The Break-Up Diet - From Catfishing to BJs: Listener Submissions That Will Leave You Speechless!

Episode Date: February 27, 2025

Dive into an emotional whirlwind with us as we unpack the bittersweet stories of heartbreak and healing. We delve into the complexities of toxic relationships, showcasing personal testimonials that resonate deeply with anyone who has faced love’s darker side. From tales of overwhelming jealousy to clever tactics for uncovering infidelity, our conversations highlight the often painful lessons we learn in love.Through a mix of laughter and poignant reflection, we address how vulnerability can lead to poor dating choices, particularly in the aftermath of a breakup. The deeper we go, the more we realise that these narratives aren’t just tales of loss but also about self-discovery and resilience. Each story shared serves as a reminder that while breakups are tough, they also anchor us to our true selves.By the end of our heartfelt exploration, we hope to instill a sense of hope and empowerment, encouraging listeners to recognize their value and learn from their experiences. Join us for a thought-provoking and entertaining episode that promises to resonate with anyone navigating love's unpredictable waters. Don’t forget to subscribe and share your own breakup stories with us!Send us a textInstagram:@the_breakup_dietTikTok:@thebreakupdietEmail: [e-mail]

What do you want to chat about today? Well, this is our first submission based episode. We've got some really hot stories there. It was really hard to scale down what to talk about today. Yeah, because lots of people get broken up with in a brutal way, I can't lie. The streets are crazy out here. Like it's way worse than I thought it was.

Yeah, yeah, thank God I'm... sorry, thank God I'm... Cuffed, because I'm scared. Buckle up bitches, this is gonna get bumpy. This is the break up diet. At least if we share some stories, like, somebody might, you know, might help someone, diet. At least if we share some stories like somebody might, you know, might help someone and it also might be entertaining because you might be like, oh my god, my exes are the same thing. Yeah, okay, you know what? It's the relatability and the togetherness. We're not in this alone. Should we start with the first one?

Yeah, okay. So this is about being careful with like who you date after a breakup. This girl she dated this guy for a really long time, he was super nice, he was super in love but like the relationship kind of was a bit toxic at the end and they just like weren't each other's person. Anyway obviously they broke up, she's super heartbroken and everything. She's like, you know when you go through a breakup you're a bit vulnerable? So she starts going out in London a bit,

meets this other guy. Let's call him Benny. Ah! Oh, sorry. Not to associate it with my ex Benny. Unless it is, if it is. No, no, no, no, associate with my ex, Benny. Unless it is, if it is. No, no, no, no, no, no, okay, not Benny.

I mean, like, let's call him Tim. So she meets Tim out, she, you know, is going out with him a lot, not dating or anything, just as friends. She expresses to Tim, like, oh, I can't have anything serious, I don't want a boyfriend, I don't want to see someone, like I'm still really hung up on my ex, you know.

After a while, he's like, I have feelings for you. And she's like, oh my God, maybe I should give this nice guy a chance. She's like, I'm not that attracted to him, but he's been so nice to me. Like, why am I not? And it very quickly turns really toxic because he's just really jealous.

So to the point of like, she would sit down somewhere and this guy would like, if a guy even looked at her for too long, even if she didn't speak to him, he would shout at her. She's like, I know this is wrong, but I don't know. I don't want to be alone. Which is so hard. Oh, it's hard. Like the final straw comes when like, he basically was like, I want you to come to Henry Henry regatta with me she's like no like I don't want to like I have work the next day and her work wasn't in

London so she wouldn't be coming back with him after she'd have to get a taxi then to this other place anyway she's like fine he really wants me there I'm gonna do it she gets there he doesn't even answer his phone doesn't like message her so she's driven like an hour and a half and he's just got cold ends up locating him and he is so drunk that he can Barely speak to her. Anyway, he's so drunk. He's so drunk. He's like Abusing her start shouting at her because she went to the bar and this man tried to talk to her and then anyway He gets so drunk. She's like I can't do this like I'm gonna get his friends they can take him home anyway she's like leaving the thing and to get out of it it's quite hard and she gets like

notified by the police because he basically got thrown in jail I don't know jail but got arrested by them because he fell into the lake at Henry Regatta because he was so drunk and then obviously was like angry about it and then so she had to come and pick up her boyfriend after he just abused her and he was drunk and fell in the lake anyway after that she was like no I'm done with this I can't take this abuse I've got to get out when they broke up he then persisted to post on like social media being calling her a dog a dog sorry repeat that just again so after doing all that getting arrested abusing he goes on stories public Instagram story to abuse her yeah that's disgusting

still she's like being the bigger person you know trying not to let that get to her she's like oh my god this is embarrassing for me like he's making this a public thing and like I actually haven't done anything. She goes away and he sends her a 16 page letter to her family house saying how bad she is and how horrible of a person she is and basically was like the nastiest message you've ever... 16 page of what? That's what she said! Listing down every single dog breed. Like, that's what she said to me. She was like, to be honest, I don't know how he wrote 16 pages. I couldn't even write one. Was it handwritten? Yeah. Oh my god.

Anyway, so that's her breakup story. She hasn't seen it since. Thanks self-respect. But that is like the thing of like you can't get into something with the wrong person especially if they're not mentally stable because you're like that after for her scared her to date again like she was already scared to date in a vulnerable spot and then she has this psycho come in like do that to her. And it's always annoying. Sometimes the rebound scars you way worse than your actual relationship. Yeah, like her actual relationship, she like had love for him, they just didn't work out. You know? Like when she talks about it now, you can tell whereas like this man's... that is so messed up I just can't get over the arrest and then falling into the lake and then also to ghost her before an event that he begged her to

show up to yeah super toxic like and then every single time a man would even just sit next to her, even if they were like his friends, if they spoke to her for too long, spoke to her. He would lose it. Lose it. I think it's because he was probably cheating on her because a man gets that jealous or that possessive when they're doing the same thing. Yeah.

Cause they like think like, oh, yeah, they must be doing it because like I'm doing it or even if they don't think they're doing it same thing. Yeah, because they like think like, they project. Yeah, they must be doing it because like I'm doing it or even if they don't think they're doing it, it makes them feel better about themselves. I think it's a very toxic, weird way to assert your masculinity and dominance and I'm so happy for your friend that she got out. Like she must be thriving in the breakup diet, I hope. Yeah. Yeah I mean she went away straight away after because actually yeah she went away with me so yeah and I remember we I remember when she got this letter because we were like what the actual hell it was really nasty like I'm not gonna say what was in the letter but it it was like... So you've seen it? I've heard what's in it. Do you have a story?

Well, I have a really good submission. I'm gonna try and keep it as PG rated as possible because it does get a bit... Racy. Yes. So this was sent in from a by guy. I'm just going to read out his submission. I'm a by guy and start to explore things with guys. I met this one gay guy who just wanted to give me head all the time and was wanting to do that all the time.

This was new to me because girls aren't like that. I mean it's true. We're not. Yeah, you it's true, we're not. Yeah, you're not like. I'm not dying for it. Yeah, unless you're like a full blown Call of Daddy. That kind of thing. Rep, which like I love, but it like,

I'm not dying to do that, no. Same. I wouldn't be like, yes, this morning, I want to wake up and do that. Yeah, I get you, I get you. Most girls, I don't think it would either. Yeah. So in the meantime, I met someone, we were having fun chatting,

but the sex was just no good as, oh my god, he's given the guy a name. Glock no return. Tony is a color guy. Yeah, basically. I'm not sure how to stop thinking about how good their head was and focus on my current relationship because that person I'm seeing right now is so lovely. But I also don't know whether I should break up with them and start seeing Gluck no return again, even though I have no future with him. What can I do to stop thinking about it?

about it. Okay so my initial thought from the Breakup Diet, one of the co-hosts, I'm gonna say he needs to break up with his fear obviously because he enjoys it. He's, you know, he enjoys the gluck, no return. I mean I think we all would if there's no return. I don't know. I feel a bit awkward maybe. Oh, I'm a taker. You know what I mean? So I think he needs to break up with his obviously idea that he doesn't want to be with this other person. He needs to break up with the girl he's seeing or the guy he's seeing, I don't know, and then, you know, accept that this is what he's going for this is the right route you know especially if it's like good who cares go do you know what I

mean but then oh it's hard if you oh I was just gonna say like it might be so hard in that it feels so wrong because it's so easy. Yeah, also maybe because he doesn't have to do any like work for it at all. Maybe it's a bit like... So Izaya, like that could never turn into a relationship. Come on. No, I feel like lots of people do. Really? I feel like that is a thing. Like people obviously are intimate and then they end up dating.

I feel like that's how a lot of people trap people. They're like that's what you need to get on, Elma. Then you can trap the men. Oh, I would need a return. No, no, you gotta be a giver, not a taker. I would need a return, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. No, um, yeah, I think he needs to break up with his bad habit of that and just go for it and see. Yeah, I think so too because otherwise, it's just gonna sabotage all his current relationships. I mean it is I feel if he's thinking about Glucky non-stop.

Yeah, and it's kind of like if you're in a um, if you're trying to date again but you haven't recovered from your trauma of your ex. So you know when you're trying to date again but your head's not there, it's all in the other basket and then it just like, you know, it doesn't work out. So he needs to get rid of the other baskets. Yeah, basically. Wow. What would you do in that position? What if I had to explain exactly? I'm now thinking about what Glock Nuritan is thinking. What goes in his head to just give head, expect nothing, and just go about his day? I don't know. Like I actually kind of want to understand the psychology of like wanting to please someone that much. Maybe he just want he

and maybe he is trying to trap him he's like I know I've got the goods you know he's like I know this will get him thinking. I mean it definitely has but then like he definitely knows how to do it too because he's had it done to him Yeah, so he probably got glock no return yeah, this probably happened to him and now he's Passing it on yeah, so the submitter might turn into a glock no return as well exactly evolution Wow Okay, well There we go case closed you learn a new skill. Yeah, I like it. Yeah, amazing. Do we have any more?

Yeah, I have more stories than asking for advice. Okay, let's hear it. People need to be aware of this story because it is genius. So this girl and guy in a relationship for four, three years, so they've been dating a while. They have like mostly good, mostly good relationship but it's a little bit toxic here and there. Anyway in the last year of them dating he goes away for work and

she receives a random message on Instagram being like, hi, is this your boyfriend? And she's like, yeah. Uh oh. Yeah, she's like, yeah, that is my boyfriend. Because this guy had her on his Instagram, so there's photos of them together, so anybody that would stalk would obviously see that. Anyway, so he's not hiding it. Anyway, she's

like, yeah that is my boyfriend and she's like, um well I've kind of been talking to him on Tinder. Stop it. She's like WTF, like what the hell, obviously confronts him, whatever, they have a massive row, blah blah blah blah. Anyway, plants a seed of like, untrust in this man. Obviously. But they stay together, whatever. A year goes by again, and... A year?! Yeah, yeah, so they had this massive argument, they obviously resolved it, whatever.

Messed up, she forgave him okay but obviously over this year they're having more fights because she she's lost a bit of trust in him like you would you know it makes you insecure it's yeah that makes you insecure because then you're obviously thinking every time he goes out like what is he actually doing or you're thinking you want to see his phone because he already did that to you before. You know, like obviously you're like... Even just like him sitting next to you being on his phone, I'd get insecure being like, what's he doing on his phone?

Yeah, which is like a... If you did that to... If a girl did that to a guy, he would feel the same way. But the difference is the guy wouldn't stay with the girl. No, because guys have better standards, I feel. I don't think they have better standards But I think they're not in terms of like quality of people but like they don't put up with shit Yeah, I feel like they just because it's not the manly thing to do to take a girl back

So they don't do it Where it's like a girl will fight for it because she doesn't even care like what other people are saying anyway back to the story so then um he away, this time for a what trip? And she's like, he goes to Dubai, and she's like, okay, fine, whatever. She's like, I don't know, I just feel like, I just feel like I want to check. So she creates a fake profile of a girl that he knew, of a girl that looked like quite trashy and that she knew he would like and Sets her location to his hotel room like not hotel room hotel that he's staying out in Dubai So obviously like it's a one mile radius of this hotel. You're bound to probably come up

Anyway, he's away for like a week. She's like going through she's like, oh my god I'm being a psycho like there is not gonna come up. It's not gonna come up. Anyway, she keeps going through she's like oh my god I'm being a psycho like it's not gonna come up it's not gonna come up anyway she keeps going through she's like whatever anyway on the last night she goes through and she's just like I'm just gonna do one more it's like 2 a.m. in the morning and then she's like she does it bang he comes up so she's like what what would I do in this situation super like him so she sends him like the direct thing or whatever so like it obviously comes up and he obviously matches. Yeah, how bad. Anyway at the same time she's like,

oh I'm gonna actually message my boyfriend as myself, you know, and try to facetime him and all this sort of stuff. So she's chatting him on facetime and he's like trying to get off the phone he's like I just got a pack like I'm tired I'm going to bed she's like okay have a nice night all at the same time she's messaging him and he basically invited this fake girl to his hotel room to sleep with her and like anyway she was like being like on those messages inviting inviting her to the hotel room, all this. And she's like, ugh. So then she goes, like finally ends up just ghosting him at the end, after he's like so desperately trying to get her over, the fake one.

Anyway, in the morning, he's like, oh where'd you go? She's like, oh sorry, like I was a bit bit drunk like I just like went out or whatever. He comes back to London and this girl obviously goes and gets all her stuff and just says oh by the way who's Julia and he's like he's like what are you talking about he's like Julia messaged me and to the stat he has no idea that it was her. He doesn't know. I was like that's brilliant she's like I can't tell him because then he'll flip it and make it a me thing but he cheated on me and was asking a girl to a hotel room so I don't want to give him anything to like you know hold me accountable. He did the wrong thing. Oh she played it well. Genius.

Genius. I want to stand up and applaud for her. She played it so well. I think I would crack and be have, I would be like, it was me. Or I'd be like, cause I just would be like, you're so dumb. Like I would want to rub that in. But the fact that she didn't even do that cause she was like, you know, I just need to get out and away from this crazy person. I love that for her. So she left with her head held high, dignity still intact.

I think she is the queen. So I thought that was like a brilliant story because obviously I wouldn't have thought of doing that but it's genius. I think so too. A bit of investigation doesn't hurt and once you've compiled your evidence, just leave. Sometimes the person doesn't even need a reason. They know. If they're guilty, they know. And also this is like a few things, you know, to even get to that point of when you're feeling like you have to do that.

He's obviously, he's made that problem. He's made that untrust. You know what I mean? To do that. You don't have to tell them. Like if they've done something and you want to break up with them, you can break up with them, but you don't have to tell them all the truth. If they didn't tell you all the truth by cheating on you and like hiding things, then why would you tell them?

Yeah, I think like what she did was like a good example of soft ghosting. Sometimes that is so fine. She didn't ghost him. She like got all her stuff and broke up with him, but she just didn't say... The reason. She didn't... she... well, she did, but she didn't say him, she like got all her stuff and broke up with him, but she just didn't say... The reason. She didn't... well she did, but she didn't say it was her. Genius, honestly. Oh, she had handled it the best way ever. I feel like I need to take notes. Yeah, and also she was saying the reason the breakup didn't hurt as much for her at this point is that there'd been so many points that obviously she was sick. She was getting sick in herself of like all the scenarios, all the mental like strain that puts

on you, you know what I mean? When you're in a toxic relationship and you need to break up, you're so unhappy and then when it finally happened and it was like full, full hard evidence, like you know what I mean he spoke to her he just didn't know then you're like what can I do now it's not something that you can just be like oh maybe that didn't happen like maybe this girl got it a bit wrong like you're like no that's why like a breakup is so hard because it's not just it's not a one-stage process you know you have to come to terms with it yourself first, really.

And I feel like that can be the longest stage. Yeah. Like the toughest stage to get to because you're in denial for it for so long and you're kind of conditioned into thinking that, oh, but like, I probably won't find anyone else better because like the streets are so rough right now. Um, it's better to just be with someone than to be completely alone. Yeah, it's like after you hear all these stories and these subs you're probably thinking like, oh my god, if you're- I'm happy to be single.

Yeah, if you are in a toxic relationship that you don't want to be single. But it's honestly better too because all these stories, they all have a similar thing that it did end. It ended and I feel like everyone's doing better because they're not in that relationship, I'm hoping. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean, some of the stories are not my close friends, but from what I've heard through the great Vanya. Listening to these shitty relationship stories that it makes me want to be single.

You are single. No, I mean it makes me happy that I'm single actually. Yeah, yeah, I get you, I get you. If you're in a bad one that where they're not good and that you're having all this trauma and then you have to go through the whole thing of the breakup and have all those problems that might follow you, then yeah, I get it. But no risk and no reward. I'm happy that you know what, all the relationships that I've had I've left like unscathed and I want to remain unscathed.

Oh yeah, yeah I get that. You should be happy, that's a win from you. Yeah I feel like I want that to be for everyone, but everyone should be able to leave a relationship unscathed. Like if it doesn't work, it doesn't work. There's no need for it to get nasty to the levels that we've discussed today. It's like, I don't know, it's like left such a shock

to my system. I think it gets nasty when people are like, they obviously care, you know? Because I know that sounds weird but you know when you're so passionate and care so much and you're so like oddly linked to that person and then something happens like you're in such big rage, you know what I mean? Like and I know that's not correct but you're so angry and you just can't control it. Seek therapy. Seek therapy! That's like a big part of the breakup type.

Double therapy, antidepressants, and just good behaviour to one another. Yeah, and don't take it to social media. Yeah, I think breakups should be between the two people. That's it. No one else needs to know apart from, oh, we're not together anymore. All this dirty underwear, burning this, exposing that, no need. Yeah. So I think we should end on that. Yeah, stay, be well behaved guys.