The Daily Stoic - Don’t Let It Turn You Upside Down | Suspend Your Opinions

Episode Date: February 3, 2025

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Wondery Plus subscribers can listen to the daily Stoic early and ad free right now. Just join Wondery Plus in the Wondery app or on Apple Podcasts. On January 5th, 2024, an Alaska Airlines door plug tore away mid-flight, leaving a gaping hole in the side of a plane that carried 171 passengers. This heart-stopping incident was just the latest in a string of crises surrounding the aviation manufacturing giant, Boeing. In the past decade, Boeing has been involved in a series of damning scandals and deadly crashes that have chipped away at its once sterling reputation. At the center of it all, the 737 MAX, the latest season of business wars, explores how Boeing, once the gold standard of aviation engineering, descended into a nightmare of safety concerns and public mistrust the decisions denials and devastating

Consequences bringing the Titan to its knees and what if anything can save the company's reputation now Follow business wars on the wondery app or wherever you get your podcasts You can binge business wars the unraveling of Boeing, early and ad free right now on Wondery Plus. Welcome to the Daily Stoic Podcast. Each day we bring you a meditation inspired by the ancient Stoics, illustrated with stories from history, current events, and literature to help you be better at what you do. And at the beginning of the week, we try to do a deeper dive setting a kind

of stoic intention for the week, something to meditate on something to think on something to leave you with to journal about whatever it is you happen to be doing. So let's get into it. Don't let it turn you upside down. There was corruption everywhere. Dishonesty was endemic. Excess and venality were widely accepted. Cato's Rome was a messed up place and so was Marcus Aurelius'. Then, like now, it would have been disorienting and disillusioning.

People who cheated, people who lied, people who did horrible things to get ahead were, well, getting ahead. It was enough to make one question, maybe I'm the one who is thinking and doing this all wrong. David Brooks, writing of our moment, recently talked about the moral inversion of contemporary politics.

Instead of scandals ending someone's career in today's world, it's almost a badge of honor. Lawsuits, convictions, divorces, affairs, sexual harassment, damning on-the-record comments – these things swirl around our public figures who shamelessly shrug them off. Not just in politics, but business and tech and entertainment all have their share of unrepentant cheaters and monsters. Is this what it takes to get ahead these days? We have to remind ourselves as Marcus Aurelius did that no matter what other people do

or what other people get away with, our job is to be good. Our job is to resist this moral inversion, to not fall prey to what psychologists have called the what the hell effect. Like Cato, we might be living in the dregs of Romulus, but we don't have to be bottom feeders. We don't have to be corrupted or degraded by the moment we're living in. Marcus really didn't. He rose above it. He shone through it. And so, must we. Suspend your opinions. And this is from this week's entry in the Daily Steward

Journal, 366 Days of Writing and Reflection on the Art of Living by yours Truly and my co-writer and translator, Stephen Hanselman. I actually do this journal every single day. There's a question in the morning, a question in the afternoon, then there's these sort of weekly meditations. As Epictetus says, every day and night, we keep thoughts like this at hand, write them,

read them aloud and talk to yourself and others about them. You can check out the Daily Stoke Journal anywhere books are sold. You can also get a signed personalized copy from me in the Daily Stoic store at store.dailystoic.com. Epictetus would teach that opinions were the cause of a troubled mind, opinions about the way we think things should be or need to be. One of the Stoic words for opinion is dogma. And the practice of Stoicism begins with a relentless attempt to suspend this dogmatic way of living, a cessation of the belief that you can force your opinions and expectations onto the world.

We have the power to hold no opinion about a thing and not let it upset our state of mind for things have no natural power to shape our judgments. It's Marcus Rielis in Meditations. Today I escaped from the crush of circumstances or or better put, I threw them out, for the crush wasn't from outside me, but in my own assumptions." It's Marcus Rilius in Meditations. There are two things that must be rooted out in human beings, arrogant opinion and mistrust. Arrogant opinion expects that there is nothing further needed, and mistrust assumes under

the torrent of circumstances there can be no happiness. That's Epictetus' discourses. Throw out your conceited opinions for it is impossible for a person to begin to learn that which he thinks he already knows from Epictetus. This idea of having no opinion is, man, it's so powerful. Epictetus also talks about, you know, can you be content to be seen as clueless or stupid about some things? I mean, but I don't think ignorance is admirable, but I do think that we often sort of track in real time a whole bunch of information we don't need.

We have too many thoughts or judgments about other people's personal lives, the things our neighbors are doing. You know, life is better when you have fewer opinions because then it just is. You have fewer expectations, so you're not disappointed. You also don't take things for granted. And so I think for the Stokes is about getting to kind of a Zen-like place where you just see things as they are and you don't need them to be different.

You don't need them to be otherwise. You didn't expect them to be this way or that way. You just went with the flow of it. I think this is obviously what social media is designed to make us not do, right? Facebook says, what's on your mind? What are you thinking about? What's going on in your life?

Twitter says the same thing. Snapchat and Instagram say, take a video of this, share it, let other people know, give your thoughts, react to this. Do you ever feel that much better doing that? Or does it just create new problems for you? Now, did anyone like it? Do people agree? Why is this idiot responding in the comments? Why aren't people

understanding? Why aren't they appreciating? Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. You have the power to have no opinion. That's such a beautiful freeing idea from Marcus Aurelius. And look, he's not saying don't have an opinion about injustice, don't be involved civically. Of course, that's not what the Stokes think. Their whole lives are a testament to the contrary. But I guess they're just saying, it's like, look, if somebody you know is having an affair, that can eat you up inside, it can bother you. Why are they doing this? Why do people do this? Why, you know, be disappointed in your fellow humans? And it's like, it's none of your business, man. It's not up to you. You're not doing it. You know why you're not doing it. Let them do them. They will face the consequences for that.

You don't need to get involved. You got enough to focus on with you. You got enough that's in your control that you're not focusing on. And so going through life in a dogmatic way, trying to project and force your opinions on other people is a miserable way to live. It's also a tyrannical way to live.

And so we've got to practice this sort of I don't want to call it detachment, but it's it's looking inward instead of outward. And I think that creates a happier life that creates a better flowing life. It also gives people the freedom to make their mistakes to learn their own lessons to do their own things. Something you know, I'm learning about with my kids as well as like, look, you do you man, and I'm here if you need me. And, and I think that's a good way to live. And so let's focus on having fewer opinions today.

Let's focus on the things that are up to us. Let's leave the things that are not up to us to the other people, to the makers, to the people they are up to. And I think that'll all help us get along, certainly be happier and certainly have more tranquility. So just have no opinion, move on. I don't have an opinion about your opinion,

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