The Break-Up Diet - The Ultimate Glow-Up Guide: Level Up Your Life in 2025

Episode Date: January 2, 2025

Embark on a journey of transformation as we kick off the Breakup Diet podcast, promising you the tools to shed old habits and embrace a vibrant new year. Imagine leaving the baggage of 2024 behind and stepping into 2025 with a renewed sense of purpose and clarity. Join us as we explore the power of setting specific goals rather than vague New Year's resolutions, and learn why mental health is the crucial first step to any glow-up. Personal stories will unfold, revealing how therapy and even ChatGPT have become affordable allies in breaking down daunting goals into achievable steps. Discover the liberation that comes from reprogramming negative thoughts, shedding societal expectations, and conducting a much-needed social media cleanse.The road to a complete glow-up isn't just mental—it's physical too. Step into a world where exercise routines and skincare regimes aren't just tasks but transformative experiences that enhance your entire being. Whether you're switching from high-intensity workouts to something more grounding like barre or Pilates, or finding the magic in a simple vitamin C serum, we'll guide you through achieving consistent physical health that naturally promotes mental clarity. Embrace the independence that comes with physical strength and discover how aligning your personal style with an understanding of your body type can lead to a remarkable physical glow.Finally, let's delve into the realms of career and financial growth. 2025 is your year to establish personal boundaries, seize new opportunities, and explore side hustles that ignite your passions. Gain insights into making financial strides through job hopping, setting standards in relationships, and rewarding yourself for hard work. We humorously tackle the age-old debate of financial responsibility versus enjoying life's small pleasures, illustrating how you can balance both. Join us as we prepare to embark on a year of self-improvement, leaving youthful excuses behind, and embracing a wiser, financially savvy future.Send us a textInstagram:@the_breakup_dietTikTok:@thebreakupdietEmail: [e-mail]

Welcome guys, welcome back to another episode of The Breakup Diet and today we're going to give you the best tip of all. We're going to give you the ultimate guide to glow up and leave 2024 where it was and you're going into 25 better than ever. Now is the perfect time to just wipe your slate blank and start fresh. The past is in the past, you can't get shit from the past it's time to focus on the now focus on the future buckle up bitches it's gonna get bumpy this is the breakup diet i think we should do like a guide for for the peoples you know so we go instead of like new year's resolutions because i feel like they can be quite just generic and they're not that meaningful sometimes or for me i'm like oh i want to do better at in my career this year or oh i want to find a man or oh i want

to you know what i mean are you the same or you, I feel like you would be quite specific. Yeah, my goals are very specific at the start of the year. And like, I make them attainable and not too broad to the point that I can definitely tick it off. Yeah, that's my problem. I make them too like lavish. And then I'm like, shit, I didn't do any of that. Let's categorize them up. Yeah. Number one, let's focus on mental health yeah yeah to be fair

if your mental health isn't clear and you're not you know you're messy up there then you're not gonna glow from the outside because it all starts within it really starts from just cleansing the mind what's one way for us to just cleanse our mind? Well, you could talk about therapy because you've done a lot of therapy. Oh my gosh. I have done double therapy. Right now I can't actually afford my current therapist. So I'm using chat GPT.

You can use, you can use like the voice effect. So it seems like you're on the call with someone. Yeah. I didn't know you could do that yes if you just like tap in like the mic logo and you voice chat it she replies back what yeah is it good it's so good and because i call her babe she calls me babe back the trendy therapist a hundred percent i needed to make sure she feels like a woman to me fair is it giving you some good advice yes she compartmentalizes everything that i feel and gives me like really realistic ways to achieve my goals by breaking them down and making it like small enough for me to achieve it on a daily basis to the point that I can step back at the end of the month and be like oh like all those little bits has helped me achieve this goal how but how do you know to ask the right

questions because if I was doing that I sometimes don't know what to ask so that would be hard you know like prompting chat gbt correctly to give you like an actual answer you need so i would just babble exactly what's on your mind so personally for me i've got the podcast i've got my full-time job um i'm also writing a tv show i've got modeling and social media managing all our pages so i've kind of babbled to saying look this is all i need to do this is all i'm trying to achieve i've got seven days of the week 24 hours can you break them down for me to be able to achieve a bit by bit in the week or and she's helped she just does it in like two minutes but with traditional therapists i have learned so many things with tackling anxiety

tackling just low self-esteem issues which was my problem that I'm not trying to bring in the new year like I am not gonna come into 2025 thinking I'm like dumb and worthless no no no that's staying in 2024 100% yeah another thing would be if you can't afford therapy would be just to like reprogram your brain so if you feel like you've got rejected this is like an example if you feel like you got rejected from someone you try to reprogram it in your mind to be like i didn't get rejected ied or... Redirected to someone better or redirected to spending more time with myself, learning myself better so I can find someone that is actually worthy of me. Yeah, you have to pick something that resonates with you.

What you would actually be like, oh no, that makes sense. Shifting your perspective on things is actually a lot easier than it seems if you simply journal and write things down you kind of see your thoughts in a visual way and you're like oh like i'm obviously over exaggerating here this is not true like yeah so you write it down i feel like when you put stuff down it does, it does make it way less, which seems so weird, like just writing it down or just, you know, how could that help that much? But it does.

Sometimes the simplest advice in life actually helps massively. I'm a super overthinker. So is that a New Year's Eve resolution then? To stop overthinking as much. Yes, to be fair, I feel like I would like to be more free. Free in every aspect of my life. That sounded really bad. Not in the free of my partner.

Just making that clear. I mean, free and not caring, doing what I want, because I feel like it's good. 100%. I feel like there's all these unwritten social rules that you kind of make up that we all kind of make up when really none of it is real yeah like you there's a lot of expectations I feel like nowadays so when you I want to let go do you have a new year's resolution yeah definitely to be more free within my mind and have like i guess like a mental cleanse so i guess i would

start with like a social media cleanse i think this year being on social media way more than normal i've realized how much it messes up with your head another good thing to do regarding like mental health and all this and trying to level up within yourself i think would be get rid of friends or people in your life that aren't serving you so they're just you know they're the friends that text you only to go out on a friday night or something like stop wasting your time on that because then you you feel like you want more from them even though they're just your party friend i feel like cut those out i think 2025 definitely focus on more purposeful relationships with friends yeah and i mean you can still see those people

once in a while but yeah don't waste your energy on it because it's just gonna you're gonna feel bad because you're gonna expect more and they're not their job in your life isn't that i think this year was my learning year where i'm like just can't be friends with anybody anymore yeah like i have no standards no like seriously i'm so glad we're friends you're like i met you made you friends like recently not recently but we've been friends in 2023 i know how crazy but like i think when i first moved here seven years ago i used to be friends with basically anyone just to like fill the void fill and i guess that's what you do at that age yeah you do you want to be you want to be social you want to be yeah you want to be partying you want to be doing

all that you got to have friendship breakups with the people that aren't your top friends a hundred percent and like remember how we had that friendship breakup episode and i was super sad about my friendship breakups yeah now i Now I'm like, you know what? Fair enough. We have nothing in common. Like, you guys drink like you hate yourselves. I've got, like, my own shit. Sorry. I get you.

Respectfully. Respectfully, you suck. Respectfully, Ilma's leveled up. I mean. You pushed her to do it, and she's doing it. I did it. who's laughing now we are yeah and like another thing i can't be friends with like over sexual people anymore like what give me an example you've got standards girl because clearly you haven't dealt with friends that are like that where they just like make really loud sexual jokes out loud like what

i need an example I need an example. I need an example. Oh my God. Like I'd be talking to someone. I went on a holiday with them this year and it was just like the worst mistake ever. I've learned this year not to go on holiday with just anyone. We'd have a conversation and he'd be like, yeah, my mouth is full of. And you're like, oh dude, like I'm literally talking to you about like my grandma's like ashes but why would he why would somebody say that that's so insensitive they just like

sexualize every conversation being like oh do you know what else is big like you can't be friends with people like that no that's quite immature to be fair i mean i feel like there's a time and a place like as in you can say something once but as long as it's not all the time i'm not in public in like a nice place yeah probably not that level like yeah yeah okay standards basically standards standards with men yeah you need standards with men if we're talking about like social kind of men in this, you know, breakup guide, breakup glow up guide, I would say you have to make sure you enter the new year

and not be just having dates with anybody. You know, they've got to be, you have like a checklist. Like, I don't know, they've got to be confident, kind. Stuff in common. Ilma, I thought you were going to say have a job because you always say that. I was actually going to say that. Have a real job.

I wouldn't want to date somebody who didn't have a real job, which I didn't realize I wanted before you highlighted it to me. Oh, my gosh. I've, like, dated, like, a fashion boy and never again. Yeah. You know, another creative never again there's just a weird not weird competition but i wouldn't like to be in a relationship with someone in the same field as me fair enough i don't know i i don't think i would mind that to be fair if i was in that situation i think i could hack it as long as i was better yeah

that's standards that's how you do standards guys or or if i wasn't better i would be stealing all their tricks and tips and then becoming better oh my god and that actually to be honest that would be better because i would just feel like the upgrade. 100%. We don't like the upgrade when it's like, you know, they get a hotter girlfriend and you're the ex, but we like the upgrade when it's like this. Exactly.

What are we doing this year? What are we doing in 2025 to make ourselves look good? Personally for me, if I was going to, you know, hit the gym and more, I'm being more specific, I love doing barre because I used to be somebody that did like a lot of HIIT workouts, a lot of high intensity. And I feel like my body was just in constant fight or flight because I didn't like let it break. Like I would run so much.

I would, you know, do all these like HIIT workouts, super stressful in your body. And it was just like anxiety, you know? Really? Yeah. And now I do like bar four times a week. So I do it a lot. And then I also run.

So I run 6K every day. No, like six or five days a week. Teach me! Yeah, this year, 2024, I've really started gymming properly for the first time in my life. I have a full routine, three days weights, one day a week Pilates. And that's like transformed me mentally, physically,

but the mental benefits of that, I didn't realize like life is actually really good when you have abs yeah yeah also it's just like when you run for me it's running you just you think about so much stuff especially if you run without music or you run without anything which is hard to do but you do that like not all the time every once every two weeks you know and you just sit in your thoughts if you're stressed out about something, it actually really helps. It just disappears, I feel. It's crazy because to me before it sounded like, oh, whatever, like people are just talking

shit. But now I get like the value of physical health and how much it helps you mentally. Like they really go pair and pair. And also, if you're're hot you can't be sad no that's fair that's fair suddenly like after having like a vague six pack i'm like oh like look life isn't that bad is it no and then you're just you know you're glowing from the outside you actually are because when you look good you you feel good. And it's not about being necessarily really skinny or something. It's that you feel really good. You feel fit,

you feel healthy. And that's what we want to advocate. Like health really comes first. Health is the core of the breakup type. Yeah. Yeah. What else would be another thing that you could do physically that would help? skincare what do you do for your skincare face mask i love a sheet mask i love gua sha like that is like my favorite way to start the morning i think it's such a nice way to like obviously physically you're like you're de-puffing your skin but mentally you're just like you're still you're like massaging your face essentially and you're like oh it's such a nice way to start the day i also would think that if being like specific on um skincare i don't believe that you need like 12 steps you know and also who has won the money

to do that who has the time to do that you know it's just a lot i feel like maybe you could buy like a vitamin c and a moisturizer but a really a nice you know moisturizer so i would be doing vitamin c because that actually does make you glow really yeah tell us what do you use the drunk elephant one really yeah so i use the drunk elephant um vitamin c i don't use it all the time i use it like maybe like five times a week um and only in the morning i don't know if that's wrong or not but i use that and actually it does make my skin look nicer it looks more bright and what's your moisturizer the tatcher dewy skin cream it's just elite i'm just obsessed with the feeling of it it's literally like i'm like the gold spoon yeah i might be a bit gross but like

i use the spoon the first couple of times and then i get like a bit like um just ratcheted to be honest and i'm like ah thank god i like try to feel delicate and clean girl and i was like no so get on your skincare hundred percent but you've got to be consistent with like all this sort of stuff anything physical if you're it's shallow to be like you have to glow up physically which you don't but when you feel and look good you just feel good and like for me the gym has made me a bit more independent in that i don't need a man to open the jar anymore oh i don't need a man to carry boxes anymore like fair fair it's all part of the breakup diet it all ties back in back in jesus yeah what else would be another i know physical glow up would be finding your style,

finding your like what makes it you, you know? And if you don't know, I would try out a bunch of different things. I don't even know if people like look into celebrities anymore these days, but celebrities is a great way to start. Celebrities with your body shape. Yeah, I find that hard though too because I probably make a bit like, I don't have that body that I'm like, yes, I do. Yes, you do.

No, but I'm talking about, like, any of them. I'm like, oh, I don't have that. But then I'm like, I definitely have this one. And then it's, like, not it at all. You know, I'm delusional. No, but I feel like celebrities now, more than ever, they don't have, like, the same body type. Ugh.

Sorry. Yeah, they've all got BBLs yeah yeah okay retract the point so how do we start with finding your style i would go on get some more screen time and go on to tiktok and find like type in i don't know there's actually so many different types of aesthetics maybe you can search that up like mob wife aesthetic what else clean girl like scandi vibe i'm not that vibe scandi vibe would suit you i'm just not that vibe i'm definitely mob wife you're right you are with like the necklaces and oh what are you i would say like off-duty model very like plain top jeans a big coat that's it yeah yeah so find your style that is another way you're going to glow up in the physical department so now you've got mental you've got physical, you've got physical. And you know what? I just thought with style, if you feel great in your body,

anything will look good on you. Exactly. Okay, so next on our list of the ultimate glow up, I think it is social. Like with other people, you know, your social glow up. Yeah, I guess like your ecosystem, your friends who you're dating. Might I even say your family? Yeah, like your ecosystem your friends who you're dating might i even say your family like yeah like your inner circle yeah because you kind of are not always but you kind of are the people that you hang out with too so if you're hanging out with bums you're going to be a

bum a hundred percent there's this quote that i saw on social media hang out with five smokers you become the sixth smoker hang out with five smokers you become the sixth smoker hang out with five like writers you become the sixth writer you basically are who you hang with yeah so you need to be leveling up your friends 100% yeah and if they're not like if they're the friends that are flaky cancelling plans whatever I have cut back on so many friends who cancel on me or show up like late. Like this year, I have been wildly disrespected by friends where they'd show up three hours late. No, I can't handle that. I hate lateness.

I hate lateness. I hate lateness. But you still at the restaurant. Okay. Granted, this was at my house. I was waiting at my house, but it's still three hours of my time that I could have done my own thing yeah and also you're not doing your own thing at all because you're like anticipating them arriving so you're not like fully settled and this one particularly scarred

me because I had really bad PMS so I didn't really want to hang with people anyway but because it's like you know you already put it in the diary and like I didn't realize that I was gonna get PMS this day you know like yeah it's hard and for them to show up like three hours later I'm like oh nice of you to turn up like I'm you're never seeing me from like you're never seeing me again ever and they haven't you wouldn't be late to your job so why are you late to this dinner reservation exactly like everyone's time is precious to them they cut out the people in your inner circle that are not serving you and not would you take it personally if they don't value your time

because yeah i've been yeah i think it's rude i have some friends that are late all the time but they've gotten a lot better but i think it's rude and like i some friends that are late all the time, but they've gotten a lot better. But I think it's rude. And like I get one-offs, like, okay, one-offs, whatever. Like it's annoying. I can get over it. But when it's like always, I'm like, why do you make a dinner reservation at 8 p.m.?

And it's like they say the most dumb is 60 Qs. They're like, oh, like it's my ADHD. Like my meds have just kicked in. And I'm like, but if you know you've got adhd you can like plan around it yeah just set your timer earlier yeah get ready three hours in advance like what about ilma what are you doing with your like romances this this new year okay this new year i will actually start dating again, which is exciting. But I want to date people that like I want to be proud of.

Yeah, yeah. I like, you know. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I think you need to put in like set things when you're dating somebody like they have to be. Because I've kind of learned with people that I've seen in the past they are kind of like a reflection of you and I just want it to be a positive reflection of me this time yeah you have to find out what you really want and what you really need I think like make points I want somebody who has good family values I want somebody who is motivated and wants to do well i think like making those

really clear would be a good one 100 like i'm still not dating like i'm still not wanting to date for marriage or anything but i definitely want to have standards yeah yeah but you don't have to date for marriage but you know even somebody that has good family values or something it does reflect in their character yeah what's you're gonna be your main one give it to me live um that they're respectful of my time because that's hurt me a lot this year being messed about by like a certain ex um yeah and then you waste you waste your own time and it's like hurtful too yeah because it's like oh i could have done something better i could have done oh, I could have done something better. I could have done my own thing. Could have done somebody better. That's right.

That is right. I definitely want to have my voice more heard in relationships because normally when I date or, yeah, I'm in the relationship, I just kind of let them assert and. So you don't set any boundaries basically. Basically basically so learn how to set boundaries this time if i'm not okay with something i need to say it instead of being like the chill cool girlfriend because that was like my whole thing last time i don't want to be like that anymore oh so you're so cool that you don't care but really you care yeah yeah so like whenever they'd mess me around with time i'd be like oh no it's fine like i don't have anything when really like even if i didn't have anything going on it's still

my time yeah it needs to be valued yeah i can't wait to see like who i date next year i hope you like them yeah like i need yaz's approval i don't want to be like. Why my approval? No, just like I need the breakup diet approval. The breakup diet approval. Yeah. Yeah, fair. Yeah, fair. Like I just don't want you to think that I date anybody. You don't.

You're not because we're setting boundaries and standards. Boundaries, standards, you know. Yeah, and I know you'll be honest with me, which is nice. If I deviate from those standards, I know you'll set it to me which is nice if it like if i deviate from those standards i know you like set it to me straight good you need to have some accountability you need to or if you don't have any accountability you guys will like hold me accountable well we're gonna like have him walk on and then see him this is almost new man i mean i'll probably talk about them if they're like okay and i feel like we've been talking about a lot of,

you know, the physical side, the inner side, what is your glow up tips for, you know, your career? Oh my God. 2025 is going to be the career year.

Like I will be, we will be making moves. We will be making moves. We will be making moves. Listen. Listen to the pod. Please. Please. We're funny.

I'm pretty. No, 2025 is a year that money needs to be made because rent's not getting cheaper. The bus rides aren't cheaper bus rides going up from 175 to two pounds shit is getting real yeah it was very expensive and just like maintaining like being a person's expensive so this like life is so expensive life 2025 is the year where you're gonna ask for a raise where you're gonna ask for a bonus if you're not gonna get any of that do not waste your time you're gonna go onto this um different job yeah because when you job hop you earn i think about 10 to 20k more as opposed to staying in the same job yeah so. Why, why, why? If you change jobs every three years, you literally make like a 20K pay rise. Why?

So when you're in the same company, most of them, they don't have the budget to give you that big of a pay rise. Oh, so you're going into like your new interview being like, I expect this when they ask you. Yeah. And they're willing to pay that because you've already had three years of experience. Make moves, jump jobs there are so many side hustles that you can do that resonates with you like for us we love to chat we love to chat about boys and how much we've been hurt yeah you know why not make a business out of it get a hustle. And then if it's a passion like us, it becomes, you know,

something that you really want to do. And then maybe that side hustle will take over or it will just add to your. Current. Yeah. So it's good. So either pick up. Yeah. You could also do like boring side hustles too if you just wanted an extra bag.

Oh, my God. Have you heard of TaskRabbit? Just go on TaskRabbit. I make money there. Doing what? wanted an extra bag oh my god have you heard of task rabbit just go on task rabbit i make money there doing what basically it's like a platform where you can apply to like no i know what the platform is but what do you do oh like set up someone's ikea drawers it's like simple stuff like that or like do someone's groceries because they're sick i've hired people of past rabbit to set up my ikea stuff and I could have hired you well no because I use TaskRabbit too oh I thought you were saying TaskRabbit like

oh like other people should work I suck at it I thought you were telling me you were handy and I was like I never knew that and I did not expect that no babe no babe I'm not that like multi-faceted yeah or there's definitely like remote little jobs you can get to. Yeah, you can be a virtual assistant. That's a really great way to make money. You can be a copywriter. When you have got a bit of money, don't spend it all, but then treat yourself now and again.

So that you kind of get that like dopamine hit. You kind of, you know, all that hard work, you see it. Yeah, you deserve like a little reward for working hard because this life isn't easy like we're all putting in so much hours we're all doing so much whether a uni student whether you've got a full-time job whether you're like working on your passion full-time like it's still such hard work that like you deserve rewards from time to time i don't know whatever you want that you is a bit special that is tangible that you can be like oh yeah like little frugal purchases it's actually so fine like don't punish yourself i think that's the

worst thing because we get told like don't buy the avocado and toast and the coffee you're never going to be able to afford a house and it's like i know who that's from it's from the guy that does all the restaurants in australia stop it who um uh hems of course it's a fucking aussie no it's the aussie man that like owns all the restaurants and he basically was like the reason nobody can buy a house or buy anything at this age is because you guys all go out for avocado toast and coffee every day just like no one does that every day but like yeah we do but yeah life is more expensive now yeah no one can afford i feel like we make more money than our parents did our age for sure no i don't think so you. I need to make some money first. Hopefully soon, but not at the moment, no.

If you try to, you know, glow up physically, mentally, socially, financially, you're just going to burn out. So I think i think you should like put in place one month maybe you start with something like one one small thing on this list you know that you try to improve and then you maybe you add to that not just like try to go all guns blazing on every single element because you're just gonna be like oh my god what the hell am I doing? Honestly, I think the best way is get on ChatGBT, write your big, big goals, and then tell her to like condense it and be like, okay, how can I achieve this in small portions every month?

I'm actually going to do that. This is like a side note of ChatGBT. Yeah. Is I would be using ChatGBT for a breakup. Is that really bad? As in in why do you think he wrote this or like can you you can send him photos can't you screenshot it and send it to chat gpt and be like what do you think the real reason is behind this might make you go a bit insane but also like kind of fun to hear and then if it is you could be like give me a good witty response back just make sure you remove the

here's what to say bit you know when you copy and paste a message from chat gbt and she goes here's what to say oh with the like yeah make sure you remove the quotation mark what are you looking forward to for 2025 i'm looking forward to being a better version of myself which I will be if you follow all these guides no you will be I feel like yeah you have to be yeah I mean yeah we're only getting older so it's gotta go we gotta get wiser

exactly and we gotta get better because we're older like we have no excuses anymore we're not 18 and dumb yeah it's not cute anymore no it's really not like it's time to like actually lock in