The Break-Up Diet - Ghosted by Your Bestie? Let's Play Friendship Breakup Bingo
Episode Date: July 24, 2025Friendship breakups can hurt more than romantic ones because we expect our friends to be in our lives forever as bridesmaids and godparents to our children.• Seeing former friends posting with new f...riends can trigger identity crises and feelings of rejection• Awkward encounters with former friends can be uncomfortable, especially if confrontation occurs• Replaying conversations to figure out what went wrong is common after friendship breakups• Being the friend who always reaches out first can reveal one-sided relationships• Receiving messages from former close friends can bring back emotional memories• Looking through old photos and social media "memories" often triggers sadness• Wanting closure but knowing it's sometimes better to move on• Learning that people come into our lives for different reasons and seasons• Understanding that friendship circles naturally evolve as we go through life• Treating friendship breakups like romantic ones—allowing yourself to grieve and then move forwardStay positive because no matter how difficult things get, life continues to move forward, and you'll make new connections along the way.Send us a textInstagram:@the_breakup_dietTikTok:@thebreakupdietEmail: thebreakupdietpodcast@gmail.com
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Hey guys, welcome back to another episode of The Breakup Diet.
We played Breakup Diet Bingo.
Let's play Friendship Breakup Bingo.
Yeah, so when you're going through a breakup with your friend, these are some common behaviour
things that you could or might do or have done.
You know, we've all been through it and if you haven't, you're very lucky.
Because friendship breakups are actually kind of harder than relationship breakups.
Yeah, and that's weird because you're so sad about it.
Because friends, you think that they're going to be there in your life forever.
Yeah.
Boys come and go, but like the girlhood, the sisterhood,
you really think that that's forever.
Let's switch it up.
We've been holding back way too much.
Welcome to the breakup diet
At the end of the day your friends
You choose your friends and they don't actually have to stick around and that's hard
Like they don't have to be your friend. It teaches you that actually everyone has their own lives, their own path.
No one owes anything to anyone.
Yeah and then like imagine like you think they're a better friend than they are and
you're like would do it for them and then they don't do it for you.
It's also like that's a hard realization too because you just feel like let down or
you just don't feel like maybe our friendship didn't mean as much. Yeah, maybe it's a one-sided friendship. It hurts.
Okay, let's get into it. It's friendship breakup. You go first.
Seeing them post with a new best friend and feeling like you've been replaced.
Ding ding ding.
Yeah, that sucks.
What's annoying is that I'm the one that put that group together. Yeah, that sucks. What's annoying is that I'm the one that put that group together.
Yeah, that sucks.
And then for them to hang out without me, it's like...
Oh, you guys wouldn't even know each other if I didn't introduce you.
Yeah, I went through this last year and I had such an identity crisis.
Because I'm like, oh, okay, like, am I likeable?
Am I too much?
Am I this?
Am I that?
One really, they're just bitches.
Yeah, it sucks.
Honestly, you do have an identity crisis
because I don't know, it's a different feeling.
It actually is a different feeling from a relationship
because like you count on your friends
when you're having trouble in your relationship
and you really think that they're gonna be there
if you're going through dark times,
but also good times, it's like both.
Yeah, because with friends, you like know they're going to be your bridesmaids
at your wedding like you know that they're going to be your godmothers or for your kid, you know?
With men like you can't really fantasize the long term too soon or you know? It sometimes feels a
bit unrealistic but with friends it's like no these are my people, these are my tribe like
a bit unrealistic, but with friends, it's like, no, these are my people, these are my tribe, like,
and then when that goes away, you're like, what?
So how does that, how do you feel now? Sorry, we're going off-fingo, but like, how do you feel now when you're obviously, they're obviously a group now and you're just out?
Well, it's quite validating when all my other friends are still there for me, especially with my birthday party. I just realized, oh my God, I've got the best group of friends. Also,
they didn't like that friend group.
Okay.
Yeah. Cause at the divorce party, they kind of stuck to themselves as opposed to everyone
else kind of mingled and got to know each other. Like you got to know Terry, like, you
know, like everyone did their part to actually...
I didn't know anyone besides...
Yeah. Which is crazy.
One person.
Yeah. So for that group to just be like...
Yeah. Not very welcoming.
If your day ones don't like a certain friend group, listen to them.
Yeah, fair. It's also hard to keep friends. Like you change friends all the time.
Like even if you don't change, like loads of friends all the time,
like, and not even for a bad bad reason like people are on different paths.
Definitely and like it just goes like that sometimes you meet them again, sometimes you don't.
Yeah, and I think it's hard especially like when you've had uni or you've had like
school and you're a group and then you've all been together doing things all the time together and then
obviously life gets in the way after that and you have to like actively try to meet them
because everyone's schedule is so busy. Have you ever had FOMO from like looking
at their stories of them having so much fun somewhere?
F**k no. F**k no. No. You know how we were talking about when some people they
organize girls nights for the purpose of meeting men. Okay yeah. Yeah so. Okay fair. Or if you see like if you know them and you
feel like they've taken like loads of fun photos or whatever and like all
these fun stories but then you know that they're probably not actually having as
much fun as it looks like they are. They never have as fun as they look like they are. Feeling awkward
at events that you run into. I think it is awkward, yeah, if you're not friends anymore.
Oh it's terrible. Especially if one of them's like being confrontational because I had that
last year and I'm like oh shut it. Like what what explain? Comes up to me and goes like
you know like sometimes you just don't know what to say like the right, like the wrong things at the wrong place, blah, blah, blah.
And I'm like, that's my sense of humor.
You knew who I was when you chose to be friends with me.
Why is that suddenly a problem?
Yeah.
But why did she come up and just like, say that straight away?
Like, it was just, she didn't say it straight away.
Sorry.
Basically I like see like our other friends, we talk,
I'm super civil, and then she goes,
I think we should address the elephant in the room.
And I'm like, hang on, let's stop this for a sec.
Subscribe and follow the breakup diet.
You don't wanna miss another episode.
Very fresh, even though it's only last year
that this happened.
Yeah, fair. Yeah.
She was like trying to call you out
to make you feel awkward for sure.
Yeah, for sure. And she's like, why call you out to thank you for awkward, for sure. Yeah, for sure.
And she's like, why don't I call you?
And I'm like...
Yeah, well, you should have called you before.
Call me when it all happened.
Yeah, not trying to call you out in an event.
Yeah, like nine months after the friendship breakup.
Like...
Have you had other friends, this is actually a bingo,
have you ever had other friends ask you what happened and you don't really know what to say?
Because they're still friends with the person or you know what I mean?
Yeah, I get quite honest with that. I just call them ogres.
Why ogres? You're just like, they're ogres.
Yeah.
I definitely like say my part because I'm just honest like that.
Yeah, fair.
And it's what people expect
from me anyway. Like I'm such a babbly honest person. Yeah, I'm the same to be fair. I'm gonna
tell you because if not, it's better than not saying it and then bitching about everybody but
in their back. And also like I want respect to my name as well. I'm not gonna chicken out if you
ask me something. Yeah, like if you ask me why we're friends, not friends, like I'll say.
And if it's something that's like happening and you're not happy about it, you can just be like,
you can say it in a nice way. You can be like, we've had a disagreement and it couldn't be resolved.
Like you don't have to be a bitch about it, you know what I mean?
Have you ever replayed a conversation trying to figure out what went wrong?
Yeah, I have, even if stuff, I've known what's gone wrong.
Like even if I've known what's gone wrong,
I probably, I always replay conversations.
100%, and sometimes I'm like, damn, was I the problem?
Yeah, they always think that though, no.
Like I feel like that always crosses your mind
after you've thought about it so much,
even if you feel like you're not.
Yeah, cause I'm just like like let me try and think of it
from their perspective maybe I did do something wrong. Because obviously everyone's not perfect
too like everyone makes mistakes and also people perceive things differently maybe sometimes they're
a bit similar but it's still different so like you can't expect to have the same reaction or handle things the same way.
Yeah.
I think as long as you're like open to hearing the other person's side and taking account, being accountable for like your own actions.
And I think it's, I think that's good.
And that's what you can do.
But I don't think you can do anything else.
No.
Have you ever had a friendship and like realized maybe after or realized during
that you were always the person that messaged first? Oh my god story of my life. I'm like
the proactive organized friend. I'm the one to this day, not with us to be honest, we've
got a really good balance but I am like the organized friend. I'm always the one that's
like okay guys who's free blah blah blah let's like, okay guys, who's free? Blah, blah, blah. Let's do this holiday.
What's the plan?
Summer.
Like, but do you think that's just because you're like very
organized and good at it?
Yeah.
So I didn't think that's necessarily just fall into that role in the
friend group for life.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I hate that role.
Sorry, but I hate it too, but it's just like organizing trips is actually
the most stressful thing ever.
Like dinners and stuff. That's fun, that's fine.
But like if you're organising like a girls trip,
yeah, it's fun, but it's also a bit stressful I think.
And especially if you're going and staying in a hotel,
then I think it's really stressful.
Because some people don't want to pay that,
but some people are fine to pay that.
Some people don't like this and na na na na na.
You almost have to be like, go at this time, I'll see you at the restaurants.
And I have a pinned message on the group chat being like, don't cause any drama.
Yeah, if you don't want to come, just don't come.
Yeah, exactly.
You know?
Talking about them like they're an ex.
I've done that.
Oh yeah, you have done that.
Yeah.
To be fair, I haven't.
That's a woman with standards right there because my ex best friend, I definitely
like think about her like an ex and oh my God, the tears she messaged me on my
birthday, I see like a number and a text sounded like a girl and I'm like, so
it's definitely not the guys from Raya.
And then I kind of just like replied being like, so what's new with you to try
and figure out who it is and figure out it it is. And I figure out it was her.
And I'm like, oh my God, I'm going to put my phone down because I don't know how to
feel about this.
This happened at my birthday dinner.
Like.
So what did you do?
Was it a nice message?
At least?
It was such a nice message.
It just made me feel so sad.
Like all that emotion comes back because this was such a special friend who was there
for me when my marriage was bad.
Yeah. Like I would always go to her. She sent the nicest message saying like, you know,
I'm always here for you whenever you need.
That's really sweet though. I think that's actually nice. Like I know that might have
like made you feel like, oh, but then also she's probably thought about stuff and she
obviously misses you too. Like, you know what I mean?
It was really nice, but like I think I got the first 10 minutes.
I just, it was a lot.
Yeah.
Fair.
That would be a lot to be fair.
Yeah.
And I felt so bad for like the friends I was with, but they were so
understanding, like babe, no, it's fine.
Like someone always comes back on your birthday.
I think whenever I've had like a friendship breaker for something, it has just been
like, but one was like messy and then the other one, we just kind of faded different lives.
Yeah.
It happens.
Doesn't it?
Friendships are very interesting.
They're very complex, way more complex than we, you know, tell ourselves to be.
We act like as if relationships are like the big priority thing, but I
think friendships is way more important.
Yeah.
Cause I feel like those, they should, this is why they should. Yeah, because I feel like they should,
this is why they should stick by you through the highs and the lows. Yeah, because I was thinking
like I would rather have an amazing group of girlfriends and no boyfriend than to have a good
boyfriend no girlfriends. I don't know now, I would always say that before, but now I'm like,
the only reason I say this is because when you get older people stop
Hanging out and then your partner like behind your person
Yeah, and that's the only reason I would say that that freaks me out too
Like, you know when you if you don't find your partner or you don't you know
Yeah, you don't find them and then you're the only one and everyone's always in their couples and always doing things together and then they have kids so they don't even see their friends at all.
Things are changing for sure it's not very traditional anymore there's a lot of single 30 year olds there's a lot of single 40 year olds like you just find like your people as you go through life.
You're never gonna be alone.
Yeah true.
But it's interesting right like friendships are deep.
Isn't there a thing about if you've been friends for like a certain amount of years? Seven years. Only seven? That's
not that long. Like it's long, but it's not that long in friendship. Like, especially if you don't
see them all the time. Like that goes fast. Yeah, no, it does. Definitely. Have you ever had it,
so you've gone through the friendship breakup and then like wanted to reach out and say
something like closure or just stopped yourself.
Yes, all the time.
So there are like friends that I will never have answers to about why it ended.
You just have to make peace with it and move on with your life.
Yeah, literally, you're doing it's hard though.
But you get there.
Yeah. literally. You're doing it's hard though. But you get there. Yeah. Yeah.
It's God saying that, like, they shouldn't, for whatever reason,
not that they're a nasty person, but they shouldn't be in your life at this moment.
Maybe they'll come back. Maybe they won't.
Exactly. Like, we're all going through our own journeys in life.
Have you avoided mutual friends to, like, not talk about it?
The friendship break up.
I haven't had it recently, but like if I had I would, you know what I mean?
Like if I had it now, like I would do that.
But then if I, I haven't had had it before because it was only like individual
friends that I had it with not like whole group.
But yeah, if I had it now, like with my friends now, I would. It's awkward.
And also you don't like even, they're obviously going to talk about it with each other.
And like, if-
There's just no need to invite that kind of negativity to your name.
Yeah.
And even if you like still are friends with everybody, you haven't fallen out, it's just
to maybe see them individually.
Definitely.
But I've been that messy mutual that's asked people, hey, I've noticed you guys don't hang out anymore. What happened?
What? To people that you've seen? Oh no.
I was like, hey, like I've noticed, like I know that you guys have moved out, but like you guys don't hang out.
What's up?
Yeah, but I don't think you were saying that necessarily like knowing that they were.
Yeah, I didn't do it to like pry, pry, but I, like, I did ask.
And then, like, when they told me that they had a friendship breakup, I'm like,
this feels like a divorce to me.
Like, you guys were, like, the pinnacle of friendship.
I'm not even kidding.
Like, I loved seeing their content together, just being super funny.
And yeah.
Well, that makes me sad.
Really sad.
Friendship breakups hit.
I literally had to be like, oh my god.
Bless, I was a bit messy with my reaction being like,
wait what?
Because I told them, I'm like,
I really thought that you guys were best friends till the end.
And I would go over to their place
because they needed models to glam up and stuff.
So we'd have such great banter
and I would feel like they're a kid kind of.
Oh my God, that's so sad.
Oh, I hate friendship breakups.
Just be friends forever.
That's why we have the bracelet.
Okay, looking through old photos and feeling sad.
Yeah, like it also Apple like does get you on that.
Like with the reminders.
Apple, Instagram with this time last year and you Apple, Instagram, with this time last year,
and you're like, oh, this time last year
I was in Ibiza with you.
I had so much fun, I don't know why.
Yeah, well we'd like promise each other
we're gonna be best friends forever.
It's just a different part of life, different time.
You know, and there might be better times that come.
That is true, there will always be better times,
because sometimes I think,
I don't think we've lived our bestest days. No I hope not. Yeah I actually hope not. Yeah like as amazing
as life has been especially the last two weeks I just know there's more and better coming.
There we go. Has your ex ever hit up your old friend and you found out? Oh yeah he would like
like their pictures
and I'm like, what are you trying to achieve?
They all think you're ugly dude.
He liked your pics too?
No, no, I never followed him
and I have talked shit about him on here before.
Being a good friend, trying to feast you out.
You know.
That's the breakup diet,
you just gotta be there for one another.
And I'm sure he's a good person.
He's just not good for you.
Yeah, that's just how it is with relationships
and friendships, like at the core of it,
all the people from my past, they're not bad people.
It's just so that sometimes it just doesn't work out.
Yeah, and I think that's okay.
It's just like hard to realize it sometimes.
And even if it wasn't good, I feel like you hold on
sometimes to things
just because of history or just because of the familiarity.
You know what I mean?
Not actually because it's like right,
and you know it's right, but it's hard to let go.
But once you get there, it's quite liberating.
It is.
Back to bingo.
Back to bingo.
Have you ever dreamt of like making up with someone
that just known, you know.
Oh, I've dreamt about my like ex friends
and I like sometimes dream about like,
where I'm like begging them.
Oh!
It's really weird.
That is weird.
What, just begging them to be friends with you again
or begging them to forgive you or what?
Yeah, begging to be friends with them,
be like, see I told you I'm not the problem, like that
kind of thing.
Did they say that you were the problem?
Yeah.
Oh, that's me.
It all happened during just, well, we'll talk about it in another episode, but basically
when you're on the path of self-improvement, these friends who actually don't want you
to do better than them, they'll just drop like flies.
You would think that they would want to be around though.
Yeah and it kind of makes me think that like actually I think people want to be there for
the bad times for the tea and not for the good times because they think that you're a threat.
Flattering but it's just it really has changed my perception in
friendships and who's genuine. Yeah I don't think you yeah to be fair I don't in friendships and who's genuine.
Yeah.
I don't think you, yeah, to be fair, I don't think you know who's genuine until
like, you've been through the good and the bad and both extremes off it.
Yeah.
I agree with that.
It's easy to be around like with all like good times and like fun times.
So then when you like really need someone, if they're actually there too, I
think it's like a thing so I can go both ways.
Oh, it can a hundred percent for sure.
Go both ways.
It's just a lesson that I've learned personally is they'll always be there for the bad time.
They loved like hearing the tea about my husband and blah, blah, blah.
And then soon as I'm like glowing up, like dating kind of hotter, which I did like Miami
and like that kind of situation.
He was hot.
He was really hot.
I was shocked and I remember it because I remember I didn't think it was your type.
And then I was like, how is that not anyone's type?
That's a type and a half.
Because I've seen your type, babe.
That's not my type.
My ex was like an act of psychosis after a divorce.
Everyone else that you've seen me like kind of talk to date, they have been quite classic
looking.
Yeah yeah yeah.
Rebranding.
We're rebranding guys!
Have you ever seen a meme and known like only they would get it or wanted to like send
it or you know what I mean?
Yeah when you see something that reminds you of your inside jokes and you're like oh I
can't send them anymore because they're not in my life. Yeah or you like go to send it and you're like oh I can't send them anymore because they're not in my life.
Yeah or you like go to send it and you're like oh I'll just send it to my mum.
Like I can't.
Or I'll just send it to you.
Yeah I have to just shove it up my arse.
Yeah it's actually so sad that.
Dude I'm getting so depressed.
I know.
Yes we need like a friendship coach therapist.
I know.
We've had a break up coach Can we get someone for friendship please?
I'm like, actually, I don't know.
I'm going through a lot.
You're gonna be fine.
This is a positive podcast.
Like-
No, it is a positive podcast.
We're just telling you guys about different types
of common things that you could do after,
like behavior things or like that,
like most people, if you've not done one,
you might've done the other ones.
You know? It's not necessarily to if you've not done one, you might have done the other ones.
It's not necessarily to make you feel bad or whatever, because some of these things
are kind of funny too. It's not funny feeling rejected and hurt and left out or whatever,
or losing a good friend. Some of these situations can be, they're not funny at the time, but
they might be funny after.
G. Because they're so outrageous, you just can only laugh.
L. Or you might be so awkward in them and then you're like,
oh my God, I can't even like.
I geeked out, I'm such a loser.
Yeah, yeah.
Or you also might just, you might feel validated too.
Like one of these things might happen, but then something else.
We hope you feel validated from all of this.
Like, that's what we're trying to do.
We're all in it together.
We are all in it together.
And if you're going through a friendship breakup,
you got to just like, treat it like a normal breakup and cry and try to feel better. But don't
reanalyze stuff so much. Like obviously analyze it to a point.
Reanalyze it to learn the lesson and then move on.
And take accountability for like the way that you might've handled some things.
But then after you just gotta let it go.
100% and you will always meet people
as you go in your path, always.
Yeah, that's also another thing.
Like people come in and out all the time.
And it's not even necessarily because they don't like you
or whatever, it's just different.
We all go through life differently, you know?
Yeah, and also you might just meet a new person.
Like, you know what I mean?
You might meet a new friend.
You might make a new friend.
Yeah, when you get older,
your friendship group naturally probably gets smaller.
Like, if it hasn't already.
Everyone has it.
Because do you see old people with that many friends?
Like, maybe my mom's just an exception.
But like, yeah.
I was gonna say, like, my parents,
every time I go back home, I'm like new friend new friend
No, my parents have lots of friends. Yeah, but like close close friends
Oh there in a cycle has always stayed the same for the last like 30 years
I feel like that I know who would be there like top few like if something really went wrong because they really help
But then they have lots of other friends
But I find that hard. I find that really hard to do.
Like if you're my friend, I kind of want you to be like-
A forever thing.
Yeah.
Yeah, that's what I do as well.
Like I have the intention to be friends
with someone forever.
Yeah, or if you're my friend, but I don't,
like I think you're like a fair way to befriend,
I won't actually engage fully.
But I find that really hard,
but like I feel like I've learned that over the years. Yeah. You get me? I get you. Just the
lessons of friendship and life. Yeah, but stay positive because it only gets better. Seriously.
Yeah, and it might get worse, but then it will get better. You know what I mean? It's up and down,
it's waves, but it's linear. It will just go up no matter how down it goes.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Stay strong. Love you guys. And thank you for listening.
Bye. You