The Daily Stoic - It’s Not Only Always Been Like This, It’s Always Been Worse | Trust But Verify

Episode Date: April 6, 2026

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Welcome to the Daily Stoic Podcast, designed to help bring those four key Stoic virtues, courage, discipline, justice, and wisdom into the real world. It's not only always been like this, it's always been worse. It's not new, okay? Ancient Greece had earthquakes and horrible storms and natural disasters. People suffered. People were killed. People stole the money intended to help those people. Ancient Rome had tyrants and bullies. It had bad. pointless cruelty and systemic injustices. For centuries, people have fought over minuscule differences.

Their governments have been dysfunctional. Their traditions seem like they were falling apart. Stuff was changing. Stuff was stressful. Stuff suck. It's not only always been like this, it's probably always been worse. You can look out at the news and despair about things, or you can zoom out and see progress. You can focus on bad people and miss that the bad people today are almost certainly better than the bad people back then. Even the people you disagree with and dislike politically are not selling their enemies into slavery, sending children to work in minds or doing science experiments on minorities, things that were not only common in Zeno and Mark Surrealis' time, but common enough not that long ago. You live in a time of abundance and

medicine and knowledge and opportunity, things that the Stoics could not have imagined in their wildest dreams. So yes, see what is broken. Yes, work to make it better. But do so with gratitude and not despair. Do so with the understanding that you inherited a world improved by generations before you. And now it's your turn to leave it better than you found it. This month at Wayfair, they're putting on their biggest annual sale of the year. From April 25th through the 27th, it's Way Day. And you can score the best deals in home, like 80% off with free shipping on everything.

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It's also kid and pet friendly. Get bugs out of your house with Pestey. Just go to pesty.com slash dope for an extra 10% off your order. That's pesty.com slash dope for an extra 10% off. Trust but verify. Today's quote is from Epictetus's Discourses to He says, first off, don't let the force of an impression carry you away. Say to it, hold up a bit, let me see who you are, where you are from. Let me put you to the test. One of the wonders of your

mind is the quickness with which it can comprehend and categorize things. As Malcolm Gladwell wrote in Blink, we are constantly making split-second decisions based on years of experience and knowledge as well as using the same skill to confirm prejudices, stereotypes, and assumptions. Clearly, the former thinking is a source of strength, whereas the latter is a great weakness. We lose very little, though, by taking a beat to consider our own thoughts. Is it really so bad? What do I really know about this person? Why do I have such strong feelings here? Is anxiety really adding much to the situation? What's so special about? By asking these questions, by putting our impressions to the test, as Epictetus recommends,

we're less likely to be carried away by them or make a move based on a mistaken or biased one. We're still free to use our instincts, but we should always, as the Russian proverb says, trust, but verify. You know, it is funny, right? I think the impression of the Stoics is that they have no emotions, that they're unfeeling, unflinching. I don't really think that is it at all. I think they're not as immediately reactive

or emotional. Because they do this. They stop and they think about it. They stop and they question. They put it to the test. One of the things my therapist has said, you know, you start to say something and she cuts me off.

She goes, no. Preface it with, what I make up about that is, right because like it's so easy to take what we're about to say or what we think has verifiable indisputable fact when it's really opinion when it's really an assumption when it's really a stereotype when it's really an extrapolation an inference it's not real and once you put it to the test you go oh yeah this is this isn't really based on anything I've made this up.

I'm guessing. I'm basing it on past experience. And when I stop and go, hey, is this really so bad? Is it really what I think it is? What do I know about this? Hey, buddy. Sorry, my son just came out of his room. Can you go in your room?

I'll send mom in? This is making super entertaining, super entertaining episode. I think I'm going to leave this all in for you. So you just get a, you guys get a, taste of what my life is. You know, even stuff like that, right? I try to, you know, maybe sometimes your first instinct is, oh, this is an inconvenience, oh, this is annoying, oh, this is not how it's supposed to be.

And then you stop and you go, but is that true? Actually, is it an opportunity? To me, that's what Mark's realises is reminding himself with that idea of the obstacle is the way, right? You go, okay, yes, I can see it this way as a problem, it's not how I want things to be as an inconvenience or whatever. And then actually, you can stop and think,

no, it's this chance to do something. It's a chance for things to go differently. It's a chance to do it again. Seriously, I'm going to wrap this up here in just a minute, and then I'm going to go in and get a second chance to lay with my son as he goes to bed. And that's not annoying.

That's not a problem. This is important. These are arbitrarily made up things to begin with, right? But that's not how I always think about them. That's not how I necessarily think about them naturally, but it's taking this second to put it to the test, to think about it, to question it. And that's true for the email that you just got

that had a rude tone. Did it have a rude tone or did it have no tone at all? And that's what you thought was rude. Did it have a rude tone because that's the voice in your head, not what was coming across? What did this person mean? What's a nice way to interpret it, right? You can put all these impressions assumptions,

to the test and you should and the more that you do that the better and happier you will be the more stoic you will be now sometimes that initial instinct is correct that's what that expression trust but verify means um you verify sometimes you're right sometimes you're not but you've got to do that work and you understand that you know your mind is not always your friend and your impressions are not always right. When you go, I trust my gut, do you deserve to trust that gut, right? Have you done the work that warrants that? Or with just a little more investigation, a little pause, a little more thinking, would that actually make everything better? I think that it would. So with that, I'll close up today's episode. I'm not going to record anymore. I'm going to go get a second crack at

bedtime. And I hope that you are probably listening to this in the morning. So I'll wish you a good day and talk to you all soon. Hey, it's Ryan. Thank you for listening to the Daily Stoog podcast. I just wanted to say we so appreciate it. We love serving you. It's amazing to us that over 30 million people have downloaded these episodes in the couple years we've been doing it. It's an honor. Please spread the word, tell people about it, and this isn't to sell anything. I just wanted to say thank you.