The Break-Up Diet - Stop Overthinking and Trust Your Gut

Episode Date: August 6, 2025

Have you ever noticed your body reacting strangely during a relationship that wasn't quite right? Those mysterious health issues might not be coincidental.We dive into the fascinating ways our bodies communicate relationship incompatibility before our minds catch up. From stress rashes and digestive problems to hair loss and constant illness, these physical reactions are powerful signals worth paying attention to. Most intriguingly, these symptoms often vanish immediately after a breakup, leading to the well-documented "post-breakup glow" that friends notice before you do.Your nervous system knows the score. That constant state of fight-or-flight, feeling overwhelmed by everyday tasks, and persistent anxiety might be your body's way of saying something isn't right. We explore how to distinguish between normal health fluctuations and genuine relationship warning signs, and why patterns matter more than isolated incidents.Dreams also offer fascinating insights into relationship struggles. Those vivid, sometimes bizarre scenarios might be your subconscious processing emotional truths you haven't yet acknowledged while awake. By learning to interpret these physical and mental signals, you gain valuable information about your relationship's health.While nobody should end a relationship based solely on physical symptoms, these signs should absolutely factor into your broader assessment of compatibility. Being honest with yourself about what your body is telling you might lead to difficult decisions, but prioritizing your wellbeing is never wrong. And remember - sometimes taking that brave step to end an unhealthy relationship can lead to unexpected healing, growth, and even reconnection from a healthier place down the road.Send us a textInstagram: @thebreakupdietpod TikTok: @thebreakupdietpodEmail: [e-mail]

Hey guys, welcome back to another episode on The Breakup Diet. Today, I think we should talk about when you feel something's wrong. So, like, your gut, because there will be signs, and whether you take them or not is a different story, but, like, your body will tell you. And when you leave the relationship, you're like, oh, my God, let's switch it up. We've been holding back way too much. Welcome to the Breakup Diet. Have you had that? Oh my God, I think I've only gotten prettier after each break-ups.

Each relationship drains me off my beauty and my energy. After that, I'm like, oh, my God, like, my TMI and my bowels are working again. I don't have stress hives anymore. And, oh, the list goes ages and ages. But the thing is, these kind of gut feelings were always so dismissive of it. Yeah, people don't like like to think about it. They're like, oh, no, it's because I ate past this day. Or, oh, no, it's because I laid in the sun and have this rash.

Like, there's always, like, an excuse for it, I feel. And you don't, a lot of the time, you don't link it back to your nervous system being in overdrive. 100%. And I promise you, your nervous system will give you signs in more ways than one. Like, my health, each time I was in a relationship, like UTIs, constipation. bloating, fruzzled hair, patchy skin. I've heard the UTI one before. I've never had that, but like, I've heard that.

It's because he didn't wash his dick. It's like, wash yourself, hygiene, mister, like hygiene. Now, if I had a friend that said that to me, I would be like, I would say something. It's just that your bodies obviously don't. It's not rejecting, I mean, it's, your body's basically rejecting the other person. Yeah, that's wild, that one.

Take that seriously, girl. Well, I feel like with all signs, though, you can't just take one. You have to, like, it has to be consistently, I think. Oh, 100%. Like, you can't be, like, having a headache when you're seeing your boyfriend and being like, that's because we're not meant to be together. Like, you can't. But if there's a pattern, look into it.

Yeah. A very common one is, like, when your stomach hurts, like, you get stomach pain whenever you go up and see them or you notice that, like, for example, you can't go to the bathroom or something like that. like that one of those is like that's a very common what I feel yeah that is like an obvious sign that your body is in like high stress it's manifesting it in really different weird ways yeah one of the ones that I like now look back on what I had is I was in constant like final flight I felt like but I didn't know why like I was constantly overwhelmed like with everything on a day to day

basis so true I remember this yeah like I wasn't in a relationship where it was like bad I'm I'm not going to say that it was, like, he didn't do anything or say anything necessarily bad. But, like, because my nervous system was obviously so, like, trying to tell me something and so much overdrive, I was so anxious, like, all the time, like, to the point of, like, I was just so overwhelmed by, like, day-to-day things. Like, if I knew I had to film an episode, and, like, this sounds so stupid now, and make time to go for the gym and take the dog for a walk, like, because I knew that I had all these plan set in and then maybe go through drinks with my friend or something, I would like

actually freak out and end up just not leaving the house. Oh my God, I remember this all too well. I forgot like, you haven't had this in ages and I wonder why. No, but like now, looking back, like I'm like, okay, that obviously was my body like telling you something. And my whole, my whole demeanor was different. Oh, 100%. And it's not, and this isn't like shade or anything. It's just like my actual internal, I was obviously like internally trying to tell me something. You were processing the relationship in a very different way and your bodies were just sending you signs. Yeah, but it's crazy also now because now I'm obviously not in a relationship or anything. Like I've had people say to me like, it's so crazy that you're sad or that you were sad because when I saw you after you were glowing.

And that's no shade towards the person. It's just more that like, obviously it was. wasn't working and it had run its cause and then the moment that I like accepted it my body was like you would think it would be the opposite because obviously you feel like shit and you're sad and you're crying and you're la la la that you would think that it would be the opposite I've had it like four times that like different people have said it to me without me saying anything which is crazy because when we first started dating and like I had it the other way like when we first started dating they're like oh my god you're glowing like you look so happy I was like I am yeah I

I was. Yeah, yeah. And it's just funny how you kind of get that when you first start a relationship, and then if it's not working for whatever reason, and it's time to stop, you get it at the end. It's like dips, and then it comes back again after the breakup. It's really interesting how that happens. Yeah.

Because I feel like you think like your glow and your spark is so bright at the start of the relationship, it is 10 times better after. Yeah. It's crazy how your body manages relationships and stuff externally. Yeah. Yeah, and I had the, also, I was looking on TikTok about signs, because obviously we're doing research into different things of, like, what people can relate to. People's hair is a big one. Oh, yeah, my hair loss was at its worst when I was in relationships.

Like, chunks would fall out. I've had, not that I don't think my hair's grown anymore, but, like, I've had people be like, your hair looks really good. I'm like, yes, glossy. Yes. From the inner glow. Yes. Yes. It is crazy. Like, when you're with the person that's not compatible or right for you, your body will tell you signs and it really is up to you to recognize them and do something about it.

Hang on, let's stop just for a sec. Subscribe and follow the breakup diet. You don't want to miss another episode. Okay, how do you know what is actually like a sign and what's something that maybe you're insecure about? You know, because, like, I feel like that could be confusing for people. Like, sometimes you're like, my stomach really hurts, but, like, I'm insecure about, you know what I mean, like, not you projecting your own insecurities and taking that as a sign? How do you, like, make sure that it's not? That's a really complex one, I can't lie. I feel like my insecurities in relationships would stem because of the partner. They would say something really mean, and that would just brew

and brew, and I guess my body would react eventually. This might be, like, a bit, like, touchy, But say they were said something about, I don't know, your hair, okay? And you, like, you obviously have a very nice hair and everything, but say you were insecure about your hair. How do you not know that, like, you losing hair after was because of a sign? And say your sign was that you were losing hair and your hair wasn't looking good and all this. Maybe what he said, like, put my body into so much stress and override, like,

overdrive that I've reacted that way. Okay, fair. It's very, like, it's hard. Yeah, it's hard to know whether you have to be very honest, I feel. I think so too. You have to also with signs and your body reacting in a specific way, like you have to also be realistic about it and be like, okay, that might have just been the flu.

I also was so sick all the time. How many times did I get sick? Yeah, they mess up your immune system if they're not right for you. Yeah, it's nuts. Like there are signs now looking back that you can like align with. But when you're in it, it's actually really hard to be... It's so hard to put two and two together because with, like, my divorce,

I had the worst, like, strash-shrash. I've never seen a stress-stress before in my life. I didn't even know what it was. It would just, like, come out of nowhere, even though I'd be like, oh, I'm actually having a really good day. It's hard because, like, mentally, you may be thinking one thing. Physically, your body's telling you a completely different story. Yeah.

I've talked about it with my therapist, and then she's basically saying that maybe you haven't really, really, like, dug deep enough into what you're going through. And I'm like, oh, my God, okay, let's go through all this issue one more time. Wind it back. Genuinely, like, let's revisit it. Okay, there's a new layer of uncovered. Okay, hopefully I won't re-app like this anymore.

Have you ever had a stretch rash sense? Like, normally, yeah. Yes, but I think, yeah, it was because I was moving flats. Okay, fair, for that. Yeah. That is also very stressful. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, also your body, like, people have different reactions to stress, obviously, too.

Like, I don't get necessarily rashes, I don't think. Mine's more I just get very, very overwhelmed in, like, mundane things. I think that's the thing about gut feelings. They're very unique to you. And the reason why sometimes we can be so dismissive about our gut feelings is because we're like, oh, but it hasn't happened to this person, and they went through the exact same thing that I've gone through. Like, our breakups were exactly the same, but she didn't go through that. Yeah. Yeah, and I also think it's hard because it's not necessarily talked about as much, like, the way that your body reacts.

Like, whereas, like, people can talk about a situation and, like, the actions of a situation, but, like, a feeling, like, feelings and, like... They can talk about the mental element. Like, we always talk about, or you get a bit depressed after a breakup, you cry and stuff, but the excess stuff, the physical stuff. Yeah. I definitely think that you need to, like, sit down and acknowledge. and hold each unique situation to itself, as opposed to comparing it with other people. Also, another point I want to make is that just because you had some reaction one time, I don't necessarily mean you're going to have the same reaction the next time. Like, the next time, maybe there might be some things that are the same,

but your body might react in a different way, so it's also really hard to tell. Because it's just so unique and complex, but... Yeah, honestly, you just have to be honest. about it and if there's like I don't think you can have a breakup just purely on your feeling like your emotion not your emotional your physical reaction to it I feel like you have to piece the puzzle together and you have to like actually stuff that actually like if you're not feeling good leave yeah but then it's hard to not blame it on something else being like oh it's winter so I'm getting loads of cold oh I've always got a headache when I'm around him because he's giving

me a headache, but, like, it's not actually, you know what I mean? Like, that deep. Yeah, I think, yeah, that's when, like, I guess possibly for me, that's when therapy came into play and that's made me, like, be more assertive with whatever I'm going through. So with my second breakup, I knew there was something coming my way. I knew he was going to break up with me because my gut was telling me, like, my instincts were telling me. And I told my therapist, I was like, okay, his behavior is completely changed. My body's reacting in some type of way. I've got really. bad stomach cramps. Every time I see him now, what do you think it is? And she's like,

I think you know exactly what it is. Can you say it? And I'm like, I think the relationship over. She's like, yeah, that's what your body's telling you. I had that with my breakup, actually. So when I was going through my breakup before, like, I'm talking like 20 minutes before, I said it. I said it to my friend. I was like, I feel like he's coming to break up with me. I don't know why. and I just said it. A woman's intuition is so flipping powerful. We need to like, we need to actually listen to ourselves.

But the thing is, that's not the first time I had said it, too. So I kind of already had that thought, which is also another thing, like, if you're even having that thought, then surely something is going to go wrong a bit too. Yeah, if you're with the right person, you would never have thoughts like this.

Yeah. Like, I just thought, I don't know, I just had a feeling, and then it happened, was like, ugh. And also, you know what we should talk about is dreams, like having dreams of not necessarily like them breaking up with you or you breaking up with them, but you can have dreams about random weird stuff that's like so vivid. And I think that's like, you're subconscious, obviously telling you like, trying to tell you something. I would have really bizarre nightmares where my ex would leave me at the shops. And I'd be like, come back,

come back, come back. And I'd just like wake up like my back all sweating. I'm I'm like, what the hell? I actually would love to know what dreams really mean, because you always have these things of, like, what happened. Like, I had a dream, which is, like, I've never cheated, and I will never cheat. Like, it's just for me, I mean, I can't say that, actually, to be fair. You can't say you're never going to do something until you're in a situation. Because, like, that is something also that I've learned when I've got older.

I don't like cheating at all. And, like, for me, at this moment in time, I would say I would never do it. But as I've got older, you realize that people do things a certain way because it's... And they're not necessarily bad people. They're not like, they're not doing it. You know what I mean? Like, I think there's so much depth to things and people like make it so black or white all the time.

Whereas like, just because you treat you're a bad person doesn't necessarily mean you're a bad person. Like, there's so many more things that go into that. Like, maybe not all the time. like maybe not if you're like a horny boy that's like I don't know like just not a good egg but I feel like a lot of the time there's layers to a lot of people's actions we can't really um judge too quick yeah I feel like with people in general nowadays they're very like quick to respond to things and quick to be like rah like oh once a cheater always a cheetah well actually they could go to therapy they could you know fix the root of the issue like

I mean, I feel like a lot of the time that is true when you do cheap, but then also, but then also, if they want to change and want to do better, really, you can. Exactly. Like, it's a choice. A hundred percent. And I get, like, there's different situations where, like, it's more difficult to make the right choice, like, under the influence of, like, alcohol and all this sort of stuff.

Like, those all cloud people's judgments. So, like, then there's also that layer, too. it's just a very complex isn't it yeah but yeah i would have dreams of like i don't know like someone cheating which is wild like and i was like that's so weird because why would i ever have that dream because i would never cheat and i don't believe he would ever cheat you know what i mean yeah but maybe it was just like maybe because i have such strong feelings on it it was my like body subconsciously telling me like you need to get out or like it's going to end yeah I agree humans are such intelligent people like our

intuition yeah like what do you think about when people say about butterflies when you first meet someone and all this sort of thing what's your feelings on that like an actual butterfly no like you get butterflies in your stomach like you're like nervous because I don't know because everybody is the butterflies are you nervous yeah but everybody says like online that that's like a tale of being like bad. Yeah, it could be, or your body's prepping for it to be really chaotic. Yeah, but I don't, I don't know if I agree. Why? Because, before, because I didn't go on dates with that many people or, um, like, because I was, like, nervous around boys. Like, I would always get nervous around boys. It could be that. Like, the first dates, I'd feel like butterflies, but it's literally because I don't know this

person, my body's telling me to, like, calm down. I think that's what it is. Yeah, and also, especially if you haven't been on a date in a while and then you go on one and it's the first person since, like, you're going to be a bit like, oh, I hope he likes me, like, oh, I hope it goes well. I hope it isn't awkward. Like, I feel like, then surely that could be the butterflies, too. Yeah, I think maybe it's just nerves and not butterflies. Yeah. Yeah. I feel like you can make it make sense after if, if you wanted to, but I'm like, is it or is it just like? I just don't think these butterflies exist. Yeah.

You've never had butterflies on a date? Yeah, but it's just like nerves because it's like I'm meeting a new person for the first time ever. Yeah. I don't know this person. It's like my body kind of keeping me guard. Yeah. It is funny about having like a glow and stuff, isn't it? I always find that so interesting how people kind of can feel it around you.

I feel like I'm quite different now. Yeah, 100%. 100%. And that's just like, that's obviously because internally I was having different thoughts and like I was trying to figure stuff out. You carry yourself a lot more differently when you're in the relationship. That's not it for you compared to you being single and at peace with your reality. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's so weird though. Like it's weird how you think that you can go through stuff like by yourself and like be figuring out by yourself and kind of projecting that you're okay, but then people that are really close to you or a lot of the time

they see the cracks. I think that's so interesting without even saying anything. I agree. Like, that's wild. Yeah. Also, like, the aura that people give off as well, which is useful when you're going into dating later. For example, when you go into dating later, like, you want to be open and you want to meet people and you want to be, like, yeah, nice. You have to learn how to control that, I think. control the aura? Yeah, I want to be able to control my aura. Fair. You know, like, I want to be able to, like, make sure that when I go into a room that I'm giving off good vibes all the time. Yes, I agree. I agree. No matter what I'm going through internally. I agree. It's like

a superpower skill to have. Yeah, it does feel like a superpower, doesn't it? It's like, um, force-filled. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. It's crazy. Like, the way the human body works is so fascinating. And when you add, like, a layer of relationships, it's even more fascinating. And also, like, energies. Have you heard about, like, apparently when you go into a room, your mentor, which I've never done, but this, I saw this, you're meant to, like, walk in and pretend you're, like, talking to each corner of the room and, like, bringing it in

because that will make people gravitate towards you. I sound so psycho, but, like... No, that's really fascinating, yeah. And I was like, I just remembered that now, and I was like, I'm going to do that. Yeah. See if I get lots of people flop to me. Of course.

Like, the second you're approachable, people will, approach you. Yeah. This is also like another energy thing. We're going into energies, but I love it. Yeah, it's interesting. It's all linked, though. Yeah, it's all linked. Is when you think about someone and then you run into them. What is that? Because you know when you're going through a breakup, okay, right? And the first stages, probably a lot of the time you want to run into them. And you're thinking about them all the time, but then you don't run into them. And then you might, like, months, years later down the line, you have a thought that day and you're like, oh I wonder how he is and then bang that night you run into them it's crazy how the world works

is that not so weird too so weird I was at an event a few weeks ago and I'm like I just have a feeling my ex is here I didn't see him but then like the next day my friend like she sent me a screenshot being like oh babe he was there and I'm like that is crazy it just gave me goosebumps right because I legit I'm like guys I just know he's here like oh my god I'm getting like goosebumps That's so weird. Yeah. Interesting, right? Like God tells you everything.

But then you can just have times, but it doesn't, it's just like you trying to manifest it or something. Yeah, that could be it. But sometimes when it gets a riot, it gets it so flipping right. You've got to be prepared at all the time. Yep. Because you know what? When you get literally like ready to karate chop someone, like, you want to be looking hard. That is my aim.

Oh, babe, 100%. I want to be looking good. Yeah. For knowing my luck, I know it'll be when I'm in, like, my house clothes with, like, this crumbled up Tesco bag, going, doing my food run. Yeah, this is, like, me whenever I'm, like, walk the dog. Just don't look good, right? And then I'm, like, walking.

I see the hottest people, and I'm like, why? And then any... Anytime I'm, like, looking, like, feeling, like, good, I don't see anyone. I'm like... It's, like, tumbleweed across the road. But that's a universe for you. Didn't want me to meet them at the time. Yeah.

That could be it. That could be the universe, like, maybe not today. Or maybe they, like, maybe. The next time I'm looking rough and somebody hits on me, which wouldn't happen. But if they did, then it would be like the universe saying they'd even love you at your worst. Oh, see, isn't the world such a magical place? I mean, this hasn't happened, but this is what I've got to go. But it could. How could it not? It could.

It could happen. Be receptive to it. And then in our, like, wedding speech, it could be said, like, oh, I saw her and I thought she are still beautiful, and I would know, he would know. That's really sweet. Crazy person over here. No, no, no. It's really sweet because it's just nice to have such positive thoughts about it.

You've got to be open to, like, nice stuff like that. Yeah. And if you're going to a breakup and you have a feeling, or if you're not feeling good, and it's not even necessarily you have to have, like, a massive physical reaction. Yeah, like your liver doesn't need to shut down or anything. No, no, no. Like, yeah, like, some people do have big reactions, but then some people just have, like, anxiety or, you know what I mean?

Like amplified anxiety or just... Yeah, what would you do? I say, talk to someone and talk to a good friend as well and be like, this is what's happening, even just to, like, get a bit of it off your chest. I agree, I agree, but the main thing that we've been saying is to be honest with yourself. sometimes the answer is really painfully obvious as much as you want to deny it if it's not right for you

it's just not right for you and you don't want to you don't want to jeopardize your health yeah yeah it's hard though it's really really hard and it's super complex and there's so much thoughts you've got to like think about but ultimately you got to put yourself first your health first your well-being first you're not a bad person for doing that

Yeah, and also if you do end up breaking up, that doesn't necessarily mean that that's the end either. You could even, I mean, I don't necessarily condone going on a break, but like, I mean, it's for some people that works. Yeah, some people who works. I've seen it. I've seen it, too, with, like, friends of friends, and, like, they broke up for, like, a while. They broke up for, like, I think, like a year or something, because they were together a long time, and it just, like, for some reason, wasn't working anymore. They broke up, and then they got back together, and now they're married.

See? like and they're like the happiest they could have ever been because they both like it wasn't working because they both took time apart to sort themselves out which I think is the best thing you can do yeah so it doesn't necessarily always mean like it's the end or it's over yeah obviously we're not trying to sell you like false hopes or anything you've got to be honest and realistic with what's happening to your situation yeah but we've heard of stories yeah and if you get back together you get back together if you don't you don't you know you've got to make the decision for you right now, the present.

Because that's another thing. Like, people always hold on to relationships because of the future, like, the potential. Because of the what if? Yeah. Oh, am I giving up too quickly? Yeah, and the, like, potential of like, yeah, but there's so many qualities.

Whereas, like, you actually have to be present with yourself at the moment. I agree. So that's how we're going to end because you need to just be honest. Yeah, be honest with yourself, acknowledge everything. You've got this.

You'll be okay. Yes.