The Break-Up Diet - He Told You “Not To Worry About Her”… Don’t Be Naive — WORRY. ft Isabelle Clare

Episode Date: May 6, 2026

This week I’m joined by Isabelle Clare and girls… this episode is TOO relatable.Imagine getting broken up with over Instagram DMs whilst you’re alone in China filming an acting job. Yeah. INSANE.We get into heartbreak, girls intuition, breakup spirals, no contact, closure conversations, stalking his following list like an FBI agent, and that horrible feeling of knowing something is off… but still trying to convince yourself you’re overthinking.We also talk about rebuilding your life after heartbreak, changing your routine to survive a breakup, crying on hotel floors, accidentally turning your pain into viral content, and the reality of trying to heal whilst the entire internet is watching.And honestly some of the relationship red flags we discuss in this episode??? GIRLS.Like if he keeps you a secret… if he never introduces you to his friends… if he tells you “not to worry about her”… if he makes you feel crazy every time you bring something up…PLEASE.Because tell me why women will literally lose sleep, analyse reposts, stalk TikTok likes, investigate Instagram followers and create full FBI investigations… while the man is acting clueless.We also get into dating after heartbreak, feeling scared to start again, and that weird stage where you miss them one day and then suddenly wake up fine the next.This episode feels like one long unfiltered girls chat and I just know so many of you are going to relate to this one HARD.And Isabelle is honestly such a gorgeous soul. I loved this conversation so much.So girls… if he told you “not to worry about her”… maybe don’t be naive. WORRY.Go on then, press play x Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Well, I'm going to have to heal from this breakup, so I may as well show the process of doing it. Yeah. Which I did. And I actually found it really cathartic because some people could see the videos that I was creating as a sense of like attention seeking or being like, you're doing this to get back at your ex because you know he's watching. But it was none of that. For me, it was more like a, if I create videos for the next 30 days talking about healing for a breakup, it gives me a purpose to wake up at the morning, to be quite honest. Yeah. And it gives me that motivation to go out and actually like get over it.

So that's what I did. And I've kind of been doing it ever since. Buckle up, bitches. It's going to get bumpy. This is the breakup diet. Welcome back to another episode of The Breakup Diet. Today I'm joined by Isabel Claire. Hey-ya.

So for anybody who might not know you, give yourself a little bit of an intro. Oh gosh. Content creator, actress and presenter can find myself on Isda's Life on TikTok. Basically got monetized because I went through a breakup. And here we are. Here we go. A cloud. Yeah.

Off the breakup. We love that. I know. Is that how you got into doing like street interviews? Well, I've been doing street interviews for about a year and a half. So like backstory, I used to work in fashion, had a mental breakdown working in fashion, and then decided I wanted to do something different. So trained in acting, started doing street interviews just for fun with my friends and then just kind of went from there.

With the fashion was it you would, did you want to start your own brand or you didn't know? I was a fashion buyer. So, yeah, at Selfichers, the big yellow department store. I was there for about four years. And I loved it whilst it lasted. But then I've always kind of wanted to become something myself. Like massive fear of being forgotten. And I just had enough of it, I think.

I'd done it. I'd takes that box and just wanted to do something different. So I can't remember who said to me, like, you'd be really good at acting. And I thought, I've never heard that before. I used to be like, the tree in the Christmas play. I was like, you know what? 24 may as well give it a shot. So I did.

That's so crazy. That's so nice. So it's actually such a scary thing to change industry when you've been in something, even for four years, even a year and you're used to it and you're used to like that amount of income or whatever and then you change to do acting. Terrifying. Did you have any doubts when doing that? I had hit a rock bottom.

So I was like, I literally don't have any other choice. It's either I continue to stay here and be comfortable or push myself out the comfort zone and go and chase my dreams essentially. Like, I've been creating YouTube videos since I was nine years old. So it was kind of always something I loved doing, but I never thought it could possibly be anything. Like, I've got a fashion degree, for God's sake. Yeah, I got to a point where I didn't really have any other choice. And I think when you're in that position, especially when you're living in London, you've got bills to pay.

I just made it work. God, Fred's to you. Thank you. God, that's so scary. Acting's hard. You know, I actually did, like, studied acting. Like, studied it through courses and stuff. I didn't go to uni for it.

I actually went to uni and then dropped out studying fashion. No way! I only lasted like a month and I was like, this is not for me. Gosh, I wish I did that. Yeah, and then went and did acting stuff. But it was more for me. It was more like a character development.

Yeah. But that's why I know it's so hard. Yeah, it's not hard. That is rejection therapy to the max. No wonder you're good at street interviews. We live on a floating rock is how I see it. I think doing street interviews in London is actually so much easier than probably anywhere else in the UK because there are so many people that you know you're never going to see again.

But it's definitely challenging. You have to do it to a certain point where you just don't care anymore. Obviously at the beginning, same with that rejection and acting or rejection in anything. It could be dating relationship. You've got to keep going through it to realize, you know what, I survived this last time, I can survive it again. Yeah, the first time I did it, I've done it twice only. For the first time I did it, I was so scared. I was like, we need to have a drink, we need to have a drink.

But people are generally nice than anything. Yeah, they are. They can be rude. They can be. But it's like, well, I won't want to talk to you anyway. No, they actually are nice to be there. We haven't had a bad. We've only had people like run away being like, no.

No, don't talk to me. Which I get, I don't think I would talk to me for. Yeah. I think I'd be like, I'm busy. Yeah. You don't know what they're going to say. Yeah, true. I have been put in positions where I'm like, I don't want to answer this question.

But you can just be like, I'm not answering this question. On that note, if your ex was a song, what would they be? No, if your dating life was a song, what would they be? Oh, girl. That's your own question back at you. Oh, girl. Right now, incredibly single. I need a song where it's talking about

there are people, like potentials, but nothing. Like, it's in my head. I'm like, I have three. I've got an inside joke, but I can't say it wouldn't make any sense. I've got three people, I'm like, you know what? I would like to pursue this. But none of them know that they're in the pipeline of potentially being pursued.

So I need... Fantasy. Fantasy. So something something... Something. Isn't there a song called, like, fantasy, by, who, who was that actor who was on Riverdale? And then he did that, like, everyone was like spiraling because it was like, they weren't sure if it was him and he's called like Mr. Fantasy.

Maybe it's that. No, you need to look it up. Maybe it's that. His name is Mr. Fantasy. That's hilarious. But if you want a solid answer, I'll give you two. Manchild by Sabrina Galpenter for one and Taste by Sabrina Coppenter for two. I saw on your page that apparently that's a road.

flag if the girl like Serena Carvander or favorite artist is Serena Carpenter. Where's my phone? Call me a red flag. I get it from a man's perspective because she is a man hater. But where I see it is like she talks about loving men but hating men, which I feel like is every straight girl. Yeah. So I get it, but maybe a beige flag.

Yeah, a beige flag. I like her too. So my favorite that helps me through mind break up was a bastard. music all the time. It was like, this is it, it was Tate McCray. Tate McCray. I love Tate McCray. Yeah, I really like her. Anything but Love actually is a good shout. That could be the third one. Yeah. So many, so many emotions. And what actually made you start, like, wanting to do breakup content

and getting into it? You said you had, like, the acting stuff, but then more specifically breakups. This is a crazy story. So I was acting in China. I was flown to China, and I was only expecting to be there for about two weeks. So I was with my ex before. I was like, let's spend a week together because I don't know how long I'm going to be in China. Fly to China. I'm there for three weeks and then I fly to Vietnam to do another writing project. And then I had a two-day period between having a job in Vietnam and a job in China. So I was like, I'm going to fly back to the UK to see my ex. Right. Crazy decision. Flew two hours, saw my ex. And when I saw him, I was like, something's not right here. You know, and the vibes off. The energy is off.

Got feeling. Yeah. So I had a conversation. I was like, what's going on, X, Y, and Z? And we kind of left it like, we'll get through this. I'm going to be in China for about a couple more weeks. We'll get back and then we'll work it out. And I flew back to China and he broke up with me over Instagram DMs a day and a half later.

So the reason I'm in breakup content is because I was vlogging the entire experience, right? Like being in China as someone who's never been to Asia before was like so exciting. So I was like vlogging my experience of acting out there. And it was like daily vlog style. Uh-huh. And then amid the daily vlog, I get an Instagram DM. I mean, some people might say that I was wrong to do it, but I can't not show this if I'm showing my life. Yeah.

So I did. And there is a viral video of me crying on the hotel floor, which is the video that got me monetized. Oh my gosh. Yeah. Yeah. So I went, so China is eight hours in front of the UK. I post this video thinking nothing of it. I'm like, maybe a few people will relate to it, which was the purpose of what I was doing.

Yeah. And I wake up and it's gone viral. and I'm like, oh no, oh dearie, dearie me. You've been creating content since she was nine and it caused you to do that to go viral again. Right. So I was like, that video is clearly touched people in a sense of they might relate or they might have something to say about it. So business mind, I was like,

well, I'm going to have to heal from this breakup, so I may as well show the process of doing it. Yeah. Which I did. And I actually found it really cathartic because some people could see the videos that I was creating as a sense of like attention seeking or being like you're doing this to get back at your ex because you know he's watching but it was none of that for me it was more like a if I create videos for the next 30 days talking about

healing for a breakup it gives me a purpose to wake up at the morning to be quite honest yeah and it gives me that motivation to go out and actually like get over it so that's what I did and I've kind of been doing it ever since because it created this like really sweet community of people who were going through the same thing. Yeah. And yeah. That's actually nice. I don't know if I would have had the balls to do it straight away because I was so

like up and down because your emotions are crazy after a breakup. Wild. But that's why it's so relatable and like everybody does like have to heal, you know. And that's your wave that helped you heal. Yeah. It wasn't easy. I will say that. But I kind of sat something to do every single day.

that was going to either push me outside my comfort zone or change my daily routine. And I was vlogging that. So, I mean, when I was in China, that was the worst because I didn't have any control over my day. I was just having to, like, suck it up and get on with it. But once I got back to the UK, I, no one was around.

It was Christmas, so I was on my own. I was like, well, you know what? I'm going to go and do something for myself. So I did things like ice skating, go and see my family in the UK, or, I don't know, get my hair done, trying a new makeup routine. and I was creating that to hopefully inspire other people to go and do similar things.

Yeah, I think you have to, especially when you have a breakup, you have to like get out and do things even though you don't want to. Like you don't want to. It's the hardest thing ever. You're probably going to feel shit doing it, but like it just does make it better. Yeah. And it did help, but obviously it got a little bit sticky when the ex was seeing videos. Yeah. And the people in the industry were seeing the videos.

What did he say? Like, did he see it straight away? I think people were sending him the videos and I made a very clear point to never mention him he was never once mentioned and the situation was never once mentioned I never said anything bad about him I was documenting how I was feeling yeah so it was nothing about him it was about me but obviously not everyone was going to interpret it like that when you know me and my ex

let's call him Henry that was clearly about Henry and I think one made it even stickier is we had quite I'm not calling myself like a celebrity, but we had a public relationship. Like we're both in the same industry. We did a few YouTube shows together. So people saw us together. Okay. So people found him, which was the hardest part.

Yeah. I never mentioned him, but people found him. Yeah. And said things to him, which I don't know what they said, which is what I did not want. So there was a point where I stopped it. So I was like, this isn't fair. Yeah. But then I also thought, but I'm not wrong for doing it.

So then I continued it. He wasn't happy, which I wouldn't be happy if someone did the same thing to me. but I made a clear to him that they weren't about him and just kind of... I think it's fine if you're doing like your feelings of it and like speaking from your point of view, but you're not saying... Because obviously every story has two people. So he has his own perspective. You know what I mean?

Yeah. But as long as you're like true with what you are feeling and how you're... How it happened for you, then I don't think it's bad. Okay, few. Thank you. That's... I mean, I also like, I didn't start this when I, um... I was like with my ex but then after we broke up. So like there's lots of things that I've said on here that are like if you know us both,

then you would know us about him. Yeah. We don't really have the same friends though. Okay. So that kind of makes it easier. But I know people were sending him my like TikToks. I was like making like stupid little ones with like little text over. We all do it.

And it was like a trend. I actually didn't even, it didn't have anything to do with my thing. And it was like something about like people sliding in. Like like that you can answer all the people. people that have like slid into your DMs. Yeah. Which, okay, fair, people did slide in when we're in our relationship, but I never answered. Of course.

But also, I didn't answer them after that either. It was just that I saw it like on the thing and I was like, oh, that's fun. So I did it. And apparently, like, loads of people who, you know, sent it to him be like, mate, she was fucking cheating on you. And I was like, I wasn't, thank you. Oh, but people just want gossip. They just want to get involved. This is how I saw it when people were sending my videos to my ex.

I was like, why are you, we've never spoke. Yeah. Yeah, same. So many people. It's extremely difficult and you're in the same industry for sure. I say I'm not going to make that mistake again. I probably will. But I was like, your life, respectfully, your life must be so boring right now

for you to get involved in somebody else's relationship drama. Like... Fans. From that. That's what I, that's what I'm my friend, I was like, ran to you. My friend's like, yes, we love a fan. We love it. We love it.

But like, the audacity to not even text... There are people who sent my friends. videos to him who I've spoken to before but it's like why have you chosen sites like why couldn't you just text me be like saw this video hope you're okay but instead you go and send it to them yeah what you're trying to gain from that yeah i will never understand it but more engagement for you yeah keep it up keep it up keep commenting keep like monetize monetize monetize one of time crazy every clown has a silver-lined so with your healing yeah what could you give me maybe like three things that you think really helped like three do's and three do

don'ts. Okay, maybe I'll start with the don'ts. Don't text them. Don't text them. Don't call them. Don't look at their social media. It's so much easier said than done. But you get nothing out of it. You just prolong the process. Another don't is when you see your friends, don't talk to them about it. A bit controversial. But when you're with your friends, you should see that time as just being you. Because when you're going through a breakup, I think it can be very easy to perceive yourself as someone going through a breakup. up but if you go about with your friends or your family like nothing's ever happened you will get the response back so say for example you go out for a coffee and you're like oh he said this he did that he did the other you're not giving yourself time to actually enjoy yourself so speak to your friends

about i don't know what they did during the week or like the normal girly chat that you have obviously there are times there are members where you will want a friend to lean on but don't make it every time yeah that's a good piece of advice actually yeah i haven't even thought about that but it's so true. Yeah, because me, you just want to chat shit sometimes. Oh yeah. It makes you feel better. All the time after you're like, he sucks. He sucks. He follows this many girls. Girl, I still do it to this day. I'm like, it's more, get over it. It's been like four months. Another don't. Don't blame yourself. There are two sides to a story and two people that are involved in a breakup. One person might break up with the other, but there are two sides. Don't blame yourself

because sometimes it is just the fact that they're not in a good place or they just don't see a going any further. It's not a you problem. It's not that you're fat. It's not like you're ugly. It's not like you're a horrible person. Maybe it's just not your person, which is also something really hard to digest. Because your arithmetic, like, oh my God, should I go brunette? Oh my gosh, shall I lose weight? Oh my God. Should I do X, Y and Z? They loved you for you and maybe it's not the right time or maybe they just discovered they're not your person. It's more personality vibes, I would say. Yeah, it literally could have nothing to do with like the way that you look, the way that you are and nothing. It's just that they're not in love. Exactly. Which is just,

so hard. It's so hard to not be like, it's me, I'm the problem. Maybe you are the problem sometimes. Yeah. But not all of the time. So there are still things that you should be proud of yourself for, like still have that level of respect for yourself. Yeah. So hard. So much easy than, Dan. Everything with the breakup is so much easier. Oh, girl, I still stalk his TikTok. I said, it'll do it. Yeah. I mean, yeah, I've actually, I was so bad. After my breakup, I was so bad on Instagram. I was like an FBI agent. I was like, I was like, let me crack it out, like, let's go. I was like, I wake up and I'm like, oh, and like, have you seen that video where the

girl's like has the two computers and she's like croft-wrestencing the like following list? No. Oh my God, it's so funny. I'll send it to you. It's like this girl. She's like made a video of like his following goes up one. He's like after a night out. Yeah.

Goes up one. She then gets out like her two computers is on like Excel cross-referencing names and stuff like this. I felt like this, but I didn't do that. But, like, I could just remember them because I looked at it so much. So funny. It's so bad. Reposts on my favorite thing. What are?

Reposts on TikTok on my favorite thing to stalk. Because you can look into someone's brain with the stuff that they repost, right? I've posted so much bad stuff. Like, so much breakup content. I'm like, yeah. Yeah. That was true. So does everyone.

Like, I'm out of myself here. But the other day, you reposted a video of Angelina Jolie. I was like, since when did I like brunettes? Since when? I'm going brunette tomorrow. Literally. Well, you do just silly stuff like that, but try not to. Easy said the dirt.

I had the exact same thing, but it wasn't like, it was more like the following list and he was suddenly following all these things. I know all these exes are blonde. I know everybody else is blonde. He's always told me here and they like blondes. And I was like, why the fuck? Are there 10 brunettes on here now? Exactly.

I'm like, right, great, Angelia Jolie. Fantastic. Oh, God. What should you do during a breakup? Not any of that. Not any of that, no, even though it can be fun sometimes. Push yourself out your comfort zone, trying to change up your routine. Obviously, there is a common thread of being like, get your hair done, get your nails done,

it makes you feel nice, do things like that, but also do things that you never really even thought about doing before. Like ice skating, going to a dance class, just something to switch up that routine. Because I was saying it kind of like tricks your brain into thinking it's a new chapter. Yeah. Because the way you spend your day is the way you live your life. And if you, when you're spending every day with someone, that makes you feel like that's going to be for the rest of your life. But when that's taken away, it's like, whoa. So trying to do things that kind of switch up that routine really helped me.

Lean on your friends and your family for support when you need it, but not all of the time. Because I think the hardest part, and I bet you felt the same way through yours is like when you get home at night to yourself and you're like, whoa, I feel so alone. it's like you have to be able to rely on yourself more than you rely on others. Yeah. Also easier said than done. Yeah. I didn't have it as much necessarily just a night because we were long distance. And so I was alone a lot of the time.

But what helped me was the opposite of yours with that. Really? Because my friend actually kind of moved in here and was here with me. And then my mom was also here for a bit just by coincidence. Yeah. And so that was really nice, but also really, like, tragic. because I was like months later, I remember I was just like crying because I obviously had a wave. And I was like crying in my bed and my mom could obviously hear me and then like came and snuggled me in my bed.

I'm like, I'm 20 fucking five crying in my bed and my mom's paddling me over this boy. Yeah. Like it wasn't like, I was like, but that was months later as well. It happens though. Like some things can just trigger you. So if you've got those people to lean on, of course do. Yeah. But there will be times where you do just have to like learn how to do it yourself.

which I kind of had to learn the hard way because I was in the middle of China and I didn't know anybody. Did that make it even worse? Because you literally, especially if you're like not in like, like I've had one breakup where I wasn't in like London. And I found that really hard because I was like, I'm alone and I was in a hotel room. And I was like alone in a city where I didn't know anyone. It just made me feel so, so much more lonely. And I was only there for like one night alone. Yeah.

But it was like, oh. Yeah. No, even though like a hotel room in my bedroom. It was just this massive difference. Yeah. Huge difference. It was rough, girl. It was really rough.

Because China, don't speak the language. Yeah. The only people I knew were the people I were working with, which I will say were the biggest godsends. There were these two guys from America, known them for maximum two days. And they were just there to just like make me laugh or like talk about it. These guys had, they didn't even know me.

But they helped a lot. But when they weren't there, this is what I'm saying, like try and help. yourself if you're in the circumstance where you need to, it was the hotel rooms. It was like getting to a hotel room on my own at the end of the night being like, I feel so alone right now. Eight hours ahead of UK time. Couldn't speak to anybody. Oh gosh. That is hard. It was awful, awful, awful. Luckily, I was in China for about another two weeks after that. So, like, it helped in the sense I was away from home. So I didn't really have to deal with it.

And also, yeah, also you're on a job. So, like, you were like, no, okay, I can't have to push it bit. Yeah. Which isn't good, but like you should feel your feelings, but like you kind of have to sometimes just be like, nah, this is a problem for later. Yeah. Especially if you're like doing acting where you're being like very emotional and vulnerable. So vulnerable. It was the crazy, like I couldn't even write some of the stuff that happened when I was out there. But it was hard being out there in the sense of I knew that I had to fly back to the UK and I had to deal with it. I think that was the hardest part because kind of felt like a fever dream being in China. And then I had a 22 hour flight back to the UK.

and that's when I really, really felt it. Especially because it was pre-Christmas. It was like a week before Christmas. And I was like, fantastic. This is really fun. Jolly time. Really fun. But then that did push me to go out and do things that I wouldn't normally do

and create the content. So like every cloud has a silver lining, but no, it was not easy. What's the biggest mistake you've, like, heard about people making in a breakup after? Staying in contact. Like even following it all? Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. because even though you don't think you're doing it,

you will subconsciously want to know everything that they're doing all of the time 24-7. And I think it kind of stops you closing that door if you need to close the door. I don't know if you can be friends with an ex. I tried it with this one and it just made it even harder for me. How long ago was it?

The breakup was so messy girl. It was in December and then we went no contact. Did I text him probably every other week? Yes. which it was just what I do, which was a huge mistake because then it was just having the same conversations over and over and over again.

But on the flip side to that, sometimes you do have to do it to get to a point where you're like, I actually don't want to talk to you anymore because... I think you sometimes have to go back a few times. Yeah. Which is not good.

You probably waste time, but like sometimes you do just have to go back until you're really like, nah. Yeah, you're not. it. Yeah. Yeah. There's, yeah, two sides. No contact is good for me now at the beginning. I mean, no contact would have been great for me at the beginning because I would have just stopped myself from like saying a load of things that I ended up later regretting. Nothing like malicious, but like, you know when you're like so vulnerable, you just say a lot of stuff and you wake up the next day

and you're like, shouldn't have said that. Yeah. Because you're saying it out of state of emotion. My best friend actually did say to me, no text is good after 10pm. And I stuck by that rule and it really helped me. Because you know, when you're like, awake at 1 a.m. in the morning, you just like, feeling your feels, you're probably like listen to, I don't know, Adele. And you're like, oh my God, it's lost the love of my life. Then you just text silly things that you've not thought about. So like if you can refrain from doing it, please do. And if you really do want to talk to them, the best thing to initiate is meeting them in person. Because texting, you can say whatever you want of text. And like, it's, it's less daunting to do it that way. And

sometimes you can say things that may be a bit more heightened emotion. But if you get to a point where you're like, no, what, you know what, let's be civil. Let's go and talk about everything over a coffee and move on from there, probably the best way. So you believe in a closure conversation? I think I do. Yeah. I think I do. I would say that you get closure from yourself, though.

I was in a huge stage of denial. I was like, you can say whatever you want to. I'm not going to believe it because I've created this story in my head. But actually, I did end up meeting him afterwards twice. And it hurt a lot. But then also you were able to like have a more. well-rounded conversation because when you're texting someone you're like waiting for like two hours for a reply or like if they're playing that game but if you just sit down and like have a

conversation after a period of time about everything that's happened i think it has to be a while after though like not straight away like at least like like i'm like two months like eight like because otherwise it's too too fresh after i did it with what we're calling henry yeah henry did cry on the tube on the way back home i did yeah but then after that i was like you know what that was nice i don't have to have hatred for you, I can try and continue to move on from it afterwards. Yeah. So I think a closure conversation, if you're, if it's not like a hostile breakup, yeah.

Yeah. That I think maybe, yeah. It's just hard. The closure conversation because then also like if it's nice, then you get a bit confused too because then you're like, oh, that's so nice seeing them. And then like if you end up then go back together, but you know, you shouldn't. It's like a tricky one. If I, I can't sit here and say I'm 100% healed.

Absolutely not. It takes time. It takes time. but yeah you're right. I think it's such and you know what I find so weird is the click like why suddenly is it just like

you don't care as much yeah like you wake up on a random Thursday and you're like I'm fine I'm fine yeah wild we need to develop something

that just gives you that click faster and having 24 hours after it happened yeah so you can cry it all out you can have your bitch and then you can just like take that pill and be like

woohoo let's invent it Do you have any dating red flags? Okay. If they never invite you to see their friends or their family, massive red flag. Because if they're wanting to do life with you, then you should be integrated into part of their life. Okay. Like my ex met all of my friends was on the phone to my family.

I've never once met any of his friends. Never. And I was like, you're keeping me a secret. That's weird. Weird. That is weird. Yeah, yeah. But at the time I was like, they're just busy.

It's fine. fine. Yeah, you make so many excuses. So many silly excuses. This is a really big one and a really big part of the story. If they tell you not to worry about someone... Worry. Worry.

Worry. Worry. Worry. Shout it from the rooftops. A hundred percent worry. I can second that. Yeah. Yeah.

Because they will probably be the person who comes after you. Yeah. And then a third red flag is if they're not willing to have an open conversation with you without playing the victim, massive, massive problem. Because when you're in a relationship, it can be a friendship as well. Like, you should be able to just have a conversation like, like, I don't really like the way that you did that. Or this made me feel like X, my, Z.

But if they flip it around and make you the problem, run. Yeah, that is true, actually. Because if they say that to your face, what are they saying behind closed doors? Yeah. What are they saying to their friends and their family? Yeah. Scary. Scary.

my ex's mom didn't like me and I don't know why probably for that reason I don't believe it there's no way she didn't like you oh girl if your ex was a dessert what would they be

how does it even come up with that I actually don't know I don't know how I came up with that question this is a hot actually no I do have this like a melt in the middle chocolate pudding because

hold on the outside, you on the inside, but you know it's bad for you. Fair. That one. Fair. That one. That question, you know what that question kind of reminds me of? There was something on TikTok as well.

That was like about if your ex was a brand, what would it be? Or then you have to say the name of it. And some of them are so funny. What's yours? Well, like, this is not mine, like for my ex, but I just found this one funny. It was like, hello kitty,

because he says hello to every kitty. And I was like, I was like, far, that's funny. Or like one of them is like IKEA because you had to do it all yourself. No. You have to look at it. Oh, I have to do that. It's so funny. You have to ask people that one as well.

I like that. Honestly, hilarious. Noted. For you, what's next for you? In terms of life or in terms of dating? Yeah, your next journey. My next journey, I want to kind of move out of the breakup content. moving to more dating stuff.

Make it a bit more fun, make dating fun again. I'm probably starting dating myself again and documenting that process. Have you not been dating since? No. Fair. It's scary after breakup going into dating, I think. Yeah. And especially like there's so many different views on when you should and when you shouldn't. Because some people can break up and then quite soon after go on loads of dates and be

fine. I was not that girly. I'm not that girl. When you start dating too soon, obviously it's very subjective, but you just start comparing them to your acts and that connection. That's like such an unfair comparison. Especially also with your ex, like you have so much history and like you've built up to being so close to. And then you have the breakup and then you go on the date and you're like, why don't I feel like that?

But probably at the start with your ex, you obviously didn't feel like as close either. Yeah, I didn't fancy my ex-Ram. I met him on set, which was hilarious. Actually, no, I take that back. I kind of did but kind of didn't. I didn't think that meeting him where I met him would have led to what it was going to become. And sometimes that's kind of the best way your relationships happen. like you're not looking for it and it kind of just happens.

But it's just so frustrating though when you want to start dating again and you start going like the dating apps and I go on first dates. I'm always in two minds whether I do actively look or I just like let it happen. The thing is I want to this, I'm in this phase of like I'm on dating apps but I want to just let it happen. Yeah. But I'm not that social. Like as in I'm social.

But then when I'm out with my girls, I'm out with my girls and I'm not looking and I feel like you have to literally be like a vulture and looking at these men and then you have to stare at them, like, into their soul, and then they might come up. And I'm just not like that. Yeah. Is it a chance you could meet people at work? No.

Where am I going to meet them here? And there's some inviting hot boys onto the pod. Come on. Yeah, it's a weird one. It is a weird one. Where are you going to... What do you think you're going to do? I don't know.

I want to get back on the apps, but I just find them very time-consuming. And you can't read someone's energy on an app. I think I was going to start sitting in coffee shops and hoping hot guys, to walk into the coffee shop. Well, good luck. Thank you.

And thank you so much for coming on the vacant diet. Thank you. Some fun.