The Daily Stoic - The Stoic Formula For Timeless Success | Ryan Holiday
Episode Date: July 20, 2025What separates the work that fades from the work that endures? In this episode, Ryan explores the Stoic wisdom behind lasting success and how to turn adversity into something timeless, meanin...gful, and built to outlive you. 📖 Preorder the final book in Ryan Holiday's The Stoic Virtues Series: "Wisdom Takes Work": https://store.dailystoic.com/pages/wisdom-takes-work🎙️ Follow The Daily Stoic Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dailystoicpodcast🎥 Watch top moments from The Daily Stoic Podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dailystoicpodcast✉️ Want Stoic wisdom delivered to your inbox daily? Sign up for the FREE Daily Stoic email at https://dailystoic.com/dailyemail🏛 Get Stoic inspired books, medallions, and prints to remember these lessons at the Daily Stoic Store: https://store.dailystoic.com/📱 Follow us: Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, TikTok, and FacebookSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Welcome to the weekend edition of the Daily Stoic Podcast.
On Sundays, we take a deeper dive into these ancient topics with excerpts from the Stoic
texts, audiobooks that we like here or recommend here at Daily Stoic, and other long-form wisdom
that you can chew on on this relaxing weekend.
We hope this helps shape your understanding of this philosophy and most importantly,
that you're able to apply it to your actual life.
Thank you for listening.
Hey, it's Ryan.
Welcome to another episode of the Daily Stoic Podcast. I hope you are
having a good Sunday. I am having a great week. This is my last day in Ithaca, and then
we are off to, where are we going next? We're going to go see the Temple of Apollo at Delphi,
which is where Zeno as a young man is given a prophecy which would set in motion the creation of stoic philosophy.
I'm really excited about that.
That's the traveling I'm doing now, but back in February,
I was in Nashville.
I got to speak at the Country Music Hall of Fame Theater,
like one of the coolest venues I've ever been in.
I was talking a little bit about stoicism and I do tell
the story of Zeno and his shipwreck.
But mostly, I was talking about my experience
taking what was then a relatively obscure philosophy and making it accessible and interesting
to people, people like you.
The idea of doing a daily podcast about stoic philosophy would have been insane in 2012
when I went to my publisher and pitched them.
The idea for what became the obstacle is the way.
And I was talking to this group,
it's this group called the Tugboat Institute.
And it's a fascinating group, basically.
It's these sort of interesting companies from all over the world,
but it's all about sort of evergreen companies,
like not like creating a company,
getting a lot of hype and then flipping it to someone else.
It's not about trends or fads.
One of the companies, I think,
they've been in business for like 300 years or something.
It's not about getting big fast or getting rich quick.
Tugboat is about building sustainable, generational,
persevering companies, which is, of course,
something I think Stoicism can teach us about.
And it's something I've tried to think about as I've written my books.
I have a whole book about this called Perennial Seller, which is more from my previous life
in marketing and consulting. But anyways, it was a short
talk. I was only on stage maybe 20, 25 minutes, so I thought I'd just bring it to you.
Maybe it might be interesting to you to sort of hear how I think about these things and then learn some
of these lessons. Not just what the Stokes can teach us about life,
but what can they teach us about building something
that lasts, and I do think they can teach us a lot.
So thanks to the folks at Tugboat for having me out,
thanks to the Country Music Hall of Fame
for letting me, you know, grace their stage.
Oh man, it was crazy just looking at the people
who had been in the same green room.
It was absolutely nuts.
I think you'll really like it.
And now I'm excited.
We're gonna go have dinner last night here in Ithaca
and then take the ferry back to the mainland tomorrow.
So I'll talk to you all soon.
Stoicism is a philosophy that comes out of a disaster.
The essence of stoic philosophy is this idea
of whether that tragedy, that event, that the failure, whether it's going to be unfortunate or fortunate.
The stoics would say, we get to make that choice.
We decide not just in how we perceive it, but in how we respond to it, what we make
of it, what it makes us into.
A little over 10 years ago, I'd just written a best-selling book about marketing.
It was doing well.
I had a whole career trajectory in front of me.
And I went to my publisher with what I thought was a good idea.
I said, hey, for my next book, I'd like to write about an obscure school of ancient philosophy. And, you know, their response was,
are you sure?
In fact, my editor would tell me later that they were just humoring me
and they hoped I would get this philosophy thing out of my system
and go back to writing marketing books. I certainly didn't expect, they didn't expect
that these books would go on to sell millions of copies
and stoicism would be this sort of resurgent force
and way of living with people all over the world.
In retrospect though, it does make sense.
That first book, The Obstacles of Way,
which just celebrated its 10 year anniversary,
not that I feel like someone who could have
a 10 year old book.
I realized in retrospect it was a classic blue ocean.
We tend to focus on what everyone else is doing,
what is established, what makes sense,
but in fact most successful businesses,
most enduring businesses, most lasting creative works
were transgressive or new or unexpected
or they had a field totally to themselves.
I wrote a book many years later
about the venture capitalist Peter Thiel
and he had this line that I think about all the time.
He said, competition is for losers.
And his point was, you want to go
where there is no competition.
It's scarier at first.
But if you can establish yourself,
if you can do it right, you have that space totally to yourself.
And in retrospect, it actually does
make sense that stoic philosophy would make its way through professional sports,
it would make its way through entertainment and pop culture, it would become part of the toolkit of Super Bowl winning teams and elite companies,
special forces, military leaders, heads of state. Again, this isn't what I was thinking, but of course it was what Stoicism was in the ancient world.
There were Stoics who were in the Olympics, there were Stoics who ran businesses, there were Stoics who led armies into battle.
And so as the obstacle is the way made its way through not just the business community, but all these different groups,
I spent a lot of time thinking about why. Why did it work?
And why did it become, actually,
the New York Times bestseller list explicitly excludes
this thing that they call perennial sellers.
So you look at the bestseller list every week
and it tells you what is selling in that moment,
but that list is heavily edited to exclude things
that have been selling for long periods of time. It excludes basically the bulk of
where the income from the publishing industry comes from. And the reason is
that no one would check the bestseller list every week if it just showed the
same 10 or 20 or 50 books that have been selling basically since books were invented.
And so there's always this newness bias
when we look both literally at the news
and then any kind of rankings.
Actually, if you went on the New York Times or Fox News
or any website, and there's a little list on the center
that says our most read articles,
almost all of those most read articles
would also be older articles. It's the perennial pieces, the how-tos, the center, this is our most read articles. Almost all of those most read articles would also be older articles.
It's the perennial pieces, the how-to's, the instructions,
the classic long reads pieces that
do the majority of the traffic cumulatively.
But they want you to read the new thing,
so you'll come back over and over again.
So how does The Obstacle is the Way in my books and so is.
And how did it become what we would call a perennial seller
that wrote a book on this?
That's my cow, Domino.
But as I think about why it worked,
it's ultimately because the idea was timeless, right?
Stoic philosophy has endured for 25 centuries
for good reason.
It is based on the trial and error, the sum total of human wisdom.
And it was tested in this laboratory over and over and over again, and the ideas were
winnowed down into their essence. It was boiled into a kind of truth. And in fact,
Stoicism originates 25 centuries ago from a business person.
Zeno, the founder of Stoicism, was a merchant
in what was called Tyrian purple.
This was the dye that would make the cloaks
of the wealthiest Greeks and Romans.
And as he traveled in this convoy of ships,
he suffers a shipwreck sometime around the fourth century
and he washes up penniless in Athens. And there at
rock bottom he's walking through the Athenian Agora and trying to figure out what to do next.
And he comes across a bookseller, they had book merchants, then he comes across a bookseller and
the bookseller is reading aloud one of the stories from Socrates.
It's the story of Hercules at the crossroads.
Do you go the easy way or the hard way?
This is what the parable is supposed to demonstrate.
And as Zeno hears this story,
his introduction to philosophy,
he asks the man,
hey, where can I find a man like that?
Where can I find a philosopher?
And he's introduced to his philosophy teacher
who happens to be walking by at this very moment,
a man named Cretes, a cynic philosopher
who is known as the door opener,
which is what great teachers do.
They open doors for us.
But the reason that this experience so strikes Zeno is that as a young man
he'd received a prophecy and that prophecy had said that wisdom will come when you begin to have
conversations with the dead and he realizes that that's what books are. That's what philosophy is.
Stoicism then is the great conversation as the Western canon is sometimes referred to, right?
The great conversation.
He's talking with the dead.
I am telling you a story about a man who died thousands of years ago and yet it resounds
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From the shipwreck comes his introduction to philosophy.
And he would actually joke that he made a great fortune when he suffered a shipwreck. So he loses everything, of course,
but it opens a different door, literally and figuratively,
that not only changes his life, but changes the course of but it opens a different door, literally and figuratively,
that not only changes his life, but changes the course of history.
Again, here we are all these centuries later
talking about him.
And so, Stoicism is a philosophy
that comes out of a disaster.
Sometimes these disasters are personal,
sometimes they're political,
sometimes they're very, very small,
and sometimes they're very, very big.
But the essence of St stoic philosophy is this idea of whether that tragedy, that
event that befell you, whether it's going to be unfortunate or fortunate. The stoics
would say, we get to make that choice. We decide. Not just in how we perceive it, but
in how we respond to it, what we make of it, what it makes us into.
That's what Zeno was saying. I made a great fortune when I suffered a shipwreck. The same event,
the same experience could have been the worst thing that ever happened to him, but he turns it
into the best thing that ever happens to him. That's what the obstacle is the way it is. It's
not that every obstacle we face in life
is an opportunity to make a little bit more money
in our business or to acquire an extra client
or to even do something fun.
The idea of the obstacle is the way
is that we can transform these events into experiences,
which in retrospect, we see as significant and meaningful
and positively directing the course of our lives.
And Marx really ruminates on this idea
repeatedly in meditations.
He says that, yeah, our actions can be impeded,
our plans can be disrupted, our life can be blown apart,
but we always have the ability to accommodate and adapt.
He says, the mind adapts and converts to its own purposes the obstacle to our acting.
And then the famous phrase is the impediment to action advances action.
What stands in the way becomes the way.
Or as I said, the obstacle is the way that in any and every situation,
no matter how big or small or
unfair it is or undesirable it is, we always have the opportunity to practice
virtue. And I think it's important that it's not just the Stokes who said the
obstacles way, but there's a Zen saying too that the obstacle is the path. It's
it's that we have the chance to practice excellence in response to this situation, this obstacle, this disruption,
this problem, we have a chance to practice excellence.
And in practicing that excellence,
in struggling with this thing,
in adapting and adjusting and accommodating this thing,
we have the opportunity to grow and improve
and be made better.
Effectively, we don't control what happens,
we control how we respond to what happens.
We don't control other people,
we control how we respond to other people.
As it happens, that quote from Marcus Aurelius
about how the obstacle is the way,
he's specifically talking about assholes,
he's talking about jerks,
he's talking about the people that get in our way, right?
It would be wonderful if we were all aligned, if we always worked together, if we always
helped each other, if nobody ever tried to prevent anyone from doing what they were trying to do.
But that's not life. Life is full of difficult people and obnoxious people.
In fact, he opens a beautiful passage of meditations with this very idea.
It says, the people you meet today will be difficult and frustrating and annoying and
dishonest and jealous.
And he lists all the things that we inevitably face in the course of the day.
But he says, hey, you're meant to work with these people.
He says, you can't let them implicate you in their ugliness.
You have
to figure out how to do good with and through them. That's the purpose. That's
the struggle. And in that way you become better and you have the choice of
course not to become worse. We control who we are in each situation, who we are
in life, whether we get green lights all along the way or we hit a
frustrating amount of stop signs and stop lights. So the obstacle is the way is this sort of timeless
thing that comes to us from the stoics that our trials, our tribulations are a chance for us to
triumph. Again we're not always going to win, we're not always gonna end up exactly where we wanted, but we can be made better for having dealt with it.
We can be driven in some new way.
We can make a fortune out of this misfortune.
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And so I think the reason that that stoicism resonates, the reasons my book, my books resonated
is not because I'm such a great writer, although I do my
best.
It's that it's rooted in this fundamental part of the human experience.
It's rooted in the fact that we don't control the world around us, that Murphy's law is
real, that people are annoying, and we have been having to deal with this for as
long as we have been conscious as a species. Jeff Bezos said at Amazon that
you try to build the business around focusing on the things that don't change
right? People like things cheap they like them fast. That doesn't mean that Amazon
doesn't also try to take advantage of trends and doesn't try to
wield, you know, the greatest and latest technological breakthroughs, but ultimately it's got to be built around
assumptions or truths about customers and people and best practices that are going to remain true
no matter how much the other situations change.
And I think the great businesses do this.
Zildjian symbols was started in the 1600s.
They made symbols for Napoleon's army, right?
But what a symbol does hasn't changed that much.
Now, are they always refining and improving
and trying to make things cheaper and last longer?
Of course, but fundamentally what they do doesn't change.
How do you do it better?
That changes, but what you do doesn't change.
Fiskars Scissors, also 1600s, pretty simple business.
This is what a very old pair
of Fiskars Scissors look like.
Same basic idea, now they use plastics and better metals
and all these different things,
but fundamentally the business is basically the same.
I'm wearing Red Wing boots.
Red Wing boots started making boots
for the US Army in World War I.
This pair of boots I bought 15 years ago for $300.
I thought, wow, $300, that's a lot of money for boots.
15 years later, it seems like a pretty good deal.
Also, I went hunting in them a couple weeks ago,
so I'm glad I cleaned them off
or I'd be getting this carpet very dirty.
But this is probably the third or fourth pair of soles
that I put on them.
You take them to a cobbler,
you can send them back to Red Wing,
and they'll put new laces and a new sole on them,
and then the boots
will ostensibly last forever, right? They're functionally the same thing as they've always
been and the need for something like this pair of boots remains unchanged as well. Nashville has a
number of businesses that have been around for a very long time. Here's 1907, the Hermitage Hotel predates the right to vote for women.
And I know this because during the passage of the 19th Amendment, that's where the suffragettes
and the anti-suffragettes and the politicians from the Nashville State House or the Tennessee
State House went and lobbied each other. It was
the scene of one of the most pivotal moments in American history. But you can walk into that
lobby today because what a lobby is supposed to do hasn't changed that much. Nashville's got a
couple businesses like a lock and safe business, basically a window and door business that both
date to the Civil War. You know, doors haven't changed that much.
They've changed a little, but not that much.
I sometimes say this about books.
Like people go, what about e-books and audio books?
Do you think in the future books will all be digital?
I go, here's the thing, books are a pretty good
form of technology, you know?
Like in the movies, like a sci-fi movie,
all the doors are like, you know, they hit this code
and it opens automatically.
But like in truth, here we are living in 2025
and doors are pretty much the same
as they were 100 years ago and 200,
because a door is a pretty good form of technology.
A lock is a pretty good form of technology.
A book is a pretty good form of technology
for delivering an idea that you want
to have a physical manifestation for that
you want to carry around. There's someone here today whose business is basically
three centuries old. How cool is that? Now these businesses have to change and
adapt how I would buy these boots on the internet instead of in a store
or out of a catalog. That might change, right? I might be able to use AI to sketch out
where I want my door to go,
or my lock might have a code that I type in now.
But fundamentally, it is the same thing.
And so what we're trying to do
as we root our work or our business
is we wanna find both what is timely and timeless.
And when these things intersect,
that's when you have something that I think is powerful
and something that endures.
Like Star Wars when it came out
was obviously a cutting edge sci-fi movie
with really cool special effects
that people hadn't seen before.
50 years later, that's not why people are watching still the original Star
Wars and that's not why the series has lasted so long. My eight-year-old when he watches Star Wars
is not blown away by the special effects in the first movie. He's captivated however by what George
Lucas based the Star Wars franchise on,
which is the idea of the hero's journey.
And this is also why my eight year old
is obsessed with the Odyssey
and still gets the jokes in the Odyssey
about the Cyclops, how he asks Odysseus his name
and he says, my name is nobody.
And then when they ask him, who did this to you?
He says, nobody did it to me.
And my eight-year-old thinks that's hilarious
because the timelessness of that joke transcends language
and the centuries and the myth, the story of Odysseus
is as captivating as the story of Luke Skywalker.
The arc, the hero's journey is what he rooted this in.
And the fact that it has spaceships and lasers Luke Skywalker, the arc, the hero's journey is what he rooted this in,
and the fact that it has spaceships and lasers
and Wookiees and whatever is secondary
to the journey it's taking you on.
One of my favorite movies is Greta Gerwig's Lady Bird,
which actually based in the town and the year
that I graduated from high school.
Now, that resonates with me specifically,
but that's not why the movie won
best picture and why it's still so many people's favorite movies. It's because it's rooted in
what so many great works of art is in that idea of the coming of age story, another kind of
archetype or myth, a story that you can resonate with however old you are, whatever
your circumstances are, whatever language you're in, whatever race you are, the idea
of a person struggling to become who they are, to make sense of the world, to choose
their path in life, that's also the story that Zeno resonates with Socrates and the
choice of Hercules.
Do I go this way or do I go that way?
And that's why that movie is not just amazing and was trendy and cool in the moment it came
out, but every year it not just retains its resonance, it resonates with a new group of
people who are themselves coming of age.
There's a lovely book by Guy Kawasaki called Enchantment.
We have the same publisher.
This is sort of a perennial title.
It sells every single year.
It's about how you sort of create like this love affair
with your customers and with your branding and marketing.
He worked with Apple and I worked with Canva.
He knows what he's talking about.
I just love to contrast two of Guy's books.
So he writes this book, which is a perennial seller,
and then he also wrote this book,
which is less of a perennial seller.
When you're rooting what you're doing so much in the moment,
you lose the chances of it being time.
I mean, look, if he'd written this about Facebook,
obviously Facebook lasted in a way that Google Plus didn't,
but Facebook or Instagram or Snapchat,
when it was published versus where it is now,
has also changed so much.
So how are you thinking about what you're going after
and what's the half life of the relationship
or the connection or the truth you're speaking to?
Is that going to continue to be true?
What he should have written about,
what I wish I'd written about is,
or what I wish I'd written is of course this book,
one of the bestselling books of all time,
because people get pregnant every day
and they have no idea what to do about it,
and they need a book, right?
And so when you go to these kind of perennial needs,
these things that don't change
as far as the human experience
goes, you've really tapped into something timeless and important and powerful.
As Drake says, it's not about who's popular now, but who's going to be here 10 years from
now and that's what Meditations is.
Mark Ceruleus writes one of the greatest philosophy books of all time.
He's not intending it for it to be published.
He talks over and over again about the worthlessness
of posthumous fame.
He says, because you're not gonna be around to enjoy it.
And he says, also the people in the future
will be just as stupid as the people alive now.
But in making something very specific and very personal,
but also very timeless,
he creates something incredibly universal
and ultimately enduring.
And in chancing upon that book at 20 years old and being so inspired by it and deciding
to root my own writings in that, instead of coming up with something myself, I said, how
can I translate and adjust and popularize these ideas, which are tested and true, I
fell into something that seems timely now, but ultimately is part of this tradition that
goes way, way back.
That's what the obstacle is the way it happened into.
And as I wrap up, I would say one other thing that I want to add to it is like, when you
make something, how do you tell people about it?
Right? What platform do you have to speak to it?
And I was struck by the story of Winston Churchill,
who was thrown out of power after the first World War,
after a number of mistakes,
and he spends roughly 10 years
in what he would call the political wilderness.
But Churchill isn't sitting there passive at all.
In fact, in the course of the 10 years that he spends
out of political power, he writes multiple books, multiple articles, gives hundreds of
speeches and pioneers. He has one of the first, what we would, I guess today, call a syndicated
radio show. And in the course of this radio show reaches millions of people all over the
world. But particularly in America, he builds this enormous platform,
which allows him to promulgate his ideas,
test his ideas, and develop this back and forth
that he ultimately draws on when he comes back to power.
And this form of having a platform,
having distribution through direct access to your customers,
to the people you need to influence,
is one of the most powerful things that you can have,
particularly in this busy, technologically driven world
where you can't buy distribution the way you once could.
And this is ultimately, I think,
not just why my works have gone on and succeeded,
it's not just because they're rooted in something timeless,
but I'm also trying to take advantage
of these very timely technologies.
So I wrote this book called The Daily Stoic,
and I decided at the end of it, you read one page a day.
I said, well, what do you do
after you finish the one page a day?
I, after you get to the 366th entry in the book,
so you gotta write an extra one for a leap year,
because you don't know what year
people are gonna be reading the book in. After you finish the 366th entry, what do you do next? And I
started this email and every day for the last eight years I've sent out the Daily Stoke email, I also
do a parenting one called the Daily Dad. I've sent these emails out for free. So I've written
basically eight or nine books totally for free now that people get piece by piece over email. But
that platform, so it's a podcast version, all these other, that platform is what has allowed
the books to reach all these people all over the world.
We have a YouTube channel where we do a video every day,
we have Instagram, of course,
and all the different platforms that you can imagine.
We're doing stuff, and it's something like,
it's become this almost incredible machine.
We do something like 50 pieces of content
or thousands per month, the vast majority of it is free,
does something like 50 million views a month,
and it's all spreading these ideas,
they're again timeless ideas
in sort of very timely formats or mediums.
And I'm thinking about how am I being a steward
of this philosophy?
How am I not just writing something,
putting it out in the world and hoping people find it,
but actively running and engaging with a community
that I am in direct contact with?
In fact, I started this on my first book.
I just put a little note at the end.
I said, hey, I send out an email every once in a while,
you wanna sign up?
And when I sent it out in my first book,
it had about 10,000 people on it.
The Daily Stoke email now goes out to a million people
every single morning, probably the largest community
of Stokes that have ever existed,
maybe even cumulatively in the last 25 centuries.
And this is something I've built over time.
But it's essential.
Stefan Zweig, a great 20th century novelist,
would say that the most valuable success you can have
as a writer, but I think in any form of art,
or business, or commerce, is a faithful following.
People who look for what you're doing next,
who buy what you make, they're subscribers effectively.
Right, that's what Guy Kawasaki
was talking about with Apple, right?
You'll just buy the next thing from Apple
because they always make amazing stuff.
When you want a car, you go to this dealership
or you buy from that car manufacturer
because you are that, you're a loyal insert, whatever it is.
How do you develop that and how do you have
as few intermediaries between you and that customer as possible? My wife and I, at the beginning of 2020,
we actually broke ground on the first week of March 2020, so it was amazing
timing. We decided to open this small bookstore in the town that we live in.
It's actually called the Painted Porch, which is a nod to Zeno on the Stoa Pochile,
the painted porch in the Athenian Agora.
We decided to open this small bookstore
because I didn't like the idea that when you write a book,
you sell it to a publisher who in turn sells it
to a wholesaler, who in turn sells it to Amazon
or other bookstores.
I wanted to go as direct as possible.
So we opened this little bookstore in the town we live in. It's been quite an experience. It took
longer than expected. It cost more than expected. You know, it was a lot. Elon
Musk, who moved all his stuff to this little town also, so that's been an
interesting wrinkle in it. He said that starting a business is like eating glass
and staring into the abyss of death. It was definitely like that, you know?
But coming out of the other side,
it's been this wonderful experience.
I, of course, had to remember the obstacle is the way.
I didn't control what happened.
I controlled how I respond to what happens.
And I wrote this note card to myself
as I was looking out over this
seemingly disastrous decision to open the bookstore
in the middle of a pandemic.
And I said, look, this is a test.
Will it make you a better person or a worse person?
Will it make you better or worse?
That's what it means when we say that the obstacle
is the way, that's what Zeno is saying.
Hey, yeah, sure, I lost the family business.
I don't get to be a die merchant anymore.
But it opened up this new door.
It took me in a new direction.
I became better for what I went through.
And the bookstore did open.
My wife and I are still married, so that's a success.
And we had to, of course, reimagine
what a bookstore would be.
We learned a whole bunch of interesting lessons
along the way, and we're always pivoting and changing.
But the idea is, here we are in this space,
this bookstore, this building that's well over a hundred years old doing what a business that is
thousands of years old if if Zeno's bumping into a bookseller in the Agora.
And we have to take advantage of things like e-commerce and of course you know
sometimes we piss people off because they don't accept cash. It's only only
use credit cards. But but so we want to take advantage of the current things,
but also root it in the timeless things.
And most of all though, it is a direct relationship
between me and my fans.
When I have a book coming out, I don't say,
hey, go buy this from a multi-billion dollar conglomerate,
please.
I say, hey, you can buy it from me and I'll sign your copy.
And then when I put out the next book,
I know who my fans are because we have an exchange.
We have a relationship.
We do business with each other as opposed to having all
these intermediaries between you and the people
who like what you do.
And yeah, sometimes that means I have to take them
to the post office to ship,
which isn't always the most fun, but I'm reminding myself what this is doing is it's
rooting me, it's connecting me to the people that I want to have not just a short-term
transactional relationship with, but a long-term relationship, one that lasts over the course,
not just of my writing career, but their lives as well. And as I said, the town's growing faster than ever,
so that's nice.
But success brings its own obstacles and difficulties.
And the idea in Stoicism is that does this
make you better or worse?
How do you adapt and adjust to that?
And as I wrap up here, I would just
say, look, making something that lasts for a few minutes
or a few weeks or a year, it's difficult.
Making something that lasts for 20 years or 100 years,
also difficult.
But why do it if it's not gonna last?
Why do it if it has an expiration date on it?
Art, life and work, it's all difficult.
Try to make it as not ephemeral as you can.
Try to make it as enduring and sustaining as you can.
You might as well do it right.
You might as well root it in what is timeless and true
and significant and meaningful.
That's what I'm trying to do with the bookstore.
It's just a reminder that life is very brief, right?
There are other things I could do that would make more money
than opening a bookstore in 2021.
I understand that.
But it's meaningful to me. It's what I want to
spend my time and energy on. Because ultimately, the Stokes would say that life is brief, but
art is long. And as some of the businesses we're talking about here and some of your
businesses, it can last for a very long time. So thank you all very much. I appreciate it.
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