The Comment Section with Drew Afualo - WHAT'S A MAN'S BIG THREE?? | Drew Afualo ft. Kamie Crawford | THE COMMENT SECTION EP 22

Episode Date: July 13, 2022

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by Calvin Klein. Hey, everyone and welcome back to another episode of the Common Section show with me, your favorite girl, the one and only. Today, I'm with one of my faves, one of the first people to ever have me on her podcast, Ms. Cammy Crawford. Miss Caffish. Miss Caffish. Universe. And Neve is Mr. Caffish. Yeah, basically.

I'm so happy to have you, dude. Thank you so much. Seriously. I was watching. Way, way back. My first week of my podcast relationship, I had to have Drew on to talk about anything, honestly. But we talked about boys.

Yeah. And it was one of our best episodes that we've ever had. Oh, stop. I promise you, people were so excited to see you on there. Mm-hmm. You have the most amazing fan base. I know. They're incredible and honestly,

funnier than me sometimes. I find it disrespectful for them to be so funny. Hey, take it down a notch. All right? Take it down. I'm the star. That's what I always like to tell those.

But me and Cammy, we literally, I think I was like, God, not even. I was like only a few months into like being a creator. It wasn't even full time at the time.

Really? And I went on your podcast. Yeah. I wasn't even signed to anybody at the time. So we launched that in September. Yeah. And I think we had you on probably in like October.

So that was the beginning. And now look at you. Yeah. Seven mill later. All the dead balding bodies behind. Oh. The carnage I've laid ways. The carnage.

The carnage. Every time I see one of your videos, whenever I see the clip of somebody saying some bullshit. Yeah. And then I see you go. Yeah. I'm like, oh, she's about to go away. I literally have told them I'm like, that's me rebooting after I have to watch it.

Yes. I have to like restart a little bit. In my palate, you know what I mean? Yeah, a cleanser. Yeah, a little cleanser. Me and Cammy go so far back. It's like so funny. We always like running to each other at events.

Yes. And then events you go to, I don't go to. And then vice versa. Yes. And I always have FOMO because I'm like, I could have seen Drew. I could have talked to Drew. Because sometimes I don't go to events because I'm like, I don't want to talk to anybody. I feel you.

Everybody's weird. I feel you so hard. And then I see the one person that I love. And I'm like, great. Great. Thanks for. invite. I missed it. Honestly. Also, Cammy's Miss Sports Illustrated too this year. Everyone, go look up Camys Sports Illustrated spread. You look at my butt. Thank you. Yeah, go look at my butt. Take a look at my butt.

That's so incredible. Were you so excited? I was beyond excited, but also, like, it was something that I had wanted for a really long time, but just never thought would happen. Because, like, what a far-fetched dream. No, truly. Like, who, who thinks that something like that is going to happen for them? Or expects it to happen? Yeah, but like, also low-key, I think my Scorpio God complex, like, back in the day was like, this is going to happen for me. The ultimate manifestation.

I know, Camis is a Scorpio, and I love Scorpio women. I tell people all the time how much I love Scorpio women. I think the only Scorpio man I really love is Chris Clemens. Like, he's a Scorpio and I love. Is he's a Scorpio? Yeah. I love, Scorpio men are very hot and cold. It's very hit or mess.

Hot button talking. Men's period. Men period. But you're Virgo Rising? Virgo Rising Libra Moon. She's got a lot going on. The Libra keeps you grounded. Otherwise, you'd be off the rails. I feel like the Libra keeps me in the sky. Does it?

In delusion. You think? In the land of delusion. My boyfriend's a Libra. Yeah. He's a Libra. Wow. Taurus Moon.

Sagittarius Rising. We're both Sagittarius Rising. We're both Sagittarius rising. I know. Spicy. We fought a lot in the beginning. We're okay now. Spice. Yeah, the communication part was a little hard. in the beginning. Oh my God. I can imagine because as my sad, Venus,

yeah. It's hard. It's hard. It is hard. Especially with, um, Libres are stubborn. Yeah. Yeah. And like I said, the delusion. It's the delusion of it all for me. Yeah. One time my boyfriend told me he's like, when we fight, like, you just talk so fast and you're so like, you have everything you want to say already and I can't keep up. It's the Virgo. Yeah. That's how, yes. Anytime I want to annihilate someone between my Scorpio son, my Scorpio Mercury and Virgo Rising. I have listed, like, sheet protectors, laminated binders full of information. That's not what she said two years ago.

Yeah. Let me go back to February. Yeah. February 14th, Valentine's Day. Yeah. This is where you had me. I know sometimes I'll literally be like, do you really want to talk about that? Because we can, because I have several things I have to say, too, if you want to bring some stuff up.

Are you sure? Are you sure? Do you want to go there? Okay. But thankfully, we're good now. Therapy helps. It does. It really does.

I highly, I advocate for therapy all the time. Yeah, yeah. My therapist, thanks. I asked her if I was her funniest client. She said yes, of course. But I feel like she was just trying to appease me. Yeah, exactly. Be honest.

Did you say swear on my life then? No. I literally was like, don't lie to me. Yeah. I know it's true because of the Libra delusion. Yeah. I know it's true, but don't lie to me. I feel like my boyfriend's Libra.

Maybe it's the tourist, too. It's very like, it'll be fine. Just not everything. Because I stress so badly about things I can't control because that's my Virgo. But like, he's always like, it'll be fine. And then I go, well, how do you know? How do you know? And he goes, because it will.

Yeah. And I just can't, I cannot even fathom thinking like that. I wish so dearly I could. That's the internal battle that I have. Because I have the Virgo where nothing is turning out right. Everyone's going to know that nothing is right. Everyone's going to know that the smallest detail is missing. The smallest detail that no.

nobody knows about, except for me. Everybody's going to find out. And then the Scorpio is like existential dread. Like it's over. The world is ending. And I might as well just not even be here. And then the Libra's like, but it'll all work out in the end. It always does.

And I'm like, shut up. I'm like, you know what? That's why I'm genuinely like, but how do you know? Yeah. Because it always does. I'm all. But what if this time it doesn't? Yeah.

Well, what are the odds? I'm like, I don't know. I don't know. That's like that's the point. That's why I'm so upset. 100%. Everything is failing. I know.

That's why he's, it's like grounding for me to have a Libra. Maybe I'll find one for myself. I highly recommend. Yeah. I like Libra men. Yeah. What kind of men do you stay away from? Pisces.

Pisces men. Honestly, water sign men. That's so funny. My brother's a cancer. Sorry. He has the most chaotic big three. It's like cancer, son. I think he's an Aries moon Gemini rising.

chaos are you okay is my mom okay we need to talk about that oh my god chaos but the rest of his chart like kind of balances it out because you know how like

my dad's Pisces so isn't that so strange like whenever I talk shit on astrological science like I started Capricorn Slander once like and I was leading a hatred so much so that I got it to trend on Twitter I was just going off like on Capricorn slander

Capercoonslander all day every day. That's so funny. Because I just like have such a strong feeling about Capricorns. I don't have any feeling about Capricorns because I feel like I don't meet any. Really? Except for the women. And the women that I know are like badass. Like they're on there.

And they're good. And I always say to you, I'm like, this only applies to men. Everything only. Everything negative. That's negative. Men. Like, like, file this male cabinet. Yeah.

They suck. Yeah. And a lot of people, I was like, what, what's the sign that gets the big, like, side die from you and everybody said Pisces men. Yeah. And cancer men. Yes. You want to know why? Every single person. Because they're terrible. That's why. They are quite simply, they're terrible. To put it plainly, they're awful. I think it's because they're so emotionally in tune, like most water signs are, but then they like manipulate you. They are so manipulative. And they, because they are so emotionally in tune, they can really like make you feel like they are sorry, like things are going to

change, like, and they really, they sell it. Yeah, they sell it. They sell it. Bill of goods. And then, nothing. Yeah, then they just like, forget out. Then they gaslight you on me. Oh, yeah, yeah. Oh, it's. What would ever make you think that I wouldn't do that to you? Because you told me you wouldn't do it to me? Oh. That's kind of probably why. And you listened? Yeah, and they're like, that seems like it's kind of on you. Sorry. Sorry, babe. That's why I ask, because it leads right into our topic for today, because speaking of men that we avoid.

Right. We're talking about boys today. boy behavior right we we're well aware very familiar yes have you had experiences oh i told you pice's men right i feel like it's a write-up passage for women who unfortunately like men yeah 1,000 percent that's a right of passage and that is why i was thinking about this the other day yeah if i was given the choice at birth what do you want to like that's what i'm saying Do you think that I would have chose men? Yeah, you think I would have put myself through this? Wasn't a choice, babe.

It was. And if it was, I would choose women. I would choose women every time. Every single time. First of all, we're clean. Yeah. Gorgeous. Smart.

Yeah. Emotionally in tune. Motionally in tune. Communicative. Right? Like, so loving. Nurt. Them?

What do you bring to table? Nothing. And then they have the nerve to ask us, what do we bring to the table? Always. They always ask. that. You can't even build a table. That's why I said you don't even have a seat on this table. You know nothing about carpentry. Yeah, the whole what do you bring to the table argument, I've shot down a million times. But I always tell people like, you don't have a seat at this table,

so don't worry about what's being served. You don't need to worry about it. None of your concern. None of your concern. Because like, you don't even know where the restaurant is. Like, I didn't even send you the addie, bro. So what are you worrying about? What are you doing here? It's like, and only the worst types of men ask questions like that. Yes. With nothing to offer. They have nothing. The ones on TikTok that make these long drawn-out videos, I can't tell you. When I posted a clip from my podcast and it was about the fact that I am not doing wifey shit anymore.

Yeah. Because after being in a five-year-long relationship where all I was doing was wifey shit and I didn't end up with a ring or wifie status and you still want to act up. Now moving forward in my dating life, I'm not doing wifie shit anymore. And I had a bunch of men being like, well, we're not doing husband shit anymore. Since when? Since the beginning of time? You guys haven't really been doing that.

When were you ever doing husband shit? That's what I'm saying. When were you ever doing anything that qualifies as husband's shit? They're like, I was about to start and I saw this video and now I'm never going to do it ever. You could kiss that goodbye, lady. Great. Great. And I literally had to tell them like, this does not apply to you because I would never have sex with you.

Oh my God. So you don't even have to worry about this. I've had to say that. I've literally said like, it'll be. never not be funny to me when you have someone who's ugly trying to tell you you're ugly. Yeah. Okay. Oh yeah. Yeah. Looks like twins. Yes. Twin behavior. But you know that I was getting the opposite comment. I was getting she's pretty, but she's never going to be able to get a man. Oh, wow. Because my track record says otherwise.

Yeah. Sure. Sure. But the thing is, you would never qualify. Yeah. Like you don't need to worry about it. Just the audacity in general, like to think that you're even in the same lane. Go ahead and log out for me. Yeah. Like, go ahead and log out for me. Yeah. Like, go ahead. Go ahead and put the ranch away from me, babe. I'm so like, oh, it always kill. It kills me when they say shit like that. They're like, oh, like a woman like, like this kind of behavior, like you can, you're never going to settle down.

My girlfriend would never. Oh. If we were dating, we're not. We're not. That's like I made one to these like, that's not like, like if you were my girl, she's not. She's not. Take that thought. Go ahead and pluck it out of there and throw it in the trash.

And that's why you're upset. First of all. Because you could never bag that. So you don't need to worry about what she's wearing, talking about. Oh my God, yeah. It's genuinely so, like, quitting before you get fired. Yes. They're like, you're not even looking in their direction.

They're like, just so you know, I would never date you in a million years, I would never date you ever. You never had the qualifications. You're like, okay, same. I would never date you. Well, that's you being, that's you being superficial. Like, they literally turn the tables on you every single time. Then so be it. They move the goalpost every time.

They're like, well, actually, that's a little different cut. No. And I've talked about this before, but like the whole idea of like creating a fantasy in which you get rejected, that's weird. Why are you romanticizing that? You're cosplaying getting rejected. They're like me in a bar and they're literally like the girl's like, I want a man who's rich. And he's like, oh, I just want to get to know you. She's like, get out of here.

They're wearing a towel on their head. I'm like, girl, you're acting this out for yourself. Like when does this happen to you? Yeah. And then you go, how many times does this happen? will never. But if it did, she wouldn't be my girl. Yeah.

That's the point. Okay. Well, yeah. Because in make-believe land, anything's possible. I mean, like, if I close my eyes and imagined, I could make up anything in my hand. Exactly. That's weirdo behavior. I'm too much time on their hands.

Yeah. And it's always the same dude. Oh, yeah. There are carbon copies of each other. They're all just copy paste, copy paste, copy paste, over and over again. Saying the same thing, regurgitating the same thing. Yeah. It's like, what do you bring to the table?

I would never date you, blah, blah, blah, blah. It's like, okay. And it's also like clearly the plane that was boarding with the point, you missed it. Yeah, girl. You missed it. Left on the tarmac, babe. Like, you're still let's he a say. Literally top gun style.

You're so far behind, bro. You flew off into space. And you missed it because they'll be like, well, if you're not showing men what it is that you can do, how are they supposed to know if they want to wipe you up or not? Okay. Clearly I'm not saying that I'm just going to meet a man and just sit there and look pretty and not say anything. No one ever said that.

But what I'm saying is I'm not going to be finding you a therapist, doing your laundry, cooking you food every single night, doing all of the activities. Look, see, my fucking jewelry can't even take this. Doing all the things. And then getting nothing, getting zero benefits. And you're not giving me anything. Well, because you don't need them for anything else. That's why I said, like, we've reached a point now where women don't need you to, like,

get a bank account or buy a home or buy a car, like, which is what we needed for so long. Yes. They were like, back in the day, I'm like, oh, like, during segregation times. Yeah. Yes. I wish I want to go back to there. Yeah. Tell you got bigger issues, babe.

You got bigger problems, babe. Worry about that. So you want separate water phones. Yeah, that's why I'm like, I'm like meeting during like when women had no rights. Like women couldn't even vote. Yeah. Is that what you were talking? Yes.

Okay, different issue. But that's why with stuff like that, you have to like just be nice now. You have to be a good person. Yeah. You have to be self-sufficient. And men are like too much. Yeah. All you bitches want is all these.

You just want money. Yeah, they're like, you just want a 1% or man. I mean, I'm not going to say no. But at the same time, that's not what I said. I said, be nice and respectful and don't be a bigot. Yeah. That's too big of an ask. They're like, that's, well, now.

I can't even be a bigot. I can't even be a Kanye fan anymore. Now what? What's next? Like, they're like so, like, blown away. Like, geez, there's just everything. You guys have such high standards. Which is, and it's, the bar is, like, so remarkably low.

I've talked about this before with other. guess, but like when you ask single women who are interested in men and they want to date men, what they're looking for? Yeah. You're like, what are you looking for in a man? They'll literally be like, someone who's like nice, respectful, clean, you know what I mean? Like maybe not mean to your mom. Like doesn't believe that putting soap suds between their ass cheeks is more than enough.

Is gay. Uses a washcloth. Like, you know, real base level of shit. Gets in there. Yeah. And then if you ask the same kind of dude, like, who's also single but terrible. what they're looking for, nothing but looks. I want big titty's no tummy big add.

No attitude. Yeah, it has nothing to do with the internal. It has to only do with the external. And that's how you know the bars in hell. Because women are like, just be nice to me. Yes. And they're like, well, how about no? Are you willing to trade in exchange for maybe something else?

Yeah. What about I have a beard? Yeah. I mean, I don't live with my mom. Is that good enough? It's like, it's truly, like, that's what I'm like, hold your standards high. Keep them high. You have to keep them high.

These riff-raf, like, they'll literally wash to the side and you'll find somebody who deserves you. No, truly. Scoundrel. So we're going to go into these videos. But for those of you who are new, what we like to do here on the comment section is we like to take videos that I was tagged in that are applicable to our topic and we bring them here. We break them down. We make fun of them. Men cry always.

Perfect. That's always top of list. That's like on my top of my to-do list all the time. This is my internal to-do list. So this first video, I just like to give summaries of them. It says when you say something like, I just took a shower and they say without me, it's a real boy line, right? I mean.

Or when you send like a selfie and they say go lower when you're talking about something random and they say, my parents aren't home and they send you a winky face, you should come over. They always say this kind of stuff when you talk to them at night especially, right? It's real like F-boy behavior. It's the shower for me. without me sir i have a forty dollar body body scrub and i am literally lathered from head to toe in shaving cream yeah no i don't want you no without that's my me time get out i don't need i have a jo malone candle burning you're right and i've got a nice playlist going and you being

a part of that no way never was in the equation never ever ever you're like oh i'm getting ready to go to a funeral and they're like without me what are you doing showering without me. Yeah. You're mourning the loss of your father without me. Actually, I just had explosive diarrhea. Now I'm cleaning myself. So yeah, without you.

I just shit myself. I literally just shit my pants. Shit everywhere. Without me. That's why I said, just say, just say the most wild thing. Like, literally just say, like, I'm literally digging for treasure right now. Yeah. I'm like, truly, I have a metal detector.

I'm outside. I'm in my bathing suit. Yeah. Bathing suit. Without me. None of the other thing. Nothing. Nothing I see.

I'm digging. I'm desecating. graves and they're like, what are you wearing, though? Naked? Is this a thong? It's so cringy, dude. Like, doesn't it give you the ick? It's disgusting. The absolute ick of it all. I've talked about icks before a little bit on my podcast with my sister, two idiot girls. We just did episodes on icks. This is a huge ick, obviously. Okay, what's your biggest?

My biggest, biggest, biggest, I've described it on the show before. Well, I'll change it. I'll do another one. One of them is like, when men plug their nose and jump into water. They're like, grow up, grow up. Literally, you're not going to drown. Actually, drown instead of doing that. Do you know what mine is? I just discovered it.

I was talking to my therapist. Oh my God, I would love to hear it. It's a safe space here, Cammy. I've just realized it. I've known it for a while. Yeah. But it really came to fruition the other day. I was hanging out with this man.

Mm-hmm. And he started to doze off. And I realized. Sleepy men are my biggest ick. I don't want to see you wake up. I hate when they wake up and their eyes are so, like, beady and they have the crust, and, like, they just look so vulnerable. I just don't like it.

And then they have, like, a drool crust. I hate it. I hate it. When they're falling asleep, he was literally falling asleep. He was trying to act like he wasn't. So then he asked me a question. It was like, what's your favorite color? and I was like, go to bed.

Actually, I'm going to punch you in the f*** face. I'm going to knock you out so you can go to sleep. Or you go to the movies with them and they start to fall. Be a man. What if somebody came into attack us right now? You're half sleep. Alpha men don't sleep. Don't sleep.

Stand up like a vampire and just stay awake 24-7. Like, literally don't close your eyes. Why are you sleeping? As a man, why are you sleeping? as like the alpha you know what I mean of the pack what are you what are you so tired from exhaustion what are you tired from wake the shit up

and get out of my house I don't like it I don't know how to explain it every time they wake up and they're like you know like they come out of it a little like zombie no what's worse is like when you when you shake them awake and they're scared and they're not expecting it

yeah and they go like and they're like blinking like this I hate it. I hate it. I hate it. Why are you five years old? You're like when they hit REM? Ew. You're dreaming?

When they're dreaming. Are you dreaming about me? Who are you dreaming about? Yeah. If not me then who? But is that not the same as like showering without me? Are you dreaming?

Was it about me? Yeah. It's about me? No. Yeah. You're like, actually I had a nightmare and you were in it. Yeah. I don't know if you count that.

Like, yeah. I had a dream. I had a dream. I had a dream. I killed you. That's what you should say after that. They were like, did you dream about me? I had a dream I killed you.

I don't know if that's the same. I had a dream you cheated on me. So I guess technically, right? That's so funny. Dude, I'm sleeping. Do you have any others? I mean, that's like my biggest one right now. I don't know what it is about it.

But my therapist agreed with me. I thought she was going to be like, let's unpack. She's like, let's unpack what this is about. She was like, oh, same. What is it about male vulnerability? Thank you. I attribute like icks to like them looking silly to me it just makes it makes my butthole clench bro it folds in on itself whenever I see them do certain things

God what was it the one I described on one of my other episodes and people were like I'm like it's an it's funny let's all laugh is was literally when men are like enjoying themselves at a concert by themselves like it's like a dude that like came up tagged along yeah and they're like, oh my God. There's something about it. I just want to like literally run up and deck them. I just like that I can't control it. Why are you having fun?

As a man, why are you enjoying yourself? That's why I was like, am I just evil? But like, I think it's because men just irritate the absolute shit out of me all the time. The government is taking my rights away and you're having fun? And you're having, what's so funny? You're sleeping at a moment like this? What's so funny?

That's like you're tired? From what? From what? Yeah. Getting on my nerves. That has to be. the only thing. Have you noticed too that? A lot of men twitch in their sleep. Violently. I'm like, are y'all okay? I saw someone literally say that's the lies trying to leave their body.

In the middle of the night. And they'll like grab you or something. Yeah. Or they like hate you. Sometimes they accidentally hit you in their sleep. No. Or when they wake up and they're like, what? Yeah. I wasn't talking to you. Wasn't talking. And they're all sleepy. Who did you say? Go back to sleep. You're all disgusted. Go back to sleep. Go back to sleep. You're so disgusting. Don't call me. I'll call you. Yeah.

Just wait for my call. Thanks. Also, leave. I just, and then that just, honestly, another ick. Yeah. When they won't leave. Oh, they don't catch just a hint. Sometimes, as a Scorpio, I just want to be by myself.

I feel that. I need to recharge. Yeah. And I also don't want to have to explain to you, so I'm also a bad communicator. Yeah. So I'm not going to tell you that I need to be left alone. Yeah. But if you stick around far past the due day,

you're like girl get out leave get out and you're sleepy on top of that go sleep in your own house what are you doing you're up a house what are you doing for me right now i feel that like when they don't catch the hint i think purposely they like don't take the hint that you want them to leave that's so irritating but then when they want then they make all these videos about post nut syndrome and like wanting the girl to leave too yeah honestly before that and even more so after they're like, get out. Yeah. Like, yeah.

Get out, dude. Just leave for a bit sake. Get out. Yeah, it's like just exhaustion. You're like, oh my God. Now you want me to talk to you on top of that? That's what's like, come on.

That's why I know men like that who say things like that make videos like terrible like that about like the Postnut syndrome shit. Yes. Is literally, I'm like, I know for a fact you have no bitches because like no woman acts like that. No bitches. Like I know for a fact you don't have, you get no pus whatsoever. No.

Because if you. if you did you would know that women don't act that way especially if it's like a friends with benefit situation or whatever women are the first to leave i've always been the first to leave while you're asleep they literally put their clothes on and leave like my clothes on and leave like and i literally be like thanks you you never buy don't call me appreciate you this is fun the most like it's it's the most intense form of delusion yeah that they have yeah they live in a fantasy world truly do you think that we're in love with you after five minutes of fame after after mediocre dick like okay pretty sure I'm good sure sure sure sure pretty sure I'm good

sure yeah it took longer for me to shower but like that's fine that's totally cool it's not a big deal I genuinely when I was younger whenever dudes like wouldn't catch the hint when I was with friends like you know sometimes you're like a wing man so you yeah you go with your friend so they could hook up with someone and then you're kind of course you're like this is a business trip I'm here for her and her own I'm here to entertain you for a minute so that you and I can talk across from each other on the couch yeah so when I would go with my friends to these like meet and greets. I'd sit there and then sometimes if they came over to my house and I'd have to like entertain them like a baby. You're like do you like what do you like to

watch on TV like literally like a baby? Yeah they're like what are you going to school for? Like it's like superficial shit. If they like didn't catch the hint I'd literally be like all right you guys got to go like I started just telling people yeah sometimes they won't read the room and it's infuriating and I'm like I have shit to do I'm tired. Yes. I want to take my pants. I want to take my pants. I'm off and go to sleep. I want to take my pants off. I want to watch the Great British Bake Off and I want you to get out. I want to be able to fart in peace. Get out. Literally I want to take my bra off and lay down. Get out. Like I genuinely would be like, all right, time for you guys to go. Yeah. I's got to leave. Thanks. My friends were like, that's so funny. Like, I was trying to like hints. They don't read hints. Like they like purposely ignore it. You have to grab them by the throat. Like, whisk them to the room. Like a security guard and like throwing them out. Come with me. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. They don't get it.

They don't. It's just so gross. So the comments on this video, like this first one says, they always be the crustiest dudes, too, who say things like... Always. It's the, can I... We're my hug at type of dudes. Yeah. Without me?

Yeah. Where my hug at? They're like... Or, like, when you're really, really mean to them, because you don't like them because they're creepy. And then they're like, girl, you're always playing around. I literally hate you. Like, sometimes I've told men to their face. I'm like, I literally hate you.

Like, I can't stand you. well and they laugh and they think I'm kidding no like you guys joke you guys are ill like I'm literally telling you to your face I hate you yes I was talking to this guy that my friend was talking to the other day and she facetimes me and he takes her phone and starts talking to me and he was so annoying yeah that I literally was like you're bothering me give my friend back her phone he was like ah you're so funny I said no actually you're getting on my nurse and you're like okay pass the phone back that bad pass that back bitch yeah I just I genuinely sometimes I'm just like

I'm not trying to be mean No but like I don't have to like you either Like sometimes too like yeah Like boyfriends of friends or whatever Or like guys they're dating or seeing They're like oh your friend's like she's like Kind of a serious one huh I'm like I just hate you dude Just don't fucking like I find you repulsive

Like you disgust me but I'm also I'm not dating you so Can't believe my friend is allowing you to get on top of me Yeah literally like my friend deserves better I guess is what I'm trying to say I guess I think like you're discussing is probably like Where I'm getting me of that. I guess when it really really comes down to it.

Yeah. Like, I guess like, you repulse me. Yeah. Yeah, to put it simply, I wish you were dead. So,

like, sometimes like, like, I genuinely be like, nah, I just hate you, dude. And then we're like,

oh, you're just so funny. You're crazy girl. And they're like, all right. But at least you express yourself. Whatever makes you leave. Yeah.

Like, whatever makes you the most uncomfortable where you have to exit the situation right away. Can you imagine the delusion to be like, oh my God, she,

She's literally like flirting with me. Girl. That's the funniest part. When they think it's banter, it's not. It's not. So you being like quirky, you playing hard to get? Because I genuinely don't know how to not be myself. Same.

A thousand percent of the time. Same. And if I'm feeling something, I have to share it. Same. I have to say it. If not my face will. If not, my face, my whole body will react. I'll break it to hide.

I'm not trying to risk that. No, truly. So it's better I just tell you how I feel. Yeah. And let you deal with the hurt of that. Yeah. And then we can move past it. You know what I mean?

You can move past it because you'll be gone. Yeah. I say all the time like if I didn't like you, you wouldn't have to guess. Like you wouldn't have to be like, I wonder if she. Okay. You would know. Exactly. You wouldn't have to guess.

Because I've definitely met people, especially girls who are like, I didn't know if you liked me at first. You would know. Yeah. I promised you wouldn't have to guess. You would know. And if you think. think that I don't like you? You're probably right.

Yeah. Go ahead and trust that gut. Go ahead and trust that gut instinct. Believe in yourself. Yeah. I'd trust your first instinct if I were you. No, truly. And then especially with men.

Yes. I get even more like, I'm so like, oh, man, I don't even care. I don't care at all. And they're like, you, you don't, you don't with me. No. Yeah. And you go, not really. No.

And then they go, ah. Like, dude, it's just like a never ending. I never stop. True. It's like, oh, Carrie. Crazy girl. No, babe. I know.

Sometimes I'll have men who, like, know my boyfriend, like, whether they, like, work in the same area or they, like, known him prior to him dating me. Sometimes they're like, oh, like, I get nervous around your girlfriend. Like, I don't know if she would like me. If you have to guess, chances are I probably don't. You're right. Whatever you're feeling right now, on point. That's what I'm saying. Like, you wouldn't, like, a healthy dose of fear, I think.

think is good. 1,000%. Yeah, like, a lot of them are afraid of me. A lot of my boyfriend's friends are afraid of me, which is okay. Like, I'm cool with that. I think that's a good thing. That's a great thing. You know what I realized in my last relationship that his best friend wasn't afraid of me?

One time, towards the end, literally the last week of our relationship. He came up to us. We were out at a party. Yeah. And he comes up to us and did not acknowledge me and just talked to my boyfriend at the time. Yeah. In front of my face. And I'm looking at him like...

And you already knew you? Yes! He's met you before, so? I'm looking at him like, I will literally headbut you. Knock you the fuck out. Yeah, literally. You're just going to come up to him and start having a conversation.

Like, he had just came up to him at this party. And that's when I realized, oh, something's up here. Yeah, some's off. Because you're also allowing him to not acknowledge me. He doesn't feel like he has to acknowledge me. Yeah. Something is amiss. Yeah.

I can't even tell you. That's a huge pet peeve of mine when you're in a group and like someone comes up to the one person. Yes. And they don't even try to acknowledge the other people. Hate it. I always do it. Like I just, I just do it out of reaction because I hate when people do it to me.

Like if they're talking to other people. And especially with my boyfriend. Like if they never address me personally or they're not like, oh, I'm so and so by the way. Yes. Nothing at all. Sometimes I'll just interrupt. Like if they don't. Hi.

I'm. Yeah. Oh, I'm Drew, by the way. Yeah. I'll literally just interrupt. but my boyfriend does it too. He's like, this is my girlfriend.

Yes. That's how it should be. Yeah. When there's respect. Right. I feel like the guy friends especially need to have a certain amount of fear because we're not going to be that homeboy. Yeah.

That brings bitches around my man and thinks that it's okay. Yeah. If they have a little bit of fear and respect for you, honestly, they're not going to even go there. Yeah, truly. But it's always the crustiest friends. The most beat friends. The most beat friends. The most beat friends.

The most. beat, sweaty, gross, greasy, grimy, broke. Broke. The brokeest of friends. And most importantly, broke. Yeah. Those are the ones that do, they're the ones who do the shit.

Truly. When I first started dating my boyfriend, we were dating, I think probably like three months, two and a half three months. And then we became like official, like actual boyfriend and girlfriend. And then one of his like friends at the time, he's no longer friends with us. person for obvious reasons, but he, like, was telling him, like, oh, are you still, he's like, oh, let's go out. I'm trying to, like, hook up with girls.

Mind you, this guy's in a relationship, a committed relationship. Right. Yeah. And then my boyfriend was like, I'm good. I'm going to hang out with Drew today. And he's like, oh, is that still going on? And he was like, yeah. And he goes, oh, he goes, well, he literally, my boyfriend told me this.

He told him like, oh, well, like, yeah, like, have fun. But, like, don't commit to her. And then he was like, first of all, the sudden of your goddamn bitch. business. Number one. Second of all, it's too late. I already committed to her because he asked me to be his girlfriend, like, the week before that.

He had asked him, is that still going on? And he was like, yeah, he tried to tell him to just fuck around with me and not commit to me. And then my boyfriend's never been that kind of guy. So he was like, I don't think I like this guy anymore. He literally told me the story that day. But I think also, one thing, I think all guys who have girlfriends are like are in a committed relationship.

they all have that one friend. Yeah. There's always that one friend that's going to literally ruin your relationship. No, truly. They're on a mission to do it. And because they think, they have group think. Yeah. And it's all dumb.

Yeah, it's all idiots. You don't have one good sound mind in the group. No, no. Like in a girl's group chat, there's usually at least one sound bitch in the group that's like, listen. Well, I don't know. I don't know about that. Yeah. You know?

They're very, like, logical. That's me because I'm the mom. Yeah. Yeah. I always, you know, I don't like to be devils. I've got all the time. I'm always willing to put, you know, the gat in the trunk and go pull up at his house. Yeah, yeah, absolutely. With some eggs and some T. P. Yeah. Whatever you need, whatever you need. Let's go. Let's go. Let's go. Let's bury his ass. Yeah. But occasionally,

when my friends are tripping, I'll be like, you're tripping. Yeah. Like, you should apologize to him, whatever. And I'm the last person to apologize. So if I'm saying you should apologize, you've done something wrong. Yeah. But for those guy friends that are like that, to their friends in relationships. You see that they're happy. You, the girl is cool. Like, you see that she's got a chick going for herself. You know there's nothing out here because you're still out here, scoundering. Single. Literally.

Literally single. And looking everywhere for anything under a rock with a vagina and a pulse. Not truly. You know what's out here. Yeah. Do you want to fuck him? Listen. Because if that's the case, I mean, do your best.

Say something. Yeah, that's why. Sometimes I, it's, the line. gets very thin with stuff like that. You're in love with him. And I've talked about that before with you too as far as like famous dudes as well like athletes or actors or singers or artists, whatever. Like when regular, regular dudes who don't have fame and fortune and all of that, when they hear that you have like talked to men of influence at some point,

they're always like, he would never. Yeah. He would never date you. Yes. because you want to date him? Right. I was like, let me tell you something. I had NFL players hitting me up when I was literally 19, when I was 20.

Of course. So, they're a lot easier just like you. I was all the men are easy, so. Just like you? I mean, just like you, they're really easy, except the differences they have, like, fame and fortune. Yeah. Also, they're all the same.

It's not hard to get to them. Sometimes girls ask, girl, how do I bag an athlete? And also, just be in the room. Exist. Like, just be next. to them. You know what you should do? Be alive. Yeah. Be in the room. Proximity, babe. That's literally how you do it.

Honestly, if you're dead in the room, could still have a chance. That's how like, if you're a ghost, you probably could still do it. That's like that. Proximity and like disinterest is like the biggest way to Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. Because it shows them nothing. Yeah, if you don't know who they are, you've never seen them play, you don't know anything about them.

Give them. They like that even more. I have had conversations with people and had these guys' favorite rappers come up and stand there and stare at me waiting for me to acknowledge them. Yeah. I refuse. And then they like that even more. Don't even look at them. That's what I said, because you're easy. Don't. Because you're easy. Because you all are ran through. Respect yourself. Have some self-fathers. Fatherless behavior. Yeah, literally. Like, just truly fatherless behavior. This is why we have to protect the American family. You are their family. We need to make sure there's a man in the house. Look what y'all sons are doing running the streets like that.

For the streets, honestly. A bunch of sluts. Everywhere. And the summer's here. Hoochie Daddy's. Hot girls summer. Everywhere. I know, right?

God. Come on some clothes. Honestly. Respect yourself. Love yourself. Love yourself. Love yourself. Okay, so I'll just go on to this next video.

So this next video is basically someone saying how guys will tell girls, don't, don't tell people we're dating. We're just friends. Like, basically, they want all the perks of a relationship. another responsibility or accountability of a relationship. But if that girl were to go off and starts talking to another guy or starts dating, they get really mad. Cheating on me?

Yeah. They're literally like, I thought it was just me and you. Oh. It's a weird double standard that guys can mess around and be F boys, but girls can't do anything. Well, duh, right? Duh. It's very, like, hat on a hat and, like, what? Women are not held to the same standards as men?

I was watching a video about this the other day about, like, how women have been taught to date in the complete opposite way that men have. If women are dating, it's like you have to have one person that you're dating and you have to commit to that person. But when men are dating, and obviously this is a very binary sense, but when men are dating,

they're taught to date multiple girls at once until you find the one. You have to spread your seed and conquer all. So your royal oats because you're so important. You're not. But like women are taught to cater to one guy because if you're dating multiple guys,

you're a slut. Yeah. And if they also, if they date one guy and he's the worst, like for whatever reason, they're supposed to stay and take care of him because what if he's going through something? What if I don't like you? Like, what if you irritate the kind of me? Like, the whole writer die concept? No way. Doesn't appeal. Absolutely not. And it only applies to women because as soon as men, women get pregnant and men leave. Yes. They they cheat. They birth life. They literally give birth to a child. that is also yours and they leave. Yeah. So like you want me to stay and you don't have a job?

Like, girl, like, no. She wasn't with me when I was down. Yeah. You've been down. First of all, I had COVID and you weren't there for me. Yeah, yeah. So, like, um, yeah.

I had a temporary illness. You weren't there for me. And you didn't even hit me up to ask me if I was cool. So like, that's what I'm saying like, yeah, the writer die mentality only applies to women. It's like they, they are, condition to believe that they have to endure the harshest, most emotionally abusive conditions and labor it because they're women and that's their job is to take care of people.

You have to go through it. And then you'll see these men be like, well, my mom and dad have been together for 40 years and she wrote through him with everything that. First of all, your father was emotionally and physically abusive. Yeah. You mean when women couldn't even get a job? And your mother needed to be able to get a bank account. Yeah.

And your daddy was there. Yeah. That was not love. You're telling me if you're a mom. had the opportunity now she wouldn't leave him and go find somebody else like but she's been in it too long yeah and that's why even now like you're seeing people who have been together for how long how many years finally getting divorced yeah because you don't need them anymore because they're able to and they're able to like go out on their own and work for themselves and on their own property and all of that let's say it's like

loveless marriages yes i'm like those that's i'd rather be alone but this this is what these guys look up too. They're like, my grandparents were together for 55 years. Your grandma's miserable, bro. Were you like, your grandparents were together before the invention of toilet paper? So, like, maybe I'm not taking advice from them. You know what I mean? Like... Maybe not. Your grandma wore, like, long

johns to bed instead of underwear. Like... Your grandma was turning better. Yeah, literally. Like, your grandma was... Because she had to. Not because... Your grandma came over on the Mayflower, bro. Like, I really don't give a damn what she's doing. That's what I say... Okay, go marry hurry. Go marry your grandma then. Your grandma didn't.

Your grandma didn't know how to read because she wasn't legally allowed. So, like, so yeah, I'm going to go ahead and say. She didn't know what divorce papers looked like. I think that she was illiterate. I think the pickings were slimmer back then, I would assume. The opportunity was not as, like, prevalent as it is now to, like, go out and be on your own. Also, chances are your grandmother was 17 and your grandfather was 35. So you really want to get into it.

Let's. If that's your dream. Then, like, go to jail. like it's what I'm saying Prison. Prison for life. Like people were emotionally and mentally like in the confines of these relationships. It wasn't because they were in love.

It wasn't because they were happy. Yeah. Like when it's like that's what you, so you want to make. Yes. So you want a nanny. Caretaker? Like okay, go hire someone. You're not paying me.

That's why I said, are you paying me what therapists make? Because then maybe yeah, we can hang out for an hour twice a week. And you pay me 50 grand and then I will tell you. Because then you're all about money. Yeah. And you're a bill. Right? And I'm going to take all these notes and then I'm going to say, it says here you're a bitch.

Yeah. It's my diagnosis as a doctor. My diagnosis? There you go. You're a little bitch baby. Yes. That is that you're bitch born and bitch bread. So good luck with that.

That'll be 50 grand. So the comments on this video, this first one says, or if he or she doesn't want others to know about your relationship, just leave. I mean, yeah. Like there's a mom, men. Like if men are like, we're not together, but we're together. Yeah. I get girls asking me like a situation ship.

They ask me about that all the time. They're like, what should I do if leave? The thing is, again, binary sense. Men are very simple. Yeah. Heterosexual men. Yeah. Are very simple.

Yeah. Easy, simple. Stupid. Yeah. For three. Big three. Truly, that's their big three. That's their big three.

That's it. So if a man wants to be with you and wants to lock you down and doesn't want anybody else to have you, he's going to do the things that it takes to make that happen. Exactly. Because men are also territorial. Like that's just in their system. Like they have to divide and conquer at all times in the worst ways most of the time. Yeah.

But like when it comes to their woman, they're going to lock it down. So if it's been months and you still don't know what this is, because it's nothing. Yeah, exactly. I say if you have to ask, it's nothing. Like if they're not lost, they're not like, well, maybe. No. They just don't want to. No.

And that's the sad part. Like, that's the sad truth because I've had to give that advice to people. And they're like, well, what do I do? If, like, he treats me so well when we're alone, he doesn't take pride in you. He's ashamed of you, to some extent, because he won't claim you. Like, he's not going to claim it's like a weird term, but he will not tell other people that you're with him. Yeah. And don't you want someone that's proud to be with you?

Yes. Because that's what you deserve. So I'm always like if he wanted to, he would. Yes. It sucks because some people are like, well, that's not always the case because, listen, I'm never going to waste my time being with someone I have to convince to want to be with me. Period. No way, dude.

Life is way too short. I had a boyfriend in high school who, well, it was like high school to college. And in college, I knew his high school friends. Yeah. But once we got to college, he wouldn't take me around his college. friends and like we were long distance so like yeah his argument was when i'm when i finally have time with you i just want to spend time with you but in the back of my mind i'm like but you're not introducing me to the people that you talk to me about all the time i don't know them they don't know me

not that they would have added respect for me if i was around them but like at least there would be some familiarity there yeah and also i don't know what bitches you think think that you have a girlfriend or don't know if you have a girlfriend exactly i didn't make my presence no exactly and so i finally told I was like, I feel like you're treating me like a runaway slave. Like, I feel like you're hiding me in the basement. Harriet Tubman is coming to take me along. And you're just fucking, you're like, what is this? In a cottage in the basement.

Yeah. Eating me bread and cheese every three days. Like, you're like, is there like, are you on the run or something? Like, what's going on? Why can't I be seen? Like, why can't we go out together? Yeah. And we never, like, went anywhere.

Yeah. And that got to me because I was just like, I deserve to be with somebody who wants to be able to be seen with me and show other people and introduce me and like yeah because as much as you're talking to me exactly it's about being a part of your life yeah and if this person doesn't want you to be a part of their circle mm-hmm are you really even a part of their life at all like well there's a reason there's a there's always a reason there's always a reason and like you have to be conscious of the fact that this person could be trying to play out a narrative for other people that doesn't have you in it when you're in there's a

confines of your own little home and like your hookup situation. Literally. You're the, you're the main character in this play. Yeah, it's double life, Hannah Montana. Okay. You're like, this is the,

you're living another life. He's, he's putting that wig on and he's going out. Yeah, and he's stepping out. And you're not a part of the story. I know, and you should be. And that's why you,

they should take pride in having you. And that's like what I've told people, like, if he wanted to, he would, because like, sometimes I would post videos about what my boyfriend has done for me. Mm-hmm.

And they're like, man, And like, if you wanted to, he would. And I'm like, it's true, though. Like, you know, when they take pride in your relationship and they're happy to have you, they feel lucky to have you because that's how they should feel because you're a prize. Then they'll treat you as such. And it's always like, whenever I would tell them about what my boyfriend does for me, sometimes they'll be like, what would he do for him?

None of your business, bitch. Like, nothing. Absolutely nothing. I literally treat him like a. I step on him every morning. Yeah. And then he, that's why he loves me. Every morning at 5 a.m.

And I kick him in the face. I'm telling he's a bitch. Yeah. And I make him sleep outside. Like, what do you think? That's why I was like, when you're in a dog cage. When you're in a grown up relationship, you can come back here and then we can talk about it. Because you have no idea what it takes to be in a grownup relationship.

Thank you. Or the ones who when they say, if you wanted to, he would. And then the people who are like, well, maybe he doesn't know how. Okay, well, call me when you do. Let me know. Let me know when you know how. Well, it's like, it's not my job to like wait around for you to figure it out. Let's waste my time, 2K22.

Go to therapy. Yeah. I don't have time for you. No, like, actually, though, so that's why I'm always like, they're like, what should I do? Leave. Leaf. That's what I tell you, leave, leave. Leave.

And if he really wants you, he'll do something about it. And if not, then you have your answer. Either way. Yeah. You come out on top no matter what. But you also have to acknowledge as a woman why you think that you deserve less. Because that could be an even deeper conversation that you need to have internally. You have a staff meeting inside.

There you go. And figure out why you think. why you think that you don't deserve to have it all or why you think that it's not accessible to you to be able to have it all. And I've told people that too, especially about when they're like, why do I always gravitate towards men

who don't want to commit to me, right? They act like an F boy. They leave me hanging all the time and they kind of like call me in in the fourth quarter like they always do. Why do I always attract them like that? And I said, well, you have to ask yourself, why do you think that's what you deserve?

Yeah. You think that's the best you could get? No. Right. That's like you, you think that you don't deserve anything better than that. So you need to raise your standards, raise your bar. Yes. And the way you look at yourself, you need to tell yourself, I deserve the best so I'm not doing this shit anymore.

Yes. Choose you. No one's ever going to love you like you love you, girl. So I always tell them, choose yourself first always. Because then the men that are worth your time and worth their salt will literally step up. And it won't be a chore to like take care of you, to love you, to support you. Yeah. Some of these men swear emotional support is like the heavy.

lift. Like, they're just like to be nice. It's exhausting. It's exhausting being with you. Yeah. To support you to uplift you, to empower you, to be like, I'm proud of you. Yeah. So awesome. Like, man, like words of affirmation is, it's your love language.

Quality time. Mine too. That's one. And acts of service. Like, take something off my plate. Because I will do everything. Yeah. If you give you the chance.

I will do it all. Yeah. But like, do something. Do something. It doesn't have, like, an acts of service is not like, oh, I need you to be serving me on a solar product. Yeah. It's just like.

like little things. Little things. Yeah. Little things. Like making your coffee in the morning and stuff. My boyfriend does that for me. The smallest things, I will be on my knees. Same.

You give me the bare minimum, babe. Yeah. Me and you. That's like I said. You could have a bad bitch like Cammy if you just stopped. And you too have a bad bitch like me. Call the number below. Yeah, call this number. Apply down here.

But it's true. And be weary of the men that try to make you think that you don't deserve those things. Because that's the other thing. It's like the brain. washing that takes place when you start dating guys who are like, oh, well, you need emotional availability. Like, that's too much or you're too much or you think too highly of yourself. No, you're just not the one.

Yeah. So go ahead and get a basic bitch because that's what you qualify. That's on period. Okay. Stop shopping. Do not be shopping at the Bentley dealership. Take your ass on over to Kia. Yeah.

If you got Kia sole money going over there. And that's okay. And that's fine. That's why I see that all the time. I'm like, you deserve the best to hold out for the best. Because if you give these stray cats an inch, they will take a mile. Let me tell you something. And they'll be at your window every night.

No, truly, they'll be scratching every night. Do not feed the strays. I used to call one of my friends, we used to call one of my friends the stray cat girl because she would feed those strays like crazy. I'd be like, this guy literally doesn't wear shoes. Yeah. Ever. His feet aren't black.

Walk through the valley of death. headass. Girl, ditch this guy. She was dating a guy once that broke into her home to go use her shower because he didn't have a home. Girl, no. What? I'm sorry, but no dick is worth that. I'll tell you that much. I swear. She goes, yeah, I was like, all my stuff was moved around and I was like, did you come to my house? He goes, oh yeah, I had to take a shower. Bitch, goodbye. Literally, I'm calling the cops, goodbye. Like, what is wrong with you? And for me, on the flip side of that, for me, I literally we cut this one dude off I was talking to you for a long time because he made up a word in front of me and I just couldn't do it. I was all I can't. That's the Virgo in you. What was the word?

I know. I don't remember and I wish to God I did. He used to say conversated all the time though, which is another made up word. Conversated. I hate that word dude and I don't know it's not real. So that's like it's not real. It wasn't that word though. It was another one and he made it up in front of me in the midst of telling me like how he's like super smart. And I was like interesting. And did you tell him it wasn't a word? I was just like, well I said, well I said, what did you say? And he repeated it to me and I go, that's what I thought you said. Unfortunately, that's exactly what I thought you said. It's funny because now I'm booked for like the rest of 2017.

So like you'll never see me again. Never. But like, you know, peace and love though. Yeah. Have a great life. Good luck to you. I literally told, that's why I told me we used to tell her she feeds strays all the time. She would be like, stop telling me that. And I'm like, that's girl. A man broke into your house to use her shower.

Because he didn't have access to running water in this country. And he admitted it too. Like he was really like, oh, yeah, that was me. he jumped the fence and went in through the back door girl no ma'am i'll tell you that but was it it did good it was apparently evidently because she hooked up with him a few more times now that i was like bitch first of all he literally has fleas that's like cruel oh she was like i know isn't that wild girl it's disgusting you down bad and you need to get get up stand up oh my god some the amount of times i've been like stand up please for the love of god stand up oh my that's why i've i've told you

I've literally talked about it on my last couple episodes where like sometimes girls will be like, why don't you talk about these men, they're so good. I'm like, first of all, that's not what they come to my show to see. No. That's not how I built my platform. But second of all, it's like the most like basic level shit, like men being like, shouldn't hit women. Well, yeah, I mean.

You should support women's rights. Literally. And my friend I say it was like, he's like, oh, this is the one. I'm going to wipe him. Like, bare minimum shit like that. But that's, they're like, you should be. respectful to women. Yeah.

I love you. Yeah. All the comments. Yeah. Where are the ones like this at? Yeah. Yeah. They're like, are you single asking for a friend and I'm the friend? I can't.

You can't give these men too much either because I feel like they know what gets us off. Like they know. They do. They give, listen, as stupid as they are. Yeah. I've said before, like, especially fuck boys, like as dumb as they are, they have like a six sense about vulnerability. Mm-hmm. And like they prey on women's vulnerability.

Like, truly they do. So, like, they, they can sense from a mile away if you really want to be with someone. Yeah. And then they'll just, like, play the whole, they'll play all the roles. They'll be one woman show, act like they're the best person in the world. And then just rip that rug right out from under you. Oh, yeah. They can sniff it out.

At your lowest. They can sniff it out. Yeah, like, as stupid as they are, they can sense that. Yeah. Can't sense other, anything else. Nothing at all. But a vulnerable woman? A woman at her lowest point.

Yeah, they can smell that from a mile away. Got you. Got you, bitch. A bloodhound, truly. I've said to someone's like, how do you know that they're not a B. Boyer, like, how do you know it's like for real? Whatever. Well, everyone's gauge is different.

Yeah. But like for me, I told them like how they react to you when you're not happy. Stress, upset, sad, angry, even if it's not at them. How they deal with you in those moments. Very indicative of what

kind of partner they're going to be. Yes. If they run and hide, they desert you. They like make you feel crazy. They belittle your emotions. Yeah. Or the ones that like, and I've experienced this too, that try to like manage you. Yeah. Like when you're upset and they'll, like, they immediately try to come up with a solution. And I am guilty of this too sometimes because Rising Virgo.

Yeah. And like I like to help my friends. Same. Whenever they're going through something like I want to fix. I want to fix. I'm a fixer. Yeah. Same.

But I feel like in a relationship and you learn this as you date people and like learn what their love languages are and what they're, how they are emotionally. Like you learn that sometimes I don't need you as my man. to fix things for me. Sometimes I just need you to let me vent. Just be there. Just be there. Yeah.

Listen to me. And like, I know that my sisters aren't bitches, but if I'm coming to you and being like, my sister's such a bitch, I can't stand her. She's, I don't need you to come in and be like, she's not a bitch. You love her. No. For right now, she's a bitch. We don't want to circle with me or else.

Get out. No, literally. You're either on my team or you're against her. Also, you're on her side. Oh. So you want to be with her? Yeah. Why don't you just be?

with my sister. Like, I'll give her your number, honestly. You know what I mean? Like, whenever, or like, you're going through a work issue and you're like, I'm just going to quit. I hate everybody, blah, blah, blah. You're not quitting. You're not a quitter. Today I am. Just give me like, so an hour. Just give me, I'll get back to normal. I'm not irrational. Yeah. I'm not crazy. I've said that too. I'm not actually quitting. But like, you know, what are you stupid? What would make you think I would quit? Are you dumb? Are you stupid or something? God. But then, but then imagine there'll be, like maybe you should quit. What? Yeah. And then you're like, what are you talking about? This is the opportunity of a lifetime. This is my job. Switching immediately. This is my career. This is my

question about. You're not, you don't care about my badge. So you want me to work. So you want me to be at home. You just keep switching it. I know. That's why I literally like, that's why I've talked about people, especially if you're upset with them. Yes. They deal with you in those moments. Yes. It's really important. It's indicative of how like, because not and not all men communicate the same. Like obviously, we're obviously speaking in binaries, but like my communicative language is a lot different than my boyfriend. So, like, we had over time learned how to communicate with each other. Yeah.

But, like, in the beginning, he's a very, like, literal person. So if I don't tell him what I'm upset about and why, he'll just assume I'm okay, because I didn't say anything. I think that's a lot of men, too. And then I'm like, that was a test. Yeah. And you failed. It failed.

Flying colors. I can't believe you didn't ask me why I was upset. Even though when you asked me if I was upset, I said, no. I can't believe you didn't ask me three times. I said, I can't believe. leave on the fourth try i was going to tell you and you only asked me three and that's on you that's on me that's literally that's literally me i'm like when you're backs to them and you're like yeah yeah oh yeah are you so are you turn around in the bed look and they're sleeping yeah oh

my biggest it my biggest ick maybe that's why you hate sleeping i think that's why because i've definitely cried while my ex man has been sleep or all of them well you're fighting every time Because you should wake up. Yeah. You should wake up to the sound. I can't believe that this isn't keeping you up all night. Like it's keeping me up all night. Even though I'm tired too.

Sometimes I'll literally be like, I'm tired too. Yeah. And I'm still here. I'm clocked in. I can't believe you're not clocked in. I can't believe you didn't punch your time card like me. I just don't care about this relationship. Okay.

Thank you all. I think that's going to do it for this episode. Thank you so much to my bestie, Cammy Crawford for being the world's hottest and most talented and most busiest person in the world. I love you. I literally adore you. What do you want people to,

know about boys. Or F boys. Honestly, guys, don't do it. Don't do it in the missionary position. Don't do it. Just don't do it.

You know, the reality of the situation is, while, of course, I want to put all of the blame on the F boys, I think that we have to also acknowledge what we're accepting of, what we're not, what we deserve, what we don't.

Like, when you are clear about that, of course, they creep in every once in a while. I've been a victim myself. But when you are clear about what it is that you want at the end of the day, if you just want to sneaky link, yeah. Enjoy. By all means. Don't get emotionally attached though.

And if you can't do that without that, don't even bother. Yeah, don't bother. Don't even bother. No friends with benefits. It's not for everyone. You got to be this tall ride, this ride. Like, you got to, there's requirements. Yeah.

if you're going to go in that route. But like, just know that you deserve the best. Ain't nobody got time for that. Yeah. Life scrubs. Passenger side of his best one's ride. Yeah. He doesn't have a car.

TLC told us so long ago. TLC told us. They warned us. When we were basically in diapers. We should have known. They've been new. He wasn't man enough for me, Tony Braxton. Like, make a playlist and just understand that you deserve better.

Exactly. Exactly. Where can everybody find you, Kemi? Well, you can find me on all socials at Kami Kami Crawford, K-A-M-I-E. The E is important. People like to leave it off. They think it's like, for fun, it's not. It's a suggestion. My name. That's going to be my name.

And then my podcast, relationship airs every Friday. At relationship, dear media. Period. Period. Period. Point blank. Right. And catfish. Oh, my God, I always forget. I'm me plugging yourself.

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