The Daily Stoic - This Is What It Gave You | Learn, Practice, Train

Episode Date: May 19, 2025

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["Piano Sonata No. 1 in C major, Op. 11, No. 2 in C major"] Learn, practice, train. This is today's entry, May 19th from the Daily Stoic. And the first quote comes to us from Epictetus 2.19 in the Discourses. "'That's why philosophers warn us not to be satisfied with mere learning, but to add practice and then training, he says, for as time passes, we forget what we learned

and end up doing the opposite and hold opinions the opposite of what we should hold. And then we meditate, very few people can simply watch an instructional video or hear something explained and then know backward and forward how to do it. Most of us actually have to do something several times in order to truly learn.

One of the hallmarks of the martial arts, military training, athletic training of almost any kind is the hours upon hours of monotonous practice. An athlete at the highest level will train for years to perform movements that can last mere seconds or less. The two minute drill, how to escape from a chokehold, the perfect jumper, simply knowing isn't enough. It must be absorbed into the muscles in the body,

must become part of us, or we risk losing it the second we experience stress or difficulty. And this is true with philosophical principles as well. You can't just hear something once and expect to rely on it when the world is crashing down around us. Remember, Mark Cirulis wasn't writing his meditations for other people.

He was actively meditating for himself. Even as a successful wise and experienced man, he was until the last days of his life, practicing and training to do the right thing. Like a black belt, he was still showing up to the dojo do the right thing. Like a black belt, he was still showing up to the dojo every day to rule. Like a professional athlete,

he still showed up to practice each week, even though others thought it was unnecessary. Admiral James Stavridis, he's sort of framework for responding well to the Crucible of Decision. And he says that you have to prepare in advance, right? In the military, you don't rise to the occasion, you sink to the level of your training. You have to meditate on this stuff

over and over and over again. And he says two big things. He says, one, you have to know what you believe. You have to know your standards. He talks about sailing true north. He's basically saying, what's true north? What do you believe? What do you ascribe to?

And that's partly why we study the Stoics, to learn what we hold sacred or dear, what the right thing is. And he says, you also have to know yourself, what you're capable of, what your weaknesses are, what your tendencies are, what your biases are. So then in that moment of stress or difficulty or pressure, you know what you need to think about,

what you need to turn to, what you default to. Epictetus says that the key of stoicism is so that when life hits you with stuff, you're able to say, this is what I trained for. And I think Epictetus is reminding us though that it's not a single preparation. That if you prepare once, the second you stop, entropy is working on that preparation.

There's an expiration date to it. They have to constantly be updating and reinforcing and adding and reevaluating and going over it, over it, over it. And that's what meditations is to me. It's Marcus Aurelius saying stuff that he already knows. He knows this stuff. He's studied it a bazillion times. He's heard it a billion times, but he's playing his scales each morning. He's reviewing his note cards before the test each day, right? He's going back over the advice from his father and stepfather and mentors and heroes. He's getting it fresh in his mind. He's reminding

himself of who he is, what he needs to do, what true north is. So that in those moments of crisis, in his case, a war, a flood, a coup, all this stuff, he was there. And think about Epictetus, right? First off, he studies and learns stochism while he's a slave, becomes a philosopher. But then, right, exile comes for him and he has to go through that again.

If he hadn't been preparing and thinking and talking, keeping these thoughts at hand, that's the other stoke idea, to write these things down, talk about them, post them up, go through it over and over and over again. Keep it top of mind. That's what this is about. That's what we're doing here at Daily Stoke. That's why this is a daily practice. That's why I wrote the daily book. That's why the journal is there. It's about the daily practice and the daily training of it. And I hope you avail yourself of it. So when that moment comes, when you find yourself in the crucible of decision you can do what you need to do you can meet destiny as it hopes you

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