The Comment Section with Drew Afualo - SHREK GETS ME ON A SPIRITUAL LEVEL Ft. Julian Burzynski | Drew Afualo | THE COMMENT SECTION EP 47

Episode Date: January 4, 2023

[video available on Spotify] This week Drew welcomes Julian Burzynski on the podcast for an iconic episode about all things rom-coms: ranking their all-time favorites, why some men refuse to watch them, why Drew Barrymore is the ultimate queen of romantic comedy, and so much more! Drew: LinkTree Julian: Instagram / TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

These men are lazy and these movies are showing us something that could be and like a love that they go out of their way to like do whatever they can. Exactly. And they're like, I don't feel represented here. I would never do that. Very much. I would never try hard for someone. Hey everyone and welcome back to another episode of the comments section show starring me, your favorite, Drew. Everybody knows me.

Everybody loves me. But the men hate me. And that's okay. Today is my, I have a very, very special guest. the one and only Julian Brzeinski. Hey! I am a man and I love Drew. So there's one.

That's it. You know what? And that's all we need. Just that one. Thank you. I need nothing more. Just you. I'm so excited to have you.

I'm so excited to be here. Thank you for having me. Oh my gosh, of course. I can't ledge, the one and only. You're one of the first people I actually followed on TikTok. No way. Yeah. I think there was like a handful.

There was probably like 10 or 12 when I was just like a creeper. I was just scrolling and watching everyone. Those were like the days of like the DeMilios and like Addison Ray were like the girls. Not that they're not anymore, but like they've obviously moved on to like huge celebrities.

But at the time they were like the only people I would see because I was never on TikTok. And then I saw you and I was like okay this is the shit I'm talking about. I love that. Thank you. I bet like it's been a journey.

I feel like at that time the lace was still showing. My hair line was I like had no idea. So it's been a. a journey. The production quality has elevated. We've learned about lighting. We've learned about, I can't say I'm a makeup artist, but I've, you know, gotten better. Mastered an eyeliner from Euphoria. That really helped me. Your Euphoria videos were so big. They were so fun to do.

Were they fun? I love that show so much. It kind of was inspiring. I wanted to make. make those so badly after watching. I was like, this is incredible. Like, Maddie, like knocking on that door. I was like, this is so iconic. So that was like, you know. It kind of like reignited it for you a little bit. For sure.

There are things that like inspire me that I'm like, oh my gosh, I would love to, you know, put my own spin on this piece of art that inspired me and maybe like inspire somebody else in a different way, but like kind of like keeping the same vibe. Yeah, absolutely. Yeah. What actually got you into TikTok, if you don't mind me asking? So my ex-boyfriend.

Ooh, tea already. Tea, it was tea. He, you know, peace and blessings to him. But he showed it to me. And we actually did a dance together. Okay. And we both posted it. And he got, like, so upset.

It was my first video on TikTok. He posted it and, like, didn't get very many views. And at that time, I had no idea, you know. And I posted it and he got so upset because he was like really into it. And he was making like these like quirky videos that were, you know, cute. You can drag him. It's okay. No, well, you know, he should be.

They were bad. Yeah, okay. You know, personally I didn't think they were funny. But, you know, there are people who don't think what I'm doing is funny. You're like, you know, but like that's just me. Right. Like, what do I know? What am I the comedy constable?

I don't know. I don't. Right. I'm like, I'm sure people, look at mine are like, sorry. Like, what is that about it? One loves that video. You know what? I'm sure somebody does, and I love that for him.

She's not in this room, but I'm sure someone loves that video. Yeah, and he showed it to me, and then... Yeah. Yeah, he got mad because mine got, like, more of you. Not that many, but, like, just, like, more than his. It did better. Yeah. It was the same exact video? Same exact video.

It was, um... Are you trying to remember the song? Yeah, it was a dance, and she had, like, Adidas sweatpants on, and a hot. Harvard. I remember. Yes. I remember. Oh, it's like the, the shardy I don't mind.

That one? Yeah, yeah. The usher song. Yeah, yeah. When it was like. With the Forever 21 bag in the back. Yeah, yeah. I remember.

That's early, early TikTok. Early. Yeah. So then I kind of like scrolled and then once the pandemic hit, I was in New York City and I was pursuing music theater. I was acting. And I was also a cartoon. Rio Fitness Instructor.

Oh, look at you. Yeah, it was fun. Like, Love it got to dance and like, it's called Shout Out to 305 Fitness. They're in New York City and other places as well, but it was like live DJ, live lights. Oh, how fun. So, so cool. It was like going out, but like sweating. Yeah.

Which I do. I do that anyways. Anyway. I'm going to say, regardless of fitness is involved. I'll be sweating. The back of my shirt is always going to be a different color. It's going to be so, babe. Same.

But I wasn't doing anything because both, you know. Because of COVID. Everything shut down. Yeah. So in the first couple weeks, I would, like, watching these rom-coms and these movies that, like, inspired me from, like, when I was younger. Because movies and television have always been, like, an escape for me. Yeah. So, like, in middle school and when I was younger and, like, having trouble finding myself and, like, going through bullying and stuff, I would always...

I'm very blessed with a great family as well. Yeah. Yeah, your mom's in your videos all the time. Shout out mom. Shout out mom. Shout out dad. Hey. So, and I had two sisters as well.

So I didn't always want to like burden them with sadness or like tell them everything that was going on and like that. So I always used to go down to the basement and just like put on movies and like watch them. And it was such an escape for me. Yeah. And I kind of felt that in the first like two weeks. We were doing nothing but like watching movies and TV shows.

Yeah. And I was kind of watching some of my favorite ones. from the past and like new ones as well. But it took me back to that pace where I was like, oh, this is like a safe space. Yeah. And I had wigs and stuff. I studied music theater in college,

so I had like love a costume party still to this day. I love a look. I'll turn a look, bitch. Let's go. Right? Like I love a look and I had a ringlight from like auditions for music theater. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I kind of was like, let's like, I don't know.

I was kind of like I can put this. fantasy to like a reality by like making my own spin on it and maybe creating like a minute of a safe space for somebody else. Yeah, yeah. And that's why I wanted to be, that's why I want to be, you know, an actor on film and do all these things to, you know, provide an escape through characters and like storylines that people can relate to and also like know that they are safe watching that or like feel different than they are.

I can see themselves in you. Exactly. Like whoever does you play on the screen. Kind of like how you were doing it when you were watching movies. I love that. Right. What's your favorite like early, like late 90s, early 2000s rom-com? So my favorite movie ever has never been kissed.

I love that movie. So, I mean. Josie Grosy. Josie Grosy. Yikes. Bikes. I love that. My mom loves that movie too.

So good. I was named after Drew Barrymore, actually. I got it. T. Drew, if you ever see this. Hey, Drew. Invite me and Julian on your show. Pearson, Kristen, Giffy, wait up. And you've done that movie. I have. Yeah, you have. Oh, I love that.

That's a great choice. So good. Quality choice. I still haven't had the kiss like she has, but I'm like holding out for it. That kind of kiss. Thanks for putting it in my mind. Yeah, thanks a lot, Drew. Actually, we're mad at you. I'm just kidding. We're not. We're not mad at you. Not even a little.

I think my favorite One of my favorites that I remember all the time is like made in Manhattan. So good. Love that movie. Jennifer Lopez movies are like a different genre. They are. They're like their own subset of rom-coms.

You know what I mean? They can't do any wrong. One thing about J-Lo, she's going to play J-Lo. In every movie. And she's going to do it flawlessly. I remember watching her put on that white suit and I was like, damn, that looks good. So good.

I'd do that too. I'd lose my job too. Oh, yeah. For Voldemort. When she comes out in the diamonds and the whole staff, like, helps her get ready. Her look. Oh, my gosh. My sister and I, to this day, I'm not even kidding.

Every time I see like a Harry Winston store, we go, it's that the Harry Winston Diamond Reef? It's so good. To this day, we still say that. I love rom-coms. I'm like such a huge fan. Yeah. They're like the best. Yeah, and I feel like that's like a, I love that you said that was like one of your favorite

genres of movies because I feel like I could tell that from your content because you always create. I mean, obviously you do lots of modern stuff too, but you love a good musical, you love a good rom-com. I love that. Yeah, love a 90s, like 2000s rom-com musical. Right. They don't make them like that anymore. They really don't. Yeah. It's different. I guess we're growing with it and not that there are amazing movies coming out and amazing rom-coms. Yeah. But there was just something about that time. Yeah. It's just so like. untouchable in the cinema department. Ain't the fashion.

Yeah. Just seeing it like in real life where you're like, you're watching that and they're like, that was the style. And it is now again. Yeah. We're back to Y2K. Right. No, literally. They're so cyclical.

It's crazy. So every time if someone's like, besides never been kissed and someone's like, I've never seen many rom-coms, like what's one you have to? What are like your top three you recommend? So let's say never been kissed is one of them. Yes. Never been kissed rom-com. Maybe I, okay, Drew Barrymore to me.

is probably a queen of rom-com. Honestly, she is. She's conquered them all. She has. Clueless, I would say that, is a rom-com. That's a great one. And I love 50 first dates. I really do.

Oh, that's such a good one, too. Her whole, like... Everything about her. Everything. She can do no wrong in my eyes. Like, I love it. No wrong. Except show me the kiss that I haven't gotten yet.

Except that. That's on you. That's her fault. Except, yeah. Okay, so speaking of rom-cons, that's going to actually be our topic for today, loving them. More specifically how they're so gendered in the terms of they're like, they call them chick flicks or whatever. One of my first videos to ever go viral, I did like very specific red flags in men. And like that was my first one to ever go super viral.

And then I made a follow up obviously because I angered a bunch of men. Like I really kicked that hornetsness and that makes me giggle. So I did it again. And in my second. Love your giggle. And I kind of giggle. In my second version, I literally. literally said if he refers to rom-coms as like chick flicks and that's why he won't watch them.

Boring. You're so boring. I mean, snooze. Yeah, big snooze, big loser, honestly. We hate it. You're telling me you don't want to watch someone fall in love. Why? Here's the thing, though.

In all movies that are like genre action and like that, there is love. Like there always is. In some fashion. Yeah. And there's, I guess not in all movies, but like a joke or two. Yeah, absolutely. You're seeing it. It's just in a different life.

Yeah. But like, I don't know. Toxic masculinity is keeping them from never been kissed. And that's a sad life to live. That's crazy. That's not worth it. I don't think so. You guys really should not do that.

Watch that movie. Like, I'm sad for you. I literally, I guess it's like, it's not necessarily wrong. But they kind of are. I had like a marathon with my boyfriend. My boyfriend hasn't watched anything. Like every movie, every Disney movie, every rom-com, anything that he's seen, I've showed him. And he's older than me.

And I think it's just because, like, the only, he said the only things he ever watched were, like, animal things when he was growing up and nothing else really. And I'm like, that's weird. Yeah. It's a weird thing. That's strange. Maybe I was just an iPad kid before they were iPad kids. But, like, so he hasn't really seen any movies, like, at all. So, but we had a marathon.

And I was showing him all the high school musicals. Gorgeous. They still hold up to this day. They are a classic, and I think forever will be held in that light. Yeah, I was trying to show them Disney Channel original movies. All those, like, cheesy, romantic ones. So good. They hit so hard.

I showed them those. I showed them Camp Rocks. Love Camp Rock. He didn't really care for those, but he said he liked High School Musical more. I like Camp Rock one. Same. Two, not so much. I can't really remember two.

It's not worth remembering, TBH. Love you, Demi. I rewatched it recently. Doesn't hold up. The first one, though, hits. Hits. But I was a big Jonas Brother person. Were you ever a boy band person?

Or anyone, like, obsessed with, like, any pop stars? Yes, I'm a big Ariana Grande. Oh, I love her. Yes. I think I've always been... I love women. And I've always loved pop stars and girl groups. Same.

Guy groups. Never really. I don't know. Like, you know, like I had NSYNC. They were fun and. Yeah, same. But I never, like, turned on. I think I was more, I think I was more of a backstreet boys girl, which doesn't really make sense now that I look back.

I feel like NSYN was more successful. Maybe I'm just an underdog person. I remember, like, 98 degrees. Like, there was some, I definitely thought they were hot. But did I listen to the music? I don't know. Not really. Didn't really vibe.

Yeah, no, but I, I'm trying to think of any other boys. band. Or just pop princesses? Did you go to concerts and stuff? Love Brittany. Oh yeah. Love Britney. Mariah. All the gals. Yeah, all the girls. All the girls.

Love the icons, the legends. Yes. Cizza, the new albums. So good. So good. It's on repeat. I'm already counting on it being on my, on my Spotify Raptor 2023. Very much. I literally, every five seconds, I'm like, do it to you. I have to do it to you.

Like literally like. Oh, my God. You sounded just like her. Whoa. watch out okay let's get back to rom-com so that's what we're going to be talking about today and how toxic masculinity is keeping them from cinematic golds that's on them

and how they're gendered but they shouldn't be because they're for everyone you can find something and everything so we're going to be talking about that today and for those of you who don't know what we do here on the comment section is you bring videos that I was tagged in bring them here and we pick them apart laugh kiki share all the giggles all that fun stuff so for this first video

I just like to describe them. So this one says, this is a TikTok comedian and they're making a P of Vee video with the caption watching a really bad rom-com with your girlfriend. So it's like P-O-V, you're watching a really bad video. And it says he pretends to be really upset that he

has to watch it, makes fun of all the tropes and says the writing is worse than Star Wars etc. Star Wars is technically rom-com. I would say I can't say that I've seen

all of them I will say one of my awakenings is that I wanted to be Natalie Portman in the white like

Oh my gosh I don't think it's a lion It's some creature That scratches her back And she's like Ah And she has like The three lines in the back

And that was like Hot So hot But I was like I want to be her I was like That is the moment I don't care about

The storyline Very much that Yeah But it was, you know, Star Wars has love. Like, there's love in that movie. Yeah, there's incest too. So, yeah, can't get better writing than incest. Whoa.

I beg to differ. I do, too. I think J.Lo and Made in Manhattan would beg to differ. Wedding Planner? Sorry. The wedding planner? Oh, my God. I love that movie.

I used to watch that movie on repeat on VHS. So, I, like, can't remember it right now, but when she's like, you smell like macaroni and cheese. plums or something I'm like there's a scene in the beginning I remember this so clearly where she's

playing with her Barbies because she like always cosplay weddings as a kid and that's how she became a wedding planner when she was playing at the Barbies

I was like damn if only I had that Barbie set like because you know you have Barbies that you lose all the shoes and shit hers were so nice

and neat and prim and proper and I was like and I was so in love with it and I was like damn maybe I'll be a wedding planner not honestly Mossimo in that movie

hot. I kind of was like... Gray's Anatomy? That he's on Grey's Anatomy. That... What's his name on Grey's Anatomy? Correv. Yeah. That's his name. Work my pussy bitch. Yeah, work it. When they're working out against each other.

Yeah. Do you remember that scene? Him and Matthew McConaughey? My gosh. And they went there at their wedding. They're like, oh, she's like, oh my gosh. And they're in the dance class. And they're like, battling. I'm like... The sexual attention. Gosh. Oh my gosh. I always think about the... M&Ms. Only the brown M&Ms. Yeah.

Last food coloring. That's the way you and I are falling in love. We're citing the words to each other. This is a rom-com. We're living it right now. Who says you can't enjoy them? You know what I mean? That's why I'm like...

I live my life like a rom-com. Right now it's maybe a horror movie. But we haven't had an ending yet. So there you go. It's still taking the chair. That's right. 2023, that's where you're going. We love a twist.

We love that. Okay. So some of the comments are, on this video. This one says, I swear to God, bro, if I have to watch another rom-com with Julia Stiles in it because of my sister, I'm going to lose my shit. First of all, name more than two. To this guy. Like, name more than two with Julia Stiles specifically. I can only think of two, to be honest. Well, 10 things ahead about you. But now she's in, like, the orphan, that movie on Paramount.

I believe, right? That's called range, babe. That's what that's called. Oh, range. I was like, it's called range? No, she has range. I was like, oh, maybe that's the title. She has it.

Ten Things I Hate About You is a great movie, and that's probably the only one he's seen, and he didn't like it. You can't tell me you didn't tear up when she says the poem. Oh, my God. You know what's so funny. When I was in high school, I took drama, like my freshman year. And so one of my semester finals was to do a monologue. and every girl like I found I was like oh I'm gonna do that one it has to be a dramatic monologue so I picked her doing the poem and I was like oh my god I'm gonna eat this shit up and then I went

and my teacher told me four other girls were doing that and I was like now I have to change it I simply can't be like every other girl they were doing those ones and they were doing the Cinderella story one she's like waiting for you is like waiting for rain this drought useless and disappointing those are like the two that every every girl was doing and I was like damn and she's I'm only letting this many people do each one and like you're too late. And I was like, damn. I mean, you would have it.

You should do it so. I mean, I'll just freestyle it. And I just start doing it right now. No work. I cute the tears. You know what's so funny. I did, I like, those were the ones I was doing. I was doing like sweet ones.

You know what I mean? They're sad in their very nature, but like they're from cute, sweet movies. Yeah. And then I did a hard left. And I did, have you ever seen the movie where the heart is? I can't say I have. Oh my gosh. Has anyone ever seen that?

that movie where the heart is with Natalie isn't Natalie Foreman and yes yes oh my god girl watch it it's so dramatic like the monologue I picked was literally so emotionally taxing and heavy and my teacher was like are you sure you want to do this one because the first one I pitched was like waiting for you is like waiting for Rayna's Stroud and I went it was 10 years ago that I was attacked like it was literally so like hard left and that's That's called range. Range. And then I pull off my face and I'm Julia Stiles.

It's pleasure to meet you. Okay, let's get back to these comments. Okay, this next one says, they're never funny either. That's simply not true. Like, good comment. That's simply not true, babe. humor is also subjective, but there's lots of silly, funny jokes in rom-coms all the time. Even if it's just like a, you know, like, I just like, I joke.

Like a chuckle. Or it's like, oh, that's, you know, or you roll your eyes. Like, can me that is like a form of like, oh my gosh, like so funny. But stupid, but like, you're just like in your head like, oh, God. Even it never been kissed. Like, my family and I still make this joke like when he's like, do you remember what they called you? And she said Josie Grosie. Yeah.

And he goes, I know because I'm the one who made it up. We say that all the time to each other. You tell me that's not funny. That shit hits every time. It's so good. Even the scene where she gets egged, not funny, but kind of funny. Yeah. The circumstances are funny.

Okay, Billy. And it comes out. When the girl comes out, like, the blonde hair, it's like... She's 35. I know. But also I love. She runs off. And that has, like, an iconic, like, makeover scene.

Yeah, yeah. It's so good when her boss, like, gives her the job, like, the random job. I was going and he's like, what's your name? And she's like, Josie. And he's like, Jose. She's like, Josie Geller. You enroll in high school. I'm like, you're telling me that's not funny.

You're telling me. Lie to your mom. You know what I mean? That's comedy. Molly Shannon. Icon Ledge. Icon legend. This next one, or this last comment says,

on God, this is how romance movies are. And it just pisses me off because the plot is so. bad. You know, I just think, like, I think that toxic masculinity has conditioned you to believe that, like, you should automatically hate them because women love them. You know what I mean? I almost feel like they just are, these men are lazy, and these movies are showing us something that could be, and, like, a love that they go out of their way to, like, do whatever they can. Exactly. And that's what. They're like, I don't feel represented here. I wouldn't.

never do that. Very much. I would never try hard for someone. On to the next. Right? I'm like, I want a movie man who like does what they do. It's like the,

it's so grand. Yeah. Love is like such a big notion. And it doesn't always have to be like that. Yeah. But seeing it on screen, there is like a want for that. Yeah,

absolutely. These big things. So maybe they just are like, I don't have to live up to that. It's like. Boring. Yeah, boring. Love, support, empowerment.

Hey it. So boring. I bet you guys who write shit like that, they love, like, the Fast and the Furious movies. I bet. Well, I myself do love Vin Diesel, so. I like him. I like I with him.

Yeah, I can't say that. I like Hobbs and Shaw, the spin-off. Lots of Fast and Furious people are going to hate me for saying that. I'm going to, I have a lot of things to watch. Hobbs and Shaw highly recommend. I may be biased because the rocks in it, and he and I are brothers. in Christ we're both someone.

But the movie itself is hilarious. It's so funny. Like, I think that slapstick kind of humor that he always does with, like, Kevin Hart and stuff. And that one, he's, like, opposite Jason Statham, and their dynamic just works really well. They're just so funny. But, like, guys like that love movies like that.

And are you asking them, like, what's their favorite movie? And they'll lie to you and say Citizen Kane when, like, really, it's, like, the Batman with Heath Ledger, which is not a bad movie, but it's also, you're not special for liking. that one more. Right. You know what I mean? Like, that's a good movie, but...

You probably never heard of it, but... Batman. It's kind of a deep cut. Yeah. You know, not many people in there. Some people say, you know, that they like other Batmans, but that one... I don't know if you know this, but Heath Ledger did method acting to do that movie. Like, they'd give you a whole plot that Wikipedia told them when they looked it up.

You know what I mean? Yeah, it's just kind of like... It's exhausting. I've seen the movie. Thank you. It was good. RIP. Miss you.

So hot. Yeah. I think that, like, I don't know. I just feel like it's okay to like things. If they're silly and lighthearted and they're loving in the very nature and they're not mean or heavy or anything, it's okay. It doesn't make you any less of who you are. Exactly. And I think like being, even if saying like you love a rom-com, if that means like you're confident in yourself, then that's great.

But like also there's like, why not? Yeah. It's okay. You can enjoy it. There's something, like the movie, P.S. I love you. Oh, such a great movie. I mean, heavy. Heavy.

Super heavy, but still romantic. Like, technically a rom-com to an extent, because there is comedy and romance. But it's so heavy, and that's, like, an example of something that I feel like, anyone could watch that and be like, that was a good movie. I liked that. I enjoyed that. For sure. That was sweet. It's going to tug at your emotion no matter what.

Yeah. And, like, rom-coms, no matter what. And even, like, movies that I don't necessarily. gravitate towards or watch in my everyday life. I think I can relate to something in them. Yeah, exactly. I'm like, I'm like, that had nothing.

The only type of movie that, you know, it's when the story's already been told and it's not like really pushing anything that is, you know, what the audience or the world needs to hear right now or like pushing joy or just like spreading awareness or knowledge and something that we all need to learn about kind of thing. But yeah, for me, it's just like, you can like what you like. It doesn't make you, like, it just makes you hear you.

Any better than anyone else. Yeah. Like, I agree. You know, it's funny. Recently, too, I saw that the movie he's just not that into is on Netflix. Yes. So I watched it with my boyfriend because he's never seen it. So we watched it together.

He loved it. And at the end, it was funny because he had told me he watched something else. And he was like, I was wondering, like, why I was, like, feeling this. hatred towards Bradley Cooper because he was in that other thing he watched. Yeah. And I was like, it's probably because we just watched that movie. And he's like such a scumbag in that movie. He's with Scarlet in that movie.

Yeah, and he's cheating. And he's like just a creepy, awful husband. And he was like, yeah, I remember when he was watching it, he was like, what? When he was like, when he was cheating. And I was like, I know. Can you believe it? Horrible. Great movie, though.

Great movie. Great lesson. I thought of another one, crazy stupid love. That one was with Steve Corral Oh my God I hyper fixated on that movie for a while

because it was just such a feel good movie and I loved it so much I love a rom-com oh my God They're the best I know And Emma Stone is just

flawless I'm a star You know that thing When they were like I don't know Not a rom-com But I'm a star

Her dynamic With Ryan Gosling in that movie Give it to me They have it in La La Land too The tension that they have Yeah I've actually never seen La La La Land Tea, but I've never actually seen it.

Oh my gosh. Yeah, I need to. Yes. I know everyone raped about it, so I haven't seen it yet, though. I loved it. I feel like they have the same, like, um, chemistry and relationship as, like, um, George Clooney and Julie Roberts. Oh, yeah. Like, like, runaway bride and, um, pretty woman. I feel like Ryan Gossing and Emma Stone have that same, like, really beautiful, like, chemistry. Yeah, it just works so well. Like Drew Barrymore and Adam Sandler. Very much.

Yeah. Their chemistry is so, it's just so palpable and believable, I think. Yeah. You buy it. That's what I love about it. It's like, oh, wow. There is love there. Yeah.

Sometimes I'm like, oh, I hope they love each other in real life. Truly. I'm like rooting for them in real life. I'm like, I hope you guys love each other for realzies. When a rom-com is that good and you're like, this is real life. I'm like, I ship you guys. If it's not, I'm going to kill myself. Very much.

Okay. Let's move on to this next video. So this one says, It's a man being interviewed in this video, and he's making the argument that most modern women are narcissists. And one of his main points to prove that is that females have grown up thinking that they're the center of the world because every film is about romance. Every film has a star trying to get the woman. He thinks this is making their egos too big. Oh, man, there's a lot to unpack in there.

Well, let me tell you something. Women are the center of the world. They created the world. I was also, there's no life about women, so. Who run the world? Girls. The girls. The girls.

Most modern women are narcissists. I mean, I feel like the word narcissists is so loosely thrown around these days by men especially. They, so, like, grossly misdiagnosed narcissism. I mean, they learn one word and they use it, like, in their everyday. It's like, you know, the people who just, like, use the word wrong. It's just like, okay, yeah. Like we taught them the word gaslight and they haven't known peace since. They have been overusing and abusing that word.

Like crazy. Very much. They'll be like, ugh, this rom-com is so much gaslight. And you're like, what? You're not even using it right. Yeah, that's not the right context. But I'm proud of you for trying. Yeah.

Swing and a miss. But, you know. I think, like, also there's like narcissism personality disorder. This is just a fact. statistically speaking men suffer from that more. You know why? Because men are empowered more. Right.

So that's a fun fact for you, bitch. You've learned today. There you go. And I think to blame all of that on like rom-coms, they also never factor in in this kind of like argument. They never factor in gay people, non-binary people, asexual people. They never factor in any of those people. It's like they're operating under the assumption that every single person

adheres to the gender binary. Every single person is straight. And they're like, well, man-chase woman, woman think she more valuable. It's such a caveman way of looking at things. Very much. Like, also, everybody's gay. Let me say that. And in one year and a bear.

That's what Johnny Sybilis said on my show too. Love Johnny. Hey, Johnny. He's like everyone's gay. Just a little. But also, like, if it was any way around, right? So think, like, this person who is writing this comment. Yeah.

Like, you would have an up, you'd be up in arms about that too. Yeah. About, like, it being, like, a man being pursued. Yeah. Something like... Yeah, that would offend them. Right. They'd be like, that's not the man's job.

The man's job is to chase. Very much. Yeah. It would just be like there's no... Winning. No. Not at all. They're never satisfied.

It's like, it's too much one way. It's too much. the other way, like they can't make up their mind, to be honest. They just want to... Enjoy the movie. Just watch. Not that deep. No, it's never that deep.

But also, if you were to factor in, like, lesbians, yes. They're not attracted to men, so... There are many lesbians, I'm sure, that love rom-com. What does that do? That makes no sense. Let me say, though, did you see bros? I did, actually. So what I loved about that was a rom-com for the gays.

Yeah. And for everybody. Yeah. But, like, watching rom-coms growing up, you know, you see, like, men and women kissing and, like, partaking in sexual activity that, like, you don't really blink an eye. Yeah. I was watching bros, and though I, like, experience gay sex, I don't know. Julian's gay. I don't know if anyone knows.

Yes. I'm coming out today. I'm gay. And it's a safe space here. I'm gay. I'm gay. And I love it. Yeah.

But I was going to say watching it on screen, watching two men, like, be intimate. Yeah. Even though I experience it, I like, you almost cringe a little bit. Yeah. That's such a good point. Not used to seeing, for me, gay men in love, like, represented on screen. Yeah. Without it being dramatic.

Yeah. Or traumatic. traumatic, yes. And those stories are very important and need to be told, but there are also joyous rom-coms, like bros, that have, um, seeing that on screen is like so empowering. But also you're like, oh my gosh, like, what? Even though like, you know. It almost feels like you're, you're like seeing something that you're not, well, you're seeing something you're not used to seeing. So initially you're like, oh my God, I can't believe it. Yeah. That's weird. Right. I'm like, you're thinking in your head that's weird that I feel like shocked. You know what I mean? because that's just how little it ever happens. Very much. I'm like, I'm face to face with a penis, like a good amount in my life.

But, like, on screen, I'm like, oh, my God. Like, oh, my gosh. You're like, people are watching this? I know, it was with my mom, and I was like, I was like, she knows what I'm doing. That's what I, what I also loved about that movie in particular was like, it wasn't all like a beautiful, perfect love story. It was like the awkwardness of.

like talking and like are we dating are we not do we like each other do we not like it's like the the ups and downs of it um is what i liked because they've portrayed that in so many other heterosexual movies yeah and it's like dating like when you make dating messy and and confusing and all that it's much more relatable than when if it's like just a perfectly laid out love story right so that's what i liked about it too they made it like awkward and weird when you're like flirting but you don't know if they're flirting like the part in the club when they're flirting and He thinks they're floating. He turns around and he's gone.

Yeah. And he's like, and he's talking to some other dude. He's like, oh. Well, then he actually, that part where he goes up to him and he's like, hey. I was trying to kiss you. I was like, oh my gosh. I don't know if I would ever be able to do that.

But like, I loved the confidence. Like, it was amazing. And also, like, they did such a good job of, that is one that I think was so inclusive. And, like, telling the story. in a world that like there are things that need to be worked on. There are like things in the community and just like in the world that we are like striving to be better about. And like it recognized that while like staying true to a rom-com and like a love thing.

And to his, it was a man being pursued. Chased by another man. So, shocking. Riddle me that, babe. Okay. So the comments on this, this first one says, if I sat in front of the mirror for hours a day, I'd be locked up for most women that's just normal life.

That's such a like made up thing. Like where did you hear that? That people sit in front of the mirror. Yeah, like that women are just looking at themselves all the time. Like that's such a made up. Like we have shit to do. Like I don't have time to sit and look at myself. Absolutely not.

Girl, sometimes when I catch a glimpse, I'm like, oh my God, I've been walking around like that all day because I haven't been looking in mirrors. Sometimes if I put like the front camera on it's literally like, I'm like, oh my god. Yeah, like sometimes after a video, if I like makeup on, I take the wig off. And I'm like, oh my God. Me every day I leave this show, the way I rip my hair out immediately and I look like, I look like a cue tip when you rub it really hard and you hold it up.

That's what I look like. A lollipop falling on the ground, pick it up hairs on it. That's what I look like going home every day. And I'm just sitting in the car like. So at that point, don't put me in front of a mirror. I don't want to see it. No. I don't need to be a part of that.

I'll take a good, like, on a good day, I'll take a good, like, I'm not going to sit in front of it for, like, 20 minutes, but throughout the day, you know, a minute here, a minute there. Like, as yourself, you're like, you look good today. Yeah, I'm that bit. Yeah. And it's hard some days. I would say that. But I'm not, like, sitting in front of the mirror, like, staring, like, staring contest with myself, you know? And it's such a, like, it's just one of those fallacies that's constantly spread by misogynists.

Like they're like women are, women only care about what they look like. They believe women are vapid. So they believe they hold all their worth and value in what they look like. And no one's told them that except other men. Like they've never gotten that information from an actual woman or a female identifying person. It's just been other men telling them. And they're like, okay. It's probably because they've never met one in real life.

And they never will. And they never will. I'll make sure of it. I'm going to make sure no woman. ever talks to you. Watch out. Okay, this next comment says all films are about

a guy. All films are about a guy winning over the girl or saving her and she's the prize. Are you talking about Shrek? I think so. It's okay if you are. If you're talking about Shrek, then you're right.

Shrek's a rom-com, I'd say. It is, and it's a great movie. Although I would say as like a stupid woman who's watching a rom-com, I do identify with Shrek more than I do with Fiona. He just gets me, I feel like. You know what I mean? He's angry.

He's irritable. He hates kids. He hates me inconvenience. He eats onions like an apple. That's me. You like onions? I love onions. Oh, bitch.

I love them. I knew I smelled something. Just kidding. She smells great. I just, he gets me on a spiritual level. I feel like, and a lot of like men who hate me, they're like, oh, Princess Fiona. I'm like, put some respect

of my name, call me Shrek. It's Queen. Honey, she rules the kingdom. And they're all Lord Farka, and we all know how that story ended. Yeah. So, you know what I mean? Even when Fear God Mother

tries to foil the plan, it's just not going to happen. He's always going to come out on top. It's going to be Shrek. And I think too... Shrek's atop. You heard of here first. He for sure is.

Oh. He for sure is. Smash. I think, too, with the Shrek thing, He like, you know, like, everyone wants to kill him and he's like, ah, and then they all run away in fear? Yeah. Me.

They can talk to talk, but they'll never walk to walk. Amen. And you know what? I'm going to get all of you out me swamp if it's the last thing I do, bitch. That's what I'm doing on TikTok every day. Get out me swamp, babe. I'm making waffles. The going away party.

Okay. Last comment on this video. It says, all in all caps women think they're, they are. Tends. It comes from Grandpa telling her that she's a princess. Hear that enough times and you believe it. That's Cinderella story.

Yeah, and also, I'm not very good with grammar, but that sounded incorrect. It comes from Grandpa. Comes from Grandpa telling her she's a princess. My grandpa's never told me that. Has your grandpa ever told you that? No, I wish she did. My grandpa,

when I first started blowing up on 10, TikTok. My grandpa, he goes, yeah, you know, your mom tells me that you're doing stuff on TikTok. I go, yeah, you know, this is like when I was like one and a half male last year. And I go, yeah, it's pretty cool. And he goes, yeah. Yeah, she told me about I have a TikTok. I go, oh, really? And I said, do you like the videos? And he goes, I don't watch you. I go, oh, okay. And he goes, I go, why? And he goes, I don't need to see all that. whatever that means. I don't know what the hell that means. I literally was like,

what do you think I'm doing on there? Like, are you thinking of only fans? And even then, if I was doing that, be proud of me. You know what I mean? Because I'm getting my bag, and that's all that matters. Getting bag and saving the world.

I don't know what he thought I was doing on there, but he was like, nah, nah. And he still to this day hasn't watched me. Really? I think he's just, like, afraid that I'm doing something that he just doesn't want whatever that means i don't know yeah fill in the blank yourself i guess but he's happy and supportive and we love that and we love that we love a grandpa who keeps you

humble yeah see that's not a man who called me a princess he never called me a princess but he's been supportive and same same he's treated me like one he's never called me one yeah and that's all that matters but this guy's mom probably doesn't love him so that's probably why he thinks that that's a bummer sending you love i'm not i'm sending you a lot of hate i'm sending you all the hate in the world. I'm sending you bad vibes constantly. Awesome. I'll still send you some love and a hug because, you know, I'm sorry. I don't know. He feels sorry for you. That's why. Yeah. I don't, but that's okay. Yeah. Yin and yang. That's the balance. Not a lot. I don't feel that bad. In five seconds,

I'm going to forget who you are. As God intended. Yeah. But maybe his grandpa never. Or their grandpa never called them. A princess. Yeah, or a prince or any fairy tale character. Yeah. Or just a whoever. The toad. A Shrek.

A Shrek. That's why I said. I wish my grandpa called me a Shrek. I think I would have grown up so narcissistic. Just staring at the mirrors. Big 20 hours a day. Okay. So as we wrap this up, obviously as a connoisseur and creator of like the cutest

rom-com cosplay fantasies and all the different wonderful movies that you've been able to recreate on tic-tok what are something you want people to know when it comes to like loving rom-coms or like loving dressing up like you or anything like that what is that you want people to know i think a big lesson i learned um was expressing myself to the fullest and i think before i started making videos i've always been um you know, feminine throughout my life and I think I tried to hide that

for a really long time and you know even before the pandemic you know going out it was like oh how can I look as straight as I can and like all this stuff for just like the norms and thinking what that meant

but through these videos I have found a love for myself and just because you know again like liking a rom-com but it's like wearing glitter or stars or anything. It doesn't make you any less than who you are. Yeah, absolutely.

And I have found something that makes me really happy and brings joy. And I want people to know that they should follow what they want to do. Yeah. And not be afraid because that's, you know, one of the key parts of accepting and loving yourself is like expressing yourself in all the ways you can. Yeah, absolutely. And, you know, I hope. Without fear.

Without fear. Yeah. And I, you know, I'm still doing it day by day. It's still, there are things I'm still trying to love about myself. But, like, we're on that journey. And these videos have created, for me, you know, this space where I can be, you know, masculine or feminine or in between. Like, whatever that means, it's so beautiful because it's just like up to us, right? Whatever you want to do and whoever you want to be, you can.

You can do it all yourself. Whatever fantasy you have from a movie or anything, it's like make it a reality. You know, my creations are, you know, low budget. But in my head, it's not about, you know, the quality of it, yes, but it means so much more than that. Yeah. And these lessons in these rom-coms, right? Maybe you might not agree. But they have, like, molded us into these, like, I think a lot of my heart comes

from, you know, rom-coms and things like that where it's like, you've seen so many stories that you can relate to and just bring it into your life. And it's just like, it can make it better. Yeah, that's why I agree with you completely, especially on that part, because I think, like, that person was like, oh, they're making people narcissists or whatever. I think it gives people hope.

I think it inspires people. It gives them hope for, like, a better world, a better relationship, whether it's platonic or romantic Like you said there's just You could pull anything from a rom-com Like there's so many lessons And wonderful things to be

Pucked out of there And apply to your own life And it doesn't always have to be Man Chasing Woman Not at all Like it could just be self-love a lot of times Like never been kissed That's a running theme in that

Is like her finding herself She finds herself and like Yeah She's not Josie Grist anymore And I feel that way too Like yeah We all, you know, self-love is so, it's hard. Yeah.

But it is, like, so important. So, you know, you don't have to fully be like, you know, I guess what the guy would say, staring in the mirror for the whole day. But, like, just taking those little moments and, like, loving yourself and finding the things that make you different in loving those as well. Yeah. Which so many rom-coms have helped me. Yeah, absolutely. Love that. And I love you.

I love you. I love you. coming today. Of course. It's been an honor. Oh my God. Love. But I have one question for you. Yes. I know you can be overwhelmed. Yes. And you can be underwhelmed. But can you ever just be

overwhelmed? She's like, what did she say? I think in Europe, I think you can in Europe. Beautiful. Love it. Shout out Julia Stiles. Yeah. And we love Julia Stiles. We have, yeah. Thank you all so much for joining us on this episode of the

Common Section Show. Thank you so much to my wonderful, amazing guest. Julian for being here. Where can everybody find you? You can find me on Instagram at Julian Cookies. And then TikTok is Julian Brzeinski and YouTube is also Julian Brzeinski. Anything else you want a promo? Other than socials? I'm single.

Love. And once more gay. But no, right now just keep a look out. Big things coming. I'm excited. And thank you for having me. It's an honor. Of course. The icon led yourself.

I'm so happy to have you. No, such a hardworking and kind individual. It's been like such amazing. I met you this summer and like finally in person. It was like, I just can't wait to continue the friendship. Same. We'll have a movie day or not. I know.

We have to have a whole marathon. I would love that. Thank you so much for coming. Thank you all for joining us on this episode. If you want to catch full episodes of the comment section show, they drop every Wednesday. on the past your bedtime YouTube channel. You can also stream them on all streaming platforms,

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