The Daily Stoic - Time is Racing Toward Us | Pete Holmes on The Real Point of Philosophy

Episode Date: April 20, 2026

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New subscribers only varies by plan. Must order the third box by May 31st, 2026. People think philosophy is like this way of, is this riddle that, like, tricks you into thinking you don't exist, right? There is no self. How do you know you exist? And you go, what am I supposed to do with this information? Right, right?

But philosophy is actually more like your words hurt me. And then a stoic goes, how, though? Like, show me how. Yeah, yeah, yeah. What Rupert Spire would say is, on whose behalf are you protesting? Yeah. Like, show me that. They're just getting you.

I think, obviously, it can be intellectually interesting to sort of take this all the way down to, like, how do we know we're not living in a simulation? But for most of us, it should just be more like, yeah, why am I taking offense to this? Or, like, why am I said I have to do this? Like, my therapist sometimes corrects me. and she goes, no, no, what you make up about this is. Yeah. Not this is. Realizing like, oh, no, no, the thing just is something.

And then I have an opinion about that thing. And most of the time, a lot of the time, that opinion is making me feel shitty or insecure. It's almost always making feel less thing. And so it's like if philosophy is about helping me with that, and then maybe there's some professional mystics who can take it all the way to the actually nothing is permanent, nothing's ever lasted. How do we know? You know, start with the mental tricks to help you just live better. Yeah. You're not going to just suddenly be questioning the purpose of everything and everyone.

Right. I actually think going to the door, the closed door, saying, like, we all live in a simulation or there is no self or everything is a dream or whatever. Is there really such thing is right and wrong? Yeah, sure. That's just going, that's just kind of like an amusement ride. Yes. And I think, if I'm going to use a spiritual term here, but the ego, the separate self uses that to just seem important.

It's the same thing as wearing a Raiders jersey and being like, I'm like these guys. Their strength is my strength. And when I go, this is a simulation, you're just kind of bolstering the fake thing by going like, you didn't fool me. The purpose of what you would call philosophy, what I would call mysticism, who cares? Yeah. Is actually to go through that door and to realize that what you seek is only veiled by the seeking of. of it. So when we're looking for peace and happiness, this is all Rupert Spira, by the way, which one of these has to be him. I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding. The nature of your being,

the nature of awareness is peace. It's the lack of agitation. It's the lack of yearning. It's the lack of seeking. It's the lack of resisting. And then the mind gets activated and we start seeking. Oh, I hope this podcast goes well. That's fine. That's dance. That's a play. But it does kind of kind of rob me of my nature. So receding back, philosophy for the sake of knowing what's going on and then flexing that for people is stupid when realizing anything that points you to the nature of the self, the only self there is, being peace, patience, kindness, happiness, joy, that's valuable. I know it's stupid to step back into our mind and be like, that's valuable.

But I did that this morning. I was having a crummy morning. Crummy. And I, you know, I started my day reading Rupert, and it reminded me that it was like, it's my seeking for a good day that's keeping me from. The analogy that he uses is, it's like consciousness or awareness is the screen and this is the movie. And there's no peace for the characters in the movie. They'll eat sandwiches and feel happy sometimes. They'll get hit by a car and be sad other times.

But it's completely in flux all the time. What isn't in flux? The screen. Let's find the screen. Go to the experience of being aware. And don't say, I don't know how to find my being. You're having that experience right now. It's not esoterra.

It's go to it. I promise you know how to. That's going to the screen. That's step one. Step two is what is the nature of the screen. Right. And the nature of the screen, just like a screen, is spacious. To me, successful spirituality is how spacious are you,

not how good are you at winning a debate or whatever. By spacious, do you just mean like, chill? What do you mean by space? Allowing. Yeah. The nature of the screen, you could say the nature of God, is this yes. It's this, it's almost offensive how yes it is. Yeah.

And when we realize that we are that yes, I'll give you an example. I took an Uber here and the guy was listening to Christian Rock, which happens a lot in Texas. And I'm only a little embarrassed to admit that it can be a little triggering to me. Yeah. Because I grew up in that world and whatever. Those were good meaning people,

but it didn't do me a lot of favors. It kind of confused me and scared me. So when I hear that music, I used to sing that music, I used to lead the worship team. I'm listening to it, and I'm like, and I'm like, no, this is just, like, let's just try to say,

be with what it actually is. And this is the other thing that came to mind. I'm reading nonviolent communication. I actually guess I could say I've read it. There's a little bit left. And he tells a story that really changed. I have other examples of it, but it was a good one. He tells two stories of getting hit in the nose.

Maybe you heard me say this on my podcast. He got elbowed in the nose twice in the same week. Same force, same blood, same everything. One time it hurt like the dickens, the other time it did. It didn't hurt. Same exact fracture. And he was like the first time, he was breaking up a fight both times, the first time the kid he was pulling off the other kid, he hated this kid. Yeah. This kid was a shit, a bad student, just a smart ass, and I'd rubbed this guy the wrong way.

He hit him in the nose and it really hurt. Right. The second time, it was this sweet kid that he actually had a lot of love and compassion for because he saw that he was kind of picked on and his heart was open to him, got elbowed by this kid. that's how fast the brain will build a story. Right, the interpretation of this person did it because they're bad and this person did it as an accident. And that's what I mean. It's like, do you want to use this powerful tool to interpret everything down to a kind of nothingness or nihilism? Or do you just want to do it so you're not taking shit so personally anymore?

I'm just saying most people just take the 80, the most effective 80% of the thing and leave the 20% of the people who are really into it. Don't let the sort of mystic woo-woo part of it confuse you or deter you from the fact that the bulk of this is very practical and very helpful in the force of your normal life where you have a job and kids and you're not a monk at a silent meditation retreat. I would say that last 20% is bolstering yourself to the point where you can convince other people of it and win debates. And then how silly is that? And I'm guilty of this all the time. you've bolstered up something that you just spent all that time convincing yourself doesn't exist. Yeah. And Eckhart Tolle talks about that.

It's like monks bowing to each other on meditation retreats. That is, that's a little candy. Yes. Your special, I bow to you. But also, to your point, let's not get gunked up too much. There's this, I think it's roomy. He's like, it's going to be a terrible paraphrase, but he's like, you're in the orchard. Yeah.

Stop asking who planted the orchard and just eat some apples. That's a terrible paraphrase. In meditation, Marcus Roses talks about that. He says, you don't have to delve into everything that lies beneath. You can just kind of. And I think there's something, Nietzsche was not always a big fan of the Stoics, but he said sometimes the Stoics were superficial out of profundity. And there's something about just kind of staying on the surface that's like,

hey, I got hit in the nose. Or, hey, I like this apple. I don't need to know why it came here, who planted it. or just like, hey, the stock market went down today, not the stock market went down, and now my portfolio is fucked, and now I have to work longer. And then, by the way, why did this happen? It happened because of this policy. And it's these idiots who voted for this.

It's just like, it's just news. Accept it as information and move on. And if you heard that it happened to someone else, you'd be like, it is what it is. But what happens to you, you just need so much more in the way of explanation and then you need to ruminate on it. and you're not really doing yourself any favors. That's an epiphany anew, at least once a month, where I go, oh, my God, when it's me, it seems to be so meaning.

Like when you're having an issue, I'm like, Ryan, you're just the screen. Like when it's happening to me, I'm like, this is urgent. That's why, like, I'm with you, everything we've said, what my teacher, Rupert Spira, teaches is called the Pathless Path, meaning it's not even a path, meaning it's not even something we need to explain. It's whenever, anytime, good times, bad times, just kind of quietly keep a tether in the fact that you are the screen, not to have some sort of afterlife reward

or the thrill of being smarter than everybody. Or like me listening to the Christian music and being like, I find this theologically unsound. Good for you, Pete.