The Comment Section with Drew Afualo - TAKE YOURSELF INTO CONSIDERATION Ft. Leo Skepi | Drew Afualo | THE COMMENT SECTION EP 57

Episode Date: March 15, 2023

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People ask me all the time, what did you do to get so tall? And I have so considered making up just some random shit. Just to see what I could get men to do. Do it like, oh, yeah. Do it like that one where you like hang by your ankles like a bat. And you're like, oh, I just did that every day for like six months. And then just stretch. I want to do something stupid.

Like, oh, I drink like a bottle of mustard today. Just to watch them do it. Everyone and welcome back to another episode of the comment section show starring me, your favorite. Everybody knows me. Who cares about me? on to the guest. Today is the one, the only, Leo Skeppy. Hello. Hello. I'm so happy you're here. I'm happy to be here. You've been heavily requested. I don't say that to everyone. It sounds like I do, but I don't. You do say it's

everybody. That's not true. I tell them that a lot of people have been asking, but you, like, genuinely, especially recently, a lot of people have been like, you have to have Leo, you have to have Leo. And I was like, bitch, we already talked about it. It's in the works. I was on a plane. As soon as you messaged me, I was like, okay, flight's booked, here I come. And here she is. I'm honored. She came out here all the way from me. Yes. I love that. I'm so happy to have you. Thank you. Are you excited? I'm so happy to be here. Leo's nervous. I am. I'm giving anxious. If I look red, it'll go away. Also, don't worry about it. Mind your business. Say something. Yeah, giving cherry tomato. We get it. We get it. We get it.

Okay. And what? Big cherry tomato. Lower your voice. Leo is really tall. Leo says he's tall, but he actually is. He's 6-7. Easily.

A lot of people think that I'm short. Me too. Because of our attitudes, I think I'm like 5'8. Girl, there's a website that says I'm 5'4. And men try to tell me how tall I am. I'm like, bitch, I'm not 5'4. I'll promise you that. I was 5'4 when I was 10 years old.

Were you a big child? I was. I was like decent size. Did you hit your growth spurt later? Yeah. Like early 20s or like teens? Like teens. Okay.

Like what's it called? Like freshman year of high school. Oh, how tall were you in high school? Like 6.3-ish. That's tall as a freshman? But I went from like 5-10 to like 6-3 over like the summer. That's so funny. That happened to me too.

Oh my God, us having the same parents. I literally, when I was in seventh grade going into eighth grade, I was like 5-4 in 7th grade. Like I hit 5-4 when I was 10 and then I was that. tall for like a couple years and then from seven to eight like over a summer i went from five four to five eight and i came back and they were like who the fuck feeding them yeah they're like sir get back to security what are you doing on the campus jesus they were like pickups not till two 30 ma'am and i'm like i go here too that was literally like 12 12 13 yeah 13 when i had the growth support i tried to use it to my advantage, I would try and, like, go in the office and, like, my dumb ass would try to not,

like, pretend to not be myself, and I would try and, like, check myself out. What am I going to do? Walk home? You have glasses on? You're like, let me go get Leo's dad. Like, Superman? You're like, hello? It literally worked a couple of times.

They would, like, I'd put my phone number, so I would ask them to, like, check me out. And then I was, okay, I'm going to, like, whatever, and I would walk out, and I would go to the bathroom so that when they'd call. Hello, this is Leo's dad. Like, I would, like, pretend to be my end. I never did anything like that. I was too afraid. Really?

I would go as like the cousin or like the older brother. Oh, yeah. I'd call my dad to confirm. I'm like, yes, that's me. I see.

Well, I was also, okay, that's also kind of a lie. I was, obviously I was like, my mom was like, you could do whatever you want,

just know I'm always going to find out. And I was like, what kind of mind game is that? Like when I went away to college from him, goes, you could do literally whatever you want. I'm just always going to know. And I was like,

and she did. Me thinking she's like, stationed in the tree somewhere. I'm like, girl, what the what the fuck? Literally one time when I was in college, like, my mom didn't care if I, like, went out and stuff. Do as I say, not as I do. My mom never cared if I went out or anything like that. She just always wanted me to let her know when I got home. Like she's like, just let me know when you get home. I'm like, okay. And so I like would text her, you know how like when you're going out? Like sometimes people want to go like three, four places and one night. I hated when

my friends did that because I was like, now I got to tell my mom again. I'm leaving because she's going to think I'm going home. And then she's like, what do you mean? I thought said you were going home. So one time I just told her when I left and I didn't tell her anything else. And then I told her, oh, by the way, I got home. She's like, okay, great. And then the next morning she texted me and she goes, oh, you went home? And she sent me an Uber thing. Like, it literally tracked every every place I went and she found out because my mom's card was on there. And I didn't know and I didn't have any money. So they tried to run my card. Declined. They just went to the next card and it was my mom. So she saw my whole

Uber journey that night. She's like, oh yeah, you went home? And I was like well see, this is what happened. I got peer pressured. I just started lying. No, that's so smart, but that's the way you can catch an ex or like someone you're dating doing some shady shit. Oh, yeah. Go track their Uber history. Where were you going? It's like Venmo histories.

Like you go and look and see like, what are you spending money on? Let's see. Who you sending money to? No, but I'm just like, you said you just got home, but you got home three minutes ago. So what the happened in the three minutes? Are you a crazy partner? I'm Albanian. Okay, then yeah. You don't look at nobody but me.

Only eyes for me. Right. That's fair. At least you're honest. Yeah, I mean, it comes out very quick. I made that joke once because I made a TikTok a while ago where, I don't know if you remember this TikTok. It was like two years ago.

And it was like that trend where people were sending their boyfriend pictures of like bikinis or something and they were like do you like this and then the boyfriend would be like no and then she was like well you liked it on her and they would send her a picture of like a famous hot girl wearing it i used to love that yeah okay do you remember that okay so you know how most of them were fake or phony like they're just being silly some of them were for real and so i was like i hope some of these are fake because that's up like if you find out like your boyfriend's like oogling other titties that aren't yours that's weird Yeah, the way I am on social media is so paranoid to like the future person I'm going to date.

But to be in a relationship and be liking someone else's stuff is embarrassing to who you're with. That's what I'm saying. You're making me look dumb. You're like in Joe Schmo's picture because he has abs. Okay. Hope it was worth a smack in the head. Well then I think like what do you like about that picture? You know what I'm saying?

Titties. Yeah, that's what I'm saying like, don't lie. Like it's not like they're like, the scenery is just so. Don't lie to me. And that's why some women were like, oh, that's because you're in. secure. I'm like, those are just boundaries of mine. You don't have to have the same ones. It doesn't make mine any less valid. But if someone's looking at, I've never met someone who did was so unbothered by something, they felt they need to tell me how unbothered they are. That doesn't bother

me. That doesn't bother me. Well, what about like, I'm like, okay, in your relationship, that bothers me in mine, but I offer the same courtesy. Like, I don't do that either because it's weird. And that makes me uncomfortable. So I'm like, he doesn't, believe it or not, he's not, he's not oogling other bitches that are not me. That's how it should be. A lot of people say a lot of shit that I do is like insecure and what? What are we going to do from here? Okay. It's insecure. You can label it. Okay. I'm still upset about it. That's not going to get how I feel is how I feel. You're so real for that. It's not going away. You're so real for that. Okay. And what? Well, then I think like if you want me to be that girl, I will, that bothers me. That makes me

uncomfortable. I don't like when you do that. So don't do it anymore. And I said, but believe it not, I didn't have to ask my boyfriend to not do that. He just doesn't do it. The ones that get it, just get it. That's what I'm saying. Like, if you're so real, like, that's so true. Like, okay. And, so don't date me then.

You know what I mean? Like, okay? Literally. Okay. It's so like a, and, well, that's also, it also falls in the umbrella of what we're talking about, which is like, our topic for today is how to stand up for yourself. Because, boy, we'd be doing that. One thing about us, we're going to stand up for ourselves.

and others. No other choice. You give me the same similar vibes to me where you were like, I always call myself like a Robin Hood of bullies. Like I take the rich give to the poor. You know what I'm saying? Like I take from the greedy

and I give it back to the people. Take from the overly inflated sense of self to the people that have no confidence. And give it to somebody else. And I'm like, I've done that my whole life. Same. I don't know. I just, people bother me who act like that.

Like that like entitled sense of. self and they like project it and take it out on those that they know it's like it's like attacking someone you know would never swing you know what I mean right which I don't like I don't like that at all I don't either and my biggest thing it's so funny to me like some people try and come for me and comment and like leave hate yeah but they're over like their misplaced confidence already eats them up yeah because like it's the mrs. that like looks so bad and like sounds so stupid yeah that come for me and I'm like you just existing makes you look dumb like go ahead you already got yourself good luck with that I just don't get like where does this misplaced confidence come from because I used to be

so insecure yeah and so scared of like standing up for myself having a voice having an opinion I'm like how did y'all get it like where can I buy this give me your receipt like where the hell well that's that's true to honestly because it's it makes no sense so it's like I hate myself and I feel like you should too and it bothers me that you don't hate yourself like I hate myself and it's like that's a you problem take it over there

you know what I mean like I'm always like especially with men too because men are so loud and so wrong all the time all the time bitch like where do you guys get that from like I don't understand it's like um

for example I've always said I've said multiple times on here how like when they make fat jokes about me they'll say things like you know get her on the D-line or whatever and I'm like defensive linemen in the NFL are in

crazy good shape are you calling me in shape or more capable than you? Like I don't understand. No, it's a fat joke. I'm like, oh, okay. I'm glad you cleared it up. I was so confused for a second. If you have to clarify what the joke meant, it didn't land.

It doesn't hurt my feelings to say I'm more. I mean, do you get a lot of gym hate or from Jim Bro? So I'm like a wild card with what I post on social media. I'm known for my personality. So I can do anything. Yeah.

And I've seen a lot of people do these little micdubs in the gym where they go in and they like try to have a personality. Yeah. I'm like, girl, you have a six pack. Shut up. That's all you need. Yeah. But they try to like have a personality and they're not funny. No.

So I was like, let me show you all how to have a personality in the gym. It's so cringe. And then might have been blowing up and they try to eat me alive. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. The gym bro community, that's my favorite hornet's nest. Just kick every now and then.

I'm just cool. there I take a bat to that bitch. Hit it and then I'm like I'll be back in like three months. Don't get too comfortable in here. They hate me over there. My favorite thing is the ones where I'm like, babe, you're on steroids and you still look average. You've already collected yourself. No shit.

I don't have to do shit. Sometimes I'll get hate. I get hate from Jimbo's all the fucking time, especially when other Jimbros with like a platform of some kind, like make videos about me. I always know because I get overrun. with these mediocre regal cinema looking ass dudes like in my they're just like hey whale hey wail hey faddy hey whitt like over and over again cow hey cow who who let the whale on a set like it's the most fifth grader and that's they're like 21 the way that their their grammar is so stunted because they're stupid so i literally like i'll i'll get like overwhelmed in one little quick span with a bunch

a hate from like all these dudes. And like sometimes I'll just write, hey, your progress is ass, by the way. Because they document every step of the way. Like we give a . Yeah, and I literally go, your progress sucks, by the way. You got a long road ahead of you.

Mediocre ass bitch. And then they're like, that's so, your body shaming me and I'm just trying to better myself. Okay, Grant Cardone, save it for your, save it for the telly, bitch. I don't give a . I love to just like collect.

Like I don't hit below the belt until you do. But as soon as you do, I'm like, people get so mad at me because they come at me unprovoked. Same. And they try to insult me. But I insult them back just better and now I'm the bad guy. Same. So be it, I'm the bad guy then. Story of my life.

Oh my God. That's literally the body shaming thing. Let's do it. That's the grade each other. You did it? You did it? All of a sudden. It's a problem when I do it.

It's a problem when I do it. It's not a problem when he doesn't. Like, I'm like, okay, what do you call? it then, like, you were making mean comments about my body. And so I made a mean comment about yours. Well, mine's genetics. You're just like when I was fat. Yeah, when they were like, oh, well, you can't change genetics.

I go, maybe you haven't tried hard enough. Have you tried praying? Take it up with God, bitch. Like, have you tried? Maybe put your back into it. I don't know. I grew four inches in one summer. So, I don't know.

Maybe you're not trying hard enough. People ask me all the time, what did you do to get so tall? And I have so considered making up just some random shit. Just to see what I could get men to do. Do it like, oh, yeah. Do it like the one where you, like, hang by your ankles like a bat. And you're like, oh, I just did that every day for like six months. And then just stretch.

Like, like, the miracle of science. Like, I drink like a bottle of mustard a day. Just to watch them do it. Just like two pinches of sauerkraut. That's not to do it. Like, they'll talk shit. And they're like dog me. You don't even look that good.

You're not funny. All this crap. I'm like, okay, cool. And like, but how do you get tall? You have some bulking tips, bro? But at the same time, you do look, you look pretty good. So any tips? Greatly appreciated.

They do that to my boyfriend. They'll do the same thing to my boyfriend, yeah. They'll like tell them like, yeah, I like, you know, I hate your fat-pitched girlfriend. Like, she sucks. Like, truly, like, if I could, I would kill her. Anyways, I've been trying to work on arms and I feel like I've hit a wall and I just really, I want to grow my arms two more. And just any tips, greatly appreciated.

Anyways, hate your girlfriend. They'll write, like, shit. Like, I'm not kidding. That's like a daily, like, DM he'll get is literally that, like, they just don't have it in them to, like, disrespect him. Because he looks like what they epitomized to be, like, I'm a real man, whatever that means to them. Yeah.

So they're like, you look so good. That's the thing. It's like, oh, like, they hit a wall with their progress. Hit that wall a little bit harder. Yeah. Go ahead. Just knock yourself out. Yeah.

That's your head on it. I think it's a day. That's why I'm like your genetics are like this one guy came on my Instagram recently. This is like a couple weeks ago. And sometimes sometimes I see him and I'm like, I have time. I'm going to do it. Yeah. Why not?

And he like, he wrote some fat, shamedy comment. It wasn't even worth remembering because it's the same shit every time. And then I was like, are you handing out tips? Like fitness tips, you're handing them out to me? I can see what you look like. Like, you posted lots of shirtless bags. I can see, if I were to seek counsel, I wouldn't ask you. That's for sure.

That's for sure. I was like, you have no tities. Like, that shit is concave, babe. I'm not taking advice from you. I got it. If I blow a little too hard on your forehead, you'll fly across the room. I'm not doing that. No.

And he was like, oh, I'm, he said, if we wrestled, I would win. wrestle. I said, oh, I said word. Can you run in a straight line without looking goofy? Or, I don't know. Genetics aren't leaning towards that. Oh, no. That's the thing.

When people try to give me advice, I'm like, if you do not look better than me, keep your mouth shut. I'm not listening. Yeah. Clearly, it ain't working. But, like, that's the biggest thing with, like, his little fitness bros is people are, like, these most little college boys, sorry. I don't mean to, like, size shame. But here I go. They're like 5-8 with a bad attitude

But they're like 5-8 And to put on muscle And to look better At 5-8 you could do three push-ups And your swole I'm 6-7 I'm a lot to take Like I have a lot to build out

Yeah that's true So like yeah y'all are growing real fast Yeah You're this big Your only direction to go is out I have to go My boyfriend's talked about that before too Because obviously my boyfriend

Was a trainer For a long time It still is But he talks about Because he has like massive arms Like his arms are huge, no matter how big or small he gets, they will always be big. Lucky.

And so sometimes people are like, how do I get my arms to look like yours? Like in the gym. Stop hating women. Try it. Don't be an awful little shit. Try it. I don't know. Talk to your mom once a week.

I don't know. And he like, he literally, like, he tells them your arms are never going to look like mine. Like genetically, your arms are never going to look like mine. That's just one reason. And sometimes they take it personally. And he's like, I'm not trying to be a dick. I'm telling you, like, genetically, I could never do a push up again.

and my arms will still look like this. It's genetics. It's like a big part of it. I hate that I'm not God's favorite like that. I got height, but I'm so like... At least you got height though. Damn, there's plenty of it. You're mad.

And you're not just like on the tall side. Like you're tall bitch. Like actually... I grew myself. Me too. But that's like, I think like such a... It's such a dub for you especially because you're like, and?

Like, even if they try to give you tips on fit, you're like, okay. You can't grow though, can you? Right. Yeah. Peaked at 14. That's a bummer. That's a bummer. When I was 14, I like tore my ACL.

So my doctor, like, I got like MRIs and x-rays and shit done. And like, my doctor was like, oh, your growth plates are like close. Mind you, I'm like 5'8. So he's like, you're pretty much done growing. 5.8 at 14. I'm like, oh, okay, perfect. I don't want to be tall anymore. That's enough.

I hated being tall growing up. I don't care anymore. I love how tall I am now. But I was younger, I was like, I'm waiting for these bitches to catch up to me. So, like, if you guys can make me not look like a faculty member, that'd be great. I don't want to be so big anymore.

And so they're like, okay, bitch, I'm six feet now. What a liar that doctor is. I kept growing, like, nine, ten, yeah, four more inches. They told me my growth plates and my feet stopped growing because I was, like, a size 13 and eighth grade. Shoes. Like, my feet were always just big. I would use them to stunt my

stunt my s'm something to say. But my growth place. How big is your shoe now? 16. God damn, bitch. Like that big ass foot. So I had like, I think I was a size like 14.

They were like, yeah, your feet, like your growth plates are closed. Your feet are not getting any bigger. Two whole sizes? What a lie. You know how expensive it is? Yeah, it is. Yeah, because my boyfriend's a 13 and my dad's a 14.

So. I would kill to be just a 14. I would have so many cute shoes. My dad, it's so funny too, because like, if I go shopping for my dad for shoes, especially, I have to order them online. But if I have to go in the store, I literally just approach an associate. And I'm like, what shoes do you have that are a 14 or bigger that are not basketball shoes? Because he doesn't always want to look at those, but they always have those. I'm like, 15, 16.

And then they're like, oh, none. I'm like, all right, never mind. Literally. Like, people don't understand the luxury of, like, being able to go into a store and buy something. I haven't been able to shop in store for shoes since I'm like 14. Yeah. Like, I miss it. I know.

I was buying a Valentine's gift from my boyfriend the other day. And I was like in the store and the lady was like trying to help me. She's like, oh, did you think about maybe shoes? And then I go, no, not really. Because it's like a fancy store. And she was like. What was it? I was in WISL.

Oh, yeah. So I was like looking at stuff. And then I was like, no. No, not really. And then she was like, well, we have lots of great, like, she was really trying to sell me on a shoe. Because, like, I didn't like what I was. They have that size there. Yeah.

Well, I asked her. I said, well, my boyfriend's got a big foot. And then she was like, what size? And I go 13. She goes, oh, my God. Yeah, no, we don't have those. That's exactly what she said to me. Like, it's that big?

Yeah. See, this is like, you'll relate to this probably more than anyone I've ever met that wasn't like someone. But, like, big. dudes, like the idea of being big to us is skewed. Like, skewed entirely. Like, my idea of big, like, you're a tall guy, but if any average person saw you, they'd be like, he's huge. To me, you're, like, normal size because you're as tall as my dad.

Don't call me short. You're not short. We will have our first fight. You're not, it's normal to me. Like, like, being tall or being large is, like, normalized to us because we're big people naturally. But to some people, like, when I was in New York, bitch, bitch, I was in New York last week and there was a guy in our hotel and I think he was just like an off like he was like a desk guy

but he's also helping at the front door he was seven foot three in a suit bitch working a normal job I say get that man in the paint like where why is that guy not at the NBA all-star game he was so it was like comical to me because and I hate as a tall bitch I hate when people are like how tall are you right but I like couldn't help it because he was so tall it looked like someone was in stilts in his suit like controlling him And I was like, do you mind me asking how tall you are? Because when he got in the elevator, he literally had to go, like he was saying like this, bitch. No, me in the airplane trying to pee.

Yeah, I know. Literally. And that's why I was like, he was saying like this. He goes, oh, I'm seven foot three. I'm just a little guy. And I was like, oh, my God. It was crazy. So you're also tall.

Something that people say to me all the time that I don't know how to respond to. They just walk up to me and they're like, you're tall. All the time. okay you know what they say to me it's not a compliment or it's not an insult so I don't say thank you I'm like okay it's kind of like bird watching they're like that's an eagle and you're like word cool okay so let's get into these videos we're talking about obviously standing up for yourself so I never see people ever drink the drinks on shows so I'll do it oh yeah like when people are on Ellen and shit I'm like they never drink anything I'm like what's in it

sometimes they put alcohol in those I bet okay so in this video for those of you who don't know here on the comment section what we like to do is bring videos i was tagged in we bring them here and then we laugh we kiki do all the fun things so excuse me oh my gosh i just burped into the mic i'm so sorry remall okay in this video uh a woman is explaining that she has a really big heart and tends to expect that people will do exactly for her what she would do for them but they don't so she has to protect herself by creating boundaries and being a bitch sometimes to stand up for herself right oh here we go and so the comments I mean, from men were not good.

Like this first one says Crazy bullshit, arrogant piece of shit, Unreliable, insane, mannerless. Tribal? Question mark? Tribal. Does she have a tattoo? No.

Does she just descriptive factor? She's just saying words. Hair. Yeah. Eyes, no. Lipsic. I think he's just saying she's arrogant and unreliable. If she like lets,

doesn't let people cross her boundaries and she stands up for herself. That's where I always say to people, you have to analyze and assess who's making these claims. Is what they're saying even accurate? And you have to check who's making the judgment. Like, is your judgment flawed? Yes. He's saying she's unreliable. How are you going to say someone's unreliable?

Has she let you down? Has she hurt your little feeling? Like personal? You don't know her. Yeah, like at all. Invalid. Wipe that out. That's how I deal with hate.

I assess it. Yeah. I feel that too because sometimes I'll have men make videos. about me and they're like, oh, she's just a bad person. And I'm like, you don't even know me. Like, you watched two 90-second videos that I made about a shitbag dude. Like, what about that means that you've assessed every single part of my personality? You know what I'm saying?

Yeah. And I always think, like, it's, that's like that cave man mentality. Like, I attribute that to an underdeveloped brain. Like, it's very, like, me, man, me strong, woman, not strong, woman, strong, woman, and strong to me woman bad. Like it's literally like that's their thought process. It doesn't go past that at all. There's never any logic or reasoning.

Because even like the few times I've made serious videos in response to like egregious claims made by other people that makes them more mad. When you're collected and you just like get them it's like Well it turns out it doesn't work either does it? Because they're always like, have you ever tried just talking to them? I'm like no.

I've been on this I've been on this serve 20 plus years and I've never once thought to like ask a man, hey, maybe don't be horrible. Have you ever thought about that? Have you ever tried being nice? You traumatize them. Yeah, my goal is not to change you. It's to get you to shut the fuck up. Like, it's not to change you. I don't care what you do in your own personal life. I don't care at all. Like, that's why when people are like, oh, how do you deal with hate?

I'm like, their livelihood does not affect me. Like, they could be so happy or so sad and I don't care either way at all. Like you literally mean nothing to me. Like your opinions. Like your own personhood. Like your life means zero to me. You think your words mean something to me? No, come on. Please.

Look at the vessel the words are coming out of. Your vessel looking mad f***s up. It's not looking good at them. I'm not listening. I know. I've seen that before too and they're like never take advice from someone who doesn't have the life that you want. I say it all time. It's the same shit.

It's the exact same thing. Like that person's not in a relationship you want. They're not in the financial situation that you want. They're not in the house you want, the car you want. Why are you listening to them? It doesn't mean anything. It doesn't mean anything. We can all sit here and just say words for hours.

But it doesn't mean anything. That's my point. It just doesn't mean anything. But that's the thing is like when they speak, no one listens because they have nothing to stand on. When we speak, people are like, oh shit, it's credible. Yeah, that's true. And that's why they're mad because they have nothing to stand on.

Yeah, but all they have really is like this like almost like feigned like confidence. it's like not even real. It's not rooted in anything real because if it was, they wouldn't feel the need to like lash out at people like us. Like, it's like this phony confidence that they've been conditioned

that they naturally have by their environment. Where did I miss this class? I wish I had that. You know how like some people are like, oh, if you grow up ugly, that's why you're so funny. Me?

Yeah, you like develop a personality because you didn't have everything handed to you. It's the same thing with men in a patriarchal world. Like, like heterose cisgendered heterosexual men who are awful and have grown up in this world have been conditioned to believe just by nature they're better, smarter, stronger, faster than like everyone else. Which makes no sense. I just can't imagine walking around in that state of delusion.

Like they want to talk to me like I'm delusional because I'm like, I think I'm good looking. And they're like, delusional bitch. But that's why they have to try and like come at me and you. Because they try and cancel me because I'm gay. They cancel you because you're a woman and you're strong and you're successful. Like, they have this, okay, I'm up here and you can't touch it. And then you show up and it's like, you're up here. Yeah.

And they're like, oh, shit, what? Like, they can't, their little beliefs can't handle it. So they have to, like, discredit everything you are. Yeah. So they feel better about living at home and being a little shit. Well, and it's like, someone, it's like, have you ever gone, like, someone needs to, you need to be humbled. Like, I get those whole the time.

You need to be humbled and I'll do it. Try and humble me. Okay, you go first and then I'll go second. Right. Let's humble each other. It'll be fun. I love that. I love that for us.

That's why I'm always like, I don't, like, the words that they say to me, like, I, when people are like, how do I deal with this? Like, I get asked all the time, like, how do I deal with hate? Like, I get a lot of it or, like, when I do get it, it, like, cripples me. Like, how do I get through it? I literally don't know how to say it other than, like, I don't give a shit. Like, I don't care what some bitch named Trevor has to say to me. Like, I don't care. Trevor.

I don't know what to, I don't know how to explain that. Like, you're so worth. list to me. Your name's Brent. You have bigger problems. You know what I mean? Like, I think the biggest thing with dealing with hate is seeing like the person saying something. Yeah. Like people that are impacted by it, you automatically think that what they're saying is true. Yeah. So someone like calling me ugly. Yeah. I have eyes bitch. I can look in a mirror and disprove your claim just like that. So like just look for ways to disprove what people are saying. That's true. And like it's that simple. I think that's why, and I know you've talked about this too, like, validating yourself and your own self-worth and self-confidence coming from no one else is, like, I think, a major key to dealing with that kind of hate.

Because it won't matter what people say to you if you know they're not telling the truth. Like, you know, it's not true. Like, when people tell me I'm ugly, I'm like, bitch, come on. Literally, I used to have to do this all the time. People would say, you're ugly, you're this, or that. I would literally make myself walk into the mirror, like trying to rebuild my trust. my own judgment of myself. I would go stand in the mirror.

I love that. I would literally look in the mirror and be like, okay, look at yourself. Do you think you're ugly? And if the answer was no, they're just stupid. That's the only answer that matters. That's the only like judgment that matters. But if I looked in the mirror and I was like, okay, I am a little ugly. Like I had to have that realization.

And then I started fixing myself and looking better. Like you can switch things. And whatever that looks like to you. Like everyone's, and that's why I always say everyone's perception of beauty is different. Like beauty is like subjective, right? So what's beautiful to one person may not be necessarily beautiful to the next. So that's why the only opinion that matters is what I think about myself. And then obviously like if you're in a romantic relationship, yeah, obviously you want them to find you attractive in some way too.

But like it wouldn't matter. That's like a main reason why my boyfriend loves me so much is because I love myself more than he ever could, which is like a huge supporting foundation in your relationship. with each other. Yes. It's like you loving yourself unconditionally and more than anyone else could ever love you. That includes finding yourself pretty or attractive or whatever. That's not to say you're going to feel like that all the time. But as long as the foundation's there, it won't get shaken.

Right. I don't know if you like the whole spirituality, like law of attraction type thing. I love that. All right. Let's talk. I love that. So when I started switching the way that I looked at myself and treating myself, like when I started to care about myself, even though I didn't at the beginning. just go through the actions, take self-loving actions.

Yeah, it's like affirmations. And then like the way I treated myself, was I treated myself like I was something that I cared about. Yeah. And then I felt, wow, I feel like I care about myself. And then I started becoming a match to people who also cared about me. Yeah. especially that's why sometimes women are like oh well clearly these men are like

struggling and that's struggle in silence yeah yeah shut the other people are struggling and they don't do this shit you know what I'm saying like do how many people in the world have problems and they're not doing this you know you want to know what I do when I struggle nothing be quiet so hard I do nothing I literally I'm like by myself I lay face down on the ground of my house And that's it. Yeah, girl. Damn, girl.

What's you going through? Like laying on my arms. I'll call you and check on you later. I do be doing that. Face down. Face down. Face down. You're just trying to entice your boyfriend.

He's like, oh, I'm sad. That's like. I do want to say one thing about that girl's video because him calling her a bitch. She's talking about setting boundaries. You're not a bitch for having boundaries. Having boundaries does not make you a bitch. You are setting expectations. for the experiences you want to have.

Yeah, literally. That's it. You're setting standards for your experiences with boundaries. That's it. And like, you're not a bitch. Women are never allowed, never with men, allowed to set boundaries with men like that. Like, they take that as like some sort of disrespect. I'm very sensitive to disrespect.

That's a whole different topic. Me too. I know. You know what's funny is like, I was just talking about this with my boyfriend yesterday because we went to a restaurant and we had a waiter who was like vibing a little, a little too much. What does that mean? Like he wanted to like talk

He wanted to talk to us Like we were like homies like we're friends Not like not like it's like a It wasn't like a small talk thing Because it was at first And then he started saying some shit that I was like I feel like you think we're like an old white couple or something And this is the wrong people to vibe with

Whatever it is you're about to say right I just sense the vibes And I think he did too and that's why he pulled back a little bit You know when they like let it down just a little too much And they're like oh Right Put it back up So he did that a little bit

and I told my boyfriend, I was like, I always know when men are, because he's like, you know when you meet someone and you're like, I would never be friends with that person in real life. Like if you interact with them slightly like at the gym or like a pastry you frequent, like if you go to a barbershop or something like that and you're like, I would never be friends with that guy. He's like, that's how I felt about that waiter. I was like same. And I said, and I always know when they, it was like an older white dude. and when they talk, like they only talk to him. They never look at me. Like, you don't have to like, and you, like, you don't have to be like super emphatic with me.

Yeah, but like, his back was to me. Like, every single time. And anytime I said something, he would be like, mm-hmm, and he would like only address. Like I would say something and he would only address him. And I was like, see, I know what that is. Like it comes up. What do you want to drink?

Okay. And what does she want? Yeah, exactly. And he was like, can you believe? He was making these like old like, oh, that's my old lady. Like he was making jokes like that. And I'm like, how old do you think we are? Like when they were looking at us?

I was like, dude. And he just kept only addressing my boyfriend. It's kind of like when I get hit on, if I get hit on in public and he's with me. And I'm like, this is my boyfriend. They're like, oh, sorry, dude, I didn't know. Like they apologize to him and not me. And it's like, oh, okay. Thank God you apologize to him.

That was so rude if you didn't. People that have the balls to do that, I am a gay dude, but I don't look it and I don't act it. Yeah. If I'm, like, comfortable with you, I'll sit up with you fine. But, like, when people first meet me, I am a chameleon with my sexuality. Yeah. But with girls, if there is a girl that recognizes me from online or anything and their boyfriend is with them, I'm very polite, respectful. I don't hug.

I don't hug. I don't hug. Yeah. If I see a girl by herself, oh, my God, hey, we're, like, besties we hug. Yeah. But I'm very sensitive and respectful to the men. Yeah. Because I don't step on toes like that.

Yeah. like people to be like to walk up and just hit on you which your boyfriend standing right there assault should be legal it's always it's always like it's always like away from me a little bit like he's like standing like not too far away this big he's right there i know it's a well that's why i said it's men who don't know me now it's way different because they recognize him you being to hit on like that girl yeah i love that nobody hits on me no i've never been hit on bitch you're so like Intimiting. You're so intimidating in real life.

Oh, I thought you're going to say ugly. No, that's different. We don't know about that. That's a different talk. We don't know. Later. No, you're so intimidating. That's what it is.

Literally. Yeah. That's why I think it's like you're more of a, you give a very like dominating personality energy. So maybe they just think that you're going to do it. If I, that's the thing. You like to be chased. If I like someone, I'll hit on them.

I'll just walk right up to. you. Hello. Hi. What's your, what's your name? Because I like you. I've never been like that. Not even when I was single, no. I would do that for my friends.

I'm like a, I'm a, listen, this sounds so lame and fake, but I'm like such a good wingman for anyone. Whoever you are. Whoever you're attracted to. I got you, bitch. I could do it. I was always like that with friends. I never did that for myself because I was like, nah.

That's my thing is, I'm just so unimpressed with that. Everybody. Like, I don't give a shit. Like, no one's caught my interest. Like, you've got to be with it physically. You got to look cute, right? Yeah. And then you've got to be mentally with it. That's a task for me. Even the gays. The physical part's easy. The mental part's hard.

Like, it's so sad. That's why I'm like, find me a boyfriend. Please. You see anybody out? Hang out a big motherfucker back. I feel like they would, like, flock to you, to be honest, because you're so tall. They avoid me. It's scared of you. Like, I walk in a room. It's like, who.

Really? I know my cologne. I didn't fart. Like, why are y'all running? My cologne's good. It's not like I stink. Girl, do you guys hate me? Are you guys mad at me?

Oh, I don't get it. Like, tell me you love me. Everybody hit on me. Compliment me. Please, God. Is that too much to ask you? I'm like walking in like dead face mean mug, but like be nice to me. Like, what the hell?

I'm so contradictory. That's why people don't get me online. Because I'm very intense and strong and I'm very in touch with my sensitive side. Like I'm very sensitive. But I'll fuck your shit up. Me too. My feelings. beginning hurt.

But you don't gotta know that. You'll never know. You'll never know that. Literally me. Literally me. That's why we're the same person. Okay, let's do this next video. This one is, this girl is

lip-syncing a video with the first caption, me being super nice, kind, and being known as the sweet girl. And then the second caption says, but also having the ability to turn into a cold, ruthless, mean bitch once you disrespect me one too many times. I got a lot to unpack

Yeah That's gonna send me on a tangent Disrespect you one too many times Right One time is more than enough Plenty You want to go first or me Because I got a lot to say

No you go first Oh God Yeah The whole thing It's like the boundary thing again Yeah Oh where do you even start with this Oh

Okay The boundary thing Yeah Like you're with someone and like she's like you said it's disrespect multiple times yeah if you've been disrespected over and over again yeah that's like a loud behavior yeah if you don't stand up yourself they just think that's normal all of a sudden you want to stand up and put a boundary up yeah you're gonna that boundary is now going to force them to change their behavior yeah

they're going to look at you like a bitch yeah because now all of a sudden i have to change how i treat you to be in your life yeah that's annoying like you need to be up front the first time that's disrespect lay that law like lay it down yeah i feel like a lot of times when especially with um because i get questions about dating and stuff like you know women or femmes who want to date men and they're like oh like how do i spot like how do i know if this guy's like good or how do i know because you know some of them have mastered the art of lying so they're like blend too easily some of them are getting too smart i'm too good on it hit to the game but like i can smell that shit from a mile away and i've told them i'm like i feel like

a lot of times in the, in the preliminary stages of dating, like it's talking. There are red flags. Like, there are very, very prominent signs where you're like, I don't like that. And if you don't like it, leave. Like immediately. Don't be like, well, maybe, maybe he meant this or maybe believe him the first time. However he acts, believe it. Literally.

It's like that feeling. When someone says something and you get that feeling of just like, oh, like it just didn't sit right. Yeah. Don't write it off. Like pay attention to that. Like trust your gut. Visit it later.

Go journal about it, bitch. Go do something later about it. But just keep note of like that feeling in your stomach or like your chest where it's like, oh. Yeah. That was off. Yeah. Don't skate past it. I didn't like that.

Because that's the shit that's going to like spiral and that's why you're going to leave them. Yeah. When it comes to like women and femmes in this world especially, they like a lot of times they really, really, really want to do like, like they want to see the best in people, which is not necessarily a bad thing, but I feel like it's manipulated too often now. And it's like, we're conditioned to like forgive and overlook and be like, well, and like just constantly hold space for other people. Like, well, I don't know because like maybe they didn't mean it. Or well, maybe they were having a bad day or well. And sometimes I think like, or maybe they're just terrible. Maybe they're a bad

person. Like maybe they're mean. Maybe they're rude. Maybe they're disrespectful. Maybe they're bigot. Who knows? Right. But you don't know him. any greater and you don't owe him anything. Because like I've talked about ghosting before and I'm like, I love it. I'm cool with it. Because if you ghost me, I'm going to make up a lie. I'm going to gaslight myself. I'm going to be like, oh, he's probably dead.

But if I ghost you, I don't know you anything. I don't even know you. What's my last name? You don't even know. Bye. That's how I saw ghosting when I was dating. I'm like, who gives a shit? We don't know each other.

Who cares? I love that. I think that's a really healthy way to approach dating. Otherwise, you're just getting her. Everybody? No, I mean, like, to never take it serious. Like, to be like, to take a ghost serious. Like, and I mean, like, when you're just talking. Because sometimes people will be like, well, I was talking.

I was dating him for like six months. That's different. I'm talking when you're just talking, like, casually. And then you just stop talking to him forever. Who cares? Like you said, like, you're taught to see the good in people. Yeah. But, like, you want to see the good.

Great. Yeah. But at the same time, you don't want, don't discount someone's good qualities. Don't not look at the good things. Look at all the good things. Yeah. But keep your eyes open and stop being a blind bitch to all the bad things too. Yeah, that's true.

Hold space for both. Yeah, that's true. Because you're going to blow them up in your mind of all these good things. Oh, my God, they love him. Girl, you know him a week. Yeah. Pay attention to all the red flags and all the weird shit. And you won't like them as much.

You won't be so, like, caught up in situations. Yeah, well, because then there's some things. Yeah, I know. Because I've been asked about situations. The girl, cool it. You're okay. They're not for me. No.

To be honest. If you love me, tell me. Right now. I want you to tell me right now. I just like don't, it doesn't lend favorably towards my own personality. Like, I don't like situation. I want to know for real what we're doing. Like, be very clear.

This is what I want to do. What do you want to do? I'm busy. I have shit to do. Yeah, literally. Like, lay your offer out on the table. I've been doing too much business. Put yourself on a table and I'll choose if I wanted or not.

Done. Literally done. I think it's fair that way. I think it's more. And then, like, I think sometimes people are really, really up front about what they want. And then sometimes we, like, maybe not. Like, you know, like 500 days of summer, the movie. Have you ever seen that movie?

I don't have a TV. I haven't seen, like, most movies. You haven't had a TV in the last 10 years? The movie came out a long time ago. I haven't watched TV in, like, 10. Okay, well, you should watch it. It's a great movie. Okay.

But in the movie, there's a girl and a boy, right? And they're, like, they meet at, like, work or something. And the girl is very upfront. I don't want a relationship. Very upfront. Those are the bitches that do though. Yeah. Well, she doesn't because she doesn't take him seriously.

So she just wants to fuck around and have a good time. And he's like, I love good times. But in his head he's like, I love her. I literally love her. I'm in love with her. And then they go through this whole like tumultuous relationship of like her like, you know, staying with him, them dating, going on dates, her not talking to him for a few days because she's casually dating and she's being

honest with him about it. And then at the end he like demon, demon. He recognizes her a little bit, and he's like, you're so awful. Like, you broke my heart, like, blah, blah, blah. And she's like, I told you what I wanted. You know what I mean? Like, it was never that serious to her, but he took everything that serious because he didn't believe her when she told him. So it's one of those things where even the guy, the guy in the movie is Joseph Gordon Lovett.

And someone's like, oh, I'll never forgive. Like, her name was Summer. And so he's like, I'll never forgive her for hurting you in that movie. And then he literally said, like, five, six years after he came out, he was like, rewatch it. because he's actually the villain in that movie. Yeah. Because when I first came out there, we were like,

what a bitch, right about her. But then he's like, rewatch it. That's why I loved this movie. Because it for once, it's like showing the man pining after her and her being like,

I don't want that. I want something cash, right? Yes, but it's literally his fault. He got hurt. Yeah, exactly.

People write to me all the time about situations like this. Yeah. And like, well, girls would be like, I don't like this guy. Like,

my best friend, like, wants to date me, but I don't like him like that. I told him that. you laid down the line. If he wanted to cross it and he gets his feelings hurt, fine. If he wants to try and shame you and call you a bitch, kick rocks. Yeah, literally.

Fall down. And that's happened to me before, too, where, like... You did nothing wrong. Like, you told them. And, like, I've been very clear that I don't see you that way. Like, I don't like you that way. We can be brothers in Christ, and that's as far as it goes, bitch. Like, that's it.

Like, my brother. That's how I see you. You know what I'm saying? But then, like, sometimes they don't believe you. Like they're like, oh, like, I can make her love me. Yeah, I could make her, well, if you gave me, maybe if you gave me a chance. I don't want to. The misplace confidence.

That's why, exactly. And then it's the whole, oh, bitches only want, like, mean guys. Yeah, it's the nice guys finish last trope. Right. And then I. They don't want you. It's not like, people, girls don't not want you because you're nice. There's a whole list.

We're just going to leave that there. Intertain the other possibilities. Okay. I'm nice, but why else would she not want me? Maybe I don't rush my. Maybe I don't brush my teeth. That's gonna send them to therapy. Maybe they shouldn't watch this.

You should go to therapy. I highly encourage you to go to therapy. I wonder how many men you've sent to therapy with your videos? I doubt any of them went. They were all like, fat bitch, anyways. I need the antidepressant. No, and then they're like, anyways, and they start blasting Joe Rogan in the background. Hang up their barstool sports flag and then...

Like men that are like fetishized sports and, like, a certain player, I'm like, I've never had to crush that hard on a guy, and I'm the gay one. I literally saw a tweet the other day and it was someone who's this girl and she goes, men will be like so homophobic and they'll be so, like have so much toxic masculinity about any sort of femininity or expression of it in any way, shape or form. Like they'll swat everything like that down and just be so horrible. And she's like, but then they'll spend two hours building their dream man in NBA 2K. And I was like,

What is that a video game? It's like a... Y'all play video games still? It's an NBA... It's like literally you play your NBA favorite NBA players, but in 2K you can make your own guy. And so she's like... So like a sim.

So like start-all? Like a... Yes, yes. For men? Star doll. Literally, they'll... I'm gonna dress him up. It's like, yeah, they pick his clothes, like his haircut.

They do his eyebrows too? Yeah, like his face. Like, she's like, they'll spend two hours building their dream man. and two gay even though they're they're so homophobic and so like oh that's so like feminine blah like you know what i mean and then they'll do that i wouldn't even do that and i'm the gay one so what does that say i think it's like uh it's like this this delusion of like um oh everything that doesn't adhere to a very strict gender binary is like feminine to me they're like oh if it's not if it's not boy it's girl and nothing is

this life is ever that simple or black and white? No. So I'm like, okay, well, as I said, underdeveloped brand. Like, they just don't. Real bad. Sometimes when they're like, have you ever tried explaining these concepts to them? I'm like, no, because they're too stupid to understand it. And that's not, I'm not, not, I'm not being funny.

I'm being like, your IQ is too low to, like, process what I'm saying. Okay, let's see some of these comments. Okay, this one comment says, this is again about the, like, boundaries, right? like setting boundaries. And this one says, yep, I chased a bitch out of my house with a butcher knife. Nice girls are 10 times crazier than the loud and obnoxious ones. Did you write that comment?

No, what I've done, man. So it's easy to judge from the outside. Like, this is what I would have done. Well, you're not, well, you're not me is what I think. That's what I think all the time when they're like, well, me personally, I would never handle it the way. And I always go, then don't. That literally just popped in my head.

Then don't. Then don't. We're the same person. Yeah. I was like, you do what you're going to do and I'm going to do what I'm going to do. Why don't you do you and I'm going to do me? How about that? How about that?

That's my favorite. Mind the business that pays you. This pays me. Does it pay you? No. I didn't think so. I always think it's so easy to just, shh.

That's what I don't get. Why do you feel the need to speak sometimes? I don't know. There's a beauty in silence. I feel that. It makes you hot. Like being being silent and shutting up is hot.

Yeah. It brings in like mystery. It's like who's that? But the person that's like blabbing too damn much, it's like, oh, shut up. Especially. It's like a yapping little dog. It's like just go to the side. I want to talk to the quiet one.

It's also, it's very like, it's, I think, an illness with some men like are like, everybody wants to hear what I have to say. Wrong. Most times people don't. Most times people don't, but they won't tell you, but I will. Me too. Yeah. I'll be the first to tell you

Nobody wants to hear that That's literally like People judge me all the time For smoking cigarettes I smoke whatever cry But like it's the best excuse to get out of anything Because I'm talking to someone boring Alright I'm gonna go smoke

I'm gonna go out of cigarette Give me the fuck out of here I gotta go out sorry That's the best thing It's like having a little like Escape like right hand man in my pocket When I go out I'm like on board

Some people use their kids I feel like sometimes like Oh I can't I have the kids To go home I think they use that That's their version of that. I've lied about that before.

You said I have kids? Yeah. I have to go home? Yeah. Oh my God. To get out of what? All kind of shit. Just like social interactions.

I'm fed up with this. But I just like to lie and see how creative I can get and get away with it. You know what's so funny. My sister's, um, she's a Sagittarius son but her. She's a Capricorn moon. And I've like let a hay train about Capricorns for a minute. Oh. Just because I think they're the devil incarnate, but that's just me personally.

and my sister like the thing with Capricorns and their emotions is like they're literally like once they're done they're done. Like they will not listen anymore so like if my sister doesn't want to talk anymore she just goes and she just turns her back to you like she literally just

and I think that's I think that's sinister that gives me ominous energy. I admire her though because I don't know how she does it like I'll if I'm in like I'll literally stand there and I'll talk like for however long it takes Same. Even if I don't want to anymore, I'll still stand there and I'll talk for however long.

But my sister goes, I guess she just turns her back. We know what it's like for someone to not care what we have to say. So it's like, we don't want to make people like feel like shit. So we're like, I'll just sit here and entertain you. Yeah, a sister. Okay. Are you older?

Just like me. I'm younger. Okay, same. I thought I was like, maybe that's the attention sinker in me where I like feel the need to talk to everybody. and keep everyone like, you know what I'm saying? Like occupied at all times. And keep the peace kind of. Yeah, I'm just constantly, sometimes I'll talk.

Like, I'll literally be in a group. Oh my God, I went on this horrible, horrible, horrible prom day when I was in like junior in high school, horror story. But there was four of us was me and my sister and the two guys. And like, none of them would talk. Like they were all so shy. One of them wasn't shy. He just didn't talk because he was like a misogynist.

But my sister and the other guy, they were just quiet. And so like I'm not even kidding I would talk to myself Like we would be in the car And we'd be driving for 45 minutes And I'd be like anyway So yeah I'd just be talking Just talking talking talking talking

Talking talk talk talking the whole time Not saying it And then like at one point One of the guys goes You don't have to talk the whole time We could just sit in silence And then I go Well now I'm gonna talk a lot

Because what the fuck is that? Why do they? I don't like that It's like are y'all having sex Because y'all like to be mute When you're like Why are we all just sitting in silence? Like that's so

And like my sister didn't want to talk because she just like didn't like them like they were uncomfortable But they just like wanted to sit in silence. What kind of weirdo does? I tried to play music but then it's just like you're in an elevator that never ends. This is wait. This actually could be good like men who sit with themselves and shut up. Why are we critiquing it? Do it.

Sit there and shut up. Practice that. I don't know. I was like 15 but it was a raging bigot. That's awkward though. It was so awkward. awkward and we barely knew each other. So we're like alone. So I'm like, I just met you and now I have to like sit in silence. I'm not doing that. I'm like doing like a bit. Like I'm doing physical comedy. I'm like talking to myself. I'm like, anyway, what's your poison? And I'm like, switching sides. No, not both roles. Yeah. Like I paint one half of my face and I just keep turning and talking to myself. That's what I was doing the whole day. It was awful. Literally I talked to myself a lot too. Like how you said with that situation, people like, what are you doing? I'm like having fun. The way I talk to myself, yeah, I talk to myself a lot all the time.

If people could see, like, if there was a hidden camera in my apartment, I would be in a straight jacket. Like, locked up. Like, I have full-on conversations. And that's one thing I wanted to throw out. I forgot about this earlier, with boundaries and, like, standing up for yourself. Literally, practice. Just talk to inanimate shit. Like, if you want to learn how to insult and fight like we do, just start roasting anything you can find.

Like, roast your shoe. Like, roast the cup. Like, just practice insulting and just... Gotta get your reps in. Like, in the shower, I'd be having full-blown fights in the shower. Like, I start getting so hot, I have to get out because I'm sweating. Start shadowboxing in there. Roll play.

Like, literally have some insults lined up stacked in your head. Like, have some things. You'll be able to stand up for yourself? Yeah, when I talk about sending it for yourself, some of my tips, they're like, how do I start doing that? Practice. Yeah, practice. I always say to do little things. Like, you don't have to take on Goliath, like, a moment.

immediately, but like you could start by like if they up your order at a restaurant. You're like, oh, I'm so sorry I didn't order this. Would you be able to fix it? Like little things like that, like standing up for yourself, setting a boundary, right? Or you're like, your friend asked you to pick them up from the airport and it's really inconvenient for you because you can't, right? You have stuff to do? Instead of going, okay, yeah, that's fine.

Just be like, I can't today, but like next time I promise I'll be able to get, like, setting boundaries, standing up for yourself. You know what I mean? Yes. There's like little ways to like start building up your confidence. So then if someone's rude in public, you just make them cry like your idea. Like about ordering the drink. It's just like standing up for yourself starts with taking yourself into consideration.

So don't look at it as like I'm standing up for myself. Like I'm making the way that I feel matter. I'm taking myself into consideration. So like if you go to a restaurant or like I would never send things back. Now I'm like, great. I'm sorry to. I'm nice about it. I'm polite.

Same. Like if I go to Starbucks and I order like a coffee and they try and give me like that green tea like macha shit. It's like, I'm going to be like, okay, why would you make yourself sit there and pay for something and like force yourself to be okay with something you didn't order? And to drink it because I know they drink it too. Care that you didn't get the right thing. Yeah.

Care that you just had like the wrong experience and then send it back and get the right thing. Yeah. And that doesn't make you rude. It's not about you. It's like you ordered something. You didn't get the correct thing. So you're swapping it out. It's not about it's not calling them stupid.

Yeah. It's not attacking them. It's like just take yourself into consideration. want yourself to have like better experiences yeah literally one time i went to uh i went to disneyland with my family right and like we had to this was before covid so like we had to renew our passes and like when you had to renew them you just go to a little window and just like do it so we did it and then we walked back to the gate you'd be going that much oh yeah girl at this grown age girl i'm a proud disney adult you are not going to make me thought about that bitch hell yeah

bitch i mean it's not like oh i mean i don't know it depends on what you call it i guess Okay, right there. You saw how I just said something, but like you're so competent in yourself, me saying it, didn't matter. Like, I don't get the Disney shit. You do you like it. You're allowed to like it. I'm not right.

She's not right. Nobody's right or wrong. You're allowed to like what you like. But we went to the gate and like, I'm like, contrary to what it looks like on online, I'm not like crazy, like waiting for someone to be disrespectful. If you are, I will say something. But I always tell my boyfriend, I'm like, I'm going to give him. one more chance and if he does something

I'm gonna lose it, I'm just letting you know. Like me prepping everyone around me, I'm like, just you know. I would love to be there. If they do one more thing that pisses me off, I'm gonna say something. So we go to the gate and then they're trying, this guy's trying to scan and he's like, it says you have to renew it. We're like, we just

did it. Like I'm commonly explaining to him, I'm like, we just did it. I think it just hasn't refreshed yet, but I don't have the physical copy. So like, I'm like trying to explain it to him. And then he's not listening to me. It's like this older white dude. And then I'm like, okay, he's like, well, I have to call someone. I'm like, okay, that's fine. He's being rude the whole time. I'm not saying anything, right? And then where I lost

it is like once someone comes over and helps us, he goes, the thing is with your kind of people, you guys tend to not pay the fee. And then this happens. And I said, I'm taking that as a green light. I'm going to be a shareholder in Disney at this point, bitch. Like at this point, it's on. So then I was like, what did you just say? And he was like, I didn't say anything. I go, no, you just said something. Run that back.

Run that back. I was like to hear you say it again. Right. I do that too. Let's do. Everyone join in. He has something to say. Go ahead and say it again.

Give him a mic? Yeah. And then my dad got very upset too. And then he was like, I feel like I'm being attacked. Of course he did. You're about to be attacked. You're going to feel like it. You're going to get attacked.

Take that polo off and let's go outside and I'll attack you for real. Oh my God. It's so funny. This also happened to Disneyland too with my mom. But we rode like the Carsland ride. But my brother was a baby, like a baby, baby. It just opened. He's probably like six years old.

We get on the ride. It's just the three of us. My mom, my brother and I. And we waited in line for an hour and a half because he wanted to ride it so bad. Get in the seat. Buckle the seatbelt. The ride breaks down. Oh.

And so they're like, oh, we'll give you guys fast passes to come back. We're like, okay. And then this lady's trying not to give us. the passes. So she's like, you have to get out on this side. And then I get out and I'm like trying to help my brother out of his seatbelt because he's a baby. And he's crying because he's upset. I feel like I'm about to start yelling. I got to wet my palate. So he's like, he's like crying because he's so upset. And I'm like, it's fine. We're going to come back. So my mom gets out on one side. I get on the other and I'm like trying to undo his seatbelt. And then my brother starts getting up.

And then he starts walking towards me. And this worker, this girl, she goes, you have to come out on this side, like to my brother. And then my brother's like, I'm sorry. Like he's like crying and my mom goes, um, like immediately my mom's like, all right, that's it. Because everybody was being rude the whole time didn't say anything. And then as soon as she yelled at my brother and made him cry more, my mom was like, we're done.

Immediately. And so she like lit it up in there, bitch. Like I was just saying, what does she do? What does she do? She was just yelling, yelling, cussing, telling him like, this is ridiculous. You guys are so disrespectful. Like, why would you make money? son cry like that's too nice call her a dumb cut and call her today she said all that shit too

perfect but then she left and then a manager came out old white dude and he's like you know it's really disrespectful to talk to people like that because she was yelling at him at that point and then he was like he's like it's really disrespectful to talk to people my age like that like kids your age because my mom had a backpack on so I think he thought she was like a teenager my mom goes my age how old you do you do you do that's a kid's your age because my mom goes my age how old you think I am. I'm 40 years old bitch, right? And then he was like oh, I was just saying like she's back there crying. She's like

she's crying. Good. I'm glad. She made my son cry. I made her cry. That's how that works. Good. It's like and I'm standing there. I'm literally just like like waiting. Oh, I love things like this. Just standing with my brother and then this guy who works on the ride goes, is that your sister? I go, no, that's my mom. And he goes, oh. And we're just standing there. And I'm like I'm just waiting.

So she's done. And then we'll leave. And then we left and she went straight to like the little office to like file a complaint. And we got a bunch of free shit out of that. Like my dad calls me and we're walking and he goes, what happened? I go, oh, she got mad at the car's ride. Why? Because some worker was super rude to Donovan.

He goes, really? He goes, yeah. He goes, what's she doing now? I'm like, we're walking. And he goes, no. She's not done yet. I'm like, no. So we went to like the little office.

She lit some bitch up in there because he's good. rude and then we got a bunch of free shit like gift cards like a bunch of money on a Disney gift card I didn't know you could get things like that usually when I have a bad experience I just dog cuss everybody out and then I like storm out make a scene I need to free shit

oh yeah I need to complain to the right I always joke about that with my mom when people are really rude I'm like she's gonna be like the owner of this bitch by the end if you keep being rude imagine her like coming back in and be like you're fired who are you the new owner

she has a name tag on All of a sudden. She punched in. So to finish it off, what would you say is like your best piece of advice for people who are trying to learn how to stand up for themselves, stand up for themselves more, anything like that? Understand that you don't have to do anything to deserve having your feelings matter. So like that's my biggest thing is like just take your feelings into consideration. You don't have to be worth it or not. Like you just deserve it just because you're alive.

You deserve for your feelings to matter. And if you don't stand up for yourself, no one else will. So it's time to step up. Grab yourself by the nuts. Stop letting people walk all over you. Like, and it's the small things, like you said. Like, we can dog cuss people out or we can finally send our drinks back. Federer.

It's the little things. Yes, a little thing. Just start taking actions and acting like your feelings matter. Take yourself into consideration. Treat yourself like something you care about. Make sure your experiences are good. And then if you are someone that doesn't care about yourself, by taking the actions of caring about, like, treating yourself like something you care about, you're just going to start caring about yourself. Yeah, it's like going through the motions until you start to believe it.

Yeah. Like affirmations, like saying them over and over again until you start to believe it. They feel so silly, but they're honestly, I love them. But they're a big part of my manifestation, so that's why. Work. I love to. Literally your manifestation works. We don't have to talk.

I need to know your affirmations because walking in front of the mirror being like, oh, you're a child. attractive. I used to be like, couldn't even say it. No, mine are, like, my affirmations are like, I am worthy of all the success I've achieved. Like, I deserve to be happy. I deserve to be respected. Like, there are things like that. Oh, I love that. Yeah, they're like, their affirmations pertaining to my goals or like the love I have for myself, like internally. Period. That will help too with the stand up for yourself.

Yeah. Once you realize you're something like a value or worth. carrying up, taking care of it. Boom. It's going to be hard not to take care of it once you see your own worth. Period. And that's that. I love that.

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