The Break-Up Diet - If You’re Gonna Check His Phone… PLEASE Find Something.

Episode Date: May 20, 2026

This week’s episode is basically what happens when two girls have spicy margaritas and start exposing the most unhinged dating stories 😭I’m joined by Esta and GIRLS… we get INTO IT.We talk about female intuition, going through his phone, being called “crazy”, knowing something is off before you even have proof, and that horrible feeling of trying to convince yourself you’re just overthinking… when deep down you already KNOW.Because why do women always feel it before they find out???We also get into toxic dating patterns, red flags we ignored because we liked him too much, relationships that slowly make you anxious, and how your body can literally tell you when something isn’t right before your brain catches up.And honestly… this episode feels like one long group chat conversation between girls who have ALL ignored the signs at some point 😭We get into relationships that look “fine” on paper but secretly make you anxious, checking phones, trusting your intuition, attachment patterns, men calling women “dramatic” for reacting to things THEY caused, and why some people keep repeating the same toxic behaviours over and over again. We also talk about the difference between actually being “crazy” vs being constantly triggered by someone who makes you feel emotionally unsafe.We also talk about cheating, “placeholder” relationships, why some men suddenly settle down after years of being toxic, and why women ignore their gut feelings for SO long trying to make things work.PLUS:“If You Look Through His Phone & Find Something… Shame On Him. If You Don’t… Shame On You.” 😭This episode is messy, honest, funny, slightly toxic, weirdly healing, and VERY relatable if you’ve ever sat there staring at your ceiling thinking:“…am I overthinking or is this man actually making me lose my mind?” Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hi everyone. Before we get into this episode, could you please subscribe, follow the breakup diet. It really means the world and it means I get to keep making these episodes. So if you could please do that, I would be forever grateful and I hope you enjoy it. Welcome back to another episode because today we have Esther Fiorani on and I've invited you on because I know you have some good stories and normally Esther is very reserved on the pod. But I've had two spicy margies and they've been extra strong so I'm really to talk. Oh, I know. Okay, my first question, out the gate. Is it a red flag if you look at your partner's phone? I think, buckle up, bitches. This is going to get bumpy. This is the

breakup diet. No, if they have something to hide. If you go on it and you don't find anything, then it's shady on your behalf. Yeah. And you can never disclose that you'd be on their phone. What I like to do is I say, oh, I had a psychic rating last week. Wait, wait, no, dude, you have to say the whole story. So, this was hilarious. This was hilarious. I was dating someone for like three months. And anyways, we went to a pub.

Your husband was there as well. And it was being really off that day. And anyways, we ended up breaking up in the kind. I was like, he's like, yeah, we need to break off. And then we went for a dinner off that was like the most awkward dinner. People were approaching us like, wow, you guys make the most beautiful couple. And I'm like, oh, yeah. It's our anniversary, but it's our last anniversary.

They're just like, what is happening? Anyways. So, before we broke up, I went on his laptop real quick and looked at his phone calls. And he was obviously called. Was this on like WhatsApp or was it like normal phone? FaceTime. FaceTime. That's never had this name before.

So I was like, I quickly went on this in the bathroom. Like we had broken up. It was like our last little were hanging out before. I don't know. It was like a weird break up in the meantime. Yeah. No, but wasn't this just before you broke up? like the day before, the night before.

Yeah, no, after the break-up dinner, I went back to his and more hanging out. You know, but I thought, I thought it was, I thought it was a day before that this happened. Maybe. Yeah, I think it's the day before and then the next day you guys broke off anyway. Yeah. But you didn't say that. Yeah, yeah. So the night before, while he was in the shower, I did a little quickie, sneak-sneek.

So you go on the laptop and then you go on the FaceTime calls on the laptop while they have the phone in the shower, obviously, because I've been dodgy, yeah. But I did and then say what he did, which is even worse. Oh, this was another. time. So basically I was on and all of a sudden disconnects from the laptop while he's in the shower and he comes out. He's like, well, you're on my laptop? And I was like, no, of course not. But how do you know that? I don't know. Obviously he's up to some sneaky business on there. Yeah, but how do you know, but how does he know that you're on his phone? I mean, on his laptop on that. I think he would have been showering him or like just about to shower and he was like,

okay, I'm not to some dodgy things on there and disconnects. For sure. Otherwise, you're not going to do that. Like you can disconnect WhatsApp from your phone, like the laptop WhatsApp to your phone WhatsApp. Anyways, before that. I never knew that. Yeah. So sneaky. You can quickly do to do do. I never knew that. I need to tell me how to do that. Like not that like I need to do that. But yeah, I would leave like I would like I would like I would like I would like my chat GPT as well. Also that's the worst. Read my messages. Read anything else. Chat JPT. Hell no. I'm Googling your sarsime where you were born, our compatibility, any problems you have, whatever. Oh, no, no, no, I'm making pros and cons.

I have, did you want to hear this? This is so bad. You do, otherwise, their diaries. Not like physical diaries, but like, I read a little diary off for hanging out or, like, the roozo. And I'm like, why are they going to this? So what's happening here, though, that's psychote. Yeah, you actually do use it that way. I don't use it that way, but I did, you know what I did do before we broke out?

This is so bad. I was like, should I, should I not give me pros and cons? I put all the pros and cons and like made it listed out for me and like from any other previous chats where I'd like said stuff. And then I had that and it was like pros and cons about bleep on my, on my chat. You see, like recent, like recent chats. And I turned to forgot about it obviously because I was a few days ago, whatever. And he was up behind me the whole day.

And I was thinking like, if he just looked at the last, and looked at it and just saw pros and cons list about. Okay, question. If you're writing a pros and cons list about someone, do you think they're right? No, but mine was like, everyone told me I should do that, so I did that. It wasn't like I didn't be like, okay. But it's quite hard to write a pros and cons list in general, I think.

What about if it's like heavily weighted cons against the prose, but you still like... I feel like a lot of the time when you're doing that, it is that. Yeah. But there were a lot of the time. like there were. But yeah. Anyway, go back to your story.

We'd go aside to him. All right. All right. So obviously go on to his FaceTime because he did disconnect with the WhatsApp. And I saw that he was like FaceTiming a girl a lot. And like obviously I knew him well enough that I've never heard this thing before. And anyways. And also that he's like like face talking to like a girl.

Yeah, he's having a girl. A lot. You're kind of like, the day before we broke up as well. I was like, hmm, what's happening? Interesting. Interesting. did a quick little searchwise in the shower what she looks like. Was it similar?

Similar. Oh, your faxed. Your fart. Well, that's her name. Let's just call her like Melissa G for the moment. Okay. G. Melissa G.

G. I don't know. Whatever. Melissa G. Here we go. Sounds like a bit of a cool good thing. Okay. Melissa G.

G. Anyways. So if you got some of the shower, I'm walking home. And I'm like, oh, it's really weird. I had this psychic reading last week. and she was really telling me to like be careful about you because she's like are you speaking to someone i basically said it is like no no no no you're not telling it right the way you told me i'll tell her because so esther goes like she's obviously what knows this whole girl's full name has looked

her up knows a hair color knows everything right so he's got out of the shower come back and then she's like so did you say that you've seen someone or that you've had one a psychic reading. I think I think I said I or like my friend. Yeah, because I feel like you said you did like or something like this. You're like, so I had this weird dream and I think it was like, anyway, she was like, yeah, and like I dreamt that you were with this, this girl and she was blonde and like blue eyes. And I think her name started with a M and a and a G. Like it's like, yeah, I'm kidding like Melissa. He's like literally going through his Instagram being like, I don't know any girls, starting with the M, and I was going, oh.

And last name? A last name, G. He literally just looks at it on me. Anyway, such a weird occurrence. I'm sure it's nothing. As if, like, I'm sorry, but how dumb. Like, you're like, literally like, M and G. Like, they're her two initials.

And then I go, I think the next letter is an E. You know, you know what it's giving is like when the lady of mean girls is like, it's raining with her boobs. So it's a 5% chat of 3. Yeah, it's raining. I don't know why. Chattling that LNG always. Just play dumb.

I say, use it all the time now. I'm like, yeah, I just like keep reading like you set with someone else last week. Yeah, she does this all the time and she knows something. Like, that's the thing. If you know something, she's like, hmm, I've never looked at someone's own. Really? Yeah. And I'm kind of ashamed at myself.

I wish I had. But then I feel like you find something you don't want to find two. But like, I never once did, not once. I have in the past, not recently. I feel like, yeah. The fine things that are going to hurt you. And I do think if you go through someone's phone, you make out problems that might not even be how they are.

That makes sense. But sometimes you do find, like, basic. Tactual stuff, yeah. Yeah. What would you go through if you had his phone? Would you go to Instagram straight away or WhatsApp? Instagram. Cool, yeah.

WhatsApp. Snapchat. Well, you don't see if they come out and you have his phone, and you're like, whoa! I used to have to do it on the sneaky. No, but, like, I feel like I would get caught looking. Probably. I don't know how my ex never caught him do it,

because he apparently did it like three times. I mean, you did that. You looked at my phone. He saw nothing. He was like, but then it looks bad on him because he saw nothing. Yeah. So if you find something, then shame on you. Or you just delete your messages.

Yeah. But you can always sense, like, always, whatever unfinished conversation or something. or a message pops up and it's like... Maybe you just delete the whole chat then if you're going to do it. Like, surely if you're going to do it, you're going to do it properly and just cover your tracks. Like, remember what you say. Yeah.

Take a screenshot and then put it in a hidden file. I don't know. I don't know. That was a lot to think about to say to me, but you know what I mean? Like, if I had, if I was to cheat, that's what I would do. I would be deleting the convos. Do you think this is a fun question? Do you think cheating is texting other girls?

if you're saying a baby you look so hot like yeah yeah fuck yeah it's not recycled no imagine that and then you're going out with your boyfriend and he's like he's holding your hand and then like a girl that he's like slid into it's just there thinking that you're a dumb ass and that you probably know about it you might not even know about it no you know what i used to do this actually so like i used to i didn't think he was cheating at all i don't think he did but anyway is, um, I would always do this. I would clock, like, a good-looking girl, because there's so many good-looking girls about.

Like, never see any good-looking guys, but good-looking girls all the time. And, like, as soon as they, like, walk into a restaurant, I'd just look at him dead in the eyes, like, to see if his, like, eyes, like, went up to, like, follow her. And, like, if they, like, glanced up, it was, like, straight back down. He was good with that.

He probably realized that I did that. But I was like... Yeah, if someone checks out, like, another girl while you're on the date with him, I'm like... No, I've never had that happen. I would say something, though. How that happened to me. Did you say anything?

A date with someone and we ran into someone who was probably cheating on their girlfriend. And we literally would like let sign an NDA right now because the guy I was with was flirting with the girl that he was like kind of not cheating when he's girlfriend with, but like speaking too late and above and he was alone. And then the guy I was seen started talking about the girl that he was speaking to. And I was literally just standing there like, um, what is happening? and he's looking at me and I'm looking at him like we literally said let sign it in you law what do you do in that I would say something I did after I was like what the fuck is that

yeah don't take her home it takes two to recruit for a three somebody you're like you should have got me involved yeah it's not fun anymore now no that was funny another time someone else someone else I was seeing. It was really like texting another girl like, oh, I can't wait to like see you or whatever. And I brought it up to him. And he's like, no, I was recruiting for a threesome. And I was like, no. I didn't think that no we were planning this threesome. Like I was literally like, buddy, it takes two to organize a threesome. I haven't had a threesome. However, I'm like, surely you can't just choose and plan it. And then it's like surprise for me. Yeah, that's what a threason. That's him

cheating on you and you walk in. You're like, oh, what's going on? I didn't know me were all having sex. This always happens to me. I remember I was seeing someone, like fresh on my relationship. We're talking for a bit. And then I walk in on him in the bathroom, like him and my best friend at the time, literally disappeared at an after's party. I know what story now. I'm literally going, okay, I know what's happening.

I've got a psychic reading. I've got a psychic reading. No, I haven't talked about it. No, I know, but I'm like, go into the bathroom. In the bathroom. Dodgy is happening. 100%. Anyway, I wait.

I walk into the bathroom. Were they flirting a bit before? Yeah. She was floating with him full on and he was like kind of, he was a bit younger, not too much. And I walk in on them and they're fully kissing, hooking up in the bathroom at our after party. And I'm going, I close the door.

I open it again. They're still walking up. I go, what the fuck? And I saw him out and then he follows me. He's like, you're my dream girl. I'm like, bro, what the fuck? And that girl suddenly cupcakes a day off to say, sorry. And you're really sorry.

I fucked up. And I'm going, do you like accept a friend back? for that. No! No! No! No! That's messed up. Right? Like, what? And you just shut the door. Sorry, I'll come back later.

Look at me. Continue looking up. And close it. I open it again. I go, what's the actual fuck? And close it. And then he comes after you as well. That hopefully like storms after me, takes me out of the dinner and the next day. Apologises. Wild. Did they have sex?

I don't know. No, I don't think so. No. I mean, you close the door again and he was like, see you on every phone. Yeah, they followed me out of still straight away. And then what did you say, though? He's like, I'm so sorry. I was waiting on you to come into the room. Again, text three, you're organized a day.

You're like, include me. Include me. I'm so unaware. Like, I'm part of sending me cupcakes. Yeah. You know I'm on a diet. Don't send me those. She's trying to make you fat.

Yeah. And she tries to beat me fat, those guilty consequences. She's like, oh, eat sugar. Facts of them. You know, this is actually giving mean girls. Because, you know, when she, like, gives her the chocolate bar and then makes it like fat or like not fat but like keeps going at the chocolate bar so like bulk her up she's like ha ha while you're sad and vulnerable she's my jip buddy as well

she knew where they need cupcakes rude she got she should have got you something nicer and she should have like taken you out for like a drink or something yeah or dinner but like i mean don't let me on a dinner say confessing his love i'm like you hook up with my best friend that is messed up that's no girl code sorry but i don't know i don't know how if your friend has even kissed somebody or even really flirted with somebody, that then you can be like, okay. No. Okay, I get maybe years later down the line if stuff has changed, okay.

But like, there's still a line. Like, like, kissing, okay, fine. But if there's some, your friend is, like, slept with somebody, go on a multiple dates with them. I don't understand. I don't get that. Unless there's, like, a massive conversation and you're like, this is the love of my life.

Fine. Oh, they're valid. Yeah, I had to look correctly in that situation. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, fine. I think, like, it's not good. And then it's like uncomfortable, but there are ways you can get around it and like it can work out and be like for the best. But if you just want a quick shag or you just think someone's like, no.

Weird. Why do you think you keep having that happen? I don't know. I think I was like had some way and easy. I think I was calm and like chilled and they're like so chilled I could have another girl as well and she'd be down. And you're like, no. Absolutely not. Like, do you remember when I got asked?

Oh yeah This is a funny story Yeah but I didn't even realize It was happening Yeah I got arse And I guess just pitting herself laughing Another threesome Is this the code for today

Is this the subject Apparently it is Threesome I was just I was kind of flattered But I got ass though I was like I was like no thank you

But like Flat it Fiat Yuz and I We're in Australia We're staying up in the Gold Coast And we're saying with Yazza's family in a hotel And so we know some friends

that we're in a relationship and we went out for dinner with them in the Gold Coast. And they had like a bar. They're our gorgeous couple. Yeah, they're hot. Yeah, they're hot. So hot. He's so hot. She's so hot.

We got absolutely so drunk drinking. We went out for dinner. It was a funniest in Amber. And they're talking about how they include a third person, a unicorn into their relationship. Yeah. Yeah. And we're like and I was like, and I was quite, yeah, I was, we were both very curious. We were like, what, like how does that work?

Yeah. Because like, and basically she was like, no, he was, she was like, I enjoy watching him. So she was not. Yeah, so she was by and obviously liked girls as well. And then he was obviously like, let's go. I'm happy if my girlfriend wants her, like, perfect. Yeah, I mean, it's worse to them. But like, geez, Louise, I wouldn't think of nothing worse.

But the girls would always fall in love with the couple and not want to be like excluded. So it became like a weird dynamic between the three of them. Yeah. Anyways. Well, yeah, so we were asking loads of questions about it. Maybe they thought we were down. I don't think so. It's like, for a Biasba then the end.

Yeah, they did. And I was like, ha, no, no. Absolutely not. But I was kind of flattered than the ass. I was like, okay. You want me as a third? And they're both really hot. So I was like, okay.

Have you had anybody do like a sneaky? Yeah, I have actually. So one of my girlfriend, she was dating a rehab magician in Marbeio. Anyways, long story. short. She went like back and she was working in a cafe at the time and the manager was like, hey babe, pulled her aside and it's like

I found blur on Tinder like platinum. And meanwhile she literally moved from Australia. Liverma Bayer to Nanny his son of 10 years old lived there. Then she had to pick up a job over there

and he was basically like no babe I'll put you through uni, you don't have to work. She gets over there. She's on rations eating blueberries. No, no, no, she's not allowed blueberries. And she gets the scraps from his organic meat, like proper. And she's calling me up, I go, babe, you need to leave. Like, no, no, you need to explain them all.

Didn't they, like, eat it? And then give her, like, the leftover bits of, like, the, like, bad bits. Yeah, the leftover, bad cuts of meat. She used to eat. And he put her on the omad diet. So she was allowed one meal a day. Where he said you're going on the omen dog. Yeah.

Why? She was full vegan. She got over there, and he was like, you're only eating off cuts of meat and you're an Omni diet surprise. Wait, did he actually make this? Omad, Omad diet, sorry? Wait, wait, so no, but what? Like, did he say you're on this diet?

Yeah, he goes, you need this. No, no, no. He put her on this diet because it's like you're a bit chubby. Yeah. Anyway, she's telling me all of this and I'm going, babe, you need to leave him. Anyway, the Tinder Platinum story is why she left him because she, well, the manager told him, like, I've swiped blur. Your boyfriend that you live over here with on Tinder Platinum. Exactly.

What's Tinder platinum? So Tinder platinum is like what you pay. It's like the paid version of Tinder. So you can swipe the world. And like you don't have unlimited matches or whatever like that. I don't know. It's not that different, I don't think. Anyways, so she gets back from work.

He has rehab magic that night. That's what he does. Rehab magic. So he's a magician at a rehab center. Okay. Anyway. Rehab magic. Yeah, magic rehab, rehab magic.

I don't know, like sleight of hand card games kind of vibe. for these people. And while he's at the pool before, she, like, packs her bag, but hides it. And then he's like, babe, I'm off to work. And she's like, amazing. Like, see when you get back. Backpack, packed.

Manager drops to the airport. She moves back to Australia. But why did he want her to move over there? I don't understand. I don't know. They met on a holiday. That's pretty fun, though. Like, sorry, you meet on a holiday

and then you think, like, oh, I'm going to move across the go. Like, that's quite wild. Right. But then I wish it worked out because I would have been a great love story. I know. And then what? She'd never heard from him since. No, he was like trying to get her back, but she was already in Barcelona and I met her there.

He was calling me a witch. You? Why? Because it was obviously like, I don't know, she was saying like, oh, Esther and I in Barcelona, you can't do this. Like, you know, saying it's wrong or whatever. I'm like, it has nothing to do with me. I'm not practicing witchcraft, bro. I'm not practicing magic.

Wait, that's nuts. It's as if she like, why was it the final thing that she left then? I don't know. I think she just had enough. She was like, that was it. That is wild. Yeah. Was it the tinge?

No, tinge. That was Tinder and tinge. It was the tinder thing that did it. Yeah, I think so. What? This man. And she was living with him and like literally looking after his son. I don't know how somebody cheats when you live with them.

Yeah, neither. Like, yeah. Like, how do you find the time to then have like a, quick thing to then go back home and sleep in the same bed. I'm just chatting to girls. And it was so funny because he was Spanish, so she had this, like, translator app. And she sent me screenshots of, like,

she would screenshot the WhatsApp chat and then put it through this app and it would translate it in, like, this weird dodgy text. So funny. No, I wish I had more of these stories. I would live for them. I would become bad shit, though. Like, if I had a psychic boyfriend,

don't ever come near me because I would... I would... I think you're scaring off. the crazy boyfriends because you were expose them yeah i would expose you i would not believe your name i tell you that much actually i might get defamation case but like i mean i would i don't know what i would do i would just make it known without making it known so you know what i mean yeah people could work it out but like i didn't say it it wasn't you it wasn't me it wasn't me you know no god i'm shook yeah i don't know what else I've had that like when people have looked at phones that's funny and just sneaking

out of bed or like people doing face ID I've had a friend do that too they face ID someone and it's honestly I was like that is so wrong like I would break up with somebody if they face a face ID my phone straight up if I woke up and someone had their phone trying to get in I'd break up with them yeah have you done it the way you just said that no I don't think I've faced ID. I think I just get in for now. Yeah. Yeah. I have hacked into someone's Snapchat before.

Yeah. On a browser. It's easier than you think. What, you're just typing their password into Google. Like, as in once you get that the login. Yeah, password or you log in through like Google account. Yeah. Simple stuff. Simple. Easy work, you know. Day work. Day work.

I, I feel, I feel offended. myself that I've not done this. I'm not proud of it. No, I wish I had done something like this, but I would get caught. I'm just not sly. I'm not. Whenever I like, even when I've ever kissed somebody, like when single, if I'd kiss

somebody, it would like everybody would know straight away, even if they weren't friends. What, do you disannounce it to everyone? No, I don't announce it, but like, through the great fine one person knows that person or like, or like maybe I don't know one person was in the club and then saw me I was like this is when I was younger and I was like fuck I really don't get away with anything what's wrong yeah but damn but I do catch out a lot of stuff I feel yeah I mean I it is weird though you get feelings like I remember the one time I got a feeling that there was like something and I looked at these following and I never had done that before never thought of doing that before like never even crossed my mind and I just went

I'm going to look today. I randomly looked and I was like, two girls? Rude. And then I looked and I was looking on a fake account. Then I looked at my fake account again. And then I was like, I have a weird feeling. And then my other friend looked on her main account

because I don't think she has a fake account and she saw that he had liked her like photo and it was like this provocative photo and like this lingerie with like a fake boobs out here. And I was like, she looks hard. I was like, oh, stuff you and you stuff you. I stuff you, man. Stuff you, man.

And then I was like, oh yeah, and then no. And then you know what I did? I screenshot it. Sent it to my boyfriend. I was like, what a nice photo to like her eyes look really pretty. Because there was like no eyes at it. It was like she looked really hot, but it was really seductive. So I was like, her eyes look really pretty in this.

Don't you think so? Oh, you do think so. Oh, look at that. Is that you liking that? Oh my bad, I'd even notice. Oh, I didn't notice. David Fulah, I don't know anyone that she knows. Oh.

Wow, how did I stumble upon this in my suggested feed? Yeah. Okay, would you rather your ex date someone exactly the same as you or completely different? Completely different. Yeah? Yeah. I don't know. I think so.

What would you do? I don't know. I think completely different too. Yeah, because then if they look similar, like without, I'm going to end up comparing, even if I don't want to. Whereas they look completely different. I'm like, well, he just lied to me. He wasn't into blondes.

Like, I'm in denial. Whereas, like, if they look similar to me, I'm like, oh, great, he's just going for the hotter. Like, literally, copy-paced. Yeah. Copy-paste situation. If they're way hotter than you. Oh, Jesus, it's not fun. If they're hotter than you, then it's done.

You just got to take the owl and just be like, well, I have good personality. Yeah, I'm funny. Doesn't want me back, though. Yeah, doesn't want me back. Doesn't want me. It's still dumb, but I'm funny. yeah this is tough world literally it's a hard out there has hard out there have you ever had that yeah like people were literally like you guys look so similar and i was like oh really amazing yeah

like same features i think she has different color of eyes but i remember being like ah it's like all right anyway thanks guys for tuning in what a great episode thank you so much i hope so The tea is dropped.