The Comment Section with Drew Afualo - PROTECT YOUR NET WORTH | Drew Afualo ft. Challxn | THE COMMENT SECTION EP 26

Episode Date: August 10, 2022

[video available on Spotify] Drew welcomes Challxn to the show this week to discuss how to deal with creepy men online.  Drew: https://linktr.ee/drewafualo  Challxn: https://www.tiktok.com/@challxn / https://www.instagram.com/challxn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It feels like a lot of the descriptions of like the ideal woman people want is like a literal live in butler that like sleeps next to you. Yeah, and holds you at night. I'm a bit confused. Do you know what you can do if that's what you want? You can actually hire a butler. Hey, everyone and welcome back to another episode of the comment section show. It's me, your girl, the one and only your fave. We already knew that.

But the star of the show today is my very special guest, the one and only shall. me and shalyn go way back way back to like second grade way back all the way back to eggs in utero no i do remember that i do remember that you remember that i was classy me and shalyn always see each other at events and we just started talking one time i was it the we knew each other though like we knew of each other because i knew of you from ticto i think it was what was first um the axe throwing thing it was like a ticot Halloween thing random we were at a break room yeah and i see her across chucking an axe something insane. And I'm like, I'm going to go talk to her.

So she's like, I know you. I need to have a conversation. You're one of the, you're the girl that, uh, with all the dudes. Oh, when he told me. Me and Folike. Yeah. We saw her from like across and we were like, you yell at men on TikTok. Hey.

That's me. Yeah. And that's an everyday interaction for me now. Every day. How do you handle that, though? I don't know. Even when they don't know my name, they're just like, I know you. There's definitely becoming a point where people are like doing it just to get your attention.

It's becoming a bit obvious. Yeah, at this point. Yeah. It's like the longest running bit. Let's find a new hobby. Let's actually go touch anything else. Literally anything. Let's submit a job application.

Ah, I'm scared. Let's get on Monster. Let's get on Indeed. LinkedIn. Messes someone on LinkedIn. Because we need to find something else to do. That's not a hobby. Anything.

Literally anything at all. Take your pick. Harassing women online? And you know, what's funny is Shalyn is someone who you do the funniest shit ever like all you crack me up dude I really do you know what's crazy I don't find myself funny at all yeah I'm like yeah I'm like yeah I'm like I was lying to wait I was like this is an intervention you're actually the unfunniest is that I've ever met in my life I have to like

confirm if a video is funny by setting it around to everyone like I said it to my mom and I'm like did you laugh and then I'll be like no you lie I said it to my sister did you laugh because she'll be like No, this was like horrible. Delete it. Yeah, one time I told someone once on my show. I was like, one time my sister saw one of my videos, I'm like, hey, did you see my newest video? She goes, yeah, it was so funny. I'll go, yeah, she goes, yeah, that's the funniest one you've had in a while.

A while. A while. How long a while, if you don't mind me asking. She said, no, you know, it's just like, that one was good. What about the other ones? Compared to the hundreds of others. Yeah, no, for sure. Families will keep me humble.

I think that's important. You know what? Do you know what the difference is between my mom and my sister? My mom, you know, she like loves, you know, your mom loves like everything you do, horrible or not. Yeah. So I'll show my mom and I'll be like, she'll be like, you know, it's not my favorite. My sister will be like, that's like the stupidest shit you've ever made. Delete it and do it again.

And honestly, it alters. Both my mom and sister are like that. I wish my mom could be more like. It just depends. My mom will never lie to me. Never. My mom will just try to say it too nice. That's fair.

Kind of like a baby. I need the, I need the abrasiveness sometimes because if you're, if you're, you're, If you're too nice, I'll be like, okay, I guess you like that. I just walk around like that. I guess that works. Yeah. Now I look a mess. Right.

Like what? And that's on you. And that's my fault. Tell her, that's on you to your mom. You did this to me. Yeah, you did this to me. Momsey. You wanted me to walk around looking at a fool, huh?

Like a fool. Like I'm like, I'm crazy. Literally. Speaking of, honestly, speaking of crazy. Our topic for today, because I've seen you post about this several times, which is why I picked it specifically, is where, dealing with how to deal with creepy men creepy goes many different ways it's a long spectrum yeah it is you know what i do on purpose what um when i know that i need to go in a space that probably has like a large

male audience yeah i try to look as absurd as possible and like as disgusting do you wear that troll doll i did i peeped it she was should you should i never thought about that i actually should yeah what i do though is i just look as unkempt as i can think i will wear my My braids, like my underneath my wig braids. Yeah. I'll wear my du rag. I'll just look as like I just rose out of bed as possible. And do you know what's the worst part?

It doesn't work. It never works. No. Nothing works. If I could not shower for three weeks and a man would be like, Ferrimo? Like, ooh, you're like one of those. You're one of those.

Yeah, creep town. I feel like there's no escape. No, there truly isn't. Especially for someone like Shalin who's like, so you're so striking, which is like, because you're so beautiful. But your look is so unique. So I think that's why they get extra creepy. I just wish that men could find like a normal way to compliment a woman.

Me too. What happened to you're so pretty? Yeah. If I show you, bring, what happened to feeling shame when we say something literally absurd out loud to somebody? This is literally the thing that was sticking in my mind when I picked this topic for you was you tweeted once like this nasty ass message that got sent to you. And you said, I just want to know. Like, for real, tell me, do you think you're going to heaven when you send messages like this? He's not.

He's actually going in the basement of hell. There's not even regular hell. There's heaven. And then there's hell. Yeah. And then he's going in like negative hell. Whatever's beneath that. But then underneath that in like the basement hell.

Yeah. Because you read the DM. Yeah. I opened that and was like, pardon? Sometimes it's so shocking. It's like, I don't. Did you like send this for real? Yeah.

Like, did you for real send this to me just now? Right. In the year of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. In front of the Lord. In front of the Lord. And Santa Claus, who's always watching. And in front of Nikki Minaj. Like, are you insane?

In front of Beyonce? In Meg, the Stallions United States of America. In front of Doge Cat? How could you? How could you? You're literally insane. No, I know. That person has sent me an influx of DMs at that.

I don't know if you saw the other half of the tweet. I think so. It was the first half was the first DM they sent, which was absurd. Yeah. And then above it, I didn't see that they had sent me many more, and they were all just the same genre of, like, the filthiest thing ever. I had to, like, literally block them, close my phone,

and sit on my bed and go, just rethink a little bit, right? What do I do? It really makes you, like, just, like, wanted, like, I don't know, disappear, run into the woods. There really is no way out of it, because I remember the first time I posted something like that. People were like, well,

you post, like, you're always like half naked. Like, what do you expect? And then, mind you, someone did that to a selfie before. Yeah. So what's the reason then? It's that face. I get, I just, I just really had that face. Like, what?

Some of your videos, you're literally, like, dancing on your Michael Scott cutout, and they're like, what do you expect? What do you think was going to happen? What did you think was going to? You were out there asking for it. Yeah. You're dying for it.

It's such a deranged line of thinking. Like, it's also, Okay, no one's saying that you can't, like, be attracted. They're saying maybe like... Be normal. Maybe just like take, like, fact check it. Maybe like run it through a couple of cister filters. Assess the vibe.

Yeah, it'd be like, is this appropriate? Yeah. Is this like, I don't know, borderline insane? Maybe. Quite a bit, actually. Maybe run it through some checks and balances before you said it. The whole judicial system. Yeah.

Send it through the three branches of government. Actually. Because I'm sick and tired of it. Send it to every single person. your phone first and ask them. Send it to everyone you've ever met and say, would you be scared of me if I said this to you? And then you take that answer.

Would this make you feel weird inside if I sent this to you? I remember one time someone said something like crazy to me and they went on their page and they had like a little sister and I was like, so if someone said this to her, then what? Yeah, exactly. That's why. Right.

Send it to your mom and ask her what she thinks. Would your mom, would you let your mom read what you just said to me in my DM? No, truly. When you post them, sometimes they, They're like, I can't believe you posted my private DM. Hmm. I don't get the ones you get. It's more some men being like, you're a fat, ugly bitch.

But, you know, two sides of the same coin. No, no. I feel like also with, no, you know what is like really getting exhausting to me online is people being like, no offense, but, and then they follow it with the most offensive statement. And then they proceed to offend you immediately. But no offense though, like seriously. But like, chill. No, no offense.

No offense. No offense, but you're like the ugliest person I've. ever seen and I hate you. The backhanded compliments are arguably the worst today. It's when they ended off with like, it's the compliment sandwich. They're like, you're so pretty, but that fucking wig is like the ugliest thing I've ever seen, but you're so pretty. Oh my God, thank you.

Thanks. I know. Sometimes I get the most backhanded shit. Like I literally talked about this before, but like the way that it's when they're trying to say it out of love. That's worse to me. You don't love me. Let's start there.

Girl, I once had someone messaged me and they're like, oh my God, girl, you know what? I have tiny little chicklet teeth too. And, you know, that makes me feel so good about myself because, like, you're so confident. And I literally, I literally hate my smile. Anyways, love you, girl.

Babe. What was I supposed to do with that? Whoa. No, people do that a lot on TikTok. They'll be like, finally someone with my body type. And I'm like, wait. Huh?

You're confident. You make me feel so much better. about my body. Yeah, literally. What does that mean? And this is like my favorite wig, right? I have a locker full of wigs. Yeah. But this just takes me four seconds to put on. I literally go do. Yeah. I bobby pin it and I go out the door. Yeah. So like this is like my best friend. Yeah. And this girl goes honestly, Shaolin, I'm really sick and tired of that nappy ass wig. Then I go to her page, follow back. And I said, now there is a way we could solve this problem. Do you want me to tell you what it is? Drop a pin.

I feel like if I don't like something about someone so bad that it drives me that absurdly insane that I follow them I'm just gonna unfollow you or just like yeah I'm gonna block you or something I'm like sorry and you the fact that you never knew who she was prior to that comment like you swear I'm gonna be up all night thinking about this I'm so sorry I'm so sorry actually I'm gonna throw the wig away just for you yeah and I'm gonna go spend a nice laced wig is like two three hundred dollars yeah I'm gonna go and do that for you actually. I'm going to just for you, just for you. I'm so sorry that I've been torturing you with my hair. I'm actually going to give you my whole account. You can have it. You want the YouTube to do what do you want? You can have it

babe, go ahead and take it over. I'm sure you look so much better than me. That's what I always say. I'm sure you'll make better content too, don't you like. Yeah. And even then like with creepy men, I don't get that nearly as often as you would as I'm sure you do. I think that's all that lives in your inbox. Oh, oh. Yeah. Yeah, mine's mostly. Mine's mostly just like Rude Bitriol, bro I get a nice combo

Yeah If I stopped posting as Because unfortunately Even though you shouldn't have to change Like what you post To stop people from being gross I did because it was just becoming too much Yeah

I couldn't handle it Yeah I'll tell you a story I can get off here Because it's gross I literally couldn't take it So I stopped And ever since I stopped

They've slowed down a bit But I still get them Even though I'll post like A normal every day I'm in jeans and a shirt Yeah. And they'll still come and I'm like, what do you want for me? Honestly, if you posted a picture of your eyebrows, they would find something to like about that.

I am fearing. They are stupid, but they are resourceful. They are consistent. Yeah, the one thing they are, they are persistent always. Okay, so now that we've just established what our topic is, what we do here on the comment section is we bring videos that I was tagged in our scent. We bring them here that they apply to the topic and then we laugh and giggle, rip them apart if we need to. So this first video is basically, I just give summaries of them. But this is basically a clip from a guy's podcast, which bad start out the gate.

Immediately. Bad start, right? Flag number one, right? It says where he talks about how he commented on a girl's Instagram post and she rejected him and called him out on it. So then all of his followers took to her Instagram, started giving her hate on his behalf. But he was being like a big creepy, right? essentially and she was like ew gross right and then he was like oh yeah well guess what and just absolutely when you do that voice it sent me to another universe when this video starts off with yeah that's how they sound to me in my head every time they're literally just like oh yeah well guess

what like i'm always like i am charlie brown's teacher you know what i mean what are you saying like what are you saying are you even like speaking a normal human language what just came out of your mouth no truly And I think like the thing about rejecting men, especially creepy men, is like, it could go one of two ways. There's no proper way to. Yeah, they're really, there's, you don't win either way. Even if you ignore it, they'll continue to harass you. Even if you're nice about it, they'll continue to harass you. Like 90% of the, honestly, I'm like terrified of men most of the time.

So I'm almost always nice about it. Unless you've driven me to that point, I'm going to be nice about it because I'm scared you're going to kill me. Yeah, which is valid. Like, I'm always like, hey, like, you know, it's okay. and then they're like getting closer to you. Then they start touching you like, no, what part of, hey, no. It's okay.

Told you, let me get closer, actually. And then touch her. Touch her body. And that's going to really help me get somewhere. Yeah. Absolutely. No, I literally, I just, I, okay, so I used to be a lot worse when I was younger as far as like, just my complete, like, no fear.

I had zero fear, especially when I was in college. Like, I would literally square up with a dude if I needed to. That's just how unhinged. I was like because just the they've always they've always been like a little gnat to me men in general because I've just seen the worst interactions with either myself or my friends so anytime anyone rub me the wrong way even a little nope leave immediately or you'll be dealt with yeah expeditiously babe and you're not going to like how the story ends I literally had so many I told a couple stories before I really blew up on TikTok of like my own experiences with men and like how

I was never nice but like I just wouldn't be outright angry until they got me to a point where I couldn't take it anymore I'm gonna deal with and I'd be like kill us both at this point at this point kill us both bitch like that's literally how to me

sometimes it really gets up there was a time that I was leaving the club and I drove myself because I never used to drink when I went to the club so I was sober as hell to go back so I'm getting I'm like leaving the club this guy's been like bothering me from in the club yeah there's stairs to leave the club

he follows me down the stairs to my car. We're at my car and I'm like, there has to be a point in time where you realize you need to walk away. It never comes. My car doors open.

I turn over. He's like trying to get in my car. At that point, I was like, you've actually lost your mind. You've actually lost your mind. For real, you've lost your mind. I literally was, he was way bigger than me though. Like, he's very muscular and I was like,

and I just closed him. I was scared. My God. And if we don't laugh, we'll cry. I was like giggling. No, at first, in the club. I was like, no, I'm okay. But then.

I don't know that like wasn't enough. So then I started being like, he read that as like, she wants me to keep bothering her. I can sense it. When he's coming down the stairs, I was by myself too. That was the worst part.

I never go out by myself, but my friend like wasn't able to come and I was already there. And I was like, I'm going to go anyway. Yeah. Never did it again after that, mind you. Yeah. So there's no one behind me.

Yeah. And then he's just following me down the stairs. He's following me through the parking lot to my car. Mm-hmm. To my car. There's points where I'm trying to like slow down. So I'm like not showing him much car I'm in, but he's not.

not going away. And he's just talking the whole time? Mind you, I'm not responding. You're like, you don't even need me for this conversation. He's having a full conversation with himself. Oh, terrifying. I probably responded twice. Legitimately, and it was like, see, the delusion.

Like, what conversation was he hearing? I just would love to know. He was hearing. Yeah. Yeah, follow me. Actually, follow me home. Follow me. Follow me home.

Yeah, let's do it. Like, you're a bit terrifying. No, truly. They do the same thing in DMs too, though. They go sit there and talk to themselves. Forever. Like creepy, creepy men. Forever.

I could show you, like, stories. They're just, like, there's guys that have mess with me for years, and it's just the nastiest, most absurd DMs. They never give up. Anytime they have to, like, just get one out of their system, they just go and message you. Sometimes I don't even post. Yeah.

There's no, there's no post. You've been inactive for, like, five days, and they're like. Just reminding you that I want to. Just in case you forgot. Redacted. Like, what? You need to be like, I need a redacted, like, feature on my Instagram, so I don't have to read that stuff.

Oh, my God. I can only imagine. Honestly, especially through social media, because it's like they get even more emboldened when they get to hide, especially if it's a burner like that, too. That's why I like the Instagram baby that block and then every other account. Same. Same. They ate with that one.

They did. God bless them for that. I did. I just told this story to my sister, too, on like, I have a podcast with her. And we were talking about, like, horror stories, I guess. dating, whatever. And this wasn't a date, but it was like an interaction, an unfortunate altercation I had with men, which far and few, like, like literally dime a dozen. I had many of those throughout college, because like my friends too, like I was always very protective of everybody.

So it tracks my social media presence. It's very on brand for me. And so like I was given these, you give them an inch, they take a fucking mile. They will never stop. So like they came over. They're too long. For their just way too long. long at some point I'm like all right you gotta go like a bitch is tired and I want to eat my food in my pants by myself with no bra on I need you to leave like get out you know what I mean and they just never read the room no I think they read it and they just hope change the page and they just keep changing it just ignore it until it's a page that they like yeah like oh my god and just so I remember it got to a point where they started getting aggressive because it was me and a friend of mine

and there was two of them and they're like are we gonna do anything or like what like again wait that as soon as he kicked off i was like that's my green light i'm losing my mind as soon as he said i got i started screaming i was like get the fuck out my house get out get out like it was my house and then i literally was like because they were getting too aggressive for me and mind you they're both smaller than me so i'm like you're also in my house i'll fight both you at the same time dude and so i literally brought i picked something up off my desk and i was like i will literally i'm going to kill you if you don't get out i literally started screaming like i losing my mind.

Lo-key, I lost it. I lost it a little bit. And then I remember telling my mom the story. My mom was like, you can't tell people that. Because like, that's like a real threat. Mind you? You're telling the camera. I was like, allegedly.

That's what happened. Allegedly. That's my favorite thing to say after everything. And if they don't take it seriously unless you lose it. Like, that's why I said, like, I was just unhinged. At that point, I'm like going to shove grass in my mouth and be like, yeah, rip my own tooth out. I'm going to start acting.

I'm going to start acting so completely. deranged that they're going to be like all right all right the grass in your mouth is crazy yeah that's a bit much right and eat it immediately i'm rip both my front teeth out i'm crying and i'm literally going to be like yeah they really make you feel like that though they do it's like you have to act like that when it comes to creepy dudes who are persistent otherwise they won't go away they won't go away they won't stop because even if you get just mad mad like they start to like taunt you yeah they'll taunt you they'll either take it as like an invitation to keep trying or they'll also get mad in which case your life is threatened at that point so then i started just like deranged i guess i'm

just going to have to have the threatened life at that point i'm going to choose that at that point one of us is leaving this alive and it's going to be me do you know what's happened to me i was driving i'm driving like home probably from a club again yeah and i'm at a red light it's like super late it's like two or three in the morning you know the roads be empty yeah i like my windows down I'm like, I like to drive like that. Like, you know, I feel the wind in my wig, you know? So I'm driving and I'm stopped at a red light. I look over and the guy is like,

and you're like, and I immediately am like, anyway. I try to turn around and act like, I don't see him. Yeah. Then he goes, hey! And I'm like, there's literally no way. Yeah, there's no way. I start to slowly roll the window. It's like, while looking straight, I'm like,

you know, you try to like pick up the phone. I'm like, you don't know he's, hey, hey, hey. And I'm like, damn. He's like, someone calling me? He goes, all right, I pull off. He's behind me now. No longer next to me. But he's now behind me.

And I'm like, mind you, I always think I'm being followed. That's like, I'm super paranoid about them. Oh my God, same. Even when I'm walking, I'll be like, you know that clip of Penelope? She's like running in the dog, jogs past her. That's me all the time. I always think I'm being followed. Me too.

So I'm like, this is not good for me. Yeah. So I'm speeding. And I'm like, he's still behind me. And I'm like, I always read that whenever you think someone's following, you don't go home. You should go to like a police station or somewhere super public. Yeah. It's 3 a.m.

I don't know where the police station is. Yeah. So I'm driving in circles. You're just like. I'm just like taking every right turn. Yeah. I'm like, I need to confirm he's following me before I call the police. Yeah.

After like the fifth right turn and we've gotten in many a circles, I think he realized, oh, you're on to me. And then he just drives off. And I always think about that because. that was so scary. That was so scary. I'm really glad I didn't go home because I was close to home. And when I panic,

I think home is like safe. Yeah. So I'm really glad I didn't. But that I always think about that as scary as shit. Yeah, that's gut instinct. That's so terrifying. Oh my God. Yeah.

That's why I don't ride my windows down at night anymore. Yeah. Oh, my God. That's why I never look around when I'm driving my car. As soon as I may eye contact, I immediately go. My head can no longer turn.

And when I'm in the car, I'm like, Even if I have to like check my mirrors, I'm like, because I'm just like refuse. I refuse. I'm not doing it. I don't trust anybody. No, this really did take me out right now. Yeah, that's why I'm like, like my neck is stiff.

It's broken. Like I can't move it. Literally, everything is scary. Well, as, yeah, as women, like you would literally have to exist like that. That's the crazy part. And then, then all of a sudden everyone's mad at you now because you're super cautious. Well, you're just going to have to be mad. Yeah.

They're like, you just think everyone's about to attack you. That sounds like someone who's going to attack me. That does sound like, are you foreshadowed? Are you warning me right now? Is that a prophecy? That's why I was like, are you trying to fulfill that? That's why immediately I'm like, why is that your knee-jerk reaction? Why are you mad?

Instead of like understanding why that's like rancid. You know what's another thing too is like sometimes terrible dudes will say shit like, oh like, you know, men are supposed to protect, like protect everyone. Like that's their nature like that alpha male bullshit. And then I think when you see women getting harassed, you don't do shit. You literally watch from a distance. Protect from a year distance. Yeah, thanks for nothing, bitch.

Like, gee, I'm so glad I had you around to do nothing. What to watch. Yeah, thanks. To engage. In film. Yeah. Like, what did you do? To laugh and engage.

Like, what the hell are you talking? Like, one time I was at the gym and I was like, uh, being oogled by like an old man. Like, he was old as shit. They'd be the worst, I feel. I know. And they're so brazen about it. Like, they don't even care because they're like knocking on death store. so they don't even care.

They're like two steps from the grave and they're like, fuck it, I'm just going to do it. You know what I mean? Like, they just lose it. Oh, well, you know what I mean? At this point, what's left? Like, might as well. I may croak tomorrow.

I'm going to tell your wife. Yeah, if you even have one. And your grandchildren. Yeah, and he used to come to the gym and, like, street clothes. Like, like regular clothes, like wouldn't change and would pretend to do machines just to watch girls, which is so weird. And it's very common.

And I know that because I get, tagged in TikToks of them all the time. And so I was like, this guy wouldn't stop, like, following me around the gym. And then I couldn't take it anymore. So then I was like, what do you want? Did you shove grass? Yes. Yeah.

There was no grass, only turf. I can't rip turf out. I'm not that strong. My finger strength is not, it's not where it needs to be for that. But I literally started screaming. I was like, what do you want? What do you look at? And then he was like, immediately just turns around and look at something else.

And I literally walked right up to him. And then he was like, oh, like, oh, my name's so and so. I was like, I don't care. I don't give a shit what your name is. If you look at me again, I swear to God, you and me are fighting immediately. I'm going to start swinging on you if you keep looking at me. And he was all. And he got up off the machine left.

Mind you, I was surrounded by men. Surrounded. They all saw. They're never, they're never going to ask if you're okay after. No, nothing. They're going to go. And they saw him watching me, and they didn't do anything. So forgive me if it doesn't mean dog shit to me.

If you're like, men are meant to protect. Because you don't protect shit. And if you are protecting them from something, it's from other men. It's also, why are you mad at me for being paranoid and scared in a world where if someone says no, it's valid? Her head is bashed in a wall. Yeah, no, truly, like, attacked. Immediately, once we get to conversations like that, when we're getting to know each other,

as soon as you sound irritable about me saying, I'm like a little scared to do this and that, you're never going to see me again. Big red flag. You never ever going to see me again. Huge. Why are you angry? Instead, you should be like, Like, that's literally bad.

Yeah. That's literally bad. And you know what's sad too is I realized this even more so because I was already so aggressive, but like even more so after I got a boyfriend because they don't bother me when he's with me. Obviously. You know what I mean? Like they don't say, they don't even, they act like I'm dead. Like, and I wish that's how they always acted around me, to be honest in public.

But they genuinely respect him more than they respect me. Sometimes I'll get hit on when he's not with me. And then when he comes back, they apologize to him and they don't apologize to me. Ew. Yeah, they're like, oh, my bad dude. I didn't know. The boyfriend line only works if he's physically there. No, physically.

Yeah, because when there is no boyfriend. Because I always tried that lie. Me too. No lie works. No matter what you say, it literally never works. Yeah, I've said I'm married. I've said I had kids. I've said both my eyes.

I said I was pregnant before. He was like, I like that. He goes, I can be a stepdad. Are you, like, are you dead serious? What? Can you be? You're okay. I just wanted to yell that on the street.

Can you be dead? I'd like you to be that. Do that right now. Can I see that? Yeah, I want to see it. That would actually make me giggle. Yeah. I may go home with you if you can make you laugh right now.

I know. I've said before that like both my eyeballs were glass. Didn't matter. It legitimately doesn't matter. I can pluck them both out. They don't work. I used to speak like flu and Pattois, right? So at first I used to use like not understanding English, even though we still technically

speak English. I was like, oh, I don't speak English. And they're like, you just said that in English And I'm like Not that kind of English The English that you speak, I don't speak it That's really the most I can say in English So if you keep talking to me, it's not going to be wrong

That lie really only takes you so far though If you don't know another language Because Patswa, it's still English So if I try to speak Patswa to say that I didn't speak English He would be like What was that? Yeah, literally That's why I need to learn another language

Just so I can make the lie consistent My biggest fear is doing that and then they're like Oh, I speak that too Because then what? And you're all I don't Sorry. I actually just lied to you. I only speak English.

You start gaslighting them. I'm sorry. Do you know what's fun? Lying for no reason to them. Yeah. It's legitimately like, like it's becoming my hobby. Just saying nonsense.

Same. You have to have like the most serious poker face when you're like, did you know my dad is Obama? So maybe he's like, he's like, no, that's not true. And you're all white. Now you're being racist. How is it not? Yeah, because why are you telling me it's not true?

Why? Oh, I'm sorry. I didn't know you were my dad too. Do you have proof that that's not my dad? And then they're like, they're like giggling and I'm like, there's nothing funny about being a liar. There's nothing funny about being a liar. Did you just say I'm a stupid woman?

Do you just say I can't read? Is that weird? What are you implying? They're like, I never said that. I'm like, hmm. That's crazy. So now you hate black women. Yeah.

I heard that. Yeah. So the comments, right, on this post that we were talking about earlier, like, these are basically all Instagram comments on, this girl's pictures, right? All of whom, like, she doesn't know these people, right? Obviously. Like, this one says, I'm not filling this one.

Try another pose. And this one says, that's about 200 pounds right there. Ew, blubber. Huh? Huh? It's like a... Okay. Okay.

This is from a different person. Hell not throw this pick away. This is another one says, so you're saying she, she's a cat. call you're not even that cute a cat call is when you are calling out to someone who doesn't know you with the explicit intention of objectifying them it doesn't matter the words cat calling is terrifying it is it's really bad i talked about that with my last guest too like about cat calling and i've talked about too like giving people advice on how to avoid not to avoid it because you can't avoid

it unfortunately but to kind of ward it off without being like at risk of being murdered L-O-L. That's so normal for us, right? I literally told them like you just act like you didn't hear them the first time. I do that a lot. What? Just really loud and then they're going to repeat themselves multiple times. You do it while walking still. Yeah, you're like, what? And then as soon as it's over, if they commit to the event, then you just go, oh.

Just turn on and leave. They feel so silly, dude, every time I've told people to do it. It works every time. Do you know what I do, that has yet to fail me, surprisingly? Oh, what? It's kind of a mixture of that. Yeah. But instead, I smile while I'm walking away.

So the first time if I ignored you, you didn't get it, I'll be like, oh. And then I'm still going down the street. Like fans. Because at that point, they're just kind of like, what? Yeah. They're like, the hell is wrong with her? Yeah, I literally just go, I just say what a million times. And I found that on an accident because someone actually cat called me.

And then I didn't hear him for sure, for real. And then he repeated it. And then I was like, oh. And I just turned around and went inside. Yeah, that's what I thought you said. And then you just turn around. What are they going to do? They can't get mad.

Literally, what are you going to do? What are you going to do? I need to know the next step. Go bother someone else, I bet. I guarantee you're going to bother literally everybody else with that bullshit. And it's never for the woman. It's always for the men around them or like for their brain. No, because after they do it, it's always like a.

It's like, they're that. Like they weren't listening. Like they told us. stellar joke and they're like, am I right guys? Am I right? Guys, guys, did you hear me? Do you not feel like a silly goose after that? Like a silly gooper?

Like, who are you performing for? You look a mess. It's just a two of us. It's just the two of us. Where you're like, looking for the audience that doesn't exist. Sometimes if there's men around me, I'll be like, hey, he's talking to you. Wait, that's funny. Tell him what you just said.

He's talking to you. He was talking to you, buddy. No, him, him. He really wants to tell you something. I like to know when people disrespect me. I'll just turn around and be like, like, who the hell? They really think you're going to be like, are you for real? No, mind you, they're saying like the nastiest, filthiest thing ever.

Most vile things ever. And they think you're going to be like, stop, baby. Like, and you're dead serious? Oh, my God. I live so close to here. You want to come? Like, oh, yes, actually. Like, be serious.

Oh, my God, I was hoping someone would tell me that today. Be a serious individual for once. For once. You're so unserious. You're so silly, bro. You're so silly. So incredibly silly. Okay, this next video, it says,

it's basically a man going on a rant about how getting to know women is a waste of time. And men shouldn't spend so much time taking women out on dates because the only important thing is if she's going to follow your lead. Whatever the hell that means. You lost my bag. Like, what? That topic has been like, you know, Twitter has the same, like, seven topics to get, like, recycled once a week.

That topic of like she needs to put out after the date, but women are also absurdly easy. Yeah. And the way that men will literally have sex with anything with a whole... I think they'll have sex with a chicken nugget. Literally, if they could find a way. This cup. Yeah. Actually, this microphone.

It's like, it's the same thing with like blow up dolls. Like, those are for them. Yeah. They're literally going to do it with inanimate objects. And they want to tell us how easy when you're, I think men would literally have sex with a studio light. If they could. If they could?

Just about anything. If they could shrink down to microscopic level and include other forms of amoebas, I'm sure they would. They do that though, but then also in the same sense. Yeah. If you actually do have sex with this man, you're like disgusting. And you're like the grossest person ever. Yeah.

Even though that's what they want. And I'm sitting here like, and what they engaged in. Like, I don't get. Wait, so we're not both sluts then? Yeah. It's just me. Turns out we're both ran through. Wait, what's the difference?

That's why I said. What's the difference? Yeah, literally. If I'm a slut, you're not one either? You're a big, big, that slut too. I guess I did do it with myself. I forgot. Yeah.

I did forget it was just me. He just gaslighted to you into believing he was never there in the first place. He just apparated out of there. I fear I don't understand. He's like, I closed my eyes the whole time, so it didn't count. I wasn't there. Like, physically I don't remember, so it wasn't there. I do fear that I'm a little scared.

I'm a little scared. Just a little bit. And the fact that he's like, don't, you know, women, getting to know women is a waste of time. So then don't. Then don't. Yeah, literally like, oh no, what am I going to do? I guess live my life normally. Oh my gosh, I'm going to cry because the scary man from TikTok said he's never, ever going to get to know me.

Like this comment, one of these comments says have a relationship with her and don't marry her. Please protect your net worth. Wait what? Networth? Networth. The net worth is the PC that he built in his mom's basement. Networth, babe. What is it, actually? Can you tell me?

Yeah, literally. I'm just curious. Let me see a paste-up. Like, wait, what? Let me see proof of income. I'm like the landlord. I'm like, I'm going to need to see. I need two months of rent.

I need six months worth of bank statements before we move forward on that. Do you actually have, like, legitimate pay stubs? Could you know those to me? The fact that, like, some dude will literally be working at the valvaline and be like, protect your net worth fellow. Stay safe out there, Kings. Bro, are you for real? I need to know more about this net worth.

Net worth? That's what I'm like, you're not not worth anything. How about worry about that? I'm a bit confused. I fear. I'm really scared of you right now. Like, I think you need help, dude. This next one says definitely an extreme position, but it's not wrong.

Women respect men that can lead them. Facts. That's a bitch who's never. That's a bitch who's never been with a woman. Like, what? No, truly. Get a hamster. I don't even know what to tell you.

Don't get a cat. They don't listen either. I feel like people that make comments like that have like never even been near a woman. No, truly. Their mother. Or their dentist. And their mom is scared of them, mind you. Yeah.

Like you've, you've, there's no way you've legitimately interacted with women in the real world. Truly. And you say stuff like that. Well, that's why I say the starters on the team, they don't need to talk about how good they are. Because they just are. No, it's the same. Yeah. It's the same as like when someone has like a, like their normal ass.

body online and people are like making comments about something super normal. I'm like, do you see people in like real life? Like ever? Have you ever been outside? Like, have you ever like your eyebrows crooked? Oh, okay. All right. Now what? Oh, okay. Let me just. What do you want me to do about that? That's why I've said that too when when people say like, oh, you're fat or whatever. And I go, okay. Now what? What happens next? Is it my turn? No, that's my favorite thing to say. As I say, is it my turn? I'll be like, now what? Tee, that was so funny. Can I tell you a joke now?

Mine's really funny. They're like, blocked immediately. You know what? You're a bully. That's what you are. I guess so. I do guess I'm. Okay.

I guess I'll take that. This next one says, this is true. Is she cooperative? Yes or no. Just the way that they describe, like, I don't know, like a servant, I guess is what you're describing,

a butler, like your mom. I don't know, like, sounds like you want to fuck your mom. It feels like a lot of, of the descriptions of like the ideal woman people want is like a literal live in butler that like sleeps next to you yeah and holds you at night i'm a bit confused do you know what you can do if that's what you want you can actually hire a butler yeah you could um and just sleep with it with all that net worth put it to good use man oh my and then you can utilize it diversify you know what i mean start hiring

start hiring help you don't want to go ordering them around that's what i'm saying you want to And a chef in wine. Yeah. And it's also like, I just think, why do you want to control what other people do outside of romanticism? Why would you want to be able to tell people what? Why do you care? Just giving me. I've never understood being superbly bothered by something that does not affect me. No, literally.

Even if I'm like mildly annoyed, I'm like, okay. I just, when you say shit like that, like, I, like, when men like doubled down on ideas like that, I'm like, you're so starved for puss. like actually making you go inside. Like, do you hear yourself? Yeah, like, truly. I'm wondering if I record you right now. I play this back. Would you be scared of what you're going to hear?

Listen to it and then be like, is this person, does this sound like someone who gets bitches? I'm going to actually change the voice and play for you. And you're going to say, what the hell is this? I'm going to say to you. So I always think, like, you're taking advice from dudes with no bitches on how to get bitches.

Yeah. Or a stable relationship in any way. Like, that would be like me if I got disbarred from the medical field for malpractice, and I was giving out advice on how to do open heart surgery. Am I the person to seek counsel from? Should you be listening to me? Probably not.

But if I speak, like, with enough conviction, you're going to believe me, let me just shave my head bald and start recording myself talking nonsense into a microphone, bro. I don't get it. That's why I said, at the end of the day, you look silly.

You look like a goofy, goofy goober. Yuckers-Buckers. I'm scared of you. I'm literally scared. No, truly chuckles the clown, bro. You are a mess. Like, you just sound silly. Like, you sound silly.

Like, you sound so starved for a pussy. It's not even funny. Mind you. A drought. And I'm sitting here, like, if the end goal is, like, to make women listen to you or whatever, do you really think that women are listening to the stuff you're saying? And they're like, wait, can you pass me his number actually? I need to contact him.

They're like, don't worry. Like, okay, did you see that one video on TikTok of that dude where he was like, cosplaying being a dominant. alpha male. No. Oh my God. Unfortunately for me, I get that shit sent to me all the time. I'm like, please God. I don't know how you do it. I simply do not see anymore. But he literally was like, he's acting it out. There's no one in the house but him. That's important to remember while he's recording this POV. He's like, sit down. I'm not going to tell you again. Wait, I think I have seen. I think you have seen that. I think I have seen that. Yeah, he's like, sit your ass down. I'm not

going to tell you again. And he was like, this is how you have to talk to. your woman or whatever like like they're gonna eat it up type shit and i was like oh the way my butthole went inside my body the way my sphincter disappeared bitch i shriveled up into my own asshole watching it i was like i cannot believe you recorded this and you were like editing you put filters no i know that wasn't a one take so you recorded the one and then you watched it and you were like no that wasn't right no yeah you reset up and did it again he's like five six seven, eight. Yeah, like, turn around.

Like, he's like, on time, time, I time, time. The timer on TikTok. He's like, in person to turn around. Like, he's like, oh, I turn. He's like, I turned too fast. He turned too fast, right. Okay, one, two, three. You know what I'm?

Oh my God, dude, just the way. Do you not feel like the silly, silly goobers look like? Just like what? That's why I say, like, what if you went to the pearly gates and God showed you this? No, it was like, as your judgment. And he's like, actually, you're at the wrong door. Side bitch. Yeah.

You actually. downstairs. Go on, take that elevator right down. In fact, take the stairs. You make me sick. In fact, I'm going to push you off the cloud. You don't deserve the stairs. The way that, like, I watched it, I was like, oh, my. And then I saw one of my mutuals, he stitched it and he goes, when you guys start working out, you just think you can say anything. And it's absurd. Like, the way you just, you grow titties and you're like, this is my time to shine. This is going to give everything it needs to. This is my time to shine. I'm going to start being the worst. I feel like they watch them and they're like,

I'm literally a genius, man. They send it to the group chat and they're like, dog. And they're like, save. This is going to go viral. Yeah. This is a boost. It's going about because everyone's making fun of you.

It's like first, first. First. I'm like, does the king respond? I can't. No, you know you're on like a heavy misogynist page when no one's holding him accountable. No, truly. Every comment is like giggling and like everyone's like,

Kiki, I'm like, oh, I'm in hell right now. They're like, yeah. I'm in literal hell right now. The world's biggest circle jerk. That's what it is. Get me up here. You know, truly, come on, come pick me up. I'm scared. If I'm checking the comments and no one's checking you, I know I'm in a bad place.

Yeah. It's either got to be, it's those and then randomly it's like my name. Every other like sixth comment, it's me in there. I remember, you know the audio when it's like the ominous music and then your laugh comes in? Yeah, yeah. I remember seeing that and I was like, that. that has turned into the point where

I will see a misogynist video and just expect you to be the other half of it and you to be like reading him and then I'll watch the thing and be like oh I'm literally I wasn't actually generally like ew ew ew I was I was waiting for Drew don't you know no no no no no yeah I have

countless comments people are like the way I thought that this was going to be a Drew thing and I watched it I watched too far in actually I could take my view back you're not what I thought you were like rewind delete literally immediately delete the whole account throw whole thing away. I can't. What would you say is your biggest piece of advice? Because obviously we're both public people to dealing with creepies online. To dealing with creepies, I have like the worst

advice, but it's legitimately just don't look because they don't stop. I think that's valid though. They don't stop. Like, yeah. The worst part is you kind of get a lot of hate like, oh, she never reads comments. Oh, you should read my comments from the creator side. Yeah. I think a lot of the time people forget that they're not seeing the phone that you are. Yeah. I see every. I see every, Every last comment. Yeah. You see maybe the few in that section you looked at. Yeah.

You didn't read through all 3,000 comments on that video. No, literally. So I genuinely just protect my piece and I don't look half the time. I think that's fair. Whether you're a social media person or not, I think that's fair. There's like, you have to put you first. Well, yeah, and you can't control what other people do. But you can't control if you look at it.

And that's why, like, sometimes for me, like, I'll look at stuff a lot, but sometimes I have to take breaks because I'm like, Like especially if I do one that pops off and it's with someone who's like rancid. Like Jimbo's are probably the worst. Like they're fans, whatever you call them. They're like little sheep, their little flock. Like once I anger, it's almost like. No, truly I like, I like kick the hornet's nest and then I have to deal with it for a little. I was wondered with that with you because I know that because you call people out more often than not, I can imagine because the one time I made like a video that went like super viral about calling like.

bad behavior out. Yeah. You've probably seen it. It was, it was bad. It was the function video. Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's actually,

I still get hate from that. And it's like two years. Yeah. After that video, my DMs, my emails were insane. I've had emails too. I was like,

there's no way you're this mad that I said, I feel like people are racist. That was literally the premise of the video. It's like racism. No, truly. Yeah, especially when I, because I almost always stitch white men because shocker they're the worst on that app.

Shocker, they're the biggest culprits on that app. So with that, like, genuinely, sometimes I get, like, when I kick that hornets nest really hard, like, you can always tell that I firmly believe that the fans of creators are like a reflection of who they are. You know what I mean? So, like, some of the worst creators with, like, the worst fan bases, their fans are, like, all right white supremacist, terrible.

and they'll save the most vile shit. And then I screenshot everything, save it because I'm a Virgo. And then I'll use it when I hit my next mill. But I'm the bad guy for posting the literal racist, misogynist comment I got. I remember when that happened, I was at first, that was in my era of responding. I just kind of stopped because I feel like it's not healthy for me to just constantly respond to hate comments. Yeah, I had to stop because I was responding to every last one. But I realized it just, it's not nice.

Yeah. It's not nice. to read that and intake that all the time. So I stopped. But before that, before I was a good woman. After the function video, I was like showing and I was like, y'all are being absurd, but look at what people are saying to me. And everybody's like, that's what you get for being a creator.

Is it? Like, wait, what? Is it? Pardon me? And even then with mine, mine too, because even with mine, like, I call people out. I say shit. I tell people like that what they said was garbage for whatever reason. So, like, when I get the comments, they're like, that's what you signed up for.

Is it? Is it, though? Yeah. And a lot of times, getting that waiver. You know what's crazy is, like, I get racist shit all the time, all the time, all the time. But they always are wrong about the race. The racism jokes are, like, never good either. No, and no, they aren't.

They're real tired, but they... It's the same thing all the time. They pick the wrong race. I'm at least, like... At least get the race to do some research. You know what I'm saying? Like, use your brain. Like, obviously I'm not these people or these people are...

whatever you may think I am. Because in white supremacist's head, it's like... You're not white. No. That's the problem. I'm not white, so I must be... Some?

They like spin a wheel and they're like, all right, that's what I'm going to pick. We have a fortunate race. Yeah, literally they're like, yeah, that sounds about right. I used to, at first, the racist comments especially used to really get to me because I've dealt with it before, obviously. Yeah.

Not to that degree. Not on that level, yeah. Yeah. And people are vile. Crazy. And when I first started getting them at first, they were like really hurting me. Like they were really bothering me. I used to cry and stuff like that.

And then after a while I was like, you're all saying like the same thing. I'm tired. There's no better jokes in like the backpack in the hospital. You're like, I'm bored. I'm really tired of being called a monkey. There's nothing else. There's, wait, there's really nothing else. Like, is that like the only thing you got anything else?

The N-word, I do fear I've heard that too many times. Do you have anything else? Can I leave now? Do you need me for this anymore? Do you actually want me to give me? view some um what do you what do you want yeah someone called someone called me uh they said that i looked like toulula from the barbie island movie i don't even know what that means neither did i looked it up it's a paulnesian monkey and i was like that's like that's like double whammy racist that's like

double like whammy racist that's like double down racist like i was like the the archives you got reach in to get that i feel like at least make it at least make me giggle yeah at least if you're going to be a little racist to me. I want to smile. I want to go, that did hurt. But that does not happen. I fear. I fear the monkey and the N-word is not going to get to me back. It's not doing it. Yeah. I need you to actually dig deep. Yeah. Okay, find that ancestor. Get some cre- find that ancestor. Find that ancestor. Talk to me when you got something good. Yeah. The last thing I'll say really quick is like sometimes people ask me, has anyone ever said anything to you that was actually good, like an insult. And I said that wasn't a follower, no, right? Like, followers roast me so much

better than, like, they're so much funnier than all these terrible bigoted men. But one time, a random dude who didn't hate me at all, really, but a girl made a tweet about me. She basically just was like saying she loved me and it went viral. But the screenshot, my girl picked, I was like, babe, come on. You could have went through my Instagram. Why'd you pick this? It's like me mid-talking. It's like a terrible picture or whatever. Twitter sets you up a lot. No. They like to set people up.

And it was all out of love. Like she was like, I love this bitch. Like she's so funny. Blah, blah, blah. And her tweet went viral. And then someone literally called me, I think it was, they just wrote pot of greed, I think it was. And it's, please look it up. It's a Yu-Gi-o card.

I looked it up. It's a literal pot with like a face on it. And it does look like me. And it does look like me. I said, listen, bro, you got me. I'm going to hold on to that one. That one's going to be. I'm crying.

That's for me to hold on to. I'm going to keep that one. I'm gonna take that. You know what I mean? That was a good one. They're never good one. Oh my God. I'm literally gonna send a picture of it to Katie

and tell her to put it on the video. It looked like me in the picture. It for sure looked like me. I said, damn. No, those be the ones that be like. Yeah. All right. All right.

You know what? I can't even be mad at you right now. And his tweet had so many likes. I was like, oh, y'all. Literally, I hate the stab, dude. But I was like, you know what? That's when you report it. That's when you report the tweet.

Literally. Now that me and Shalyn have established that creepies live no matter what or where, no matter how many times you try to stop them out like bugs, they'll thrive. The bugs that they are. They're little roaches. They really are. You can't escape it, so just ignore it if it helps. Literally close your eyes.

Yeah, and block and delete. Protect your peace. Yeah, truly. Which you first. Yeah. You matter. They don't. Where can everybody find you?

You can find me at C-H-A-L-L-X-N everywhere. Period. And thank you so much to Shalyn for joining me today. I love you, bro. I love you, more. You give the funniest. Shellon's the best. Make sure you go follow her.

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