The Daily Stoic - Passing Judgment Is No Way To Live

Episode Date: December 7, 2022

You don’t know that someone acted wrongly or that they totally screwed a situation up, because you don’t know the full story. You don’t know their reasons or their side of things. And what do the Stoics tell us to do when we don’t have all the facts about something?They tell us to suspend judgment.✉️  Sign up for the Daily Stoic email: https://dailystoic.com/dailyemail🏛 Check out the Daily Stoic Store for Stoic inspired products, signed books, and more.📱 Follow us: Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, TikTok, FacebookSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hey, prime members, you can listen to the Daily Stoic Podcast early and add free on Amazon music. Download the app today. Welcome to the Daily Stoic Podcast, where each day we bring you a passage of ancient wisdom designed to help you find strength, insight, and wisdom every day life. Each one of these passages is based on the 2, 2000-year-old philosophy that has guided some of history's greatest men and women. For more, you can visit us dailystoward.com. We live in a culture where people sit on the sidelines and pass a lot of strong judgments. We look at people we don't know and decide whether they're good or bad people.

We look at complicated situations in difficult know and decide whether they're good or bad people. We look at complicated situations in difficult projects and cleanly label them successes or failures despite having little understanding of what went on behind the scenes. We take an instance of behavior where a tiny interaction, the way someone talked to us at the grocery store or decision they made, and extrapolate out who that person is and what motivates them. As we've talked about before the result of these Snap judgments is not merely misery for us, but an overwhelmingly negative view of humanity and of the world. It is no way to live, which is why when you feel the urge to decide as an outsider or as an observer that you know who someone is or what it means, you should stop yourself. Stop yourself and consider this prompt from epic teetus. Until you know their reasons, how do you know that

they have acted wrongly? What epic teetus is not saying is that you should sit there and try to think about why Hitler and Stalin murdered so many people. He's not saying that right and wrong are relative and that truly awful things can be excused. He's saying in the vein of Socrates that we need to take a minute and really think about what we don't know in a situation. We need to consider that with the exception of mental illness, which is its own kind of reason, most people have a logic for their actions, and that logic is usually not to try to hurt you or anyone else. They're just doing the best they can.

David Foster Wallace speaks about this in his famous This Is Water speech after several illusions to his frustrations about bad drivers. He says it's not impossible that some of these people in SUVs have been in horrible auto accidents in the past and now find driving so traumatic that their therapist has all but ordered them to get a huge heavy SUV so that they can feel safe enough to drive or that the hummer that just cut me off is maybe being driven by a father whose little child is hurt or sick in the seat next to him and is trying to rush to the hospital and he's in a way bigger, more legitimate hurry than I am. And it is actually I who am in his way than so on. You don't know that someone acted wrongly or isn't asshole or that they totally screwed a situation up because you don't know the full story.

You didn't know their reasons or their side of things. And what do the stoics tell us to do when you don't have all the facts about something? They tell us to suspend judgment. It's not that life is short, Seneca says. It's that we waste a lot of it. The practice of Mementomore, the meditation on death, is one of the most powerful and eye-opening things that there is. You built this Mementomore calendar for Dio Stoke to illustrate that exact idea,

that your life in the best case scenario is 4,000 weeks. Are you gonna let those weeks slip by or are you going to seize them? The act of unrolling this calendar, putting it on your wall, and every single week that bubble is filled in, that black mark is marking it off forever. Have something to show not just for your years, but for every single dot that you filled in that you really lived that week, that you made something of it.

You can check it out at dailystoke.com slash M-M calendar. you