The Daily Stoic - BONUS | Self-Awareness vs. Self-Consciousness: Do You Know the Difference?

Episode Date: January 15, 2026

What’s the difference between self-awareness and self-consciousness? In today’s bonus episode, Ryan shares an excerpt from his conversation with high-performance expert Steve Magness on how to spot the difference. 🎥 Watch Steve Magness’ FULL interview here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rKhlm3aLREI👉 Support the podcast and go deeper into Stoicism by subscribing to The Daily Stoic Premium - unlock ad-free listening, early access, and bonus content: https://dailystoic.supercast.com/🎙️ Follow The Daily Stoic Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dailystoicpodcast✉️ Want Stoic wisdom delivered to your inbox daily? Sign up for the FREE Daily Stoic email at https://dailystoic.com/dailyemail🏛 Get Stoic inspired books, medallions, and prints to remember these lessons at the Daily Stoic Store: https://store.dailystoic.com/📱 Follow us:  Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, TikTok, and FacebookSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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For more, visit dailystoic.com. What do you think the difference between self-awareness is and self-consciousness? Because self-consciousness strikes me as the enemy of almost all kinds of elite performance, creativity,

etc. When you're on your own head of like, how are the, you know, that's the enemy. And yet also like a lack of self-awareness is the downfall of so many people. I think it's a curiosity versus a threat. Okay. So curiosity is self-awareness where you're exploring.

Hmm. You're like, okay, what internally does this feel like? What's the experience like? When it's that self-conscious, it's that threat, where you're sitting there being like, is this feel right? Is this how it's supposed to be? And you can see this.

Again, athletes, if you look at elite athletes, is they're better at reading their internal signals. So, you know, understanding whether a feeling of pain in the muscle is pain that means injury or it just means fatigue or, you know, I'm working harder. They can distinguish that stuff really well. But it gets to that self-conscious versus self-awareness. That can easily translate where you start being like too conscious of it of especially if you started to have per-reveoric. poor performance where you start saying, oh, that signals that I'm about to slow down and I'm not even at halfway, even if it doesn't. You start getting the wrong message because like it's almost

tapped into this threat mode. So it's, it's a very fine line, I think. Well, the irony of self-consciousness is that it's actually not so much about you as it is about what other people think of you. And so if you're like, well, like imposter syndrome is self-consciousness, right? You're not, you're not, you're not, actually thinking so much about am I a fraud? You're thinking, do other people think that I am a fraud? Of course, they're not thinking about you at all. This is just all in your head. But yeah, self-awareness is more an introspective understanding of the self. Why do I do this? What does this mean? What is this like versus self-consciousness, which is like, if I do this, are they going to laugh at me? Is this pretentious? You know, whatever. But it's about how what you're going to

is going to be received or is being received, or you're thinking about what you're doing as you're doing it, like you're in the audience watching you as a spectator instead of being in your body, which was probably more of what self-awareness is trying to do for you. Absolutely. I think that's a perfect way to explain it. And again, tie it back to choking, one of the world's greatest sports psychologist told me he said, essentially, I've got the quote in the book, but I'll butcher it slightly. but he's essentially, the essence is you feel the pressure, cortisol, stress go up,

you get self-conscious, you start overthinking. Yeah. And then it's over. Yeah. And I think it's, it's, what I mean is like that self-consciousness is like, you go from like, oh, I feel a little bit different. And instead of being curious about what that means, you start thinking like, oh, everybody's going to know.

Yes. Everybody's going to know. I don't have it. And I'm going to be embarrassed because I'm supposed to do this, this, and this. And now I'm going to be back here doing this X, Y, and Z. And that causes your brain to start going on like this ruminating catastrophizing cycle. Yeah, we're like, this is a big game. This is so important.

This is my only chance versus the what I have to do here is X. And if you look at it, that translates to your actions because what happens? As an expert performer, you've taken stuff. went that used to be conscious. Yeah. Right? When you learned how to throw a ball, someone probably taught you, you know, you've got to do this. The mechanics.

You know, you've got to do the mechanics. Once you come to an expert, you're not thinking, this is what my elbow does and this is where my release. You've got it ingrained. Yeah. But what research tells us is that once we get that pressure, that expectations, that self-conscious is it's almost like we revert to being a beginner and we start going segment by segment And what happens is that formerly smooth process now doesn't work.

And it's the same in other things. I mean, it's the same in writing. What happens when you try and force yourself, like, to do it? Yeah. It backfires. Hey, it's Ryan. Thank you for listening to the Daily Stoag podcast. I just wanted to say we so appreciate it.

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