The Break-Up Diet - The RIGHT Man Won't Make You Feel Bad For Being Yourself. ft. Jemima Rhys

Episode Date: October 21, 2026

Ever dated a man and thought, “He's PERFECT… he just needs to change about 17 things”? 😭🚩Well, babe, we've got some news for you.This week on The Break-Up Diet, fan favourite Jemima Rhys is BACK, and she's officially in her healthy relationship era! 💗After years of dating the wrong men, ignoring red flags and convincing herself that surely he'll change eventually (spoiler: he didn't), Jemima is spilling all the details on what it's actually like to find someone who loves you for YOU.We're talking about the difference between chemistry and compatibility, why you need to STOP trying to fix men, knowing when to walk away, and how to tell if you've finally met your person.Plus, we get into jealous boyfriends, men who make snarky comments about your lifestyle, why having things in common matters more than you think, and Jemima's VERY cute story of how she met her new boyfriend in Costa Rica. 🌴💋Because liking the same food isn't a personality match, babe. We all need to eat. 😭And the biggest lesson? The right man won't make you feel like you're too much. He'll actually LIKE you exactly as you are.So grab a wine, get comfy and join us for a proper girls' debrief about bad dating decisions, finally raising your standards and finding a love that doesn't feel like a full-time renovation project. 🥂💕 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

They say opposites a track, but I do think when I look back at me and my exes, I didn't have that much in common. I used to be like, yeah, we love food. You need food to fucking eat. Survive, sorry. You need food to survive, right? That's not something you have in common. Okay, maybe like the same type of cuisine or the same kind of chef.

Yeah, you know what mine was? You want to know what my was? Go on. The same, like, genre of movies. Buckle up, bitches. It's going to get bumpy. This is the breakup diet. Welcome back to another episode of The Breakup Diet.

we have Mimi back again. I'm back. Again. We love having you on. Yay. And the people's love having you on. Apparently I'm a fan favorite. You are.

All my ex-boyfriends and all their new girlfriends and wives watching. So. Kind. Not even that. You know, somebody said, commented on one of the videos, Mimi seems like a very wise soul. Do you hear that to all my fans, all my people? I was like a wise soul. I don't know if she's ever been described as such a thing.

You know what I'm going to take it. So cheers to you, motherfucker. Yeah, exactly. So wise. Because you're such a wise person and now in a healthy relationship, I want to ask you what's different about this one. You know what? I think it's, you can't change someone. And all the relationships I've been in, I've always wanted. to help and not change them, but like try and get them into a better place, or I've been like the fixer of like trying to like help them out of a funk or whatever they're going through. And vice versa, like men have like tried to change me and as I'm quite a unique type of person. So I think, you know, I'm, there's no trying to change each other. We're just like we are happy and we like each other as human beings and we're not trying to

change one another. I mean, maybe you advise and try and make, you want to, like, help them be the best version of themselves, but you're not trying to change them or tell them what to do or control them or, you know, you have to do this or you do that. Maybe, like, house stuff, like, can you take the bins out, like small things? But you don't try and, you know, tell them how to behave or what to do or how to act. I think we just like each other.

And we met, I wouldn't say we were friends before because I didn't really know him, but we hung out together enough to kind of get to know each other like on a normal level that we were like, okay, like you've seen my crazy, I've seen your crazy, I've seen you. You kind of were quite honest at the start, weren't you? Like as in because you were friends, kind of. Like you weren't friends for long, but you were friends. So like when you first met him, okay, disclosure, you were seeing somebody else and then you know what I mean?

So like, and you were kind of in a weird situation ship that had just ended, but you weren't sure if it had ended properly, probably. So I think he knew a lot straight away, but then he was like, no, I actually like you. It's so funny because I confided in him. Like he was coming out of like a nine year relationship and I was coming out. I obviously was with someone for three years and then I had a year of kind of dating and it was fun. And it was a bit of a roller coaster because. Was it fun?

I had fun moments. But you had fun moments. Terrible men. I chose some right wrong ones. It was just a year of, I think, figuring out what I want, what I don't want. I had a lot of fun, but I had some big highs and big lows last year. Yeah. And I also, I'd come off birth control, which I definitely think made such a difference in the way I was as a person.

Like, my emotions were on the pill was like, I was super happy, super sad. And then coming off the pill, I was kind of figuring out who I was after 15 years of being on the pill and just kind of being a bit more normal. Obviously, the pill, I don't think it's like to be blamed that I was. was a complete, like, different person on it, but I definitely noticed, like, I was either really, really happy or really, really sad. There was no, like, in between. I wasn't just, like, mellow cruising. So, I found coming off it and being, like, single for a year, and obviously they say, when you come off the pill, you're not attracted to the person you're with,

I don't think I was not attracted to my long-term partner, but it made me kind of realize this relationship isn't right for me anymore. Like, I need to walk away, and it was really hard. So last year was just a year of me figuring out what I want when I don't want. And I very quickly wasn't going to waste my time. So before, as me, as you've known me for a long time, I would kind of stick it out and be like, it's going to get better. It's going to get better. It doesn't get better. Like, it doesn't. And you keep hoping and hoping and praying. You love this person. He'll change. He'll do this. He'll do that. He does not. So I just kind of was much more cut through it. And the minute I saw a red flag where I didn't like something, I was like, right, I'm out, done.

but cut, never speak to you again. And that was challenging. And so I hop into things, I think, quite quickly. For me to get over someone, it's easier to kind of get under another person. Yeah. And I don't ever advise doing that, but it works for me in the sense that I don't then think about that past person. Yeah, I think you spiral otherwise.

I spiral and I need to have someone there to talk to, which isn't necessarily. the right thing to do. But I think when I broke up after my long term, three-year relationship, I was single for like a few months. I was talking to people and I had fun with that, but it wasn't anything like super serious. Yeah, and then I,

there was a situation with the guy that I was friends with at school for a long time and it was, it's a shame because we were friends, but he actually behaved not great towards the end. And then I met James on holiday and I actually spoke to him about the situation and he kind of gave me really good advice and was very honest with me and said, you know, I need to understand. He wanted to get to know me and he really understood

me for like the first week of the holiday. I don't know. He was very straight. Like this is what I want with someone one day and we kind of had all these open discussions about what do you want in your next partner. Like we were kind of went in his friends and we're just talking about exes and relationships and he made it very clear what he was looking for and what he wanted. And weirdly enough, it was kind of everything I ever wanted and which is why it was just really weird. And we were both very honest going in. And I do think I always say to people like, just be straight up, be like, you know, be very specific, which is what the whole idea of manifesting is being very specific on what you, what I always say Pacific, like in the ocean Pacific. And it's so

Pacific. Can't say it now. Specific. Anyway. Anyway. It doesn't actually problems. I always say be very specific on what you want because if you're not and you don't have that conversation very early on and then six months down the line, someone wants kids, someone doesn't want children, someone wants you to convert to a religion, you don't want to do that. You need to have those conversations very, you know who actually is really good at manifesting, but like it hasn't worked because she hasn't been specific. Who?

Alex. Every single time she says she wants some sort of guy and then pop, they pop up. Yeah, so she like, she would. Manifest a certain type of person and they would come into her life, like, literally like that. No, no joke, but actually. Literally like she... There's like three. Oh yeah, like spot on to the T of what she wanted.

And then she was like, nah, six months in, three months and she'd be like, no. No, actually, I don't want that time of boy. I want it international. No, no. Yeah, yeah. Tall Jewish one. Didn't want that. No.

But she did. It's true. No, no. It's quiet and more quiet and like, you know what I mean? Because she had like the cheeky, chaffy vise. And then it was like, more quiet. And then she's like, no, I don't want that. when a quiet guy.

But she did manifest them all. It's so funny. I don't know. I think we're at an age now where when you're in your 18, 20, early 20s, I give a fuck about this stuff. When you're like hitting late 20s, early 30s, we're at an age where I wouldn't classify myself as late 20s yet. Yeah, I don't like to, but we are.

I'm 26. Yeah, I'm a year older than you. So doesn't count. 27's different. 27 is different. But I also. do think you've got to be super like up front because also you get to a point where you like I don't want to keep fucking around I don't want to get fucked over like I don't know waste my time and my energy

investing in someone else buying them a birthday present shit's expensive these days I don't want to spend a single cent on someone if I don't think this is going to last I'm not going to spend 400 500 pounds on a nice present for someone and then what a week later they like that's it bye no see I have a I have a different view like as in I'm not that that's doesn't worry me too much. It's more my actual, like, emotional stress that comes from dating the wrong person. That freaks me out way more than any other thing.

No, because I think it's a lesson. Like, every person you date, I think you learn something from each single person. I've dated some fucking interesting people in my life. But I will say that every single person I've dated has taught me something so special. Yeah, obviously. Not special.

That's the wrong word. No, has taught you something, a lesson. Sometimes a great restaurant. sometimes great clothing brands. What were we talking about? What's healthy about me and James now? Yeah. And did you know from the moment you met him, did you think?

Like, as in, I know maybe you didn't think like, oh, or, but where you like, this feels different. So funny, because he tried to kiss me on New Year's and I freaked out and I was like, oh my God. Like, oh, I'm going away from me. I'm scared. I'm like, ah, man. And that's not like you at all. I know. But I was too sober and like, I don't know.

There was something different about him. Like we just got on so well. We were surfing every day, like two, three hours every morning together. We just became like, I mean, we were on holiday for like two and a half weeks together. And we just became like kind of silly best friends. And we just got on and we were constantly together just me and him doing like fun, cute things during the day. And so I got to really know him. And he opened up to me about things and he's like, I've never told anyone any of these things before.

And we really just had so much in common. And I think the one thing he said to me was, There's this restaurant he'd always wanted to go to and his ex refused. It's when you get served by blind people, so you get walked in, like, in the pitch black. And I swear down, like, you don't have a blindfold. You get led into a pitch black room and you have your arm on a blind man walking in, and they show you how to sit and eat. And you have to try and eat a full meal in the pitch black and you don't know what you're eating.

So the whole point is you have to try and guess what you eat at the end of the meal. Did you go to it? Yeah, it's like the coolest thing. like food was actually pretty okay. But they can't serve you like, I don't know, pigs, balls or something. No, no, no, no, no. You get the choice between three menus.

You have, like, meat, like, vegetarian or vegan. No, they don't tell you what it is because they want you to guess. It's nothing crazy or we just like kind of. Okay, okay. It's not like, celebrity going out of here and they're eating like crickets. No, no, no. It's like you get like steak, mashed potatoes and broccoli or something. For quite simple food. It's called, in the French, in the French,

in the dark, La Don Noir or something. And he said, I've always wanted to go. And we watched it in this movie and my act refused. And I said, oh my God. It's the movie with the Ginger Guy and the Mean Girls Lady. Lindy Lohan? No, no, the other one. Regina George.

Okay. But that actress, Rachel McAdams. She's in the movie. Anyway, so he's like, I said, I know the film you're talking about. It's one of my favorite movies. And I've always wanted to go there too. he's like shut the fuck up and I said my ex wouldn't go with me either so we were both sad they're like this is just so weird we have so much in common we just got on so well and there all these things

we wanted to do and explore and try and I was like oh my god I was like have I met my person like there were moments where all the things he wanted to do he got shut down for and all the things I wanted to do he got shut that I got shut down for so we were both sad they're like oh my god I was like maybe he is my person I don't know ever have any doubt like when you were first at the beginning. Did you have texts and then you were like, oh my God, did you ever feel like anxiety if you didn't reply? Was it anything like that? We got on really well and obviously it was like, we were like a house on fire. Like it was just like boom, boom, boom. And then suddenly it got to New years and we were chatting and obviously I said to him like, I can't do this because I don't know

your intentions and I said the next person I'm with, I need to make sure. I'm, you know, I need to make sure that I'm like with them properly because I get like my feelings get hurt quite quickly. I get attached very quickly and I said that that is just me. So if anything were to happen between us, I don't want to like get upset or hurt and then I get weird where like I cannot see that person ever again. And I said like we have a mutual friendship group. I don't want it to be where something happens between us and then we don't speak ever again and then I'm heartbroken and I never speak to you again because then we can't do these trips again and yeah yeah it's better to stay friends if nothing's going to happen and so he's like well i live in amsterdam so how could this

don't even work and i said okay cool that's your response fair enough let's leave it that's let's let's call this quits then nothing's happening and about two and a half hours later he came up to me and was like super random but like i have tickets to the theatre in two weeks in london do you like the theater. I was like, I love the theatre. I love, you know, all these kind of fun things, like activities. And I was like, okay. Yeah, I'd love to. He's like, are you in London? I'm like, well, I live there. So, yeah. And, um, and I smiled and I was like, that's cute. And then I went to one of my friends and I said, that's really weird. He, um, said he's, um, said he's tickets to the theatre and, like, wants to see me in London in two weeks. And she said,

that's a full lie. He does not have tickets to the theatre. He's just saying that because he wants to take on a day and see me. How do you, how did she know? Because I think, He must have said to her. I think he said something to her or he said, I think he'd said to her like, there's some, it's too good to be true. And he was like, realistically, he lived in Amsterdam at the time. And I was living in London. And he was like, how the fuck is it's going to work long distance?

And like, I don't want to do that. But I think for him, he was like, I didn't want to date another international girl. He wanted to date an English girl. But he was never going to find that in Amsterdam because there's not a huge amount of English people living there. So I think he realized someone like me will get snatched up very quickly. just saying and yeah so I think he didn't want to miss this opportunity

and he suddenly realized like if I don't give this to go then this could be it between us sort of thing so yeah he changed his mind and he came to London for the day came to London not for the day

he date yes well no so on the holiday we like completely fell in love and I just I've just I was I hit a new level of happiness of him

and we just, we were like best friends hanging out every day and we just fell in love in Costa Rica. Like, I've never had a love connection like that with another human being. And then we came back and it was like we could not put our phones down. Calling, face-timing, chatting all day, every day. And then two weeks later, he got a hotel and we just had, we went to roof gardens and had fun with like all our mutual friends and we were just hanging out. And then I flew out to Amsterdam. he got some bad news that his one of his family members was quite sick and I flew out to see him

and he was like, I've never had anyone do this and his apartment's so sick. Sorry, but I know that shouldn't, but like if a man is like a sexy matter that also like has like a sexy apartment as well, I'm like, oh, it's giving, it's giving like boss energy. Such good taste. That says rarity. Like actually like that's what I mean. You have to be cool too. Did you ever have a point where you weren't sure if he was like actually being legit?

You know what I mean? Because like I feel like I've been in when I've been in situationships or something. Yes and no. But I think the way he was with his ex really made me, he was, he's such a nice, kind guy and he really cared for her. And they still speak, they're still friendly and it doesn't bother me. Like I'm not a jealous kind of person. I never really have been.

But they're on good terms and they're very, and you know, she's, sounds like a really sweet, nice girl, but they just weren't suited for each other. And I do, the way he spoke about her, he was always very high about her, like, high about her, like, spoke very highly of her. And he, like, really cared for her in a way, you know, when you're always someone for nine years, you know, sometimes it doesn't work out, but doesn't mean you hate the person. It can be hard when you first year that you break up, if you've been together so long, like, just because it's, like, it's weird, yeah. Living on your own all of a sudden. And I, and separating, like, all of a sudden. And I, and separating, like,

all these habits of even talking to that person. I think because he hit an age where like a lot of his friends are settling down getting married, having kids. And I think it made me, I don't know, he just, he was like, there was no, like, there was no rules with him. He was just quite easy and he went with the flow and he was just, he was just so, he was sweet and kind about everyone. He never really has a bad word to say about anyone unless they're like,

mass murder or like a terrible person. Yeah, yeah. But he's always just, he was a really nice, kind, positive man. And I saw that. Different to your exes. Very different to my exes. Whenever I had a worry or a concern, he would just be like, he would just be like very much like, it is what it is.

Like, we'll find the solution. Like, he was just very, stop worrying. Like, why do you care? Like, it's not that deep. You know, he just reassured me on like small things. And things that matter to you. Yeah. And like, he didn't make you feel.

feel stupid for the matter. No, and like sometimes I'm not the bride as cooking out there, but he can't bake a cake for shit. Like if he tried to cut, he cooked for me once. Oh my God. So you compliment. You're like, yes, he tried. But what he's strong at, I'm shit at. And what I'm great at, he's shit at. There we go. So we compliment each other. So I do really think those things helps. We're very similar in so many ways, but we're very different in different ways. They say opposites to track, but I do think when I look back at me and my exes, I didn't have that much in common. I used to be like, yeah, we love food.

You need food to fucking eat, survive, sorry. You need food to survive, right? That's not something you have in common. Okay, maybe like the same type of cuisine or the same kind of chef. Yeah, you know what mine was? You want to know what my was? Go on.

The same, like, genre of movies. Yeah, but what was the genre? Oh, action. Rom-com action. Oh, my God. Like spy movies and stuff? To be fair, whenever I see a spy movie, now I'm like, I know who will want to see that one?

Yeah, but like everyone likes this kind of films, no? I don't know if everybody does. I'm going to say, 80% loves the good. Oh, yeah, well, that was our thing. We like those. Yeah, okay. No, okay. Yeah, but to me, well, I'm looking at like three of my exes,

and it was like food, we were foodies, and I just stuck my food. I think a massive thing that people underestimate is you have to like, like doing the same stuff and also how you spend money is a massive one. Like, because everybody, Everybody's spent money in different ways, right? And enjoy spending it in different ways. Whether it be good or bad, I'm not talking even about the amounts. But like, say you really like trying restaurants,

and your partner doesn't like to do that at all, only likes to spend it on clothes, and you don't match as well. So true, and it's funny because I am someone, instead of buying me a handbag, right? I would rather go and do, like, this Michelin Star experience dinner. And we'll have, like, eight-course dinner. it is my idea of heaven.

I'd rather that over a handbag. I'm being 100% serious on that. I would rather like going away with my boyfriend somewhere. We do that too though. Yeah, but I'd rather go away with my boyfriend than get a handbag. But dinner, like as in I would, I like to go, I want to go to a nice place for dinner,

but I don't care about sitting there for eight courses having a nibble. Oh, no, no. I love it. And so does James. We both like, we found that in common with each other. Yeah. And so me and him, like I'm like,

I don't need a present. just like take me into like we because it's a whole evening and then I we have a new thing that we get the chef to sign the menu. Yeah, it's really cute. And then I'm going to frame them all and like hang them in the kitchen. That's really cute. So we can like talk about all of our travels and all the chefs we've like been to and stuff. I love it. So we have so much in common in that way. And I do think money is a massive topic because it is a taboo conversation but like you need to kind of be on the same wavelength with someone and or kind of want to be able to understand that person's lifestyle. Yeah. I've had it in the past where like I've dated people and they like have been a bit

hateful on my lifestyle or my friendships lifestyles and I you can't I don't know like they made comments about like oh your friends live a ridiculous life and I'm like what has that got to do with me and it was like well I can't live up to the way you live or the way that you like you have tasted in this ridiculous life. It's giving small dick energy that is getting small dick energy. So I I don't know. It was weird. And so I think you need to be with someone who kind of understands the way you live and isn't going to become bitter or jealous. And I've got a few friends that recently have spoken about dating men who they get, I don't know, they get a bit sour about, you know, the way they've been raised or they've been brought up. And it's hard. It's hard.

And they kind of go, well, I can't ever compete because you lived a certain type of way. And I, personally, that should give you more inspiration to, like, work a little bit harder. if you want, like maybe you want, you should have enjoy that lifestyle too, but like, you can't hate on someone. But I mean, yeah, I mean, if somebody's making comments like that at the end of the day, just like, you obviously are a bit resentful, so then work out of, but also, or if you don't want to do that, then just don't make a comment. You know, some people are too vocal, actually. If what you're saying is hurtful or not going to add to any sort of situation in a positive way, then just shut up. But there's always going to be someone out there that has more than you,

that's prettier than you, that's this or that and has this and has that. You know, I just think life isn't all about that. And if you're looking at those things and you're just, you're getting life wrong. And if someone's got more than you, you're dating them, that should be like, you should endure it too with them. It shouldn't be a negative, you know, oh, well, you've got this or you've got that. It shouldn't be that ever. And I've dated people where it was the comments of, oh, nice for Sam,

she's on holiday again or she's doing this again. I'm like, well, hold on, like, you could go on holiday too. Like, you know, you don't, like, it's not, it's not like, why, why are you giving me a long time? Yeah, why are you even saying it? Well, it shouldn't be a, it shouldn't even be a conversation. Like, I also want the best people, like, I want people around me to be happy and like, just, you be on the same financial level as someone or like, semi on it.

Or just, like, not be. Bitter about it. Yeah. Or don't date someone that's, like, out of your league if you're going to become bitter about it. Because if you are going to comment, or, you know, you've lived a certain type of lifestyle, like, you know, I can't keep up with that. Well, no one's asking you to, but you don't need to be mean about it. But it is, it is hard.

But it is funny, isn't it? This is the last thing I'm going to say on this. But it's like, it is funny because the people that make those comments are often the ones that are like, then also saying about how, like, some girls gold diggers and all this. Like, I'm thinking about a specific person into my head, and they're like, they'll be very bitter. Oh, yeah. You know, right?

and he would be quite bitter about that sort of stuff, or make comments, but then also say about how some girls like gold diggers, all this, like all that. But I'm like, you know what I mean? Like,

you obviously, I don't think comment. I don't, I just, don't say anything. Yeah, because it says a lot about you. If you're commenting around people's life,

and that girl just might be like a girl. Be happy for people. Like, you also don't know. Everyone lives a very different 24 hours. Everyone has different family. is everyone has grown up very differently. And just because someone is on holiday the whole time

doesn't mean they're like super happy, doesn't mean they're... And also it doesn't just mean if somebody's on holiday or the time that if they're a female guy's automatically paying for it. Yeah, because people do assume that. They're like, where's it coming from? Yeah, straight up, straight up. Their real father might be paying for it. Yeah.

Not a fucking sugar daddy. Just saying. Or they might be paying for themselves. They might even have a great job. Or they might be an influencer and get the bunch for free. Or they might be able to work from home. Yeah. Remote.

Remote. That's the word I was looking for. So you don't know, but I just don't think anyone should comment on anyone. You should be happy for people. You should want people to be happy. You should want your friends and your partner to be living their best life.

And then, I don't know. And then if someone is commenting or being negative, don't get me wrong. I remember saying to you, can you tone it down with the stories? That one time, that's because it was lockdown. I was really depressed.

But apart from that, when I see you on holiday, I'm like, you look so hot. Yeah, bitch, work it. But you know what I mean? I would never be, like, resentful that you're on holiday. I think that's ridiculous. And there are, I've dated quite a few men that have been like that and have commented on that.

And who have made negative comments towards that, which I just don't agree with. I think that should give you motivation to be more successful and work harder. Or if you don't want, yeah, if you don't want that life, just like, shut up. Or date someone that isn't out of your league. That's a moral of this story. Date somebody that isn't out of your league. Yeah, you can treat them and they don't need to treat himself because if that's the way you look at life, then yeah, I don't know. Be like, to be like straight about it, if you're going to get bitter and like negative about it, then don't.

Yeah, then don't. Then stay in your lane. Stay in your lane. Like, if that's you. If you don't like watching your partner fuck off on holiday the whole time, then don't date someone like that. Yeah. Don't make them feel bad for that. Yeah.

Because I did, I remember, like, we were, we were on our wonderful friends boat in Italy. And he made these comments at me like, well, I wanted to take you there. Like, it's so annoying. And now you've done it just so ridiculously. I can't ever do that. And I'm like, so you're annoyed the fact that my friend has taken me to Italy first to Capri. And you did, like, are you actually annoyed? Like, what is this argument we're having?

Yeah. It was just, it was crazy. And so, yeah, I don't know. It was just, there's small things, which is why I think you need to be like on a similar wavelength. and similar vibe to someone so that like you don't have those comments because it made me feel guilty and then I was like maybe I shouldn't be there or maybe I should be. Yeah and then also you don't you stop going to things because you think like you also you start because those little comments

do get to you even if you try and not let them and you know they're stupid they do get to you so you stop doing things and you become like a bit of a show of yourself yeah yeah and like that's why with James he's like I'm like oh my god so like I've got like three weddings coming up and obviously me and him are very early days. He wasn't included in the invite because obviously he's the invite came up prior to me meeting him and I get weddings are super expensive so I don't expect him to be invited to any of them but he's like oh my god amazing what are you going to wear and he's so like happy for me he's like you look beautiful face-time me before you go whilst previous people I've dated have always been like you know don't do this don't drink too

much don't embarrass me or don't embarrass yourself like they've They've always had comments. Don't embarrass me. That's wild. Yeah, I've had that a lot. That's some wild, I think. Don't embarrass me. You're not even there, and you're not even a part of it.

I know. And so it's funny. And, like, there was always a negative comment. And, like, I always felt like, I send like a really cute message. Like, I really miss you. And it was always like, yeah, I hope you're having good night. Like, just abitter the fact that they weren't included was. James is super chilled.

He's like, I get it. Like, I haven't met any of them. I'm new in your life. I've had a few boyfriends as well. So people really don't want to include him. in case they don't loss. But yeah, I just, you know, he's so happy for me. And he's like, oh my God, it looks so fun.

And then I can call him midnight drunk as a skunk and be like, oh my God, I fell over. And like, did a really pony on the last one. He's like, fantastic. Send me a video. Like he's just, he's just supportive. He's happy for me. And I'm vice versa. Like, I'm happy for him.

And that's how it should be. There's no negativity of someone sending like bitchy messages. You can't always be invited to everything. And I think you should be happy for someone if they like, if your partner goes and does something, you know. Live your best life. And he may make a joke here and then I'd be like, oh, like, sometimes I go for work lunches and I'm like getting hammered on like a Monday.

And he's like, oh, fun for some. And like obviously, but he's joking and it's not bitchy comment. No, it's different. It's different. But I've had it before where like people just made like passive aggressive bitchy comments at me. And I would be like, oh okay it's work yeah i don't mean to get drunk on monday i'm sorry

yeah yeah i get you but i like getting drunk on monday i like getting drunk all the time anyway i think we need i think that's a good way to end the thing before she gets too drunk on the episode