The Daily Stoic - It Can Make You Great | Accepting What Is

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Starting point is 00:06:22 Today's entry, accepting what is. Reinhold Niebuhr's serenity prayer is a mantra for many. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, it reads, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. The Stoics wanted to push past simply accepting what is. They wanted us to be grateful and happy with what is. Epicetus taught that we get a well-flown, life when we wish for what is going to happen, not for what we want to happen. And Marcus Aurelius

Starting point is 00:06:59 adds that we should meet anything that comes our way with gratitude. Not, I wish this was different and I'll tolerate it, but I'm glad it happened this way. It's for the best. So let us try that on for size this week. And we have two quotes from Epictetus and one from Marcus Aurelius. Don't seek for everything to happen as you wish it would, but rather wish that everything happens as it actually will, and then your life will flow well. That's Epictetus's in Corridian 8, and then from the Discourses 1.12, he says, to be truly educated means this, learning to wish that each thing happens exactly as it does. Marcus Aurelius' Meditation, 9,6, all you need are these. Certainty of judgment in the present moment, action for the common good in the present moment, and an attitude of

Starting point is 00:07:52 gratitude in the present moment for anything that comes your way. One thing I wanted to point out because I was fascinated to learn this is the serenity prayer. One, it sounds like some sort of real hymn or prayer that must go back thousands of years. Honestly, it sounds like something that could come from the Stoics. And then obviously a lot of people associated with recovery movement, which it has become a big part of. But it really dates to like the third. 30s and 40s. They think that he composed the prayer somewhere around the time of 1932, 1933, which for some contexts, you know, in the midst of the Great Depression. But again, one of the benefits of wisdom is that it is both timely and timeless at the same time. So this idea of the

Starting point is 00:08:43 prayer, Father, give us courage to change what must be altered, serenity to accept what cannot be helped and the insight to know one from another. Also, I think the difference between that as he first writes it and then what it sort of commonly gets rendered at is also a sign of, as Twain says, the difference between lightning and a lightning bug. Like, just the perfect wording of it, the perfect encapsulation of the wisdom, it feels as soon as you see it, even though, you know, it's as some people's grandparents who are listening to this or perhaps some people who are listening to this themselves, they may be. well older than that short little prayer, but it feels as current and fresh and also as

Starting point is 00:09:27 ageless and timeless. It's just about anything. But anyways, let's not nerd out too much on the history of the prayer. What I thought I would focus on today, because we've been talking about acceptance quite a lot here on the podcast, I tend to disagree a little bit with Epictetus. I find that Epictetus's life was so tragic and painful. His name literally, means, like, enslaved. We know almost nothing about his family. We know nothing about his existence, except that he's born a slave. He has a cruel master who tortures him. He walks for a limp the rest of his life. And then after 30 years of slavery and, you know, eventually getting his freedom, Epictetus is exiled by a cruel emperor. So it is a hard life. But I find it striking that

Starting point is 00:10:15 nowhere in Epictetus's writings, does he really question whether any of it was right or fair, whether anything could be done about it? Now, you might say this is him reaching this sort of sage-like level of wisdom. And I think there's true to that. I mean, who am I to question obviously such a great and brave and enduring spirit? But I guess, obviously, we live in a world now where people have more agency, and why do we have that agency? Because people were willing to fight for it and change. So obviously, the Stoics are mostly right that so much of what happens in this world is outside of our control, we should accept it, resenting it, crying over it, whining about it, simply wishing it was otherwise, does not do anything. Look, you were born

Starting point is 00:11:00 5'3 foot 3 instead of 6'3, that's just a reality you're going to have to accept it, right? People in your family go bald, you're going to have to accept it, right? Your spouse turns out to be a jerk, they ran away with all your money, left you, broke your heart. It happened, right? That is true. But I just don't want Epictetus to be misinterpreted as some sort of rationalization or acceptance of profound injustices, including the injustices that Epictetus seemed relatively okay accepting, right? As they say, progress depends on the unreasonable man. I talk about this a little bit in the Courage book. We have to be accepting. We have to face unflinchingly the reality of our situation. But even as I read this paragraph that I have written, I would push back on it a

Starting point is 00:11:48 little bit and I do think it's important that we focus on what we're going to do about the situations that we find ourselves in. I feel like Epictetus could have done that a bit more himself. Still obviously a great man, better man than I. Certainly I could not have endured what he endured. But it's just a thought today. And I want you to be okay pushing back in question things from the Stoics as well. They weren't perfect. They were products of their time. They were products of their own experiences. And we can challenge and debate and argue with them as long as we think we're getting them closer to what they actually mean, what the wisdom of the Stoics actually mean. And that's today's message.

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The Daily Stoic - It Can Make You Great | Accepting What Is

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