The Break-Up Diet - My parents HATE my boyfriend. Do I dump him???

Episode Date: January 9, 2025

Can family approval make or break your relationship? Join us as we tackle this and other pressing questions about family dynamics in romantic partnerships. We explore the often unseen impact of family on love, from navigating the treacherous waters of family disapproval to understanding how deeply parental instincts can sway your romantic decisions. Our game, 'Truth or Myth,' will challenge what you thought you knew about the influence of family approval and the role gender might play in managing these connections.Introducing a partner to family can be a nerve-wracking experience, filled with subtle cues and potential pitfalls. We share personal stories about the balancing act of making a good first impression while maintaining authenticity. Hear about the awkwardness that can arise when family members don't play nice and how these encounters can shape your partner's perceptions long-term. Whether hosting a dinner at home or meeting at a restaurant, we discuss the importance of preparing your partner for family dynamics, the etiquette involved, and how to handle evolving family opinions.Communication is key when your partner doesn't seamlessly fit into your family mold. Discover strategies to bridge the gap, from fostering common interests to embracing open-mindedness and patience. With insights drawn from personal experiences, we offer tools for listening to family and friends' insights without losing your own judgment. Ultimately, we recognize that while first impressions can be misleading, they don't have to define the future of your relationship. Join us for this enlightening conversation that might just transform how you navigate family influences in your romantic life.Send us a textInstagram:@the_breakup_dietTikTok:@thebreakupdietEmail: [e-mail]

Yes, let's play a game. Okay, what's the game? Truth or Myth, Family Edition. Okay, I like it. I know it's odd because we're a breakup relationship-y podcast, but family is a key factor in relationships. They can call you a breakup diet. They can.

Whether you like it or not they might they might break you up buckle up bitches it's gonna get bumpy this is the breakup diet they might break you up or they might protect you yeah yeah yeah yeah if your family doesn't like them it's a sign it is a sign, can I ask you the first truth or myth? Go. Family disapproval can be a major red flag in a relationship. Truth or myth? I think it's a truth.

I think it's a truth too. Yeah, like if they don't like them, there's obviously a reason. I don't think it has to be a full truth. Like, I feel like, but. There can be exceptions. There can be, but it's a it's a truth I think so too your parents have a way of knowing what's good for you they can see stuff that we can't yeah exactly truth or myth if your families like the two individual families so your family

and your partner's family don't get on that your relationship is doomed oh 100% what happens when we get married are they not going to show up? 100% is the truth. If the families don't get along, it's not good for the long run. No, I disagree. I disagree. But what about when you give birth? Are they just going to be like, oh, if they're going to be there, we're not. Well, I'm sorry. I don't know if this is just me, but I don't really want my boyfriend's family there in the room when I give birth or my own family for that yeah do you not want them to see their grandkid coming out of you why not that's i feel like it's part of your responsibility as a wife as a daughter you've got to let them see it no my family sorry but i'm not open like that my family doesn't see

my private parts on the day-to-day. No, but let me, like... And so why would they see it now? They're not seeing your virgin in a sexual way. They're seeing life come out of it. That's gross. Also, like, I'm going to have a C-section, so it's not coming out of it.

Oh, slay! You know, I don't think anyone needs to see that suffering. But it's beauty. I don't even think i want my husband in the room oh come on i'm not kidding but he's the one that's helped you have the baby i know how sex works i know how reproduction works thanks um yeah but doesn't mean he needs to see me suffering like that oh he should see you suffering like that he's the one that um came in you i i feel like they can wait outside and then when it's happened it's happened you know like a miracle bang magic there's the kid yeah surprise stork. Yeah. Is it your responsibility to make sure that your partner and your parents get on?

Truth or myth? Truth. Yes. Because you're the bridge that connects the both of them. Without you, they wouldn't even know each other probably. Yeah. But do you think you have to like, you know, help them out and stuff? 100%.

Yeah. You have to be the one that kind of bring out both of their commonalities and help them bond. I get you. You're like the foundation. But do you think that's a female thing or a man thing? Like do you think men do that? Because I've had an experience where I've been left in the deep end.

Oh, my God, yeah, same. So I think women help, men don't help. I'm like- Who do the most? I'm like probing like, oh yeah, like this and this, you know, he likes that. Whereas I'm just left to fend by myself. So what are you supposed to do if you're all by yourself in the corner? I'm great at shit talking.

Oh, amazing. I mean, yeah, to be honest, yeah, we should be. This is our job. If your family doesn't like your partner, it's time to reconsider the relationship. Truth or myth? I don't know what I feel. I feel like it's a bit of both because truth,

because like it will make you look at it. So, okay, maybe reconsider. So actually, yeah, truth because you will reconsider, but it doesn't mean you have to do anything yeah that's true you definitely get a different perspective yeah because you want to know why yeah for sure but then if you're not close with your family and they're jealous or something like some people have some people have jealous families i've seen like some weird mother daughter jealousy where the mother's like

jealous of the daughter for being so beautiful or being more beautiful than mom. That's a quite common thing. Yeah. And then just like the dad being resentful of the daughter because she's not a son. Yeah. That is weird. Yeah, that is weird. So you don't know.

So I feel like if you have, it depends on your dynamic. Yeah. I would say this entire game depends on actually the background of your family. Do you get on with them? If not. Yeah. So maybe we should put this if you're close to dishes. Is it important to set boundaries with your family to protect your relationship?

Truth or myth? Oh my God. A hundred percent truth. Why? Explain. Well, sometimes some families, they can get very involved you know like they would share their opinion but on top of that they would just get heavily involved and say would ask for the spare key for your apartment where you share with your partner or just that's okay i wouldn't lie

that like i feel like when you have a place with somebody like a partner if they if you just had their family intruding all the time unless it's like an organized thing or maybe like once a casual pop-in but it's like they call you on the way that okay you could allow it but not all the time yeah there has to be boundaries there has to be boundaries. There has to be boundaries. I agree. I think it's inappropriate if a family meddles in too much into your adult kids' relationship. Yeah. So it's fine if they're young, basically. If you have a relationship when you're like 16, yeah. Yeah, when you're 12.

Yeah, of course. So I think the main topic for today is families and relationships. There's so many dynamics that needs to be explored yeah like what to do if your family doesn't like your partner for example but you love them because that happens a lot I feel yeah have you ever had something like that or not really um I guess where I wouldn't say my parents hated that person but but they just saw that, you know what, we're not compatible for the long run. And they were correct because I'm divorced.

There we go. They're always right. Your mum is always right. Yeah. That's scary. Imagine, though, you're in love with this guy. Okay, you're really in love with this guy. You think he's amazing and he is amazing.

And then your mum's just like, yeah, he's amazing, but i don't think he's for you how would that make you feel i would just get paranoid and i think that would kind of slowly ruin my relationship because that would be a thought in the back of my head and then i would intentionally try to find out what's wrong with him i would intentionally seek his flaws and be like, oh, mum was right. All right. Yeah. She has to be right. She's my mum.

Yeah, yeah, I get you. I get you. But I also don't think people should be controlled by their families because if you're an adult, you have your own, you can decide for yourself. No, definitely. You know? Definitely. That's the only thing.

It's hard not to be influenced, but I don't think you can be. Yeah, I think I could have been involved about it, it's hard not to be influenced but i don't think you can be yeah i think you gotta be an adult about it which is hard because they still they're still your mom and dad you wanna yeah you want them to approve yeah you'll always be seeking that approval so say you brought home a guy tomorrow would you and you're you brought him over would you like help him be friends with your parents or what would you do or would you i don't know would you be able to tell if your mom didn't like him straight away even if she was super polite on service i think i would definitely have to prep him with the cultural

element that comes with my family obviously i'm muslim it's not like he can hold my hand in front of them technically i'm not meant to date before marriage. So the only person I've really introduced to my parents was the person I was going to marry. That's nuts. Wait, you need to explain this more because I don't know anything. I don't know because I'm not religious at all. Yeah, I'll tell you. You're technically not meant to date before marriage.

You're not meant to, you know, do anything before marriage you're meant to really meet them just before marriage and decide on the go that hey i'm gonna spend the rest of my life with you and crack on are there a lot of arranged marriages there's a lot of arranged marriages they're not forced they're more like the parents get on really well the parents see something with the kids and go you know what this makes sense let's create this massive family unit it's more of a family thing and more of a oh this sounds really classist but to preserve your status oh my gosh you know what i've just thought so one of our truth or myths was about the families getting on yeah they're just they're just choosing everything

that's not even your relationship anymore it's their relationship yeah a hundred percent a hundred percent i think especially in yeah in my culture and in the western culture i see it in um high society where people would the families would want you to marry within that group. Sounds ancestral to me. It is because it's like you end up marrying people that you grew up with. Yeah, I would not like to marry – well, I mean, I don't know, but I don't think I would like to marry anybody that's like – That's seeing me when I was 12 with my lazy eye patch. Lazy eye patch?

Yeah, I have a lazy eye, so I had to wear an eye patch growing up. Could you imagine marrying someone that has seen that side of you weird i also just think you're so different when you're that age and if you're like i don't know being a little weirdo and then like growing up and it kind of leaves like a lasting impression because you're like oh this kid's goofy like yeah even if they're not but it's kind of fun when you see people from your past that you haven't in years and then they're actually like really cool successful I think that's so nice that would work that would be such a cute I was like you were such a geeky kid but you're like you've done it now this amazing like boss bitch like yeah yeah that would be I think that would be the perfect scenario for me

if it's like a family friend that my family's that both the families got on with for the last like 30 years so for you family is really important if your family doesn't like it you're you're done basically just be blunt um it's hard because there's obviously been instances where I've dated and I've wanted to introduce them to my parents, but I can't because I know I'm not going to marry them. Yeah, that would be hard. But also. And it's like a secret I have to carry as well. That must be so hard.

Yeah. I feel like for me, maybe I'm different. It would hurt me if my family didn't like my boyfriend or didn't like if I was seeing somebody new or had a husband. It would really hurt because I'm really close. Yeah. didn't like like if i was seeing somebody new or had a husband would really hurt because i'm really close yeah but on the second note they would never my my mom would never tell me here today as in if she she didn't like him she would be like like if he was for example a drug dealer or something like this then she would probably be like yes what the hell are you doing yeah but um first i'd be like how do you know that mom though you're like what are you up to Janet I'm not joking um but anyway she wouldn't tell me she'd

just be like I'm not sure but that's it she would never be like I don't like him have you ever had instances say after the relationships ended and your mom's like, thank God that's over? No, because my only proper relationship is the one I'm in now. But I have had it when I've been seeing somebody and my mom's like, I don't see that for you. That's it. Really?

Or being like, really? And then you know. How would you respond to that when she would say that to you? Laugh. Really? Well, it's And then you know. How would you respond to that when she would say that to you? Laugh? Really? Well, it's because it's not, I don't know. I see where she was coming from. Yeah.

So have your parents ever met someone that you're just casually dating, no real title like boyfriend, girlfriend? Not in the space where they thought it was like somebody i was serious about yeah my mom would know probably yeah no yeah but they always have yeah yeah what about interesting no you haven't only your husband yeah why do you think parents are like instantly no a lot of the time is it just because they don't see the values they don't like the look of them like i don't think it's the looks to be honest because i think it's definitely the values but how can you tell someone's values really when you first so they get introduced to your parents straight away they're nervous there are small behavioral elements say you're at a dinner with them so you're on a dinner with your parents and

your boyfriend there are little cues such as if your boyfriend's not serving you if your boyfriend's not like putting the food on your plate little like elements like that i know it's petty but it it means something or say you guys are walking out of the restaurant but he walks two meters ahead okay i see that one the first one i i haven't clocked or even like i'm out here serving my own grub oh oh i had to say it like that i know my own grub um or even just them like if your boyfriend's not checking in on you while they're with your parents at the dinner say like you okay should i get you a drink with his parents or with your parents i would say more so with your parents because as a man i would want to show my girlfriend's parents that i know how to look after her i am worthy of her time that is interesting i don't

have that view as if i would check if they're with my parents so say we're out for dinner with my parents i would check on my boyfriend being like are you okay but i wouldn't i wouldn't expect it definitely goes both way but i wouldn't expect him to say that with mine. Really? Yeah. Interesting. Why so? I don't know because he's out with my parents who are, it's obviously more uncomfortable for him than it is for me. Yeah. I'm fine.

I'm with two people that I love, you know what I mean? But he's the person who would be with somebody new and, or feeling awkward, trying to make a good impression. So yeah, I would be checking on him. No, it definitely goes both ways. I mean, a relationship is still like a partnership at the end of the day. You want to show both the families that you guys get on well and you guys look after each other similarly. So do you think you have to put on a facade when you introduce your family?

No, I would put on the biggest act oh my god when you're introducing to your family you mean oh yeah with my family oh my god i put on the biggest front like in my head i kind of knew i was too good for my ex-husband here we go let's go i kind of knew it but I didn't want my parents to think that, so I would do the most. I'd be like, Mom, like he bought me flowers while like when he got here from the airport. He travelled all the way and he got me flowers.

That's amazing. That must mean something, right? Okay, so you're dropping in all these tiny little things. And making it so extravagant. Did he actually do that or you made it up i bought the flowers myself that's bad but i get where you're coming from because you you want them to be compensating for the fact that i can see cracks i don't want my parents to see the cracks they fucking saw it

yeah it wasn't even cracks it was like friction between tectonic plates god so you're trying to push them up and make them feel good yeah and be like please like please like him yeah please like him i want to marry him when with families women are trying to i don't know show the best foot because you're like look who i'm with like he's so good like all this but did we do the most for these men only for them to flip in i don't know cheat on us and dump us so would you oh sorry would you would you now introduce your like neck if you get married again to your do you think you'll ever introduce another man to your family probably not god is that hard yeah because obviously like what if i meet someone that's super sweet and i'm not i don't want to necessarily marry them straight away but

i want them to build a relationship with my parents yeah it's such a taboo what's gonna happen what if like people from the community sees that and goes, ooh, like, they're okay with her being unmarried and roaming around town with a man? I actually take that for granted because I don't have anything like that. 100%. Say you were introducing someone, okay? So, okay, what would be your biggest fear of introducing a partner to your family?

Just that they're not going to get on or that they will see them as like a loser or that they just what would be the biggest fear I think my biggest fear is from either of the partner or the family what if they embarrass me but how embarrass you how just like say with your family I I don't know, your sibling argues with you in front of your boyfriend and it's their first meeting. Something ghetto like that. Or my boyfriend, I don't know, accidentally saying something that you shouldn't have. I get you.

That's awkward. You're like, ha-ha, next question. That never happened. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh, my God. I really like the steak. Yeah, yeah. Pass the salt, babe.. I really like the steak. Yeah, yeah. Pass the salt, babe.

What would you do if you're out with a guy, you're just seeing him, and you're out for dinner with his whole family, and the sister is really rude to you and no one says anything? I wouldn't play with that. I'm sorry. I would not play with that. So what, you'd give her some cheek back? I wouldn't.

I'd have to be the classier one and just keep my mouth shut and smile but i would 100 have the massivest row with my boyfriend afterwards yeah and i'm gonna be like if this is what it's gonna be like i might end this now because i have too much of a high self-esteem to put up with get her behavior like that your sister embarrassing me in front of you and your parents. Hell no. Also, I feel like that does happen. It's so common. There's weird competition between the sister and the girlfriend.

I've noticed that. I don't have that, but, like, I have seen that. Oh, it's not, like, highly, highly common, but you see it. Yeah, yeah, yeah, you definitely see it. Or I've seen that siblings, for example, will give some hazing towards a new partner. But I kind of like that. Yeah, yeah. I'm not going to lie.

I don't like. It's innocent and fun. Yeah. I don't like when they're rude. If someone was rude, I think I would bite my tongue, but then bring it up. Oh, 100%. I have. Yeah, no.

Unless it was you're way further down the line. I think if you're five years in or something with someone and somebody's rude across the table, I would be like, that's disrespectful, but I wouldn't say anything bad back. I'd be like, babe, don't talk to my dad. Yeah, that's nice. I'd just be like, that was rude or something. I don't know.

That's not funny. Tell me why is that funny? Yeah. Explain to me. I don't know. That's not funny. Tell me why is that funny. Yeah. Explain to me. I'm really dumb. Yeah, I don't know. But now if I had that, I wouldn't say anything but bring it up later. And then if it happened again, I would have a problem.

This is another question, but I was thinking about what would you do if you were, this is really horrible, but like didn't want to introduce your family because i don't know your dad's a bit kooky or your what would you do in that like how would you not introduce a family your family with somebody that you really like but you don't want to be you know i know what you mean i know what you. I think it would be a lot of prep work with your partner. Like, I would have to give him all these warnings, all the contacts, being like, hey, my dad's a bit sassy. Like, don't take it personally if he makes fun of your shoes

or something, you know? To be fair, I've had to do that. Sorry, Dad. But, like, yeah, he's used used to it he's not as blunt anymore but he used to be so blunt but and also yeah just like inappropriate not inappropriate in a seedy way yeah not like that i'm just talking about the room yeah or just comes no filter No filter. Oh. So I'm like, ha-ha, he didn't mean that. Oh. Like, you know.

So I sometimes give pre-warning. Yeah. I don't worry about my mom. I'm like, she's, you go. Dude, Jeanette is a vibe. She's always great. I feel like I wish I knew her when she was young. Same. I'd like to be a fly on the wall.

We should get her on the pod. We need to interview her. Can we actually? We need to get, yeah, the big boss. The big boss. Yeah, truly. But, yeah, I don't know. I would feel I sometimes if you have an awkward family dynamic or, you know,

you're a bit not embarrassed because that's really harsh, but a little bit embarrassed because you don't know how someone's going to respond. I would just make sure you prep your partner. You give them DL and say, this is what might happen. They sometimes act like this. You can't respond in this way a bit and just tell them. And then if they want to do that. Yeah, I think the way to not go about it is never to throw your partner

in the deep end. And if you're going over, okay, you're throw your partner in the deep end and if you're going over okay you're meeting your partner's family for the first time you're going to their to their house are you bringing anything when you first go yeah of course definitely like their favorite like their choice of wine yeah i think that's the courteous thing to do yeah yeah but what if you are meeting them at a restaurant oh that's hard you see that is hard you would if you're meeting them at a restaurant? Oh, that's hard. You see, that is hard. If you're going to their home, you want to bring them something. Yeah, you can't.

You can't turn empty-handed. Even if they don't like it, it doesn't matter. It's the gesture. And you have to be super polite. You have to always say, thank you so much. Even if the food is disgusting, you say, wow, oh, my gosh, it's so good. And you eat it. What's the food is disgusting you say wow oh my gosh it's so good and you eat it what's the recipe you eat it give me the recipe to this meatloaf it down and then you're like delicious yeah but at a restaurant it's awkward it's like do i just fork the bill

yeah that's the thing for a man i know this is like i'm being general but i'm like a man in my head i'd be like they should pay it yeah right if they're taking if you're going out with your family but for a woman i don't think yeah also men eat a lot yeah and they always want steak like the most expensive thing on the menu and also to be honest when i'm first meeting i said hoover it down but i i'm not eating that much because you're talking because you want to make a good impression so you're you know what i mean trying to be engaging with like sauces dripping out yeah you don't want to be seen as like a grub so what do we do at like dinner like date like restaurant situations with

the family i think you're just super polite and super grateful and you offer to pay yeah and they should fingers crossed hoping that you're not having to fork like 500 pounds yeah it'd probably be more yeah yeah so you hope that they don't let you pay and otherwise you cry a bit inside yeah oh that is tricky i think meeting them in public is somehow more trickier yeah because you don't know what the right social cues are i don't know i think i would prefer to meet a family for the first time in a restaurant than in their house going to their house is very their turf their everything whereas a restaurant's neutral ground yeah no definitely and you can just walk out if it goes to tits up easily do you think it is possible if you have um a partner right and your family likes them at the beginning and then really doesn't like them after for some

reason but you when you ask them they don't know why they can't give you like a straight answer so they've got the ick from your partner yeah basically oh do you think that it's possible to remain in a strong relationship with that person after because i feel like the ick is pretty hard and it's also it's the ick and also if but it's also subjective you can't reverse the ick. Yeah. And it's subjective, yeah. Like, imagine they're at dinner. I just had an ick that came into my head.

I have not had this happen. But imagine they're at dinner. I'm just thinking it would be gross. And they just, like, pick up their plate and lick it. I would be. With your family. I would be embarrassed. Apart from that, he's really nice.

Just ignore it. And have, like, the have like the most like stern word my partner be like wtf was that not an animal yeah that's disgusting how do you not let your family influence you too much though because for people that have family dynamics that are a bit complicated they're not super close how would you like balance not taking everything that they say to heart because at the end of the day it's not their relationship like yes they play a role in your life but you're an adult we're adults yeah we can make this decision ourselves and sometimes it is the only way for us to learn from life is to make these mistakes and be with the wrong person for a time. Yeah.

For a certain amount of time. Yeah. It is just part of life. Yeah. And I feel like if you're in a toxic thing or something, you don't, until you want to get out of it, you won't anyway. No, you won't listen to anyone. Yeah.

Even if your mom says he's not good for you, until you see you won't no definitely i completely agree with that it's yeah i think you gotta be yourself assertive and have a sense of awareness between what your parents are like what your boyfriend's like and just make good judgment from there on. And what would you do if the family is, they seem to like you, but you're not a hundred percent sure. Would you try to press yourself? Would you try to, I don't know,

find out through your partner? Like, are you asking your partner? I'm not a hundred percent asking my partner. The first time I meet the parents, I'm always going to be like, what do they think of me? Is he going to tell you the truth?

He should. I don't know if I would would if my mom was like he's gross no i would not tell my partner that i would be like yeah yeah she we actually didn't speak about it oh but i just like i can't imagine anyone finding me gross okay okay okay oh my god i have the craziest story so my recent ex when i met his parents oh my god it was so nerve-wracking it wasn't even like oh like dinner and i go home i went up to man Manchester and stayed an entire weekend at his family house with the family. That's so intense.

I was literally like, I want to puke. Why did I say yes? But also I'm like, oh, this could be really fun. So what did you have to, I don't know, spend lots of time? Were they like a family that's intense? They're really close. They're really close. That's another question, question though because my family's

close but when for example we all kind of do our own things like if we want to have dinner together there was no own thing going on we were just like hanging out basically most of the time i find that so hard like lunch dinner breakfast um walking exploring the city together it was like really fun they were really really like really really great but imagine if it went the wrong way yeah and i had like an entire weekend with them but they're also thinking the same thing yeah yeah they're also like who is this stranger in my house yeah still it's you know what i think is hard when people come from different family dynamics in general because if you're not used to something yeah it's quite hard to adapt it was actually quite healing because i'm not that close

with my family so to be in a situation where the families are so close together even staying at yours just seeing the banter between you guys it's like so healing you have no idea oh even my family isn't like we also do our own things like if we have dinner sometimes but it's not like a requirement you know where sometimes families are like you have to do breakfast lunch and dinner and everything in between but then like just even just hanging out being around such good vibes it's nice it is nice like having dinner with your family it would be so fun because i'd like babble about my divorce and your mom would be like oh honey you'll be fine what did your family think when you got divorced weren't happy or they they weren't surprised did they did they

know didn't your mom tell you anything before you got married? Yeah. How did you deal with that yourself? Like you just ignored it, obviously. Yeah, I think because I'm not close to them and I don't articulate my feelings with them much, I was able to kind of just. Yeah. Yeah.

But it's hard. It's a lonely life. When it did happen, did you think in your head, oh, gosh, she's right? Oh, yeah. Like literally at the first cracks of the marriage, I your head, oh gosh, she's right? Oh yeah. Like literally at the first cracks of the marriage, I'm like, oh, that's so right. So like actually like listen to your parents, no matter how close or far, like close you are with them.

Yeah. They definitely, they definitely pick up on stuff. They can see something. So like lots of friends also can pick up on stuff. Yeah. I think. Yeah. But not always.

You've got to watch friends too. I think it comes down to the fact that our parents have lived longer and they they've seen different behavior yeah so they can judge character way better than we could we're only in our 20s what do we know okay ilms your last question gone yes what is the best advice you have for somebody who is dealing with their partner not fitting into their family i think communication is the key genuinely like talk to both parties tell them about each other their interests and tell them you know what find a commonality and make a friendship for my sake this is important to me if you love me you would me, for me. Yeah, and then see after that.

Like if they still don't get on, there's probably a reason. Yeah. So you've got to give it some time though. Yeah. Build that foundation between them two. And then what happens after is honestly beyond your control and up to them. And you can't beat yourself up about it. Yeah, because I feel like people have to give a chance to especially it can't be after one meeting because some people make bad impressions

at the start just because they're nervous yeah i make i'm always the worst first impression no i don't think so you do get word vomit yeah i think i get word vomit too but mine's more just asking the question you were so cute when I first met you. You weren't bubbly at all. Anyway, thanks, guys. I hope you learned something. Yeah. Be nice to everyone and communicate.