The Comment Section with Drew Afualo - ALL OF A SUDDEN MEN CARE ABOUT BODY POSITIVITY Ft. Barrett Pall | Drew Afualo | THE COMMENT SECTION 50

Episode Date: January 25, 2023

[video available on Spotify] This week Drew, is joined by Barrett Pall on the podcast to talk about holding terrible people accountable online, why men seem to be afraid of buttholes, why you shouldn'...t take advice from people if they don't have the life you want, and so much more! Drew: https://linktr.ee/drewafualo Barrett: IG / TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Starting point is 00:00:00 Hey, it's Drew. Before we get into the show, I got to let you all know about some amazing stuff happening with Starface. So I'm sure you all have seen Bella Hadid wearing those cute little stars on her face, right? And I'm really excited because Starface actually just released their newest innovation, a powerful microdart patch called MicroCloud. These cute cloud-shaped patches are made with tiny self-dissolving microdarts that dive deep into skin to target early stage pimples that are dry or irritated. They're filled with key ingredients like hyleronic acid, nicinamide, and salicylic acid to help deep. calm and hydrate skin for faster healing. MicroCloud is only available in the U.S. at starface. dot world. That's S-T-A-R-F-A-C-E dot W-O-R-L-D. And for a limited time, Starface is offering all comment section listeners
Starting point is 00:00:44 free shipping on your first microcloud order. Just enter the promo code, comment at checkout. Again, that's a comment for free shipping on your first microcloud order. Now, onto the show. It would be smart. Yeah. To maybe listen to the people who they trust
Starting point is 00:00:59 and are a part of their community. Yeah. And maybe not the ones that are going to jail. Oh, bummer. That sucks. It's almost like we knew it. He's a bad person. Shocker.
Starting point is 00:01:13 Hey, everyone, and welcome back to another very special episode of the comment section show. Why is this one episode you may ask? Why is this one special you may ask? And I will tell you why. First, it's our 50th episode. Yay. And second, we have the one and the only Barrett Paul.
Starting point is 00:01:32 Woohoo! Hi y'all. Hi, gorgeous. It's so nice to see you again in person. Yes, same. Me and Barr go way back. We do. Way, way back.
Starting point is 00:01:42 We grew up together on the app. You grew a lot more than me. But, you know, that's another story. But yes, I'm an OG. 700K is where I started the follow. Yes. You've seen me from the beginning, girl. I'm so proud of you.
Starting point is 00:01:55 From when you were sitting in that car and they just would not let you pop off. And my Prius. Sitting into that office that you call it. Yeah. I love it. My office, the one and only. I'm so incredibly honored and happy to have you here. Thank you, really.
Starting point is 00:02:08 Barrett and I talk about it a lot offline, but we are some of the only people who get what it feels like to do our very, very niche content. This is very, very true. It is so incredibly specific. It is, and the niche is needed. I think so. It's been a long time of a certain group of humans, cishead men, being awful to everyone. including themselves.
Starting point is 00:02:34 Yeah. Like including other men. Yeah. Absolutely. And it's, you know, I'm a love and light kind of person, but sometimes people need to taste their own medicine. Yeah. And I'm the medicine.
Starting point is 00:02:44 It's me. It's literally me. I think that's why we were drawn to each other so quickly. Yeah. Because we are two sides of the same coin. Absolutely. Maybe very different sides, but still. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:02:58 I think we're the good cop, bad cop. That's what I would say. It's true. I know you're into Zodiac. I'm a Pisci, so I have that two fish thing going on. You're like my other fish. You're so emotional, that's why. I mean, Avi, clearly.
Starting point is 00:03:10 You know what's so funny? When I was talking, I was talking mad shit on Twitter once because I was starting a Capricorn hay train. You say this? Like, I don't know. I literally am a fan. My literal, like, my cross to bear is Capricorn hate. However, I ask people like, what's like the side that you guys get like,
Starting point is 00:03:28 immediately when you hear it, you're like, lots of Pisces men. My dad's a Pisces, though. So that's why my experience with Pisces has only ever been positive. Pisces meant to an extent. I haven't known every man's sign that I've come across, although I wish I did. But my dad's a Pisces, and he's wonderful. Look, there is good and bad in everything.
Starting point is 00:03:48 I think so. That's just the way of the world. Yeah. I also think that realistically, when you break apart gender and sexuality, you start to see what works and what doesn't, what's toxic, what's not. And this is why I don't really identify with the word, man as much as I used to. But, you know, at the end of the day, I still like to represent as a healthy man. There you go.
Starting point is 00:04:09 Same with, like, the men in my life. I think a lot of times men who hate me, ooh, they are constantly like, oh, well, you know, that's probably fatherless behavior. You know, they say the same shit. Like, oh, she didn't have a male figure. I actually had, like, the best male figures in my life. That's why I am the way I am today. Amen.
Starting point is 00:04:27 It's a big reason. Yeah, you've learned not to take shit. Yeah. And I, unfortunately. a lot of women have been, I use this word very specifically groomed to take shit. Yeah. Well, and it's also another, it's a testament to, I think, like, what you see. Yes.
Starting point is 00:04:44 And, like, what you're exposed to. So, like, my view of what a real man should be has always been very different from what these men act like in the wild bitch. They're feral. They're feral. They are. They're disgusting. That's another reason why I think you and I kind of took up this mantle a little bit of. little bit about like attacking men essentially for the things that they say like holding them
Starting point is 00:05:08 accountable for the things that they say because I was blown away to see how comfortable some men were platforming their bigotry like that yes blown away bitch I can believe it when I came on to TikTok it was during the pandemic I did not have any plans on doing it same someone was like you really should do this like social media is a part of your job already and And like you're going to get left behind. And I was like, I don't want to get left behind. I'll like check out this thing, see what's going on. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:05:35 Because I thought it was a kid's app where people were just like dancing. I thought so too. I was like, I'm too old for this. I'm geriatric for this app. If you're geriatric that I am in the ground. Yeah. I am dusty already. But I got on there and like, you know, it's figuring me out.
Starting point is 00:05:50 Very quickly thought I was a lesbian, which I was like, thank you. I appreciate that. And then I started to see the like very obvious misogyny. Yeah. It was really bad. It still is. It still is, but like in 2020, 2021, especially, girl, you couldn't go like two or three swipes without seeing someone talk about it or like confront it or anything like that. Totally.
Starting point is 00:06:17 And I was just like I'm a guy's girl. Like my best friends, my whole life have been girls when I was little women as an adult. My best friends, my people. And so like it's very personal for me. Yeah. And I was just shocked that there wasn't like a lot of people doing it. And so like I made one video and I was like, this is just obvious to me. And then it went like and I was like, oh, okay.
Starting point is 00:06:39 I guess this is needed. Yeah, that was, well, I think that's another reason why both of us like started to kind of tap this one market because it's just unbelievable. Like the things we were talking about it earlier, like the things that we have seen on TikTok that we haven't talked about. Like there are some like believe in our own. we are very selective with the things we choose to show exactly. This is where this starts today. It starts here. It's,
Starting point is 00:07:07 we're very, and I'm very, very selective, and I know you are too, because we've talked about it, about what we choose to stitch and what we don't, because there are some things that I just truly, I refuse to give a platform to.
Starting point is 00:07:18 Absolutely. Because it's just that horrid. Like, you would not even believe. Some people are like, they ask, I'm sure you get this question all the time to, like,
Starting point is 00:07:26 how do you do it? Like, how do you, like, stitch that kind of content all the time? and like how do you not let it affect you, that kind of thing? Yes. And for me, I feel like, well, obviously it's effect, it affects you in a way that you're like, that's so horrible and I can't believe people feel that way.
Starting point is 00:07:42 But I think for me too, it almost like, it's, I was describing this my boyfriend literally the other day. I was like, it like validates me because I was right. And as a Virgo, I love to be right. So like, I love that, the fact that I was. was right about how most men are horrible. Yeah. I was right. There you go.
Starting point is 00:08:06 Here's proof. One thousand percent. And it's crazy too because I've really done this like case study anthropologic looking at the apps. Yeah. And some of these guys don't start off this way. And then they start to like phase a little bit that way and the video pops. And then they're like, I'm going to keep on this train because now I'm getting views and followers. I'm like, this isn't going to be lucrative for you. And it doesn't. It never sustains either.
Starting point is 00:08:28 It doesn't. But it's wild to see how quickly they're okay with jumping on the bandwagon. What a bitch. Like what a bitch thing to do is what I think. You have no spine. You're honestly a coward. That's what you are. I say that all the time.
Starting point is 00:08:41 And I know exactly what you're talking about because we see it. You and I see it all the time. Like the way that some dudes will be making content about rocks. And then one day they're like, this is why I hate Barrett and True. Huh? Or just women. Yeah, just women in general. We've really jumped there.
Starting point is 00:08:58 You have those two, though. Like, I can't even, like, some dudes, like, I'm not kidding. Their whole niche was like talking about animals. And then one day they just are like, I hate this bitch. Hey, I hate this fat bitch. And it's like, what? Yep. What?
Starting point is 00:09:13 Here's a little tip for you terrible men out there. If you hate me and no one's found out yet, don't. Don't let them find out. Once the girls find out, they're going to leave you in the dust, bitch. I can promise you that. This is the craziest part to me. because majority of the men that strongly hate both of us. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:09:32 Claim they like women. Claim it. Allegedly. Allegedly. Yeah. I'm like, if you liked women, you think you might maybe, smartly. I don't know. Smartly even a word is.
Starting point is 00:09:43 I'm trying to be able to smartly. It would be smart. Yeah. To maybe listen to the people who they trust and are a part of their community. Yeah. And maybe not the ones that are going to jail. Yeah. Oh, bummer.
Starting point is 00:09:57 That sucks. It's almost like we knew it. Yeah. Oh, crazy. He's a bad person. Shocking. What? What?
Starting point is 00:10:05 What? What? You're telling me someone that encourages you to hit women isn't a good person to women? And admits it online. What? What? Girl. It's silly.
Starting point is 00:10:16 Go to hell. That's what I always think like. That's, I feel the same way, too, about, like, men who, and I've kind of talked about this also, but men who play the fiends. So they'll say things. You mean libertarians? I mean, yeah, they're like, we'll see, I don't like what he said, but at the same time, nope, eh, eh, eh, stop right there, right? Stop right in your tracks, bitch.
Starting point is 00:10:39 You don't like what he said, but you hate what I said more, why? Yeah. And I always say, if you keep going and unpacking it, like a little Russian doll that it is, at the very center point, you're a bigot. That's what ends up being in the center every single time. That's the common thread, bitches. That's the candy center to that chocolate, babe. every single time.
Starting point is 00:10:58 And I'm never wrong. Neither of us are. And that also operates under the assumption that all men hate me, which is just not true. Look, here's proof. Proof that not all men hate me. And it's also, and even so, like, there are many men who have made content or become mutuals. Like, they've made content defending me or they've become mutuals with me because they're
Starting point is 00:11:22 talking about how they understand, like, why I make content. the way that I do. And you're one of the first men to, with a platform to like back my messaging to. A thousand percent. Yeah. Again, Big Brother vibes for everyone. You, I have like just such a fondness too because I know how hard it is. Yeah, literally.
Starting point is 00:11:42 I do. And like I think there's not many creators that get it. No. And I think people really take it for granted. And like you said something once where like, am I supposed just to be the court gesture like all the time where it's like you really put yourself out there in a way. We're going to get serious for a moment. that like I don't think people truly understand.
Starting point is 00:11:58 It comes with dangerous, crazy people. Yeah, it does. And it's one of those things where it's like, the jokes and everything are what make it palatable, but the messaging is always serious. And that's why I'm always like, if you listen carefully to what it is I'm saying,
Starting point is 00:12:13 you'll hear it because I don't just make jokes. Like, that's part of it. You are so smart. You are. You are. Thank you. Thanks. Hi.
Starting point is 00:12:24 You guys heard it here first. but that's also another thing that I don't feel drawn to prove because I'm going to prove that I'm smart to a dude that doesn't respect me as a human no totally waste my time I'm just going to tell you you're ugly there you go done done and speaking of ugly that's going to bring us to our topic today being a bully online I'm so glad I'm here for this episode because I feel like you've been called a bully too I'm always called a bully but oh my gosh all the time all the time and like that drives me insane because I was bullied so bad growing up by actual bullies.
Starting point is 00:12:56 Really? Every day of my life. Yeah. Through college, people bullied me. At NYU, where it's like liberal and like fun and New York. Of all the places. Yes. Literally.
Starting point is 00:13:09 Yes. And the crazy part for me was seeing it come from like, again, men in my own community where I was like, I'm on your team guys. Like, I'm rooting for you. I need a pygmy girls. I'm like, pour one out for her. She's gone. I can't save them all, bitch.
Starting point is 00:13:23 Like I'm trying. But my life. Breft's getting crowded and there's no room for mutiny on this boat. Get the fuck off. We're going down. It's either all of us or you. Goodbye. Yeah, literally, I'm like, it's either you or everybody else.
Starting point is 00:13:34 I'm kicking you off the island. You know what I mean? Like, that's literally me to, when I've said that to him, like, we're on the same side, girl. I'm fighting for you. I'm fighting for everybody. Even the awful men, like, at the end of the day, I'm still in the understanding that, like, patriarchy, toxic masculinity, it hurts all of us. It does.
Starting point is 00:13:51 It's true. That's very true. That's why I'm just like, why do you not get it? And the way they react to you. you versus me is so laced with misogyny that I'm like it's so clear and obvious now. And racism. Oh my God. So that's another reason.
Starting point is 00:14:02 So much. Every time I bring that up, they're like, why do you always have to bring rice? Because it's true. Because it matters. What do you mean? Why? Like, what do you mean? Like, it's the girl, only a white man would say that shit.
Starting point is 00:14:14 But that's another reason why I feel like you and I are on the same wavelength all the time because we get treated. We get treated much differently for the way that we choose to react. to bigotry as opposed to the bigotry itself, which is something I will never understand. Like, even if, okay, let's say you just remove bigotry at all, right? If someone's rude to you or hurts you in any way, why are you not allowed to hurt the me, whether it's with words or whatever it may be? Why is that on me to make you feel comfortable for being awful to me? Huh? There has been no real change in this world through revolution that was not because you didn't match
Starting point is 00:14:54 their energy and fight fire with fire. Exactly. And I know that's hard for people to hear. And again, I am about positivity and gratitude and kindness. Yeah. But we have had enough of the same bullshit and no change. No shit. And we're told to like, be nice to them. Understand where they're coming from. And I'm like, they need to have that mentality on the flip. No, no, seriously. I'm like, well, maybe if you came correct in the first place, I wouldn't have had to hurt your feelings. Like, I don't do that to just anybody. Oh, you mean you don't like the way this feels? That's crazy.
Starting point is 00:15:24 Oh my gosh, shocking. When they call me fat and then I go, okay, well, your nipples are saggy. They're like, why would you comment on that body? Why would you do that? What about, what if he had body dysmorphia? What if I did? What about all the people watching this that identify like him? They know it's not them.
Starting point is 00:15:41 Yeah. Don't worry about them. They're okay. If that's, you know what's so funny is one time this guy made this horrible video about me. Like, he made this video about me basically saying like he would use my videos as torture. Right? And I'm like, okay, weirdo. Like, that's your idea of a joke.
Starting point is 00:15:55 That's weird. And then in the comments, they were saying the most, like, racist, fat, felt, like, terrible things about me. Oh, I see it. He was liking, laughing, kiki, all up in the comments, right? So I saved the video. I put it on Twitter and I made fun of him. And I said, because he had pictures of himself. Shocker, when you comment on other people's looks, if I open that profile, I don't see Bella Hadid,
Starting point is 00:16:19 I'm going to hurt your feelings, bitch. That's just a promise that I've made. and everybody knows that about me. This is well into my platform. This is not a secret. No. And so I literally talked about, like, I talked about his body, the way he talked about mine. And then a lot of men were like, what if he has this?
Starting point is 00:16:35 What if he has this medical condition? What if he has this? Mind you, fast for it. I go, did you guys confirm that? Are you just making that up? And even if he did, what gives him, if I, listen, make sure your house is clean before you check other people's, you know what I mean? Don't, you've ever heard of glass sound, like, living in a lot of?
Starting point is 00:16:52 a glass house and throw stones. People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. Crazy. So fast forward like months later, this guy like, I guess found out. I don't know if he just logged off forever and then came back online. I mean, you do scare them offline. I love that about you. I just get them deleted. He had no idea that like these men were saying that about him. Like, oh, I bet you he has this medical condition. Like they were diagnosing him. And he made a video going, I don't have that condition. The fact that you guys are saying that is fucked up. Like, he got really pissed. When they turn on their own?
Starting point is 00:17:25 Yeah, I was like, Una reverse, I guess the argument ate itself, didn't it? As it looks like you guys don't actually care about people with that medical condition, you're just trying to find a valid reason to hate me. And that's what it is. They don't actually care. No, not at all. Not at all. It's about every, like that's why I said,
Starting point is 00:17:40 all of a sudden, you guys care about that shit? All of a sudden, huh? Like, body positivity to men like that is considered promoting obesity until I say that their chest is so concave if I knocked on it, his heart would shoot out his back like a front door. Like literally the minute I say that, they're all about what about body positivity? What about loving ourselves exactly the way we are? And that's the craziest part. Like you see them have like this affinity and like kindness for each other. But then spin it and
Starting point is 00:18:13 throw it at everybody else. You're like, don't you get this doesn't add up? As soon as I come for them they so quickly develop empathy so quickly. All of a sudden they're like, oh, but what about him? What about his feelings? What about his family? What about it? What about it?
Starting point is 00:18:31 I'm like, oh, I don't care. And rightfully so. Rightfully so. Yeah, yeah. Maybe if he wanted me to care so deeply about his personal seated issues, he wouldn't be attacking other people's. And it's like, it's just the most common,
Starting point is 00:18:48 I can do it but you're not allowed to do it. Which drives me crazy. Same. And it also, what enrages me the most is, I think the way that they pick on such vulnerable people. Yes. And they attack those that didn't say anything to them, never commented towards them. Literally who are just online, like having fun and trying to find community and find some joy in like a hard place.
Starting point is 00:19:13 Yeah, literally. And then when they say that and I comment, they're like, what? So you just into body? shaming? That's what I always get. And I'm always like, it doesn't feel very good to have a stranger comment on your physique, does it? Maybe you should remember that next time you do it. Maybe you should put that in your notes on your phone. Yeah, maybe you should like put that on your vision board, bitch, along with growing hair. So, hey, it's me again. Back to talk to y'all about Starface. So quit messing with me. I know y'all have seen those cute stars that practically every celebrity is wearing these days. That's Starface's bestselling hydro stars. A fun star-shaped
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Starting point is 00:20:25 microcloud order. Just enter the promo code comment at checkout. Again, that's comment for free shipping on your first micro cloud order. Now, back to the show. Okay, so what we're going to be talking about today, that's our, is basically being a bully, but most likely it's what it actually is, is holding people accountable for their actions. And standing up for yourself and your community. And helping other people stand up for the community.
Starting point is 00:20:47 themselves. Like, that's all me and Barrett do, to be honest, which is why we get along so well. It's true. Okay, so for those of you that don't know, what we do here on the comment section is we bring videos that I was tagged in, we bring them here applicable to our topic, and we kiki and we laugh, and we share all the giggles about it. I can't wait. So this first TikTok, I just give little summaries of them. In this video, a man films a video of himself in his apartment hallway, which has a weird, narrow metal doorway, but it's still under construction. did this video and you got
Starting point is 00:21:17 taken down. Yeah, I make all the girls that come home with me fit through this because if they can't fit, they probably shouldn't be coming home with me. You know what's funny is I saw a comment on there and said, first of all, this guy's getting eaten alive.
Starting point is 00:21:33 Talk about someone who wasn't making this kind of content until it popped off. Exactly. And he had already had like a platform. Steering into a skid, yeah. That's essentially what it is. He's also like since those videos have blown up in like almost all the comments are me. He's been like, yeah, please stitch me, please stitch me. So I won't. I don't stitch men who beg me. Get off your knees, bitch, is what I have to say to that. But before that,
Starting point is 00:21:55 I saw someone comment and they said, I don't ever have to worry about this because I actually owned my home. I was like, damn, that's a word, bitch. Speak a word, bitch. I love that. What I love, though, is that I think since you and I have, and other people, too, have been kind of making this kind of content, I feel like a lot of times people, make fun of them themselves now and don't internalize it, which is the ultimate goal at the end of the day. Exactly. I'm like once you can do what we do on your own, I'm like, the student has become the teacher. I am here for it. My job here is done. Yes. Like Thanos, I'm like, and now I rest. I retired to a planet with half my face marked off. That's what I'm going to do. The thing about this one specifically one, one, he doesn't fit through it himself.
Starting point is 00:22:41 Very well. No, he like literally is like squeezing through. And then of course, I'm going to, I'm going to It's because I'm six, too, and I'm like, bring out the measuring tape. You know me both. And the other thing about that one that I thought was particularly funny is he literally stole that joke from another one that I had profiled a couple months ago. Oh, yeah. It's always, it's the regurgitation of awful. It's copy paste.
Starting point is 00:23:00 It really is. And then he made the follow up with like the scale. The scale, yeah. You're not original, not even a little bit. Fat jokes are not funny. They're not funny. And I feel like because I can say what I want here and not get my video taken down. I'm going to say what I want.
Starting point is 00:23:12 He looks like a Billy goat that's like, been spit up, chewed out, and then Billy goaded again. Like, it's wild to me how hot these men think they are. And this is part of what I love about being a queer man. Because, like, you know, they go after women and, like, I wouldn't sleep with her. I'm like, we're not trying to sleep with each other either way, but I can tear you apart. And you have nothing really to say back to me about my look. So suck it.
Starting point is 00:23:35 Even me. Like, they would say that to me. And I'm like, okay, well. Do you think I want to go home with you? Yeah. You're ugly. so yeah okay you know love love that for us i guess we're platonic friends for life aren't we that and then when you say that back they're like see that's messed up because blah blah blah blah i thought we were
Starting point is 00:23:58 talking about who we're not attracted to i'm not attracted to you not even a little bit you didn't have to open your mouth for me to decide that you discussed me i didn't need to hear anything come out of your mouth but now that i have double no exclamation point we're done yeah it's almost like okay That's why sometimes when they's like Oh, you're so fat I just go Okay I mean my favorites
Starting point is 00:24:19 I just get fag And you told who What they didn't know what? You said who told you Yeah crazy What Was it obvious? I didn't know
Starting point is 00:24:28 Thank you for letting me know Who told you that Last night some guy commented on one of my things Literally my video from my show He commented I feel sorry for the
Starting point is 00:24:38 buffet that she's been eating All Love Or some shit like that Like real tween type shit. And then I just wrote back, is that your mom's name? Oh, is that your mom's name? And he was like, no, I'm talking about, like, explaining it to me.
Starting point is 00:24:53 I'm like, oh, for two, bitch, you want to try again or no? Swing and I miss, so. My favorites went like in my little bit more spicy time before I, like, had to think more about what I was saying because of, you know, the moderation and all. One of my favorite ending lines was like, tell your mom and your dad, I say hi. Because like, I'm into, yeah. I'll take them all. Exactly.
Starting point is 00:25:13 Honestly, I'll take your girl too. That's what I think all the time. I say that all the time and I mean that shit. I mean that with my whole chest, bitch. I've said to, um, like, this one guy was telling me, um, oh, I was posting about a photo shoot I had done or whatever. I was just like a cute little video. Slay.
Starting point is 00:25:30 Don't minimize. It was like a total thing. And, uh, he was like, I guess they'll give anyone photos shoots nowadays. And I just wrote back, not you. What are you? gonna say to that? Like, what are you gonna say? Like, where's yours then, bitch?
Starting point is 00:25:46 Like, if it's so easy and so... I know. Just like, why would they... I saw this guy tweeted about me when I hosted Black Adam. This guy tweeted about me and was like, but he didn't tag me. He just wrote my name.
Starting point is 00:25:58 Because they're afraid. Yeah, and... I've said this before. You gotta think of me, like, Varus from Game of Thrones. Like, I have little birds everywhere. They are stowed everywhere, bitch. If you talk about me,
Starting point is 00:26:09 they're gonna find it, and they're gonna send it to me. Yes. They will send it to me no matter where it is. I once got something sent to me from a Facebook DM, but it was like they were in Japan. Like they literally found it, sent it to me because they were like trying to send it to me through multiple channels. Girl, I have my little soldiers stationed all over the earth. That's what I'm saying.
Starting point is 00:26:29 So I think that someone had send it to me. And he's like, why would they ever let this stupid fat bitch do this? And I was like, I don't know because I got it. I don't know what you want me to say. Is your dad not the CEO of Warner Brothers? The projection is just crazy. It's so, and like once you see it, and this is what I love, because I do like to have education in my stuff, as do you.
Starting point is 00:26:51 And our approaches are similar. Yeah, very. Once you see it, you can't not see it. And that's my, like as you're saying, when your audience, when your followers, I call my little love army, when they see it and they can start saying it for themselves, I'm like, we've done our job. Yeah, that's the best way to like repay us for what it is we do. do and all the things that we've had to go through as content creators, especially in this
Starting point is 00:27:16 like particular niche. The, the greatest gift you could give me is like understanding that you don't need us. Like someone asked me once like, what's your greatest fear about doing this for a living? And I was like, other than just general terrible people, I would say, I told her I was like, my fear is that sometimes I think people think they won't be able to do this without me. Yeah. Which is just not true. Yeah. Like you, I have more than he quitted. y'all with like enough ammo to get you started but more than any
Starting point is 00:27:48 as far as like insulting them back but as far as like understanding that nothing they say holds any way should not validate you in any way your validation comes from within and that's it that's like my biggest biggest win that's like the only thing I care about you guys taking away other than like general funnies
Starting point is 00:28:03 like agreed I'll give you a few five standard insults that work on everyone and then every man and then like from there you can fly my little birdie. I tell everyone, I'm like, look, my series and, like, the little things I've made, like, they're not mine. Make your own. I would love to see people make stuff that's like, straight guys aren't straight or, like, any of my little fun series. Because it's, it's you showing me that it makes sense to you. Yeah. And I want it to feel like a community and I
Starting point is 00:28:28 and empowering. Yes. And it's nice to not feel like you're, I don't want to say carrying it, but like, like, there's a lot of weight on your shoulders. Absolutely. You know? Yeah. Well, and to know that like any if if I were to ever like move away from TikTok completely I'm not saying that's what I'm going to do but like if that were to ever happen it's okay we're not going anywhere yeah don't worry Papa's not going anywhere anytime
Starting point is 00:28:49 soon but it's more so like it gives you the power and strength to know that you could handle it on your own and you can very much so if you wanted to and you could do it on your own and there's many other creators like us like Kailen Easley who's so great I love her but she makes similar content to us too there's so many
Starting point is 00:29:06 creators like us we didn't invent making fun of men, which we say all the time. It's more so we just made it fun. Yeah. The giggles. Yeah, we made it fun. We share a lot of kiki and fun time about it. Okay, so let's get into these comments.
Starting point is 00:29:18 So this one says anyone who's mad at this are the same exact people saying if he's not six feet tall, if he doesn't have this amount of money, if he doesn't look like this, hypocritical assholes. Who said that? The only people I've ever seen say that are men. So who? I know. I know.
Starting point is 00:29:36 They've done street interviews with random drunk girls on the street. And they've asked them, would you didn't matter if he was under six feet? And they go, uh, I mean, yeah, if he's nice. Like in the wild bitch, they found women and they're like at their most vulnerable state. They're f***ed up and they don't, they wouldn't remember. They could easily be like, never. I only want, hey, hey, sure. And you know that's what they're trying to get out of them.
Starting point is 00:30:00 Exactly. They're trying to set them up. Never. No, never. Street interviews are rancid. The only person I trust to do those is Chris. Clemens, that's it. And I think like, with that like mentality, that is only men passing that down. Like, you're not getting that info from women. You're only getting it from men. A thousand
Starting point is 00:30:18 percent. Yeah. And I am proudly not six feet tall. I think everyone thinks I'm because I used to be a model. And the amount of women that were like, if you played for our team, I'm like, well, little do you know. I'm a fair game player. But it's true. Like, again, this is just a narrative that's been passed down by men that like, and I constantly call it out. I'm like, who do you think once that gym body versus your awful personality? Yeah. Like, that's coming from other dudes. That's a male gaze.
Starting point is 00:30:46 Well, and it also perpetuates this never listening to women when they say things because women will tell you like as a tall, like for me specifically, I can speak for myself. I'm tall. I'm a tall bitch. So I wanted someone, at least as tall as me because I'm tall. So I want someone tall or taller than me. But I'm the exception. Not many women are as tall as me.
Starting point is 00:31:08 So that's why I'm like, you're fine. Like if you're a short king by all means. Totally. Not only that, but when I was dating, do you think that stopped short dudes from trying to hit my line? No, never, because men like that don't give a shit. That's all they are. I only cared because I'm tall.
Starting point is 00:31:24 So I was like, well, I would prefer them to be taller than me. I was never like, I would never date someone short. I've never said that. The whole preference thing is just really a smokescreen for bigotry and hate. Truly, it is. Especially when you put it out online. It's one thing in your own personal life. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:31:39 If you're unpacking it, unpack it privately. Yeah, totally. No one's asked you to come online and tell us what your laundry list of preferences are where you do not match up to those things. Yeah. Not only that, but if you really think about it, why don't women like short men, right? Okay. One side of it could be beauty standards. Who made those?
Starting point is 00:31:57 Other men. Okay. Other men are the ones who have said you have to be tall to be considered manly. That's because of y'all. That's one. Two, a lot of times short men are horrible. Oh, totally. Why?
Starting point is 00:32:11 Because they have what's called the Napoleon complex. Look it up if you don't know. It's important. A short man syndrome. That's literally a psychological thing that they have because their toxic masculinity has entrenched them in this hatred towards themselves. Totally. So they act out.
Starting point is 00:32:26 And a lot of times they're extremely misogynistic or bigoted in general or they're just downright terrible. Yes. Does that mean? that every man over six feet is not awful? No. Not even a little. Not even a little bit. But a lot of times if women are like, okay, well, if I'm going to, if they're all bad,
Starting point is 00:32:45 if they're all trash, I want to date a tall piece of trash. Like if you're all going to be horrible, at least be tall. My whole thing is if they're all horrible, then maybe don't date for a minute. That's what I'm saying. Date yourself. This ring, married myself. Oh, love. Yeah. Look at you.
Starting point is 00:32:59 I did a whole thing with Ryan Seacrest about this. It was so funny. He could not grasp it. And I was like, love you, Ryan. Ryan Seekers, when I did his show, he had to practice my name a few times before I went on air. It's not that hard. It's really not. I mean, it's jarring to look at, but it's pretty phonetically sound.
Starting point is 00:33:15 Like, it's said exactly how it looks. So it's Afuallo. That's what it is. But I sometimes, yeah. He's nice, though. He is super nice. Super nice. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:33:24 Good things to say only. But to rewind and go back to what you were just talking about, even the Napoleon complex comes because they feel like they have to compete with other men. Yes. Which is coming from the men. Yes. That's why I said all roads lead back to Jerusalem, bitch. That's on you. That's true. Take it up with your peers. That's literally why women have those thoughts in the first place. What else did this guy talk about? Money. Again, that's on y'all. Yeah. And also, if you're broke, okay, don't be awful. You gotta pick one. You can't have zero dollars and zero personality. You got to pick one, bitch. It's true. And like, it's not hard to not be awful. It really isn't.
Starting point is 00:34:04 It takes more energy, in my opinion, to be awful. I was just going to say, it's a lot harder to be terrible. It's a lot more taxing to be terrible. It's exhausting. It is. It's so exhausting. And I would know because I'm terrible to be in online all the time. We have like touches of what it feels like.
Starting point is 00:34:20 And exactly. That's a choice that I make. That's an active choice I'm making. But my factory settings are all like me being nice because not everyone is terrible in my own personal life. Nobody's terrible in my own personal life. So, so annoying. And if he doesn't look like this, well, that's just looks.
Starting point is 00:34:37 And beauty is subjective. Amen. We talk about that all the time. Beauty is subjective. It's not the same per person. Everybody has a different idea of what they find to be beautiful. Totally. What I find absolutely insane behavior is to comment on what other people find beautiful.
Starting point is 00:34:54 Like, for example, if you see people in love and you're not attracted to one of those people, who gives a shit? what you think. That's not your love. You're also single. Redirect the energy. Point it towards you. Like that's why someone's like, I feel bad for him. Whenever I post videos with my boyfriend and then I go, are you in a relationship? And then he always go, no. And I go, then feel bad for yourself. That's the craziest part. Like all these dating coaches that are single. I don't get it. Hold on. I want to talk about something. I want to Kiki about this. Let's Kiki. I'm excited. This like whole like high value man thing. Market stocks.
Starting point is 00:35:32 just that? Oh my God. The way that they're like number one online dating coach. According to who? Forbes? No. How are all of you the number one dating coach? There can't be that many number ones. There's no way. Oh my gosh. There was this one guy who I did a while ago, who was older. And I think you even saw this. You may have even talked about him. Maybe. I think what there was a point where like when one person caught wind,
Starting point is 00:35:54 we all kind of caught wind. And it wasn't even on purpose. It was just like all and there they were. But he had a book that was like had to be 5% more man or something. And I just died. That was like the end of the video. Just only five. Yeah. That's all you can achieve. Says it all for us.
Starting point is 00:36:06 Yeah. Five more percent. What if you're at five? Then you just elevate to 10. I don't know. Jeez, Louise. I also like, no, this, this energy, like high value man, this, low value woman, this. Like, masculine this, feminine this.
Starting point is 00:36:24 Yeah. It's fake. Yeah. None of that's real. When they talk about high value this, masculine energy that, none of that shit is real. It's not real. No, no, no, that is real. You know what's real?
Starting point is 00:36:34 Climate change. You know what's real? The economy going south, bitch. You know what's real? Racism. You know what's real? Homophobia. All of those things are real.
Starting point is 00:36:42 Those things are real. Focus on the real world. The way that I'm like, some of you could literally like, oh my God. I like don't know how you pay bills. How do you pay bills? How do you put on your shoes? I don't get it. How do you feed yourself when you walk around thinking like that all the time?
Starting point is 00:36:56 It's just so wild to me how literally the people who aren't going on dates are the ones telling everyone else how they're supposed to get And every time you ask, they go, no, I'm not, no, I mean, not in a relationship currently. What are we talking about then? Like, what are we talking about? And I want you all to remember this, too. You should never take advice from someone who doesn't have the life that you want. Amen. Ever.
Starting point is 00:37:17 Don't ever listen to someone. If they don't, if they're not like. Wait, I brought all the flags. That deserves a green one. Where's the flag? Beautiful. Look at that. That's what I'm saying.
Starting point is 00:37:28 Like a collar guard today. They have nothing that you want. Why are you listening to them? Yeah. Don't internalize it. Don't hold on to it. It's worthless. It truly is.
Starting point is 00:37:38 And be mindful of the covertness of some of the massagia or homophobia. Because, again, like, you know, some people start off sounding kind of okay. And then you listen for the full three minute video. Yeah. And you're like, oh, there it was. That's how I feel about the masculine feminine energy video. I can't stand that stuff. I kicked a whole different Hornets Ness, bitch.
Starting point is 00:37:58 When I did that, oh, my God. The way that the spiritual white girls were like, oh, my. actually gender's a construct it's a man-made invention it's not real like it's not again speaking of things that are not real like i could sit here and tell you all about the pet dragon i had but it's not real it's fake both of them hold the exact same way because they're yes there are things that have been created and then like brainwashed into culture you know what i mean it's not real it's not tangible it's programming to make you hate yourself because when you hate yourself you are more likely to buy stuff to make yourself feel better.
Starting point is 00:38:34 Capitalism is a huge part of that too. Exactly. And when you love yourself, you are not as easily duped into buying crap you don't need. Yeah. Or listening to people that don't know what the hell they're talking about. Ding, ding, ding. Which also costs money.
Starting point is 00:38:49 Believe it or not, many of these online dating coaches are like, don't forget to buy my book and my bio. Like, subscribe and follow in, all the fun things. It's the biggest scam of all scams, just like gender is to. Like, we've all adhered to a gender binary because of colonization and also religion. You see how all those things are linked? Yeah.
Starting point is 00:39:09 If you really, like, it's honestly kooky if you unpack it and you see how all of it is so closely tied. Like religion, white supremacy, colonization, racism, homophobia, all of that. Anti-Semitism. All of it. All of it is so deeply ingrained, especially in American culture, because of colonization. 1,000% It's like once you unpack all of it And you understand that none of this is real
Starting point is 00:39:35 Like gender's not real In sexuality is a spectrum You understand you're like oh I don't need to be bothered by this because it's not real One of the most fun things for me recently Is my fiancee has started to like lean into his own queerness Oh I love Because you know we still as men deal with toxic masculinity
Starting point is 00:39:52 And thinking we're supposed to be like cis straight men Yeah look a certain way Yes Yes I'm again like I'm sitting here in like a lady thrift store shirt and he has started to really like find his vibe with just like fun clothing because it's fun. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:40:06 It's not gendered. And it's clothing. Yes. Again, it doesn't mean anything. Like when I had Hina on, Hina's a non-binary creator, heena started talking about how like, I'm not going to congratulate you from wearing a fucking skirt. I'm not going to do that. Like, because it's a non-gendered piece of clothing and you're not the first person who identifies
Starting point is 00:40:26 as a man to wear a skirt. It's not groundbreaking. No, it truly truly is. Good for you, but you're not getting a high five. And you're all, exactly. You're not going to get a pat in the back. And that's what I think too about like bare minimum shit. Like when men say things like, oh.
Starting point is 00:40:40 You picked up your own underwear. Good job. It was your underwear on the floor. Yeah. Oh my God. Hold on. That just reminded me of something I got. Kiki, let's go.
Starting point is 00:40:47 We're going to keep going. The video, did you see that video of the girl? Oh, in Lieber? No, no. But the one, she made marks on her shower. Like her tub. Okay, she made marks on her tub where her boyfriend's, like, cleaning stuff was. So like soap, lufa.
Starting point is 00:41:04 Okay. Right. Like, I don't know. I think it was just. See if it, like, got moved? Yes. Because she said she had a feeling he wasn't using soap in the shower, bitch. So then she goes, have you washed your, like, did you shower?
Starting point is 00:41:19 He goes, yeah. And she goes, did you wash yourself? He goes, yeah. And then she goes and she looks in the shower and none of the shit is moved. So you can't see the marks. He's like laughing and she's laughing and she's laughing and she's going ha ha ha ha ha And he goes I rinse off with water What?
Starting point is 00:41:38 What? What? Look, what I'm a dirty hippie at heart like I spent 45 days in the woods hiking like I I can vibe but there comes a point where you need to clean yourself Also why would you like turn on the water and just like dance in the bathroom and then get out with your hair wet from the thing? What are you a kid learning to brush their teeth? Exactly what I was thinking. Are you insane? You put on an egg timer and you're like,
Starting point is 00:41:59 you better brush the whole time you're in there. What? You're doing that to your 30 year old boyfriend? And the fact that people find it funny is kind of heartbreaking for me. It is. It's so sad. Like, because you deserve better.
Starting point is 00:42:12 It makes you want to jump off a bridge, bitch. It makes you want to blow up the world because we're doomed. Yeah. What are you a deer? Why are you bathing like you're in the Himalayas and you have no access to running? Which is a privilege you should be grateful for. Even when you take your dog to the groomer, they use soap, bitch. They use soap to clean them.
Starting point is 00:42:33 And they're animals who can clean themselves. And they still use soap. How are you not using soap? And you're grown man's ass. How are you not using soap? Again, like dirty hippie vibes over here to some extent. It's just part of being an adult to take care of yourself. And it helps you with like longevity and health.
Starting point is 00:42:52 Do you have a job? Do you go to work with a stank ass on purpose? though, do they? I couldn't tell you. Because the amount of women that I see carrying men these days too, I'm like, girl, why are you doing this to yourself?
Starting point is 00:43:02 He was wearing basketball shorts and I said, I can only imagine what those smell like, bitch. Oh my God. We all know that locker room. The way it's, I can only, the toxic waste
Starting point is 00:43:15 that is in those chunnies, I can't even imagine. I can't imagine. And I can't relate. And I think to myself, that's toxic masculinity. It's gone too far, bitch. It's got,
Starting point is 00:43:25 It's like literally toxic. Like actually to me at that point, that's why I think like at what point does it start to affect me? Because now I have to see and a lot of people in the comments were like, why are you laughing, girl? And like I was getting like what's so funny about finding out that your boyfriend hasn't been showering? Unfortunately, it's the coping mechanism of being like, I don't know how to process this any other way. And so I'm going to laugh at this. You share a living space. I know, I know.
Starting point is 00:43:53 It's like that story. I think I told it on the show. show before, but I'm a Virgo, so I repeat stories, I'm so sorry. But like, there was one... Don't apologize for being yourself. Don't apologize for being yourself. Oh my God, you're so real for that. There was this one girl
Starting point is 00:44:07 that told the story about how, like, when she was hooking up with this dude, they were dating. And, like, obviously, when you, like, have sex or naked, and he was sitting on her bed. You do it that way? You can be. What? It's crazy. You sit, like, they were naked in her bed, and, like, he sat up to, like, you know, he was sitting on the
Starting point is 00:44:23 edge of her bed, and then he stood up to get dressed. And she said there was poop. No. On her sheets, bitch. The way that I would be like, hold on, give me one quick sec, ball those up, and then jump out the window holding them. Well, my question is, were they doing something with the butt? Was their butt stuff? No.
Starting point is 00:44:40 Or was it just him being dirty? She said that. She said that. She goes, that wasn't, that wasn't me. That was him. Like, and she said the first time she gave it a pass. Why? I don't know.
Starting point is 00:44:53 But then she said three more times Every time he stood up There was poop on her sheets Again, queer You know, you play with fire You're going to get burned every now and then But that's not what the story sounds like Yeah
Starting point is 00:45:08 And that's why she said she gave him multiple chances And then she said she asked him And he was like, oh, I don't wash up there Because that's gay That drives me insane It's gay to take care of your body Uh huh You know what's more gay
Starting point is 00:45:22 being afraid of your own butthole. And I'm convinced this is a big problem of why toxic masculinity is, and I'm about to go on a rant. Men are afraid of their own buttholes. I'm sure. Could you imagine not being aware of all parts of your body,
Starting point is 00:45:35 which then leads them to not get prostate checks, which causes cancer? That's, I mean, that's a good, serious. That's a really good point, but then also, can you imagine thinking that it makes you more of a man to have poop in your butt?
Starting point is 00:45:48 I can't. I cannot. This is why I, honestly, it was stuff like this that made the word man really confusing for me because I was like I don't want to identify like this I feel you. And it's really why I've had a hard time with that word. And as I come into my own unique manness, which is really more humanness for me, I'm like, okay, I found like my version of it. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:46:06 But I feel like there was not a lot of healthy versions of masculinity or male role models growing up. And so like my role models have always been women. I'll tell you what. Poop in the butt. I draw the line. I draw the line at poop in the butt. You know what my friends? Like, come on.
Starting point is 00:46:19 You know what my friend told me she used to wax? She's, you know what they call it when, because believe it or not, some people will go get wax. have poop in their butt, which is just absolutely... It gives me nightmares. That would stress me out if I was going somewhere public with someone that wasn't like a close personal part. That's the part that blows me. You have poop in your butt.
Starting point is 00:46:39 That's fine, I guess, to an extent. But like the fact that you know you're going to be Woody the poo and you're going to be squatted over in the most vulnerable position in your life and you have poop in your butt. Girl, but then she said, you know what they call it? What? In the waxing energy, I don't know. There's a term for it?
Starting point is 00:46:54 Yeah, I don't know if it's... I mean, let me know. Lay it on me, let's go. She said they call it pumpkin butt. No. Also, this episode is officially moving the butt. Because you know how like when you carve a pumpkin and you took off the lid, there's like shit. I don't know.
Starting point is 00:47:15 This is too far. We've gone too far. Oh, the way I would shoot myself in the head if someone called me a pumpkin butt girl. And it's because I had little like pieces of poop hanging out. This is what happens when you put us together. That's all, man. that's literally men like that who are like, that's gay, I don't wash my butt.
Starting point is 00:47:32 All of them are a bunch of pumpkin butts. And you know what? That's your journey to take a loan. I cannot go with you. I can't. I can't. I'm so sorry. You know,
Starting point is 00:47:40 I've done a whole TikTok series about my bidet. Highly encourage people invest in them. They make ones that are... I've heard lots of good things about bidetis. Do you not have one yet? No, I don't. I found my gift for you. Oh, I love it.
Starting point is 00:47:51 A tushie. I've had a Tushie for years. And before the pandemic. And then during the pandemic, they kind of blew up. And then they were hard to find. And I was like, people are just getting onto this. Oh, that's right. Because of the toilet paper thing.
Starting point is 00:48:00 Yeah. And like, you know, I traveled a lot. I've been everywhere. And like, they're very common. So this is the- Everywhere but the U.S. Yes. So this is what I've really learned is like poop in the butt for men. Apparently is an American thing. Yeah. Dude. Dude. I wouldn't put it past them. It sounds right. It sounds about right. Yeah. Like just a bunch of pumpkin butts. It's honestly upsetting. I will never forget pumpkin butt.
Starting point is 00:48:26 Thank you for that. Thank you for that gem and jewel. You're welcome, honestly. Woo! Okay, let's see these last few comments. This one says, it's an evil world we live in. He's cold.
Starting point is 00:48:37 That's why he's the goat. That's so fucking lame. You guys, I can guarantee you, won't remember this. Cool. This video or anything in like a couple months. Do you think goat is overused at this point? Yeah, I think it's hilarious to use it in ways that are super not necessary. I love.
Starting point is 00:48:54 So, like, if someone makes your coffee real good, you're like, you're the goat. You're so real for that. Thanks. I love how you have taken bro culture and totally flipped it on his own head. Yeah. I love it so much. Yeah, the way that I'm like, you're so real for that. Hey, stay up, Kings.
Starting point is 00:49:07 You know what I mean? Question. Sure. Has it become accidentally a part of your normal vernacular now? Because like my friends and I back in the day would call each other bro as a joke. And then we started doing it seriously. Oh, yeah. What's funny is before I became anybody at all publicly, I was like...
Starting point is 00:49:23 Don't roll your eyes. She's famous. I would literally... call people bro all the time. I think bro my sister and I would call it each other that to be funny. Yeah. And like brother and stuff. I love you guys. Now it's like a thing. Now it's like a thing thing. But like I love
Starting point is 00:49:38 that. I think it's, it's really fun when you say it to them because they hate it. And I love them all about that. That's the best part of it. Yeah. This last comment says, if girls can have a preference, so can guys. I guess. If you want to have a preference,
Starting point is 00:49:53 they prefer to have pumpkin bed. That's on them. So added to the list, I guess. Again, no one's telling you not to have your preferences. We're saying don't be an asshole online and use that as your way to like talk about stuff. That's just mean. Well, also and unpack why you have it. A preference is rooted in something. It's different to be like, I want someone who loves anime, right?
Starting point is 00:50:16 That's like a preference that you can't get mad at them for having because if that's an interest they have, they want to have a partner that has a shared interest. Cool. But like when you say, I just, I never want to date a fat person. why? Totally. That's not a preference. That's a prejudice in those two very different things.
Starting point is 00:50:33 It's bigoted and it's rooted in a bigotry of some kind, which is in that case, fat phobia. So like, because that's the thing about that. I made a video about a guy who was like, if I start dating a girl and she gets fat, even if she has kids, I don't want to be with her anymore. I did that one also. Was it the white guys? Yeah. I was thinking of a different guy. But you see how it just, it all, it repeats over and over and over again.
Starting point is 00:50:56 It's the same. It's a never-end. song with the same like five things that they say but in that sense um this guy was like he got upset that people got upset at him like he they get they get mad and it's like see if you're so comfortable talking about it but you're not okay with people reacting negative to lead to it which makes no sense and that's why in one of my videos i said if you mean that shit then stand behind it that part like like you're a coward like on top of that you're a flip-flopper like pick aside and stay on it bitch. Like if you're going to say I hate, I never want to date fat women. And then people are
Starting point is 00:51:31 like, well, you're ugly and disgusting and I hate you. And they said, why would you hate me? Just because I said, I have a preference. Just because I have a preference. And then I say, and then I say, well, I'm not going to date anyone. That's not heavy enough to sit in the front seat of a car. And then they're like, oh, so you're going to get mad at me for things you can control. That's what they always say. Oh, you know. I'm like, girl, it's, we'll be here all day. That's what I always think. Exactly. We'll be here all day if I gave you the time. And the truth of the matter is, it's part of how we're all programmed. It's in all of us.
Starting point is 00:51:59 So you have to just go, it's there. Why is it there? How can I do and be better? Because it isn't healthy for me to carry this stuff around. Exactly. And it's hurting me. And potentially finding like real love too. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:52:15 I always say almost all the people I have dated before the pandemic. The pandemic changed everything. I met in real life and I probably wouldn't have swiped yes on them. seeing them in person and getting a vibe and just being more open because you don't know anyone really through this like personified resume with a headshot. Yeah. And it's just like you're losing out on so many wonderful possibilities. Yeah. And if you really spent enough time unpacking your preferences, you would understand all of these internalized, bigoted thoughts and beliefs that you have had and held on to for a long time.
Starting point is 00:52:51 And I would know because just like everybody else, I was a pick me at one point. We all have internalized misogyny, racism, homophobia, transphobia. All of that is literally. All the hate is in all of us. Yeah. And it's our job as taxpaying, contributing members of society to unpack it and unlearn it. Yes.
Starting point is 00:53:11 And then go from there. And then you'd be surprised how much happier and more fulfilling your life is. Amen. And you're not holding on to hate. Yes. And I say all the time like, I want you in our love army. I want you to be a part of what we are doing. I want you to feel like you are in a place where you can heal and grow because that is how boring to be this hateful person for the rest of your life.
Starting point is 00:53:32 Yeah. We live a long time today. Yeah. And I think too, I've said this too to people like the shit that I say on TikTok, like the jokes that I make, that's not mean. That's not mean. I mean, it is mean, but it's not me being actually mean. If I was actually going to be mean, it would be me telling all of these dudes who act and believe in these things. I was like the reason why you act like that is because you are aggressively mediocre in every way, shape, and form.
Starting point is 00:53:59 You've never been the star in your own life. You've only ever been a background character. So the only way you feel good about yourself is by attacking people who are the stars in their own lives. It makes you feel good about yourself. But then you're going to live an unfulfilled, normal, mediocre life. And you're going to die that way. At best. That's mean.
Starting point is 00:54:16 Yes. That's an insult, bitch. Because it's true. It's true. And that's what happens when you, that's why I'm like, Why do you think everyone who's bigoted is ugly? That's God punishing you. I've been trolled for saying stuff like that.
Starting point is 00:54:27 It's true, though. I mean, you heard it from Drew. Yeah, I'll say it to your face, bitch. That's why you're ugly because that's why your hairline is ass. That's why your calves and your genetics suck. It's because you're a bad person. The end. And like only drains want to drain you of your fountain energy.
Starting point is 00:54:46 Period. Fountains want to hang out with other fountains. Amen. You're only miserable because you don't know how to get yourself to feel a little bit better, which we all want... I want to see you feel better. Yeah. I don't care either way if you feel good or not. You can feel good, bad, indifferent. I don't really give a shit.
Starting point is 00:55:01 As long as you don't bring it on TikTok and I have to look at it. And this is where I say, I feel like you have every right to say that because I know people get at you for that stuff, but I'm like, as a woman of color, you deal with so much more that people just don't take into account and it's up. You will, and I'm tired of waiting. As are most people. We're tired of waiting on you. Like, if you want to make your own life better, do it on your own time.
Starting point is 00:55:22 In the meantime, though, catch these jokes, bitch. That's what I think. If you can catch. If you can, I doubt it, though, since you didn't make it off JV in high school. All right. That's still generous, though. Okay, so that's actually the only video we're going to talk about today because we had a key, key, fun time. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:55:38 We talked too much. I'm sorry, but I'm not sorry at all. Don't be sorry at all. That's the best, the best kinds of episodes. Honestly, the last one I filmed, we didn't even get to the videos. Oh, really? We were talking too much. I mean, that would have been easy, but I'm glad we did.
Starting point is 00:55:49 Those are always the best kinds of videos, honestly. They do the best and have the most fun with those because we get to love and have so much fun. Thank you so much for coming. Oh my gosh. Thank you so much for having me. Oh my gosh. Are you kidding?
Starting point is 00:56:01 I'm obsessed with you. Same. And I cannot wait to see you continue to crush it and be an even bigger star than you already are. Same. Because you do. You have something very special about you. And I've said this you before. I'm going to say it again.
Starting point is 00:56:11 I'm going to say it on camera. If you don't like it, it's because she's shining so bright that you're blinded. Just put on your shades. It's going to be okay. Thank you so much. Thank you all for checking in on this 50th episode of the comment section show. Make sure y'all go check out and follow and be obsessed with everything Barrett is doing as am I. Where can everybody find you?
Starting point is 00:56:32 You can find me at Barrett, B-A-R-E-T-T, Paul, P-A-L-L on everything. That's it. Love, absolutely love. Please go follow Barrett. Please go join his love army. I'm obsessed with him. You're in it. Everything he does.
Starting point is 00:56:43 Absolutely. I want everyone else to join too. Yes, please come on. We're recruiting. We always are. Yes. Please come join and make sure you follow and like Everything Bear does because he's flawless and amazing and I adore him.
Starting point is 00:56:54 And thank you all for joining us on this episode of the Comment Section Show. If you liked it and you want to watch full episodes, they drop every Wednesday on the Pastor Bedtime YouTube channels. Make sure you subscribe to that. You can also stream every episode on every streaming platform that you can stream podcasts from. So Spotify, Apple Podcast, Amazon, all that stuff. You know where to find me, bitch. But I will see you next week. Happy 50 episodes.
Starting point is 00:57:16 And I'll see you later. Bye.

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