Tara Brach - Facing Pandemic Fears with an Awake Heart (2020-03-18)

Episode Date: March 19, 2020

Facing Pandemic Fears with an Awake Heart (2020-03-18) - While it's natural to feel fear during times of great collective crisis, our challenge is that fear easily takes over our lives. This talk expl...ores how the mindfulness and compassion of the RAIN meditation can help us find an inner refuge in the face of fear, and deepen our loving connection with each other.

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Starting point is 00:00:01 The following talk is given by Tara Brock, meditation teacher, psychologist, and author. So we begin again, a namaste and a welcome to each of you. It's really one of those strange things with this virtual world that usually, as many of you know, there's a live group that I'm with and I've probably had about 30 hugs before I sit down to give a talk. So now I'm feeling a virtual collective hug going on and I'm trying to. to imagine you and listening from many, many different places around the globe. And it's very sweet, very sweet to be with you. What I'd like to reflect on tonight is very much what is right in the times, is what it means to face a pandemic, a time of really widespread fear.
Starting point is 00:01:10 How we can do that with a compassionate heart. And I really invite you as we will be doing some experiential. reflections and so on as we practice together. It's so powerful to keep remembering and visualizing that you are joining in with humans from all parts of the globe, beings like you who really want to live with presence and courage and love through these times because it's so important to realize our togetherness. I don't need to name it really. These are frightening times. And I imagine, like myself, most everyone listening has some real fear, maybe for yourself or for others that are close in, or maybe it's the fear for so many in our world that are struggling.
Starting point is 00:02:05 And what is going on now feels quite different than personal suffering. And what I mean by that is, in contrast to if we get that cancer diagnosis, or relationship fails, we're all in it. There's that well-known saying, be kind. Everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. And what's growing clearer than ever is that each of us is having to face at a different pace but face our vulnerability
Starting point is 00:02:40 and it feels out of control and it can feel scary. I want to share personally, if we were in a live group, I'd be asking us to kind of talk to each other and share, well, how is it for you right now? For me, my daughter-in-law's pregnant, and she's a nurse working at the largest hospital in the San Francisco area committed to staying on. So she's super high risk. And my son's father, who's a very dear friend, lives with them because he's very ill. He has a severe heart condition. So he might not survive the virus and it's very likely to be brought into that home. It's complex, but that's scary. And then of course, I have many more,
Starting point is 00:03:32 I have friends in quarantine as probably so many of you and many, many friends who are financially on the edge. And we know pandemics are toughest on those who are most vulnerable. It's been like this through history. So those with the least access to good jobs and reliable incomes to the resources really of our society, they're the ones that are most likely to contract the virus, to die of it, and if they don't die, to be financially devastated. So as I imagine this, as I think of this, and it's very much in my heart and mind, of the close ones in and those that I know and those that I don't know and how our hospitals are quickly running out of supplies, there will not be enough beds. There won't be enough ventilators. Well, what comes up in me, just to name it as this very
Starting point is 00:04:30 real mix of a fear, I feel grief with my kind of my heart's anticipating real loss. There's a rawness. There's a tenderness. And with all that is also a sense of of, of possibility, that the possibility that this suffering, it's so deep and so wide, will wake up our hearts in a collective way. And many of you are familiar, I know, with the bodhisattva aspiration, a bodhisattva is an awakening being. And the words are, may whatever arises, whatever circumstances arise, may they serve the awakening of compassion. So I want to bring that into our shared reflection because this prayer is really in very deep in me that may this suffering awaken this heart in all hearts. May it help make love go viral.
Starting point is 00:05:36 That's really the prayer. So maybe I'll pause for a moment and just invite you to sense in what is it like for you in these times of global crisis where many have already suffered and many much sufferings yet to come? I want to invite you to as the poet Martha Postalway says create a clearing in the dense forest of your life and let these moments right now be a pause where you listen inwardly and feel what is here? What wants attention? What maybe have you been unwilling to feel? And as you let yourself touch, what really is living in you right now,
Starting point is 00:06:52 your own perhaps sense of vulnerability, sorrow, fear, you might ask the question that as I face this collective suffering, what is being called forth in me? What is it that's being called forth? How do you want to be? Who do you want to be in the midst of this? These are important questions, my friends. They're important because our prayer,
Starting point is 00:07:38 our sensing, who do I really want to be through this, that has a power to guide us. Many of you know and love this teaching from Zen master Ticknod Han. I circulated it some in the last week or so, and it helps me every time I reflect on it. He writes that when the crowded Vietnamese refugee boats met with storms or pirates, if everyone panicked, all would be lost. But if even one person on the boat remained calm and centered, It was enough.
Starting point is 00:08:17 It showed the way for everyone to survive. So here we are. We're in the midst of this huge unprecedented uncertainty, reactivity and fear and confusion and a lot more. Can we be that person? Because in a way, we've been training for this. Each of us in our own ways, we've been training how to open more in our personal life to the joys and the sorrows, to the fears, to the losses
Starting point is 00:08:53 within a way cart. We've been training. So if you're intentional, right at this juncture in time, if you're intentional, how you want to move through this, the suffering that arises can turn you towards your deepest resources. We kind of get backed into it. into our bravery and into our wisdom and our love. And I'm sure you've seen it in your own life, how it's often the periods of suffering, the real losses, the failures, when we actually grow, when our consciousness wakes up some.
Starting point is 00:09:36 So we'll look together now at how these very circumstances of our times, the dangers that are presented to our body, bodies, our health, our life, our loved ones, our financial security, how these very circumstances can be a grounds for compassion. We'll explore that together and I'd like to do this in two parts. First, how what's going on and what's coming up in us, how we can then create, find an inner refuge of love and of presence. How can we do that? And the second part is how we can find refuge with each other. Because if ever there was a time for Sanga,
Starting point is 00:10:23 if ever this world is going to experience truly moving through something, holding hands, whether it's, we might call it virtually, but our hearts together, this is the time. So we start with the first. And I'd like to name that it's important as we practice with the fears, that come up as we seek inner refuge that we remember that fear is utterly natural and appropriate when we're facing danger and loss. I love the language. It's nature's protector. It's telling us to take good care. And in many ways, in some parts of the world and with some of us, I'd say the
Starting point is 00:11:07 United States, we haven't been awake and scared enough to do what we needed to do. to prevent as much loss as may be coming. So fear's an intelligent part of us. And so often when it comes up, there's a sense, oh, I shouldn't be experiencing this. There's something wrong with me for feeling fear in a sense that we should just try to get rid of it. So for me, one of the most powerful little practices I do
Starting point is 00:11:39 when fear comes up is I'll mentally whisper, this belongs. It's like it's a wave in the ocean and it belongs. So fear's natural. It's intelligent. And the challenge as we know is that if we don't know how to be mindful of fear, you know, fear possesses us, then it can become truly debilitating. When we get hijacked by fear, we lose contact with our most recently evolved part of our brain, our frontal cortex. We we lose contact with compassion. We lose contact with perspective, with humor, with all executive functioning. So it's a matter of degree, of course, but fear when it takes over causes a tremendous amount of suffering. And in a pandemic, it's contagious. So it can become widespread and it becomes
Starting point is 00:12:34 one of the greatest dangers of a pandemic. So again, that question, can we be that person in the who feels the intelligence of the fear but knows how to hold it with mindfulness and with compassion. Because this is where the training and mindfulness comes in. And we're going to explore it bringing rain, which is a weave of mindfulness and compassion, to fear. But first to say, many of you are probably aware that, along with my colleague Jack Cornfield, I teach a mindfulness teacher training certification program and a number of people in the current cohort are from China. And several of them reported in.
Starting point is 00:13:21 They told us that the Chinese government has just officially recommended that to reduce stress and support community during these times, everybody in China should practice mindfulness meditation. So I heard this and kind of celebrated it's pretty cool. And some of you might know that I and a couple of colleagues are currently offering webinars, mindfulness webinars to the House of Representatives and staff. So here we are now waiting for the official word that we're supposed to do physical distancing, washing hands, quieting our minds, and arriving in presence. May it be so.
Starting point is 00:14:05 So let's take a look. How do we find that inner refuge of calm in the midst of the storm for ourselves and for the sake of others? And we begin, and I'd like to start by saying, when fear is really strong, when it's the level of panic or it's trauma, or what's called outside the window of tolerance. And that's a phrase from my friend and colleague Dan Siegel, a great psychiatrist. and he describes the window of tolerance, if we're within it, if fears within it, then we can bring mindfulness and compassion and really transform our relationship to it. But when it gets outside the window of tolerance, we first need to calm down our nervous system.
Starting point is 00:14:51 We need to do some reducing of the activation of the sympathetic nervous system, of fight-flight-freeze. So there are a number of ways we can do this. and you are probably familiar with them. They're all forms of nurturing ourselves, helping us feel some sense of safety and love. And one of them that is so helpful is breathing, a long, deep breath, breathing and counting to five in the in-breath,
Starting point is 00:15:19 and then counting to five in the out-breath. And if you can do that for a few minutes, 10 minutes, 15 minutes, you totally shift your nervous system around. Other ways of calming fight-flight freeze, grounding, and that means feeling gravity, feeling your belonging to the earth. Part of grounding might be to touch the fabric of what you're wearing and to sense the surface of the desk or the material of your chair, name something you're seeing in the room so that you're bringing yourself into the here and now with your senses.
Starting point is 00:15:55 Another way of reducing fight-flight freeze is by offering comforting phrases to yourself or by imagining a person or a place that feels safe to, person that's loving. And then there's the physical ways of shaking, of stretching, of free movement, dancing, walk in nature. So each of these that I'm naming, has a common denominator in a sense that they actually quiet thoughts. And that's important because, as you know, fear thinking, the thoughts in our mind then affect our biochemistry.
Starting point is 00:16:39 And we get trapped in a cycling that keeps us a prisoner of fear. The most basic practice for quieting thoughts is to train and being mindful of thinking. so that as you're meditating, you're just getting the knack of noticing when a thought's there. So you can actually say, oh, this is a thought, and have a choice to come back to the breath or the body or to sounds. One of the most intuitive and true and useful kind of quotes that is attributed to the Buddha is that whatever you read, regularly think about, that becomes the inclination of your mind. These are times when there is real danger around us that we actually go on hyperdrive with worry. So it's intelligent to be aware of danger and it is actually causes suffering and makes us
Starting point is 00:17:46 less effective in responding when we perseverate. It's always been interesting to me, that the word worry has the roots in the English language of strangle to strangle. So the intention in practice of mindfulness is to become mindful of fear thinking and come back into our senses. If we can come back into our body or to the breath or to our senses, we can then have a choice as to we can deepen presence and we can really begin to heal the roots of the fear. So once we've done that, once we've dealt with super intense fears, we've grounded, we've shake, we've done whatever we do to calm the nervous system, that's when we can start deepening attention with rain.
Starting point is 00:18:40 For those of you that aren't familiar, rain is a weaving of mindfulness and compassion. And the letters of the acronym give us an easy to remember sequence. that can help us to recognize what's going on, R, A, allow it to be there, I, investigate it, and N, nurture it. And then there's after the rain where we actually rest in presence. This weave of mindfulness and compassion in a kind of evolutionary sense
Starting point is 00:19:18 shifts us from fight-flight freeze to attend and befriend. I'm thinking right now of my favorite story that in a sense is the most psychologically sophisticated in some of the Buddhist lore is of the Buddha teaching. And he teach in these fields and there'd be many people there. And often when he'd be teaching the god of the shadow side whose name is Mora. And that's the god of fear of hatred. of anger, of lust, of confusion, of uncertainty, Mara would always show up, and Mara would kind of
Starting point is 00:20:00 lurk around the sidelines. And the Buddha's loyal attendant, and who's also his cousin, Ananda, would see Mara and be pretty freaked out. Oh, my God, fear, fear's here, you know. And he'd go to the Buddha and say, what are we going to do? And the Buddha would calm him down and say, it's fine. Then he'd walk over to Mara and he'd say, I see you Mara, come, let's have tea. I see you, Mara, come, let's have tea. And this is a model of how we can come into relationship with fear in a way that frees us. It's also, you can see it in rain, how it works, that when we start with the recognizing, that's, I see you, Mara. Let's have tea. Allow. We're not going to fight. It's okay. It's kind of the beginning of warmth. And then the investigate is, I really see you,
Starting point is 00:21:04 Mara, looking deeper into Mara, really understanding Mara, and nurturing is when having tea becomes a sense of communion of love. So we're going to look at this a little more closely. would like to just make a few comments on, because we're particularly applying rain to fear in this exploration. And some of the keys are that recognizing means whatever is predominant in the moment. And it's a very powerful way, if you can, when you recognize it, just with a mental whisper, name what you, are aware of. Okay, fear, anxiety, worry, agitation. There's really good research, one I'm thinking of
Starting point is 00:21:56 from UCLA that describes how when you name an emotion, it reduces the limbic activity, the unpleasant emotions, and it activates the prefrontal cortex, which gives you much more resourcefulness. So naming an emotion just right at the very get-go. Okay, fears here. There's a little more space, there's a little more awareness, you've reconnected to your resourcefulness. The shaman have an understanding that is when you name a fear, it loses its power. Of course, not all at once, but this is the beginning of rain, is recognizing the power of naming. Then the second step allowing. Now what happens when we try to allow fear? It's not easy. Because most of us wants to
Starting point is 00:22:47 it to go away. So you'll notice with allowing, and there's just some tips here to help you as you practice, you'll notice with allowing comes bargaining mind. Okay, I'll allow you to be here if you'll go away. The problem is, it knows. So you can't really get away with bargaining mind, but it's natural. It's natural that there's a part of you that wants the fear to go away. So allowing doesn't mean you have to wholeheartedly toss aside all resistances and just open your being because you can't legislate that it just means there's some level of willingness to let it be there to let be some level of willingness and that you can offer because there's some wisdom in each of us that knows that what we resist persists that if we fight it we're going to be imprisoned by it
Starting point is 00:23:44 So the A allow, I often will just say, okay, this belongs, as I mentioned earlier. That creates some space of allowing. So we've just done recognized as I see you, Mara, and allow, okay, we're going to get together, we're going to just, I'm just going to be with you for a while. It's like I'm willing to pause with you. With fear, we typically need to go deeper, which is why we need the investigate and the nurture. Now investigating, we're really asking ourselves, well, what am I unwilling to feel about this? And investigating is somatic.
Starting point is 00:24:27 The biggest misunderstanding of rain, and if you misunderstand it in this way, there'll be no real healing, is that investigating is cognitive. There can be some cognitive questions, but they need to bring you back into your, your body because as we know our issues are in our tissues so it's not until we bring a full presence to the fear in our body that we actually find freedom from it so the investigating might have a question like what most wants my attention where am i feeling this what does it feel like and with investigating it's very helpful to bring your hand to wherever you feel the fear and it's usually the throat, the chest, the belly. There's two reasons. One is that when you bring your hand there,
Starting point is 00:25:20 it'll help you keep your investigating attention where you're looking because our mind tends to scatter. So it helps to focus the investigation. But it also begins to offer some nurturing. because if investigating isn't gentle, isn't kind, then we won't be able to really discover anything. You might think of the parts of us that are fearful as these shy creatures that hide in the shadows of the woods, and we're trying to bring them into the light of awareness with investigating, and that means it needs to be an invitation.
Starting point is 00:26:00 You know, we need to invite the vulnerability to show itself. so that hand can be helpful with that. Then comes the nurturing. We investigate and find out, oh, what does this vulnerable part really need? And the nurturing, we really have to customize. Each one of you needs to find for yourself what really feels nurturing in this moment?
Starting point is 00:26:27 And with fear, as with any other emotion, sometimes it'll be words of comfort. Sometimes it'll be words like, you know, I'm here, I'm not leaving, I care about you, you're not alone, I'm sorry, and I love you. It's okay, sweetheart. There's different words you might find. Often it's the continued touch and to keep it tender. And sometimes, as we'll practice, we're going to practice in a few moments doing a light rain, we let the nurturing come from a larger source. Nurturing doesn't mean, it's self-nurturing. Nurturing means that we're nurturing the vulnerability, calling on whatever source of love, our own away card or something that we perceive as larger, to offer kindness.
Starting point is 00:27:20 Let me give you a little example that is quite current with myself, working with fear and bringing rain to fear. And this was just a few days ago, because as I shared with you, my nervous system is agitated. I've woken up in the middle of many nights now, sensing those that are close to me that are vulnerable and also just the countless numbers of vulnerable people. It feels like a lot of impending loss. So often I'll do my meditation down by the river when I'm walking and I'll walk and then do a meditation sitting on a rock by the river.
Starting point is 00:28:02 and I was feeling the agitation of my body so I recognized I just named it okay agitated afraid and then a was allow just okay agreeing to let it be there I didn't like the feeling so I was allowing that I didn't like the feeling but begin to investigate and asking myself well what's this like and I could feel it it was in this chest area and sensing it was kind of squeezing and there was kind of a crushing feeling. And it helps sometimes with investigating to just name what you're noticing there, you know, just a mental whisper, feeling into what was most vulnerable. And then the investigating was, well, what really am I unwilling to feel or what really wants attention? And I went right into the epicenter of where there was the most of a twist and a squeeze and the unpleasantness
Starting point is 00:29:00 of fear and I just started breathing with it and the intention was a kind of surrendering presence can I just feel this just feel this exactly as it is and as I did I just started sensing into what is this squeeze of fear most need and it was clear that what it most needed was pure loving it most needed to belong to love. It was like the waves needed to belong to the ocean. So the nurturing then was really calling on the entire universe and it wasn't like an abstract universe, a very intimate but vast field of loving,
Starting point is 00:29:44 just to imagine and feel it washing into the vulnerability, washing in, washing in. And there was kind of a background of just a whisper of the word beloved, beloved. washing in, washing in. And with that, there was a dissolving. There's still a tenderness. It was full and big.
Starting point is 00:30:09 And so that led to after the rain. And I want to just name to you that the moments after you've gone through, recognize, allow, investigate, and nurture, what we call after the rain. if you skip it you miss the deep transformation and realization that's possible in the process because it's during after the rain where you just rest in the presence it's there that you start becoming familiar with that presence as more true more the truth of who you are than any of the stories that you are living in
Starting point is 00:30:52 So rather than being the agitated self or the scared self, that open, tender awareness was what I felt as the experience of my own being. And it could include whatever was coming and going. So I wanted to share with you that because it feels really current. And mostly the message is that rain is a tool of radical compassion. that it has certain key elements, that if you can, with the recognizing and allowing and investigating, really get embodied, really feel directly the fear without resistance. And then if you can actively nurture, like really sense actively the care and the love,
Starting point is 00:31:44 you will discover that kind of all-inclusive presence that we call radical compassion. and the secret, the key piece really for me is loving the fear. And here's the deal. If I started off when I felt fear saying, okay, I'm going to love this fear. It would just be my ego trying to will myself to love fear, and that wouldn't be possible because the biochemistry of fear and the biochemistry of love are so different. But we can gradually unfold into loving the fear by first just recognizing.
Starting point is 00:32:19 recognizing it, allowing it as much as possible. And then that gentle investigating in the body, putting our hand there until gradually there's a sense of this vulnerability, being in relationship with it in a way that love can wash through us. A couple of other comments now. One is that rain is never a one-shot for anything that's a deep and ongoing, emotional experience, we have to keep doing it, but here's the good news, which is every time you practice with fear, the pathway of finding inner refuge becomes more spontaneous and more natural. You find your way more easily. Sometimes you'll take a longer time that when I described at the river, that was probably about 10 minutes, it wasn't really long, sometimes much quicker. In fact,
Starting point is 00:33:19 One teacher from our meditation teacher training program was sharing how they've been using rain to deal with what she called the pandemic trance, getting just caught in the agitation, the fear, all the reactivity. And she described how even a light rain could help her that when she felt this fear for what was around the corner, she would recognize it and allow it. And then she'd find in her body and just take three breaths, breathing with it, just three breaths, and tell herself, come home to your heart. Then she just stay quiet for some moments and notice the quality of the presence that was there. But that was it, just a few minutes. So I invite you to explore it in light ways and deeper ways. And it really can free you up. And we'll just practice a little bit right now just to give you a taste.
Starting point is 00:34:16 especially if you're new to rain on how to bring rain to fear. Take a moment, if you will, to adjust how you're sitting, if that's helpful, and to take a few full breaths. And you might scan and sense whatever might be going on in your life. It may be pandemic-related or other. It might be bringing up some form of fear. and I want to make clear this is not a time to bring up a traumatic kind of fear or panic. Practice with something that doesn't feel overwhelming to you right now.
Starting point is 00:35:24 Just to get a taste. And as you bring to mind, whatever circumstances bring up fear, just to make it more immediate, just visualize whatever it is, if it involves another person see that person what's going on for them if it involves you just see the setting that most might in your mind relate to
Starting point is 00:36:01 or associate with the fear if there's something being spoken that brings up fear it's something you're visualizing in the future and begin the practice of rain recognizing whatever is most predominant it may be that you mentally whisper the word worried or angry or fearful anxious tight whatever is predominant and then let your
Starting point is 00:37:11 intention be to allow that means a willingness to pause with what is here so that wisdom in you just says let be this belongs this is a natural part of life, a wave in the ocean. If you can allow, even for some moments, that enables you to begin to investigate the eye of rain. You might notice where you feel this in your body, your throat, your chest, your belly. Sometimes with investigating, you can ask yourself, what am I believing, what am I anticipating? And whatever comes up, then find it. out how your body experiences that. If you're believing something bad's going to happen to you, that you're going to lose something precious, what's that like to feel in your body? So again,
Starting point is 00:38:30 feeling the throat, chest, the belly, the center line of your body, you might find it helpful to put your hand wherever you can sense fear. And for some, because so many of us are dissociated from our body, it can be very vague and that's okay. Sense that you're inviting whatever wants to be accepted and included into awareness. Just invite the fear to be felt. Breathing with whatever vulnerability you're contacting. And with some interest and gentleness, what does it feel like? How is fear living in this?
Starting point is 00:39:22 body right now. Perhaps you can breathe with it and feel right to the epicenter. Whatever you're experiencing as you investigate to again allow it to be there. A kind of surrendering presence, no resistance. And with an intimate attention, you might ask the vulnerable part of you, how do you want me to be with you? What do you most need right now? and sense that you can listen from the most awake, wise part of your being, from your awake heart, what is this place most need? Is it love? Is it pure acceptance or forgiveness to feel embraced? And sense that your awake heart can offer what's needed in a very direct and intimate and immediate way, just washing through and bathing that vulnerability.
Starting point is 00:40:56 place with some quality of tender presence of love, of compassion. And if for you it's easier to imagine that compassion and love coming from another source, from a loved one that you trust who's wise and you know cares about you or from a spiritual figure or from a formless loving presence, just imagine and feel. and sense that love pouring in. Let your deepest intention be to let that vulnerable place feel loved, washed and bathed in love. You might imagine light, warmth, a wash of tenderness. Become aware of the quality of presence that's here. Let yourself relax, open, just rest and be that presence, that open, tender presence.
Starting point is 00:42:52 Notice the difference between being identified as a fearful or agitated self and the spaciousness and openness and freedom of loving presence. As you're ready, taking a few full breaths, then you can open your eyes if you'd like or if you're enjoying sitting with your eyes closed, that's quite fine too. So we spent a good amount of our time talking about the pathway to inner refuge, how to bring rain to the fear within us and really wake up, a compassionate heart. The second part, and we'll explore some, reflect together some,
Starting point is 00:44:03 and then perhaps continue it at another time, is that if we've been able to befriend the fear that's within us, that heart space naturally can include others. so that in this time of pandemic, while there's physical distancing, we can deepen our heart connection. Last week, about four days ago, I did an interview with The Washington Post, and one of the questions that the porter asked me was, well, so how is this for you? And I shared what I've shared with you that I do have these very real fears for close in beings and really real fears for countless beings. I don't know. And then she asked me, so what does help? And I talked about this about this meditation practice and rain. And I also talked about walking in nature, which is how to say what my real religion is, it's probably, you know, taking refuge in nature, you know, the wildflowers
Starting point is 00:45:02 by the river, a spring is here. It's wonderful. And then I said, you know, in the deepest way, It's the moments of being real and open-hearted with others. And there's a quote. It used to be attributed to the Buddha, and I'm not sure now, but it's a great quote, which is that our fear is great, but greater yet is the truth of our connectedness. That's the opportunity right now. And yet we need to be conscious about it because, and this is in contrast to other natural disasters, you know, like volcanoes and earthquakes and so on,
Starting point is 00:45:44 pandemics can actually be a setup for disconnection because our fear of each other can separate us. You know, there's the physical distancing, there's competition for scant resources, so it can actually exacerbate loneliness and depression and feelings of distance. And interestingly, it really can shut down compassion. Historically, in pandemics,
Starting point is 00:46:08 people have often been so terrified, so filled with dread of each other, that they weren't able to take good care of each other. Of course, the exception has been through the age as the heroism of health care workers. But for most, there's been dread. So it's important to know that and also know that we have ways to face this conditioning and to be aware of that tendency to feel separate. and then to bring our deepest intention to actually leaning in with our hearts, leaning in with our hearts. And there are three domains that we can explore this in.
Starting point is 00:46:51 And I'm going to touch on them lightly. And then as I mentioned, we may kind of expand on them over time over these weeks. But there's three domains where we can, with each other, reduce the fear and increase the love. one of them quite simply is to get in the practice of reaching out to each other being with each other by phone there are a growing number of online sitting groups at times where we actually can just as i'm doing with you share with each other this is what it's like for me and when i practice with this this is what's happening what we're afraid of what our aspiration is for those of you that are familiar with rain, it's a really powerful time in our lives to have a rain partner.
Starting point is 00:47:43 Many, many people in our teacher trainings and others that Jack and I work with are teaming up as rain partners. And you can find all the information on rain partners in my website. And to the extent you want to do a deeper dive into rain, this is shameless promotion of my book Radical Compassion. It will teach you all the nuances of how to practice with it. So reach out, team up, be open, be vulnerable, be real with each other. It's so rewarding. That's the first domain. The second is engage in ways that can be helpful. You know, when we're traumatized, the feeling is of powerlessness. We're in a deep feeling of being threatened, but we freeze. And one of the healing processes in trauma is to engage in a way,
Starting point is 00:48:34 that can bring us towards healing and safety. And part of that is engaging with each other and helping each other. We can reach out to someone who might be lonely. It makes such a difference. Whether for you, the other ways of engaging might be contributing time or money to wait, initiatives that are helping others, directly volunteering. Two friends this weekend were on the bike trail and they made their intention as they were going to have eye contact, smile, and wave with as many people as possible to kind of send out
Starting point is 00:49:10 that sense that we're here together. And they came back and reported such a high from that, just that feeling of connection. In Ireland, some of you might have heard through tweeting, what went viral was this, the message of who needed medicine and food of the elderly, and it got match with volunteers. You can support people on the front lines, those that are the health care workers by walking their dogs or getting food or taking care of their children. So the first way, reach out and be with your friends and your peers. The second way, engage and help. And the third way, and it's critical that we don't forget this. Celebrate the goodness that's here. walk outside take in the beauty of spring
Starting point is 00:50:01 take in the dearness of those that you might be working at home with or the caring of so many in this world who want to serve the good you know a few days ago in the New York Times there was an article on Italy some of you probably saw it it was so poignant it said it started with the national anthem then came the piano chords trumpet blasts violins serenade and even the clanging of pots and pants, all of it spilling from people's homes out of the windows and from the balconies rippling across the rooftops. Finally, on Saturday afternoon, a nationwide round of applause broke out for the doctors on the medical front lines
Starting point is 00:50:45 fighting the spread of Europe's worst coronavirus outbreak. In China, patriotic truck drivers risk infection to bring desperately, needed food to the people of Wuhan. It's the epicenter. In Iran, there were videos that showed doctors and full scrubs and mashed dancing to keep people's spirits out. And of course, here in the States, we had Stephen Colbert, the comedian, he did his last live audience. And he's saying, you know, at times like this, we all need to laugh. We all need to be together. And then he kind backed away and he said from a distance of about 20 feet. So fortunately physical distance does not have to limit our hearts. So in closing my friends, when things fall apart as they are collectively,
Starting point is 00:51:41 we can turn to that beautiful aspiration. Please may this serve the awakening of our hearts. for you to really ask yourself, what is being called forth in you? Who do you want to be through this? How do you want to be? And really together, what kind of world do we want? What could we build out of this? We're just so aware of the viral contagion and the panic is contagious and loving presence is contagious.
Starting point is 00:52:17 We have this opportunity to make this a viral time of caring. Let me close with a poem, and we'll just be quiet together and do a brief closing meditation. And this is a poem that is, as so many, it's one of the ones that's beautiful and going viral. Many of you may be familiar and reflect together on it. If you'd like to close your eyes, please feel free. This is composed by Richard Hendrick, Catholic priest from Ireland, and it's called Lockdown. Yes, there is fear. Yes, there is isolation.
Starting point is 00:53:03 Yes, there is panic buying. Yes, there is sickness. Yes, there's even death. But they say that in Wuhan, after so many years of noise, you can hear the birds again. They say that after just a few weeks of quiet, the sky is no longer thick with fumes, but blue and gray and clear. They say that in the streets of Assisi, people are singing to each other across the empty squares, keeping the windows open, so that those who are alone may hear the sounds of families around them. They say that a hotel in the west of Ireland is offering free meals and delivery to. to the housebound. Today, a young woman I know is busy spreading flyers with her number through
Starting point is 00:53:55 the neighborhood so that the elders may have someone to call on. Today, churches, synagogues, mosques, and temples are preparing to welcome and shelter the homeless, the sick, the weary. All over the world, people are slowing down and reflecting. All over the world, people are looking at their neighbors in a new way. All over the world, people are waking up to a new reality to how big we really are, to how little control we really have, to what really matters to love. In these final moments, you might scan through your body and your heart,
Starting point is 00:54:55 sensing what wants a healing attention inside you. and take some moments to whisper whatever words of comfort to your own heart you feel will bring most healing. Really whisper them though, feeling the heart space that's here, bringing to mind someone else in your life that's dear, someone else that you'd like to bring some healing presence to, and perhaps sensing their fear and uncertainty. And take a moment. moment to whisper some care, some prayer to them. Bringing to mind someone who's different from you, different class, race, religion, someone who you might forget really is just like you deep down, wanting to feel safe and loved, bring someone to mind,
Starting point is 00:56:49 remembering that wisdom to be kind everyone you meet has a hard battle to sense this person's vulnerability too and whisper a prayer of care and feeling all beings all of us this living web of beings all in it together feeling your heart's prayer and our shared prayer that each and all of us might remember the loving presence that holds our life, that we may take refuge in that loving presence, that we might live from loving presence, meeting each other and all beings with care and with understanding. May all beings everywhere be free from suffering. May all beings find a great natural peace. May all beings awaken and be free. I want to thank you,
Starting point is 00:58:41 my friends, for participating in this, and I'll look forward week by week. We'll see what unfolds to being with you in this way. Please take good, good care. Thank you. Blessings. For more talks and meditations, and to learn about my schedule or join my email list, please visit tarabrock.com

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