're
no longer crashing throughout the day. So just take the chance. Try it out. It's really, really worth it.
It's fascinating to watch how quickly your taste buds change and how much your body changes.
I find myself having less cravings for sure.
I'm someone who needed sugar every single day and craved it so badly.
And now that's like almost, you know, dissipated where I'm not turning towards it.
And on top of all of that, I'm wanting to make healthier choices simply buy that savory breakfast, that protein, that fiber.
and I wanted to ask you, how much alcohol is too much alcohol?
The question.
Honestly, I think any alcohol is too much alcohol.
Like, I've really gotten to that point.
Dr. Aman has really shed a lot of light on this.
The fact that alcohol can shrink your brain is somebody who's focused on living a really
long life full of vitality, I don't want to take anything in that's going to shrink my brain,
right?
And it's a drug.
And we've normalized it as a society.
And it feels so good because it's a good.
because it's a coping mechanism at the end of the day to deal with the stressors that we're all
enduring. We've normalized it, and we really need to stop doing this because it's impacting our
health. It gets us on that metabolic instability again. It disrupts our sleep. I think over time,
it makes you more irritable, more anxious, and more stress. So taking alcohol out of your diet,
I think, gosh, do that for a month, and you're going to feel yourself, how great you feel,
how much more clarity that you have first thing in the morning. And there's so many better alternatives
to, you know, there's non-alcoholic options that are out there that are delicious. And like,
you would never even know. Whenever I go out to a social event, I literally will get some sparkling
water. I'll get some lime juice, some lemon juice put into it. I'll put it into a cocktail
glass or everyone thinks it's a cocktail. And I do not feel like I'm missing out. My digestion is
better. I'm digesting my food better. I'm more present in the conversations that. I'm not. I'm more present in the
conversations that I'm having, alcohol is a drug. And when we think about the state of the world,
anxiety-related disorders are on the rise. Over 40 million people are suffering from anxiety-related
disorders and depression. And I think that it's something that we really need to stop normalizing.
I wanted to ask you, because you spoke about alcohol, you spoke about sugars, you spoke about
fiber and protein. I was thinking, yeah, what do we substitute coffee for? Because that seems to be such
a big need for people what do you trade the coffee for in the morning oh my gosh okay so this is what
i'm living through right now so i used to say that i was the nutritionist that would never take you
off of coffee i love the taste i love the smell i love the aroma i love the ritual even on days
where i couldn't meditate i would wake up put on my coffee machine i would do tree pose i would set an
intention make it a mindful moment but then speaking about what we're speaking to today i was that
hypervigilant person. I used to say that anxiety was my blueprint. And coffee was not doing me any
favors, right? It increases our cortisol. It can put us into that fight or flight state. And let's face it,
it's something that we really, really abuse. I still love coffee. So these past two weeks,
I've just been really focused on removing it from my diet altogether. And it's hard. This is a full
addiction for me. And for me also, I feel like it was one of my only vices. So I like, I wouldn't give it up.
there's no way that I wanted to give it up. So now I'm making chifers thing in the morning. I'm using
things like mud water, which I absolutely love. No caffeine, no stimulants. And I would say by about
day four, day five, headaches dissipated. I wasn't running to the bathroom, you know,
every so often because it was stimulating my bladder so much. I'm looking at my sleep to see if
it's tracking for better sleep. But I would say that if you're somebody who experiences any type of
anxiety. If you are more prone to being stressed, if you are more prone to hypervigilance,
I know you love that coffee first thing in the morning, but do yourself a favor. Maybe switch to
decaf. Use a organic, mold-tested, Swiss water-decaffeinated coffee first thing in the morning.
Trick your brain, still go for the aroma, but get off of the drugs, the addiction.
Yeah, these are really great solutions and really great options to choose from because I feel like
we've just talked about like the core aspects of what's kind of wiring our day that way.
Yeah. And it does take a beat. It does take a second. Like I'm someone who I crave a sugary breakfast
or used to crave a sugary breakfast. It was my favorite thing in the world was to have a sweet
breakfast. And now that I've been eating a savory breakfast five out of seven days a week,
it's almost like I'm so used to that now. And so much of this is habit breaking,
habit formation, habit learning. Why is it so hard in the beginning to break these habits and
start a new one? I always say that habits come and go, but rituals become you. And this is actually
one of the greatest lessons that come from the ashram. Every single day, the schedule is the
same, right? You know this from being a monk. The schedule is the same. We're up at the same time
every single day with the same activities scheduled at the same time while you're living there.
the first few days it feels like torture until you get used to it. And what's so great about it is that
it teaches you how to become so like hyper-present and focus. And you start to ritualize your
behavior. So over time with practice and repetition and also associating with a feeling like,
oh, this feels really good. By merging those two together, you ritualize your healthy habits.
So, you know, I think a lot of the things that we're talking about, it can feel so overwhelming.
like okay she's saying to do this cut out these foods cut out these stimulants it feels like so much look at
the one two or three things that could make the most impact for your lifestyle and start there and then
maybe start habit stacking so you would never leave the house forgetting to brush your teeth or having a
shower right so a lot of my clients will habit stack they will you know brush their teeth and do
something like tongue scraping which is really really beneficial they will make their morning tea
and, you know, hold their loved one while the tea is brewing. They'll go to the gym, but when they go to
the gym, they're spending five minutes in mindfulness afterwards. So looking at where you can merge
habit that you're already doing, something that you're already doing and loving, with something that would
help you kind of step into the higher version of yourself and make you feel really, really good.
And that could be playing loud music and dancing. Like, that could be an amazing habit stack,
because, again, it's elevating your vibration to make better choices for yourself throughout the day.
Yeah, Habits stacking such a great, great skill, and you're so right, if you're going to go work out, five minutes of mindfulness, even when you're thinking about being grateful, like while you're waiting for your tea in the morning to just heat up or whatever it may be to practice gratitude at that time, I think people often think, oh my gosh, you've got to find all this time in my day.
But there are so many activities that can allow us to be internal.
And by the way, we're thinking during those times anyway.
So it's replacing what we think about it with.
I was wondering, what about someone who's dealing with brain fog?
Like, what are some of the tools that someone can have to sort brain fog?
Yeah, so big topic.
There's a couple of things.
So I really become an investigator for these clients.
One, is there anything in your physical environment that could be,
causing your brain fog. So we're looking for, you know, chemical air fresheners and
perfumes and maybe noises in the background are things that are just constantly distracting
you. We're looking at the foods that you're eating. Having food sensitivities can actually
cause brain fog. You might not even know it. No way. Yeah, like remember, you and I both had
some similar things. Like we had coconut come up and almond come up. Pineapple. Like these things
that are seemingly healthy, but our bodies just were like, we don't have the enzymes to digest
those foods right now. That could be causing brain fog as well.
Nervous system dysregulation, right? Again, living in that state of hypervigilance could be causing
your brain fog. And then we look at sleep also. When I work with my clients, sleep is actually
one of the biggest pillars of health. If you are not resting properly and recovering and
restoring, there is no way that you're going to have the energy to proceed in your life. And
and to do all the things that you want to do with energy and focus. So looking at your sleep,
I love data. So I'll use things like aura ring. I know we looked at your aura ring also.
But I had mold exposure a few years ago. That was my environment that was causing stress to my
body. And it wasn't actually until I looked at my aura ring, my heart rate variability,
continue to drop and drop. My REM sleep started dropping as well. I got like 20 minutes of REM sleep
every single night. You wonder why I have brain fog. So that caused me to do some deeper
investigation. So this is where, like, again, if you're suffering from those symptoms, any
symptom at all, investigate to see where they come from because the sources could be very
different for all of us. Totally. And it's always so much simpler than we think it is. And I think
often we do get caught in our heads and we just think there's something in my head. Like I'm
doing something wrong. It's just the way that I am. And exactly. And so often it becomes
like you said earlier, it becomes our identity.
It's really interesting.
So I'm someone who's generally, thankfully, never struggled with sleep, knock on word.
And it's so funny because I was talking about this recently.
And for the past couple of weeks, my sleep was getting really rough.
And I was like, that's really weird.
Like, I literally just spoke about this on a podcast.
Like, what's going on?
And I was thinking about it.
I was trying to figure it out.
I was like, wait a minute, I'm not looking at my phone.
I'm not stressed.
I'm not anxious.
I've got a really good routine.
I'm working out.
I'm eating.
what is going on. And I realized it sounds crazy, but it was my mattress. And so my mattress was
slowly getting worse. And my sleep was slowly getting worse. And it was only until me and Raleigh
had a conversation about it. And I was like, Raleigh, I just not been sleeping well for the past
couple of weeks. Like, how are you doing? Because obviously we're sleeping in the same bed next to each
other. So it's like, and she was like, you know what? I've not been sleeping well either.
And I was like, what do you think? And she goes, I think it's the mattress. I was like,
you're so right. I keep waking up because my back hurts and I'm uncomfortable. But I didn't, I just
didn't like it sounds so ridiculous but I couldn't sense it because life's so busy you keep moving
fast and you're out of bed you're in your day and your day's fine and then only in your bed
are you feeling that way and so we recently replaced our mattress and again my sleep's back to
normal because I was thinking about it I was like wait a minute why am I sleeping well in hotels but
not in my own house and it was the mattress and I was literally in a hotel for the last two nights
slept amazing and then we got back last night slept in a new mattress slept amazing but
something as small as that can have such a big impact.
Do you remember, I think we started working together.
You lived in a different house or something.
Oh my gosh, don't even get me started.
Your sleep back then was terrible.
That energy of that home.
There was lots of things wrong with that home.
The first thing is the main generator was hidden behind the master bedroom in the house.
So the sounds, the frequency, the vibration of that was there.
It was also a home that was really old, so you could hear animals in the floorboards and
the walls, I would wake up to that. And then the energy of the home by day was beautiful and by
night was not good. Like there was some kind of stuff going on there. Well, how many people put up
with that, right? Like, they put up with maybe the partner that's snowing or the mattress that
isn't so great or too much light coming in or they just get used to it. This is how we sleep. I'm a
terrible sleeper, right? Again, you've got to like become an expert. You are the healer. You have to
take control of your life. And without even working with me, pretend I was in your bedroom. Like,
I'm doing an audit of your bedroom. We're looking at the quality of your mattress, the quality
of your duvet, your pillows, the temperature, the lighting, the sounds, right? How do you make
your bedroom, your rest and digest oasis? I don't allow my clients to have any screens in the
bedrooms. Bedrooms are meant for rest, restoration, for sleep, and for sex. That is it. And once you
master your sleep, like, gosh, the joke is like, let that cure 99% of your problems because
your body has the ability to heal itself. Our bodies are healing in the second as you're listening
to this. Your body is so resilient, it is healing. But if we're not giving it the proper rest and
restoration that it needs, it's not going to be able to do that. It's putting out fires here and
there to try to keep up with your busy life. We have to change the identity. What you just said
that, this idea that I'm a terrible sleeper, that's what needs to be solved at the root of it. Because
if you keep saying that and you keep repeating it rather than what you said, do an audit of everything
from the pillow shape and size to your bed sheets, everything that you just mentioned, that
audit is so important because you'll find it in that audit that there's something else
tripping you up and it isn't this weakness you have or the fact that you're just a bad sleeper or
and also sometimes I think we do overestimate the anxiety in our life. Like we do just make it
about, oh my gosh, I'm just anxious, I'm just this. And it's like,
No, no, no, no, you've got a TV on in your room. You're on your phone all this time before
you go to bed. Of course you're not just going to switch off. Sleep anxiety is a real thing.
This is actually a real important, you know, part of Ayurveda. In Ayurveda, we talk about not only
digesting the foods that we eat, we metabolize everything in our life. It's not only what we
eat, it's what we're watching, it's what we're listening to, it's what we can smell, and it's
what we can feel. So look around you right now, or look around in the rooms where you spend the most
time and ask what you are digesting. I always say, clean up the cupboard or that drawer. That's
just like chaos for you because a cluttered house causes a cluttered mind, right? That was my
dad's message growing up. Look at your space and see, is it a reflection of the version of
yourself that you want to become and how you want to feel? Often with my clients, I'll help them
kind of build their ashram as much as I want everybody to go away and experience what ashram like is
and all the gifts that come with it, create your ashram at home.
So what does that mean?
We talked about your bedroom, optimizing your sleep, going into your kitchen.
And I always say that self-care starts in the kitchen.
Your kitchen is your first line of defense when it comes to your health care.
So if I were to come over again, do an audit of your cabinets, your cupboard, your fridge,
what would I see?
What would you have to hide from a nutritionist, right?
Just get rid of it.
Why do you think it's okay to feed yourself those foods?
you know that they're inflammatory, why aren't you putting yourself into the position of wanting
to nourish yourself so much and heal and break that addiction? I often say to people,
you build an altar, whether you are religious or spiritual or not. Build an altar in your home
that reminds you of what it means to go back to that core frequency of who you are. Who are you?
How do you want to feel? What are you working towards? It could include a religious deity or a god or
something spiritual. It could be a picture of yourself in nature in your happiest spot. It could be
a picture of your family. It could be a vision board. It could be, you know, some devotional
practice that you have there. I love putting some Palo Santo and stuff like that there.
But have a space in your home where you go to that altar. It's always something that's going to
anchor you in the version of yourself that you are becoming. And then I also add in like have a
space for mindfulness. It's funny you and I, we talk a lot about meditation, right? If there was
something that you could do that would take away your stress, improve your digestion,
help your memory, your brain function, your mood, your motivation, your creativity, how you show
up in this world. Would you do it? Yeah. Yeah. Meditate, right? But we don't do it. It's free.
What if doctors started to prescribe meditation? What if one day we could go to our doctor's offices
and before we even stepped in to see them, we were guided into meditation to surrender and just
practice that muscle of feeling peace. You would learn how to change your physiology. You become the
master of your own health and because you remember how good it feels. Even if it's a split second in
the meditation that day, you're practicing that muscle. You're building the fuel of what it feels
like to feel good and you deserve to feel that way. So yes, you need to meditate. And gosh,
if you haven't practiced yoga, yoga is something that I think that needs to be recommended to everyone. A lot of
my clients will say, I can't do it. I can't stay still for that long. And that's why you need to
be doing yoga, right? That's exactly why you should do it. But when we think about the ancient
wisdom behind it, Sudia namascar, right? Sun salutations first thing in the morning. Right now we're
talking about our circadian rhythm going out into the sun. We know that this really supports us with our
sleep training at night. It helps to boost serotonin in our gut microbiome. Yogis have known this
forever. We go outside. We salute the sun. We're inhaling sunshine, allowing nature to really
calm and soothe us. We're aligning with the rhythm of nature also. We're moving our bodies in
different ways to alleviate stillness, working our lymphatic system, our respiratory system,
ultimately letting go, releasing things from the night before stuff that's come up from while we
we sleep. Do that first thing in the morning. If it's, you know, one round of sent salutations,
two rounds of sens salutations, but just give it a go. Notice,
how it's like an instant energy boost. You won't need coffee anymore. Your body will feel primed for
your day. When you talk about it, you make it sound so easy. I'm like listening to just going,
Mona, you're amazing. This is awesome. This is like, it's so blissful to live this way. And I think
anyone who's listening right now, it's about finding the time you have to start doing one of these
things and seeing how it changes your life and that will build your confidence. I think when I've
look to my health journey, it's been changing a pillar at a time. And when I've changed a
pillar and built confidence, then I can add another pillar. And then I can add another one rather
than this, let me just destruct my entire health regime and start a new one. And it doesn't
work that way. I feel like if you solve your sleep, all of a sudden now you can solve your food,
then you can solve your workout. If you try to do it all at the same time, most people don't have
the time or can't find it or are not prioritizing it, there's too many things going wrong because
each of these things is going to take time to practice and prepare for and get right. Oh,
yeah. And that's a good reflection, too, because I don't want people to look at me and think that
I've got it figured out. Mona's outside doing sun salutations every single morning. It's just
for blissful self-know. I'm a mom. I've got two little kids. Life is stressful and it's really
busy. But I know that when I come back to those core practices, then I feel my best.
And for listeners, I want you to start thinking about what are one, two or three things that
you can start doing. And maybe consider one thing in the nutrition category. What's one thing like
drinking water first thing in the morning? That could be so simple that could help you optimize.
What if it's removing one food ingredient? What if it's deciding to eat dinner a little bit earlier
because, you know, that's going to help you sleep a little bit better? Then from the movement
category, you know, what's one type of exercise that you actually love? Focus on doing something
that you love. Don't go do hit training because, you know, social media is telling you to do that.
don't go and lift heavy weights if it's something that you just absolutely hate, find something
that you love doing, and then do something for your spirit. What makes your spirit feel really,
really great? And do one thing from each of those buckets every day, acknowledging that it's that
one percent. It's the one percent every day that's really putting you on the best training ground
to have the most optimal health span. And I wanted to point out, too, also having a strong why,
everyone's talking about longevity right i want to live longer you know but why why do you want to live longer right
the way that we're looking at aging right now aging kind of sucks we get to the last 10 15 years of our
life and you know we're put into nursing homes we're given a chronic disease or put on prescription
medication like i don't want any of that but my visualization is to think about i want to live
until i'm 100 so that i can throw my grandkids
on my back and hike Runyon Canyon and have that strength and that posture to have clarity
of my mind so I can be fully present. So with a why that is so powerful for me because I really
want to meet my grandkids one day and I can visualize this. I can visualize hiking and make it
feel real. Now my actions throughout the day are going to be aligned with the version of myself
that I am becoming. So many of us listen to social media and I'm guilty of it too. We hear about
these things that we should be doing, you know, the things that we need to be doing for longevity,
but we don't have a why backed behind them. And it's like trial and error to see like what works,
what will stick. Maybe stop looking for trial and error and finally just get to the source of
what's going to make you feel your best and then follow those nuggets and that's going to lead you
to your perfect healing protocol. Not somebody else's. Yours. Own that. I love that, Mona.
What a beautiful reminder. And I loved hearing about your visualization because you may
it's so tangible and real for us. And I could vision it for you as you were saying it. So
imagine if we were all doing that for ourselves. And I think the why is so critical and so
important. And I think everything gets fueled from that deeper purpose that we have of
why we want to live longer. I always think about it. It's like, I want to be able to do this
for as long as I possibly can. This is all I want to do is serve and give. And when I came to
seek your help or when I've gone to others to find their coaching or mentorship in my
health, it's purely being because I'm just like, I want to do this forever. Like I'm not trying
to retire. I'm not trying to stop doing what I'm doing. There's no end point for me. This is
what I love doing, but I want to be healthy while I do it. And so, Mona, we end every episode
of On Purpose with a final five. So these are your final five. They have to be answered in one
word to one sentence maximum. So, Mona Sharma, these are your final five. Question number one,
what is the best health advice you've ever heard or received or given? Eat like you love yourself.
Question number two, what is the worst health advice you've ever heard received? Carbs are your enemy.
Oh, explain, explain. Carbohydrates, our body needs carbs, but I want you to start loving on
carbohydrates that come from the earth. Vegetables that are grown in the ground, squashes, yams,
sweet potato, those type of carbohydrates, are loaded with nutrients, with vitamins, with minerals,
with polyphenols that help our bodies thrive. They're antioxidants for our bodies. So focus
on those carbohydrates from the earth. Great answer. Question number three. What's something you
used to believe was true about health, but you don't anymore? That somebody else knows the
answers to my body and how to heal. Tell me more. When you don't have your health,
nothing matters. Time stops. I had to get to that point to really take a
initiative to learn what my body needed to get to a place to heal. And ultimately, that was
embodiment. It was coming into my body to learn what my body needed. And I think that if we start
to talk more and have conversations like this about the fact that our bodies actually do have this
intelligence and maybe for once and for all we start teaching our kids on the wisdom that our
bodies have, then they're not going to be in the same position when they grew up. They will
acknowledge that they are their own healers and that we can merge Western medicine with these
Eastern training modalities that we've talked about today. Yeah, I love that you've been speaking
about that so much. That's what I'm so passionate about as well. I feel like there's so many
great strengths from both, and it's a missed opportunity to ignore either or. My dream is that
the future of healthcare is really the integration of modern science, which is so cool. There's so
many cool things that are happening with ancient wisdom. And if the two would come together,
I think that the trajectory for the future of health, how we age, the symptoms that we suffer
from will dissipate. There will be more awareness and openness that we will be on this like
exciting journey to uncover the human body. Question number four. What's the first thing you do
every morning and the last thing you do every night? Meditate and gratitude for my heart. Yeah,
our hearts have been beating for us since before we even got here.
And to get into my heart, I come to the feeling I just love.
I'm so in love with my kids and my husband and being a mom in my life.
And coming into that heart coherence is everything.
Beautiful. It comes across.
It's very, it's very real. It just oozes from you.
Beautiful.
Fifth and final question, if you could create one law that everyone in the world had to follow, what would it be?
Lead with empathy.
You do not know you're at the other person's story.
and notice how often you are the critic or the judge in your day-to-day life,
maybe turn that around to empathy towards yourself.
Once you experience that, you will take that out into the world and it will be contagious.
That's amazing. Mona, thank you so much for your time today.
Everyone has been listening or watching.
I want you to tag me in Mona on Instagram, on TikTok, whatever platform you use.
Tell us what you're testing, what you're experimenting with, what you're trying,
because I want you to try and put at least one piece of advice.
advice into practice. And of course, please go and follow Mona Sharma across all of the social
media platforms. And you can check out her podcast rooted in wellness as well. Mona, thank you so
much again for your wealth of wisdom, your amazing energy and aura that you have, that you carry
everywhere you go. And I'm so grateful that we got to finally connect on the show. And I'm excited
for people to start practicing these things. So thank you so much. Thank you for having me, Jay.
If you love this episode, you'll love my conversation with Dr. Joe Dispenza.
on why stress and overthinking negatively impacts your brain and heart
and how to change your habits that are on autopilot.
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