The Break-Up Diet - Dumped Before June, Glowing by July. Single Summer, Here We Come.

Episode Date: July 2, 2025

There's something magical about going through a breakup just before summer. The sun shines brighter, days stretch longer, and suddenly you have this incredible opportunity to rediscover yourself without the shadows of winter making everything feel heavier than it already is.This episode dives into why summer breakups might actually be a blessing in disguise. We explore the stark contrast between healing during warmer months versus the challenging darkness of winter breakups, when family holiday gatherings and early sunsets can make loneliness feel inescapable. The physiological benefits of sunshine – including natural boosts to serotonin and dopamine – create an environment where healing happens more naturally.Financial independence becomes a crucial focal point of our conversation as we discuss the dangerous power imbalances that can form when one partner controls the finances. While social media often romanticizes arrangements where expenses are covered by a partner, we unpeel the layers of potential emotional manipulation that can lurk beneath the surface of such setups. The journey back to financial self-sufficiency after being accustomed to sharing expenses can be jarring, but ultimately liberating.We share personal experiences about reclaiming time and space when you're no longer committing hours to commuting for a relationship. Without the constraints of coordinating with a partner, summer offers endless possibilities for spontaneous adventures, connecting with friends, and most importantly, reconnecting with yourself. The freedom to be selective about how you spend your precious time becomes one of the unexpected gifts of single life.Healing isn't linear, and we emphasize that you don't need to have everything figured out immediately. You can simultaneously miss aspects of your relationship while recognizing it wasn't right for you. This complexity is normal – embracing it rather than fighting against it leads to authentic healing. So grab your sunscreen, call your friends, and embrace the summer as a period of joyful rediscovery. The worst is already behind you, and the sunshine is waiting to work its magic.Send us a textInstagram:@the_breakup_dietTikTok:@thebreakupdietEmail: [e-mail]

All right. Hey guys, welcome back to another episode of The Breakup Diet. Summer is here! Yeah, we're in summer. It's hot girl summer, it's single summer, it's get your freaking act together summer, all of it. It's honestly like, I feel like this summer was celebrating. Personally, for me, it's like, you're single. Yes, I am single. When your friend is single just in time for summer, you know it's gonna be menacing. Let's switch it up. We've been holding back way too much. Welcome to the Breakup Diet! Yeah, and I feel like because I'm single and it's been like quite a bit of time now, I

finally like sat with it. I've gone through the stages. Not all the stages maybe, but like a lot of them, you know, the worst is over. So at least, at least that. Now I guess it's time to shake ass in the yacht. I mean, I guess so. Oh yes, I don't know if we're ready. I'm kind of worried about, not worried,

that's the wrong word, but I'm kind of like, it's so, yeah, nervous, not nervous, it's just gonna be so weird because before my relationship, I was such a different person to who I am now, which is exciting, but it's also like, do I trust myself? I don't know. And not because I'm not going to go sleep with people. That's just not me.

But like, I mean, maybe, but no, not me. But like, it's more, I'm just excited to like experience what I'm going gonna be like. Babe, this is like the best version of you yet. Everyone says this about Yaz, like every time people like bump into Yaz after the breakup, they're like, oh my gosh, you've got your spark back, you look amazing, your skin's glowing, your hair's like looking perfect and everything. And the thing is like, how lucky are you to have gone through this just before summer? Yeah, and it was like still in the spring. It really, it was a catalyst from our spring episode

and it like, I thought I was cleaning just for the photo shoot, but nope, I was actually about to get spring cleaned myself. It was basically like a manifesting a breakup. Like you got spring cleaned out of a relationship that just wasn't, it's around its course and it's fine. It's fine, it's fine. it's around its course and it's fine. It's fine.

It's fine. It's around its course just before summer. Yeah, that was... it is nice to go through a breakup now and at least it wasn't winter. Winter is actually a nasty time to break up with someone because it's dark, it's cold, it's miserable and like... it's just horrible because then you also have all the family events too where you have to go to and be like, oh how how's blah blah blah and you're like, oh, it's an ex. We're not together anymore. Shit.

Whereas like now I have some like filtering time before it hits Christmas where I get questions about an ex. And I honestly think hot weather has healing properties. Yeah. You can't be sad when it's 30 degrees and sunny and you're just like turning upstairs like... Yeah true. Let's actually talk about some of the good things of having a breakup now. So yeah, okay the weather...

The list is endless. Yeah the weather but also... I think you're just like set free of obligations to other people if that makes sense. Relationships can be quite tricky and hard and sometimes when there's finances involved, this is like very personal, I definitely was financially abused and after my breakup I've like had freedom in the fact that my money is my money and I guess I get to have my independence back as well. Yeah and then because now you have your own money you can do your summer plans that you want to do and you don't have to just pick what they want to do maybe.

Like obviously every situation is different but like I feel like a lot of the time people stay in relationships because they can't like afford to be alone which is actually such a scary thing. Oh babe, honestly, when you've had everything paid for, that breakup hits crazily because it's like, oh my gosh, so I'm going to go from saving my entire salary to now, oh, I have to spend 40% of it on the rent alone. How am I going to save? Like, how am I supposed to go out to like restaurants and stuff like that? Yeah, that's so hard.

That's why I honestly preach about financial independence like crazy. Yeah and especially if you've had everything like with that person and you've got used to like a certain way to like break that yeah it would be hard. You're not just going through a breakup where you have to like rediscover yourself without that person you also are going through like a financial breakup too where you're you know back out in the world alone. I've never had that where I've had all my finances paid for by like a man. Yeah it's honestly it's not something that I recommend and I think TikTok and social media in general can be so dangerous with the way they over glorify the whole like

trad wife, the man getting everything for you and stuff, like... What wife? Trad wife, so traditional wife. Oh. So you stay at home and then the husband pays for everything. Theoretically, it always sounds nice for someone to pay for it, but you will pay for it in return in a very unhealthy emotional way. I've paid my price big time and the shock that I've experienced

in like the lifestyle of a single person. Yeah, expensive. And also yeah, it's just definitely better to not be in that situation. So if you can help it, don't be in that situation, which obviously is easier for me to say right now because I'm not in that situation. But like if you can avoid relying solely on one person, definitely always have your wits about you. It's funny, if you need a boyfriend or a rich man, just be an influencer. You'll have brands sending you cars to go to events, you'll have brands flying you out to different countries for events, you'll have brands sending you flowers almost on

a weekly basis. So focus on your career and I promise you it will bear fruit. Hang on, let's stop this for a sec. Subscribe and follow The Breakup Diet. You don't want to miss another episode. Okay, so now it's your single summer. Yes. What are you doing?

Give me some plans, I need to know. Okay, don't yawn or anything, but I think I'm going to be a bit picky and selective with how I spend my time this summer. I've had a lot of summers where I'm like with all my girlfriends and we're just with like random guys just because it's like, oh, they're going to pay for dinner and stuff like that. Like I said, back to the whole money thing. I have my own money. I don't need to hold myself hostage to some boring man for like a 90 pound worth of dinner. I'm sorry. Yeah. Yeah, don't do it. Don't do it to yourself But then also if you want to finesse yourself a free dinner all to you power to you lady It depends what you want to do. I agree

Yeah, whatever floats your boat if you're out here in summer and you want to be like listen I want all my stuff paid for and I'm going to finesse my way onto a yacht, we support it. If you're on the other wavelength like Ilma and myself and you want to pay for your own and you want to like you know make their way, maybe I'm gonna do a little bit of both. Maybe I'm gonna do a little bit of both. If I like the person. It's more like, yeah it boils down to the fact whether I like the group of guys. If I see them even just as friends, I'd be like down.

I feel like that's in summer in general. Like you feel like you have to go to things because it's summer, but also you don't. Yeah, I think this summer I want to be a lot more assertive and more confident with the decisions I make. Okay, so where are you going? What are you doing? Well, I'm going to St. Tropez next week, which is so exciting. It sucks that our dates are not matching I wish it was and then going to Bodrum afterwards with my friend. Yeah August I will be around But if you want to go anywhere in August

Okay, yeah some like simple soulful girl like I mean I'm not on simple and soulful the wavelength this year I've been on that wavelength for the last two years. I'm going ratchet. That is fine. I'll catch you next summer. I mean we've got New York in autumn so... Yeah, chilling. What am I gonna do this summer? I feel like this summer I just wanna... I'm not even gonna think about boys this summer actually. Like I'm so excited to be completely alone and just living up my best girlfriends. That sounds weird but like you know what I mean? Like hanging out with my best girlfriends and just like chilling. And what's especially exciting for you this summer I think is because

you actually have time back. You used to spend a lot of your relationship time like commuting back and forth. Now you're gonna be like here in one place like all your friends get to like hang out with you non-stop like you're always just going to be there. Yeah I hope I don't get lonely though because you know when you're you know when you are in a relationship and then you're spending lots of time out over there and you're commuting a lot you don't have that much time to like you don't get as lonely whereas like now i'm scared when people travel a lot and like not everyone's in london and say i'm not traveling i'm scared that i'm gonna get lonely because it will make the i promise you you will not feel lonely like there there's so much that we've got going on like apart from the pod you've

got so many friends to see you've got your family who's like in and out of the country. Yeah. Like, you're not gonna have time to be alone. We have so much to do. There's always events in London as well. Yeah, plus also being alone is okay. Like honestly, I think it's actually quite nice to really sit with yourself sometimes too. Oh my god, it's the best. Like, I'm alone, but I'm never lonely. It's the best feeling ever. Yeah, I mean, I sometimes feel lonely, but not often. Like, I, because I'm never lonely. It's the best feeling ever. Yeah, I mean, I've sometimes feel lonely, but not often. Because I keep myself busy. But I feel like that is one thing when you are going through a breakup,

that's like a shift that people can have where you do feel really lonely, because obviously... It hits you. You've lost a person that was part of your life like almost 24-7 for like a long time. Yeah, so you can feel extra lonely, but actually all your other friends and your family, they haven't gone anywhere, so you have to like remember that. Yeah.

You know what I mean? And just because you're feeling like the void of that person, that's fine to feel, but like, you know, that you're not totally alone. The thing is like over time the void goes smaller and smaller, and in summer the void is almost like barely there to not there at all. Yeah true. The void grows in the winter. Yeah that's why we need to go into cuffing season and get cuffed before. That's why we're gonna go to New York. I want to have at least like five sexy investment banking boyfriends. There we go, there we go. Yeah, so summer is actually where it's at.

I think so too. I think so too. Summer is just the most like, it's so healing. Even if you're like out having fun, partying and stuff, it is just so healing to have human connection on a different level. It doesn't have to be this like, I guess sexual romantic level. Yeah, people are more open in summer too to talk to people. It doesn't have to be this like, I guess, sexual, romantic level. Yeah, people are more open in summer too, to talk to people.

Like, I'm way more social in summer and like, want to do things and want to like, speak to people than I am in winter. Even just like, my interactions with people on the street. In summer, I might smile at them. In winter, there's no fucking way. I'm there like, with my headphones on, depressed. Literally. Whereas summer, I might give you a smile.

I might like, you know, have some like small talk. Yeah. So it's, it's a great time to be single. I feel like no one should be worried about anything. If you're going through a breakup in the summer or spring, the worst of it is done. I promise you, if you've been broken up, the worst of it is over. Now you just get to have fun, you have your time back,

you get to hang out with your friends and your family and feel pretty, enjoy the sun. What a time. Yeah, get more like cute outfits, cute photos, cute everything, you know what I mean? It's like a nicer time, definitely. I mean, we're gonna have to refrain this when we come to winter,

because if you are going to a breakup through winter, like we don't want you to feel bad, but like it is definitely worse. Like let's not sugarcoat it. So well the next six months, we're just going to really like strategize what the ultimate winter breakup strategy is. Yeah. Yeah. Give us time.

Yeah. So that one we need to come back to you. But for now, you're okay. Now you're okay. It's summer. Get your thong bikini out, let's dance! Yeah, literally, literally. Have you ever had a breakup in summer? Oh yeah! Really? Oh my god, yeah, yeah, yeah, my first breakup was in the summer and it was amazing.

Literally like a day after he left, my best friends from LA came to visit me, they were with me for the first three weeks and god we partied hard and then from them I met like like another person who I had a fling with as well it was so perfect so I'm telling you like comparing a breakup in summer and winter is like day and night because my winter breakup, I feel like that took me six months to recover and I didn't even recover because I like weaseled my way back to him. Yeah and also I feel like in the winter because it's like dark outside you just want to be nestled up with somebody and like you don't want to feel like you have to go out and be social whereas like in the summer it's so light

all the time that even like on a Tuesday night like last, Harriett and I were like, let's go for a walk. We only went for a walk and went and had some drinks, but like, and watch the sunset. It was very romantic, but like that wouldn't happen in winter because it'd be like, oh, it's raining, it's dark, it's cold. Yeah. Yeah. And I think there has to be like a scientific reasoning behind why breakups in the winter hurt even more because it's like scientific reasoning behind why breakups in the winter hurt even more because it's like lack of sun equals like lack of vitamin d, lack of serotonin, lack of dopamine, like it all snowballs into one heavy heavy painful burden. There's no lack of vitamin d in summer, lots of vitamin d everywhere. There is so much of it and it's only going to get more in the summer because of global warming.

Okay. Anyway, back to like financial and not feeling like independent. If you are going through a breakup where you feel like a lot like a loss of control because you already will feel a loss of control I think like if you especially if you've been broken up with, don't add another level where it's like you don't have any of your own finances or even anything of your own going on, you know, because then you're just, you're going to be so out of control that you feel trapped. You don't want to feel trapped. Don't ever put yourself in a vulnerable position. Always have your job, get your degree, be

educated, be smart about every decision you make in life. Don't give anyone the power to basically dangle you. Yeah. How does somebody even get into that situation? Do you just not realize and then it happens though? But like I'm asking, but do you just not realize and then you get so used to like the behaviors of it all and the lifestyle of it all and then it happens or are you kind of aware a little bit? No, no, no, you're fully aware

and you basically do kind of sign up for us. So with my situation, I love the fact that he was like young and like super generous at the start and covered the rent the bills everything we lived in like this gorgeous penthouse and everything at the start of the relationship he was always like babe like you've got all the support from me like focus on your dreams I can quit your job and stuff like that but then over time the cracks would kind of reveal itself and he would

say stuff like oh you wouldn't have all this without me and I'm like oh okay I can't quit my job I need to make sure I have my income coming in., you wouldn't have all this without me. And I'm like, oh, okay, I can't quit my job. I need to make sure I have my income coming in. So you weren't fully, you weren't in a situation where you were actually fully like dependent on him because you kept your job too, but it would have been different if you didn't. Oh, 100%, but I still felt financial abuse.

I was still very much like, you know. Yeah, and also used to it and also like yeah and it's such a shock to the system when you go from like not spending anything off your own money to like now I like pretty much live paycheck to paycheck I used to it now which is fine but yeah it's a massive adjustment and yeah I got screwed over really badly. It's really scary going through a breakup and then to add that on top is like another thing. Like people, it's hard. I think it's actually really hard to break up with somebody.

Like, especially if there isn't like something so black or white. But when is there ever really something so black or white? Like, there's always layers of things. But that to add on top. It's such another like intense layer of complexity because I went from, oh my God, how do I pay for rent now? Who would I live with? Can I afford to live by myself? Oh my God, I'm gonna have to move slightly outside

of London, like what? Yeah, my whole life's gonna change again. Not just in all the different elements. Yeah, it's not just emotional, it's literally a complete new environment. But you got through it's not just emotional it's like literally like a complete new environment. But you got through it. I got through it and the thing is we all get through it. It's hard in the time but then I don't know months years down the lane you're like oh my gosh I went through it with like I actually did. Yeah yeah and also I think it's important to realize like

if you're struggling at the moment or something, you don't have to be like, okay, this is the summer that I'm gonna get all my shit sorted straight away. Like stuff takes time too. Cause I feel like a lot of the time like on social media and all this people are like, if he's not good enough leave, if this isn't do this. You know, it's very like,

but you need time to like process and like heal and like work out what you're gonna do or I don't know, sit with things. And I just feel like in general advice that you get from social media, haha, I know we've got a podcast where we give advice, but the toxic side of TikToks like that, where you have to realize like those kinds of advice, they might not apply to you. Yeah. Plus like people that give advice, but yeah, we're giving advice, but like people

that give advice a lot of the time, especially on social media clips, they are cut so that they're super, super like, tailored. strong and super like, do this, do this because people like listen to it and they might take one of the things. But a lot of the time when you meet the people in general, they're not like that. No, no, no, no. They're like way more

blasé or way more like fluid. There's more depth yeah there's definitely way more depth to it in real life but in social media you're only watching a 10 second clip of a very specific advice for a very specific situation. Yeah so you have to take it with a grain of salt and you've got to also don't apply everything and don't take it so literally like you have to take it with a grain of salt and you've got to also don't apply everything and don't take it so literally. You have to take fragments of it but not necessarily the whole thing and be like, stick by it. You can sway a bit. Oh my gosh, there's so much room for mobility and growth and different things.

Just because you agreed with one thing a couple of months ago doesn't mean you have to agree with it now. Yeah, and you can have different feelings. Like you can have more than one feeling for a person at once, I think. Oh my god, I have like 10 million different feelings about all my exes, like... Yeah, and just in general, like one moment I'm annoyed at you, the next moment I'm like... But actually, no, not even the next moment, in the same moment I'm like, she's amazing. Yeah, oh my God, yeah. You're like, you're not gonna do it with it. I'm like, yeah, but it makes sense. It's true. You can have multiple feelings about the same person.

So you gotta give yourself some grace and you gotta give yourself the flexibility and you don't have to have everything figured out in one hit and by the end of summer, you don't have to transformed into this butterfly. You can still be, have feelings that you did at the start. Like obviously we don't want you to harp on like sad emotions. Cause that's like.

But the thing is like progress is always like, it's continuing. I'm still like learning different things about myself, even though I've been single for like a year and a half. Like the learnings never end. So just be like, patient, don't apply pressure. It's summer babe. Like the learnings never end. So just be like patient, don't apply pressure. It's summer babe. Like we're relaxing. Yeah, we're relaxing. We're relaxing by the pool, wearing some cute outfits, dancing on tables, that type of thing.

Exactly. And just having the best time with all the people around us. Yeah, make friends, make friends over boyfriends. Agreed! They'll stick by you. Definitely, make different types of soulmates this summer. Another thing that's in the summer, Love Island, we're doing reviews early on every single episode. I honestly think people are just playing games. It's too obvious now, maybe because the show's been on for so long.

Yeah, but I also think they're quite rowdy this time around. playing games. It's too obvious now, maybe because the show's been on for so long. Yeah, but I also think they're quite rowdy this, like, this time around. Yeah! Where do the producers find these men? And women! Yeah! And women! Like, I'm like, wow! I think they're rowdier than the men! Actually yeah! Yeah! I kind of live for it though, like I love reality TV, but I'm like, wow, what a plot twist. Maybe it's cause like women are.

Yeah. I guess we're like using our voices properly. Yeah. Like we're not putting up with any BS anymore. Yeah. So maybe that's why. Yeah. A hundred percent.

I have a question for you. What do you think of either Love Island, UK or US? What's better? I haven't watched the US one yet, which isn't really annoying, but I will and then I'll tell you. What about you? Oh my gosh, the US, because I see more clips of that. It is so much more interesting.

Why? The plot is plotting there. They say the most unhinged lines, like super funny, nothing too controversial or anything, but they are just naturally very funny people. Yeah. Oh, maybe I need to get on that. Honestly, Americans are made for reality TV because they are just hilarious. I don't know, but I like English people, like I think they're funny.

So now I'm like, hmm. They have a very different like sense of humor, but it just works. Australia has it too, no? Australian one is really good. Is it? The first two seasons I watched watched I was locked in. It's so funny. Really?

And they are ratchet. Like they get into brawls and everything. Yeah and like the security like has to get involved and like they film the security guys like pulling the people away from each other. Oh god. So I've, you know what this reminds me of? So I'm worried about me having crash-hours like breakup, but like that could be worse. Like having a full on fight or something or like a crash out then. Wow. Yeah. Wow. Reality TV is actually, you're not like people

for the weak. You have to have like the thickest skin. You have to be a tough person through and through, because not only are you dealing with stuff inside the villa, outside the criticism when you get out, like you, yeah, it's hard. And also the logistics, especially as a woman, like I'm gonna get TMI, but what about periods? What about ingrin hair?

What about like, what if you have an UTI? Yeah, I don't know. Also just like, what about doing something like embarrassing? It's just in general and then you don't, you really don't want that to be shown and they show you that. I don't know, imagine how awkward that would be. I'm just like, I don't know if I can be in a thong bikini every day for six weeks. I could never ever know Shay towards Love Island, but I'm far too self-conscious and not having any control over that to be able to walk around in the bikini and just be filmed from like every angle.

Every angle, yeah. Yeah, nah. Nah. Like, these are some confident, secure people. Also, the challenges, like, I would, and they don't do it with the drinking loads, obviously, so like I would Do all that sober, like the heart rate challenge? That I just don't think I could. Like these people are braver than the army.

In Love Island, when they're doing the challenges and they're like slipping and sliding with their thong bikinis on and like little bikini tops, I'm like, how do you not lose a boob? Like surely there has to be some malfunctions. Yeah. Like surely. Not for us, not for us civilians this hot girl summer guys. No. We're Hollywood taping it up.

Everything. If you don't feel like wearing a thong bikini, you don't have to because there's no cameras zooming up your butt. Yeah. And we're not going to be there with like our big ass bikinis. Yeah. Our modesty, like boy leg shorts. I'm a tankini.

Thank you very much. Do you think any of them have had like breakups before they've gone on the show? Well, we made a TikTok about a couple, didn't we? And then, oh my gosh. Okay. So the TikTok that we made, I'm not going to name names just yet, but one of her exes commented. Did you see? No.

Yeah. On our TikTok, babe. On our TikTok? On our TikTok, one of her exes commented being like, she was always a career driven person. She broke up with me for the pursuit of career. Like this is something that she would do. Oh, what a boss bitch. I was gonna say, like, good for her!

Like, get the bag! Like, now is the time to get the bag. Don't be held back by anyone. Sorry to the ex, but like... Next! Yes, and by next we mean a bag. Yeah, multiple bags. Like, Jesus.

Yeah, but... That is giving me some motivation. Mm-hmm. Yeah, that is how that is giving me some motivation Mm-hmm. Yeah, that is how we're gonna end this episode boss bitch energy single-error finesse your way and Don't let any boys get you fucking sad. That is how we do hot girls summer here in the breakup diet Thanks for watching!