The Break-Up Diet - RIP Hot Girl Hibernation: It’s Spring Cleaning Season

Episode Date: April 17, 2025

The days are getting longer, flowers are blooming, and it's finally time to shed that winter coat of emotional baggage. Welcome to your spring awakening after heartbreak!Ever notice how winter br...eakups hit differently? There's something about those dark, cold months that amplifies every painful emotion. As Ilma candidly shares from her own experience, "When I had my winter breakup, I actually thought I was going to die." The combination of Seasonal Affective Disorder and heartbreak creates a particularly potent emotional cocktail that can feel impossible to overcome.But spring—glorious spring—brings a natural energy shift that makes taking control of your life not just possible, but exciting. It's the perfect season for reclaiming your space (both physically and emotionally), implementing boundaries, and finally acting on those self-improvement goals that hibernated alongside you all winter.We dive deep into practical strategies for post-breakup renewal: transforming your living space to be unapologetically yours (goodbye, beard trimmings in the sink!), saging away negative energy with friends, limiting social media doom-scrolling, and adopting positive journaling practices that rewire your brain toward gratitude. Ilma shares her powerful approach: "I only choose to write positive things because your brain will then only remember positive stuff."Throughout our conversation, we acknowledge the reality that healing isn't linear. Some days you'll feel on top of the world; others you might find yourself analyzing everything and feeling overwhelmed. That's perfectly normal—and knowing that tomorrow brings new possibilities is part of embracing this season of renewal.So what baggage are you leaving behind this spring? What fresh start are you creating? Listen now to discover how to transform your breakup into a breakthrough, just as winter transforms into spring.Send us a textInstagram:@the_breakup_dietTikTok:@thebreakupdietEmail: thebreakupdietpodcast@gmail.com

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Starting point is 00:00:00 Welcome back to another episode of the Breakup Diet. Hot Girl Hibernation is over. We are in spring, yes? How are you feeling? I know, I feel like spring, I have some mixed emotions, especially today. I'm like, I haven't quite let go of winter, I feel. You know, but I need to. You know, it's spring, summer. You've got to be looking hot in summer. So it's go time, baby.
Starting point is 00:00:30 That's basically what it is. Go time. 100% like hot girl hibernation's over guys. Like we're not rotting anymore. We're not bed rotting. We're actually just doing a bit of spring cleaning. Buckle up bitches. This is going to get bumpy. This is the breakup diet.
Starting point is 00:00:52 What's everyone's thoughts on our photo shoot? Are people liking it? Yeah, it's pretty iconic. It was such a cool concept that you thought of honestly honestly. Spring actually is that time of the year when I think you can actually finally act on your New Year's Eve resolutions. The weather's better, you've got longer hours, you've got more energy as opposed to winter where you're like, oh my god, I'm supposed to be doing all this stuff but I'm tired. Everyone's tired. I actually really like spring. It's probably my favourite, almost over summer. Everyone's tired. I actually really like spring. It's probably my favourite. Almost over summer. Summer's a bit stressful I find actually. And a bit, there's too much happening.
Starting point is 00:01:30 Everyone's away, everything's going on, everyone's everywhere, you know? But spring, you're like changing. You know what I mean? Every, the, the... The flowers are blooming, the leaves are turning, and the days are nicer, the clocks went back as well. The clocks went back, so our first 8pm sunset. Yeah which is so nice, it's so much nicer in London. Which is why I'm like, yes we should go have a drink. Yeah literally. But I feel like with a break up, it's actually the perfect time to have one.
Starting point is 00:02:03 A winter break up is the the worst breakup of them all. Yeah, winter is actually just depressing because you want to be at home and you want to be cuddling and you don't want to go outside. Whereas like spring is kind of like, you can just get hot before summer. 100%. Like with spring, you're like,
Starting point is 00:02:18 oh, it's summers just around the corner, the weather's fine. I actually think you were holding me back. As opposed to winter, the weather amplifies your emotions. That's personally for me, I get a really bad case of SAD. And when I had my winter breakup, I actually thought I was gonna die. Like I'm not even being serious.
Starting point is 00:02:38 It's really hard. Like the therapy I needed. And then like she also kind of knew like, babe, like it could be because of the weather. Like it sort of sucks that you can't get out and take control of your life as opposed to spring. Like we're saying bye bye to the bullshit. We're like deep cleaning, like the shit from the past.
Starting point is 00:02:59 Like I think we're actually like cleansing from last year to be honest. In the spring cleaning, you're letting go of the emotional baggage. You know, because even if you went through a breakup in the winter, you're probably still just coping to get through the dark times, the dark weather, the dark times, all this. And now you might still have some leftover emotional baggage that you need to boot it
Starting point is 00:03:23 out. I think by the time it's spring, you're're like, well I've survived a really hard winter. I think it's time to regain control of my life. So what are you doing to spring clean? To spring clean my mind? I actually am going to start therapy I think because I sometimes want to like, I get very overwhelmed in like every department of my life.
Starting point is 00:03:46 So like, I feel like they might be able to help me not get so overwhelmed. Because you know, when you're, it's similar to a breakup, like when you have an extreme emotion and then you just like, and then the next day you're fine. And I'm like, what the actual hell is wrong with me? Like why am I crying today? That's why I look like this. And then tomorrow I'm gonna be fine. It's just how emotions are.
Starting point is 00:04:07 I think you kinda need to remind yourself that emotions are temporary. You're not meant to be happy 24 seven. Equally, you're not meant to be angry 24 seven. It's just one of those things in life where you're gonna have to experience some high high and some low lows. And then with therapy, you're gonna learn how to like
Starting point is 00:04:28 reduce the high so that it's not compensated by a really bad low. You'll be just living life in equilibrium. You see, I haven't had a really bad low in a long time, like really, really bad. Before I used to get really bad. Now I don't have that, which I don't know why, but I just haven't.
Starting point is 00:04:47 It's a good thing. I think you're just growing up. Yeah. Cause there's a lot of pressure when you're younger. Like the lowest of the lows feel a lot worse when you're younger. Okay, that's good to know. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:04:56 It only gets better, yes. And it's, you know, it is soon. What, spring cleaning, but also, Ilma's 30th birthday. The dirty 30 is here! Goodbye to my 20s. 20s were the best, I've learnt so much. How cool is it to say that I got married
Starting point is 00:05:12 and divorced in my 20s? I'm sorry, and the fact that I survived. And the fact that I'm now spreading so much positivity now through this platform. I can't wait to see what 30s is going to be like for me. Yeah, I think that is just where it's at. I think so too. Like I feel like most people become their like, not even their prime, they really like
Starting point is 00:05:33 grow in their 30s. I think it's just like, I'm obviously not in my 30s, but like, I think you know who you are. Whenever I've spoken to somebody about it, they say you're really a sure of yourself because you've kind of like had all those different phases. Yeah, yeah. And you kind of, yeah, you know what you want. You know who you are as a person. And you're not afraid to have boundaries because boundaries was a big thing that I struggled, not anymore, but like I struggled with in my twenties because you kind of care too much about
Starting point is 00:06:01 what if you're like taking too much space when really it's not the case. Yeah. Is there any, is there any spring cleaning you're going to do this spring? Like are you breaking up with any bad habits? Are you breaking up with any situations yet? Breaking up with any friend? I am spring cleaning my routine to be honest. My routine at the moment is quite messed up. My sleeping pattern's quite bad. You don't sleep? I sleep but the quality's not good. So I sleep from like 10 to 2 then I wake up then wake from 2 to 4, 4 to 7 I'm asleep. So it's just like that. Yeah. Yeah, so I feel very loopy, which is probably why like in all these episodes I'm a lot more delirious
Starting point is 00:06:43 than I am in person. Evie and Tilda laugh. Fair, fair. It's actually quite funny though, we're rolling, we're super chatty and then when we stopped rolling, we did a photoshoot the other day and we were so out there, out there that as soon as we got in the car, we had half an hour before we had to film again, Ilma and I just in silence, not speaking like. Like we were like, then to the other side of the windows,
Starting point is 00:07:08 just like passed out with like our mouths open. Seriously, if there was like a camera in that car, that would have been like, our new billboard. Yeah, emotionally drained. And that's a low key what spring cleaning, we're trying to like, don't be emotionally drained. It's all about letting go of that baggage honestly, because I feel like right now things
Starting point is 00:07:29 just felt heavy, like winter was a heavy one. Yeah, and I feel like because you maybe not slack off in winter, but because you're so tired already, then like you get hit with so much more work and so much more things, like at the beginning of the year to like now and then it kind of calms down a little bit because people are more like fun. Thank god for this heat wave that we're having right now because I feel like I have like less like I still have the same amount of work but the pressure has like kind of died down. I think that's one good thing about spring, like you're letting go of all
Starting point is 00:08:06 these fictitious pressures. Yeah, I get that. Like the weather just makes you realise like, dude, none of it matters. Just go to the beer garden. Just have a little cocktail. Yeah, so maybe we can move somewhere hot. Go back to our photo shoot, right? Okay, so our first shot was in the living room. We're like, you know, house wifey, spring cleaning, getting rid of the dust and the cobwebs.
Starting point is 00:08:29 Getting rid of all the dusties, ain't no dusty touching us. Yeah. So that's kind of like living room scene. Then we went outside and we were taking out the trash, which is like taking out the Xs, putting them in the bin. Don't be fooled by how like warm it looked. We were freezing.
Starting point is 00:08:48 I think we got like these frames done in like five minutes because we were like, oh, like this is really cold. Yeah, it was really cold. It was so cold. And then the third look is definitely like my personal favorite, my all time favorite in terms of all the shoots that we've done, the leopard print, dishwashing. Yeah, like scrubbing away the old and like, you know, has to polish stuff to make it good. Yeah, just like, it's that cleanse, that dishwashing cleanse. Yeah, literally. You're dirty when you go in and then you're nice and clean when you go out,
Starting point is 00:09:23 winter to summer. Basically. Oh my gosh. And I think just like the artistic vision of it was insane. Like you came up with that as well. You know, we're just so happy that you guys like it. Like the love that we get. Yes. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:09:39 It is cool. Yeah. It's really exciting to just have this. This is like my spring cleaning tool to be honest, getting to chat here and be happy about life post-breakup. Yeah, it is true. It's hard, it's such a hard thing to do, but normally once you do it, you feel a lot lighter.
Starting point is 00:09:57 That's the thing, like you feel heavy when you're going through it and you feel heavy to make the decision and then once you do it, it's like a relief. I'm telling you, once to make the decision and then once you do it it's like a relief. I'm telling you once you make that decision life actually just feels so much clearer. In the moment when you're in a relationship that's not ideal you think to yourself oh after the breakup I'm going to be so depressed I'm going to be so miserable I'm never going to get over this. Once it's done you actually get over it.
Starting point is 00:10:25 I thought I'd never get over my ex-husband. As soon as like we were done I was like, oh I have my life again. I think it's just that like people are scared when it's like, yeah you have that and you might be fine and then if you get a bad situation like a guy is like a dick for no reason or you you know what I mean, it makes you feel bad, it's then that it kills you because then you like get the hurt and then you think about your ex because you're like, oh, you know, I think that's what the hard thing is. So if men weren't such dicks, we'd all be better off. But also the thing is you can't control other people's behavior, you can't take that shit personally. I get it, men shouldn't be dicks, but equally we are in control of how we process other people's behavior towards us and we don't need to be a victim to their bullying and
Starting point is 00:11:17 abuse. Yeah, easier said than done though. I'm telling you, it is easy to just choose yourself and not be vacuumed into that negativity. You just gotta not give a shit. Sorry. No, no, no, I get it. I get it. It is hard though to not give a shit.
Starting point is 00:11:36 Even if you think you don't give a shit, you sometimes give a shit. I used to have that anyway. Even when I was like, I don't even care, And then it would like, there'd be a small crack and it would seep in and I'd be like, I do care, I do care, I do care. It is cool to care. Like we're humans, it's cool to be in tune with your emotion.
Starting point is 00:11:54 I'm just saying that like, it's not good to let a negative experience kind of overtake how you think about certain things. Yeah, yeah, no, you're true. You're not true. No, I don't know. I was like, you're about certain things. Yeah, yeah, no, you're true. You're not true. I don't know. It's like you're speaking the truth. We are the truth. We are the breakup diet.
Starting point is 00:12:12 Okay, Elm, so we're talking about, you know, spring cleaning, emotional baggage. How would somebody deal with having a breakup and they live with their, like, their ex? Okay. How are they like zenning their place you know clearing out the energy I don't know you know like the physical the physical part of a spring clean whoa where do you begin with that I don't know why I should be asking you about actual cleaning because do you clean I have a cleaner yeah I do like I do wipe the surfaces like on the day to day.
Starting point is 00:12:46 Like, okay, so you're going through a breakup while you're living with your partner. Okay, maybe they've just moved out. So like you have your space back, but it used to be your joint space. Oh, I think that should be a fun like opportunity to take your mind off him. You've got your space, you can design it the way you want it.
Starting point is 00:13:07 You can make it as girly as you want it to be. And also, it's gonna be clean. You're not gonna have men's dirty socks and underwear. You're not gonna have like, delivery. Bits of beard on the fricking count, like the sink. Ugh! What is that about? I'm like ugh.
Starting point is 00:13:26 Or toothpaste on the sink. Or like piss droplets on the toilet. Honestly, I can make a whole episode of just like dirty shit my exes have done. Like the lack of hygiene. Yeah I could too but I'm going to go to the bathroom. I'm getting embarrassed but like like bad boys are dirty. Well, he's actually not as dirty as some men, but like some men are really bad. And I've married some men.
Starting point is 00:13:55 Like it's horrible. And I think when you get to have your space again, there's no other way but to just celebrate by having what you want. Yeah. I would make it so girly. I would have like vintage Vogue magazines everywhere. Every single girly sickly smelling candles. I want like funky pink things everywhere like a pink rug, like leopard print pillowcases,
Starting point is 00:14:20 like it's my space. Yeah, I get you. For me, what I would be doing the first thing I would be doing would be chucking out every single thing that they like in there I don't care if you brought it together if you if he was obsessed with this like little statue thing it's gone it's going on to depop and I'm selling it and getting some cash money and I'm saging the bloody house with my girlfriends. I'm making it a whole experience.
Starting point is 00:14:49 I'm not just doing it by myself being like, uh-huh, crying. I am making it a fun experience where you guys dance around the living room and get the energy out the window. You have to open the window to push it out. That sounds so fun. See, like, spring cleaning is the best thing ever. I feel like the community is back as well. Yeah. More people are out, more people are wanting to do things because I think winter everyone has their own like path off, not like depression,
Starting point is 00:15:18 but everyone's going through their moment. Spring everyone's like, oh, you know what? We're back. We're back. Let's hang. Let's sage the bloody place. Let's start the year properly. Do you feel like your year starts from like April, May? Yeah. I think it kind of starts clicking in like end of March, really. And then April, May is your birthday, then it's my birthday.
Starting point is 00:15:43 So yeah. And then summer's always really so yeah and then summer is always really fun I like it all the way up until December if I'm honest I just don't like January and February. The January to February sprint is the hardest and I feel like we need to move somewhere. Yeah because even for those two months yeah because but to be honest I don't like it anywhere because I don't even like it in Australia really. And that's summer. I loved it in Australia.
Starting point is 00:16:07 It's just, I don't think I can convince you to hang with me in Perth for two months. I like it. No, I was just bored cause I was just with my parents. Which is nice, but then also like I need some social interaction. That is under 16. You gotta come to Perth. You gotta come to Perth. You gotta come to Perth.
Starting point is 00:16:25 What else do you think of in spring? I think of like new beginnings. It's a rebirth, babe. I feel like I'm gonna shed into a new person this spring. Even though I feel like I'm in my prime. I just got such a graphic of you shedding. Like actual skin with my vessel and everything out. Yeah, I was like, ooh, yeah. I was like, my vessel and everything out. Yeah, I was like, ooh, snaky.
Starting point is 00:16:46 Yeah. Basically, yeah, I feel like I'm going to have a rebrand this year. Spring is the time to rebrand. It is. What are you rebranding? I'm rebranding into basically just super hot, independent, full of life, super fun. You're already super hot. I know, but like, I think my brand will always be the same.
Starting point is 00:17:08 I think for the sake of it, I'm just gonna like... You're like, I like the continuity of being super hot, but let me just add to it. Super hot and plus plus plus. Well, I'm gonna get nose fillers, so that's like my little repreptic. Are you? That's gonna be really dangerous. Well, we're doing it with Joelle. Okay, okay, fine, fine, fine, then it's fine.
Starting point is 00:17:28 You're coming with, right? I don't want nose filler, but I'm not so nervous. Oh, you don't need it, but I want you to be there. It's like, break up diet, let's fuck up our faces. No, you know what I would do is that salmon sperm thing. Joelle does it, so why don't you get salmon sperm? I get a cute like nose. There we go. Glowy skin, cute nose. That's our spring revamp. That is spring revamp. What would you tell somebody right now if they were going through a breakup? If you're going through a breakup right now,
Starting point is 00:17:56 I'm going to tell you right up. This is an exciting time to look forward to. Like the sun is out, Fighting time to look forward to. Like, the sun is out, there's longer hours in the day, you can get way more stuff done, now's the time for you to basically scheme what your year's gonna be. Have a vision board. I feel like that vision board you plan for New Year's Eve, bring that back and add it and actually act on it. Yeah, that is true. Why is it so hard to actually act on stuff at the beginning of the year, but easier like
Starting point is 00:18:28 mid-year? Winter's just not the time for rebranding. No one's got the energy. Like back in the days, like cavemen would just hibernate, like seriously, and then life would pick up in the spring. That's when they'd start harvesting all the fresh berries and killing all like the animals. What do you come out with?
Starting point is 00:18:49 No, but like that's like, it's just like a primitive thing. That's like you asked like, oh, why are we so hibernating in the winter? It's like a primitive like behavior, primal behavior. Yeah. So now we're ready to hunt. We are ready to hunt. And look, you don't have to hunt for men. Sometimes the hunt is just a better you. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, we're always going to be better, you know,
Starting point is 00:19:14 but the hunt can be job. It can be money. It can be friends. You get more social. That's friends, the kind of thing. Could be yourself. It could be a man. Could be a girl. Could be more. Could be a little, yeah.
Starting point is 00:19:32 You're greedy. So it could be more. Yeah. So I think people who are going through a breakup right now, like, please, like, be excited. This year's about to get so good. Like you don't even know the amount of rebranding you're going to go through. It's going to be the best thing ever.
Starting point is 00:19:47 Scary at the moment, but once you're there and when you want it bad enough, you're going to get it. The intention always has to be there. That's the thing with spring cleaning. You have to want a better you. Yeah, you have to, I thought you were going to be like, you have to want to clean. I'm like, who wants to clean? But then sometimes I do get in modes where I clean.
Starting point is 00:20:07 Sometimes like the actual act of physical cleaning gives you such clarity. Yeah. You think you can also like put on music as well. And like, I don't know. It does make you feel so much better when you're like, your room is clean or something and that's kind of like your brain. Like when you, I don't know. Declutter your brain.
Starting point is 00:20:24 You feel so much better. Your anxiety is gone. The kind of like a brain. Like when you, I don't know. Declutter your brain, you feel so much better. Your anxiety's gone, your kind of depression is gone. Also when you have a big cry, I've had one of those days. Like I'm having an emotional day, so I'm not as upbeat as I normally am, but it's like, I feel like tomorrow, I'm gonna be very happy because I had a big cry today. So then hopefully.
Starting point is 00:20:45 But that's the thing, that's the thing, we're just so real and raw with it. Like, I know we're always like, oh, my God, breakups are great, blah, blah, blah. Oh, like feeling all these emotions is going to be great. But there are times and it's such a human thing to feel very like. Today's a lot. Yeah, overwhelmed. Exactly. And like, you're always going to get the raw version of us, no matter what.
Starting point is 00:21:11 Yeah. Like, I've cried on episodes. You have yet to cry. I did cry on one, but- We've scratched that! Yeah, unfortunately it was a bit too much, that one. It was a bit too much. It was a bit too gloom for listeners to just watch me cry for like 30 minutes but you know but like this is still very
Starting point is 00:21:31 raw you're like being vulnerable being like oh guys like today's not my day but like this is just the reality of life it's okay it is some days are good some days bad yeah but sometimes you just can't get out of it, you just think. I mean one of those days where I just can't stop thinking about everything, like everything. It all hits you at once like a... Yeah and I just don't feel good at all, like in any department. Don't feel good, that's why it's like... And I haven't had one of these days in a while, like really, where it's like, ugh. And I haven't had one of these days in a while, like really, where it's like everything.
Starting point is 00:22:08 It's not like just one thing. Now I'm like... Analyzing everything. Look, it happens and I feel like it kind of happens in the end of winter and spring because you're like, oh, like it's been three months into the year. What am I doing? What have I accomplished?
Starting point is 00:22:23 It hits you like a brick and it happens to be the end of like winter, like Q1. Yeah. Sorry, that's such a finance-based thing. Yeah, I've heard of Q1 before and I'm like, don't work in finance, but I was like, I know that. But like, you know, Q1's ending and it's natural for you to kind of be reflecting off everything. We've had a hectic start to the year, you and I. Like in terms of work, like the pod has been amazing, but boy, like you guys are keeping us busy.
Starting point is 00:22:55 Yeah, yeah. That's the thing as well. If people don't see all the stuff that goes behind it, it's just like they see the episodes come out or the social media and then they are like, ooh. Oh my gosh, like the the blood sweat and tears like we've both had like four character developments every single like it's from the start of the year it's only like month three babe like each it's a lot the things that have been like going through every week, I'm like, okay. What's happening now? What's gonna hit us?
Starting point is 00:23:25 What other live event now? And I think, and I hope spring marks the end of that roller coaster. Spring means that we get out of that ride and actually just smell the roses. You know how our slogan is like- I think you should be like a poet or some sort of like, you should write music because you really do have some very good phrases.
Starting point is 00:23:55 Like I'll give it to you. Smell the roses. It's the theatre kidding me. But I was like gonna say, you know how our saying is like, buckle up bitches, like it's about to get bumpy. I think spring is the time when we unbuckle it up and just actually zen out. Yeah, let's not buckle up bitches. Let's just like, come.
Starting point is 00:24:18 Let's get out of the ride. Smooth. Let's like touch some grass and look straight up in the sky. Yeah. We're reconnecting with nature in spring. Yeah, maybe we need a rebrand to not buckle up bitches. It's gonna get bumpy. It's like buckle up bitches.
Starting point is 00:24:34 Buckle, unbuckle up bitches that smell the roses. Yeah, and become zen. Do you have any like red flags, icks, whatever you're not taking into this spring? Okay I am leaving behind impatience. Winter makes me one grumpy girl. Like even when I get that everyone's slurred, things have slowed down, everyone's hibernating. Somehow I feel like I'm on this hamster wheel of things to do and the things to do like racks up. I want to just let go and be patient of the process. Be more calm.
Starting point is 00:25:16 Be more calm. Smell the roses. I'll be sniffing that up. What are you doing? What are some icks you're leaving behind? Getting overwhelmed is my ick. I get icked out of myself because I get so overwhelmed that I can't do anything or see anyone
Starting point is 00:25:36 because all I wanna do is edit, but then because I'm so overwhelmed or I can't do that, so I get icked out by myself because I have no friends, I have no life and I do nothing besides edit. But then I don't even edit, I end up watching TikTok because I'm just don't know where to start. I think for you, your spring cleaning thing should be writing down, do you write lists?
Starting point is 00:26:00 I do, but I haven't written one in ages. I used to always write to do lists. So you haven't written a list in a while. That's probably why you're feeling overwhelmed. Start writing lists. Once you have stuff ticked off, I promise you, you will find time. Yeah. Also an ick for me is just not taking time for myself.
Starting point is 00:26:19 It has to be done, but it's like so hard when you're just in this constant cycle of just working turning out content bike family stuff Relationships, it's hard and I think spring is the time for you to slow down and actually give yourself some time We've got an extra hour now. Thank you. Daylight savings. Thank you. That's an extra hour to you. How are you gonna spend that hour? savings. Thank you. That's an extra hour to you. How are you gonna spend that hour? Chilling. I know I just said overwhelmed but like you know I'm gonna take like an everything shower. I'm gonna like put on a face mask, put in a hair mask, kind of act as if I'm going through a breakup. Low-key. But just so that I'm just you know bettering myself so I feel good.
Starting point is 00:27:05 100%. I think journaling is pretty great. I journal a lot and I think that's probably why I'm so happy because when I read like through my pages, I'm like, oh, I'm so happy on this day, I was so happy on that day. So what do you say though? Do you just say whatever comes to your head or? I only choose to write positive things
Starting point is 00:27:22 because your brain will then only remember positive stuff. I don't really like to dwell on negative stuff because I've spent a lot of my 20s being a negative person. Being married to the wrong person was made me a very negative toxic person. That's actually really interesting to only put the positive things. I've never heard that. That's good though, it makes sense. Yeah, I think so too, because why would I wanna immortalise negative moments in writing? Cause like same way with social media, you wouldn't wanna immortalise a picture of you
Starting point is 00:27:53 being sad for social media, you only wanna remember the good bits. Yeah. And I think that's the same way that I take approach in my journaling, I only wanna remember the good bits and therefore be more grateful. But how do you know... do you write every day? I write every other day. Yeah because how do you not say the same thing over and over and over again because I feel like
Starting point is 00:28:13 that would be my downfall so I'd always be like I'm grateful for this and then it would be like after a little bit it'd probably be like the same thing all the time. And when you have the intention, you'll find so many like great things. Like even for me, sometimes my like journaling is like two sentences where I'm like, oh, I got to have the best like hour long catch up with one of my friends from back home. Or like, oh, like today, like Yaz and I, we got this deal. Like this is like our biggest thing that we've ever done. Like, oh, okay, okay. Yeah. And you kind of like track your growth.
Starting point is 00:28:46 Yeah. That is a good idea. I might actually start doing that. Please. And I think that's going to help you kind of decongest up here. Cause that's what it is. I think you're scrolling too much. Doom scrolling is a terrible, terrible habit.
Starting point is 00:29:00 Doom scrolling, get rid of that. Journaling, only the positive moments. Do it for like a week, yas, or even 48 hours and I'm going to tell you you're going to feel so much lighter. Yeah I might actually delete my um, I can't really delete my TikTok though. Oh no no, don't delete it, just like limit yourself for like an hour. Yeah to be fair I am spending a lot more time on social media than I used to ever. It's because our job is in social media.
Starting point is 00:29:23 Yeah but I never used to look at stuff at all. And now I do notice that, like, I always get that, like, banner that comes up on my phone being like, you're done your limit. And then I'm like, extend limit today. But it happens every day. Don't. But I think I only have like two hours, but that is a lot on there.
Starting point is 00:29:40 Yeah. When you think about it. Yeah, no, don't extend it. Yeah. Like eat an apple journal, no, don't extend it. Yeah. Like eat an apple, journal, do something. Eat an apple. Apples are great sources of serotonin. That's why the doctors suggest it.
Starting point is 00:29:53 Really? I do like an apple though. See? So maybe eat an apple every time you get a banner in your phone. All right, so that's your spring cleaning to-do list. Eat an apple, no more doom scrolling and... Lists, journal, journal and journal.
Starting point is 00:30:09 And journal the positive things in your life because there's a lot of great things in your life, Yaz. If you're going through a breakup, like now's the time to like declutter your socials, archive all the photos or maybe delete, you know, give some life back, give some you back into your social media. Make it more about you. Good idea. Yeah. Take away all the highlights that he might be in.
Starting point is 00:30:33 Yeah, and just make it about you. It's your space again. Yeah, feel hot, look hot, be hot, rebrand a Ilma that's hot all the consistently plus. In my prime forever. How lucky am I? Seriously. It's true though.
Starting point is 00:30:51 You speak truth. Didn't I say that earlier? Yes. We speak the truth and we smell the roses. And that is the Break Up Tide Spring Cleaning Edition. edition.

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