Tara Brach - Beloved Community

Episode Date: June 20, 2024

Martin Luther King's term, "Beloved Community," points to our potential for living together with love, justice and respect. This talk explores the often hidden expressions of racism that fuel separation and violence, and pathways toward healing and freeing our collective hearts. NOTE: At the same time as the tragic killings in Charleston, SC, Tara's Wednesday night class was reflecting on racism and the aspiration for Beloved Community. "May we awaken our hearts from the prison of separation; may we seek to end the daily violence, injustice and oppression faced by African Americans." Transcript available here: "Beloved Community" – talk by Tara Brach  

Greetings. We offer these podcasts freely and your support really makes a difference. To make a donation, please visit tarabrock.com. Namaste friends. And all blessings. This is Juneteenth. And when I realized that Wednesday landed on this day, I really wanted to honor it. And I remembered a talk that I gave probably it's nine years ago. And I look back at it. it and it felt so relevant and so alive for today that I wanted to share it with you. It's a talk on beloved community. And I just think there's something each of our hearts really longs for a beloved community. I love the language of it. Where each being is truly treated with

respect, with care. It's a true expression of freedom as a society, this beloved community. And as we know, if we look at any part of the globe, you know, if we look as individuals or society, there's huge conditioning that blocks us from being in relationship in this loving way. There's huge conditioning that really basically keeps us from valuing all beings. Instead, there's a hierarchy and some beings are treated and values. as less important or even as bad. So I want to explore this by sharing this talk, the lenses of racism in the United States, and I speak quite personally about my own experience with this conditioning to create separation

from others. And I also talk about in this the ways we can deepen attention and evolve consciousness, involve consciousness in a way that really lets us bridge the divides with all people and bring more loving to our world. So, I hope this serves. And again, many blessings on this day. So, Namaste. So Sunday at Budapest, the program we had was called Beloved Community. And it's a phrase from Martin Luther King. And it really speaks to this this aspiration that we wake up from that which separates us and in particular wake up from the suffering of racism and live together in a way that's truly respectful and loving, equitable.

So the conference organizer set the stage by introducing those of us that are part of this group and the panel and introducing the topic at which point you could hear series voice saying very loudly. I'm sorry, I didn't quite catch that. And it was an amazing beginning to a program. And I think you can understand why. I mean, here we were exploring what so many of us, you know, this exploration of how we create separation and we get a glance at it. You know, we get a glimmer of ways we create distance with each other and in our world. And then we glance and turn away. We don't quite get it. We don't stay.

We go back to automatic, back to our old habits and identification, so we don't quite catch it. So one way that I understand beloved community is as our evolutionary potential. That it's the inclusive heart and if we look at brain development over the eons we see that the most recently emerged part of our brain, this frontal cortex, and we see that the most recently emerged cortex has this deep capacity, it has a whole neural net for empathy and for compassion and for what we might describe as an inclusive heart, that that's our potential. And you can see that there is a growing sense of interdependence in our world, that we get it, whether it's through the internet and information or whether it's through a global

economy where we really are interdependent, our climate. We get it more and more, this interdependency. And so there's a growing view among psychologists and evolutionary biologists that actually says, even though it might not look that way to us, that violence is decreasing over time on planet earth, human violence, that our brain is developing. Pinker is one of the great ones that has been voicing this in his book Better Angels, but that there's more cooperation, less violence. So, inclusive, loving community is an intrinsic archetypal part of the spiritual path, that vision,

that aspiration moving towards that. And it was so for Martin Luther King and for Nelson Mandala, it was in the Buddhist tradition that's called Sanga. Sanga means that we truly get our relatedness. We live from that deep respect and appreciation of this beingness that shines through each of us. So in the Buddhist teachings, there is no freedom possible unless we really get that interdependence and we live in that sense of true belonging. That it's not like you can go off into a cave and get very, very still and have these wild experiences and realizations

if you don't have that sense of being with others and sensing these beings are part of my web of belonging, there's not a real freedom. Can't be compartmentalized like that. Which goes to one of my favorite personals, which was in tricycle magazine, tall, dark, handsome Buddhist looking for himself. So you get it, I know. I often refer to a verse from Rumi which really says that our path isn't to seek for love, but to seek and find the barriers that we've erected against it.

And it's really a very deep theme in spiritual life that the loving and the awareness is already here, but we have conditioning that's both individual conditioning and our collective conditioning that stops us from inhabiting it. So that's what we're going to look at together. What is that conditioning? And we're going to look at it again, not just individually, but what is it in our collective psyches that stops us from really feeling beloved community?

And I'd like to in this class shine a particular lens on the separation we create through racism. It's, for me, this inquiry with you is deeply personal and alive and immediate. It's not something like, oh yeah, I looked at that and worked through that one. It's very, very alive for me. And I'm very aware of the depth of the challenge, how much reactivity and different views come up. And I'm also aware that I can say in a real simple way,

it's not even a choice to hang out in this inquiry for me. It's like there is no way to keep on waking up unless I examine within myself. And again I said both my own personal condition but also who I am in that collective identity as a white person. There's no way for me to whatever's unseen controls and limits us and if I don't see it it keeps me sex. So it's very personal in that way, the passion for it. So I'd like to start in a broad way about creating separation and then kind of narrow the lens some. And the broadest way that is described is kind of that existential sense of separation that

every living organism has, that every living organism has some perception of, in here is self and out there is universe, other. and that there's a need to protect and further self. And Einstein calls it an optical delusion of separateness. Most of you are familiar with that, the way he describes it. It's very, very useful. And yet it's universal. It's not like it's a mistake.

It's just all creatures have it. And he describes it as a prison because the primal mood of the separate self is fear to the degree that you feel separate. there is fear. There's also craving. It's a flip side of that. So I often describe it as a trance in the sense that when we're in that sense of self and here and other out there, we're organized around defending and getting, we're organized around viewing other in a way that I call unreal other. You can't see the reality of another person when you're

feeling separate. You can't sense the subjectiveness or the sentience of who's really there. So what happens is when another is unreal, and this happens, the more stressed we are, the more others are just like two-dimensional figures out there. And the more that another is unreal, the more we can violate them, the more we can just add stereotypes for our descriptions and not really look at who's there. And my favorite current example of that is this little story of a guy who's sitting at home and he hears a knock at the door and he opens the door and sees a snail on the porch. So he picks up the snail and he throws the snail as far as he possibly can and then three years later there's another knock at the door.

And it's the same snail and the snail says, what the hell was that all about? So I love that one, you know, but that's unreal other. It's like, you know, and then of course, part of unreal others that we then take it personally, if we're the victim. So, okay, so we're talking about the existential grounds right now that we all have this sense of self and other and we make others unreal. And then in an evolutionary way, you know, up until 10,000 years ago, humans ran around these small bands. I think it was like it's 8 to 15 people. and hunter-gatherer time. And it was life or death to recognize who's in your in-group and who's in-the-out-group. So that was like, you know, and that, and we lived in these little bands that were surviving

by having in-group and out-group for 10,000 times as long as we have been in more current forms of community. Okay? Deep, deep impression on our psyches. There's an in-group and there's an out-group. And we are trained like this to look for differences. And we look for differences, obviously in appearance, and then over time we've, you know, look for differences in terms of different views that people have. I mean, it's a really big one. Most of you are familiar with the feeling of when someone doesn't agree with you.

They become a very bad, unreal other. I mean, we really, really feel offended when people don't agree with us. which brings me to my next example of a little girl asking her mother how the human race appeared and the mother's response was, well, God made Adam and Eve and they had children and so all mankind was made. Two days later the little girl asked her father the same question. His response was many years ago there were monkeys from which the human race evolved. So she's a little confusion. She goes back to her mother and says, Mom, you said the human race is created by God and dad say they were developed by monkeys. What's the deal? And the mother answered,

well, it's very simple, dear. I told you about my side of the family and he told you about his. Okay, so we're just planting this, you know, how do we create separation? So through evolution, we snap reaction, look for difference, we're very much into in-group and out-group. And then if we come back to human history, the last few hundred years, who dominated the earth was it was pretty Eurocentric world, other was non-white, so with colonization and you're just dominating the globe, you had a white-centered world for the in-group, okay? And white Eurocentrism was combined with this growing individualism in the ego, which, and what individualism does is this, is it makes us even have fewer sense of belonging. We have this self-reflexive awareness

that's aware of mortality, so we feel endangered and it creates even more of an aggravated sense of needing to dominate, needing to be the one. There's more violence. So one of the things that I found really interesting was this is Carl Young. Let's see if I had. Yeah. Carl Young describes a very interesting dialogue he had with a, in 1924, with a Native American chief and this was kind of the back forth. The chief told Carl Young, he was describing white men, he said, their eyes have a stare at expression. They're always seeking something. What are they seeking? The whites always want something. They're always uneasy and restless. We don't know what they want.

We don't understand them. We think they're mad. And then Carl Young says, asks why he thought that white men were mad. And the response was, they say they think with their heads. And so Young is surprised and says, well, what do you think with? The response is, we think here, and he pointed to his heart. And this profoundly affected Carl Jung and affected his writings, this sense that, um, you know, this truth that when we think with our heads and we're not connected to our hearts,

we're dominated by fear, by a sense of separateness and having to get something and having to violate and dominate. And it's not until we evolve to use these good minds but have them informed by our hearts that we then, as I was talking about earlier, have access, we evolve, we then have access to relatedness and beloved community. So in a way, this chief was pointing to in the Western white mentality and this is a collective identity. I just want to keep naming that, that there is a certain madness is the way he put it, but there's a certain tendency to violate and dominate. And how else can we understand first the violation of planet Earth?

I mean, how could it have happened? If we were connected to our hearts, how could it have happened that we would have been destroying the earth the way we've been destroying the earth? But more to the theme of tonight, how could it have happened? How else could we understand? And I now want to talk about the United States that in just a very short time, in just a few hundred years,

that this madness translated to not only do we decimate the indigenous people in this country, but we kidnapped and enslaved people from another continent and then created this ongoing system of oppressing these people on the basis of a distinction of skin color. All in just a few hundred years. That's that madness. That's that collective psyche that thinks that in some way white is the in-group

and justifies other, because, and just to say again, when those little bands of humans are roaming around, the way they would name themselves, they'd have names for their group that had to do with being human or people. And the names for other, for the other groups, always were something like epithetes that were demeaning, non-human. How else could we go around killing others if they were real others? We couldn't, right? Okay, so we're narrowing down the lens to look at what is the particular conditioning in the United States right now of what happens when you have 200 years of this kind of violence

and oppression where white people are dominating? What happens to the psyche? And this represents trauma and most of us can get it if we look in an individual way of the effect of trauma, we get it. even get it generationally, that if somebody's been traumatized, that's going to affect other generations. Well, if we look at it in terms of what happens, the experience of being perpetrators and the experience of being dominated or oppressed continues over the generations and it affects everybody involved. So one of the things I've noticed when the subject of racism comes up,

people, especially liberal people, say, oh yeah, this is an important thing, but it's a sense like, but this doesn't really involve me or my life or my spiritual path, and yet you can't be in a field of humans where there's been trauma and not be involved. We're all involved. So, slavery in its formal expression doesn't exist, but there's new versions now. And there have been new versions over time. So, the languages, it's been institutionalized and we can see it in education and the access to resources, education, not so good. We can see it for the white identity as just assuming access to jobs, not so for African Americans. There's twice as many blacks as whites that are unemployed, twice as many.

And then we can see in terms of mass incarceration what's happening. So, Oscar Wilde said it best. He said, the past is not dead. It is not even past. And that's one of the things I keep hearing. It's like, well, that was then, but it's not then. It's now. not only does the legacy of slavery go on in terms of how much currently do different humans on the

base of skin color have access to the resources of our culture, but it goes on in our psyches and our very deep sense of identity. So what that means is if you're the one that doesn't have access, there's a sense of inferior, disempowered, threatened. What happens if you're the one that has access. Now, here's what's interesting. The identity gets more unconscious. And the identity is a kind of unconscious sense of privilege and of superiority and of deserving and of taking what to do. And so it's very interesting with whiteness is that you might be in a group of people and describe one person and say, oh yeah, that's an African-American, that's an Asian person. But if you're describing a white person, you don't say, oh, that's a white person. Because it's given

that white is how it is and everything else is different. I like the way, let's see if I can find this. She said it so well. Oh, Tony Morrison, she says, in this country, American means white. Everybody else has to hyphenate. Isn't that true? This is another quote from you on how white, we're so used to white being, and I'm speaking again as you know from the view of a white person. So these are the messages that we get in this country that we don't always notice. Living in a white dominant context, we get these constant messages. For example, these are again whites, our centrality in history textbooks, our centrality, our centrality and media and advertising, our teachers, role models, heroes, heroines,

everyday discord on good neighborhoods and schools and who's in them. Popular TV shows centered around friendship circles that are all white. Religious iconography that depicts God, Adam and Eve, and other key figures as white. What happens? If you're white, you don't really notice it. But you do if you're not white. So, I'm going to make it a little more personal now and say that especially in the last eight years, I feel like I've been on a very humbling and very amazing spiritual journey

around kind of peeling the onion on all this and getting again not just my own conditioning and lens but really as a white person conditioning. And I often think of it as, and I often speak of that we have space suit selves, that each of us has a space suit self. And what I mean by that is this. We all come into a world that's challenging. And most of us have a difficulty feeling really loved or really seen, to some degree or other. So what we do is we develop strategies to get what we need and to protect ourselves, to prove

ourselves, to cover ourselves, that's the space suit. The space suit is all the beliefs and behaviors and so on that we use to make it through a difficult environment. Okay? Now here's what happens is that, and some people call them just defenses and egoic strategies. That's, that's kind of, this is basic psychology. Now, what happens is the more fear and unmet needs, the more we get identified with our space suit. We get identified with our space suit and we forget who's looking through. We forget the awareness and the heart that's there. We get identified. Our spacesuit separates us. Now, not only does this happen in an individual way, like, oh, in my family, I was neglected and somebody else might say, oh, in my family, it was just a whole

lot of criticism or whatever. We have our individual shapes of our spacesuit the way we then try to work with that. But we have collective spacesuits. And it's much easier to recognize our collective space suit when we're talking about being oppressed or excluded in some way. So, if you are Jewish or Muslim or feminine, female, or gay, then often your identity will be with a space suit, you'll be conscious of being identified and that'll be part of your spacesuit and the way you're organized, including if you're African-American. It's much more invisible what your spacesuit identity is when you're white and yet it has an effect. And that's because we fixate on where we feel oppressed, but we don't always

realize when our spacesuit has privileged to it, our dominance. Does that make sense? So we have a collective identity we're not seeing, those of us that are white, that has to do with dominance. and when we have that, the others perceive, this is the way we're, again, the lens, there's still a perception of difference, there's an assumption of dominance, and others, we take it for granted that whites are in charge often, our leaders often, are the decision-makers, are the ones that are set the norms, it's like we don't think twice about it. One friend of mine just recently described a vacation that she had in Jamaica. And she ascribed the resort and of course most of the people in the resort, most of the tourists

were white and pretty much everyone that was a service person in the stores and the shops driving them, restaurant, everything were Jamaicans and she said she went through this mental exercise of imagining if it was flipped and imagining what it would be like to be at a resort where it was all people of color and those that were serving were all white. Take a moment with that, that the wealthy tourists are all people of color and those that are making the beds and making the meals, driving the buses, in the shops, are all white. It's a double take.

We don't recognize the benefits and the positioning. After starting to watch my own assumptions for a while, I was with my husband and it was in the summer and we were doing a swim and we were trying to get to this island and I hadn't, it was the first swim of the season, I hadn't been swimming and I was a little nervous about how well my body would do and I was amazed that I got in that water and I got into this rhythm and I could I felt strong and I was moving and I felt athletic and balanced and good, got to the island, took a little rest, enough of a rest to really have strength, came back and oh my God, I was like winded and off balance and so on. I realized I had been going with the current out to the island

but I didn't know it. That is an incredible to me was like, oh, that's white privilege. That's white dominance. You don't notice how many doors open in this life for you. So, part of it, a deep part of it in terms of the current, is the feeling of fitting in, the feeling of being part of the culture that's on top. And it isn't just in society out there, it plays out in spiritual communities every bit as much. and I wanted to share with you, this is a blog post, that a man that had come to this class, this about four years ago, wrote after his first time in this class. That's what I want to share with you.

This is written by an African-American man and he called it the color of the Buddha heart. When I arrived, I was a little early so I sat down at the end of the second row and began to read a book I'd purchased awaiting the waiting for the meditation. The building slowly filled the capacity and seemed by the time the meditation began. Every seat in the house was filled except one, the one next to me. I began a little set off by this until the ghost of race's past sat down next to me. He said, empty seats are devoured in this hall, so why am I sitting next to you? His rap filled my mind with anger and frustration. I ignored and tried to focus on the meditation, but I couldn't. He said, why am I the only person who sit next? You do? They think you'd rob them,

he asked. No, that's absurd, I replied. I don't think they felt that way. The ghost responds, well, maybe you have an awful smell. No, I'm clean. You look intimidating? I don't believe a 41-year-old black man and dress pants and buttoned down creates fear and intimidation. It's because you're new? I don't know. This situation bothered me for the rest of the evening to the point I didn't and couldn't follow the rest of the Dharma talk. And I remember the teacher announcing that volunteers were needed with the tea and snack table. It was my intention to help out, but I thought to myself, they don't want a black man to help.

So right after the service was over, the ghost of racist past escorted me out. So that was here. And that was about four years ago. The unusual and kind of beautiful end of the story is that he and I became friends and he's now serving on IMCW's board so he didn't go away. But that's not what would usually happen and I can understand why it wouldn't happen. It's painful to know that for all our best intentions we're missing an awareness of what it really means to carry a certain identity and how to be really sensitive to

the impact of that. So I want to spend the rest of our time with the inquiry of okay, so what heals us, what helps to awaken us to that space of beloved community? Because I've been watching how the Dharma, the teachings, the ways of paying attention and we'll do it. They will do it. The more we pay attention, the more we're going to really want to feel what is creating separation and we'll start examining. But it needs to then at some point become very intentional. So we're examining it because we really want to learn and understand. So we're examining because we really want to get the landscape

of what actually has happened in this country and what's actually shaping my identity. what is it that I'm not seeing? That's been my biggest question. What is it I'm not seeing? So, as a collective we're beginning to wake up. This last year was extraordinarily painful in its wake-up potential, as many of you know,

that in a sense, whites are forced to bear witness to what happens in a daily way to African-Americans, but seems to be a rare occasion because of the way it's presented in the media with Michael Brown, with Freddie Gray, with the others that were highlighted. And the hope is that the disturbance and the pain

and the horror of that can lead to the beginning of reparative response. But it is beginning to happen that there's more attention. So it's up to us that feel it, and to let the shake up really have us pay deeper attention. So I'll say on a personal level that up until about eight or nine years ago, if you had asked me, I would have said that I had probably had some unconscious biases, but I was not prejudice. And I would have said that I would have assumed that the Buddhist Sanghas were pretty welcoming.

and my background is that my father was an attorney, he was a civil right, did a lot of civil rights law. His friends were very, very mixed. It was very unusual for that time, but that's just the way I grew up. When I was in grammar school, I'd be one out of five white kids and an all African-American school. So I had an unusual flip on that one. And I've also lived a number of rounds of my seasons of my life being an outsider in the sense of wearing garb for 10 years, where anybody looked at me would have seen a person in garb and thought me is different. So I thought, so because of those things, I just assumed, you know, that I was somewhat awake to this stuff. But I got, I got the rug pulled out from under me and it happened because of certain friendships

that got really deep with a handful of people of color. And this is. area in the DC area that started letting me know what life was like beyond my bubble, really letting me know. I want to just give you a couple of examples because it happened through these friendships, it happened through a diversity community, a sangha that about 12 of us formed that where we really had the intention of, I want to know what life is like for you. That was the inquiry. What's life like for you? And how does the way I impact that life? How do my unconscious beliefs and actions impact you? So I want to give you just a couple of examples of my wake-ups. One of them was one friend in this Sangha, this diversity

community, African-American woman describes driving around with her father when she was growing up and how periodically he'd be pulled over by the police for nothing, just because he was a black man, because that's what happened. And she described how painful it was to see his humiliation at her watching it happen. And it hit me what that was like, that his dignity was taken away he felt in her eyes and the profound impact of that. And because my white space suit self, my, out of my collective white identity expects respectful treatment. If my father, if that that happened to my father, that would shake my world as a young person. Does that make sense? I just, it just, that got to me. It was the same thing, it was something like kind of a simple

example that went, oh. Another one, again, happened in this room where a friend of mine from that, that diversity community came to the class here. We were talking about, I was talking about being able to mirror, when we're bringing up our children, be able to mirror their goodness and give them a sense of confidence in themselves and like the unlimited capacity that they have to really make it and be all they can be in the world, that kind of a talk. And she came back and raised her hand and said, this is a good one, she said, well, I'll tell you, I want to give my son fear. I want him to be afraid because I am scared to death every time he leaves the house that he's going to get either arrested or killed. Because, as many of you

know, one out of three African-American males spends time in jail in their lifetime. Well, she had a right to be afraid. And she didn't want her son being cocky or oblivious or whatever because she'd rather him scared but alive. And again, that started making this dent in terms of my, you know, white space suit that basically assumed that doors would open for my son. that he'd go into the world and have opportunities and if he was there and trusted who he was, he'd take advantage of those opportunities.

That was just an assumption. That's white privilege. So, what I'm really getting at is what's come up in these last years is that becoming aware of my spacesuit self and the collective white spacesuit. It's not just a useful thing. it's become a central part of spiritual awakening. I can't be whole without including those I've excluded in my heart. And my friends, I have one friend that, right after Michael Brown was killed, you know, the Buddhist voices were quiet after Ferguson.

All the other religions, even if it was just pro forma, at least they said something, but the Buddhists were really quiet. And I want to read you something she wrote. It's an African-American friend who's a teacher also. She says, well, I wish there wasn't so much silence, fear, and indifference among white, sunga siblings on the issue of race and racism, this is not an indictment. I want you to know that as a black woman in this community, that I am dealing with frightened boys and angry men in my family.

I want you to know that what you see on the news could well be my grandson or son or and our communities. I want you to know that your collective hearts and wisdom are missed in this struggle, which belongs to all of us. And I want you to know that this walk is difficult and perhaps endless and that writing to you is not easy but rather heart-wrenching. So she was writing to that collective white identity that was kind of asleep a bit. When we don't pay a attention. Others are still unreal others. We have to get close in to feel this isn't just something out there going on in the world. This is something in here that wants attention. I remember after Ferguson, because something in me said, I just want to be like, I really

want to get it. I went into Washington when there was the vigil of grieving mothers. Was anybody here, anybody here go to that? This is a group of about 15. grieving mothers, yeah. These are women whose sons had been killed by the police from all over the country. They got together and they were telling their stories. And, you know, one of them told how, you know, her son got shot the day before her birthday,

he had been planning her party. And another was described that when, after her son was shot, he said to the police, I wasn't doing anything wrong. Why did you shoot me? Another one was about to get married. Another one was shot about yards from a hospital, but the police refused to take them to the emergency room. These are mothers telling their stories that broke my heart and would break any heart of anybody here who would get close enough and we have to let our hearts

be broken. Otherwise, we're going to stay in a very insulated identity because you can live for decades and not get exposed and then not care enough to be part of the healing. We have to pay attention. We have to pay attention. From a genocide memorial center, Rwanda, there's a quote that really struck me on a plaque. And this is what was written, if you knew me and you really knew yourself, you would not have killed me. So, I'm going to just jump a little and say in a very, kind of a different tone that I'm actually hopeful. I'm hopeful. It's like part of me wants to cry and part of me

wants to say to you, I'm hopeful right now. I'm hopeful about beloved community. I actually feel like we're evolving and that it's incredibly slow and incredibly painful and we're evolving. And that the way we keep evolving, and this is what the Dharma are, these teachings offer us, is a way to pay attention. And that means that the more we get touched, the more we want to really get it. And for those that are listening and are from this country, United States, there's a very particular history we have. This legacy of slavery is very particular and the ways that being in a place of privilege and

dominance that we're blind to it is very particular. It takes effort to get to know what happened and to get to know our part in it. It's not about making anybody wrong. In fact, one of the things I love most about, there's some very beautiful movements that have been emerging, especially among the black front line communities and one of the main teachings in them, Black Life Matters. One of the main teachings is love. It's basically we got to love ourselves and each other through this.

It's really true. If we're going to have the courage and honesty to look at. look at where we're blind or where we've been holding on to dominance and not even knowing it and enjoying our privilege or whatever it is, we have to be able to see that and be incredibly forgiving because it's not a personal bad personhood thing. It's just a collective conditioning. It's not our faults. And yet we can be responsible. We can respond. So we have to learn about the particulars, the realness of what's emerged. And, We need to engage with others.

In Washington, D.C., we have affinity communities. We have people of color groups that were safe enough to really begin to process. We actually have a part of a year-long white awareness group. We need to be in situations that are safe enough to speak what's true and examine the identities that have collected and we need to be similarly with each other in mixed situations, mixed racial situations, as we get a little bit of more mature and able to speak from wisdom and be able to name where the hurts are, be able to name our sorrows, be able to name our fears, not to be afraid of anger. So easily in Buddhist

communities, anger is described as bad and so there's no room for anger when anger's part of the weather systems that are moving through. We've got to make room for them. And there's wise ways to do that. So we need to be with each other, engage with each other, and we need to be in solidarity, in helpfulness, aligning ourselves with those that have been suffering from white dominance. We need to get on their team. And it's not so that we're helping out the other, it's because it frees us. It frees us all. Maybe I'll close by saying that then I'd like to do a brief meditation with you that I think will help us in a little bit of our processing.

Last month I went to a retreat. I was part of a teaching team that was a historic retreat in the Buddhist community because we had a very mixed race teaching team and on opening night I looked out at the group of people that had gathered and 45% of the people in the people in the people, and the group or people of color. And I started crying when I just to have the realness of it because everything in me went, this is the community I want to belong to, this richness of being in our togetherness, you know, not to be in little bubbles, to be in our togetherness with this shared intention to wake up. So Einstein, I mentioned, writes this op.

delusion of consciousness that keeps us separate in the ends that quote by saying our task must be to free ourselves from the prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty, beloved community. So let's practice together a bit. Let's just take a few moments to give ourselves that gift of deepening attention. In the starting place with deepening attentions, notice what's going on inside you right now and see if it's possible to just recognizing whatever you're feeling right now and allowing it to be as it is. Just allow it to be as it is. If we want to wake up from limiting identities that separate us, we have two tools.

One is to notice what's happening, notice what's happening in our own bodies and minds, notice what's happening in the collective, and the other is to regard that with deep compassion. No blame, just compassion. So we begin right now in our own individual body and heart. What is happening? What's the feeling tone in the body, the heart? If you'd like, you put your hand on your heart and just offer a very kind presence with however it is.

If in listening tonight you've had reactivity of any sort, feelings of anger or hurt or confusion or overwhelmed, aversion, just to agree to let those weather systems move through. It's okay. It's part of it. You might widen your attention just to sense we've been talking about the space suit or collective identity. You might sense not as much personally but just as a whatever your identity is, whatever your identity of races is a person of color or a white person.

Just to notice what the attitude or what the beliefs, assumptions. Again, just noticing and holding with kindness. If you have felt oppressed, if you felt treated unjustly, then to just let that be there as part of this collective identity. And if you've been in the dominant culture, just to notice what is the space suit identity with that? Holding it with honesty and curiosity and kindness. You might notice if there have been a space suit identity with that.

been assumptions of superiority or inferiority in terms of color skin. Just to have the inquiry here. You might bring to mind one particular place with a person of difference where you feel separation and where you're aware of it. Just look honestly at whatever assumptions, whatever biases, maybe the bias that you feel inferior and look down upon, that you're looked down on, that you're pushed out, or it may be one of in some way feeling superior, in charge. But just take one example in your life with a person of difference. And again, just let yourself be aware of with honesty, seeing if it

can be not so personal, more just sensing, okay, so this is a space suit identity, a collective identity that has this kind of built-in conditioning, honest and accepting. And I wonder if you can look at that person who when that person's of difference and seems unreal, see the possibility of looking more deeply at who that person really is right now, whoever you have in mind. it's a person that's dominant or a person that's been oppressing or a person who you're feeling superior to. Just look more closely and see if you can see into that person's humanity and goodness.

This is closing words from Nelson Mandala. He says no one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin or his background or as religion. People must learn to hate and if they can learn to hate they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite. Even in the grimest times in prison when my comrades and I were pushed to our limits, I would see a glimmer of humanity in one of the guards, perhaps just for a second. But it was enough to reassure me and keep me going. Man's goodness is a flame that can be hidden but never extinguished. As we close, may we feel that longing of our hearts for beloved community.

May we feel our potential to wake up from that which separates and to hold hands with the depth of loving, the depth of respect. And in that, can we find our freedom together? Namaste and thank you for your attention.