The Break-Up Diet - Maria from Love Is Blind UK: Don’t Settle for Less Than You Deserve.

Episode Date: August 13, 2025

Maria Benkharmaz from Love Is Blind UK is here and she is NOT holding back. We get into everything — why she refuses to settle, how she deals with people judging her dating preferences, and the one question she asks herself when a guy’s behaviour feels off: “If you had a daughter, would you want her to put up with this?” (Spoiler: the answer is usually no).Maria spills on what it was really like filming Love Is Blind, the moments you didn’t see on screen, and the pressure to shrink yourself to make other people comfortable. She shares how she’s built unshakeable confidence, even when thousands of strangers had opinions about her love life, and why walking away from the wrong person is actually the biggest flex.We also get into modern dating culture, why everyone’s waiting for the “next best thing,” and why there’s literally no expiration date on finding your person (Maria’s sister met her perfect match at 34). If you’ve ever been told your standards are “too high,” this is your reminder to keep them exactly where they are — and maybe even raise them.Send us a textInstagram: @thebreakupdietpod TikTok: @thebreakupdietpodEmail: [e-mail]

Welcome to the breakup diet. This is, yes, I'm Ilms. Today, we have got the most exciting guest. I know I say this about fucking everyone, but this one, I kid you not. When I met her last year when she was fresh out of the pods of Love is Blind, if that gives you a hit, I ran up to and was like, you have spoken for all of us women that have standards. So if you guys are 50-50, stay triggered because this,

episode is going to make you mad. Welcome to the breakup diet. Maria! Let's switch it up. We've been holding back way too much. Welcome to the breakup diet. Thanks for having me guys. I'm so excited. I have like my mind. I wish I took like riddle in something to calm down. Yars is going to have to keep us in check because I can already tell how this is going to go and we're just going to go off on tangents. Dude, I am sorry, fucking dude. I mean, your highness. Ilma, you're in crack. I'm really starstruck.

I think I might cry because you need a lot to me. Are you a fire sign? Yeah. Of course you are. Are you aries as well? I'm like this. Wow. The way you were on love is blind.

I have never seen that kind of behavior on reality TV ever. I don't see it from women of color because we're kind of told to kind of keep us and shrink. Yeah, for sure. So to see yourself, to see you stand up for yourself, have boundaries and be so strict with that and being fearless from walking away with something that's not right for you. Yeah. So inspired. Thank you, my love. We need more role models like you. For sure. I've been thinking about the whole minimizing and shrinking yourself. And if like women of colour and just women, you're always kind of taught to shrink yourself and minimise. Thinking about it a lot recently, I'm like, why? Because those people that are telling

you to minimise and shrink yourself, they're not going to like you regardless of anything. So why try and put yourself into a box that you don't fit for someone who's not going to like you? Like, live yourself, be your too muchness. Like, whatever it is, because your too muchness is going to be like not enough for someone and they'll love every part of it. Like, you will always find your tribe. Yes. You'll find your girlfriends. You'll find the right person. if you're being your true authentic self. 100%. What's meant for you, won't pass you by?

100%. And I think as well, like, the people that like you will love it. Yeah, did you go on love is blind because you, like, had a, like, break up and then you ended up going on a show to, like, find, you know, like the last hope of love or why? No. Honestly, I've never been, like, cheated on. I've never had my heart broken.

Like, my slate is quite clean. For me, it was like a buildup of a lot of stuff. So my, I hadn't really dated a lot. like my, I'm Muslim, I'm Moroccan and it's just so frowned upon. I just kind of stayed away from it and you would like dip in and out but just kind of never, it was never a priority. One because of like the whole religion side of things and two I just, it's never been something I've been like core focused on. And so then my dad passed away and I like took some time to like get through that and I was just kind of like I'm ready and because I was a fan of love is blind. I was like what

imagine this goes the way I wanted to like haven't really dated like no heartbreak and then I get to come out and be married. So that's why I went for it. It wasn't like, I'm sick and tired of the men, even though, you know, they're not great. But it wasn't because I was like running away from that. I just thought this would be an amazing experience if it went the way I wanted it to. Hang on, let's stop this for a sec. Subscribe and follow the breakup diet. You don't want to miss another episode. So it's been one year on coming out of the pods, the show being out. Season two is just coming out as well. Where are you like mentally, physically, spiritually? Mentally, physically, spiritually, like best place I've ever been. It was a lot when the show came out. That's for sure.

It was a lot to deal with. It's a lot to like digest. You learn a lot about yourself. You like look back a lot and feel like, God, did I do this the right way? Could it have been done better? Should I've done it at all? Must be crazy. Like, because you go from people not knowing you to like bang. And they know such vulnerable things about you. Because Love is mind is a bit more of a, like, a mature audience and a mature cast, it is so emotionally driven. And because you have people constantly, like,

how are you feeling, what's going on? Like, you really do have, like, a mirror sat in front of you being like, oh my God, these are all the things I've done wrong in the past. And like, this is all the things that are wrong with me. And so every day, it's just so emotional. And I think that's why a lot of us were, like, crying all the time or sad. But I can look back now in a completely different.

different headspace and like I'm so clear in terms of what I want and like who I want to be in who I want to be with that I can only kind of look at it as a positive if I'm being honest like a year on I'm very happy. Have you had a breakup since the show? So when the show first came out because of Homeboy I was so deterred off men. Like didn't want anything to do with them. I think it would be like beginning of this year. I was like right now is the time today and like you know what you want. You've never been more sure you know who you are. So it hasn't been in breakups and hasn't even been much dating but I'm open to dating now so you're in a good spot yeah like I'm actually talking to men now which I did not want to do for a long time

how does that feel to get back into it because I'm struggling to get back into it you know what it is I just feel like life's too short you know like you go through breakups and heartache and situationships and all these things and like you're like I don't ever want to speak to a man and blah but it's like why would I let another man hold me back from like another man that could potentially be great. For me, like I am all or nothing. So I'm literally jumping in at the deep end. And I'm going to date as much as possible and like experience as much as possible and get to know different types of men. Like I'm in the moment, I'm not going for my usual type. So like all the men that I am talking to are completely different because if I feel like if you really want to

find your person, then you have to completely step outside of what you know. By usual type, please don't tell me you're dabbling with 5050s. Are you out of your mind? Well, you said usual type. I got a bit scared. No, no, no. My usual type was never 50-50. I want to put that out there. He was the first and the last of that kind. My usual type physically, I mean, I've never, this is another thing. With the 50-50 thing, I've never experienced that before him. I didn't know they existed. Like, you'd hear funny stories. You're like, those don't exist. No man would genuinely be like that. And then I experienced him and I was like, they are out there. Like, this is wild. So, that's not my usual type.

I will never experience that again in my life. Yeah, no. I meant like physical. I used to have a tight, but honestly, after love is blind, that type went completely out the window. And they say the women that are the most successful

in finding their partner and having a successful marriage are the women that are just consistently dating. Yeah, so like this dating guru and he said the most successful marriages and the women that are most successful are the ones that are consistently date, like literally dating different men every week.

A full-time job, though, that. That is so much effort, even to, like, reply to people. I know that sounds really bad, but it's like, especially if you're not 100% like on the type, and then you're like, oh, do I just do it? But then, like, imagine if someone was looking at you saying that same thing. Like, do you think we're so pretty? Sometimes when Hinge says, this is your most compatible, I'm like, where's the gun? Because what do you mean?

This is my most compatible. Had that too, and I'm like, are you sure? Yeah. I don't think you look in the mirror and you're like, really? No. What was it? that you see. Yes, why are we most compatible?

But you know what, Jasmine is such a good example of date because Jasmine before Bobby, like we talk about it all the time, she sends me pictures. She's like, I used to date this guy, to date that guy, I went on dates with this guy. When it came to Love is blind, like, even Love is Blind, she was so, like, she dated a few of them, like, quite seriously until she got to Bobby. And I feel like, because she dated so much and experienced so many different men, that when it was exactly what she was looking for, she knew. And like, now look at her.

So I'm like, right, don't just go on dates with people that immediately when you talk to them. You're like, yeah, this is amazing. Go on even, go on the dates even with the slow burners because you just don't know what will come from it and what you can learn. Yeah, true. So now that you have like standards, not, not, that came out so wrong. That came out so wrong. That came out so wrong. I meant boundaries.

Now that you have. Oh, no. Let's just ask from the paper. let's ask on the paper what's on the paper that came out really bad and I'm really sorry they dropped for one moment now that you're fiercely guarding off your boundaries yes I meant the boundaries that you like are going in with boundaries and then they're like how are you upholding the boundary well the thing is I think it's quite early so this whole 50 50 50 thing yeah a lot of people said like oh why is it such a problem and I saw so many people comment like 50 50 50 is not just money 50 50 is time 50 50 is a affection, like it's generosity in every aspect. And so I feel like with a homeboy from the show, I immediately knew that. Like, I could see, oh, this might not be, like, what I want it to be. So I think with the whole boundary thing, I'm so, even though watching the show, you probably

won't get it, but like, I'm very fierce with my boundaries already. Like, it doesn't matter if it's a man, a job, a friendship, family. Like, if you are not fitting into my life and if you are only, like, bringing negativity, like, I just have no space for you. I'm such a big, believer of you have one life like why are you wasting with people that don't make you feel good? I think like with a lot of women, they're a bit scared of leaving something that they've put so much work into. And with you, you've got the element of like the public seeing all this. How were you like so true to yourself? Because that's scary. You know what? I don't know if this is like good advice or anything. But in all honest, I don't care. Like I don't care about other people's opinions

of me. I don't care about your opinion on my life and how I choose to live it. Like, I'm always going to choose me. Like, it's like, like, narcissistic or, like, selfish. That might sound. I'm always going to put me first. My worst fear is getting to the end of my life and looking back and being like, what the hell did I do? There was an element of, like, being fearful of what people might think, but I think that just goes hand in hand and going on a huge show. But in terms of, like, it actually affecting me, like, anyone's opinion of how I live my life that isn't my close friend or family, I don't care. That's such a nice way of looking. Yeah, so basically like, don't be fearful for other people's

opinion, be fearful for the fact that you might be living the wrong life. That you're going to be like, oh, but this person said this on under my Instagram comment, and this person said this on TikTok and this person made a whole YouTube video about it. And they're not going to bed in your bed. They're not like waking up and living your life. Who gives it a damn? That's such a nice way of looking at it and such a good way of looking at it. It's actually hard to do. And that's where, that's why sometimes when I give advice, I'm like, my advice is so tailored to like the people that already don't give a damn. And so it's like, how do I then translate that to the people that do give a damn? And they are nervous and they ask it and they can't,

like, Jasmine, for example, bless her, like, she does take comments to heart and like she does focus on it. And I have to tell her all the time. Like, you are happy and in love and married with a baby on the way. Why would you waste a second of your day thinking about these random trolls on the internet i can't imagine her having trolls sorry that breaks my heart internet in general is just a wild place like once you are really opened up to it like the people on there some of the stuff they say and like wish upon you just like this is really but i'm the type of person that i'm like loo you're a weirdo the only time i comment on somebody's stuff which is very rarely if it isn't a friend is like a nice thing yeah yeah same like i would never think of like seeing someone's i don't know

outfit and being like you look disgusting it's wild like i have had like quite a few trolls and to me i'm just like no one would ever bother me this much like even if i did see something i was like that outfit is vile that's staying in my head and like and it's that it's the second for like it's an internal thought it's an internal thought for all of one second and then i carry on scrolling like the psychology of actually typing it up wild and clicking sand and feeling good about it like i'm trying of putting them down i don't understand why i'm just like sound sadistic right now yeah like sat there like wishing hate on people like saying something like hoping they can see it and feeling bad about themselves like you literally need to be checked in

the hate you've received is crazy to me because that kind of just shows like what it's like being a woman in a patriarchy having standards you'd be shocked at how many women come for me like it's insane and I'm like that is always under my comments saying things and again I'm like if you want him, go get him. To them, I think they kind of face their reality because they're like, oh, like, this is what I've settled for. A hundred percent what it is, and I didn't want to say it, but it was always the people that was like,

just because you weren't confident or, like, sure of yourself enough to be like, I'm not going to have that. Don't come at me because I am. Like, that's something you've got to work on within yourself. Don't come say to me, I can't believe you want this in this day and age. I'm like, get out, please. Let's be honest, like, most would. It's just that they wouldn't say it on the camera,

probably of like being on the air because they wouldn't want to look at the same with like men that I hate on gold diggers it's like babe like you want a yacht with like 10 bitches on it and it's always the men with no gold yeah like it's always because men with actual money they don't give it out no they don't they don't talk about it they don't talk about women trying to take it from them it's always the ones that you know no fence don't have gold that i want to be like i don't want a gold digger yeah or they're like oh she's after after me for that no it's like what money, babe. Where's the gold? There's an overdraft statement, babe. Are you living there? Why are you in your overdraft? You want to talk about money? It's like, share as well, babe. I don't understand

how they are comfortable to say this stuff. I saw this funny TikTok of this girl, and she's like, gold diggers are not the ones that want you to pay for a meal every now and then or buy them a nice treat. She was like, gold diggers are the ones that want land and diamonds. And she's like, and I would know because I'm a gold digger. And I was like, thank you. I was like, most women are like, yeah, can you pay for the first couple of dates? Like, can you court me? Can you be a gentleman, now I'm a gold digger. God forbid, I'm a gold digger because I want some steak and fries. Do you know what I mean? Like, you want me and I can't even eat? How do I get the energy to come see you if you're not feeding me? Like, make it make sense.

Funniest thing that I've never met more feminist men since the show has come out because now every man is a feminist man when it comes to the 50-50. And I'm like, you've only ever spoken about it when it comes to money. Never heard you talk about the pay gap or how women are overworked and underpaid or how women are supposed to be mothers and work. But all of a sudden, you're the top-notch feminist when it says, can you pay for her meal? Get out. Just say you're broke and go away.

Men pick and choose the small cracks of feminism that benefits them. They are not true feminists. And it always comes to money for some reason. Always. Always. Men want to be bitches so bad. There's this weird thing now where it's like, right, you can get like a protector provider, but he's not going to be emotional.

Or you can get the emotional stuff, but he's not the protect. Like, they've like tried to try to. women and be like, which one do you want? And it's like, both. Protect a provider, emotionally available, like, good men still, like, they're out there. You don't have to pick one or the other. No, I know enough men that actually do both, so it's fine. Yeah, just be better.

It's so easy to just step it up. Exactly. It is so stressful. But men want an easy life. But then they don't realize this is making it harder. It would be easier for you if you just did that because then the girl's going to be, like, think you're amazing and do everything for you and want to do everything for you. Exactly. This is what men don't get.

Like, when you're there for your woman, like, in every way possible, like, your life is, like, a walk in the park. Like, the more masculine you are, I promise you the more feminine she's going to be. And it's, like, the best. Can't let a woman sit in her masculine energy and then be like, why are you like that? Because you're not. So I have to be. Honestly, people are making everything too hard and stressful for no reason. Literally.

Like, also, if you want to be together and it's good, like, it should just be easy and it should just be. like you want the best for each other and then also together it doesn't have to be this like you give so I'm going to give even less tip for tat yeah for sure I feel like the world we live in these days is crazy like I think we've come to a place where everyone's waiting for the next best thing yeah all the time yeah this cute girls messaging on Instagram but what if we're not even hot girl messaging me on Instagram this guy's picked me up but what if an even better guy picks me up like it's a really weird place where everyone's become extremely disposable that's when, from both sides, when one person does the slightest thing that you're like,

oh, you're out. Because they're like, well, there might be someone better coming on the horizon. And no one's like, the concrete anymore with each other. That's terrifying. So true, though. It's so true, but it's so sad. How many people do you see, like, in relationships, but they're still hearting your stories and they're still reacting to your stories?

And it's like, they're still, like, they're always leaving it open. Do you know what I mean? Just in case, because something better might come along. I hate everyone. I know there's going to be people like, oh, for someone who hasn't dated that much and had one serious relationship, how do you, you know, and it's like you spent enough time around so many relationships that you've like picked and taken everything from each one and now it's like created this whole thing in my head where I'm like, I know exactly what I do

want and don't want because I've seen so much around me that has shown me which path I want to go down. Just in case any trolls are going to be like, oh, I don't even talk about. Oh, they'll always have something to say. They'll always. We'll protect you. I'll fight them. So you've gone on lover's mind and you've basically created this fantasy of like you're meeting your husband.

And when you didn't find that, how did you cope with breaking up with like the idea even and like the future you saw? That's such a good way that you worded it as well, breaking up with the idea. That is, for anyone that's watched the wedding episode, I was so incredibly emotional that day. And like I said, nothing to do with him saying no. We both knew it was going to be a no. If he'd ask me first, it would have been a no. But that is such a good way to break it down. I broke up with the idea that I was coming in here to get married.

And now I'm leaving, not married, with a guy that we both know it's not going to last. We're not suitable. We're not compatible. And that was like, that put me on the floor. For a lot, that put me on the floor. Because, again, the whole added element of like, I am a Muslim and I am Moroccan. And I kind of felt like I'd shamed myself and my family. Because I just felt like, you know, this is very outside of the box from a Muslim.

And you haven't done what you were supposed to do. Like, you failed. You were supposed to come in here. and get married and you're not and now you've just opened it up yourself and your family to this like a whole new world that they didn't really sign up for you didn't make a mistake but you would have been feeling like that fact and then you have another element of you have not only you feel like you've made a mistake you have the other element of like there's eyes on you now yeah exactly 100% and that's what i literally came out and i felt like i'd failed and like even during

filming like jasmine said like she was like i could see the decline in you she's like once we back to London and like we were in the apartment stage and the apartment stage was like four weeks because like when we got back to London she was like your decline in like this happy outgoing like blah blah blah to just like sad and depressed because I was like this is not what I came here for yeah I wanted to get married but the element of more like it just didn't even cross my mind that not getting married was an option and I think for me as well because I'd gone in there thinking you know what you want and you're going to get it it also is another element of maybe don't know what you want that much because you didn't get it.

So maybe you need to then go back out and really like analyze what you want. So at the time, it was really hard and definitely the hardest part. Like I said, when I came out of Love is Blind, I was like a good couple of months like, what the hell have I done? Why did I do it?

Like regretted it so much. On the lead up to the show were you like, I don't want this out. I was scared for the edit. That's for sure. All of us were bricking it about the edit. You don't know what character they want you to play.

You know what I mean? And they can definitely create the character for you. So I was nervous in that aspect. I also was like, I felt icky. I didn't want to, once my, like, feelings and stuff are done, I can detach immediately. Like, I'm, close the door, good. So when I was like, we're going to have to watch back me and him and it's going to make me feel sick, like, no offense, but because the feelings are gone, like, there's nothing there anymore and you're not who I thought you were. And so I've just detached so much. It's a whole year later. I completely have zero connection to you or this

process we went through. I'll be honestly, a lot of mine in his parts I skipped through, like, as long as I watched myself a lot. But like me and him, I was like, oh, I can't watch this. Well, I confirmed they were painful to watch. Oh, stop. That's what I mean. It makes me feel ill. No, they were painful scenes to watch. Like, I was like, triggered. No, don't. I could have easily had a stroke. If I was watching this as a 50-year-old, I would have had a stroke. You're just as dramatic as me and I live for it. Are you ready to find love? Do you think now?

Like, do you think you've dealt with like everything that that would have come with and like, how do you know people are going to be like authentic now because you have gone on this show and like you do have... Like, you're a public figure now. I'll be honest with you. I feel like I'm a really good judge of character when there's not a wall in the way. But I do feel like I'm a really good judge a character. Like, they're going to mind what the hell?

Look at the guy you ended up with. But I'm like, no, there's a whole wall there. It's different. But like, I also don't attract that type of person. Like, I don't attract cloudy people. I'm the type of man I would love to be with as someone who like cringes at reality TV like someone who's like, do you know what I mean? So I'm never going to attract the man that's like, oh, should be on reality TV?

Like, what can we get from this? That's net, like, because I'd clock it straight away and we just wouldn't vibe. I'm not like nervous about that element of things. What was the other part, sorry? I don't remember my other part. Am I ready to find love? Yeah. I am 100% ready to find love if it's right.

Of course. I genuinely, I've been like this since I was young and I've got to give props to my big sister because she's 100% the reason I am the way I am. Like in my 20s, she was like, don't dare get in a relationship. Like, your 20s are for you. Like, make sure, like, you focus on you. And like, even now I'm 31, she's like, who cares? She's just a man. Like, she's happily married with kids, like, and they're so in love. But she's, like, the perfect person in that she's, like, decented men. She's got the perfect thing going on, but her life doesn't revolve around. My sister has never centered men a day in her life. And I think that's when she met her husband.

Like, they met when they were 34. Oh my God, that gives me hope. Immediately both of them were like, this is the one for me, engaged within a year, married within the next year. Kid, like, they are the healthiest example of love I've ever been, like, fortunate enough to see. So when I look at them too, I'm like, unless it's that, I don't want it. So for me, I'm like, time is not an issue.

Like, I don't care if I'm 39 and I meet him as long as it's him. Yeah. You know what I mean? So I'm absolutely ready for love, but only if it's the right love. Honestly, like the stats that you just gave up makes me feel. feel like, okay, I have so much time. You do. Like, I'm divorced 30. Like, I thought my life was over at 27 when the divorce happened. Now I'm like, actually... No. Just begun. Just begun. Because for me, once I hit, like, 28, 29, that's when I started to like me and love me and, like,

know who I am and felt confident. Up to 28, I was so insecure. I was, didn't know what I wanted, who I was, any of it. So when people were like, you should be settled by now, I'm like, brother, I have only come into who I am. Like, and now I can go and find the best for me. Like, for me, life started after like 28, 29. I agree. So I'm only a baby still. Like, I'm 31. You're like a two-year-old toddler. My new life has just started. People that say, oh, you need to be settled by 30. Please don't listen to them. Oh, hell no. They're like, this high school love things. Not everyone. No, but it's not everyone. I know there are definitely childhood sweethearts but like that's great but I do think that's the exception to the broad

when you're like we've been together 17 years and I'm like have you loved each other for all of those 17 years like did you guys have like hormones and stuff yeah and like I trust me I know there are childhood sweethearts out there I know couples like that but it doesn't matter if you're 20 and with the love of your life or you meet him at 30 like it just doesn't matter 40 it just doesn't matter let's play a game of this or that bare minimum but consistent or big gestures but with no follow-through. Bare minimum, but consistent, which I literally despise having to say. But when we say big gestures, like, when I think of big gestures,

I think, like, of you being like, babe, can you be a bit more considerate and, like, consistently having to say that? And then he's never following through. So he's saying, like, he buys you big gifts, but then doesn't follow through with action, like, on the other things. Exactly. Yeah. You're buying me roses and cars and whatever else,

but I can't see I have to talk to about the same thing that you're not doing, no. Saying I love you too early or waiting to say when the time is right. Waiting to say when the time is right because I feel like the time is right is when you feel it. Yeah. And there's a big difference between love you to I'm in love with you. So like I say love you to everyone. I said it to Homeboy in the show like don't care. But it's so different to saying I'm in love with you. Walking away quietly or calling it out before you leave. I'm not a crash out. queen, I have to say, but never ever walking away quietly. Sorry. Absolutely not. Never. Like, it won't do you any good. Like I said, the whole bigger person, like for who? For them, fuck no. Make it

comfortable for them. Like what if he's cheated? Like I said, if he's cheated on you numerous times or like, disrespected you and what are you gaining from walking away quietly? No, call him out on a shit. Crash out. Yeah. Crash out. Not crash out. Sorry. I'm like, crash out, destroy his car. No, but. Actually. Sash a tie. But don't get caught doing it. Yeah. Okay, last one. Green flag from day one or red flag that you hope that you can, like, fix. A green flag.

Yeah, for sure. The red flags that are there at the beginning and the reason you break up in the end. Why would you want to fix someone like that? No offense. That's not true. Especially at R.A. Oh, my God. I don't have time to fix someone, though.

I don't have time. Like, come as you are in your best form or do not come to me. Yeah. Like, I don't mind, like, little things we have, like, communication. You can work on communication. Like communication styles, yeah. Or, like, consideration, you can work. on those things but if it's like that is who he is to the core of him he's selfish he's

narcissistic he can be like verbally abusive like when you get into arguments like no no no no leave absolutely not yeah yeah like PTSD yeah I'm like you talking about my exa oh Maria it's been the best having you are so much fun just one more question what's one piece of advice you'd like to leave to our listeners about walking away and maintaining your boundaries. One thing I would love to say for especially the maintaining your boundaries, and I know it's going to sound really cliche, but if you had a daughter, would you want her to put up with the same stuff? Like if she was coming home to you and telling you everything that your partner

is currently doing to you, someone is doing to her, what would you tell her to do and how would that make you feel? It's given me shivis. Good way to like really put on the outside what someone is doing to you, like, kept thinking about someone who care and love so much and hearing them. but like he does this, that and the other, you're going to say to her, stick around? Yeah, maybe next time, babe. Or maybe you can fix it. So would you want your daughter to have the same boundaries as you is a really good one when it comes to the boundaries?

Walking away, again, I know it sounds so cliche, but like there is a light at the end of the tunnel. And when you're on your deathbed, sorry, and you're looking back you're alive, are you going to say, I'm so glad I stuck it out for that year of shit, even though we still ended? Or am I glad I walked away and yeah, it was hard, but look at what I found. That was inspirational. is facts. Thanks guys. 100% Maria. You've been amazing.