The Comment Section with Drew Afualo - GYM BROS HAVE WORMS IN THEIR BRAINS | Drew Afualo ft. Naomi Hearts | THE COMMENT SECTION EP 42

Episode Date: November 30, 2022

[video available on Spotify] Drew welcomes Naomi Hearts to the show this week to talk all things living your truth, why gym bros are obsessed with meal prepping, unpack why men think makeup is a "trick", and so much more! Drew: https://linktr.ee/drewafualo Naomi: IG / TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You know, I, like, really hate this bitch, too. Like, I really hate her. But she's not ugly. I feel like we should stop saying that because that's not true. Real, recognized, real. Yeah. You know what I mean? There's nothing realer.

But a dude being like, I really hate that bitch, but she's not ugly. A hundred percent. Fair. Fair. At least you're honest. A win is a win. I'll take it. Exactly.

Everyone, and welcome back to another episode of the comment section show, starring me, your favorite. Everybody knows me. Who cares about me? Today is a very special episode because it comes with my very special guest, the one and only Naomi Hearts. Hold for a pause. Hi, how are you?

I'm so happy to have you. I'm so happy to be here. Naomi and I go way back. We really do. Ten days. Not even. Just kidding. We, for some reason, we've always ran into each other at events.

We're always at the same events. Always. And sometimes it's really awkward and it's just the two. of us in there. What are the two of us always there? Yes, the first time we met was at a Glacier event. Yes, we did. And it was so awkward and quiet. It was just us too there. Yeah. It was a good time. I met mom. I met Drew. And it was like someone introducing us like, oh, like here, me. Yeah. And it was almost like a like a meet cute, like in a rom-com, you know? Yeah. And at the moment when they lock eyes, that was the two of us. And then we met

each other every corner I turned you were there at VidCon. She was fully following me. She was literally following me. I literally said that. I was like, Naomi's been following me this entire time. I was trying to get on the podcast. And it were not you gaslighting me. I could. I was like every chance that I got, I would just, I saw you, oh, hey, no. It was. It was just so random. It was Disneyland. It was the hotel. Yeah. At the Spotify lounge. Literally. Everywhere. Every corner. Every corner I, every corner I turned. I was like, this is not the Mr. Beast event. This is the Naomi Hearts event.

Yeah, I was there. As I see everywhere and I didn't see Mr. Beast once. Did you? No. No. I think it's funny because you and I have been online friends for so long. It feels like 10 years that we've been friends. It's been a year.

So this is our anniversary, not today, but November. Literally just this year. Like a year barely. That's crazy. It feels forever. Time is such a construct. What have you been up to lately? Working, twirical.

American? Fuponzing. No, honestly, not much. I've just been kind of like writing this wave. We just both got named on the Discover list. 50 TikTokers to watch globally.

Global creators. So that was exciting. That's been the biggest thing so far. I love that. I think that's really, and you even mentioned too, there was only five American. American creators on there.

And the two of us were part of those five. That's like a, you're also someone too who I think. is very familiar with hate because I get I hate all the time and I never heard of them never heard of them

I think it's also we have kind of like two opposite ends of the spectrum hate right I think a lot of times and I think that your content is so I think inspiring to a lot of people for obvious reasons

but kind of like how my content is too like you're in a loving relationship you're married yes tea bitch period zoom in catch them catch them

yeah and I'm in a long term relationship too how long? Five years seven so look at that but I also I think that speaks volumes

to especially haters because they like to say girls like us are never going to get married but they love to say that they love to say that about us it's strange honestly because it really is two ends of a different spectrum

like yeah they always want to say that fat people are never going to find love. And it's like, babe, I'm in love. I'm living. I've been in love. Yeah.

And even if it's not my husband, I have a loving family. Yeah. I have loving friends. I have loving followers. Like, and people hate to see that. They really do. They do. And they hate to see like men like the two people that were with, for example,

loving us unconditionally. Yeah. And without shame. And that really grinds their gears, bitch. It makes them the teeth. They get so mad. They do. They get so.

hateery really really quick. It's honestly, I'm like, that sounds like single bitch problems. Yeah. And I mean, it's okay. It's like for me being like a trans person, being a plus size person, being able to find someone who loved me for me was on its own something that I never thought would happen. Yeah. But I also think that there's a lot of people that never thought it would happen. And so for it to be there and be so public. Yeah. I feel like it just, like you said, it grinds their ears. And it's, I think it's, also speaks to how like they're so convinced that you have to be a certain way,

look a certain way, act a certain way in order to garner the attention of a romantic partner. When you're wrong, babe. You're wrong. Wrong. Like, you're literally wrong. And also, because for me personally, like, they always, like, are like, this is the ugliest bitch I've ever seen in the entire world. I'm like, in the whole wide world.

In the whole wide world. I always think, like, do you live with only Bella Hadid? literally no way. You've only seen her every corner you turn. You only see Belle Hiddly. There's no way, bitch. There's no way. Right. That I'm the ugliest person you've ever seen in the entire whole wide world. I'm not ugly. I mean, I know that. Yeah. You're not. No, but honestly, it's hard. It's like, it's a lot of projection. It's a lot of self-hate and I've learned that through content. It's like, when I'm creating and I'm posting and I read a comment, I'm like, is this really how they feel or is it projection? Truly? It's projection.

100 times out of 10 it is it absolutely is and it's like um it's almost like the intense the most intense form of brainwashing because they've been brainwashed to believe that like if you look like a certain way no one's supposed to love you right or care for you right and then when this person that they think fits in this like box is being loved and being loved unconditionally they're like wait a second I hate myself how come we don't hate yourself yeah and it's sounds like a personal problem I just, why live your life hating yourself when you can just love yourself? Like, it just doesn't make sense to me. Yeah.

And also, like, not focused on it. I think you're someone who's really good who's like, well, I mean, babe, that's a you thing. That's a you problem, babe. I'm like, you know, the amount of time someone has told me to eat a salad and I'm like, babe, I'm going to eat a burger. Like, I just don't. It's not for me. It's like, the amount of time you have said, oh, you're going to die tomorrow. I'm like, I'm still here.

It's just, I'm over it. Check back in with me in 24 hours. Let's see. We'll see. We'll see. So how did you get into making content? So it's an interesting story because truthfully I started making content to get my foot in the door. And I always say it's like being plus size, being trans, being Latina.

Like I know some of the privileges I hold with being passable, being light skin, being on the thinner side of the plus size spectrum. But at the end of the day, like I also knew that in a world full of people that are thin and white, the odds were against me. And so it really was to get my foot in the door of entertainment. Once I made content and I saw people really react to it in a way that was like you love yourself, I can love myself too. It shifted from getting my foot in the door to just helping one person love themselves a little bit more. Yeah. And that's really why I do it.

Yeah, I love that. I think that's something our platforms have very similar like threads to because for me, I think we both knew this. like neither of us really expected any of this to come out of making videos on TikTok, obviously. But we both, I mean, like, same thing with me. Like, I really want to move into more, more like traditional forms of media, which I think we're both doing anyways.

But, like, you know, this platform has become something completely different. It's almost like it's bigger than us at this point. Like, it's not just about us and, like, our own personal career goals. It's, like, about all of the people that we. inspire and like empower. Because I'm sure you get messages all the time. I get messages all the time too about like people saying they draw strength or courage from my videos and they like teach themselves how to like how much they deserve and how

much they like should love themselves and should give them themselves the permission to love themselves. And I think that's a big threat in your content as well. Yeah. And that that really is what like motivates me to do it because it's like it's hard. I always tell people it's a journey. Like I did not get to this place if I don't give up, you know, overnight. Yeah. It took years of like learning to embrace who I am as a person to really get to this point. And now that I'm here, I'm like, I'm not going back.

I'm not going back. Too far gone now, babe. She's bad. So speaking up, we're going to talk about our topic for today, which is living your truth, right? And how hot women, two hot women. currently in front of you, right? Thank you. We're embracing who we are and how some like terrible men,

they really, really hate that. So I have kind of talked about this in other episodes as well, but like how when you're so far removed from the male gaze, they almost get more offended than when you're like feeding into it because they're like, I can't believe that you don't want me to hook up with you. I can't believe you don't want me to be attracted to you even though I'm not attracted to you and I'll tell you how much I'm not Right.

They like, so when they tell you like, I think you're ugly and then you go, I think you're ugly too. They're like, okay, that was rude. Why would you say that to me? Why would you see that? I've gotten that countless times, like literally on the way here to film this episode today. Today? Yeah, I got a, I got a tweet, like a hate tweet. I was talking to someone completely different.

The men always insert themselves as they always do. And they were calling me like fan ugly. And this one guy like literally put a picture of like, I think what's his name? Ed the hyena from Lion King. He's the one that laughs crazy. The laugh I'll concede on that. Right, right. Sure, similar cackles, whatever.

But he was literally like, no, the eyes are just farther apart. But wrote me a colorful description of like just me being ugly. A fan pic. Yeah. And then he has a picture of himself on his profile. Okay. And I took a picture of it and I retweeted,

like I quote tweeted it and I said, there's no way you want to talk about looks. There's no way, bitch. There's no way. Be so for real. There's no way. There's literally no way. His hairline starts at the back of his neck and he wants to talk to me about looks. Bitch, come on. Bitch, come on. Okay. Come on. Lie to your mom. Don't lie to me. Yeah. I just think like when you tell me that I'm ugly, like you're lying to God. You know what I mean? Same thing to hell. Yeah. Like, I mean, God doesn't like liars. I feel like that's applicable in this. In this world, in this particular situation, I mean, I don't know. That's on you. You're taking that to your grave. That's not. you. 100%.

That's the same thing with you. I'm sure when people tell you things you're like, come on. I don't take it personally. It's like I always tell my followers don't send hate to a person because I'm like, for me it's like hate and hate don't win. But it's like sometimes it's just, it's so hard because it's like it's always the same people. It's always like, and I'm like they are the ones that fetishize fat people the most.

That's so funny because I just talked to Tess Holiday about that. And she said that too. She said like all her dating apps, it's nothing but Jim Bros. It's wild. Yeah, the way that they do. They fetishize the absolute shit out of fat women in general or just fat femme people in general. It's like that call's coming from inside the house. I'm like, this ham is closed, babe.

You got to keep it pushing. Close for business. You got to find somebody else. It's true though. Right. You know what's funny is I had someone. on Twitter, it was a while ago, it was like months ago, but someone was saying like, you know, whenever a new white guy finds me,

they're like, this is where but they like kick up dirt. And then it's like we're all, it's like Groundhog's Day. I'm reliving the same day over and over again. And this discourse starts. And then someone on Twitter was like, you know, I like really hate this bitch too. Like I really hate her. But she's not ugly. I feel like we should stop saying that because that's not true.

Real recognized real. Yeah. You know what I mean? There's nothing realer. But a dude being like, I really hate that bitch, but she's not ugly. A hundred percent. Fair. Fair.

At least you're honest. A win is a win. I'll take it. Exactly. Honesty is the key to success. Listen, I think we'd all be happier if we freed ourselves from these lies. Yes. You know what I mean?

So for this episode today, we always, what we like to do here on the comment section is we bring videos that I was tagged in that are applicable to our topic today. And then we're going to talk about him. down, Kiki, all that stuff. Okay. So this first video is, this girl is filming a video of herself at the gym with the caption, me gaining 30 pounds of muscle and then reveals that she has stretch marks that have appeared on her thighs and how she's, like, loving them because she's like feeling strong, getting strong, all that stuff.

Right. Shocker. Some men weren't too fond. Drum row, please. I know. Are we like so, so surprised. Like this first one, this first one. this first comment says not 30 pounds of muscle but okay well okay what's crazy is um

bodybuilders like male bodybuilders too um they also have stretch marks when their skin stretches it doesn't always mean fat it means like your body is stretching a different way yeah yeah and you would know that if you worked out at all or like loved yourself i don't work out but i know that it's science, but it's also like if you loved yourself you would probably also know that or not feel the need to comment it on a stress I 100% I think it's like it's this gross misconception because I talked about

this with test too that they never seems to care about the opposite end of the spectrum when it comes to like caring about your health they never care about bodybuilders or people who develop eating disorders because they're so entrenched in the fitness industry right, no care at all about that right they only care about what they deem

is unattractive 100% and it's odd because I've talked about this too before it's like you only hate me because I'm fat you don't care that I'm fat if you yeah or like my health I should say yeah you obviously care that I'm fat but you don't care about my health you just hate the fact that I'm fat but it's like if I was out here like let's just put this like hypothetical hypothetical like having unprotected whatever yeah right that's also a danger to my health but people don't care about that and people are doing that every day. Yeah, that's too, honestly.

And it's like, and it's same thing with like smoking, drinking. Yeah, I was going to say that. You know, it's like stuff that you can't really see. And it's just they don't really care about the health. It's just about shaming people that are fat because it's better to ostracize a group of people than to accept them. Yeah. And also, they have been convinced that that's something you should hate about yourself. Right.

And especially when fat people do not hate themselves, that makes them even more mad. like even more enraged or inclined to comment something terrible. 100%. Because they're like, I literally have been told my whole life to hate myself if I, if I'm fat, so you're fat and you don't hate yourself, I hate you. Like, that's weird.

You're a weird. And also a lot of these kids, too, like they're, I always call them kids because they're so young. A lot of times the dude who write this shit. Some of them aren't. Some of them aren't my age older. But like, they like smoke the hell out of those little jewels.

The vape pens. The vape pens. like those are so bad for your health like unbelievably terrible like have you seen people trying to wean themselves off those because it's like smoking a pack a day out of like a two couple puffs i didn't know that it's true they're so terrible for you but like that's health related like you said it is and they'll they'll brag about buying a bunch of them or being addicted to them because it's literally a nicotine addiction yes and then they're like but fat i just care about your health me personally i just care about your health

And I'm like, you're not a doctor though, so. Yeah. You're not her personal physician, so maybe you should mind your business. How about that? I also think, too, that they didn't care when, like, the industry standard was, like, rail thin. You know how they made up that term heroin chic? Right. They didn't care about that.

A hundred percent. And that was not healthy. At all. Like, literally not healthy at all. I think, too, that I talked about this once with one of my fans, but in, like, the comments on one of my fans. some of my videos when I was like dragging a gym bro, which I love to do. It's like, you want to talk about my hobbies? That's one of your biggest one.

Upsetting them. But it was literally, she was talking about how men like that literally have no idea what weight displacement looks like. So like they'll say like, I don't want a girl who's 215 pounds, but they have no idea what 215 looks like. At all. Like at all, especially on women of color, like if you don't even factor in race, Like once you start factoring in race, like build all of that stuff because like BMI is racist. So it's like nobody holds weight the same. Everyone's body is different.

Yeah. So like they have no idea what that looks like. Like I literally had a dude be like you're literally like 300 pounds. You think I'm 300 something pounds? Like he said like 380. Also I want you to look me in the eyes and tell me that you genuinely believe I'm 380 pounds. And he was like, oh well, no. I guess not.

But like you look close to it. I'm all. you're an idiot like you're literally you're a moron i feel like i don't it's just to get like a rise of people i'm like it's just so dumb to like assume people's weight and it's like for me like realistically like i'm 350 we're not the same no but also it's no one's business at all like at all it means but it means nothing nothing at all to anyone literally that's why i was like the fact that we talk about we people have talked about body positivity and stuff right i always talk about i think it's great to love your body but i'm for me personally i love to strive towards body neutrality

i just don't want to think about it at all i want it to be whatever right i mean like it exists to keep me alive and to keep me healthy and that's and the health is determined by me and my position alone right it's not determined aesthetically because what you look like has nothing to do with your internal health you could be in the best shape ever and literally inside be like internally very unhealthy. 100%. Well, look at like, that's why I said bodybuilders.

They're like peak physique, but on the inside, they're very unhealthy because they're not eating right or anything like. They're like starving themselves a lot of times. So when I think about situations like that when you want to talk about

your relationship with your body, I feel like it's so personal. It's like so specific to the person. So when you say like, I just really don't care, it doesn't upset me if you call me fat. Like I tell people that all the time. Calling me fat does not hurt my feelings

because it's not an insult. At all. Literally, it's just a word. They've given it this power to try and hurt us, but it doesn't affect me. Literally at all. Try harder. Yeah, that's all I was like, okay. When they say, you're fat.

Okay. Damn. What if you just were like, all right, well. Thank you. Is that it? I love it. Anything else? Try, I like always try harder.

The insults are just like. Yeah. The meanest insults I get, YouTube. Really? Yeah. I feel that. It's a lot of children. Yeah.

It's a lot of children. I get that because. on my shorts, like when someone makes a YouTube video about me, I always know because like there's a bunch of terrible people looking for me on YouTube and they write the most asinine comments. Some of them don't even make sense. At all.

They're like the most broken sentences and insults. Like it's got they're trying to I always say like they picked like the biggest fattest animal they can think of. Right. Elephant. HIPO. What else? Who even knows? Mine's a buffalo. They call me a buffalo at the time. But that's a racist

this like microagestion against my last name because one white dude said it. So then they're all like, they're so funny. It's so dumb. I once recently, I saw this girl who was kind of beefing with this dude. And he's like, he's one of those like men's rights, right? Like activist type dudes, which like newsflash, you have rights. You got plenty of them.

So many. Peak of rights. You have so many rights. You have so many. But she was kind of beefing with him. And his whole thing was like he didn't like her content or mine by proxy. I don't know. They always bring me up.

They always bring me in white folks' business, they always be bringing me up. Right. And he was like because I feel like it's your responsibility as people with platforms to be nice to men who are openly bigoted towards me or other women or anyone else. Like if they attack me, if they're racist, fat-phobic. like just say the most wild shit to me. It's my responsibility to be nice. Yeah, to be nice to them.

As a woman of color? And to shield their identities because I'm all, otherwise I'm encouraging cyberbullying. And he's like, and I don't think cyber bullying is good. Oh, blah, blah, blah. And sometimes I genuinely think these men think I forget their faces or like who they are or what they've done in the past. Oh, you remember?

Yeah, I remember everything then. I'm a Virgo. So it's like, you know what I mean? I got a little like file of, facts up here and I just like be going through it all the time. Okay. I have a photographic memory. So I remember faces very easily. I may not remember names, but I always remember

a face and where I saw it and what month I remember it and all that shit. So like I commented on her video where she was arguing back with him. Okay. Her video was really good. But I wrote on her video, I'm like, I think I'm begging you guys to go look for the video he made about me, unprovoked, months ago.

Go look for the video he made about me and you tell me if he's against cyberbullying. go ahead and go through those comments man you tell me i just think like if you're going to be a hypocrite like for what you if you are for cyberbullying you're cyberbullying somebody else like how are you going to tell someone on to cyber bully because the tables have turned you know like girl what i was like when i when i like i'm like you guys said this terrible shit about me they're like well you said that you're okay with making fun of looks i go i am you guys aren't that's the difference you want to body shame me that's fine

but I'm going to do it back and you can't cry. That's my only rule. If you're going to do it, then I get to do it too. Right. Only rules. You know what I mean? Rules are rules. They really don't like when you turn it back on them.

I think it's because sometimes they just can't think as quickly. Some people are just very like fast on their feet with the wit and you're one of them. Yeah. I'll probably be stuck. You know, but I, yeah, they probably get upset because they cannot come back as quick. It's just harder. It's like the thing you said about the salad jokes. Like, I get those too.

Anything else? You know what I mean? Anything else? It's wild. Hit the gym. I've never thought about that before. I've never even heard that. Like, I've never heard that.

I never thought of it. I would never. This next comment says, Not a good idea. Your muscle will be fat in 10 years. Stay skinny. And it goes into you want us to work out

but then like are judging how we look or what's going to happen in 10 years. Don't get too big you bitch stay small stay small also it's giving me pedophile it's weird it's yeah

it's like when did we get to a point which obviously has always been here but we're like men get to dictate what we look like yeah man it's crazy if you really think about like just capitalism as a whole

and how they would market things to men and women. Right. It was almost always determining what was good on women, like what looks nice on women, like what is just the most like, this looks good, all of you need to look like this. Right.

And it's always like, whenever I get into like, I actually try to take the time to like explain my, why I believe the things I do. The reason why I never do that is because the people who hate me on that app are like literally not. smart enough to have that conversation with me. Like, genuinely you're not smart enough.

But I was saying a lot of you don't want to unpack like how white supremacy is so deeply embedded in a lot of the things that you're attracted to. Just like pedophilia is really big and a lot of the things you're attracted to being hairless, being small, being shorter than you, like all of these things like being petite and being fragile and being like a little tiny little statue. Yeah. A lot of that is rooted in pedophilia. People have hair.

And it's crazy that you care. Like, it's also crazy that you care about hair on somebody who's not attracted to you. You know what I mean? Like in the, like, at all. Like, literally at all. Like, do you remember when Doja Cat shaved her head? And men were like, why would she do this? Like, she was a...

Do you think Doja Cat's looking at your comment being like, what? It's for her. He thinks I'm ugly? Oh my God. What I'm like... Do you think that bitch cares about you? You don't even have the juice to, like... talk to her like in a normal platonic like if she just so happened to walk into the dollar tree

store and you were there and you got to serve her like you don't even have the juice to do that let alone hook up with her they're like oh she was she was hot but not anymore maybe that was her goal maybe her goal was to ward all of you nasties off i don't know she's here to appease herself no literally i did literally i did an episode with um do you know Pokemon yes Yeah, so I did an episode with Poki and she's the sweetest person in the world. But she has a lot of Creebos that love her. Like, creepos, creos, because she's like such a ledge in the Twitch streaming industry. And so she was telling me, like, when she started, like, posting about being with me, the amount of dudes that were like, why would you do this, Pokey?

Why would she do this? Fun fact, side fact. Yeah. On this, I actually, we made a video. Yeah, yeah, we did. And I got a comment from a sister. white woman. Oof.

I used to love you, but now that you're recorded with you, and I was like, blocked. Like, it's just kind of like, you know, at the end of the day, like, read the room. No, really bad.

It's so weird. And I'm like, for what? Well, and then I think, like, I have always said, besides the fact that I'm going to hurt your feelings, which I've promised to terrible men. That's not a threat that's a promise. I'm going to hurt your feelings.

If you keep being terrible, I'm going to keep doing it. Right. The other thing I've always said is that the women that you love, love me. I've said that consistently. You're one of them. I was like, I'm literally friends with and they adore me. And I was like, if you only knew the like women that follow me and DM me and tell me how much they want to hang out with me,

it would blow your mind. She doesn't need to. She's following me around VidCon, so she doesn't need to. she doesn't need to do that but i was i it's the same thing with uh pokey like i'm like turns out she's a feminist can you believe it can you believe that it's because that's crazy i feel like in media in general it's so male dominated yeah and it's like cis male domination yeah when it comes to like media and it's just so hard to break those molds yeah and like you and her and her are two people who have done it in two different industries.

And it's just like, they hate to see it. They really do. And I was like, I've been telling y'all, I've been telling y'all forever. The people, the women that you're most attracted to, they love me. I guess you're marrying both of us. If you think you're going to marry her, you're going to marry me too. I'll be at dinner. Okay, and this last comment on here says it would take you at least six years to gain 30 pounds of muscle.

This guy is a profile picture where he's shooting a gun, so it's a bad start. You know what I mean? Off top. It's a big red flag, I would say. What's your biggest red flag about men in general? Like, it can be something really obvious or something really, really small, especially when you're looking at a profile. It's just like a picture?

Yeah, like, yeah, like profile as a whole. Like, let's say you're looking at an Instagram account. That's tough. Yeah. There's a lot. I feel like gym. A lot of gym picks is, like, my biggest one. Like, yeah, I'll like them.

I'll show some love. You know, who doesn't? Yeah. But it's kind of like, it's like if your whole personality is just the gym. It's like, I can't do it. You know, like, yeah, half of my personality is about being fat. But my other half is like, you know, I'm a cool girl. It's just kind of like, it's a lot.

Like, just seeing them always at the gym. I'm just like, I just don't know how you have the time and the strength to be there 24-7. I feel that. It's boring. And let's say 24. And then the other seven, you're commenting hate. Yeah. The other seven you're commenting, it's like, like the other half of like that seven,

it's split up between commenting hate and meal prepping. And that's it. It's all they got time for. I tried meal prepping. Did you? It's a nightmare. It sucks. I went to in and out that night.

It sucks. I've meal prepped many times. It's so hard. And then eating the same thing every day. And then no one talks about how. fast you have to eat it. Otherwise it goes rotten. It literally rots like you've turned your fridge off.

Oh, they'll eat it. They will. They'll eat it. Maybe that's why. Maybe they have worms in their brain, bitch. Like, literally salmonella. Like, maybe it's in there just rotting the pieces away. Who knows?

Maybe that's why they're so terrible. They're being taken over by worms. They're rotting inside. Like, actually, yeah. I think, yeah, I was going to say, for red flags, this is one. I don't know what it is about this, but it's like when dudes, like, take group pictures with their buddies, and then they say some shit, like, about last night,

and then they have, like, a devil emoji. You know what I mean? Or they say, like, it's always when they're in Vegas. Like, I'm picturing, like, Vegas. You know you see a group of dudes and you're like, that just looks like the worst kind of group to be around. You know what I mean? Like, once they get kicked out because they're harassing the bartender,

you know what I mean? but they like post they put like a picture of them all like they're all five feet oh yeah always the average height is like five six like that's an average like taking all them dividing by six you know what I mean the limit does not exist it's like when they take pictures and they're like with the boys or it's like it's like the dice emoji or that joker emoji oh just if I see picks like that and there's a lot of them if I see what the boys with the heart okay I'll eat it up okay that the devil mojean you see the devil mojee about last night you know what I mean like they're like they were fully playing Pokemon in the basement

yeah they're like sin city you know what I mean like oh the cringe I feel it just makes me like it makes me like tense up you know what I mean that tense before you take a shit that's literally how it feels when I read stuff like that yeah it's a huge red flag to me red flag I think it's like and if they don't have pictures with their mom Yeah, or any pictures that aren't like, just them by themselves. Like, you know, like, posting pictures of you, like, living life, like, with your family or your dog or, like, in nature or, like, I don't know. Just something else besides this, like, black shades in front of their car. Sitting on the hood.

Yeah. Nikes like these. Let's go on a ride. Yeah, they have, like, a song by, like, 21 Savage, like, linked in their Instagram story. Jesus. You know, they're like the dudes that post a lot of stories and then they like look at who's looking at their stories. That guy. Worst.

The worst kind of guy. I was like, can we even drink on here? Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely you can. Okay, let's move on to this next video. So this next one says it's basically a woman. She's filming herself in the mirror taking off her makeup after work. And she reveals that she has acne.

and some redness on her face. And it's an acne positive video. So she's basically talking about how she loves her skin with her without makeup. Love that. And the first comment on here is like literally if I closed my eyes and like I listen to the video, I would have known that this was the top comment or one of them. Which is a, that's why I have trust issues. I just like think like you're, you're stupid if you thought that that was her real face.

Right. Like do you think that I like grew black liner on my face? Like where do you think that came from? Like use your brain. You know what I'm wearing no makeup right now. So I don't know what she was talking about. I literally like open my eyes because I sleep like this like a vampire. You know what I mean?

Like hanging by my ankles. I like open my eyes and then I just came here. I just flew here. I'm like so good. This is like I, you know, I feel like the whole trust issues thing is, you know, I'm going to take her swimming on the first date. Yeah. It's like tired.

It's over. It's like we live in a world where acne is normal. Yeah. And it's like, and so is makeup. Yeah. And it's, I think it's because they're dumb. That's what I mean. They just don't.

How do you not know that we don't wake up like that? That's what I'm saying like, but you know why? Because they've never woken up next to a woman. Like, you know what I'm saying? Like they've never had the experience of waking up next to someone that they hooked up with and had a good time consensually together. Right. They've never experienced that.

So, of course, I guess that's on me for assuming. that she would have had that life experience by now. I guess that's on me. Yeah. But I think like it's, uh, that's why I said, you're just, you're stupid. But at the same time, like, science has evolved with makeup so far that like I could jump into the pool like this and I'll come out and the hair will look different, but the beat will stay. I cannot really.

It will not move. But it's because I didn't do it. That's why. Yeah. My hair and makeup artist did it? My lash will be down here. But I, yeah, she's not wrong. Like, I've seen like, um,

Girls in the past on social media talk about how like they they love lashes. Like they wear lashes all the time every time. And that was me when I first discovered strip lashes. I was like, this is my whole life now. I cannot be seen without these. Okay. Because I just love a big, thick, fluffy fake lash. Uh-huh.

But I also have seen like how they, they'll keep them on when they're hooking up with dudes when they sleep, which is really bad. Don't do that. You'll get eye infections. Trust me, I know. But like, if you just sleep with the lashes on or take them off and reapply them before he wakes up so that he just constantly thinks that you have those. Can we talk about the eye infection? 50-50 if my zipper's up or down anymore.

Take my pants off at home. They come off easy. I'm like, I that was four hours I was walking around. Netflix is a joke presents. Nate Bargatsy Big Dumb Eyes World Tour. A special live taping at Into a Dome. I think it's because I'm peeing so much longer. I watch young people come and go.

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That was me being vulnerable with you. I hope you were holding space for me. I'm right here. I... I just... I've never had an eye infection. Really? No.

Oh, bitch, I've had three this year. Really? Swear to God. Girl, f***ing it. Honestly, when I went to Coachella, okay. You know, the, did you go to Coachella this year?

I didn't get invited y'all. Oh, I'm sorry. That's awkward. I just was supposed to, have you been to Coachella ever? Have you been to Palm Springs? Yes, I've been to Palm Springs. Okay, yeah.

But you know how it gets really windy and it's dusty. So that's how it is at Coachella. Okay. But this year it was so windy. Like, I've only been, other than this past year, I've only been once. Okay. So, like, when I went, the last time it was just hot. This time, it was freezing cold and it was fucking windy and it was horrible.

And the way that shit will blow in my eye and get stuck in there. And then I go blind for like 10 minutes. And then I'm like, oh, my God, I thought my life was over. And then, turns out, it scratched my eye. Oh, Jesus. And then my eye doctor was like, bitch. What happened to you? I do have glasses, but like if you wear glasses with a beat, it like creases it and all that.

You know what I'm saying? They said put setting powder in the nose. I've tried that and it doesn't work. And I don't know if maybe my glasses are just hella heavy because my prescription is really bad. My astigmatism is really bad. Okay. I've one in each eye. It's really bad.

I have like, me trying to figure out what is stigmatized. I don't graduate high school, yeah. I'm like, I have a lazy eye. Me too. Okay. People always comment on my lazy eye, which is funny because everybody has a lazy eye. And if you turn your camera and look at yourself, you'll see that you also have a lazy eye. It's just some of them are more pronounced than others.

But also it depends on the size of your eyes. My eyes are huge. Like I have big, giant eyes, like saucers for eyes. So they're gorgeous. Thanks. Oh my God. Thank you. But they're like, it's much more obvious that my eye is lazy.

So it got a lot more real estate than the average. average eye person. High person? Person who has eyes. I can't believe you've never had an eye infection. I'm jealous. Never. I've had other infections.

Other infections. I thought you said oven. Other infections. Oh, I feel that. I feel that. I don't, but I was, I had eye infection so common that my eye doctor was literally like, I feel like you need to put something on your face to like shield my eyes because

they're so fragile. I'm just so dainty. You're so petite. Just like in a picky. you have been able to do. That's literally why. Okay. So let's get to the comments on this video, the other comments.

So this next one says, so you think using makeup is going to make your skin better, L.O.L. It's going to make it, well, you said, it's going to make it worser. What do you accept? I think he meant to say expect, but he literally put except. Like, me, except, not with that. Like, he spelled it wrong. Grammar for three hundred.

Yeah, exactly. You think your makeup is going to make your skin better? It's not. I like how they turn it to dermatologists all of a sudden. I know. Girl. You think that's going to get better? It's not.

It's like people haven't heard of skincare. No, truly. It's like, you know, makeup, like you said, has evolved. And some makeup is not as heavy. They're doing chemicals. Like, it's changing every day. Yeah. And then on top of that, that's why we have skincare.

We wash our face. We prep it day and nine. And it's like, and unfortunately, yeah, and unfortunately with acne, it's like sometimes it's genetic. Yeah, literally. And it's also can be hormonal, especially in women. Yeah, you think it's going to make your skin better. That's why I said you guys would have no idea because you do not have a face routine. And it's obvious.

Because the way shoulders. And that's it. Nine and one. Yeah, and that's it. Like to wash their body too. Not the crack though. Have you ever seen? Never.

Because that's gay. They can't do that. They can't do that. That's not for them. They're attracted to women. The way they associate cleanliness with like an entire sexuality is just insane. That's wild. But I think like, have you ever seen like I've seen before like when I've showered at my friend's houses?

Like first of all, if when I was in college, if I ever went to a house that had only men living there, I would never use the restroom. No, you're going to get. Because I know exactly what it looks like. Yeah. The way I'll get pink eye just by looking at it. And you have ready to get them. And I get it. Hey, bitch, listen.

I'll get it. I'll get a scratch in my eye, but I will not get pink eye. Let's get something clear, bitch. Okay, Naomi just dragged me so hard. I can't say what it was about, but I will say this. I meet so many people all the time. If I forget a name, I'm so sorry. If I forget your name by any means, I'm so, literally so sorry.

But this is what I do. You know what I do? You know what's my trick when I forget names? Because I said I remember faces, but I have a hard time. remembering names. What I typically do is like if I see them and I'm like we've definitely met before and I do not remember this person's name. And they are like, I always introduce myself because I'm, I just like, Drew, by the way, in case. And though, but if I know for a fact we've met, then I just don't, I don't introduce myself. But I'll say like, because I would never come alone to those things.

I'll be like, oh, this is my mom by the way. And you fully did that. And my mom will go, my name's Noel. And then they'll still say their name. And then I go, got it. Okay. I remember. now. Now I know. That's better than being like, I'm so sorry I forgot your name. I think. I think that's better. I agree. Right? That way it doesn't make it awkward. Especially if we spend a great deal of time like five or ten minutes talking to each other. Like it's just really hard. So that's why I met Noel again. Listen, she can't. When we saw each other at that event, I obviously knew your name. Yeah, absolutely. No, she did. She did. She did. This is about. other people.

Anyways. What's your like, that's like probably one of the most embarrassing things about myself, I feel like. Okay. I have other things too. What's like one thing you wish you could change? For me, first of all, being late, I'm late and I'm not on purpose. But I like to attribute it to being brown because a lot of my family members are late

all the time. Yeah. So I feel like that was a learned behavior. I think it was like, I've heard that before, like a lot of like families that are minority families yeah it's like a late thing yeah like that's i described it once as like when you throw a party and then you invite your friends and you tell them 12 you know they're gonna show up at two yeah you're just like no but then your white friends come at 12 they literally show up at 12 and then you're like you're like you're like you said 12 and then they help your mom set up the tables yeah

i feel that while you shower and put your makeup on and get ready like that's happens the way that i'll be back in an hour here. That's happened to me so many times. Hi, Jenna. What's something like that that you wish you could change? Oh my goodness. Um, nothing. You're so perfect. I'm just so petite and fancy. Um, no, honestly, if there was one thing that I could fix probably that's like embarrassing, is the fact that I have to shit every 10 minutes. Like, I'm not even kidding. I have the worst I BS and I'm real, I'm really real about it. Like, if you follow me, like, that's the real thing.

Well, at least you have IBS. And I'm lactose intolerant. Me too. So it's like double-wamey. Like, I can't even. Damn, you're fighting demons all the time. Every day. Are you just someone who ignores it, though?

Like, I simply choose to not be lactose for that day. No. So I have a routine where I'll only eat dairy when I know I'm home. Like, when I know that I can get at. You're like, if not, I really am. Can I have a salad? Because I know. Not Caesar, though.

They have cheese. The way, like, okay, so I'm severe. lactose intolerant too. I think it caught up with me as I got older because I, to my knowledge, I never really had that when I was younger, but maybe I didn't. I just got used to shitting myself all the time. But then like, but then when I got older, I was like, I think something's wrong with me. And then my sister was like, I think you're just allergic to dairy, dude.

Because my dad is severely lactose intolerant. Right. But he eats cheese and ice cream and all that stuff all the time. So I was like, oh, well, maybe he's just not. Do you have more than one bathroom? Huh? Do you guys have more than one bathroom? Yeah. In my house growing up, yeah. Can't relate. So, you know, it's horrible.

With a household full of... The way you have to, like, punch a card almost. You're, like, fill out a whiteboard. Like, this is 10 minutes is for me. This is my slot. I literally reserved it yesterday. Yeah. Yeah. I mean... The way lactose and tolerance, like, when you're about to shit yourself,

it feels like the world is ending. Like, it's caving around you. I just say a little prayer. I'm not religious. but in those moments we've actually you know it's funny like some of my very first episodes for the show

I talked about shitting myself like because of lactose intolerance but I was talking about how like it like hurts and it's so terrible to the point where you have to get like almost completely nude when you're going to the bathroom that's how you know it's bad when you're sweating through your clothes

people can't even look at the poop sweat you can't even look at your phone because you're just fighting for your life sitting on the toilet I put it down I have this little shower put my phone down. I'm fully gripping, babe. I'm like,

please. The way you're like curled up, like, have you seen, have you seen that? This is a bad comparison, but it's the only thing I can think of. Like the last Harry Potter film,

when Harry, when, have you seen them? Yes. You know when Harry dies? And then he goes to, like, heaven, and he's like walking around and he meets Dumbledore.

Right. You know when he looks under the bench and then you see Voldemort and he's like, he's like curled up. That's literally how it feels. I like how that's the only, The only comparison. I was thinking about white chicks

when she fully runs into the bathroom. That's like a literal representation. I'm saying what it feels like like physically. Got it. Like him curled up bloody, beaten to a pulp like just like take me now. I don't want to be here anymore.

Right. That's how it feels. I would imagine that's how that little Voldemort felt in that point. That's what I picture. That was a vivid picture. That's me being an empath. You know?

Okay. I felt, I felt, I felt that. You grip on to your shelf. Yeah, I really do. It makes you feel better. It makes you feel, yeah. The way it's like, it's just such a chore. Being lactose intolerant is such a chore.

I want to talk about a shackle, a cross that I bear is that. It's a lot. That's probably the one thing I would change because I also love to eat. I feel that. Yeah, lactose and tolerance really sneaks up on you. So mine is so, like, hit or miss. Right. But if it's something with heavy cream, I know.

for a fact it's going to hurt me physically. So I'm like, I simply, I'll either make the deal with the devil or I'll be like, I'm avoiding it all together. Right. Like, these bitches will never understand the pain of, like, being in fifth grade and everyone enjoying that pizza party. And you're right there with the salary stick. Going to McDonald's, everyone's getting a f***ing ice cream cone.

And you can't. You simply cannot. And you have a water bottle. Or you do, and then you just pay the piper. You know what I mean? When he comes to. to collect he comes to collect bitch hello literally

the way and she takes it by force that's for sure okay this last comment on this video says all these women can never have the same confidence without their makeup he wrote without their little makeup

box pack what the hell is that we need to ask whatever the hell that means what is that little makeup box pack I have a makeup kit But is that what they're talking about? I assume so

I just I don't know how you have the strength To get like wake up and be like These girls would never have confidence Without their little makeup box box Like Babe All these women would never have this confidence

I you know With or without makeup I know that I'm a bad bitch Same period Like it's at the end of the day If you know you are that's all that matters. Mm-hmm.

And it goes back to what we started off with the conversation. They hate to see that. They really do. And it's like, we don't say nothing about your nine and one head and shoulders. It gives you so much confidence. Yeah. Like, I don't, you know, I don't care if you feel good about yourself. That's what matters.

Yeah, I mean, like, if you feel good about yourself, I mean, I wouldn't if I looked like you, but like, not up to me. You know what I mean? I just think, like, I see you. And I would also hate other people that love themselves. Yeah. If I were them and I looked in the mirror and I had to look at that every day, turned to stone like Medusa.

You know what I mean? I like literally turn myself to stone looking at myself. I'd be mad at the world too. Yeah. And that's why I said, I don't have a problem with calling someone ugly who calls me ugly. Like if they think I, they call me like a fat ugly bitch or whatever and I tell them that they are like, like truly they look, you know, like Igor. You know, like, Dr. Franks sense.

I know people used to call me that. As an empath, you should have sensed that. That's not true about you, though. I know, but back in the day. Why? It wasn't true, but... Were they jealous because you never got eye infections? I bet that's what it was.

I met the eye infection. No, they were jealous because they couldn't shit themselves. I mean, constipated assholes. No, but yeah, Igor, scary, yes. That's what... Well, also, I just think, like, If you, if you, like, the dudes that say that shit and like mean it, like, they say the hateful things to the either, whether it's these people or you and I. Um, I made a video once where I said like, because I've never seen an attractive Drew supporter is like something that someone commented.

And I was like, well, on the flip side of that, I've never seen a hot dude who hates me. Ever. Ever. Ever. And the way that so many dudes like took that, like took that clip and then they put like pictures of themselves where they truly believe they look hot. And you were like, every, every, every, and I see it and I'm like,

you prove my point. You prove my point. Yeah. Like, you literally look like the characters and angry words and you're going to tell me that you're cute. I doubt it. Like, I doubt. Listen,

I don't want to talk teams, but, like, if it's a race in the Department of Looks, they're eating my dust every time. Right. You know what I mean? But I just think, like, look at you. Look at you.

Like, be honest with yourself. If I'm ugly, then I don't know what the hell you are. You know what I'm saying? Ugly er. Ugly-er. With a dot at the end. But the key point I think that we're trying to make

is that it's like it's genuinely not up to anyone whether or not you're beautiful. No. Yeah, it's not up to anyone but you. Yourself. Even people like you, obviously your husband, like my boyfriend, it's, I don't feel beautiful because I'm with them.

Oh, not at all. And I let him know. Every day. I'm like, You are blessed every day. Blessed and highly favored. Yes. Every day you wake up next to me.

Every time you get a Puponza Smash for a video, you're blessed. And he knows that. Same with mine. I'm sure. That's why I really, one less thing I'll say, I really hate when other women are like, not just women because men don't typically say this to me, but it's more so women. They'll be like, oh, you're so lucky, like to be with him. And I'm like, he's lucky to be.

He's lucky to be with me, man. That's not why they don't, their love does not feed our, like, confidence at all. Like, they love us because we're confident. Right. And that's what I, like, always try to tell people. Like, the right person will not think that your confidence is a hindrance to them, and they're going to celebrate it.

They're going to love that part about you the most. Exactly. That you know you're bad. With or without them, babe. And that's tea, bitch. It's the truth. Okay. So as we wrap up this episode, what do you want people to know when it comes to confidence, self-love, anything like that, especially when it comes in terms of like if they want to present themselves on social media or not?

Like, what's the best advice you could give someone who's on that journey? I think my best advice for anyone trying to get into like social media or not even social media confidence. Why did I say that? She said social media. My brain jumped. Getting into that confidence is really just, I always. call it my three-step thing. It's acceptance. It's the first step. It's always accepting who you are. Yeah. Because it's like in this world where everyone is the same, like be different and accept that, you know?

And then once you start to accept who you are, I always say it's all about that self-love. Now that you've accepted that you're different in the eyes of society, you really can love who you are. And once you start to love yourself, that confidence comes out. Yeah. And that's always what I say. It's not a jerk. I mean, it's not a quick fix. Right, it's a journey and it's going to be a tough one. Yeah. Because it's so hard out here, clearly. Yeah. In the words of Drew, we have Igor's coming after us, Angry Birds. Yeah.

But as long as you know who you are and you can accept that and love yourself, like, that really is the most important thing. Period. Bitch. Couldn't have said it better myself. I want to thank the wonderful Naomi for coming today. I'm so excited to have you and I absolutely adore you. Yeah. Literally the third sister in my feet. family. So there you got them. So where can everybody find you? Um, I do across all social media that I use,

which is really just Instagram and TikTok and YouTube. It's Naomi Hearts XL. Period. Bitch. Make sure you all go follow Naomi immediately. She's a wonderful creator. And I'm so honored to have had you today. Thank you so much for coming for those of you who want to watch full episodes of the comments section show. They drop every Wednesday on the past your bedtime YouTube channel. And you can also stream us on all streaming platform. I'm Spotify, Apple Music, Amazon. All that jazz. You already know where to find me, bitch. Make sure you all go follow Naomi. Make sure you guys go subscribe to past your bedtime. And I'll see you next week. Bye. Bye.