The Charlie Kirk Show - Charlie's Last Long-Form Interview: Luxury Beliefs with Rob Henderson

Episode Date: November 2, 2025

Only a few days before his death, Charlie recorded a long interview with writer Rob Henderson about the idea of "luxury beliefs": Foolish ideas that elites embrace precisely because they are insulated from the consequences of believing them. They talk about Zohran Mamdani as the avatar of luxury beliefs, the "success sequence" that can bring people out of poverty, the "Dark Triad," and more. It's a wide-ranging conversation that touches many of the themes Charlie cared about most in his life.   Check out Rob's book "Troubled" at https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Troubled/Rob-Henderson/9781982168537 Watch every episode ad-free on members.charliekirk.com!  Get new merch at charliekirkstore.com!Support the show: http://www.charliekirk.com/supportSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Rob, great to see you. Charlie, I'm honored to be here. Author of this important book, Troubled the memoir of Foster Care Family and Social Class. I do want to spend time on this, and we will. You are also a fellow at the Manhattan Institute and a prolific substack writer, 75,000 subscribers. Congratulations. Thank you, Charlie.

And I want to ask all about that, and you have a Ph.D. from Cambridge. That's right. You know, I've been to Cambridge once. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah, yeah. That's right. Yeah, we had a mostly peaceful debate. So, congratulations on all your success. Thanks. I first learned about you.

I was on a long flight from Phoenix to Cincinnati to go campaign for J.D. Vance when he was still a Senate candidate. This was right before the primary, and I was, for whatever reason, my podcast app, automatically downloaded all the Jordan Peterson conversations. So I only could, because I couldn't have enough Wi-Fi to download the others. And I was like, ooh, luxury beliefs. That's interesting. And I heard you with Jordan, and I loved it. And so it's an honor to have you here. And that's really kind of first, let's take a step back. Who are you? Introduce yourself further. How did you get into this space of public commentary? Oh, sure. Yeah. So first, yeah, it's a real honor to be here, Charlie. Well, like you said, I acquired a PhD from Cambridge in psychology. I'm

a fellow at the Manhattan Institute. Before that, I studied psychology at Yale, but before this, my life was a lot different. So very briefly backing up, you described this in my book, Troubled. I was born into poverty in Los Angeles, never knew my father, my mother and I, we were homeless for a time. I was eventually put into the foster care system, bounced around different homes all over L.A. county for a while and eventually I was adopted into this working class town in northern California and there was a lot of chaos disorder financial catastrophes. I got this front row seat into a lot of what JD Vance talks about. I was going to say this feels like an Angelino hillbilly elegy. It's like Angelino elegy. Yeah, it's kind of, yeah, like a California version of

that. It sounds like it. It's incredibly successful. Well, thanks. Yeah. And so, you know, after experiencing all of that disorder, I had to get out of there as soon as I could. So I fled, enlisted in the Air Force when I was 17, and with some hiccups and missteps along the way. Eventually, I found myself at Yale on the GI Bill and then off to Cambridge on a scholarship. And throughout that experience, traveling along the class ladder, I was fascinated by these class differences, the differences between the people who I grew up around in the foster homes in L.A., this working class town in Northern California, the people I served with in the military, and then I get to Yale, and I'm hearing all kinds of strange, bizarre, newfangled

ideas that I'd never heard before, expressed with such confidence. So, I mean, there were two differences there. One, the unusual beliefs, but then, two, the self-assuredness with which they were expressed. And during that period, I was also reading a lot about the sociology of class, the psychology of status. And one day, finally, in grad school, it came to me, luxury beliefs. Luxury beliefs have replaced luxury goods in many cases. And so with these luxury beliefs, I define as ideas and opinions that confer status on the affluent and the credentialed, while often inflicting costs on the less fortunate members of society. And a core feature of a luxury belief is that the believer is sheltered from the consequences of his or her belief.

And the elite universities are where these beliefs are born, where they're conceived and born, and then they're propagated throughout the media and then throughout the rest of society. And the people who pass through these institutions wield outsized influence on culture, on policy, on discourse, on the stories and aspirations we have and that we tell ourselves, and then you see that often the people who promote them are unscathed, unaffected, and then the rest of us have to, you know, suffer what a person is a result.

So you are the second person now. I mean, we had Mr. Sabarian here yesterday from the Washington Free Beacon, who also was saying the same thing about Yale. So that's two for two. Yeah, I knew Aaron at Yale. Really smart guys. So you went there simultaneously with him? Yeah, he was a couple years ahead of me.

Really? I read his stuff. Incredibly smart, thoughtful. So I really want to spend time on luxury beliefs. So just the audience, I think this is a game-changing analysis because it really puts a very crisp and sharp marker on what we're living through. The best of all examples, I think,

on what your thoughts is defund the police. Oh, yeah. So defund the police got really big in the summer of 2020, but largely pushed by upper middle class PhDs and college educated imposed upon the rest of society, but they are immune from, as you say, the consequences or the costs. This is something that you'd hear at a cocktail party in Kenny Bunkport or in Aspen

where they're like, you know, yeah, defund the police, but they know they will never have to live with what that means. Can you dive deeper into that? Yeah. Well, it was fascinating to me because I coined the luxury beliefs idea in 2019. I was procrastinating on a research paper I was working on and I started tweeting and writing essays and the luxury beliefs idea. I could have never predicted in a million years that within a matter of months,

the elites would be saying defund the police. That was so far outside. I mean, you know, luxury beliefs. I had all these other ideas about what luxury beliefs were. Defund the police is such a clear and crisp example. It's a perfect example. And it was surreal. You know, all of these institutions lined up to support this,

there was a period where, depending on where you worked, if you posted something online in support of law enforcement, you could lose your job. That's how crazy things got. And so I thought, okay, well, I was a Ph.D. student. I'm studying social science. Well, what do the surveys say? What do the data say? What do actual Americans believe about reducing spending for law enforcement? And I looked at the data, multiple surveys throughout that period. If you break down the results by income category, it was always the highest income Americans who were the most in support of defunding the police. The lowest income Americans were always the least in support of defunding the police. Same with education. The higher up you go in education, the more support you saw. And even when you break down the data by political orientation, white progressives were the most in favor of defunding. the police and black and Hispanic Democrats were less in favor of it. And so this is a clear example here where the people who live in gated communities, safe neighborhoods, low crime zip codes,

they were the ones who were promoting this idea that we don't need police, that we need to hire social workers and violence interruptors. And then what did you see from the period of 2020 to 22, violent crime rates skyrocketed. And poor people, low-income people, are always the most affected by crime because they're the ones who live in those low-income areas, those high-crime areas. And there are far more victims of crime than there are perpetrators. There's a small number of people who commit most of the crimes and most of the people they victimize are people who are in their proximity near them, other poor people. And that's why, that's one reason among others, why they did not support this movement. And yet you would open the pages of

of the New York Times, elite media outlets, and they would be writing, publishing op-eds and essays and so on about how we needed to rethink and reimagine law enforcement and policing. And it wasn't until you started to see public disorder start to affect the upper middle class in some cases when they started to have to hire off-duty police and private security guards, and they were slowly becoming affected by it, that suddenly you started to see a lot of counties and a lot of cities rethink this idea.

and what if they were never affected then if they were never affected i think we would still we would still be seeing those violent crime rates so sick so you're saying that the luxury belief model is i truly don't care how the rest of the country lives but explain the social aspects i mean you have phd in psychology from cambridge so if you were to kind of psychoanalyze you know a little pop psychology someone who is at that cocktail party bragging about Well, I am in favor of defund the police. What is going on there? Yeah. Well, so I'll give you a very sort of potted summary of how luxury beliefs came to signify status increasingly. So you go back to something like 1890 when Thorsten Veiblin wrote this book called The Theory of the Leisure Class.

So he was an economist and sociologist at the turn of the 20th century. And Veblen wrote about how the elites of his day would signal status with luxury goods, material possession. So, you know, tuxedos, expensive evening gowns, top hats, pocket watches, monocles, servants, butlers, this kind of thing. Expensive trips. Exactly. And attending a lavish event. And then if you fast forward to the mid-20th century, a sociologist named Pierre Bordeaux wrote a book called Distinction, a social critique of the judgment of taste. And in that book, he coined this phrase cultural capital. And the idea here is that elites, they would convert their economic capital into cultural capital.

so they'd have all this money. What do they do with the money? They attend expensive schools, and then they learn intricate and arcane knowledge about wine and art and exotic locations to have interesting things to say at cocktail parties. My claim is that today, the latest expression of cultural capital is luxury beliefs. So now if you hang around elite circles, increasingly it's about these kind of moral signaling, luxury beliefs, this idea about how we need to reimagine society. If the conventional view is X, I'm going to take this opposition view, I'm going to believe why. If most Americans want a strong police force, how do I look, how do I signal my expensive education and my sophisticated views and beliefs, and the fact

that I have the time on my hands to read elite media outlets and that I hang around the right circles and hold the proper views, well, you express these luxury beliefs, these interesting ideas and opinions, or interesting to you in your circle anyway. And so this is the latest expression, I think of cultural capital. The other thing, the other interesting piece of this is sometimes when I talk about luxury belief, people will say, you know, Rob, is it really true that the elites care so much about status? Or they'll say, well, don't we all care about status?

Why are you picking on the elites so much? Well, there have been two very interesting studies over the last couple of years, which have both came to the same conclusion. So this is a replicated study conducted twice independently, which found that the higher up you go in terms of socioeconomic status, the stronger people report a design. for wealth and status. So people who are at or near the top of educational attainment, income, prestige, you ask them questions like, you know, you show them statements and ask them to the extent to which they agree with these statements. It would please me to be in a position

of power over others. It's important for me that people look at me when I walk into a room. It's critical that I have influence over my peers. The higher up you go in socioeconomic status, the more likely people are to agree with those statements. So they care a lot about status. It's highly important to them. And luxury beliefs are one way that they show that. Yeah, and it manifests in ways like defund the police, but it also goes to people that are bragging about,

I have a trans kid. And like, yeah, you know, that's kind of like a new status marker that if you have a trans kid all of a sudden you're like in the end crowd, you're very so open-minded. I'm so open-minded and I'm progressive and I'm not imposing my gender-binary norms upon, you know, my kid who I will not call a son or a daughter. And so this obviously stems from the academy, largely. And it's gotten a lot worse. I mean, Angela Cotevilla termed the phrase ruling class. And so I think it's all these phrases you wrote, you know,

you wrote cultural capital, leisure class, ruling class, luxury belief. What we're really talking about is the quote unquote elites or the decision makers, which is a small percentage of the American population, but they wield an outsized size of influence. You and I are not Marxists. We believe that some people will be elites. And not only should you have them, you're always going to have them. It's a fact of the natural law. Someone is going to ascend with more. Egalitarianism is not just a bad idea. It's an impossible idea. And if you try to do, it actually creates more inequality. So the question is, can we get better elites? Isn't that the important question? Right. Virtuous ones. Yeah, that's right. And yes, I'm not a Marxist.

And what's funny is that even in communist societies, they have elites, right? No, of course. In fact, they have more power than the elites of Western liberal democratic countries. Yeah, ironically, right? And so much of, you know, we can talk about that later, but so much of what's driving the Marxists, I think, is a desire for power. But, yes, we want better elites. And I think that, you know, our elites, I wouldn't spend so much time pointing out their shortcomings if I didn't believe they were capable of being better. And I think that the institutions that trained them could probably do a better job of sulking the candidates, to be honest. But once they pass through these institutions, you hold a large obligation, a responsibility. You have been given a series of gifts, your intelligence, conscientiousness, your education, your affluence, your parents, your credential.

And I think a lot of people they're aware of this, and they're just going about this, fulfilling that obligation in the wrong way, where they have this very sort of narrow view of what poverty is, of what struggle is, what strife is. And they think, well, I want to help poor people and, you know, I'm not going to spend the time learning about them. But I see police are sometimes mean to criminals who happen to be poor and therefore, let's just defund the police. Like that, it's a very sort of lazy way of thinking this unwillingness to learn about those communities. Well, what will actually help them? Actually, having policing around is good for them because not all poor people are the same.

Most people do not commit crimes, the vast majority of them, they work, they want to take care of their families, they clock in. and they clock out, and they don't want to be harassed or robbed or assaulted. But the thing is, a lot of people who pass through elite institutions have no contact with ordinary working class people. And so they get this, you know, this warped and distorted view of what that actually means. And so, yes, our elites could do more to understand the society that they have influence over? So do you think, as a psychologist, do you think this luxury belief phenomenon is filling a void, a metaphysical one, or an existential one.

Again, I'm very religious. I don't know how you said. I don't want to impose any beliefs here. I just, I'm curious that, like, how many people that have luxury beliefs like go to church every Sunday? Probably a low correlation. You would probably agree with that. I would imagine very low.

There have been a lot of interesting studies on this of people who are highly educated and report low levels of religiosity of service attendance. They're the most actively engaged with politics. They're more likely to get involved with, you know, political organizations and activism and attempt to exert their moral view over other people. And, you know, you see this, I think, a lot with people who are involved, especially with kind of left-wing activism. You know, this is one reason among others why people on the political right are happier

than people on the political left. Is that proven? Religiosity. Oh, yeah, yeah. This has been – so the reasons are debated, but the fact itself is true. Well, talk more about it because people say it's – they scream at me and say, That's not true, is they're obviously quite happy. I mean, it's funny, so you'll get two responses.

One is that's not true, and I'm angry about it. The other is, oh, ignorance is bliss, like that kind of, oh, the right, people on the right, yeah. Let's explore both. So first is, what is the data show? Well, the data show, and this is unambiguous, that people who identify as conservatives or people who identify as the political right, they are happier, regardless of how you measure happiness, whether you measure it through sort of moment-to-moment, positive emotions and experiences, or when you ask people about what's sometimes called life-satisfaction.

satisfaction. Stepping back and evaluating your life as a whole, how satisfied are you with your life? And people on the right also report being more satisfied, higher levels of well-being, regardless of the measure you choose, and people on the left report being less satisfied. And people have attempted to explore the mechanisms, what are the causes, and one seems to be religiosity, that people who attend religious services are happier. there was one interesting study which found that if you attend so going from not attending any religious service at all to attending at least one religious service per week has the equivalent increase on happiness as going from the bottom income quintile to the top income quintile yeah which is I mean that's this is all this is irrefutable yeah this is irrefutable and and what's interesting to me is that we spend so much time talking about poverty income inequality so on and so forth but if you want to raise well being well one might be yeah attend a religious service I mean the It's a lot less expensive than trying to redistribute or, you know, raising everyone's income by $100,000. So what you're saying is that Zoran Mamdani should be saying everyone should go to St. Patrick's Cathedral, not government-run grocery stores. I mean, you know, there's data behind it.

Well, it depends on what his goals are. You know, his explicit about goals are. If he wanted happiness for the city. Right. But he may have other. I want to get into the intentions. Yeah. So that's so comforting because we know this to be true.

We kind of see it in our own lived experience. experiences. So those that are pushing luxury beliefs probably are not super happy or at least would be just living a joyful life. I don't think they would have joy. I don't think anyone that wants to defund the police is a joyful person. I just, I don't find that. Maybe you do. I don't think that's correct. But so, but the is part of this though, part of it is this contradiction because they think they're being contrarian to the rest of society. But no one, checks them in their place when they say this stuff. I mean, you go to some of these environments. Again, you could go to any one of these summer enclaves that I could list, right?

Kenny Bunkport, Aspen, you know, Big Sky, Yellowstone Club, wherever, Jackson Hole. And they say this stuff at their liberal dinner parties. And it's just this homogenization, right? So in some ways, they're not rebelling against anything. It's actually an act of conformity. Would you agree with that? Yeah. Yeah, I think that's right. Where, it, depends on sort of the reference group. So if you're comparing them to society as a whole, they're very controlled. But to their peers. Yes. Yeah, to their peers, they have to. The contrarying thing would be like, no, I love Trump's takeover of D.C. Right. That would be a statement to say in Jackson Hole. Right. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's, it's, it's, there are these kind of social

contagion effects where, you know, if you spend most of your time with people in the top income decile, similarly credentialed people to yourself, you may view yourself as this intellectual iconoclast or this sophisticated, interesting, creative person. But actually, if you look at the, you know, the groups that you spend the most time around, chances are there's very little daylight between your beliefs and theirs. So there actually isn't as much rebellion, I think, as you might expect. Yeah. And so are you, do think that do we need better luxury beliefs? I mean, oh, no, not, no. Or just get rid of this whole genre. altogether, meaning that the bourgeoisie should not have different values than the proletariat.

I mean, to use a Marxist distinction. Yeah. Well, I've written about this in different outlets, substack and elsewhere, and sometimes I think the best thing to do would just be, you know, to let the rich, you know, buy yachts, buy expensive things, go back to the... Get out of our way? Yeah, go back to the Veblen era, where you're just like buying name brand clothes or whatever and leave the rest of us alone kind of thing.

but um it's not realistic yeah i i because they need to buy newspapers they need that's the other thing the status markers are influenced now sports teams yes companies social media companies right that's now the new currency yeah yeah and so if if there are going to be beliefs that uh elevate your status i think they should choose they should choose beliefs that do not hurt people who are beneath them um so that's how i define luxury beliefs a luxury belief is does it confer status to uh the credentialed affluent person, and does it also inflict costs on less fortunate members of society? But there can also be beliefs that are good for people and that are disproportionately held by, you know, higher income credentialed people as well. And so I think it would just be

worth sort of going through, okay, what are the beliefs, what are the political views, what are the policies that I'm promoting? And first, you know, if they make you look good, great. And then if they help people, even better. So they're not bad because they're held by elites. Yes. They're bad because they're bad. Yes, exactly. Can you elaborate on that? Because elites can actually hold really good ideas. Yes, of course.

If an elite is saying, hey, get married, have children, don't commit crimes. Yes. That's awesome. Yes, that would be fantastic. Just because an elite holds a view inherently does not make it bad. It just so happens our elites hold terrible views. That's correct. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

And so it's bad because it's bad and it's bad because elites will disproportionate influence on society. There's a study from 2014, which found that if you support a political policy and you're in the top income decile, it's twice as likely as average to be enacted and to be implemented into law. And so, yes, they're bad because they're bad. There are beliefs that are held, you know, concentrated among elites that are good for society and that elites are more likely to hold than the rest. So something like free market principles, for example, a lot of less educated people, they have difficulty understanding, free market economics, for example. And so if

you ask them point blank, they often tend to intuitively in their gut feeling hold these kind of semi-socialist views perhaps because they haven't been educated on how economics works and a lot of elites actually do hold more free market principles so that would be an example of a good belief that isn't a luxury belief yeah and the the ones though that are just it's the the ones especially that the elite markers have held the elite whatever foreign policy for sure and then this crime stuff is out of control and the social stuff the trans the BLM the wokeism that stuff is deeply unpopular the lower you go in the income ladder. Yeah.

And so I think we need to take, we just need to compare things of whether or not they are good or bad, but the reason you're so effective is that we should hold our elites to a higher standard. They don't get an excuse. Is that right?

Yeah. They don't get, and you're uniquely positioned and say this is someone who grew up in a very, you know, as your book says, troubled environment, you should know better. Yeah, that's right.

And they, yeah, they should be held to a higher standard. And they, just because they're increasingly isolated, that doesn't diminish their influence for better or worse. And so, you know, if they're going to will this influence, they have these responsibilities, these duties, these obligations. And this used to be taken for granted that if you are a member of the elite, modern aristocracy, the ruling class, however you want to define them, that they should actually try. to push policies and laws and ideas that make life better and do not worse. And you know, you listed some of those woke ideas of transgenderism and other things. But in my view, in the one that I spend probably the most time talking about in the book is this denigration of the family. So famously, you know, in 2020 in the BLM website, it was we need to dismantle the Western

notion. Prescribe nuclear family. Yeah, it's insane. And yeah, they took that down later. But that is, you know, you can see. It lives forever on the internet. And that is just the latest manifestation of this. That idea has been pushed, particularly by credentialed leftists for decades, that we need to dismantle the family. And what has happened? Well, among people who pass through elite institutions, the higher people you go and socioeconomic status, the more intact families are, the least amount of divorce you see, the more importance they place on family and their own personal lives. but then when you ask them about their views in general about marriage and about family norms,

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You can find out more about Pastor Allen and the ministry at allanjaxon.com forward slash Charlie. Sometimes when I talk about the luxury beliefs class, I say that they walk the 50s and talk the 60s. Talk more about that So if they're walking the 50s They're walking in Norman Rockwell painting Exactly But they're So they talk the 60s

So they talk like they're at Woodstock Yes And yet they live like they're in a Norman Rockwell painting That's correct Yes Peace love Don't do that in my home

So they're like strict Administrators of order And discipline In their own life Yes But outwardly they have Peace love Rock and Roll

I don't care if you do weed. Yeah, but it can't be my kids and it can't be my neighborhood and not my zip code. But everyone else, you know, have a good time out there. But isn't there something inherently, doesn't this inherently create the kind of the prerequisites

of a political revolution in a bad way where you have an elite ruling class that imposes something they don't want to live under, repeatedly? I mean, a good one is school choice, right? They're all against school choice, many of them and yet they'll send their kid to a private school or firearms you know they

they have gated communities and they're against walls i mean you see all of these inherent contradictions and for a working person that creates a lot of resentment and that's bad we actually don't want resentment we want our elites to be respected we want people that are the highest income ladder to be role models and icons and people that we could tell our kids to point towards you said something i want to explore two of my favorite words you use back-to-back duties and obligation I feel as if we never use those words anymore, right, especially when it comes to the rich or the, why is that? Well, I think because we are at least explicitly, we're attempting to create this

egalitarian society, no one's better than anyone else, you know, attempting to retreat into these non-judgmental attitudes. But what's interesting is that that kind of approach of don't judge people, let people enjoy things, live your life, you do you. That applies for when it comes to judging people for violating those conventional virtues of family, respect, integrity, punctuality, law-abidingness, all of those things that, you know, something like our grandparents would have agreed with. But when it comes to other things, many credential deletes are happy to judge you for failing to recycle. Of course, they're the most judgmental people in society. Right.

And so they've shifted that energy. Or that if you're pro-life, they're judging you. I mean, you vote for Trump. I mean, the people that say do not judge, you wear a MAGA hat in New York City. It doesn't go very well. Yes. Yeah. And so that moral energy, that feeling of, oh, I want to tell the lower orders how to live.

Well, they've abandoned that when it comes to living a good life, a healthy life, a life that leads to flourishing. They're not, you know, they're very hands off with that. But then when it comes to, yeah, you know, your political views using an outdated term for a certain group or for, you know, not supporting the latest thing on climate change or whatever, then suddenly the, the, the. the fangs come out and they're happy to condemn the the puritanical energy is reignited yes this is a great transition to this phenomenal piece that you wrote this summer zoran momdani's luxury beliefs the first line the first line is really amazing the luxury belief class because you've really designated them as a class has just done the equivalent of plucking a random grad student from an ivy league hamas encampment and nominating them for mayor tell us more well

if you look at the political views of the people who were forming these encampments at places like Yale and Columbia and elsewhere, they held very far-left progressive radical views. And a lot of people by now, and I'm sure you and many of your listeners have seen the social media posts of Mamdani from 2020 and 2021, what I found funny about the Mamdani post from that era was they weren't just the sort of normal boilerplate woke stuff. It was an extra level. Yeah, it wasn't just defund the police. It was defund the police as a queer feminist issue. You know, it was this sort of like, like, Over-embellished exaggerate. The top outrageous.

Yeah, it was, like, things that you wouldn't see anywhere else unless you pass through these institutions where it's not enough to just say defund the police. It was, you know, it's a queer feminist, all this sort of weird terminology and all the sort of mental gymnastics required to express these bizarre views. And, you know, Mom Dani has, it's funny, he's sort of walked away, walked back from some of those views, and he's pivoted more towards this sort of overt economic socialism, the sort of communist ideas. but you know those two things are intertwined

you know you and many of your your listeners and I'm sure you know a lot of people have made this point that wokeness is a kind of variant of Marxism and so he was a communist I mean he still is right democratic socialist he's a Marxist and he's you know supporter of wokeness and that is the kind of ideology

that you see prevailing at elite institutions so do you live in New York I do for now what is this what is going on here You know, I moved there less than a year ago, and at that point in the polls, Mom, Donnie was not, you know, it was, he was treated as an unserious candidate. And now we're seeing, you know, New York's changed a lot. You're seeing a lot of people. What's interesting is that in New York, if you live there in the first place, you already have to be pretty well off, especially if you live in Manhattan. And the demographics of Manhattan have changed quite a bit where a lot of people who live there, they have bachelor's degrees, they have upper middle class. jobs and like I said before the people who are educated and people who are well off they're the most likely to hold these kind of left-wing luxury beliefs these radical newfangled views and then they

look at someone like mom donnie and they kind of see someone like themselves right and there's a lot of kind of malicious envy going on here where they're mad because they're in the top 10% and not in the top 1% and they see this kind of you know mom don't he's kind of a nepo baby right like he's kind of this fail son who had well well off parents and he's kind of been floundering in his career for a while and he got this footing in politics where all you have to do is mowd the right slogans and say the right things and in a place like new york um yeah people are people are willing to support someone like that well did you see what was happening before he was an assemblyman so before that this is a lot of local new york stuff so nationalize it for us yeah yeah so mom donnie he uh well first uh one of your

former guests, uh, uh, helped to break the news, you know, remember when, when mom Donnie said that he was an African American. Oh, yeah. Yeah. And when he applied to Columbia and still didn't get in despite, so he, he claimed to be black slash African American, despite the fact that both of his parents are ethnically Indian. I know he spent a couple of years in Uganda, but, you know, if you and I go to Uganda and then we apply to college, we're not going to mark that we're black, but, you know, he tried to do that. Um, he still didn't get in. Um, and he went to Bowden, which is also an elite institution. And, and, and, and, And then he had a floundering career.

He tried to be, he tried to moonlight as a rapper, didn't get very far. He produced some music for, his mother's a rich filmmaker, tried to produce some music for her films to some limited success, but he never really got off the ground in his own career. And finally, I think in his, he's around 30 when he ran for, whatever, like county or city assembly, he finally found something that he wasn't terrible at. and politics does seem to attract The worst of our society

Yeah, for better or worse That's, yeah, yeah, sadly true. Is he going to win? Probably, yes. If you look at the base rates for, you know, if you're the Democratic nominee for mayor of New York, you almost always win.

There are some rare cases where that doesn't happen. Giuliani, you got Bloomberg. You know, people have been talking about how, because right now you have Cuomo, Adams, and Curtis Sliwa, the Republican. If two of those people drop out, out and throw their support behind one of them, there's a possibility that they can defeat Mom

Donnie. But if they don't, then he's probably going to win. And then, yeah, I don't know how much longer I'll be in New York after that. What does, does that teach us anything about this whole, because you're your whole piece on luxury beliefs. Does that reinforce your thesis? Does it show that these luxury beliefs are still held by a big portion of America's largest city? Or is this kind of just a one-off? Yeah, it's, it's sad because when I talk to some of my, more right-leaning friends, they say, well, maybe he should get elected, because then the rest of the country will see that as an example. That's the dumbest analysis I've ever heard.

But the thing is, the people who vote for him, once his policies are put in place and it actually starts to affect those people who voted him in, a lot of them have means and they can leave. Right, they're going to go to Connecticut. The Coleman Young or something in Detroit did this. I think his name's Young. The Detroit mayor in the 1960, he ran Detroit into the ground just to rule over the ashes. everyone left and went to Auburn Hills, but he stayed in power for 20 years. Right. Yeah. Yeah. And so it's going to be the people who didn't vote for Mamdani. And I point that out in that piece, which is that if you look at the demographic breakdown of the voters, poor and working class voters who Mamdani claimed to support, you know, he's talking about rent freezes. He's talking about, what, raising the minimum wage to $30 an hour.

Those people actually didn't support him in the primaries. They voted for Cuomo. They did not vote for Mamdani. It was upper metal class people, particularly. white progressives who supported Mamdani. And a lot of those people, if he gets elected and their life starts to deteriorate, yeah, they're going to flee to Connecticut or Jersey or whatever. Let's talk about it. So you have this piece here, substack, what I told Bobby Kennedy's team at HHS, you have something called the success sequence, and you got a good way of branding stuff. I love that. I'm going to use it. I got to say that's not mine, but I did write about it. I think it started from Brad Wilcox. Yeah, yeah, no, no, yeah. But I mean, here's thing. You grew up in poverty. So how do we fix poverty in America? Is it through Mamdani's, you know, social workers,

you know, interventionists, whatever, you know, making the city run grocery stores, or how do we address the poverty issue in so many of our great cities? Well, so the success sequence, there are three simple steps. So if you want to not live in poverty, you follow these three steps, and by age 30, there is a 97% chance you will not be in poverty. And what study is that? This is from Brookings, I think it's, yeah, you're right. Okay. I'm pretty sure it's out of Brookings. Brad Wilcox has written about this. I think it's Isabel Sawhill. But if you just Google success sequence, there's a lot of interesting sociological work on this. So the three steps, first, graduate from high school. Second step is get a full-time job. And the third step is get married before you

have children. It's that simple. Like, those are the three steps. You follow those steps. By the time you're 30, you're almost certainly not going to be living in poverty. And this was the discussion that I had with Robert F. Kennedy's team at HHS. They were interested in these issues around childhood poverty, how to help people who are living in these circumstances, struggling families. And this is a very simple thing that I think could be taught to everyone. So there was a survey done a couple of years ago. They asked a representative sample of Americans across the political spectrum, do you think, so they told them, them. Here's the success sequence. Do you think they should be taught in schools? And 70% of Democrat parents and Republican parents supported this idea being taught in school. So this is like low-hanging fruit. Most Americans think like, oh, that's like a very simple set of steps. Let's

teach the kids, regardless of their political background. But when you look at the elites, there's a raging debate. And you can imagine that Republican elites are like, yeah, like that's obvious. And Democratic elites are like, no, that's terrible. We shouldn't shame poor people. We shouldn't say anything like that, you know, because it's, you're, you're implicitly judging them for how they choose to live their lives. If you fail to live up to the success sequence, they might feel bad about themselves. And what I point out in my pieces about the success sequence is, it's, it's so simple that you can't really, you can't really help, but, but be able to hold anybody to those standards. So if the success sequence was something like, the only way to not live in poverty

is first you got to get a Ph.D. in mathematics from MIT. Second is you got to work 100 hours a week. And third, you got to practice lifelong celibacy. Then you won't live in poverty. The correct response to that is, well, that's not fair. Like, no one can live up to those standards. We shouldn't even be talking about this. But if the success sequence is what it actually is, we should be talking about it

because just about everyone is capable of fulfilling those steps. So you're saying that we don't talk about it because Democrat elites or left-leaning, whatever, progressive elites, they don't want. to come across as preachy or judgey, even though that's all they do, all day long. They preach us about the guns, environment, climate change, racism, but they don't want to preach or be judgy about graduating high school, obtaining full-time employment, and marrying before having kids. That's right.

I think that's the reason, because that's the only group that doesn't want this idea to be propagated and to be taught, and that's the only group that regularly challenges it. Even though they live those values. Yeah, yeah. I mean, many of them are the most likely to live those values. So regardless of your political beliefs, you know, if you went through college and you have a white collar job and so on, like that, you followed those steps in your own life, the people around you followed those steps, and they are not difficult to follow.

And I think that, you know, we were talking about this before, what luxury beliefs or what beliefs that could the elites hold that would actually benefit people? I think just talking about this, these simple steps that, look, many people might fall short of those beliefs, they may not actually be able to fulfill them. that doesn't necessarily mean you should discard them or not talk about them. In the same way, you know, by analogy, elites are generally pretty happy to say that you shouldn't use tobacco, right? You shouldn't smoke cigarettes. They're happy to talk about this.

That's a great example. A lot of people still smoke cigarettes and they fall short of that. Everyone knows that tobacco is bad for you, but it helps to be taught and to be reminded of this regularly. And even though people fail to cease tobacco use, elites are still willing to talk about. it and say that you should quit. So I think by analogy, they should be willing to talk about this other thing that's good for you. They want to run PSAs against racism. So obviously they're willing to impose their value system on others.

Yes. They're the ones that push, you know, NFL helmets need to have end racism on it. And racism in the, we need to run these PSAs against hate. Okay, so that is you imposing a value system on the rest of the population. Fine. Okay. But you don't want to actually promote. Imagine instead of these ridiculous, like, oh, stop hate commercials.

That no, it does nothing. or instead of these like anti-tobacco commercials what if we ran a billion dollars of ads of do these three things and you won't be in poverty graduate from high school obtain full-time employment married before having kids yeah yeah no no it's it's that yeah if you put those three steps up then yeah your life will will improve even if you follow one of those your life will incrementally improve right if you if you graduate from high school it's better than not graduating if you get a full-time job that's better than being unemployed if you get married before you have kids it's better than having kids out of wedlock Sometimes I joke around. I wrote this other piece called How to Join the Underclass, and I called it the failure formula, which is don't do those steps. How do you live in poverty? Don't graduate. Don't graduate. Yeah, don't work.

Don't work. Don't seek employment. We're at full employment. You can get a job if you want a job right now. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean, a lot of the issues are not poverty related despite the fact that that's what people want to concentrate on. Do you think poverty is largely a poverty of values? Yes, now it is.

I think decades past when you, you know, there was real poverty, kind of the Great Depression era, sort of decades before when our society was less prosperous. Poverty was serious. It was dire. There was an interesting article in the New Yorker of all places, which found, they reported that in the past, poverty meant you went hungry. And today poverty means you get food stamps. You get government assistance. Like, that's the difference. Or that, right? No, this is another luxury. belief, which is the wealth

you are, the thinner you are. I'm sure you've seen that data, which is that if you have a low BMI, you're much more likely to have money. Then the fatter you are, the more likely that you are actually in poverty. It's the exact opposite, actually. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. A lot of things have flipped like this.

And, you know, it's funny because the people who are well off and have low BMI's, they're often the most enthusiastic about body positivity, healthy at any size. Isn't that amazing? post that and share that and they're the ones doing 72 hour fasts yes they're playing tennis what explains psychologically this contradiction we keep on revisiting this theme again you're you're

the psychologist here what what is what explain that to me the people that do something themselves and then will not prescribe it for others I think I know the answer but what is yours so there there's there's there's the kind of a charitable view which is that they just don't want to um condemn others they want to seem permissive they want to seem whatever progressive liberal in their attitudes um the other i think a more cynical view is that they are they want to remain lucky well they want well yes but they also want to undermine competitors right and so uh if i dark yeah if i want to work i'm i'm watching my diet i'm working out every day i'm you know doing all these things for my health but i'm telling you

like hey you know i have a good time you're consciously doing that no i think most of them are Some of them are, but I think most of them... So explain, what is that psychological phenomenon? I mean, this is just a sort of a self-deception pattern here where people will hold a set of views. They don't understand why, but they're beneficial to themselves and to their own lives, and they can take other people out. And if I...

That's dark, man. The thing is, so this is a principle of self-deception from an evolutionary psychologist Robert Trivers. there's the basic idea here is that if I want to convince you of something, the best way to do it is if I believe it myself, right? Like if I know I'm if I'm consciously and deliberately lying to you, you may be able to tell that I'm being deceitful. But if I believe this myself, then I can also convince you, right? It comes across as much more sincere. And this is why I think like most of the time this is not duplicitous. They've somehow convinced themselves that this is right. And it just happens to benefit them that they hold the set of views that, you know, creates advantages for themselves. while undermining other people. And you can use this for a lot of things, right? We can apply this to the defund the police idea. You can apply this to body positivity.

It's a disaster. The family and marriage stuff. A lot of this is, you know, whether conscious or unconscious, it's undermining those around them. No, that's dark that there's some sort of subconscious, not I want to say undiagnosed, but mysterious energy force that they want people to stay at their class. they're going to protect. I mean, is, is insecurity to, to, to, to a good explanation there? Yeah, there may be an element. The elites are super insecure because they didn't actually earn it. And it's not as meritocratic as they'd like to see, which I actually think is true. I don't think

it's, if you spend a lot of time around our nation's elites, they're incredibly unimpressive people. Yes. Yeah. I think that's part of it. There's an element of status anxiety there that they either fear slipping down to themselves. And so if they can, you know, if they happen to support a set of views, another one, another luxury belief for you is the elimination of standardized testing requirements for elite universities. Talk about this one, please. This is so important. Well, so a lot of elite universities in the wake of 2020 said, oh, actually standardized testing is racist or it's oppressive. It's not inclusive. And so they eliminated this requirement for admission. And what ended up happening is these institutions received fewer applications from from low income people, from ethnic minorities. from people who, you know, first generation applicants, and it actually sort of re-entrenched the kind of class divisions across society where they actually got more applications from essentially rich kids who wanted to apply. And so I don't think it's a coincidence that

who benefited the most from the elimination of standardized testing, you know, kids from rich families, people who probably are experiencing this insecurity or describing the status anxiety. And standardized, you know, because what happens when you remove that component from the application. What are you relying on when you're evaluating candidates? You're relying on things like recommendation letters. You know, if you're a kid from a rich, well-connected family, you can get letters. Yeah, yeah. You can get a senator, a CEO, a famous Hollywood actor, whatever. And then you're also relying on the essay component. And the essay component is filled with all of the class-coded language of, you know, where you spent your summer and how you're spending your

free time and the values that you care about. You might remember this from 2017. There was a kid who got into Stanford and Yale because he wrote, he said one word, hashtag, Black Lives Matter a hundred times in a row. What school was it? So he got into Yale and Stanford. I think he ended up going to Yale, actually. And that's all he said, the entire essay. Yes. I mean, but was Yale ever under criticism for that? For, uh, uh, well, a little bit, but not that much, not as much as you would have expected. Um, you're, you're reminding the things I'm going to mention on my campus tour. Oh yeah. Yeah. I mean, that's, that's worth. I mean, that was such a crazy essay, right? That was the essay. Black Lives Matter 100 times in a row. Hashtag black lives. And so

So that was, you know, and so if you are like no poor working class kid, like even if they did support the movement, they would never even think that that's an essay. That just wouldn't cross their mind. But if you are plugged in and you're, you know, oh, this is going to come across as subversive and interesting and dynamic and it's going to make me stand out in just the right way. And lo and behold, he got in. And so without the standardized test, you're not going to be able to identify talented kids who don't know how to speak in that class code language. I think it's a whole other place you and I could take this conversation where it's like this is just the downfall of objective standards and beauty. This just reminds me of like Marcel Duchamp and the entire downfall of art. I mean, if you are even in a place where you can accept an essay, let alone accept that person.

The essay should not even read. It should have just been like you're not allowed that you're not even allowed in our city. Right. I mean, you're not a lot in Connecticut. Okay. But it's just it's, oh yeah, I'm going to tape a banana to the wall and I'm like really interesting. or here's the messy bed, and I'm going to call that art or piss Christ or whatever. I mean, it just, it plays into this whole theme, and I don't quite know how to articulate it over the last hundred years, where now a kid goes into Yale just by writing Black Lives Matter on the entire essay.

Yes, yeah. That was his submitted essay. Yep, yep. Okay, so you have this piece here, the hidden marriage market. Tell us about it. Right. So the point here for the hidden marriage market piece in Substack was that historically, especially for let's say the wealthier half of society

there have been arranged marriages right arranged matchmaking you know the ruling class in centuries past a lot of it was about consolidating power and that kind of thing but then gradually with the rise of the 20th century the rise of egalitarianism meritocracy all these things at least as ideals it became you know choose your own partner you know families became less and less involved but we ended up recreating this assortative matchmaking system through the university system.

And the way that it works, the way that I explain it is, you know, imagine that you are trying to find a romantic partner for your kid. And you solicit suitors and you say, okay, well, I want you to submit your IQ scores. I want you to write an essay about the things you care about and your values. I want you to send me some recommendation letters, and so on. And you probably see where I'm going with this. That is what universities do. Well, it used to be, but yeah, right, right, unless they got to marry the Yale kid. Right.

Well, yeah, yeah. And so what happens is these universities do this where they're screening all of these people for, you know, before the woke era. They were screening them for academic ability, for family connections, for the things they care about, all this class-coded language. And they bring them into these institutions. and now you're surrounded by people who are roughly the same level of ability, interests, you're all these young people. And the way that assortative mating works is that the vast majority of people who have bachelor's degrees marry other people with bachelor's degrees or higher. And this is, you know, this is what's known formally as assortive mating that people tend to marry people who are similar to themselves. This birds of a feather flock together idea.

Very rarely do you marry down in class. Right. Yeah. People tend to marry across. And so that is what I call the hidden marriage market is it's higher education where once you pass through the – and even if you don't marry a classmate, a fellow student, your dating pool changes dramatically once you pass through these institutions. And so from that point on, you're surrounded by people who work white-collar occupations, people who are – Speak your language. Yeah, speak your layer.

Share your values. Exactly. Is this a good thing? I don't think it's good or bad. It's the way that historically thinks I've always been. I don't think that you would ever be able to change this pattern without some kind of authoritarian overreach. That people just tend to like being around people similar to themselves. It's not just education and income in class.

It's also one of the strongest similarities between. people in a couple is their political values, that people like to be with others who share their political orientation. And so the strongest predictors tend to be a level of education slash social class, and then religiosity and political orientation, people like, people like themselves. Why are marriage rates going down? It's a good question. They might be going back up last six months. I don't know because everything's changing a little bit, but last 10 years, why are they going down? I think there are a couple of different reasons here. So a lot of people when they talk about the decline of marriage rates,

they're focusing on elites, right? Like people who are concentrated in metropolitan areas who go to college, who, and you, oh, well, you know, women are going to, they're extending their education, they're prolonging their time in higher education, and they're delaying marriage and delaying fertility. Actually, what you're seeing is most of the decline in marriage can be accounted for by poor and working class people.

That's where marriage rates are shockingly. low now. Why? Well, I think it comes down to values. So if you are in a culture that valorizes marriage and commitment, people are going to get married. And if you're in a culture where marriage is just one option among many and the elites in your society will often demigrate marriage or mock it or, or, you know, treat it as this kind of trivial, unimportant thing, fewer people are going to get married, especially

people who rely on public messaging, on ideas that they hear from elites, you know, I, when I talk about my books sometimes, I'll go to campuses and stuff, and I'll do by way of analogy, the way that I grew up, imagine that you're a kid in an upper middle class neighborhood, safe neighborhood, your parents are married, all the adults in your environment are married, and this is, this is more or less the typical environment for a kid like that. You're surrounded by married adults. And then you turn on TV, you look at, you know, elite magazines, newspapers, glossy periodicals. And so in your real life, you're seeing responsible adults who are getting married, but in pop culture and in a lot of the messaging, you're seeing, oh, casual

sex is fun, be promiscuous, have a good time, marriage isn't important. Maybe you should try living in a polycule. What is that? It's such like a polyamorous kind of arrangement. And so you have these two things, right? But the messaging that you're seeing on the screens and in pop culture is counterbalanced by what you're seeing in your real life. And so you have real role models and examples. But now imagine that you're a kid who grew up the way that me and my friends did in an environment where you aren't seeing married adults. You're seeing a lot of single parents or kids raised by grandparents, kids in foster homes. And then you turn on the TV, you turn on social media, pop culture, all this kind of elite media. And you're seeing the opposite. You're

seeing casual sex, promiscuity, polyamory, all this stuff, that's not counterbalanced by anything, right? Like, you're not going to get married if you're not getting that message from anywhere. And so I think, yes, for the wealthier half of society, some of it does have to do with increasingly prolonged education and people living in these cities and a lot of the sort of ambition and status chasing and that kind of thing. But I think for the lower half of society where marriage rates have really collapsed, it's due to the lack of values. We're honored to be partnering with Alan Jackson Ministries, and today I want to point you to their podcast. It's called Culture and Christianity, the Alan Jackson podcast. What makes it

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to raise the birth rate hungry um by paying people to have kids right in hungary that is the most successful example and even then it's been met with limited success so they managed to raise a modest uptick is what I'm told something like 1.6 to 1.7 right or something like that? So pre and post payment you know cash payment transfer to parents it raised the birth rate something about like 0.3 so you're getting like an

extra third of a kid per couple or something like that it's something yeah it's not nothing but I think what's happening is you're kind of throwing out or you're rather you're skipping a step here because even in our day and age, despite all the luxury beliefs, despite all of this kind of stuff we're seeing, if you ask most people, you know, do you want to get married before you have kids? Even today, most people say yes. They'd like to have a partner to raise their kid with. And so when you pay people to have kids, well, it's like, well, most people aren't getting married. And so first you need to get married first, and then you have kids.

And what's interesting is when we look at the fertility decline, there was an interesting analysis published by the Economist last year. which found that what's mostly responsible for the decline in fertility is poor and working class women having fewer children. So if you look at college educated women, the decline in fertility is noticeable, but it's very slight compared to 30 years ago. They are having fewer kids, but it's a very small dip. But the bulk of the decline in fertility is among poor and working class women, and that's because, as we were just discussing, marriage rates have declined. So pay these women, pay these men, get married first. And then once they're in a partnership, and once you incentivize them to find a partner that they like being around, make it a priority, give them money for it, they're just naturally going to have kids because that's kind of a life course. Once you find a partner, most people at that point decide to have kids anyway.

But I think the reason for that fertility decline, again, it comes down to values, it comes down to culture. So you think fertility rates are tied to marriage rates. Right. I think the low fertility rates are downstream of the decline in marriage rates. Yeah, why does everyone skip that step? You're like the first one I've heard to say that. Well, again, I think a marriage is unfashionable, it's unpopular, it's this, you know, people don't want to feel judgmental, and they want to feel, oh, you know, if you see that a theme throughout our conversation, right? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean, it's a luxury belief that marriage is just one choice among many.

Yeah, they don't, they don't believe that. Yeah. They just say it. So, but why is it matter for us to reverse the first. fertility crisis. That's a good question. And yeah, Elon Musk and others have pointed this out. It seems self-evident, but why does it matter? Yeah. Well, I think there are some people who actually don't care about it. So what's interesting is... No, I know. I get that question all the time on campus. They reject the premise. Well, if you look at the people who are what are known as anti-natalists, people who believe you shouldn't have kids, there was an interesting study a couple of years ago, which found that one of the strongest predictors of anti-natalist attitudes is high scores on what are known as the Dark Triad

personality traits. That's one of the things I want to talk about. What is that? So the Dark Triad, it's an interesting framework from personality psychology and it's a constellation of traits, narcissism, which is feelings of entitled self-importance.

Resentment, right? There's some resentment among narcissists. No, it's one of the other one. I'm trying to remember. Oh, so the second one is psychopathy. Okay. And psychopathy is, you know, callousness, cynicism, disregard for other people. And then the third trait for the Dark Triad is Machiavellianism, which is kind of strategic

exploitation and duplicity. And if you score high on these three traits, you're more likely to believe that it's wrong to have kids. You're more likely to express this view that people shouldn't have kids. And sometimes I wonder if this is what's sometimes known as a sort of a mating interference strategy or reproductive interference strategy. So this is... From whom?

So this is, metaphysically, I have an answer, but, you know. Well, so I'm drawing here from ideas in kind of animal research, evolutionary psychology, and this kind of stuff. And essentially it's, you know, if I, it goes back to our earlier point here, where if I can convince you not to have kids, if I'm a dark triad person, I'm a scheming, manipulative, self-entitled person. Well, I know the type. Yeah, yeah, I've met a few of them, too. If I can convince you not to have kids, then I'm putting myself in a better position for my kids to succeed. What are the psychological markers of someone that has a dark triad? How do you quickly diagnose that?

So it's not necessarily a clinically diagnosable. How do I notice it? Recognize it. Because I think it's helpful. People should know that in their work and their community. Yeah, it's hard to accurately sort of diagnose at a glance whether someone is dark tribe. But once you get to speak with someone, get to know them, if you speak with someone who regularly turns the conversation around back to themselves, kind of one-upers, you tell an interesting story. you something about it happened to me today and then I come back with oh that's nothing like

let me tell you about what happened to me that's a marker of something like narcissism if you see if you see someone who is is what's called known as itinerant so very frequently relocates in their lives that can also be a sign of psychopathy because this is someone who regularly burns bridges whether with their employer with their friends with their romantic So when people have a pattern of anyone being close to them and it's bad, that's a bad sign. Right. And then another, and this is more characteristic of Machiavellianism, is if you ask other people about them and you get a wide variety of different views. So, you know, if I ask you, hey, what's the deal with this guy?

You give me one opinion. I ask someone else, what's the deal with this guy? They give me a completely different perception. Then what that tells me is this person is kind of a snake, a shapeshifter, someone who behaves differently in different. contexts. And so that can be important as well. It's not just let me look at this person and try to evaluate them. Let me ask around. And this is why you get referrals and recommendations and that kind of thing. And so back to the birth rate, you're saying that the dark triad is an interference project. That's what I suspect is if you are high on these traits, if you're kind of a manipulative

person, you're going to promote antinatalism as an idea, in part because you want to reduce other people's fertility, reduce the competition. The other thing is, people who are high in the dark triad tend to be unhappy people in general, and I think they just want to kind of spread. What percentage of the population is high in the dark triad? So it varies. It depends on how you sort of cut, you know, where's the cutoff here? But something like 5% are high on this. That's a lot. Yeah. And then perhaps another 5% sort of right beneath them who are not sort of overtly manipulative or scary in some way, but they're sort of noticeable. What percentage of prisoners are dark triad people?

So that one I don't know, but I do know that when you just measure psychopathy, not the other two-trees. So that is the lack of empathy or lack of compassion? Callousness, cruel disregard for others. It's sometimes known as it's the darkest of the dark triad of the three traits. That's a high correlation of prison populations. So something like 40% of prison inmates would qualify as clinical psychopaths. Right. And so you see the most concentration of psychopaths in prison. But what's interesting is that you also find large numbers of psychopaths in sort of corporate boardrooms. The halls of Congress? Probably, yes. High ranking politicians, something like 12 to 15 percent of the people who are at or near the top of their game in terms of business, corporations, politics, around 12 to 15 percent.

And then among college students, it's something like 8 to 10% of college students would qualify for a psychopathy diagnosis. Well, I've met a lot of them. And so just as a reference point, something like 1 to 2% of the population would qualify as like a clinically diagnosable psychopath. So it's 1 to 2% of the general population, something like 10% on college campuses, 12% to 15% among high achievers, and then something like, you know, 30 to 40% in prisons. And so how does that then play itself out in society, and what are the checks we have on psychopathic people? Well, so one is basically being able to screen for people

who are being purposefully manipulative to extract some gain. So there was a study a couple of years ago on what's called victim signaling, which is essentially this paper found that people who are high on the dark triad traits are more likely to signal victim, in order to obtain advantages for themselves. And so people who are high on these traits are more likely to say, you know, I'm under attack. Yeah, yeah, I'm under attack.

They like to broadcast how they're being mistreated and beleaguered and so on. And, you know, I think it is important here to note that it's not that victims have high dark triad, like actual victims. No, that's right. Rather, it's people who are high in the dark triad disguise themselves as victims in order to exploit your sympathy, your compassion, your empathy, that, you know, oh, I know you're a good person, and, well, because I know you're a good person, I'm going to try to position myself in a way to elicit your sympathy

and talk about how bad I've had it and so on. And, you know, historically we've found ways to screen for that, where we have kind of high standards for, okay, well, you've been mistreated, well, explain it. You know, we're able to challenge you on it a little bit just to make sure before we devote attention and time and resources to you, like, let's actually evaluate it. We can't do that anymore because we can't judge. Everyone's a victim and we're not allowed to challenge it in any way, right?

And, of course, like, dark triap people pick up on this, and they're like, oh, well, how do I, you know, they arrive at a new environment and say, well, what can I do to obtain advantages for myself? Oh, well, I'll just pretend like I'm a victim, and, you know, so there you have it. So what you're pinpointing is that the modern, so smart, I've never heard anybody say this, and I listen and read a lot of stuff. What you're saying, though, is that this modern sensitivity movement, last 20, 30 years can't judge, you know, can't make people feel bad, is a fertile place. playground for psychopaths. That's right. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Have you written this down? Yeah, I have. I have. I'll send it to you.

No, that's really good. It's exploits. Because I deal with psychopaths way too often because it's in my world of power, intrigue, politics, and media. Yeah. Well, they're also narcissists. Yeah. Oh, yeah, yeah. And people who tend to be interested in these, you know, it disproportionately attracts those types of people. If there's a camera, there's a narcissist. Yeah. I mean, well, I wouldn't go that, but I would say that if there's a camera, you're more likely to attract. No, that's what I'm saying.

Not everyone on camera as an narcissist. But talk more about that. So the check used to be our capacity to ask questions, pursue inquiry, and kind of push back and de-emphasize. But now we can't do that because the modern morality is thou shalt not judge under any circumstances. You're automatically a victim, period. Yeah, yeah, that's right.

And therefore, now you get the rise of the psychopaths. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, well, they're able to exploit other people's sympathy. If you have, this is kind of a game, you can look at it through a game theory lens where if everyone is cooperating, things can work pretty well. But as soon as you have someone who's a defector and exploiter, they can take advantage of all of the cooperators and they can quickly rise to the top because no one's challenging them, no one's checking them. And I think we're seeing a lot of that. But what's interesting is that people who are high on the dark trial, they tend to be short term effective, long term ineffective because they can't. That's why they have to bounce around.

Yes, that's why they move a lot. And it's difficult for them to build durable coalitions, to acquire trust from people. If you want to build something that lasts and hold on to power, not just momentarily, but for a prolonged period of time, people have to trust you. And, you know, narcissistic, psychopathic people aren't trustworthy. If you were up against a dark triad person, what else is their Achilles heel? I mean, generally, I would I would recommend trying to avoid them. But, yeah, each person is different, right? Like they're different just like anyone who isn't on these traits.

But what you're saying is like I'm just blown away by the specificity. Yeah. I mean, it's useful to ask them, you know, to challenge them because a lot of them, just like other people, but perhaps even more so for narcissistic types, is they have a very sort of surface level knowledge of whatever they're talking about. They know just enough to sound impressive. And then once you start challenging them and questioning them and so on, you'll see that oftentimes they will start to fall apart.

And then they'll start to resort to these kinds of men. manipulative tactics of, you know, what is it, like sort of reorienting and interrogating you instead of calling you all kinds of names, accusing you of whatever ism, you know, the day, and that kind of thing. And I think that oftentimes you can kind of declare victory at that point where once you're, you've stepped outside of the argument, started lobbing names, then, then, you know that. And wokeism is just like the perfect launching off point for the dark triad. Yeah, yeah. Because you can't have any dialogue or discourse. It's all about victim sensitivity. and oppression hierarchy

and so you can't really navigate it so there's no way for us to keep the psychopaths in their corner instead they're able to grow and flourish especially if they are of a victim group criteria right and yeah and this yeah it's a catastrophic ideology for that reason where you start to put people

who are unqualified into positions of power and then we can't stop them because you're a racist so if you have like a black female psychopath who's competing against you and is lying and is narcissistic and is Machiavellian, if you report her to HR, you could get in trouble for being a racist.

Yes. And then she would use, or I don't want to me to pick on Black women, whatever, you know, BIPC thing. Yeah. They could use the HR department as a means towards their ascension. Yeah.

Oh, yeah, yeah. Yeah, and they tend to be good at that of sort of identifying weak spots and learning how to disguise themselves in just the right way. And, yeah, we used to have sort of checks on this of, you know, it's good to have compassion for people who are genuinely victims and, you know, try to give them a leg up whenever you can. But you, in order to ensure that that doesn't get

exploited, you have to be able to question people, to interrogate them, to make sure that their claims to victimhood are valid. And often what you find is that people who claim to be victims are the least likely to actually be victimized or the most able to accentuate whatever qualities they share with actual victims, right? And so you saw this with, you know, like a lot of the elite college admissions policies, right? It's, you know, they kind of valorize victimhood and this kind of thing. And if you want to get in, then you have to talk about how you've been oppressed in some way. But ironically, the people who are the best at speaking the language of oppression are the ones who have been the least oppressed.

Because if you actually been oppressed, you don't know the class-coded language around. Well, that's a phenomenal segue to our last thing, which is your book. Oh, sure. So you've lived a tough life, a memoir of foster care, family, and social class. You didn't quite know how to explain it in elite parlance, right? Right. Tell us about your story. I mean, you're incredibly accomplished.

You have this great book, Troubled, please. Yeah, well, I opened the preface of Troubled by introducing myself to the reader by my three names. So my full name is Robert Kim Henderson. my first name Robert comes from my biological father whom I've never met and the only reason I have is to this day right yeah the only reason I have his name not really if I'm going to be honest you know I got his name for some I'm sorry but yeah yeah well no it's it's not it's just I've thought about that and I kind of go back and forth I'm kind of ambivalent on it but my middle name Kim comes from my biological mother so she came to the U.S. from Seoul from South Korea as a young woman

and her life quickly unraveled, and I talk a little bit about it in the book, got swept up in drugs and a lot of the kind of stuff that was wrong on. You did know her. Very briefly. I have a couple of early memories, which I describe in the book. She was strung out. That's when I was taken by social workers and placed into the LA County foster system, bounced around different homes, and then this is where my last name comes from Henderson, which comes from my adoptive family.

And this was the late 90s, my adoptive family, we settled in this dusty blue-collar town called Red Bluff in California, very working-class town. I checked the stats for my county. It's one of the poorest counties in California, and in the 2024 election, it went 70% for Trump, very Republican. It's a part of California people do not really know about. It's way, way north. It's known as like the state of Jefferson. It's more libertarian, but in terms of. of voting patterns, Republican. And most of the adults didn't have college degrees. There was a

lot of squalor. The opioid crisis was just kicking off, a lot of meth. My adoptive parents divorced. There was a lot of drama. Your adoptive parents divorced? My adoptive parents divorced, yeah. And do you have any siblings? So they had a biological daughter who's my adoptive sister. Was that a good relationship? It was good, yeah, yeah. That's, you know, she and I are, we remain close. Praise God for that. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, she was a good, good influence for me. And then later, when I was writing the book, I decided to take a genetic ancestry test because I'd never known anything about my father, but I thought, oh, maybe it'll be interesting for the book. And I discovered that I'm half Hispanic, my father's side. So my father was Mexican.

And I remember when I got those results, my first thought was, I wish I'd known that when I was applying to college. Yeah. I mean, if you went to Yale and Cambridge, you did just fine. But before you get the letters, you never know, right? You want all the women in your back. Man, if you would have been able to check the Hispanic box? Yeah, unstoppable. I mean, you would have been president of the university.

Yeah, maybe. You would have the Hispanic Asian foster care thing going. I know, I know. But, yeah, and so, you know, I document not just my life in the book, but some of my friends as well that I grew up around in this, you know, very, very tough, you know, poor, impoverished, a lot of crime, a lot of violence, a lot of drugs. and how their lives when I had five close friends growing up in high school, two friends went to prison. I had another friend who was shot to death, you know, other friends kind of working,

you know, menial, blue-collar jobs, and, you know, they're struggling. I go back every couple years to visit, and, you know, I thought it was important to tell their stories as well. So what drove you when you were like 14, because that's a decision-making time? 14, 15. I'm sure you're talking about this in the book. And how did you end up at Yale? well so when i was uh 14 um god you know there's there's so much in the book but i'll just uh my i mentioned my adoptive parents divorced and my adoptive father stopped speaking with me uh so i was raised for a period with my adoptive mother as a single mom and she ended up in a relationship with a woman uh named shelly in the book very california yeah actually yeah and um and so

then they raised me for a period of my childhood. Raised by lesbians, too. Not for the whole, but yes. I'm saying, man, you really run the gauntlet. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm impressed. Yeah, I can't make, can't make that up, right? Foster parents from Korea and Mexico, raised by lesbians, it's impressive.

Well, this next part, so when I was 14, right before high school, so my mom and Shelley were together at this time, and Shelley was shot. Oh, jeez. And so what was driving me at that point was some common. of rage and disappointment and hurt and there's a lot going on you were you angry yet i it was kind of a diffuse like i think it was like accumulated anger from not ever knowing my father um all the foster homes all of the you know i have the line in the book where i say if you if a kid is let down by the adults in his life eventually he learns to let himself down and that's what i was

feeling just this massive disappointment let down and it got channeled as rage acting out um and this is one reason among others why i didn't go straight to college after high school because i was so unfocused i graduated with a 2.2 gpa um how'd you get to yale then so uh i enlisted so i was 17 enlisted in the air force that must have been great for you it was yeah it was um you know that was to this day probably the best decision I ever made. Because that gave you order and discipline, direction, purpose. And the whole, you know, so much of the book, that's a theme that that runs through is the importance of order.

You know, I mentioned one of my friends went to prison. After he got out, I met up with him. We were both 19, 20 years old. And we were comparing notes. He's like, you know, what was basic training like? What's the military? And I'm like, you know, what's prison like? What's that?

And we both kind of came to this same conclusion where it kind of sucks, but we also liked it. He was telling me he liked prison because he knew, you get up at this time, you go to roll call, you do this, you need order. Yeah, and he was like, I kind of missed that. And I was thinking of myself, yeah, like, in the moment it sucks. But then as you go on, you're like, oh, this is what I need. I need to know what my day's going to look like, what my week's going to look like, what's expected of me, what my goals are, and how to use this time productively. And so from that point, I started going to night classes at a community college, finally took the SAT, which I never did in high school. and then, you know, to their credit, Yale ended up admitting me, and this was 2015.

So it was right at the moment that the university started to go crazy. So I got a front receipt to that. And then when did you do your doctorate in psychology? So I went off to Cambridge in 2018. And one reason, Charlie, why I went to Cambridge, is because I was witnessing all the craziness. You thought Cambridge must be. I mean, come on, it's Cambridge. Yeah, I was like, oh, that's Cambridge.

Like, it's in England. I had this image in my mind of, like, these, like, Hogwarts. Yeah, these dons and the white robes, or black robes, rather, just, like, disconnected from the culture war. They're reading old books. Like, very monastic. Yeah, yeah, like, with sort of oak wood paneling and old libraries and just.

No, that's not what Cambridge is like. So I get there within, I think, six months. So Jordan Peterson was supposed to be a guest research fellow at the University of Cambridge. So this is 2019. I remember this. He's disinvited. Queens or something, or Kansas? or one of their colleges?

Yeah, it was one of the, one of the college in the divinity school, but I don't remember which college. Yeah, I could be misremembering, but yeah. But, yeah, he, and he was disinvited, and I'm like, oh, this same stuff is happening here, too. And I saw lower level examples. That was the most sort of salient, sort of media example, but there were lower level cases. I had friends who were fired, friends pressure to resign, all this crazy stuff happening. And I thought I wanted to be a professor.

And then I see all of this stuff happening. and I'm like I can't I can't be in academia I'm seeing too much of this and then I started to write full time I worked on this book I started the substack and kind of pivoted out of academia and more towards sort of commentary and writing for the general public and yeah it was just a shame I had this image of what college was mostly mistaken also kind of a class thing because I based my perception of college on TV and movies I'm like oh you go there you read books maybe you go to a party you have a good time you read you study you come out better and then I get there and it's just demonstrations and madness and and anger and I got there you know again 2015 I saw all the blowups during that year and then 2016 Trump gets elected people go to another level of craziness and I go off to England same thing and I'm like nope I can't I can't do this good for you what an amazing success story the book is called troubled a memoir of foster care family and social class I should call you Dr. Henderson but I should but thank you for your time this was wonderful. Come back anytime. Thank you for more on many of these stories and news you

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