The Daily Stoic - It's Not Unfair, It Just Is | Corralling The Unnecessary

Episode Date: August 19, 2021

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Hey, prime members, you can listen to the Daily Stood Podcast early and add free on Amazon Music. Download the app today. Hi, I'm David Brown, the host of Wondery's podcast business wars. And in our new season, Walmart must fight off target. The new discounter that's both savvy and fashion forward. Listen to business wars on Amazon Music or wherever you get your podcasts. on music or wherever you get your podcasts. Welcome to another episode of the Daily Stoic Podcast. On Thursdays we do double duty, not just reading our daily meditation, but also reading a passage from the book The Daily Stoic, 366 meditations on wisdom, perseverance, and the art of living, which I wrote with my wonderful

co-author and collaborator, Stephen Hanselman. And so today we'll give you a quick meditation from one of the stoics from Epititus Markis Relius, Seneca, then some analysis for me, and then we send you out into the world to do your best to turn these words into works. It's not unfair. It just is. It's amazing how often we find ourselves using those words. Words like unfair, unlucky, frustrating, unfortunate, annoying, inconvenient. To the Stoics, there was a word for these kinds of words. Opinion. Things don't upset us, Epictetus said, our judgment about them does. Events are not fair or unfair. They just are. We make up that the stock market is good or bad, a bear or a bull.

In truth, it's just doing what it does. It's just a reflection of perceived values at a particular moment. The more we can catch ourselves from applying these labels, the happier we will be, the more options we'll have to. But that's so hard, you say. Of course it is. It goes against every impulse. But still, we always have the ability to have no opinion. Marcus says, we can catch ourselves and think, it's not what I wanted, but that doesn't mean that I was unlucky. It's not how I would have treated someone, but that doesn't mean it's unfair. It just is.

It's the situation we're in. The hand we've been dealt, and if we spent less time calling it names, we'd have more energy and time to play the hand well to respond to the situation. So remember this and adjust your vocabulary accordingly. Corralling the unnecessary. This is today's entry in the Daily Stoic, 366 meditations on wisdom, perseverance, and the art of living. I riff on this on another episode in the Daily Stoic Journal, but it's so important, it's worth saying again. It is said that if you want to have peace of mind, busy yourself with little, but wouldn't

a better saying be to do what you must and as required of a rational being created for public life? For this brings not only the peace of mind of doing few things, but the greater peace of doing them well. Since the vast majority of our words and actions are unnecessary, corralling them will create an abundance of leisure and tranquility. As a result, we shouldn't forget at every moment to ask, is this one of the unnecessary things? And we must corrall not only the unnecessary actions, but unnecessary thoughts too. So needless acts don't tag along after them. That's Marcus in meditations

424. I read the Gregory Hayes translation before, but I thought I would give you the Robin Waterfield translation of that same line because again it's so good. He says, do little if you want to be content. But wouldn't it be better to do what's necessary? Everything, the reason of a naturally social being requires, in the manner it requires it. The upshot will not only be the contentment that comes from doing the right thing, but also the contentment that comes from doing a little. After all, most of our words and actions are unnecessary, and dispensing with them gives one more freedom and greater peace of mind. It follows that you should prod yourself every time by asking, is this really necessary? And it's important to dispense

not only with the unnecessary actions, but unnecessary thoughts as well, because it will ensure that no redundant actions follow either. And Waterfield says that this first line that do little if you want to be content, or as in R1 if you want to be content do less, it's saying that this is actually a fragment from Democritus that was then taken up by the Epicurians, to the extent to which a philosopher should engage with the world, was a major bone of contention with the two schools, with the Epicurians recommending withdrawal on the Stoics engagement, basing their view here as Marcus does in the fact that we are by nature social beings.

So the idea is we can't withdraw completely. We have to be involved, but we should only be involved in the essential important things. And so I'll give you the rest of today's riffing. I say the Stoics were not monks. They didn't retreat to the sanctuary of a monastery or a temple. They were politicians, businessmen, soldiers, artists. They practiced their philosophy amid the busyness of life, just as you are attempting to do, just as I am attempting to do.

The key to accomplishing this is to ruthlessly expunge the inessential from our lives. What vanity obligates us to do, what greed signs us up for, what ill discipline adds to our plate, what a lack of courage prevents us from saying no to. All of this we must cut, cut, cut. What are you gonna say no to this week? That's the question. What inessential things are you going to question and remove what obligations are you gonna wriggle out of?

Because they're not actually obligations, but in positions that society has voiced it on us that don't actually matter. Say no. There is power in that. Not just power in the freedom it gives you, but by saying no to the things that don't matter, we're able to say yes fully doubly, as Marka says,

to the things that do matter. We do less better. That's what I want for you. That's what you should want for yourself. Say no this week. Ask yourself at every moment. better. That's what I want for you. That's what you should want for yourself. Say, know this week, ask yourself at every moment. Is this essential? Is this one of the unnecessary things? Is this actually matter? Is it important? Chances are it isn't. So act accordingly. Thanks so much for listening. If you could leave a review

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