The Daily Stoic - General Stanley McChrystal on Getting Comfortable with Risk | Set Up Your Hall of Heroes

Episode Date: January 12, 2022

Ryan reads today’s daily meditation and talks to retired United States Army General Stanley Allen McChrystal about how to become comfortable with risk as a leader, the rise and spread of mi...sinformation, the effect that individuals have on humanity, and more.Stanley Allen McChrystal is a retired United States Army general best known for his command of Joint Special Operations Command in the mid-2000s. He established a consultancy firm, McChrystal Group, in 2011 and advises senior executives at multinational corporations on navigating complex change and building stronger teams. His new book Risk: A User's Guide is about an entirely new way to understand risk and master the unknown.Get a hand-sculpted pewter portrait bust of Seneca the Younger in the Daily Stoic Store. Only available for delivery to US-based locations.GiveWell is the best site for figuring out how and where to donate your money to have the greatest impact. Go to Givewell.org to read more about their research or donate to any of their recommended charities. Enter Daily Stoic at checkout so they know we sent you.Shopify has the tools and resources that make it easy for any business to succeed from down the street to around the globe. Go to shopify.com/stoic, all lowercase, for a FREE fourteen-day trial and get full access to Shopify’s entire suite of features. Grow your business with Shopify today - go to shopify.com/stoic right now.Talkspace is an online and mobile therapy company. Make your mental health more than just another New Year’s resolution, with Talkspace. Visit talkspace.com and get $100 off your first month when you use promo code STOIC at sign-up. That’s $100 off at talkspace.com, promo code STOIC.Reframe is a neuroscience based smartphone app that helps users cut-back or quit drinking alcohol. Using evidence-based tools, techniques and content, To learn more go to JOINREFRAMEAPP.COM/stoic and use the code STOIC for 25% off your first month or annual subscription. Download Reframe on the App Store today.Sign up for the Daily Stoic email: https://DailyStoic.com/dailyemailCheck out the Daily Stoic Store for Stoic inspired products, signed books, and more.Follow us: Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, TikTok, FacebookFollow General Stanley McChrystal: Homepage, TwitterSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Starting point is 00:00:00 Hey, prime members, you can listen to the Daily Stoic Podcast early and add free on Amazon Music. Download the app today. Welcome to the Daily Stoic Podcast, where each weekday we bring you a meditation inspired by the ancient Stoics, a short passage of ancient wisdom designed to help you find strength and insight here in everyday life. And on Wednesdays, we talk to some of our fellow students of ancient philosophy, well-known and obscure, fascinating and powerful. With them, we discuss the strategies and habits that have helped them become who they are and also to find peace in wisdom in their actual lives. But first we've got
Starting point is 00:00:46 a quick message from one of our sponsors. Hi I'm David Brown, the host of Wonderree's podcast business wars. And in our new season, Walmart must fight off target, the new discounter that's both savvy and fashion forward. Listen to business wars on Amazon music or wherever you get your podcasts. Set up your hall of heroes. Whatever you think of him, it's hard to deny that Napoleon achieved a historic level of greatness. Born paradoxically into both poverty and nobility on an island called Corsica, he managed by the time he was only 34 years old to be the emperor of territories and client states stretching across most of continental Europe, Asia,
Starting point is 00:01:32 South America, and the Caribbean Sea. He won the battles of Osterlist, Friedland, and Ravoli. He wrote laws and instituted reforms that, in some cases, stand even to this day. How did he do it? What propelled him to achieve this level of glory and touch this kind of greatness, if only for a moment? According to one childhood friend and longtime aide, he rarely saw the first emperor of France not either pouring over books on strategy or planning the construction of statues. Moments pleased his imagination, the man wrote in his memoirs. Tenipolian statues were glory embodied. Bonaparte well knew that the fine arts entailed lasting
Starting point is 00:02:16 glory on great actions and consecrate the memory of princes who protect and encourage them. That's what he said. You can disagree as the Stoic certainly would have with Napoleon's endless ambition and thirst for fame. What you cannot dispute is the power of the motivation that got him there, how he was spurred toward achievement through inspiration and conversation with the dead heroes of history.
Starting point is 00:02:40 Indeed, in 1799, when Napoleon took up residencies in one of his famous royal palaces, his friend tells us of Napoleon's first order of business. He says he selected statues of great men to adorn the gallery. Among the Greeks, he made the choice of Demosthenes and Alexander, thus rendering homage at once to the genius of eloquence and the genius of victory. The statue of Hannibal was intended to recall the memory of Rome's most formidable enemy, and Rome herself was represented in the consular palace by the statues of Cicero, Cipio, Cato, Brutus, and Caesar, the victor
Starting point is 00:03:16 and the immolator being placed side by side. The remembrance of the glorious days of the French Navy was revived by a statue. Mar-Burrow and Prince Eugenie was also had their places in the gallery, as if to attest the disasters which marked the clothes of the Great Rain and Marshall Sage to show that Louis the 15th's reign was not without its glory. The statues of Frederick and Washington were emblematic of false philosophy on a throne and the true wisdom of founding a free state. All of this was intended to bear evidence of the high esteem which Bonaparte cherished from his old comrades, those illustrious victims to the cause which had now ceased to be his.
Starting point is 00:03:57 Marcus said that we should surround ourselves with great people so we could be showered in their virtues. Senaqa said to set as a guard over yourself the authority of some man, someone we regard as beyond the sphere of imitation. Epic teetus' line was that we were constantly brushing soldiers with people covered in dirt. The question was, who's stench and stain did you want to wear? We all need heroes in our lives. You can see how effectively this worked in Napoleon's life and still try
Starting point is 00:04:25 to moderate it by selecting heroes that inspire us to be more just, less vain, less bloodthirsty. We look at a bust of a great leader like Marcus Aurelius on our shelf and remember that he was just a boy who read a lot of philosophy, who ended up changing the world as a result. We can put up a bust of Seneca and use it as a reminder of the tension in that great man. Use him as both an inspiration and a cautionary tale. It's up to you to decide who sits in your hall of heroes. It could be Abraham Lincoln or it could be Florence Nightingale. It could be Harriet Tubman Nelson Mandela Simon Bolivar or Charles de Gaulle. But you have to put them up and create reminders of them in your mind, in your life, in your home. Feel their presence so you can live up to their example.
Starting point is 00:05:12 And look, I have a really old Italian marble statue of Marcus Aurelis that I bought when I was writing the obstacles the way that sits on my desk. Then I also have our daily stoic statues of Seneca and Marcus Aurelis. And I look at them constantly and they remind me who I want to be, they inspire me to be greater. If you're looking for a Marcus Aurelius statue, obviously there's a bunch of them out there. We sell a really cool one in the daily stoke store
Starting point is 00:05:35 that I had commissioned by this great American sculptor who I interviewed on the podcast not too long ago. So you can check that out, just go to store.dailysteel.com. But I do urge you to put up something to celebrate the stillings whoever your heroes are across from my desk. I have a big painting of markets and realies. I like it.
Starting point is 00:05:55 It inspires me. I think it'll have the same effect for you. Check it out. Well, here we are in a new year and still dealing with the same problems that we were dealing with. Not just last year, but every year that humanity has existed with sentience and consciousness. Although I would argue that perhaps animals do this calculation in their own way as well, What I'm talking about is risk, right? Life is fundamentally about management risk.
Starting point is 00:06:31 There is no decision that does not involve trade-offs. There is no going through the world without navigating dangers, literal and figurative risk. That's what we're dealing with. And I think that's what the pandemic has made clear. Not just the risks of risk, that's what we're dealing with. And I think that's what the pandemic has made clear, not just the risks of COVID, which have changed and meandered and surprised us and stunned us and caught us off guard time and time again,
Starting point is 00:06:55 as we're dealing with now in this massive surge. I hope everyone's being safe. And if you're perhaps listening to this recovering from COVID, I wish you a speedy recovery. But I think as we've had to navigate, as we've been barred with the real risk calculation of COVID, here's your chances, here's your chances of your children getting sick, etc. You may have heard stuff like, well,
Starting point is 00:07:20 compare this to car accidents or flying or getting on a bicycle or cancer or heart disease, etc. It's been a reminder, I think, of all the risks that existed that we We pretended not to notice or we lied to ourselves about or we fool ourselves about it And that's why I loved this new book by today's guests general Stanley McChrystal Stanley McChrystal is a retired U.S. Army general best known for his command, the Joint Special Operations Command in the mid-2000s. He's been described as one of the finest warriors and leaders of men in combat ever. His consultancy group, the McChrystal group, which brings lessons from the battlefield
Starting point is 00:08:03 to the boardroom, advises senior executives and multinational corporations on navigating complex change and building stronger TMCs. Also a senior fellow at Yale University's Jackson Institute for Global Affairs where he teaches a class on leadership. His new book, Risk, a User's Guide, is about how we understand risk and master the unknown, how we navigate the uncertainty of life, which was a reality in Marcus Aurelius' time, which is a reality in Seneca's time. Imagine the uncertainty and risks in the existence of epictetus, a slave, and then imagine the navigation of risk, you know, Imagine the navigation of risk, you know, centuries later, for Stockdale and the Hanoi Hilton. Thinking about Epicetus, but also navigating the very real perils in life and death situation that he was in. So I loved this new book. It could not be more timely. I really enjoyed it.
Starting point is 00:08:58 I was looking forward to having this conversation. General McChrystal and I have the same publisher at Penguin Random House at the imprint of Portfolio. I know I've always heard great things about him. They've sent me his books as they've come out. I read his first book, My Share of the Task, which I enjoyed. I read his book, Team of Teams, which I also enjoyed. And it's a great concept because that's really what organizations are. It's not one singular team, but it's a team made up of teams. So he's really a great writer. I tease him about this at the beginning of the episode. He said that this was his last book and I said, I'll believe that when I see it. I think he's a great writer. I think this has been a wonderful second career,
Starting point is 00:09:38 a wonderful contribution that he's made in these books that he's written. But anyways, his book, Risk a Users Guide, was wonderful. I really enjoyed this conversation. You can follow him on Twitter at at stanmecrystal. You can check out the McChrystalGroup.com. I hope you enjoy this interview. I hope you and your family are figuring out a way
Starting point is 00:10:01 to manage this risk. I hope you're being smart. I hope you're being safe. I hope you are, as the Stoic say, being community-minded, thinking, because it's important, right? It's not just how we manage risk. What people say, oh, I have must have a higher risk tolerance than you, but all our risks are interrelated. The risks I run impact my family, the risks that I run that then impact my family, impact the kids at my son's
Starting point is 00:10:28 adventure school. It impacts perhaps the person I'm sitting next to on an airplane or the person who comes into my bookstore, navigating this with my employees at the Painted porch. How do I keep them safe, but also keep them employed, right? This is what risk is really about at the smallest granular level, just as it's a president has to think about geopolitical risks and a general like Stanley McRistle has to think about this as he leads brave men and women into battle. Here is my interview with General Stanley McRistle. Enjoy.
Starting point is 00:11:06 I loved the book. I thought it was fantastic. You are a machine. You're not resting in your retirement. Are you? No, I mean, that's probably I need to counsel myself. But that's the last book. You're not going to do anymore. I promise myself. As you know, you know from your own. It's hard work. I don't believe you.
Starting point is 00:11:27 I think you'll do another one. I don't think so. Well, I thought it's, I thought where we could start is something I was interested in on the book that I just did on courage. Talk to me about the relationship between risk and courage because it strikes me that there's no courage without risk, but just because something is risky doesn't make doing it courageous. I think that's true. So how do you think about risk and courage? Yeah.
Starting point is 00:12:02 I think first about risk as something that can undo you. I mean, it's got consequences. And so, as you know from the book, I consider it this relationship between threats that come and your vulnerability to those threats. When I think about courage, I think about the ability to appreciate the fact that there are potential consequences and yet be able to act anyway. And the reason I think that that is important is you can be cowed into inaction through a lack of courage and you can rationalize your way to inaction or inappropriate action because you fear these consequences. And so I think that if you perceive risks,
Starting point is 00:12:53 particularly when we perceive risks to ourselves, our career, our physical wellbeing and all, you start to shape your behavior sometimes in ways that are not really the outcome you want. Yeah, I kept thinking in the book because obviously, yeah, courage is sort of proceeding despite the risks. But then Aristotle talks about the golden mean.
Starting point is 00:13:18 On the other end of not proceeding because of the risks is proceeding despite the risks. And I felt like in the book, you do a, you talk a lot about, hey, here's someone they were, the risk was there. They just foolishly ignored the risk and then were surprised at the outcome. Yeah, and we tell the story of the Iran Rescue Mission in 1980, the spring of 1980, and it was really good people
Starting point is 00:13:47 given a very difficult problem of trying to rescue 53 Americans from the embassy in downtown Tehran. And so they put together this plan, it's complicated in nature, and then they are called in to breathe the president, and he asked them, what's the probability of success? And they go 85%. And if you go back and dissect this, 10 phases of this operation is really hard to rationalize that it was actually 85% chance of success. And so on the one hand, I don't doubt their courage,
Starting point is 00:14:18 their willingness to go into harm's way, to go downtown and do that. But you can say that they probably put themselves in a position where they reasoned away the actual risk because they wanted it to be a certain way. Sure. I mean, isn't that the 2008 financial crisis that it was risk built on top of risk, built on top of risk that people told themselves was very safe? on top of risk, built on top of risk, that people told themselves was very safe. You know, I think it was,
Starting point is 00:14:49 I do think there was a sense of greed that drove that. I think a lot of people knew that they were building this house of cards and everybody hoped that, well, hopefully it wouldn't fall down until after I've made my money. And that actually turned out to be true for a lot of people. So I think in a case like that, you've also got to look at people's intersection between their
Starting point is 00:15:10 judgment and then their personal incentives or interests where they start to let one override the other. But maybe that goes to the Carter mission, which is when the president of the United States tells you or asks you how risky is this, there's kind of an incentive, there's two incentives. There's a bureaucratic incentive to cover your ass and overstate the risk, right? And then there's also the incentive to tell the person what you think they want to hear, which is that it's a good idea and it's safe. And both of those are obviously the wrong call.
Starting point is 00:15:48 And in that particular case, the third one is they really wanted to go. Yeah. They wanted to go rescue Americans because they were patriots. They believed in their force. And so they very much wanted a yes. And so they said what I think in their heart,
Starting point is 00:16:03 they believed, but in retrospect in the cold light of day, it just didn't hold up to scrutiny. Well, maybe to nerd out a little bit, because I wrote about this in the courage book, I was fascinated with MacArthur's argument to land at Inchan, which I think he said was a 5,000 to one chance.
Starting point is 00:16:21 And there's this scene, I forget who is sort of sent there to inspect the plan. They go, well, it's not impossible. And that was what MacArthur wanted to hear. That they agree, it's like in the movie, Dumb and Dumber, she goes, you're telling me there's a chance, right? He's looking at that at 5,000 to 1 odds, but he has this belief that he can beat the odds. So how do we think about risk?
Starting point is 00:16:50 And then our sense, as you talk about at the end of the book, our sense of agency or our belief in ourselves to, let's say, defy the odds. Yeah, I think it's interesting as a military guy, when you look at Inchan, on the one hand it was very, very audacious. On the other hand, it wasn't stupidly audacious because in reality, he knew that North Korean forces were badly overextended down around the Pusom perimeter. He knew that the North Korean army lacked some of the strength and logistics and command and control and whatnot. And that if the United States could could get a landing at Incheon, where there was a challenge with
Starting point is 00:17:32 tides and other things, but that there was every likelihood that they were going to be in very good position, because it was the United States. We have a little practice at amphibious landings at that point. Yeah. and that's exactly right. So, and a lot of people don't know, but that had been discussed before the war. People, that was not a brand new idea. It's still, if you think about it for General MacArthur to do that move, still took courage because he was basically putting his personal reputation on the line. I can tell a story about courage in combat that really left me stunned. Back in the first
Starting point is 00:18:16 Gulf War, I was part of a special operations task force and we were putting forces into Western Iraq to try to find Iraqi scud missiles. And so we were putting small groups from Delta Force and the British Special Air Service in. And at one point, we put a team in of about 20 people and they made contact with Iraqis and the Iraqis basically drove them to our force to go break contact and try to get away. And they immediately called to my commander and they said, we need to be extracted right now. And the default response is, yes, we'll go in and get him and we'll bring him out so that the Iraqis can't run him down. But my boss, a general Wayne Downing said, are you in contact right now? And they said, no, but we need to get out.
Starting point is 00:19:01 in contact right now. And they said, no, but we need to get out. And he goes, no, I'm leaving you in. And at the moment, I remember thinking, wow, he's not on the ground with him. And yet he is overriding their judgment. And then I thought about it, I put in context, if that organization, that troop had run down and killed or captured, General Downing's
Starting point is 00:19:26 name and American special operations history would have been just be smurched forever because he would have been viewed as this mine or this heartless butcher. But he understood that if our force, our reconnaissance force, got run out, that we were not going to get a chance to go back in. General Schwarzkopf, the overall commander, would improve it. And so he took this, what was it, it wasn't a physical risk.
Starting point is 00:19:53 It was a professional risk that I don't think it was designed to burn his own power or reputation. He just knew to do the mission, we had to accept that risk. And the fact that he I'm sorry I was gonna say and maybe he believed a bit more in their capacity than they believed in themselves I think I think that's right
Starting point is 00:20:14 He did he believed that there was a much greater likelihood that they wouldn't have a big problem and they didn't right And so he was proven correct, but there was that period. And I was, I really noted that because of different kind of courage. Yeah, I remember reading about in Chan, I guess as MacArthur Lance, he throws up. He, he gets on the ground, he throws up like it, it's successful, but the nerves had been, you know, it was such a, it's like you put your life savings and you throw the dice, it works out. You're still, you're still all motted up about it. But I think what's so interesting about that is, the person who develops a reputation as a risk taker
Starting point is 00:20:52 or a defier of the odds, it's not many months later that he almost starts the World War III with that same penchant for pushing the envelope and defying the more conservative, extrapolations about where something would go. Well, that's right. I mean, as he started the exploitation all the way to the Allure River, he split the force.
Starting point is 00:21:17 He left them more vulnerable than a more conservative commander might have done. So you're right. There becomes this overconfidence like you're rolling the dice and you're doing really well. So you think the next role is going to come up your way. So I'm fascinated with the example that you just talked about where the commander is the reputational risk and then of course down the line is the physical risk to reference another funny movie quote. In the movie Shrek, Lord Farquhar says, some of you will die, but that is a risk I'm willing to take.
Starting point is 00:21:49 Right? So how in your profession, or now as we're seeing in politics, we're having to balance risks, but the consequences of that decision are felt much further down the chain and they're real. So how do we, I think it's one thing to calculate your own personal tolerance for risk, but in a position of leadership, how does one think about risk? Here a startup founder, but if you've already made enough money that
Starting point is 00:22:18 you never have to think about money again, you have a different understanding of risk than say your employees who have, I don't know, this is their first go around. So how do you think about those differences of risk tolerance? Yeah, I think there are a couple things. One, as a leader when you send forces in to come combat, and you are not with the most of the time, by the time you get seen, you're just not appropriate, you understand that you are putting them in harm's way and you understand that not only you're putting them in harm's way, you're not able to be there to watch it or affect it or even share that danger with them.
Starting point is 00:22:54 At the same time, it's your responsibility to do that. And you've got to come to grips with the fact that the risk to you is more reputational or maybe to the larger mission, but you have got to get yourself to the point where you understand you have got to do certain things even though it's uncomfortable to do. And if leaders can't do that, then they're not appropriate for that kind of responsibility. Is this thing all? Check one, two, one, two. Hey, y'all. I'm Kiki Palmer. they're not appropriate for that kind of responsibility. But if you ask me, I'm just getting started. And there's so much I still want to do. So I decided I want to be a podcast host. I'm proud to introduce you to the Baby Mrs. Kiki Palmer podcast.
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Starting point is 00:24:17 you can listen early and app-free on Amazon Music. Download the Amazon Music app today. Does that require a kind of callousness? You have to harden your heart a little bit. You talk about Kennedy and the missile crisis in the book. I think about, you know, he's looking on the one hand, a potential nuclear annihilation, which requires him to say turn, not turn a blind eye,
Starting point is 00:24:42 but accept, you know, a YouTube pilot getting shot down, right? Like that he's having to make these trade-offs, but if he feels any one of them to emotionally or empathetically, does it prevent him from making a rational risk calculation? Like, how do you get to a place as a leader where you can be comfortable with that? I think you've got to really understand what the mission you're trying to accomplish is and what the likely costs are. There's the famous story of Ulysses Grant
Starting point is 00:25:18 commanding the Union forces during the Civil War. And he wouldn't visit hospitals. And he wouldn't visit hospitals because he felt that the upsetting nature of what he saw would make him unwilling to make the difficult decisions to put more soldiers in harm's way. And yet he had calculated that the only way to win was to slug their way through and accept the cost. I never thought about that. Yeah, it's a level of calculation that a leader who is putting people in that kind of position has to reach if they're going to be effective. Yeah, because doesn't Ulysses S. Grant essentially go like, look, we have more manpower, more resources. We control
Starting point is 00:26:06 most of the territory that's required here. It's just, he saw it almost as a math equation. So really the courage for him was, can he not blink once he's committed to the strategy? can he not blink once he's committed to the strategy? And he understood that the North was tiring of the war by 1864 and the great risk to the North was a lack of popular support would maybe cost President Lincoln's re-election, in which case the opposition candidate was likely to sue for peace. And so he understood that you had to lower your head and you had to just batter the Southern Army under Robert E. Lee in the submission as quickly as you could. Yeah. He couldn't finish it before the election, but he made enough progress where the American
Starting point is 00:26:55 or the population of the North was accepting of the situation. No, that's interesting because it brings up another another question with Grant and Risk Tolerance. So Grant is not incredibly popular with the troops for that reason, contrasting that with McClellan who among other things, the more charitable interpretation of McClellan is that he had a low risk tolerance. One argument of course is that he wanted to preserve slavery, but course, is that he wanted to preserve slavery. But the other is that he loved the troops so much that he didn't want to risk any of them.
Starting point is 00:27:32 But the irony is that ends up prolonging the war and is probably a greater evil than, as you said, putting your head down and slugging it out. I think that's true. I think George McLeod and probably love the troops, but he also loved not losing. And of course, there's the famous soldier, our story of Lissie's grant in May, 1964, when they fought in the wilderness, and they've had a brutal fight,
Starting point is 00:27:57 and he's moving the army, and they come to a fork in the road, and they don't fork north, which they've always done before to go refit the head south and the army cheers and you think why are you cheering because you're going in a harm's way and they're cheering because they're going to get it over with. Yeah, there's a great book, Grant Moose South by Bruce Catton with that scene and it gives you goosebumps when you read it. It's incredible.
Starting point is 00:28:25 Absolutely. If you think of the level of casualties that the army of the Potomac was suffering at that point, but they understood you have to finish the war. Yeah, and you're right. It's almost by protecting them that you are doing them in injustice by making it potentially all in vain.
Starting point is 00:28:50 Well, this also brings up something that we talk about with military training or even child-wared. In military training, there's always this tension of how realistic or difficult you make the training. When I was a young commander, if you trained hard in the summer in training. When I was a young commander, if you trained hard in the summer in the south where I was stationed, there was a potential for heat injuries. So there was always this idea that you don't push the men too hard because you
Starting point is 00:29:15 might have heat injuries and that was bad for an officer's career. And yet, they need to develop the stamina and the ability to operate that way the same way with live fire operations and So a lot of commanders would pull their punches. They wouldn't do very difficult somewhat dangerous training because they just didn't want to accept the potential of hurting their own careers Sure in the process and yet the greater risk is an unprepared military Yeah, and you brought up child rearing. It's what we call those a snow plow parents today in the process. And yet the greater risk is an unprepared military. Yeah, and you brought up child rearing. It's what we call those snow plow parents today.
Starting point is 00:29:49 They plow the path in front of their children, so they never have to experience any difficulty. And the irony of that is that it makes pretty undifficult things much harder down the road. Right, I mean, I've got three granddaughters and they live next door to me. And they got to get scuffed up. I mean, that's, you know, that's going to be life. Yeah, I was reading a story about Fred Rogers, Mr. Rogers, and that his grandfather let him climb on this wall. Like, he was a sort of a very fragile soft kid. And his grandfather let him climb on this wall
Starting point is 00:30:29 that he could hurt himself on, but that it was actually very empowering for Fred Rogers because he had been so sort of coddled and protected it. It gave him a sense of, and I think that goes, again, the point at the end of the book, which is if you don't believe you have agency, if you don't believe you can do something, that is an effective truth because you won't be able to do anything. That's exactly right.
Starting point is 00:30:55 So one of the, one of the stories I loved in the book and I read a bunch about it too, there's a fascinating book called The Reason Why about the charge of the Lypergade, which I'm sure you've read. But what I found so fascinating about the charge of the Lypergade is that the men were willing to rush into sudden death, more than they were willing to question
Starting point is 00:31:20 why they were being sent to rush into sudden death. So where does this sort of, maybe this is that spectrum of fear versus fearlessness, where do we step in and go like, hey, guys, this is crazy. I shouldn't be like, what are you, I'm not gonna do that. How does that tension come in?
Starting point is 00:31:41 Well, it's been in this ourselves. I'll start with a family thing. My wife and I have been married for 45 years. And if a meteor was falling down, it was about to hit her on the head, and I turned and said, move. She wouldn't move. She turned to me and said, why do you want me to move? And it drives me crazy.
Starting point is 00:31:58 Because my time in the army, I wanted to move, and then maybe ask me. Sure. But she's just not one of those troops. If you think of the charge of the light brigade, we had a situation where in the ranks, down in the cavalrymen, we had bred into them the idea that you would follow instructions. You would follow orders because there was some time or ability to explain everything to people. And you didn't want everybody looking at the commander and saying, now, why do you want us to do that? So where it broke down was at the more senior levels,
Starting point is 00:32:30 where commanders are communicating instructions in intent, they should have asked questions. That's in their level of responsibility. They are supposed to say, now wait a minute, that doesn't make sense. Why would you tell us to do that? Clarify that. And so, as you say, I wouldn't want every member of the Light Brigade to have turned around and say, no, explain this to me, but I wouldn't want the commanders to do that. Yeah, right. That makes sense. And that brought up another thing which I loved in the book and I've thought about. So it's obviously the courage of the light brigade is immense and that's where the poem comes from. But there is something kind of empty about it
Starting point is 00:33:12 in that it was pointless and then who even remembers what the Crimean War was about, right? So even at the most senior level, no one should have been there to begin with, right? And so the courage to, sorry, when one is facing risk, but it's to not any real purpose, is there something hollow about that?
Starting point is 00:33:37 And I liked your sort of reckoning with Robert E. Lee. I had a biographer, a biographer of Robert E. Lee on recently. And it was sort of like sure Robert E Leon was courageous ultimately, but there were so many moments when he got himself into the mess through a lack of courage, right, like through a lack of questioning or through a failure to do the harder thing. And so how do you think about that? Well, if I think about members of al Qaeda, particularly al Qaeda in Iraq, which we faced, and they would do these extraordinary things in terms of courage and operations and to
Starting point is 00:34:16 include suicide bombings and whatnot. But they, but I fundamentally disagreed with the rationale they were using. And I could make an argument. In some cases,ed with the rationale they were using. And I could make an argument. In some cases, they lack the courage to do otherwise. They lack the courage to question the instructions or the level of extremism that was being communicated to them. Now, someone could turn the lens back and they could say, you, military, US military are the same way, you're sent by the nation. And so you, without questioning, you go to Iraq, you go to Afghanistan, you go to any war we have.
Starting point is 00:34:52 And so you are also guilty of maybe not being discerning and deciding where your courage is best spent. But how many times do we see opponents in a war both sides showing extraordinary amounts of physical courage to almost no value? I'm just reading a book on Gallipoli, the campaign. And of course, you have this ill-fated campaign that wasn't going to work from the beginning and yet it's this bloodletting for 10 months that has no, at the end of the day, no value. There's a, there's a Lord Byron poem he says, "'Tis the cause makes all that halos or degrades courage in its fall.'" Do you agree with that or do you feel like courage or the navigation of risk is inherently admirable by itself? Well, I think it is. I think it is inherently admirable. We had a case of
Starting point is 00:35:56 a soldier was killed by friendly fire in Afghanistan early in the war. And he was maneuvering to do something that he thought needed to be done. And it was a courageous effort. And he was maneuvering to do something that he thought needed to be done. And it was a courageous effort. And he was hit by friendly fire. And to me, that in no way takes away from the courage of what he decided to do, or it was executed. The fact that he was killed by friendly fire. And he misunderstood the situation.
Starting point is 00:36:22 He had a bad read of the situation. Doesn't take away from the decision he made because the context in which he made it was pure. And so I don't think we should, I think we should still be willing to respect the courage people show, even if they are operating in a bad context or just wrong. Yeah, I guess there's probably a sort of a general window
Starting point is 00:36:48 in which we can accept it and then there's extremes that once you go past, it stops making sense. Whether it's a kamikaze pilot for Japan, or yeah, you're looking at, sure, a lot of these Confederate generals were very brave, but the cause to which they were committed was objectively treason. And so that's an interesting tension, I feel like. of these Confederate generals were very brave, but the cause to which they were committed was objectively treason.
Starting point is 00:37:06 And so that's an interesting tension, I feel like. Yeah, but what I'd want us to do is to parse those, because on the one hand, you've got to recognize that there is physical courage, and sometimes there's also other values, there's loyalty to others, there's commitment, there's all of those things that someone in a bad cause can show that are very, very admirable.
Starting point is 00:37:33 Sometimes you're in a bad cause and you don't realize you're in a bad cause. Right. You know, we, the United States has fought some wars. We're arguably, we were not the next- We were the fact guys. Yeah, we were not the good guys. Right. And yet, we've got to admit that if the country asked people to go and they go do it with the best of their ability and conduct
Starting point is 00:37:54 themselves personally, honorably, then that I'm I think we have to parse those things apart. Well, no, that that connects to something we talk a lot about in the book, the idea of narrative, but also the idea of the information one gets, right? So yeah, how many of the people let's say that fought for the Confederacy? Let's say there's a certain amount of moral guilt, just for obviously not questioning
Starting point is 00:38:21 the institution of slavery itself, but also had grown up in an environment that had fundamentally misinformed and misled them. And obviously this is even more true and Nazi Germany or Imperial Japan. How does one know, how can one be held responsible when they have are themselves a victim
Starting point is 00:38:48 or have had the wool pulled over their eyes? Which you talk a lot about COVID in the book, I'm fascinated with that where how many of the people have become sort of partisan ponds or just been fundamentally misled by information on the internet, or bad actors, or maybe even sort of foreign interference in some cases. I think this really gets to one of the most dangerous things in society, and that is disinformation.
Starting point is 00:39:17 Yes. No, it's not new. It's been around for a long time, but what it should remind us is we are all vulnerable to it. If you and I lived in Nazi Germany, we, someone would say, would you have been a Nazi? We go, oh, no, of course not. Well, statistically, we would have been. Yes. If we were born in the South before the Civil War, statistically, we would have worn gray. And I think it's fair to admit that we as people and as populations are incredibly malleable.
Starting point is 00:39:47 We are vulnerable to leadership. And I use the term vulnerable very carefully, because it means that bad leaders can take us in a bad direction, just as good leader can take us in a good direction. And we're not that good at deciding which is which. And that doesn't make us evil. It just makes us vulnerable.
Starting point is 00:40:10 No, it's sort of the elephant in the room when you're sort of making a risk calculation because as you talk about so much in the book, you're like, you know, what about this? What are the facts? What are your vulnerabilities? What do you, how can one do do that if reality itself is suspect? And I think for a lot of people are making rational decisions based on irrational information or just simply
Starting point is 00:40:35 incorrect information. And that's almost to when you start to think about it, it's like too much to deal with. You start to get in cases where armies are also told that their foes are not as good as they are. And therefore, they crank up the courage. If we just show more a lot than the enemy, we will win because they will run away or they will not be effective against us. Now, how many times have we seen armies badly shocked and tremendous loss of life because there's a miscalculation of the risk through misinformation? Yes. So how does one cultivate the ability to pierce through misinformation? That strikes me as the oppressing issue of our time. It's almost like a significant percentage of the population
Starting point is 00:41:27 has like had their brains scrambled. And I don't know how you unscramble that. My feeling is that particularly social media, but all digital media now are much more powerful than we are prepared to deal with. The analogy I would use in 20 years, we're gonna look at this like tobacco. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:41:48 We're gonna say that in the 1940s, it started to become apparent that tobacco caused huge health risk to include cancer. And yet for decades, we went to this period of denial because it was profitable, it was pleasurable, and all of these things. I think we're going to find that social media is that kryptonite that is so powerful and
Starting point is 00:42:10 so dangerous, but it's also addictive. Yeah. And that we are going to have to come to grips with what we do about it. Now part could come from the maturation of the population that says, we're going to become more discerning, more of a bubble. But there's no historical precedent for that. It's more likely we're gonna have to figure out ways to square controlling that with First Amendment rights.
Starting point is 00:42:38 Yeah, I think that's right. And understanding that the digital divide, and understanding that the digital divide, let's say, is no longer access to the information technology versus lack of access. It's fluency or ability to process large amounts of information or misinformation and the inability to do that. And it's like some people have the training and the skills and they've been able to successfully manage, some of the rise of populism and then some of the misinformation regarding the pandemic. And then I think we all know and love people who have struggled to do that because they just don't have the toolkit.
Starting point is 00:43:19 It's like they're being asked to swim and they don't know how to swim. Or they don't have the time. If you think of someone who's in a hard job and they don't know how to swim. Or they don't have the time. If you think of someone who's in a hard job and they don't have time to do stuff, they can only, they can't go home and spend a lot of time reading long-form journalism or watching NPR. Yeah. Instead, they get snippets on their cell phone and that's all they get.
Starting point is 00:43:40 Yes. No, and I think it is hard to have sympathy whether we're talking about a Confederate soldier or a spreader of conspiracy theories, but that person is although they may be perpetrating or propagating misinformation or pursuing a back-house, they are themselves a victim of that as well. Well, which is bringing up something that I've been thinking about in Visa, Courage and Judgment. And that is, if you have someone that you know well and you think they are misinformed and wrong, they have just reached a set of incorrect conclusions. And as we approach the Christmas holidays, do you go home and look them in the eye and say, no, you are dead wrong.
Starting point is 00:44:24 And you might be stupid, but I know you're wrong. Is that, is telling them that courageous or bad judgment? Yeah, it requires an immense amount of restraint and patience because it almost certainly won't convince them to tell them they're an idiot if they are, in fact, being an idiot. But how does one convince someone that that's the whole tricky problem? Yeah, it's up. And they actually say
Starting point is 00:44:55 data wise, if you try to disprove somebody's beliefs that it strengthens them. Yes, yeah, the backfire effect. Right, exactly. But when we talk about risks, I think COVID has brought this up in an interesting way. It brings up a whole lot of philosophical questions, especially for the Stoics. And the Stoics talk about this idea that we're all connected, we're all in service of a common good, what's bad for the hive, is bad for the bee, and so on,
Starting point is 00:45:23 and so forth. But there is kind of this belief and maybe it's, I think, part of it's sort of a machismo culture, part of it is maybe a misunderstanding of risk, or it's a, the idea that one's personal risk tolerance is separable from the consequences of that risk. So like, let's say you don't give a crap about COVID and you're young and healthy, I'll think a lot of people go, well, why should I get a vaccine?
Starting point is 00:45:53 Why should I wear a mask? Why should I even think about this at all? And if you were the only person in the world that existed, that would make sense. But it seems like people are struggling to understand how the decisions they make voluntarily have implications for people, other people's risk levels that they then have no control over. So how do you think about the interrelatedness of risks? Yeah, I think we are
Starting point is 00:46:20 in a period of intense selfishnessness and we rationalize the risks. If you think back to one of my favorite poems, the old Horatius at the bridge and he goes out and you know, defends the bridge and the willingness of people to accept risk for themselves and maybe sacrifice their own well-being for the greater good is something we've always admired and we've always put up on pedestals and now we're in a period where at its most basic level
Starting point is 00:46:52 we have a group of people who are unwilling to do that and they rationalize, well, it's not good for me. Well, the soldier who throws himself on a hand grenade, that's not good for him. But it is something that they feel they have to do to protect their comrades. And so I think that we are seeing in this particular case a manifestation of self-interest over the idea of responsibility. But it's odd how compartmentalized it is, right? Like, I'm sure you know and I've certainly read about and I have some friends who are special forces operators or soldiers who have served
Starting point is 00:47:32 selflessly, tirelessly, courageously, who would throw themselves on a grenade and perhaps have thrown themselves on the equivalent of a grenade. And then the president says, hey, you got to get a life-saving vaccine that'll reduce the spread of a grenade. And then the president says, hey, you gotta get a life-saving vaccine that'll reduce the spread of a virulent virus that's killed a half a million or 750,000 Americans. And they go, I'm out, I won't comply. So where does that compartmentalization of selfishness come from?
Starting point is 00:48:03 Yeah, it's a great question. I think that we made it worse with a weak narrative at the beginning of this effort because in my mind, the analogy should have been one of war. The world against this faceless enemy COVID-19, and we're gonna have to do whatever it takes to win, and everybody's gonna pull their part. We didn't do that.
Starting point is 00:48:22 We didn't create that narrative. But then you're right. How do you compartmentalize a way that says, I don't have to pull guard duty in my foxhole because I don't want to. And yet that's the equivalent of being a vaccine, leaving a hole in the defense. And this is a little bit, in my view, this misplace idea of I have my personal freedoms. little bit, in my view, this misplace idea of, I have my personal freedoms. And therefore, I get to decide everything about what's best for me, independent of its effect on anyone else. Yes, Stephen Pressfield, at the beginning of the pandemic, even before there were vaccines,
Starting point is 00:48:58 was talking about it, analogizing it to the Spartan failings. The, everyone has to have their shields and that the greatest sin you could commit is not dropping your weapon, but dropping the shield. And it's been, yeah, it's been very disillusioning to watch people question why they should have to carry a shield. And not just question it, but actively try to convince other people not to carry theirs either. It's pretty remarkable.
Starting point is 00:49:31 Yeah, I don't think it's a display of courage. I don't think that when people stand up and resist the request that that's personal courage, I think it is personal selfishness personally. Yeah, it's strange, but I think it is personal selfishness personally. Yeah, it's it's it's strange, but I think you're right. Narrative plays a big part of it because if you had presented the exact same risk calculation to that person, but it had been something less politicized, they would probably or or or regularly do accept that all the time, from following speed limits to not drinking and driving. We have to think about the consequences of our,
Starting point is 00:50:17 like your freedom stops at somebody else's nose. So when you endangering yourself, that's fine, but the second you increase even 1% the danger on someone else, that's where it ceases to be acceptable. Yeah. And I think part of stoicism is understanding where you fit in society, where you fit in the world, and not taking more than your share,
Starting point is 00:50:44 and doing your part? Yeah, no, and that selfishness you could also argue is why we're struggling with things from climate change to income and equal. All of these issues require one to sit down and go, what do I need, what am I doing? And then how is that affecting other people and how do we come together collectively to solve problems? And that almost always requires some bit of personal sacrifice. If we all come together in a large group, it's a small amount of sacrifice. Unfortunately, we see with our sort of warrior culture, these days that almost no one, including me, has to sacrifice and then a very small percentage of the population
Starting point is 00:51:25 has to sacrifice everything. But at the end of the day, everyone has to put something into the pot. And if you don't do that, you're a free rider or a worse. That's right. One of my favorite parts of the book you were talking about this, because it's something, as a parent, I've experienced a bit with my parents,
Starting point is 00:51:42 but you hear it all the time. People will say things like, well, when I was a parent, we, you know, kids didn't have to wear seat belts. So, you know, like, this sort of, there's also this, and it strikes me as a misunderstanding of risk, just because you played Russian roulette a bunch of times and didn't die.
Starting point is 00:52:00 Doesn't mean it's something you should keep doing in the future, right? But we, I think sometimes there's a cognitive dissonance where if we take a risk, we don't get punished. We don't want to think about changing our behavior now because it retroactively criticizes our past behavior. That makes sense. It does. I think that we've gone a little overboard in some cases where we want to reduce risk, particularly with children. Obviously things like car seats make great sense, but there are other things where we look at people, a scance, if they don't have their kid and
Starting point is 00:52:39 body armor in a tank or any number of ridiculous things, because they've got to get out there and they've got to get experiences. And so, how you hit that balance point and part of it is public shaming, if you are too far off the line than what some people think is right, which I think is, I mean, there's some value in it. It does remind some people, hey, you got to be a better parent, but it can go overboard. Yeah, I was talking to a reporter about this with, as I have two young children, my old is just turned five. I speak about narratives like with vaccines, we told everyone, hey, there's no risk sending your kid to school, right? We try to convince parents to send their kids back to school.
Starting point is 00:53:27 There's no risk. Kids don't get COVID, you're fine. And then we're wondering why parents are reluctant to go get their kids vaccinated. Because now they would have to go, well, wait, if my kid is fine, they don't need the vaccine. But then if my kid actually hasn't been fined this whole time, then what have I been doing sending them to school?
Starting point is 00:53:49 And so it strikes me that what actually the thing you have to sit with is that there is no decision in the world without risk, and that we have to be comfortable with the fact that there are some amounts of risk across the board, but the problem is we try to swing to one extreme or the other instead of sitting with the somewhat uncomfortable day-to-day risks of life. Yeah, I think back to the stories of the 1950s, I was too young to remember, but parents were terrified of polio because of the specter of the iron lung, the numbers were actually pretty limited. But the idea, because it was so clearly depicted, and it was so horrific in its depiction, that people were obviously very, very interested in getting vaccinated.
Starting point is 00:54:39 Well, as we start to wrap up, there's a couple of stillic mentions in the book that you have the epictetus quote at the end, and you talk about Marcus, the realist at the beginning. I'm just curious about your familiarity with the philosophy and how it's part of your toolkit. Yeah, I mean, the idea, I do some reading, much more reading about philosophy than a reading of philosophy than I ever did when I was younger. I had this cursory knowledge of the names and my mother would give me books and so I got bits and pieces. But after you've lived a good part of your life, you start
Starting point is 00:55:13 to figure out, well, who am I? And sometimes it's a little bit in the review mirror because you look at your past behaviors and then you look at your current and future behaviors and you say, well, why do I do? Why do I do things the way I do it? You know, why do I fold my underwear in my drawer? Why do I, which I do? And because West Point told me I shouldn't, you know, nobody's told me differently. You know, I eat one meal a day. I do certain things that people will look at me and go, well, that's crazy. Well, I have certain attributes that I try to figure out, what am I embodying? To agree, stoicism is attractive to me
Starting point is 00:55:54 because there's a discipline to it. There's an idea that if I am willing to deny myself certain things, that I can either achieve or obtain other things. But most importantly, I can have a self-image that I am comfortable with. And I think most of us don't think enough about what our real self-image is. How do we want to think of ourselves? How do we want a
Starting point is 00:56:26 respect or not respect ourselves? And so when I look at he picked it as another writers and how they lived and the questions they asked, to me it gets to the heart of why are we here? What are we supposed to do? Marcus Aurelius really questions are motives. I remember the part where he goes, why do you do something good? Well, you want your legacy to be good. Well, guess what? Pretty soon the people who follow you are going to die also and your legacy is going to be gone. Right. So now, so now why do you do something good? And he says you should do it simply because it is the right thing to do. No, I love that because of course, a philosopher at Harvard could come to that same conclusion, right? Just sort of thinking about, well, you know, are you going to be a round to experience
Starting point is 00:57:19 your legacy? No, so your legacy doesn't really matter. What matters is that you do the right thing for the right reasons or whatever. But there is some extra weight knowing that like the highest guy in the biggest empire of all time, who, so you know what I mean, he actually experienced. It's like a normal person goes, oh, it would not be any fun to be a celebrity. It doesn't matter, right? But it? But that could just be sour grapes, right? But if you've actually gotten there and wrestled with it at that level, when you're appear to Alexander the Great or Julius Caesar or something, there is an extra significance to it,
Starting point is 00:57:57 I feel like. Yeah, I think there is. And of course, we always question through the sweep of history, is it real? Yeah. The accounts we read, Did they do that? Or did they sort of have another persona that they didn't do? And then we question even celebrities we read about now. They write their books and they say, I do this and I don't do this. Then you find out later that's different from reality. I think it's it all has to come back to. How do we want to self define ourselves? Because you have that opportunity. There are a lot of things you can't control in life,
Starting point is 00:58:31 but there are certain things about yourself and your being and how you react. You have control over. You have agency. Sure. Yeah, that's fascinating. And yet, even powerful people are still struggling with the exact same things.
Starting point is 00:58:47 What's in my control? What's not in my control? What are my motivations? Who am I as a person? How do I deal with criticism that even as you go up? I love, yeah, you listies, that's grants memoirs. You realize that it doesn't matter what situation you find yourself in.
Starting point is 00:59:05 It's still just people struggling with the same existential issues. That's right. And I think we don't talk about it enough. I think we talk in one superficial level, we talk about it at a deeper level, at a philosophy level. I don't think we do. Yeah. And I think we'd be better,
Starting point is 00:59:29 better served, have those conversations. Well, that's what I love about meditation, specifically. I think obviously there's a few diaries, of course, many, many diaries have survived over the years, but it may be the only major work of philosophy or sort of self-reflection your work of philosophy or sort of self-reflection that was never intended for an audience, right? Even you're in my books, like even when we're being personal or vulnerable, you're still thinking like, what will the audience think? It's got to go through an editor. Well, it's cell. Is this marketable? There's so many sort of constraints on you, where else do you get an inside look at the brain of a
Starting point is 01:00:08 person like that? It's pretty remarkable. Yeah, I'll tell you this, but I'll throw my idea about presidential debates. Yeah, because I think it would be great to have a presidential debate with one candidate of course is often a soundproof booth so they don't get to hear what the other says. And then you ask some questions about philosophy, how that person processes those kinds of ideas and questions. And to hear a potential candidate, take on some really big philosophical questions.
Starting point is 01:00:39 To me would be really important, because some people would stand there silent, they'd be just lost. Yeah. Other people would I think would give us a good window. Yeah, although when Stockdale got up there and said, who am I? Why am I here in the philosophical question? People thought he was a senile old man. So it may be, it may be us, the voters who are the problem. Yeah, that's fair point. Yeah, that was, of course, I was an ill-fated run of his.
Starting point is 01:01:10 But still, I think if a person can't be, and they don't have to name drop, they don't have to say I've read all these different jobs. Right. Philosophers, but they have to be able to ask certain questions. Why is it you do what you do? Right. No, we want the president for some reason to recite a bunch of facts and figures that an aide prepared for them two minutes earlier. And what we're not, what we should be trying to get
Starting point is 01:01:35 from them, as you're saying, is, yeah, how do you process risk? How do you have empathy? How do you question the information? How do you process and think how does your brain work, what's your character? Because ultimately, everything else is downstream from those two things. Yeah, and one of the way I would do it
Starting point is 01:01:54 is I wouldn't let them give glib answers. I would give them a whiteboard and I'd say in the next 15 minutes, describe your character. And if they can only speak for 30 seconds and there's 14 minutes to silence. You can't stand there. It'll be awkward. I love that.
Starting point is 01:02:10 I love that. Well, like when you interview someone, like for the Macrystal group or when you were in the forces, how did you try to discern what those things were in people? It was, it is still difficult because many people learn how to do interviews and they give you sort of clever responses or they give you falsely candid responses because they just figured out how to do that. I like the idea or my experiences, I have to have interaction with a person a bit
Starting point is 01:02:46 over time. And that means I am very humble about my effectiveness and an interview to really assess that person. Some people are better than I. Right. I do ask some questions like, you know, what are people who don't like you say about you? There are things like that that raise some interesting questions about self-awareness, things like that. No, you're right. There's a certain amount of ego involved in assuming that you can get to the core of someone's character in a 45-minute, performative job interview. Right.
Starting point is 01:03:21 So last question, and we sort of touched on it earlier, but as you you talk about in the book, your decision and you wrote great piece, an excerpt, I think, that was in the Atlantic that I remember reading, but you you you take down your picture of Robert E. Lee from the wall and you you throw it away. Who who have you replaced him with as far as a personal hero or who who are some personal heroes that you think about either in regards to how they manage and deal with risk or just how they live their lives. Yeah, it's a great question because that was a big moment for me to do that. And I live right near Robert E. Lee's boyhood home.
Starting point is 01:03:59 It's for sale right now. I talked to my wife about buying it and she scotched the idea. But I go to probably some of the ones. We teach Abraham Lincoln in my course at Yale. I just finished reading Carl Sandberg's 1926 biography. I've only read the first two books of it, the Prairie Years, up to the Civil War. But it is so different from the other depictions of Abraham Lincoln. I mean, it's so much more human. And of course, Sandberg writes as a poet, you know, can write in ways that I wish I could. So it's people like Abraham Lincoln. And it's
Starting point is 01:04:38 it's partly who he really was, but it's also the idea we've created around him. Sure. And you know, George Washington, of course, I admire deeply, but he's also the idea we've created around him. Sure. And, you know, George Washington, of course, I admire deeply, but he was a slave owner. I mean, he had some pretty big flaws. Yes. But in those flaws, he also accomplished an awful lot. So I think it was Frederick Douglass who said, you've got to be able to take a person
Starting point is 01:05:02 and take the good and discard or ignore the bad not just Assign someone because of a flaw to the ashyp So so those are the kinds of people, but you know, I'm not a hero worshipper in the sense that Particularly when I read about people they all become human. Yeah. And so there's almost nobody I can put up on a pedestal instead that in a good way that makes some more approachable because it makes me say, I could be a lot more like Ulysses S. Ulysses Grant was because he was human. He had a lot of flaws.
Starting point is 01:05:41 Yeah, there's a line for markets, really, as he says, you know, if it's humanly possible, know that you can do it. I think one of the things, like we're so reluctant to humanize these heroes, but it should, it should have the effect of making people think that you could be like them, right? That they're, they're, they're just regular grand, especially. I mean, Grant was selling firewood by the side of the road before Civil War. Yeah, I mean, and that that should take away our excuse for not trying to do it. Yeah, no, I saw a great meme the other day where, you know, obviously there's these debates now about what you should teach in school. You shouldn't. And they said, is it kind of insulting for white people to assume that their kids won't also identify with John Brown
Starting point is 01:06:26 or Frederick Douglass. Like the idea that by tearing these people down, you're destroying their identity or their worth, maybe you're just identifying with the wrong people. That's fair point. Who we study and who we emulate, who we build statues to You know, who we study and who we emulate and who we build statues to become so important because it says so much about ourselves. Yes. You know, we had a long discussion the other day, a friend of mine and I on the Confederate statues because I live in Alexandria, Virginia, and a year ago, they took the Confederate soldier's statue away.
Starting point is 01:06:59 And I didn't disagree with the move because it had developed a different meaning than it had had for a century. But the bottom line is when it was put up, I believe it was put up by fellow veterans in 1884, I think, trying to just memorialize their shared experience. And so we shouldn't assume that they were evil while we, at the same time, we can judge they were wrong. Yeah, it's like there's one down the street from my office that I've been working on trying to get removed.
Starting point is 01:07:36 And it went up in 1910, which would be the equivalent of putting up a Nazi statue today, right? If you think about how distant that was from the war, and so the context matters. On the Lincoln front, have you read Lincoln's melancholy? I haven't. It's a fascinating book. I think it would like, it's about Lincoln's battle
Starting point is 01:07:56 with depression. He has a sort of crippling lifelong depression. And it just sort of goes through the loss and the pain of his life and how that made him so, like, you know, most of the abolitionists were very rabid, right? And, and, and, and, and, I mean, in a good way, obviously, their cause was correct. But Lincoln was much more patient and calm and compromising in both a good and a bad way. But Lincoln was not someone who rushed into the Civil War and the argument is partly because he really, he knew what pain was.
Starting point is 01:08:33 And he didn't jump to conclusions the same way other people did. And I think Lincoln's empathy is something that is maybe underappreciated about him as a leader. He was famous for clemency and pardons and all that. It's an interesting look, I think, you would like. Yeah, and then the question is always, what would have happened if Lincoln had not been assassinated? How would reconstruction have gone? What would have been the feeling of it because of his sense? And it gets to his empathy. And I don't want to say weakness, but his ability
Starting point is 01:09:08 to maybe be more accepting than the North may have been ready to be. Yeah. And then my other favorite Lincoln book, which I have this little bookstore here in Resellat, it's not as popular as I'd like it to be, but it's called Lincoln a biography of a writer. And it like, because we think of Lincoln as a politician,
Starting point is 01:09:27 but he wrote the Gettysburg address. He wrote the second inaugural address. And so it's thinking about him as a writer, which isn't how you think about him, really. But by a handful of those works alone is probably the most consequential writer of the 19th century. I mean, those speeches, I mean, school children can memorize them today. That's how good they are. And the idea of thinking about him as a creator, a crafter of words was a perspective I hadn't
Starting point is 01:09:58 thought about, but now it's hard for me to unseat. Yeah, I mean his ability to use logic in the Sanberg biography, they've got a depiction of a handwritten set of notes in which he basically argued to himself the irrationality of slavery. Yes. And he basically says, if what gives a person the right to enslave another person, if it's based on color, if you are white, but somebody comes who's slightly whiter than you, can they enslave you?
Starting point is 01:10:32 Yeah. If it's based on brains, is it if someone's slightly smarter than you, do they have the right to enslave? And he takes you through this, and he's taking himself through this logic train, and it's brilliant. Isn't it amazing to think like he taught himself that logic and he taught himself Euclidean geometry and he taught himself
Starting point is 01:10:55 the law. I mean, even his arguments about why the South could not legally secede came from his under like he's thinking about the constitution as a contract and he's like, no, sorry, it doesn't work. Here's why your case is incorrect. It's just, it's lovely to think he taught himself that. Well, it's easy to make me feel inadequate when I read that. Well, you would, one one story I heard about Lincoln is that when he became president and it looked like war was going to happen, he he checked out books about warfare from the Library of Congress. Not many presidents would check out books from the library anymore, I don't feel like. No.
Starting point is 01:11:38 Well, general, this was truly amazing. I love the book. I really enjoyed the other ones too, especially my share of the task and It was a complete honor to talk to you and thank you very much for writing it Ryan my pleasure my honor. Take care. All right. Well, hopefully we can go for a run on that road you talked about in the books Some time I'd like it. All right sounds good. Take care You know the Stoics in real life met at what was called the Stoa, the Stoa, Pocula, the painted porch in ancient Athens. Obviously we can't all get together in one place because this community is like hundreds
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