Smosh Mouth - S2: #88 - The One About Friendship (that's a Friends reference, get it?)

Episode Date: November 11, 2020

Courtney, Olivia, Keith and Jackie help you out with some advice on the toughest friendship situations, and open up about the impactful friendships in their lives along the way. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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BetMGM operates pursuant to an operating agreement with iGaming Ontario. I'm really forgiving and there's also the opposite side to that where I just cut you out completely and I see you in public and I look past you it's okay to grow apart but if you want your friend to be your friend still, if you feel like some energy is coming in between, just say something

all you have to do is just speak up I think I'm like an in between tribes right now like there's the work tribe like this is like the best family ever but like i'm in a weird place right now especially with the pandemic like it's just hard to like have friends i also really enjoy watching people like love each other like openly like it's it's very nice like i just love it. Honestly, sometimes... Welcome to pussy hour. Jesus Christ.

All right, real quick. We should intro this thing. Hi, it's the Smosh cast. If you accidentally click this and we're trying to go somewhere else, sorry, stick around. This is going to be fun. This is Courtney hosting

with my very good friends, Olivia Sui, Jackie Uwe, and Keith Lake Jr. I burped. gonna be fun this is courtney the hosting with my my very good friends olivia sway jackie ue and keith lake jr i burped you burped yeah that's my brand yeah i know i'm sorry i'm sorry get your crusty mask off this table oh shit do you really want me off the table no i don't care uh keep it in my pocket i just noticed it um those masks are good for lip stuff i just okay i just got them in this week k95s because i've been struggling with like my lips go up i know ones it's so bad and so the k95 ones are really good because they have like a little bit more space and i've just been like

wearing in my car like this morning i was bopping, booping around. You were just wearing your mask in your car? Because I was so uncomfortable. I know, but I was like. Unless your car has people. No, there's no people in it. Just me. I'm a person.

But it was just like that comfortable that I didn't need to like take it off immediately. That's good. That was nice. Yeah, I don't. Do y'all wear Carmex? Carmex the chapstick? Yeah. No, not a VSCO girl no i don't i don't wear chapstick my lips are always dry i was like they look really no on the sides like when the day because i don't really drink water which is not a good thing really yeah i don't drink a lot of water so then like it just

gets so crusty i love that for you but then now you can't really touch your lips anymore because it's like frowned upon to touch your mouth with your hands. I just did that. I'm licking my lips. Oh, Keith, you keep doing it. Okay, guys. So this topic of this podcast is very serious, very important. Okay. And so no laughing allowed.

Just kidding. Won't do it. Won't cackle. Okay. So basically I decided that what we were going to talk about today was how to deal with friendships, whether they're good or they're bad, what you look for in a friend, when to know when it's time to cut somebody out of your life, when it's time to just stop. Yeah. So, yeah, we asked you guys to submit questions that are kind of related to friends and stuff. I thought this would be a great group to do that with because Keith, you just recently had a big landmark

with how long you've been in LA. And there's like a whole like stereotype of like LA friends. And Olivia, you've talked a lot about that as well, like behind closed doors. And, you know, we've all kind of been friends for different amounts of time. So I'm very excited.

I have one piece of advice. And this is what I heard from Nicole Richie when I was 11 years old. You heard from who? Nicole Richie. Oh Nicole. She said, she said, keep your friends close, but your enemies closer.

Oh my God. Remember when you said that? No, I don't. I was like, is this real housewives? No, it was like, it was like, I thought that was like Hamlet. I thought that's what you quoted. Yeah, actually, I think that's Churchill.

I think she quoted Churchill. That's really bad. She would. I've heard great things about, like, you know how like Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie are like, they've just like been undercover for like. They've been best friends too. Yeah. It was a character that they were playing all the time.

So I was like, if she is quoting Churchill, if it is even Churchill. Makes sense. It's Sun Tzu. Sun Tzu. Oh, Sun Tzu. Sun Tzu. Thank. So I was like, if she is quoting Churchill, if it is even Churchill. Makes sense. It's Sun Tzu. Sun Tzu. Oh, Sun Tzu. Sun Tzu. Thank you. Come on, Nicole.

Yeah. At least you quoted someone. Yeah, she quoted somebody. Churchill. But I don't think I would keep my enemies closer. I don't think. Because, yeah, we're not conniving fucking people. Yeah, that's weird to me.

That's like, for me, that's for me personally. I like the people that I consider enemies. I honestly don't give them the time of day. I know, me neither. You know, I try not to in my head. I'm thinking, you know what I mean? Like when you fall out with friends or whatever, you start to like think of them, you know, but I honestly just disassociate myself. Me too. Like never again, you know? Exactly. I'm like the king of a

grudge. You are the grudge. I am the grudge. Like dead ass the grudge. And guys, I struggle with forgiveness. So yeah, we got some different perspectives today. So let's get this first question out in the air. This one's from at Dilwell 2003. Good year. I used to have a friend who I cared about dearly but eventually we grew apart it took me a long time to cut them out of my life because i always hung out hung on to memories we used to have together how do you know when it's time to move on it comes from your spirit something that i feel like i've learned in the past couple years is that you out like there are friends that are only meant for like

a certain period of time or a certain period of your life like when I left high school I was like I don't know why everyone is telling me like I'm not gonna be friends with all of these people like what are you talking like this is not gonna be the last time I see like what are you talking about like we went to high school together and then you realize like yeah I see like two people to this day that I went to high school with. And it's I definitely believe that, like, OK, like, even though you have all of these memories with this person, like, there are people that, like, you move through. You just continue to move through life and, like, not everyone goes with you. And it's not a bad thing.

I think it's just a natural part of, like, growing up that you as you grow and you're in these different like spheres and different circles and stuff like you you grow and those memories aren't invalid, but they're important and they they matter. But it doesn't mean like you're changing as a person. So, of course, your friendships are going to change. Yeah, I think a big part of that is like just accepting like that's not going to be the only time you have happy memories. Like you're going to feel this way again, like whether it's with other people. I have friends in my past that like I have I like I think I'm the same as you. I literally think I talked to like two people from high school. For me, it's like how how much do they positively affect your life?

Plus, how badly do you want to still be a part of theirs i think for me in high school i knew i really wasn't like connected with anyone really except for probably two best friends and even my best friends in high school didn't even go to my school my best friend childhood best friend that i've known since i was like 13 came to visit um again because she's going to school in Missouri. And we are in completely different avenues of work. And just a lot of the things that we're doing currently are very different. But our core values are so just the same. That brings us together. All the other stuff is just noise.

But when we get together, even though our worlds are completely different, what I find really important in friends are just their core values and their foundation. So all of my best friends, even if they are living in Europe or they've gone completely goth or whatever change happens, if their core values are still the same i'm still gonna love them the same way because that stuff is consistent okay so how i know if it's time to cut someone off your eyes don't light up when i come in the room you know what i mean like you know how like sometimes like when you're like best friends with somebody you're like oh my god my best friends here oh we're gonna have a good time if that light goes like it's some real stuff it's like yo i don't feel comfortable like this what it was is not what it is anymore you know what i mean it's time to like you know we can still be cool but like you're not my like you like you know i want to feel good like when i'm with my friends yeah but sometimes I also realize is that it's not you.

It's the other person and what they're going through, you know, and there's like maybe when you come in and their eyes don't light up, maybe because they feel like they're in a really dark place and it's not you. And it's like up to you to ask them and help them pick them up and like be like, what's going on? Communication. Yeah. Communication is really important with friends and stuff like that yeah i feel like sometimes people like um someone said like it feels like friendship breakups are a lot harder than or like are kind of worse than relationship breakups because like friendships you just kind of like why should they end like you're just friends you

guys you could you can just stay friends right just not hang out as much or whatever whereas in a relationship it's like okay this has to end this can't just like float around like it's interesting because like there's not really those conversations of like okay hi we need to stop being friends and also i've realized sometimes their relationships their romantic relationships also dictate friendships oh 100 you 100%. You know, like who they're dating and who they're with dictates what kind, you know. And they wanna come back when they're like broken up. It's like, that is like, it happens all the time. I don't do that.

You don't? Really? Why not? No, I feel like basically I had, one of my really good friends when I moved out here, we were dating for a little bit and then it was like, we're better as friends. Each other? We were dating each other.

Yes. And I was like, OK, yeah, like whatever. We're not together anymore, but I'm still going to we're still friends. I'm going to support you, whatever. Like, so I consider him a friend now. Right. It's like, yeah, he's my ex, but like he's more of a friend than my ex. Right.

And so then he started dating somebody new and that new person didn't like that he was friends with me. And so he cut me off. And then and then he was like, once that was done, he was like, oh, now we can hang out again. I'm like, oh, no, I'm not an optional. Like, oh, you think you can just come like, no, like, don't don't do me like that. Like, I was like, I'll be here for you, like, whenever, like, whatever. But it just felt like and I feel like this is like I'll be here for you like whenever like whatever but it just felt like and like I feel like this is like where people will disagree but I'm like no if we're if we're

friends like I'm just not optional like I don't I just the feeling of that of being treated like that made me feel so shitty and it's like it's not even that I don't support your relationship but it's like you're not even fighting for me as your friend yeah in your relationship and it's like, you're not even fighting for me as your friend in your relationship. And it's like, I don't know, it gets, I feel like that's a weird spot, but. You're not like on tap that you can just be like, come back to whenever. Did the girl not like you at all?

Like she didn't like, did you know her? Sounds like insecurity to me. We knew of each other, but she like made it a point to be like, cause he told me like, hey, she doesn't want me talking to you anymore. And I was like, ah. And he's like, hey, she doesn't want me talking to you anymore. And I was like, and he's like, yeah,

okay, cool, bye. And I was like, that's all you're going to leave it? You're not even going to be like, no. Like not even try?

Did you put up any type of, any type of effort? Like, yeah, we talked. It's just, I was like, okay,

but it was like, nah, she said it. So, bye. I was like, oh my gosh. So,

it was just. Are they together now? No, they're not. Of course not. And now was like, oh my gosh. Okay, so it was just. Are they together now? No, they're not. Of course not. And now you guys are friends. Oh yeah, that's what you said. And now we're not friends. And then you just like fucked it all up.

I was like, you really fucked it up. Like I took this, this man, I took this dude outside and I was like, look, this is how I feel. And I don't like how you treated me. I have so much love for him, but I was like, no, like, and it changed how we're, our friendship forever. It's so funny. but I was like, no. And it changed our friendship forever.

It's so funny because I'm the most forgiving person. I'm really forgiving. And there's also the opposite side to that where I just cut you out completely. And I see you in public and I look past you. That's me with a lot of my friends. It's completely polar opposites. I'll do that. It's like it's like it's completely polar opposites. I make exceptions if you are really in front of me and like explaining to me where you like how you felt, because I think throughout all chapters of our lives, we get influenced by different things, you know, and sometimes it's like our own inner influence and our own inner insecurity for other things that make us act out. So it's like if you because I've had, you know, friendships and a relationship, romantic relationship

interfered with it. And then maybe we're not that close anymore. But I think it takes a lot to also stand in front of someone and apologize. And like, because I know that's not easy for me. So if someone else is doing that to me, I'm like going to be, you know, receptive. I can't just reject them because I know it's already taken a lot for someone to apologize. Yeah. And then for how I respond to that, whether or not it's just like done with you or not, it's just if I like thinking back about those relationships where someone has said, oh, I'm sorry that this happened, blah, blah, blah. And then I look at I'm like, you know what? Thank you for this apology. But I'm at this different point in my life and I really don't need you in my life, you know,

because you were never really that, I didn't really like, I didn't like you that much. You know? How do people treat you? People should treat you good. They should make you feel good. Their eyes should light up when you come into the room. Like, you know, like I feel certain friendships

that I've had, they like come back around. You know what I mean? They come back around because I've allowed it and it took time. Sometimes it was years. Like one of my homeboys, Nick, like we had fell out. Like, what?

Yeah, no, it's all good. Like that's my brother. Like we've been like homeless together the whole thing. Like that's how like close we are. You know what I mean? Like he doesn't mind this, you know? Like we have gone through the mud out here and he's actually from LA and the whole,

just we fell out and he ended up having like children and everything and I wasn't there for it. Like that's how much we fell out. But like after a while we have mutual friends, you know? I remember when we became friends again like i went to his apartment i ubered to his apartment our friends were over there and like he came out the door and all we did was just look at each other and like did this from across the way and it was just like i missed you you know what i mean like i really missed you

brother and this is long like i missed your like. You know, like, that's kind of shitty. Like, that's how far we went to not being friends. And, like, that's the thing. I don't even remember why we weren't friends anymore. Like, you know what I mean? Like, just really completely fell off. And, you know, now, like, we still argue, like, fucking cats and dogs and, like, have fun. But it's a different type of, like, you know know, like I guess grown manship, you know?

So it's just, yeah. And some fights are optional. Like, you know, there's not, sometimes it's just like, I love this person deeper beyond what is happening right now that might be annoying because it's like, dude, like the love goes so deep that like, sometimes I don't even like even want to bring up anything. It's just like, it doesn't matter.

And I think the thing with this question that was asked is like they're just kind of growing apart and I feel like the person asking is like trying to look for like an end but I feel like when you're just growing apart like just let the growing apart happen you don't have to sever anything or burn any bridges because like if that person's still a good person but just like is different than you go do your own thing like try making other friends which is hard harder than like it's harder as you get older but i think yeah i think there's not so much pressure on that like we said earlier like you don't have to like break up a friendship necessarily yeah shall i move on to the next one sure okay how are you guys doing this morning good i feel

like we're in like i feel like we're in like like talks talk show like yeah like it feels good like it feels like a nice i don't know i was like are you asking if you want our energy higher no no no i'm just like checking in with my guys. Cool, cool, cool. Oh, this is great. This one's from at Olivia80766866. Is that your phone number? It is.

That's my social security number. Okay, the question is, what do I do if a friend is completely changing after they got into a relationship? Like always ditching me and our other friends for their partner. I don't want to lose my friend, but I don't know what to say to them about it. I feel like this is like a weird, I feel like in this new age, relationships priorities and friendship priorities, I feel like the gap is getting like closed because I feel like a lot of people see friends as more disposable than relationships. Do you know what I mean?

Like, because I've had friends that I don't see them when they're in a relationship, regardless of who they're dating. I myself was in a really controlling relationship previously that basically made it impossible for me to maintain friendships that weren't his friends. So like, I've been in that position where like, I literally wasn't even seeing my family. And you're just so unaware or like, I was so unaware of what I was doing to myself in those relationships. So being in that position, like trying to talk to those friends who have been in the same scenario, I would like at least try and really address it. Just come clean because I feel like it's really hard.

We're afraid we're going to like lose our friends. If we say something like we're so afraid of challenging each other's character, but it's like, you're literally just asking to stay friends. Like it's, that's literally from a place of love, right? Like, you know. I feel all of that, but I just feel like with, like you said, you're not gonna be friends with a lot of these people, you know?

Like that's like the god to that's the truth like you're not like you are gonna grow apart it's okay to grow apart but like if you want your friend to be your friend still if you feel like some energy is like coming in between just say something all you have to do is just speak up you know and say it nicely come on like do it with respect honor you know what i mean like yo like can i like, can I talk to you, Pete? Like, Pete, yo, like, I just want you to know, like, bro. Just be honest. Just be honest. Just be honest.

There you go. You got your answer. Just be honest. Just be honest. Just try at least to make one big attempt, whether it's like as a group with the other friends as well. Like, I guess like going off of relationships, like I have a friend, one of my really close friends,

like she's also a stepmom. So like there's a friend one of my really close friends like she's also a stepmom so like there's a period uh like during the year when like um her son comes and stays and so like during those knowing like where she's at in her life and stuff I'm like yeah like you probably need space right now it's like you probably need space like to hang out with your family and like be a stepmom and also like have your own time and so it's like for me as her friend and like be a stepmom and also like have your own time. And so it's like for me as her friend and like, I'm like, hey, how do you, what do you need right now? Like, do you just like need a day to vent or stuff? And I'm like, hey, I'm here, but I'm also like,

I know you got a lot going on. So like taking a step back and like, I was like, well, whatever you need, like I'm here for you always, like whatever that looks like, but also knowing like our friendship is gonna look different because of where you're at right now. And I have to but also knowing like our friendship is going to look different because of where you're at right now and i have to be secure and like our friendship to to be okay

with that and like my cool we're not going to be like that's totally true but but like you know what i mean but i'm like but also like when we get together something great but it's like that can't happen right now leading by example too i see so many of my friends like i used to be that girl in my first relationship only hanging out with my boyfriend like that's the first relationship that's so normal and like you know later on the person me realizes there's so much time that I can you know also hang out with my friends as well and making that as a priority and I and I and I see that in my friend circle because those people are doing that so then I I'm like, when you lead by example, you know, people follow that. You know, if I show my friends, like, I'm making time to hang out with you, not just my boyfriend, then hopefully they'll also realize, oh, in my relationships, I can do the same, you know?

Yeah. Yeah. And there's always those friends that, like, you don't need to stay in touch 24-7. Yes. Yeah. Like, I have a friend who I maybe see her twice a year, but we are close. Yeah.

Yeah. So it makes sense. 100%. Like I have friends in New York that like, when I go like having Mr. Beat, it's just like, I love that.

And like FaceTime now, like on FaceTime all the time, talking for hours about everything, dreams, what we want to do like just the whole shit you know yeah that friend is happy in their relationship and they're just being happy with that person be happy for them like you know what i mean i feel like i i see both sides of yeah i do too because we both we've all been on both ends of that. Some on other sides, more than the other. Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah, dude. All right, cool. That was cut and dry. I like it. Cut and dry. Cut and dry. All right, this one's from at Hungry Shame. I think I'm the toxic one.

Oh. Hey. That's how it starts. At least they're honest. That's how it started. Come on, self-awareness. That's the first sentence. Hold on, hold on. That's all I'm saying. Come on, that's the first sentence. That's the first, hold on, hold on.

I'm the toxic one. Okay. I think I'm the toxic one. I think I'm the toxic one. If you think you are, you probably are. But also, if you think you are,

if you're wondering if you are, you're also probably not. Hang on, let's hear the rest of it. You're right, hold on, no, I'll give you that.

That just made my headphones fall off. Let's hear the whole thing. Okay, so I think I'm the toxic one. I really want to be friends with them. I them a lot but i always leave them on delivered or seen and always reject them when they ask to call and stuff i really like them and enjoying talk to them but i'm too scared to show i care oh that's different that's honest don't call yourself toxic yeah you're not toxic you're just afraid to open up. Real quick.

Can I like hear what all you when you guys hear the word toxic, what does the word toxic mean to you? I think of Britney Spears. Yeah. Poison. I just honestly think poison. The word poison. Just like. Yeah.

Go for it. I think of like a soul and energy sucker. Someone that's not building you up. It's like someone that's not filling your bucket like they they take from you to fill their own bucket and they but they also want you to give your give all of yourself to them and they don't return it it's a one-sided very long definition one-sided and that's like oh and you're and you're just constantly confused like it's like what did I

did was I wrong like you just don't really know everything's murky everything's gray mmhmm ugh yeah

that's true is that a definition we can all agree on yeah yeah 100% dude these images of people just started popping in my head that's what like

I'm over here like and don't you guys wish you knew who you were but they're in my head no yeah i love that yeah i feel like it's even if it if they're not specifically doing anything to you it's like what's like in the little things as well like and yeah the energy sucker the energy vampire totally i didn't know it was in a toxic friendship until now i look back and i'm like oh that's usually how it goes yeah it's because you in a way get used to it and you don't like see it um hindsight is 50 but this girl or this guy or whoever that hungry shane that asked this question

i don't think you should be so self-deprecating and calling yourself toxic because, you know, every time you speak that into existence, it becomes you, you know? So I would just not put that in the universe and just, you know, she was so, or Hungry Shane is so honest. You're not being toxic because I feel like you're not being toxic in the way that you're not putting yourself in situations to be toxic. Do you know what I mean? Yeah.

Is the class listening? Yeah. Sorry. No, that was just a whole. She just like petered out. I was like, wait, what happened? Something just changed. No, I just said, no, no, nothing, man.

What is the tea, sis? I want to apologize for going off and saying it. Like, if you think you're toxic, you're toxic. Once you read all of it too, it made more sense. You're just like, I feel like you're afraid to open up, which I understand. I'm afraid to do that, too. I don't trust a lot of people. You know what I mean?

I'm very private. Yeah. So, like, I don't think you're toxic. You just, like, handle things a certain way. And you see it. So that's the first step. Yeah. That's the first step.

Would you guys say, just a question from me, would you guys say there's a difference between being a toxic person and having toxic qualities? Could a good person do things that might not be, like... Like not intentional or, like, they don't realize they're doing it? I think that's, I mean, there's a lot of things that people do that they don't realize what they're doing is venomous. I mean, I've been reading up on some versions of that, of like they think that certain questions are things i feel like you're not necessarily being toxic it's just you're not you're not

putting yourself out there like i feel like you're saying you're afraid to show that you care but it's like what's gonna happen are they gonna laugh they're not gonna laugh at you like they're not yeah we i feel like some people like the way that we're raised, showing that you care about something is a sign of weakness. Like people made fun of nerds, but when like really a nerd is someone who loves certain cultures, loves certain media, like it's someone who loves something

and has a passion for something that not a lot of people do. So like, why are you making fun of that? Like there's nothing to make fun of in showing yourself caring and being a friend so i would encourage i would encourage yourself to just like say yes to something if you're you're unhappy with where you're at i'd say just try it just try it well maybe you just don't vibe with them and that's okay yeah with everyone they're saying they really like them so it's like but i i can relate to that and like there are a lot of people in my life that i i adore but i do it from a distance like i i'm i think it's probably

part of my anxiety of like i love you and i love what you're doing over there but i'm just too anxious to like engage and like become a part of it. I'm curious, what are your guys' love languages? Well, can't quote it, can't source it, but like there's the five love languages and there's like quality time, physical touch, acts of service, like doing things for people, gift giving, and then words of affirmation. And it's like, when I started learning about it

in school, but there's like what you what you receive and then what you give how you express your love and I think kind of just knowing that honestly that helped me in my relationship with my mom because I was like oh like you are acts of service like it's like words of affirmation in my house like not huge yeah yeah but like but also knowing like oh i need sometimes i do need words of affirmation from you but i'm like oh but if i can like recognize like everything you're doing is out of love for me yeah recognizing yeah especially like first like first generation like household like i i have friends are like oh i've never heard the word i love you like in my

house you know what i mean um but like i know for me, it's like quality time is huge. Like just like spending good time with people and like just being in each other's space does it for me. Like what are your guys' love languages? Gift giving. And because that's how my mom always showed her friends and her loved ones how much. So that's how you show? Yes. And also, yeah, I think quality time.

I love spending time with my friends like just like sometimes me giving them small little treats and then us spending quality time together and just sitting around the couch doing nothing and just like laying down or like napping like i don't know for me that's really important or going on hikes and walks like that's important to me i've always wanted like a friend who'd be down to just like hang out in my place while i'm cleaning yeah like that kind of quality time that's those are all my friends i think i'll be there who are you uh what are they again i don't want to say anything physical touch words of affirmation gift giving quality time and acts of service i feel like words of affirmation i like to lift up my friends like i really do you do yeah i love that i want us to feel good together and i learn

i don't know like sometimes when i'm speaking to my friends i'm speaking to myself through it you know what i mean like this is for us like i'm here it's not me like saying that you're not trying to butter you up yeah like no this is uh like that's I think that's mine that's when I'm the most like oh we're friends because we're like talking like this yeah you know in this field I feel like I've reduced my like words of affirmation but that used to be something that I did a lot but like I do I have a huge fear of people thinking that I'm just buttering them up but that's like not the intention no not at all i respond really well like i love quality time and then i respond really i love physical affection you can literally i'm a change i can be like having the worst day and yeah and if someone scratches my back i literally there's

a switch that slipped and i'm happy if someone someone gives me a present, I am fucking ecstatic, even if it's like a pencil. Like, I don't like need that. It's not like, you didn't give me a present, so I don't think you love me. But I definitely, and I also love shopping for other people more than I love shopping for myself. Yeah, me too. Like Christmas, I love Christmas so much.

That's true. Courtney. I get you guys. My Christmas budget is not okay um but uh you like to see your friends smile i love it and i like finding things that i know that they would like or i want them to try um but then when i notice certain people like don't respond to it because you know if like you were raised getting stuff all the time that you're just like, this is not like an exciting thing for me. And I'm like, okay, interesting.

But yeah, so I love giving affection, but it's also one of those things where it's like, I'm not trying to like invade people's space. So it's one of those things that I just kind of put on the back burner. But yeah, did we answer the question? Yeah, I think we did. And then we also answered her question. Yeah, I like that.

That was a good ask. That one got me. My eyes kind of welled up a little bit because i had never looked at it that way and i have so many different types of friends that like their their love language is different and like sometimes you try to classify people and you're like well this person doesn't do it the way that i do it so they're not my friend and that's like i don't i have to really i understand. I need to, I need to take some time. There's some of my friends who are not always checking up on me, but I know they will be there for a fact when I need them. I think my guards are just up even with my friends.

You know, like I have some things that I have to work through, you know? And the fact that like for this person, like they're reaching out to you and stuff like they want you around. So don't be afraid like i think it would be highly rewarded in terms of like expressing you're not a toxic person you're giving yourself toxic thoughts yeah yeah you're being toxic to yourself if anything you're right all right at cammy tau or cammy toe asks i found out my friend is racist today and no one in my friend group agrees with them but they aren't being kicked out I don't want to be friends with that but I don't want to lose the rest what should I do here that's tough that's a that's a that's a tough one that I've been wrestling with

is like when you come across people in your life that are not what you thought in terms of like how they see people i know that we have a lot of different perspectives in this room so yeah i have friends i have friends and are they outwardly like racist no but do they say things that maybe are not as you know thought through yeah and i think those are moments where you lead by example and you kind of show them the way and you like talk about it and you don't cancel them or shut them out of the group. You kind of are open minded, open hearted and we discuss, you know, and I've done some stupid things, too. And luckily, I also have really great friends that open their hearts out to me and we talk about discuss it. And my world has changed.

I don't know if any of my my like my actual friends like i'm on the same thing on the same page like my actual friends i have acquaintances that are racists like i yeah where it's like i found a lot i found a lot this year yeah yeah like who's what and where they're at. I'm like, noted. And it's like, great. I now know that our core values do not align. We are not friends. So it's like, I don't even classify you as a friend. So now I'm like, okay, the people that I am friends with, like, I feel the way that I'm a friend to you is showing you that I'm willing to have these conversations with you

and give you that time and energy and, like, kind of of like walk not walk you through it but sometimes it's like there's I feel like there's a debate between like no google it like pay me for my time and stuff but I'm like if I'm your friend and I'm I'm giving you this energy like we can talk about it and then it's like awesome and there's like a period of like changed bit like where you're like I'm expecting kind of like changed behavior for the most part to specific things or at least catching yourself. Like, I know it's not the same, but like I have friends who've changed their pronouns. So like having that discussion, like it's like awesome.

Like you identify as they or them. And we've had that discussion. Now it's like me like correcting myself and like moving on it's like it's like you correct yourself and keep going but it's also like at least like showing that you're doing that work of like catching yourself thinking you're still actively working on it you know so like that's what i mean like a period of change behavior like just seeing them working yeah and i've seen that and i don't know about you, but my circle of friends have become very small. Like once you live life longer, I think. I mean, I'm only 27, but still like I used to have friends everywhere.

But now my circle of friends smaller. Also, those people are so important to me. It's worth it for all of us. It's beneficial for all of us to have open conversations because it's not like you're a disposable friend we're friends for life you know like i only call you like there's you i'm i only have these friends so i'm willing to we're all willing to put in the work to to you know talk and fix whatever it is that needs to be fixed and sometimes it takes years to like realize these things about people like it takes years to finally like realize whether or not like, oh, you're not who I thought you were.

Or like, oh, like because, you know, we'll meet somebody and I'll be super excited about them and be obsessed with them and love them. And it's like a year later, I've now seen their ugly side. Yeah. I'm like, oh, my gosh, this is really bad. I feel like there's very little information in this question. And like it's it's hard because you're this person is just saying okay i found out this person is racist that can mean a lot of different things because a lot of people kind of have a different definition of what that means

if this person is being very ignorant i think it is important to like have the conversation at least trying to be like hey would you be willing to talk about these things because if they're not even willing to like like if they're just going to be limiting their thinking and not even willing to try like i don't know like have you because you you've had yeah you have stories i have okay so this is crazy because like everybody knows i like to drink i like to have a good time you know what i mean like so like so me and my friends like we're drinking and i'm i'm getting cool with this like one guy like we're always like with the same like people or whatever so then look got drunk and straight up told me he started crying he's like keith like you are an amazing

person like i was racist like i grew up racist he grew up in trailers the whole thing you know what i mean a lot of these people that i'm saying that I'm friends with, people would never expect me to be friends with too, mind you. And just from like appearance, just so you know, just like the vibe. He started crying saying like, I was racist. I was like, I was racist against black people, like really, really crying. And I'm like, whoa, this is a turnaround. Like didn't even know. Cause like, I mean, you're nice to me, but like you were like racist.

Like for you to cry and say that drunk to me but like you were like racist like for you to cry and say that drunk or not like that's a big like step so like after that i was like okay like we're cool and then you know covet hit so like i think they like him and his girl they ended up moving away and it got to the point where i just like facebook you start to see certain shit and you're like oh my god like you are like you said he was and now he's again racist that's that's what it is that's the thing so like what I'd be friends with the racist person somebody tell you they're racist believe them because like I honestly like me personally I would never be friends with the racist I couldn't do me neither I personally

couldn't no one should be friends with you know but, but like, but like, I mean, it's hard for different people. For me as a black man, I just can't do that. No, you know what I mean? And it's like racist on different like whatever. Like, I can't be friends with that. No, like none of that. But for the toxic energy, you know, so but for him, it was, you know, I thought it was changed. So I'm like, OK, like, let me like, yeah, like, bro, like, let's go.

Like, we're cool. Yeah. Oh, but you are go. Like, we're cool. Yeah. Oh, but you are racist. Like, never again. Well, like, somebody says, like, I mean, first of all, he's drunk. So, like, what the line? The truth came out. Yeah.

And it took some time, like a year and some change. Like, you know, like, it was weird. I was like, whoa. That's freaky. I was just thinking, like like i just said never be friends with a racist person i changed my mind wait why because what i worded was wrong okay i think if you are i always just think talking and like showing people like um experiences will change their heart and i think if we don't combat that with love then these racist people are going

to find other racist people and they are going to build a group of racist people you know when a lot of these people in racist groups their hearts can be changed it's just because we keep canceling them and we keep shutting them down you know well i think well from just my personal experience with that like to hear that and then see certain things yeah that's not my place to even trivialize it i can't yeah i don't want to i don't want to talk to this person no you know what i mean like i don't like i for me that was it was the step of like i get that like i'm i was cool to be that for you in the beginning but like when i start to see you I was cool to be that for you in the beginning. But like when I start to see you like just move in a certain way, it's like, oh, like this is not for me to do.

Because the love that I give is like what you get from me. It's immense. But like you just I cut that off. Yeah. Like that's a that's a for me. You know what else is interesting about that question is that like they want to stay friends with the other people. But in my mind, like the other people are also like implicit like yeah it's like if this person feels that safe in this space around like because you you can clock it like you have certain friends

that'll be like well this is where i can say you know what i mean it's like it's like well it's like oh my this friends are racist um so I don't want to hang out with them but I want to hang out with the other people it's like well why are the other people also hanging out with this person like because that's all that it might not be as like stark but it also like it that says something else about that friend group again very minimal information and like the question but it's like we'll look at like your friends are making space for this person that has shown that they act this certain way so like that's also something to to think about and because because sometimes i'm like okay there's this person but i'm like why do they feel

so safe here it's like what the hell like what do y'all say like what do y'all talk about when i'm not like what do y'all like yeah do you just like do you just laugh like do you say anything like are you stepping up? Like, are you just being a bystander? There's a part of me that wants to say, like, if you passionately feel like it, you will hold your ground and you won't hang out with those people until there's a change. Or, like, I think if there's room for, like, casual correction of, like, if they're saying something that's not okay. If, like, they're making weird assumptions. Like, there's a friend who, like, joke about like oh like those sketchy indian

computer farms it's like hey man just don't say that like they were just mentioning like a computer farm of like oh these businesses that use it i was like hey man don't say that don't say that and then and then that was the end of it like if there's ability to like if there's a safe space for you to correct them in the moment but if they're making it if they're making it that hard to work these things out then that's that's not a loving person like why like yeah so i think if you're really passionate about this and you really want to stand your ground you have to like you have to make sacrifices in that way definitely correct but like you said kick them to the motherfucking curb if they are not trying like yeah like like you're if you're you're if you're not a racist person like you're a person

who has love for for all people so like you need to show love and and constructive language when you're talking to that person instead of being like you're racist you're that means you're a bad person and you're you're done unless you turn it around right now like that is not gonna make it that's gonna make it even harder um you're racist you're thinking i'm doing like honestly being aggressive is not cool unless you're trying to fight you're trying to like fight for a yelp discount yeah um we know that's me i'm aggressive when it comes to like, you unlock this to get 10% off and they don't like honor that, then I'm aggressive.

Whatever, Olivia. All right. Let's move on to the next one. I feel like the back burner friend a lot of the time where it always seems like I'm an afterthought or second choice to everyone. I have a lot of friends, quote unquote, but not many people that want to actually spend time with me.

Do you have any advice for creating more deep friendships? I was always, I was always, sorry, go ahead. Well, your person's coming. Just like give it time. If you already have friends, like be, be grateful with what you have. If you already have friends, like be grateful, but your person is one day coming. Like that. Dude, I, I just, this just brought me back to my high school memories.

I was the afterthought friend. Like I always felt like I was invited to these things because of my other friends, you know? And look at me now. You're now bitch. Yeah, your person came. Your people. My people came.

Your tribe. And like, and I'm telling this to myself, that really fucking hit me hard because I remember when I was in high school, I always felt like I was not good enough in friend groups. And that's why in the previous questions, I kind of was like, I never thought I was in high school I always felt like I was not good enough in friend groups and that's why in the previous questions I kind of was like I never thought I would be lifelong friends with these people because they never treated me like lifelong friends I always felt like oh well Olivia's just there and she just tags along I was like the tag along friend in high

school and like that always like and I always knew that and it always like made me feel sad inside but I just like if i could tell myself now like how like are you okay yeah i'm getting emotional about it yeah it's fine please continue no why why no i just relate very hard yeah please continue i was like the tag along friend and like i just thought i i was like just a place filler in the group. And if I was gone or not, they've no one would really like care. But now I kind of found my tribe too, you know? And I,

if I could tell my younger self that I would just be like, yo, like these aren't going to be your friends. Just be patient. Be, be true to who you are because those friends are coming and they're going to love you and value you like so much, you know?

Yeah. Go off. I don't even know. I don't know what to say. Like, cause like, friends are coming and they're gonna love you and value you like so much you know yeah go yeah go off i don't even know i don't know what to say like because like i think i'm like an in-between tribes right now like there's the work tribe like this is like the best family ever but like i feel like i'm in a weird place right now especially with the pandemic like it's just hard to like have friends but like yeah it's also like sometimes it's just hard to, like, have friends, but, like, it's also, like, sometimes it's not automatic, like, especially when you're in your adult life, it's hard to, like, you need to, you need to put in the work to create a friendship, it's, like, especially if, like, it's not like school, where you get to see each other every day, and the friendships can kind of build themselves, like, when you're an adult, it's, like, I've never done, like, Tinder dates,

or, like, dates like that, where it's, like, you get, you sit down with a new person just like get to know them so like i and i also was just like a weirdo in high school i was always the after friend i was always the one that got like ditched me too um and it sucks it sucks but like there i did have a tribe at one point and then that tribe kind of broke apart and then like this this work tribe like our squad like especially when we were working together every single day like i depended on that a lot, especially when I was in a relationship. Like, there was no room to make friends anywhere else. So, like, yeah, I think I'm just, like, I'm waiting for my tribe, like, outside of work. Oh, it's coming.

It's coming. It's coming. It's honestly coming. And then, like, sometimes people, like, leave the tribe, too. Yeah. It sucks. I think that's what hurts is like there are like tribes that ended not on my terms where it's like I love that person and then they hurt me or they wronged me. And it's like, okay, like it's over, I guess. Like it sucks.

It sucks when like it is like a heartbreak in a way when friendships don't continue or like when you realize someone's not who they thought they were, who you thought they were and i'm trying to understand what they're asking i like totally i also think like and i and i just think that if you open yourself up to some weird opportunities or some weird experiences you might find your people there you know like i thought my boyfriends i thought my boyfriend's friends were my friends they are still still my friends. But I also, because of my own personal journey, I have found my personal friends through that journey. And, like, you know, it's such a beautiful thing to, like, I never thought, like, I always thought, like, my early 20s friends would be, like, my friends, right? They still are, some of them but i feel like the ones that i have now are are so close and dear to me because i'm in this new path and i'm learning so much and seeing so much and because of so many things that have happened in the past like six months i've really like

seen like oh okay these are my people because we don't just care about each other we care about the world you know and like for me, that, that- That's next level. Yeah, and like for me, and my circle of influence, all of them care about the world and it makes me do the same. And it's not just like us being catty friends talking about random shit.

It's like, how do we help elevate, you know, like us as like global citizens or whatever. Yeah, there's definitely like there's automatic friends that you kind of like they they're there for you they're at your disposal you can just see all the time and then there's like the real friends because like there's like a super old tumblr quote that i'm remembering where it's like take me there there are friendships where you talk about other people and then there are friendships where you talk about ideas and like the ones that you're able to just just really crack open your brains with each other.

That's great. Yeah. I'm fucking messy. I like a little bit of both. Me too. Me too. It's not to talk about people, but just like, you know, you just go on.

Yeah. It's really great. Yeah, we talk shit about some stupid stuff. But then we also freaking talk about like hey what do we want to see in this world like in the next five years like how do we see our lives like and like and and this like past six months i've just a lot of people have said that to be very frank like a lot of people think oh well she's changed or whatever i'm like no i think i've just just more definite and strong about my position yeah and how i perceive the world and how i would like to contribute and i think yeah i did change but

not in a bad way i think i think if you're not changing what are you doing yeah you're down yeah you got you got to be changing always and it's it's my friends who have really opened my eyes to, like, so many things that I don't even think about. Like, one of my best friends is such an animal lover. And she has, like, just talked to me and just showed me and just, like, explained to me all these things where I look at living things in such a different way now just because of her influence. And like, yeah. And I just I just think that like I've just been on me personally, this like internal growth that I really I really like. And when people try and tell you that, like you've changed, like it's it's weird that they take your own self growth personally. Yeah.

Like like I don't know i feel like like that they should look inward at that point i i think so too people people also just get used to being around also you know what i mean they get used to you being there the way that they want you to be there but like with growth comes change and i have to say during this pandemic so much stuff happened that we that have altered literally a lot of like friend groups family dynamics like the whole thing yeah and like all this stuff like you got it concerted all of these things and it's not just how you you don't you don't know how the other person might be feeling and how they're going through this pandemic because this stuff is hard you know like things are limited but yet not because you have access to so many ideas now but yeah man we're living through a time that's like

i mean this is very interesting this quarantine has definitely made me realize like how much i've neglected friendships and relationships with people and like i do have a lot of social anxiety or just like fear like messing up so like I have played it safe and just not pursued anything and I think my advice to this person asking that question is like you have to put yourself out there like if they aren't they're inviting you to things um what I have done is like I'll make plans and see who will come i will i will arrange a thing like i like hosting things um and i finally like have a an apartment that i can fit people in so like i look forward to doing more things like that but um just engaging yourself like because if especially if like everyone is in their own lives like you can't expect them to um like hook you up and pull you along. Like sometimes you got to really like show who you are and put yourself in there.

I think it's super important to, I mean, I know we're talking about friendships, but I think it's also important to be a better friend. You also have to like be comfortable with like yourself and know what you like like what you value and like spending that's what this quarantine is for me I'm just like obviously we're just spending so much time on our own and it's like well what do I want in my life what energy do I want because like even being like tribe sometimes like you start taking on other people's like characteristics a little bit because you're around each other but it's like okay well what do you what do you like and doing the things that you you want to do and that are positive for you also like i definitely believe attracts the right energy to you you know it's like just do do the things you want to do that

make you feel good and that like make you come alive because like you're the people that are also like in that same space will definitely find you. And like, they'll, they'll, they'll be on like the same like journey or wavelength with you too. If you like to collect beanie babies, then beanie baby people are going to, you're going to attract them. You're going to be friends with my mom. Yeah.

Exactly. That's the thing. You're attracting beanie baby collectors if you love beanie babies a lot. She likes a little tie. What is it? Is it TY? TY. What is that?

Yeah, TY. The brand? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Do you like those? Yeah. I used to have them. Why did you, likes a little tie what is it is it TY TY what is that yeah TY the brand yeah yeah yeah do you like those yeah I used to have them

why did you look at me of course I like Damien look at me I have a little kitten a little horse that was all the questions guys thank you for being so vulnerable

Kourt it's okay it was kind of beyond my control I was like I was like talking looking at her i'm like she has allergies or crying i was really hoping you wouldn't notice and i thought that they would drive back up and go away but um i didn't notice she was like falling in front of me yeah so like friendship what if we sucked and said don't't cry. Anyway. Stop it. I was gonna ask one thing from all of you guys,

like in the friends that you have now, like what do you internally or externally, like what do you celebrate or are most thankful for in the friends that you have now? Like Olivia definitely touched on it, but like I'd like to hear like, cause I know we sometimes have different kinds of friends for different kinds of things, like you said, like some I'd like to hear like, cause I know we sometimes have different kinds of friends for different kinds of things like you said,

like some of them we like to just shoot the shit, some of them we like, you know, I'm gonna hear it. Can I just shout out like a really good friend of mine who in the last few years that I've known him has like changed my life and just how I like look at the world and how I should like give and how I should be like a just

a more caring person who checks me when I get into my feisty stages and I'm a little you know asshole like yo like how would this person feel you know what I mean like Andrew bro I thank you I love you you're moving away I'm sad about it and I love you so much brother like we're the friends that cry together and I just want you to know brother I love you and I gotta take some trips to Portland yeah let's go to Portland so sweet just take me

oh man he's gonna make fun of me for crying all here I call him trash box and he calls me treasure chest that shows you like the dynamic of like that's cute Andrew I love you man That shows you like the dynamic of like. That's cute. That's very fucking cute. Andrew, I love you, man.

Sorry, go ahead. No, I love it. I'm just like, I also just love watching people like, I just, I also really enjoy watching people like love each other, like openly. Like it's very nice. It does it too. Like, I just love it.

Like, honestly honestly like sometimes like no like sometimes like keith go talk with keith and like things like keith says to me like sometimes i'll just like i'll think about them like later on like i'll just be driving and like because like his words of affirmation are so strong and like they're so like um there's something Keith told me like maybe a couple months ago and he's just like you know like oh god I'm so crying no he's just like he's like you know like when people like meet me I want them to be able to see the god in me and I was just like oh like that's so like wow that's so like I don't know I cause like, I'm also like on this like journey with like religion and stuff and like trying to understand

what that means to me specifically. So I just like, I just love, I just love that, especially with like your energy and like your whole vibe and like everything. It's just like, I'm like, yeah, it's like, it's like not like necessarily like see the God, but like just being like a, like energy in the world. And just,

it's like, I just, I just love that so much. My eyes over here. Olivia, Olivia cry. I'm probably not going to cry. Olivia,

take us home with some tears. Oh, Jackie, I love you. I love you. I just have some really, really, really good friends in my life.

And, like, the ones that have been with me, like, since I was really young. And the new ones that I've made on the way. Like, I love my friends so much. You know, it's like a two-way street. We all work on it together. And I would say, like, this is a big shout-out to my boyfriend, Sam. He has really showed me, like, how to be a really honest friend. You know, he is so honest with all of his friends.

And like I see it and I'm like, man, I'm like, this is so refreshing because I feel like a lot of us like try and hide or like they don't want to offend, you know, the other person. But my boyfriend is this whole thing. I think it's just honesty. to offend you know the other person but my boyfriend is this whole thing i think is just honesty like he is always like this friendship is worth it for me and i'm going to be so honest and when i'm upset or when you're upset we can openly talk about it because that's how they're and all his friendships you know grow because of the honest conversations that he has with them and like yeah um i'm not gonna cry right now we did enough for everyone yeah we got it like a stream back here can i show up can i show my

friends yes yeah i was looking for keith and i was like oh no my friend i mean it's basically olivia said but like i just the friends that i've stayed the closest with in the past, like, 10 years are all the people that kind of, like, helps me through just, like, a really rough time. Just, like, a very hard time with, like, dealing with loss and stuff. And, like, when they were, it's, like like they were willing to be honest with me and they're still willing to like raise me up during that time. And also too, like I just have some friends in my life that no matter where I'm at, like,

cause it's like, as like a performer, like that's like, I was like, I can't see myself doing anything else, right? So it's like, they've just shown up for me, like every, like every step of the way, like if it's like well wishes or anything like that and also like again like being very like active and like we can have discussions about like what's going on like in the world and stuff but um i don't know they're just those are my closest friends or people that are honest with me can give me like real ass feedback and be like hey that's not okay hey we're learning together at the same time and just like just just know that like this is our

like our conversations are a safe space and it's like you this is this is where you can make that mistake and i will correct you honestly it's like ask ask me the question because i will tell you what's what's up what's not and it's not out of a place of love. And it's very rarely angry. I haven't been in a fight with someone I consider my friend in a very long time. Because it never gets to that place where it's like, hey, this is where I'm at. You know me. I know you.

I'm like, oh, I pushed a button. I'm sorry. I can apologize before it even gets to that level because I know them so well. So you gotta have friends that go to your funeral and your wedding. Gosh, that celebrate you

and go through the bad times with you. That's good. I think every person deserves a safe space. Like I feel like everyone should have like that group of friends where you can be vulnerable and like say things

that you might be afraid, make you seem like a bad person or those opinions or the feelings about a certain person. You deserve to have a place where you don't have to be on for people. Because I feel like a lot of people struggle with that where they think they have to always be performing and being good.

To keep their friendship, yeah. Keeping those brownie points up. No, you like, it's almost like they become a family in a sense where it's like, hey, we don't have to all be amazing all the time. I feel like I've evolved. I'm very, very, very different from who I was, like, in high school, community college, like, before this job. Like, this job has changed me so much. Thank you.

I needed it. Like I, so I think that's also part of maybe why I don't have a lot of the friends from the past, because even though we still follow each other on Instagram and stuff, like I'm different. And like they're, they're, they know someone who I'm not anymore. So that's probably why I don't have those people. But the people that I am close with

were there for each other when it matters most. I had a friend, I'm going to shout her out. I love Brie so much. That's a film. I'm just shouting her out. And her boyfriend is an awesome dude. She was going through some tough times and I was just like, just come here. She drove an hour or two to stay with me for the weekend.

Like when she needed somebody, I was like, bitch, come over. Like so I do. I appreciate her. And like she she loves hearing everything about my life. Like I feel I normally like only with my therapist be able to like selfishly just talk about my life. Like I feel, I normally like only with my therapist, be able to like selfishly just talk about my life and myself. But like Bree is always down to hear all the drama or just like all my feelings.

And then like, I'm always down to hear what she's going through and we have the same morals and everything. Like that's a good friend. So she's great. But yeah, I, and I love you guys.

Yeah. I think like we've all kind of been friends for different amounts of time but like i know i've just got here can i say just one thing that you're part of this one thing that andrew said to me that i think relates here for all of us andrew said we were around the the fire in the back of their house him and his roommates and he like brought me a drink. He was like, here you go. But he said, we got at least 50 more years together.

And I feel like that about like y'all, like just to be able to do this with you guys and have this type of like 50 years, like, woo. I might die. Like, but anybody, but like, just to think I've never thought that deep into friendship. Like, that's, like, the person that's, like, changed it for me. Like, the game.

Like, 50 more years. Damn, you gonna be around. You, like, you're gonna be around. Like, they want to be around. Yeah. Like, even with them moving, it's like, damn, like, you know, you're gonna be around. Like, that's, like, sorry to bring it back to Andrew.

We ought to meet this guy sometime. I that's like, sorry to bring it back to Andrew. We wanna meet this guy sometime. Oh my God. Yes, 100%. All right, do you guys wanna turn it around a little bit? We can finish this out with a shoot dude. Yeah. Yeah, let's do it. Shoot dude.

Shoot dude. Shoot dude. Shoot dude., dude. Shoot, dude. Shoot, dude. Shoot, dude. Shoot, dude. Shoot, dude. Shoot, dude. Shoot, dude. Shoot, dude.

Shoot, dude. All right. So let's see what Lindsay has to say. I worked at a very large bookstore chain for about six months, and there was a tall, dark British man who would occasionally come in and ask for help finding things or checking on help held orders i was convinced this was my future husband but because of the pressure of a potential wedding he knew nothing about i couldn't talk to him that's such a great way to put it i kept my mouth shut most of the time to avoid saying something stupid or trying to avoid him altogether but one of my co-workers would go as far as to make him wait

until I was free to help. Free meaning she cornered me. One day, I was working in the music and movie section alone, and he walked in and asked to check on a held DVD order. When he was done, he said to me in his perfect British accent, thanks, love. Out of my mouth came something between you're welcome and no problem so i enthusiastically said you problem

there was no recovery there was no effort i just walked away it worked out for me because not long after that i met my actual dream guy and we're getting married next year but i hope the beautiful british man forgives me for ruining our almost marriage because clearly i am a cat that's very sweet oh my gosh that's so cute you problem you problem that's really funny that's so cute that's so funny funny way to put it like that that's the pressure of a potential marriage so i was afraid to say anything that's really funny would you call that a shoot dude is that an embarrassing that's no it's a little embarrassing i think it's so cute no that's like a little slip it's okay she's a good story storyteller yeah oops dude what is the potential what was the potential

marriage part like who's just the pressure she's like yeah it's like her fantasizing about there she was convinced he was the dream guy so like yeah, yeah, oh my God, like I love him. I want to marry him. So she was so nervous at ruining a potential marriage. Yeah, I would assume that was the gender, but I don't know. I get that. Yeah. For sure.

We got some stuff to do today, don't we? Yeah, my face feels dry from all the crying that I did. So I kind of like want to go to the... I know, I want to run straight to the mirror. Yeah. All right. I want some Hawaiian bread. What? There's Hawaiian bread? alright I want some Hawaiian bread what?

there's Hawaiian bread? I just want some Hawaiian bread that sounds good that sounds good alright love you guys thanks for hanging out with me bye thank you

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