The Daily Stoic - This Is A Tragedy | Be Stingy With Time

Episode Date: December 2, 2024

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do a deeper dive setting a kind of stoic intention for the week, something to meditate on something to think on something to leave you with to journal about whatever it is you happen to be doing. So let's get into it. This is a tragedy. We got together with family, we reminded ourselves what was important. We enjoyed the bounties of the earth. Perhaps when we took the rolls out of the oven, we noted as

Marx Relius does in meditations, the way the bread cracks open on top, a nod to nature's inadvertence. We gave thanks. That's what we do on Thanksgiving. And then the next day, millions of us disregarded all of our appreciation for the good things we've been given in life, food and family and friends, to lose ourselves in a frenzy of Black Friday and Cyber Monday deals. We traded in stillness and family time for fighting over a spot in line

to get a new flat screen television. We should have instead followed the advice that Mark Strelius often gave himself to actively help others, to lend a hand, to do his part. The great fortune of this life, he says, at one point in Meditations is not just that he himself has never known serious want, but that he's always been lucky enough

to help other people who needed it. The world held up its part of the deal, so he tried to do the same. That's why for the fifth year in a row now, instead of doing a Cyber Monday sale or a Black Friday deal with Daily Stoic, we're inviting you to help someone else rather than overindulge yourself.

You got a day of fullness, you've been blessed. So let's now be a blessing. Many people aren't feeling full at all right now. They're experiencing the exact opposite. They're hungry, they're food insecure, and this is a tragedy, but it's also an opportunity and an obligation. It's our duty to help others, to serve others,

the Stoics would say, to demonstrate those virtues of courage and justice towards and for and through others. And that's why we've been doing these annual food drives for Daily Stoic every year. We kicked it off on Thursday. Last year, the Daily Stoic community came together with Feeding America and provided 2.1 million meals. We didn't quite get to our goal of 3 million, so we're doubling down. We're trying to do that again this year.

And I'm going to personally put up the first 30,000 bucks. That's 300,000 meals right there to try to get to this goal of 3 million. Every dollar we raise provides 10 meals. We can't fix food insecurity and global hunger for everyone right now, not yet. But we can make a serious dent in a very big problem. And I'd love to invite you to help us, right?

Even just put up a dollar, that's all you gotta put up. Dailystoic.com slash feeding, that's the link. You can see all the other stoics who are contributing. I'm just so proud of this. It's one of my favorite things that's come out of Daily Stoic and I hope you can participate. I'm just calling for everyone to be a good stoic today, prove that you don't just listen to it,

don't just talk about this philosophy. But we live it. DailyStoic.com slash feeding, we're going to keep it open. Let's do something good today. If you live outside the US, you can check out Action Against Hunger. It's a global humanitarian organization that fights against hunger across nearly 50 countries. And I'll link to that in today's show notes, or you can just go to dailystoic.com slash feeding, donate a dollar, donate 50 cents, just donate something. Every dollar you donate provides 10 meals. So let's do it, let's do it big, let's get after it. Be stingy with time. This is from today's entry in the Daily Stoic Journal, 366 Days of Writing and Reflection on the Art of Living by yours truly, Ryan Holiday.

One of the most common sayings we hear, and you might have said this yourself, is that life is short. And it is, but as Seneca remarked, it's pretty long if you know how to use it. And the first step to that is not giving so much of this time away to other people. Being miserly about our time is a powerful exercise

which can keep us from squandering the one truly non-renewable resource. What in your life consumes a lot of time for no good purpose? What amusements consumes a lot of time for no good purpose? What amusements or desires consume our time without giving us a good return? As you review that list, make a commitment to doing something about it. Life is short after all, and you don't have much to spare. Seneca says, we're all the geniuses of history to focus on a single theme that

could never fully express their bafflement at the darkness, the human mind. No person would give even an inch of their estate or the slightest dispute with a neighbor can mean hell to pay. Yet we easily let others encroach on our lives. Worse, we often pave the way for those who will take it over. No person would hand out their money to a passerby, but how many of us hand out our lives? We're tight-fisted with our property and money, and yet we think too little of wasting time. The one thing we should all be the toughest misers about, that's Seneca on the shortness of life. It is not that we all have too short a time to live, Seneca says, but that we squander

a great deal of it. Life is long enough, and it's given in sufficient measure to do many great things if we spend it well. But when it's poured down the drain of luxury and neglect, when it's employed to no good end, we're finally driven to see that it is passed by without us even recognizing it's passing. So it is, we don't receive short life, we make it so. Or as I've also heard it rendered by Seneca, it's not that life is short, it's that we waste a lot of it. And this all comes from his wonderful essay on the shortness of life, which you should absolutely read.

It's a very powerful essay. It's worth rereading a couple of times a year, This all comes from his wonderful essay on the shortness of life, which you should absolutely read. It's a very powerful essay. It's worth rereading a couple of times a year, to be quite frank. But I was thinking about this recently. I'd serve two good examples. Number one, trying to get this television delivered. And anyone who's been trying to buy furniture or televisions or anything recently knows just how messed up the supply chains and logistics are.

But anyways, it was supposed to come and then it didn't come. So I messaged the people and then it was supposed to come the next day. So I messaged the people. Then I had to contact Amazon about it and then they said they were going to do it and then I got past her. Anyways, I'm spending time after time after time. And then at some point someone promised me a $200 credit on this TV, which is, you know, I'm free $200, not bad. But it occurred to me that one, I'd already objectively spent more than $200 of my

time on this thing, like what an hour of my time is worth. But also if you just asked me, hey, would you spend $200 more on the TV and not have to go through this? I would have taken that option as well. And I had to wrestle with how much energy am I going to spend trying to get this $200 credit that may or may not ever exist, the TV from these people may or may not ever be able to chase down. And so, of course, if someone stole $200 from me, I'd be very upset, right? If they overcharged me $200 for this TV, I'd have been upset. But I'm willing to spend $200 of my time to either get this credit or to get this TV.

And that's what we do. We waste our time. We value money and property, as Seneca is saying. But time is this thing that we assume we have an unlimited amount of because no one I don't know it's just crazy and then I think about this with the bookstore which I love and I'm so proud of but people come by and they want to say hi you know and I think sometimes people think it's rude that I won't run downstairs to see everyone that's that's here and I can't do that right because not only do I have work but if I did that for every single person I would never have time. I'd use up all my time. I could spend almost the entire

day doing that and so when Seneca talks about being a miser, miser if you're not familiar with that word, miser is like someone who's tight-fisted with money. It's like a cheap person. But he's saying you have to be cheap with your time. You can't give it away. Yes, you should be kind and treat people well and not be rude about it and not be self-absorbed, but you have to be a bit of a miser with your time because you're gonna have to hurt people's feelings or not give them everything they want.

When you say no, you're going to have to say no sometimes. And that's not fun. But I always try to remind myself when I'm saying no to one person, I am also saying yes to something else. And conversely, when I'm saying yes to some inquiry, I'm also saying no to someone or something else. Right. And that's just the struggle that we're on. And if you have kids, if you have a spouse, if you have work that's

important, if you have potential you're trying to fulfill, if you're just trying to get better at yourself, it's gonna mean being tight-fisted with your time. It's gonna mean saying no to people. And that's just how it goes. That's just how it goes. And so just how it goes. And so I would urge everyone to take a minute, value, try to think about what an hour of your time is worth, right?

Try to think about things that you can take off your plates and get that time back. But then think about what you are frivolously spending your time on and if that's worth it. What are the rote tasks, the things that you do tasks the things that you do the things that you go? Oh you put off and you dread doing them What are those things? Why are you still doing them? Do you need to be doing them and at the end of your life when you go man that flew by? I wish I had just one more day to do X, one more hour to do X, right?

Are you gonna look back and be like, well, I am glad that I spent X many hours doing this. Think about your commute, right? How many hours you're gonna spend doing that? Think about how many hours you spend in meetings. Think about how many hours you spend on ridiculous trivialities, right? I think what I like to point out

with Seneca's thing about neighbors is like, yeah, if your neighbor's encroached on your property, you would object. But if your neighbor came over and just wanted to gossip about nonsense, you would indulge that, right? And that's not a good idea. You have to be miserly with your time.

Not selfish, not cruel, not indifferent to other people's time, of course, but a bit miserly with your time, not selfish, not cruel, not indifferent to other people's time, of course, but a bit miserly with your own time and be stingy with it, as they said. And I'll cut this episode short so I'm not taking up too much of your time, but you get the point. Hey, it's Ryan.

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