The Comment Section with Drew Afualo - Analyzing Your Relationships | THE COMMENT SECTION with Drew Afualo | Ep. 2

Episode Date: March 1, 2022

[video available on Spotify] I’m bringing on Emily Gracin, otherwise known as emgracedawg to the internet, to breakdown attachment styles. Which relationships are toxic and which ones are secure up in my comment section? Drew: https://linktr.ee/drewafualo Emily: https://linktr.ee/emgracedawg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am ready to get hurt again. Yeah. I have taken my time, I feel, I'm ready to reopen it. Run it back. Yeah. Let's run it back one more time. For shits and giggles, I'm a little bored in my life. Run it back.

That's just lesbianism though. I don't know. That's just how it's... That's just how it be sometimes, I think. Hey, what's up y'all and welcome back to the comment section show with me, your girl, that bitch, Drew. And I tell you all the time, I am not just a menace on TikTok. I'm spreading like poison ivy, bitch to

every platform and I'm bringing everybody with me. So on this episode, this very special episode of the comment section show, I have the one, the only, the wonderful Emily Grayson. Hello. They're clapping, but you can't hear them, I promise. There's definitely people here. It's not just the two of us. Yeah, everyone's clapping. It's not silent. They are they are soaked. Their panties are soaked. They're on their knees. They're on their knees. They cannot believe it. They're shaking and they're convulsing. Shaking, crying, thrown up, sliding down the wall. I'm so glad to have you here, Emily.

Thank you so much for joining me. Thank you for having me. I honestly, so excited to have Emily here. We're basically what we do here, Emily, if you're unaware, is on the comment section show, we'll basically show two videos that I got tagged in. And then we're going to bring in some hot stuff that you got tagged in. And I always like to say, too, that basically what we do here is I like to ruin people's days. I love that.

Essentially. I do it already on TikTok. But now, like I said, I'm spreading to all the platforms. I think you should go to lives. Like you're like days, but you should like be like, I want to ruin their life. I mean, I guess that in a sense I am ruining their life. Okay, yeah. Runing their day so much that they think about me forever.

Yeah. I guess that translates to a life. Exactly. Right. Like, I'm a lifelong, like I'm like a tumor. Yeah. You just put me in that head. I'm going to grow, grow, grow, grow, grow, go.

I'm going to go crazy in that. I'm going to go stupid in that head. Chemo radiation cannot stop. Nothing's getting in the way. I'm inevitable, technically. So basically on this episode, Emily's going to help me look at these videos that I got tagged in. But our topic for today is relationships and more specifically attachment theories. So like I honestly, let me ask you first.

How familiar are you with attachment theories? So familiar. You should like, I've been reading a book on attachment theories because, girl, am I anxious? Like, you don't want to know. I know enough. I know enough to get by. Kind of like astrology. Okay.

Like I know enough to like talk my way through a conversation. Yeah. But I wouldn't say I'm an expert. Okay. So, but how are you, how do you act? I mean, you've been in a relationship for a minute. Yeah. So it's going well.

Yeah, I would say my, it's a secure attachment. So you have good parents. Essentially, yeah. Good for you. I would say you're like, I can tell. Yeah. Based up your attachment theory. I think I wanted to really dive into this because I've seen your videos on attachment

theory and how you were like I wish I was avoided yeah I saw that one I have an ex is avoidant I'm like girl you're just a robot like must be nice must be nice to never feel anything yeah I'd never be worried she wrote me like a seven page letter about she's never felt anything before like she just doesn't have emotions and I'm like girl that's fun though good for you like I wish okay so the first video that I'm going to show you Emily the wall I'm going to describe it to you I'm going to give you I'm going to paint you a picture right and so I'm sure you're familiar but there's a podcast. I won't say the name of it.

Okay. But it's two baldies. And they talk shit on women all the time. That could be anybody. But these men in particular go viral all the time on TikTok for the worst reasons. Okay. And so basically this is a clip of him talking to a woman who was formally in a relationship with a famous NBA player. Okay.

And they broke up. Like she had his baby when they were together. Basically they broke up because he like couldn't. stop putting his dick in other bitches. Oh, I know. Yeah, you know the one. I'm aware. I'm aware.

Yeah, so basically he couldn't stop cheating. And so she was like, I'm gonna bein out this bitch. But you're definitely taking care of this baby with me. So, of course, all the men are like, gold digger, huh? Right? Like, just trying to eviscerate her for like, I don't know, asking for an active father figure in her child's life.

Crazy. That's just so crazy. Women expect way too much. Yeah. I have to, like, be responsible for the consequences of my own actions. Nothing's ever good enough. So basically this dude is telling her to her face It's a dude that's not in any way, shape or form

affected by her relationship Whether or not she has one or not with this dude He's basically telling her that she should stay And work it out with him You should stay. You should stay. I mean, if it were me, if I was the girl, which, pause. Yeah. I feel like maybe there's something there

that you should look into. He's like, if it were me and I was with him, and so he's basically telling her to stay with a cheater which i mean i'm sure like anxious attachment styles people stay with them too yeah but okay wait he's saying to stay with him because why because he's the father of her children or well he basically well that's the kicker no that's not the reason why which would make the most sense right even though abuse at the hands like that kind of emotional abuse just for the sake of a child is not fair.

Because then you both are bad parents to their job, right? Yeah. But he was basically telling her because he's a one-percenter man, one-percenter, which is like a wealthy influential person. Okay. Then she should try to work it out with him. That's his reason. Yeah.

So why would you encourage someone to stay in that situation? Yeah. I feel like, I feel like anxious people though are more like not the type to like be complacent. Like I feel like that might be more of. avoidant, honestly. Because anxious people are like, the ones that's like, are always like, what's wrong? Like, why are you acting weird? Like, are you cheating on me?

Like, oh, but like the people who are just like, oh, I'm just going to let you, like, I know you're cheating on me and I'm just going to like not saying you about it. That's like that might be more avoidant because it's just like ignorance is bliss. Like I'm just going to take your money. I don't want to know. I'm just going to not. I'm not going to acknowledge my emotions. I'm pretending that I'm fine.

Yeah. Like I'm cool. It's fun. Yeah. Like I know. And who cares? I feel like, I feel like, why are you acting this way?

Like, why don't you love me anymore? Like, blah, blah, blah. What's wrong? Constantly, like, almost like waiting for the other shoe to drop all the time. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, I feel like I just find it so ironic because this mentality, and I said this in my video, is like adopted by normal ass dudes.

Yeah. They're like, I don't get it. Like, I work at fucking AutoZone and you don't want to stay with me when I cheat on you? Yeah. That's crazy. They're like, I have like an average size dick and I work at AutoZone. And like, I get victory royale on Fortnite all the time. And you're telling me that that's not enough?

Yeah. Like, I also can't cheat on you. Yeah. That's what you're saying? That this, like, mentality of, like, one percent is like, they, like, can do what a . Okay, but you're not one of them. Yeah.

I just find it so odd that, like, these plebians are speaking on behalf of rich people all the fucking time. They're like, if that weren't me, it's not. Yeah. Stop that sentence right there. It's not. It's never going to be. It's never going to miss their best buy.

It's not in the cards for you. You know what I mean? Like you're working at Enterprise rental car forever. Yeah. You're working at Alamo for the rest of your life. And even if it was like, what do you really bring you to the table besides money? Like, no one really care. Like, women don't really care that much.

They think they care that much about them. I mean, I'm sure there are some, like, sometimes on my 40-page I see, you know, 18-year-olds with these 70-year-old sugar datties and make it for you. Like, that's fun. You're having fun. But that's not most women. I mean, I don't know. not going to speak i don't know i don't know well even those like subset of women who like again it's reciprocal like they know yeah they're all hit to the game they all know exactly whether they're yeah

he's there because she's hot and young there's nothing else going on and they think that's so funny because they think that they're winning for that but really the the woman is winning for that like you're losing for that my guy like you're not winning you're losing someone's taking your money they're using you literally for your money and you're winning question mark she won't even let you touch her Yeah, literally. No, no, no. Can you Vemmo me those $700 first? She's like, no, no, no.

She doesn't even send him picks. I didn't get my payment last week. Then I'll hang out with you. Yeah. And you're winning. And they're like, period. Like, I got a hot piece of ass at home. Well, and then there's those two.

And then there's a bunch of baldies on the outskirts being like, that's so fucked. Yeah. You're dating for money. Yeah. And it's kind of like you're not even in the equation. Yeah. You're so worried about how other people are eating.

thing. Yeah. You're starving out here. You're not making any type of sense of what you're saying. You're telling you're telling bitches to stay with people with money, but then when they're staying with them, they're like, oh, but they're just using them for their money. What do you want? You're ugly. That's exactly my point. You're ugly and you're mad. Yeah, look. Just say that. It is what it is. It is what it is. It's okay. We can all be upfront about it. It's fine. You know what I mean? And we're all aware. You're just not. It's not a secret. It's not a secret. We all have. have eyes. Exactly.

You know what I mean? The God gave us all the gift of sight for a reason. Yeah. So we could recognize it. I could smell that shit from a mile away. I'm like, I've never seen someone hate from outside the clubs to be hard, dude. They're like, if that were me. We get it.

And that were you, but it's not. But it's not. So some of the comments on this video are funny. But this one says, bro got his heartbroken in high school and decided to make it his entire personality. Yeah. So I can like, me, I got done. so wrong back in the day when I was 14. He asked so he promposes someone.

They said no in front of everyone. And now he has it out for everyone else. He's like, just being mean to everyone he means. I hate all women for the rest of my life. He probably asked out some girl who like never even talked. He's never talked to in his life. And he was like, well, you go to prom with me? And she's like, who are you?

And she was like, you know what? I'm okay. And he's like, bitch. He's like women. These bitch things are all the same. Basically, okay, so we're going to play an attachment theory game, where I'm going to explain something to you, and then you've got to guess which attachment theory it is. Okay. But before we do that, let's talk about the different attachment theory.

Secure, which is like, good one. Yeah. And then there's anxious, which is just basically temp gauging constantly, right? Whether it's like in an antagonistic way or in kind of like a worrisome way. And then there's avoidant, which is robot. Yeah. Robot. It's black mirror robot.

Yeah, no, no, no. Yeah. that's that's what that is and I think there's disorganized attachment theory which from what I read is kind of like

you have this intense attachment to someone but you're also very you live like almost in fear of them so like it's almost like a fear of loss but also a fear just in general like an intimidation it's so interesting yeah which I it's you know from what I read

stems from abuse of some kind so warning right but like like it could be any kind of any kind of abuse really but like it's almost like uh like you keep coming back to something that's hurting you which is oh i'll be doing that i mean it's fun you're like i know you're bad for me but i'm attracted to you because of that you're like you know what i am ready to get hurt again yeah i've taken my time i feel i'm ready to reopen it run it back yeah let's run it back one more For shits and giggles, I'm a little bored in my life.

Run it back. That's just lesbianism, though. I don't know. That's just how it's what it is. It's just how it be sometimes, I think. Yeah, you know what? That's what I'm like, I'm so aggressively heterosexual, unfortunately from myself. It's another world.

Yeah, it's so different. Attachment theories, I think, get more nuanced because women are smarter. So women are more emotionally mature and cognizant than men. Yeah. Yeah. There's more, like, attached and, like, he-he-he-he-h-h-ha. Everything's fun. much more like emotionally in tune yeah like men like men are like andrethals no yeah and that's why i feel like

but also that's why i feel like issues in like straight relationships go on on addressed yeah address for so long because the men are just so unaware and the women are like i just don't even feel like bringing it up to them so they're just like together for so long and there's no issues but like there are issues they're just not aware. They're just kind of like playing a blind eye. Yeah, we're like, women are like, you breathe weird 36 seconds ago. Are you cheating on me? Let's sit and talk about it. Yeah. We have a lot to discuss. Yeah. You gave me a very weird look today. Yeah. And you didn't hug me long

enough before you left. Exactly. No, that's literally lesbianism. That's it. I feel like maybe something's wrong. Yeah. And like, speaking of, we're going to play this attachment theory game. So I'm going to read something out to you and then you can like guess what attachment theory that would be. Okay. So this says you quickly obsessed over the people you date. anxious.

I don't know. You were laughing, but I didn't know if you felt called out by that. Is that, does that apply to you? No, I'm actually the opposite. Okay, cool. That's where you said you could be multiple at the same time. Yeah. Also, just to get more gay, I'm a Sagittarius moon,

so just no one intrigues me ever. So it takes me a long time to like someone. That's actually anti-lesbian because people are like, very you-ha, like, I'm obsessed with you right away, but I'm just like, who are you? Like, I don't like people. I don't trust you yet. Yeah.

It takes me so long. They got to get past that firewall before they can really get to know you. Like anyone could just say that they like me, but like who, do you really though? But do you? Yeah. Yeah. Well, that's also anxious waiting for the other shoe to drop. True.

Right? Yeah. Okay. So this one is easily trust others. Anxious or secure. It's secure. Which is odd because I guess that's why I'm saying like I think I'm anxious and secure because I don't very easily. trust others.

Yeah. No fucking way, dude. The Virgo in me won't let me. This one is insecure in relationships and are chasing people. And are chasing people? Yeah, I think you're just like, I don't know. I guess it's just like. Anxious?

Yeah. Yes. It says insecure in relationships. Swag. I think that's pretty obvious. Yeah. Yeah. Because this one's having a hard time taking criticism.

Avoidant. Yeah. New, right off the bat. Oh, I'm aware. Right off the bat. They're just like, I'm not trying to deal with this. They're like, I did something wrong that hurt your feelings. You're attacking me.

They're literally like, I'm sorry that you reacted that way. I'm sorry that that made you feel that way the way that I acted. I'm sorry that you reacted so poorly to the really mean thing I said to you. Literally. That's kind of seemed like it's on you a little bit. Yeah, but I mean. It seems like you don't really need me for that conversation. Yeah, I'm going to go to sleep.

They like they sleep fine at night Knowing that they did something really mean Knowing they just don't give a shit They're like See ya Okay so for this next section We're gonna go over another video that I got tagged in Which is actually a positive one for once

Right and I was telling Emily My mentions are hot dumpster fire It's Garbo in there I can't imagine A cesspool truly I'm like a little raccoon like digging through it every day Yeah No

Looking for treasure Even just like anytime your video pops up on my for you page like the first 10 seconds. I'm like, what? Like, what TikTok am I on? And then I hit that, like, your cute little hyena laugh. And I'm like, oh, let's fucking get it. You're like, yeah, I get comments like that all the time.

They're like, I got to trust the algorithm just a little bit more. Okay, so this one was basically, it was positive, but essentially it's about secure relationships and they, like, wanted to share. Okay. Which is like, way to rub it in your face. We get it. You're secure. We're not mentally ill.

You're happy. You're loving, healthy relationship. Cool. Good for you. So they basically talk about how they, the saying never go to bed angry is bullshit. And sometimes you have to go to bed angry, I think, to like process. So like what are your initial thoughts on that? I agree.

Yeah. Honestly, because I've been with someone who they're like, I just don't want to go to bed angry. Emily, but like we're like, when we were together, we'd be like fighting and I'd be like can we please just table this like tell her in the morning yeah yeah and she'd be like Emily Emily please and I'm like we said everything we could say tonight maybe we should just blow off some steam sometimes like you can't just fix it before you go to sleep just because you're about to go to sleep yeah emotions don't work that way yeah you know like it it almost like prolongs it it's not natural yeah to be like okay everything's fine when it's not

like you feel things you can't control when you're going to stop being upset about something like when it actually when you actually feel fine like say that but like you know you know what's funny is it's like so ironic that I'm talking about this because I was that bitch like I literally was like it wasn't like go to bed and everything I just was like I want to fix this now and like my boyfriend is like I literally my brain is out of words yeah like literally and it's so funny because he's like when we would like grow and evolve through it because like when we felt like crazy it was it was hard to like see it going well yeah but then like when we would like he would communicate to me finally.

He would be like, you just think so fast. Like, you just say all these things and you talk so fast. I'm like, I don't, like, I cannot think that fast. Like, you process so quickly and like, you say all these things. And then I'm like, oh, my God. Like, he just can't keep up with me when I'm in that state. Like, sometimes people are like, oh, like, when you fight with your boyfriend, like, do you do it like this? Like, when I roast people, I'm like, there's nothing funny about when I'm angry with my boyfriend.

There's no laughing. Yeah. There's zero laughing. No one is laughing. It's honestly terrifying. I give him all the props. But you know what? He's fucking hard to deal with too.

So we're like real equal, I think, matched. Yeah. But he had to tell me that. I honestly had to learn. Like my sister taught me that. She was like, sometimes space is good. Yeah. Taking some time away is good.

I had to learn. I was that bitch too. Yeah. Okay. I'll be honest. I was that bitch too. I was a bitch like, can we fix it?

Like please like I'm freaking out of blah. And then I realized that like you can't just, we could both fake that everything is okay now. We're going to sleep. Yeah. We're just like, you can't rush something. If you're rushing it, it's not really going to be fixed. Oh, just so you can sleep peacefully tonight.

Yeah. But then the problem's going to linger. And it's going to turn into something bigger. I would always be like, well, we have to fix it now. And he'd be like, why? And I'm like, I don't know because I said so. What do you mean? Why?

Good point. Yeah, he's got me on the ropes. Yeah. And I was like, oh, I got nothing to say back. He's got me fun. I'm like, okay, well, you got me there. Nothing gets me more mad than when he has like a solid point. When you said something you're right, you're like...

Yeah, and then I'm all... Whatever. You know what? Why are we even fighting? You're like, grow at him. I'm like, you know what? You're just gaslighting me. I just like start gaslighting him back, like, immediately because I'm like, no, I don't do that.

That's a joke. Relax. That's why I can't imagine being with a man because anything he'd say even... Because like, if a girl, like, says something right, I'm like, okay, like, you're right, like, you're a queen. Yeah. But if a man says something right, I'd be like, no. I'd find something.

I'd find something. I'd find water and. in that desert. I find something. I would dig so far deep. I literally, I've never right. I literally said to because my boyfriend and I have known each other since high school. So we know each other for like over 10 years. But like everyone's like, oh, high school sweetheart no dude, no fucking way. If we dated and I think we would have killed each other. Yeah. I'd be in jail. Yeah. And by week, I mean, I would have killed him because he was infuriating in high school. So I wasn't nearly emotionally materina to be with him, let alone anybody at that age. Yeah.

when I'm like 17. Yeah. So I used to be that like, you know what's funny though? Going to bed angry, a nice alternative to that is like not that, but like never like leave the house without saying I love you. I'm not advocating for going to bed angry. Yeah. But go to bed respecting each other still.

Yeah. We love each other, respect each other. But we're not done with this conversation yet. And I don't feel okay yet. And that's okay. We're still good. Yeah. I still love you.

But I'm not just like, okay, everything's fine. feel fine now. Yeah, because that's not fair. Yeah. And that's because me, I'm like, once they say, once we say sorrys, like, once stories, like, once sorries are dealt, I'm good. Like, I'm good. I'm back to normal.

But, like, sometimes he needs more time than I do. Yeah. I'm like, like, how much? Yeah. Like five minutes. I'm like, okay, I'll give you 15 minutes. Yeah. To get over it.

I'm just kidding. I don't do that. That's a joke. But, like, as I grew older, I was like, okay, space is good. And you, space is good when you're fighting. And you learn with someone that, like, if you love them, you're willing to give them that space. Even if you don't like it, you're like, okay, it's what they're fucking mean. Exactly. I literally was like, you know what? This bitch. Yeah. I'll give you 15, sure.

Yeah. Take five, buddy. I'll see you a little. So some of the comments on this post are, is it just me who can resolve things with their partner in under 30 minutes if given complete trust? Because it's trauma telling me not to go to bed angry. I mean, not everyone, I mean, there's no need to flex. Not everyone can fix their problems in 30 minutes. There's no timestamp, really. Like, I've had, I've had arguments. last like 12 hours. We're not running the mile here. I literally, I've gone to work and like gone fucking run errands and I'm still fighting. Yeah. We need like context. What's to fight about? Yeah. What are we? What are we? What's the contact? Yeah. That seems like a flex.

Yeah. Like a slight flex. She's lying. Literally liar. She's like in a fight right now. Like, well, is it just me or me and my partner? Can solve it in 30 minutes or less. Like on chopped. Yeah. They're like, make a, the four-course entree and 30 minutes are left. Yeah. She's like, done. She's like, done, bitch. Meanwhile, her partner's like, I'm not okay.

Yeah, she's like, but I am. So it's over. Thank you very much. No, girly. Okay, this one says, I watched this and realize my whole life, I've never had anyone model a healthy relationship for me. Period. Oof.

But I mean, whatever works. You know what I'm saying? Whatever works, babes. Yeah. That's why representation is important. Yeah. But her parents probably did her. up and like I get it.

Tell them. Yeah. I get it. You're like twins. Twins. My parents say good luck, bitch. They're like, ah. They're like, ah, sorry.

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Oh. And then we can, at the end, rank, like, best to worse, essentially. Okay. Okay. So this first one says, just got broken up with my U-Haul girl currently trying to get rid of my temporary tattoo. Okay. As an empath, I'm thinking it's yours. It's obviously mine.

U-Haul. Is she straight? That's literally lesbian. Is it a man? No, she's gay and she's unwell. It's fine. And you're like, come on in, babes. Yeah.

Open arms over here. Welcome to the club. We're welcome everyone in here. Come on in. Bring it in, buddy. But not the tattoo. Oh, I know. I'm not getting a tattoo with anybody.

No, never. No. It's just never. I mean, like, you don't want to say, like, what if it doesn't? But, like, what if it doesn't? Even if I, like, it'd be fine. Like, at this point, like, I, you could tattoo a penis on me. Like, I really wouldn't care.

But, like, I'm not. Not a girl's name, though. I don't want to be bonded with you, like, that. Wait, that makes me sound like I'm not intimate. I am. But I don't want to have to have to be. Yeah. Intimacy can be spiritual or emotional. It doesn't have to be physical.

Yeah. You don't have to physically be intimate by branding yourself like cattle. You know what I mean? We both have like, no, I hate it. But yeah, that's mine. But we have to rate it like numbers? We'll rate it at the end. Okay, like which one was the best and which one was the worst.

Okay. Okay. So this next one says, men with podcasts. How to Train Your Female 101? I'm going to go ahead and say, Yeah, I'm going to go ahead say you. Yeah, as an empath, you. Yeah.

Me. As an empath, you. I'm sensing you. I'm sensing me because I shit on men with podcasts all the fucking time. Yeah. Okay, this next one says, no, because every man I work with thought I was a lesbian, just because I didn't want to talk to them, LMAO. I don't know.

It could be either. It could be either of us. It really could be. Because, like, it doesn't have to be me. Just because, honestly. Just because she said the word lesbian, it doesn't have to be good. No, I, no, that's true. like it could very well be from mine as well

I honestly feel like it's yours I think so too you're trying to throw us off right now right I think so too just because yeah no because I work with a man every man thought I was a lesbian well I mean that's just what men always say I think because he said she said I thought I was

and then wasn't like I am one yeah she was like but I'm so straight that was the end of it yeah so that got cut off yeah but I would never yeah sometimes I kiss girls when I'm drunk like yeah she's like but I'm like I'm like like, ew, right?

That's not how we feel. Just, that's a joke. Yeah, it's a joke. It's a joke, relax. Okay, this next one says she's roasting people on looks like she doesn't own a mirror. I'm going to go ahead and say me. I'm going to go ahead and say me. I'm going to go ahead and say you.

And you know what else I'm going to say? I'm going to say this person doesn't have a profile picture. I'm going to go so far as to say it's probably an anime one. Yeah. Oh, hell yeah. Or a fucking 20-year-old meme. No. You know what I mean?

Like with blown out eyes or some shit. I'm private. Yeah, literally. She's supposed to be like... One, two, three, five, five, five, five, seven. Like, girl, shut up. I get that all the time. She's supposed to be people like, she doesn't own a mirror.

Yeah. I'm like, do you? Yeah. That's what I say, I say all the time. What if, if I pulled the random stranger, who do you think they would say is better looking? Yeah. Be honest with yourself. Yeah.

You know what I mean? Let's talk about it. Let's talk about it. Like, let's really talk teams. Mm-hmm. Like, if you really want to talk teams. Yeah. Do people try to come for your boyfriend?

Yeah. Because I think he's a cute guy. Yeah. But in my head, like, I was thinking to myself, like, if you're coming for men, they're going to try to come for a man that you're close to, obviously. You would think. You would assume, right? But these men are so, they're in a fucking vice grip by the male gays,

toxic masculinity, that they see how big my man is and how, like, muscular his and shit. Yeah, and he's cute. Yeah, and he's handsome, objectively. And then they're like, you look so good, bro. Yeah. I swear to God, he gets needs to. all the time hey bro you look fucking great you look you're looking great looking good feeling good honestly I kind of want to kiss you on the lips anyways I fucking hate your girlfriend yeah just so you know

your girl was a fat bitch I hate her yeah but looking good man I said dude I can't I can't imagine the the grip that toxic masculinity has on you that like they can't help but respect my man yeah because he's a cis straight man like they yeah they can't help it they're like yeah he looks like what I think I look like yeah okay I respect you Roe. I respect you, bro. This one says the joke sort of right over his 5-5 frame. I'm going to go ahead and say mine. Yeah, I'm going to say you. I think I remember seeing that on like one of my most recent videos. His 5-5 frame. How are you going to try to insult a woman and your 5-5? My guy?

I don't know. You have to be this tall to ride. I'm saying. Where are you? I'm just like, I mean like you would think. You would think it would be well and that's why I'm saying like the body shaming argument. Like they're like, oh like he by shame and she by shame right back like i get that all the time but i'm like okay you did it first now you want to talk about morals yeah all of a sudden you got a moral compass that points due north yeah okay none of us have them that's what i'm saying well see like you're so that means gloves are off bitch like i could literally that's why i said i say silly shit i said you worked at the movies and you lost your mind yeah if i really wanted to be

pointed in me and i'd say mean or shit but like yeah you're just here for the silly goofy time You could be saying way sillier shit. You're pulling up pictures of animated characters. And they're like, she's a bully. And I always say, if I'm a bully, then I'm a bully of bully. So I'm like Robin Hood. Yeah. I'm taking from the rich and I'm giving to the poor.

Yeah. I'm helping everybody else. You're just doing what you're, what you were born to do. Yeah. Someone's called me Dexter. Yeah. So, yeah, I'm murdering. Yeah.

But I'm murdering bad people. So, like. Exactly. You really got to think. You know what I'm saying? Is it bad? There's a purpose. Right?

Again, this last one says, one time me and my cousin got into an argument, and he said my attitude is so bad, my breast milk would be sour if I had a child, and I still think about it. I feel like that's maybe yours. I feel like I would have remembered that if it was mine. Sour? That shit goes bad. Like, cutting out like cottage cheese. Yuck, dude. No.

The image alone makes me want to shoot myself. I'm kind of like, I'm not like even mad at that. I think it's kind of funny, to be honest. Like, yeah. That's a pretty specific roast. That's a pretty specific. I wonder how long he was cooking that up. Yeah, he was like writing out his notes.

He's like, I'm waiting for this bitch to say something to me. Say something to me. And I'm going to light her up. She's never going to forget it. Yeah. That could be me. Honestly, it could be me. I think that's yours.

Okay, which one's the best one? Honestly, I think the best one is she's roasting people and looks like she doesn't own a mirror. Yeah. Because those make me laugh. Yeah. Those are funny. No, that's funny. I agree.

And I think the worst one, would probably be wait now I can't remember them there's breast milk the joke stored right over his right over his 5-5 frame no it was before it was like the second one oh the no because every man I work with thought I was a lesbian yeah that's the worst one easily

yeah that's the worst one because you know there's like a little edge to it yeah yeah it's like yuck yeah and not me and I could never be that they thought I was a lesbian I'd rather die she's literally like she's like not me though I mean I kiss her girls when I'm drunk.

A kiss you through a napkin when I'm drunk, but only through a napkin in between us. Like when you smoke, what do you smoke? You blow smoke in each other's mouth. Yeah. She's like, that's like, the other person's like here. She's like, yeah, I had my first gay experience today. Breathing another girl's air. Yeah, she's like.

I think I might be gay. I think we should talk about it. They'll probably hit you up after that, honestly. Yeah. Okay. So on this next section. we're gonna have Emily bring up actually one of her own videos, which is so funny because that was like a big reason why

I wanted to talk about this with you because I see your videos on attachment theory. And I thought they were so funny. So I was like, this is the perfect topic to discuss with the expert. Oh. On attached, on anxious attachment theory. Okay, baby. What are you doing?

Are you going to the bathroom? Okay, can you give me a kiss? Hey, come give me a kiss. I love you. What's wrong? I love you. Okay, no, go to the bathroom then. No, fine.

Empty your bladder then. I didn't, I literally don't care. I'm to your bladder. Whatever, you want to do it without me. I get it. I'm annoying. I la la la la. I'm making fun of the bitches who are like that because I'm actually not like that.

Like I said. It's anxious. It's anxious, right? I am anxious, but not on that way. Yeah. Like she's like, you're going to the bathroom? Where are you going? Well, give me a kiss first.

Well, you didn't look at me in the eyes before you're going to the bathroom. and like, go, relax. Like, they're going to the bathroom. I'll be right back. The comments in that video are actually funny because they're like, well, what if they stop being in love with me when they're, like, on the way to the bathroom?

Like, what if they catch someone else's eye that's more attractive than me when they go to the back? Then they do. People are so scared of the person they're with cheating on them. Like, if they want to cheat on you, they're going to cheat on you. Let them. Yeah.

Then you shouldn't be with them. No, seriously. Why are you going to babysit someone from cheating on you? Let them cheat on you. I literally always think to them like you, you, you, you, whatever people do or how they show you they are, like believe them. Yeah.

Like whatever they show you or or make you perceive about them, like believe them the first time. Yeah. If they showed you that one time. I'm not going to try to make you not cheat. Why is it doing for me to make you not cheat on me? Why would I want to do that? Yeah.

Like you're standing guard constantly. Yeah. Like you're patrolling all the time. Yeah. Have fun. It sounds exhausting. Yeah. And if you don't, I always think too, like if you don't have trust, you don't have anything.

Yeah. Like there's literally no point in being there in the ship of you don't To each other yeah what's the point like I need you know your phone password and like where are you and who you with like if you don't if you think they're gonna cheat on you you just say that and then don't be with them Yeah like you should well you shouldn't have to be fucking Constantly like checking someone like to see if they still love you if they don't show you they love you Yeah They could just show you without having to tell you and if they're giving you that reason to think that they don't love you then you have to ask yourself like why am I with them. Yeah, literally. Like, what's this doing for me? Yeah, what's it doing for me? Other than causing me

utter and sheer panic all the time. And I, and as an anxious person, no way. No. I'm like that constantly in my own friend. Yeah. I don't need you adding to it. I like to describe it as like, you know inside out the movie? Yeah, but I didn't watch it. Oh, okay. Well, you know the premise of it. It's basically like the emotions. Yeah. Okay, so like I talked about this with my boyfriend once. Because we were talking about like which emotions are in the head, right? In, in your head. Because, you know, The main girl in the movie, she has all of them. It's like happy, sad, angry, disgust fear, right? And I was like, for me, it's probably like angry, like, four fears and, like, one sad.

Yeah. And Happy she's checked out. She didn't clock in today. Happy's gone. She's gone. She's on vacay, but she'll be back. She's using all her PTO and she's never coming back. She's hurt.

And for my boyfriend, there's like an imaginary friend character in that movie and, like, his name is Bing Bong and, like, he don't do nothing but around. Yeah. That's the dude in his head. Yeah. He's not even at the desk. He's not even checked in. Yeah.

He's not working. He's like, I'm just vibe it. He's elevator music. Yeah, it's just constant. It's like a hamster running on a wheel. Yeah. And he's just like. Yeah.

And I think must be nice. Yeah. I envy people like that. Yeah. Same. That's what I'm saying. Like, I'm really anxious, but I feel like I'm like him in the, in, I've just not scared someone cheating on me.

Yeah, there's no stress. I'm not stress about it. And also, because I just feel like if they did, of course I'd be hurt. I'm a human. Yeah. But I just be like, okay, I'm good off that. You showed me who you were so about. Yeah, I'd be like, what the .

That's how, and that's, I think, the thing with both of us with cheating. Because I don't worry about him cheating. I'm not worried. If you did cheat, like, okay, suck a big fat dick. See ya. Bye. That's what I think. I literally like, okay, see ya.

Of course I'd be hurt. Because I feel like people would watch just be like, oh, you're lying if you said that would hurt your feelings. Of course I would hurt my feelings. It's not going to be like, well, I'd be hurt. Well, let's think about what. Yeah. I don't need to know why. Because I know where the fuck I am.

Well, and the more details I hear, the more I'm going to hate you. Yeah. Spare me. And the more I'm like, something's wrong with you. Yeah. Like, that's a you thing. That's a you thing. I didn't do anything wrong.

Literally. The comments on your video are what you were saying. Like, one of them says, but what if they die on the way to the bathroom? Yeah. Which, I mean, it could happen. It could happen. Always say I love you before you leave the house like you said. Yeah.

I'm a vicious. I love you. person, but not like, you're wearing the bathroom. Okay, give me a kiss. Look me in the eyes before you go. You love me? Let's spiritually connect and then we'll be part ways. I like make videos where I'm like severely roasting people like that and people are like, oh my God, me. I'm like, girl, this is not a flex. Me. Me, this is so me. This is so me though. Being insufferable, me. That's so me. Oh my God. So me. I'm so like that.

And it says being in a relationship like this is so suffocating. You'll end up apologizing for the most obscure things and have to constantly be forced to feel. Yeah. Which. That sounds like an avoiding. They're like feelings. I'm being forced to feel something. You're all, no thanks.

No. No, they're like, feelings not for me. Yeah. This one says in a healthy relationship, yes, you will spend time, want to spend time together, but it's also normal to be apart. 100%. Well, yeah. Yeah.

It's like one of those things where it's like, well, yeah. Yeah. I mean, yeah. That's going to the bathroom shouldn't be counted as time apart. Yeah. Or even having like a day apart, like, you should have more than that. You should, it's unnatural to be with someone every second of every day. Yeah, literally.

And then you'll grow to resent each other eventually. Like, there's no way. There's no way. You're going to get into fights if you're with someone constantly. Oh, yeah. With like the best person in the world. You could be the most in love and you'll still fight because it's just human nature. Yeah.

And then the last one says, oh my God, am I the drama? Yes. Yes. Yes, you are. take that and process it. Hold on to it. The answer is yes. Okay. The end. The end. Okay, so that's going to do it for this episode of the comment section show. Thank you so much for joining me and thank you so much again to the wonderful, amazing. M. Grace Dogg, Emily Grayson, the one and only. Thank you so much for having the time to sit down and talk about attachment theories with us. Thank you. Thank you for having me. And like I said earlier, I'd love to meet up again, talk all about astrology. Yeah. No, I'm going to eat that shit up.

It's in my blood. It's my gay agenda. Let's talk about it. You're pushing the astrological agenda. I'm waiting for someone to ask me about astrology at all times. So you can get right in there. Yeah. No, I'm shitting it.

And also, I think our lessons for today are to understand what your attachment theories are, right? Look into it. Come to terms with it. Accept it. And embrace it. And if you're that kind of anxious, go to therapy. Get your ass to therapy. Anxiously run immediately.

To a therapist. And honestly, everyone should go to therapy. Yeah. Highly promote everyone going to therapy. Everyone should go. Even if you're secure. Yeah. I mean, I thought I was.

Turns out I'm not entirely. You're a little mentally ill. Period. To be honest. So where can everybody find you on social? I am Grace Dog, Instagram. Twitter, Snapchat, TikTok. I'm starting a podcast of my own.

It's called Clown College. K-L-O-W-N-Q-O-L-E-G-E. Look out for that. Also, I'm starting to stand up soon. So if you're in the L.A. area, come see me. Yay. Thank you so much for joining us, Emily. It was all blessed.

And thank you so much for joining me on this episode of the comments section show. Make sure you check us out on all streaming platforms. New episodes drop every Wednesday. Come find me, bitch. Woo.