The Daily Stoic - Was Nero Really That Bad?

Episode Date: May 23, 2026

Was Nero really that bad, or has history been telling the same story for 2,000 years without asking who started it? In today’s episode, Ryan looks at the myths, accusations, and contradictions behind Nero’s reputation, and asks whether he was really a monster, a scapegoat, or a warning. 📚 Books Mentioned: Nero: Emperor and Court by John F. DrinkwaterDying Every Day: Seneca at the Court of Nero by James RommLives of the Stoics by Ryan Holiday🎙️ Check out the full episodes:Bert Kreischer on The Daily Stoic Podcast | Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTubeJames Romm on The Daily Stoic Podcast | Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTubeWhy Narcissistic Leaders Always Fail (In The End)Anthony Everitt on The Daily Stoic Podcast🎶 Song: Unexplored Moon by Miguel Johnson🎙️ AD-FREE | Support the podcast and go deeper into Stoicism by subscribing to The Daily Stoic Premium - unlock ad-free listening, early access, and bonus content: https://dailystoic.supercast.com/🎥 VIDEO EPISODES | Watch the video episodes on The Daily Stoic YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@DailyStoic/videos✉️ FREE STOIC WISDOM | Want Stoic wisdom delivered to your inbox daily? Sign up for the FREE Daily Stoic email at https://dailystoic.com/dailyemailSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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There are very few people for whom the name Nero brings up positive associations. It's a name that at this point has almost entirely negative connotations, right? There's even that famous expression, right? Fiddling while Rome burns, which is a burn laid out. at the feet of Nero, that during the fire of Rome, Nero supposedly fiddled and watched it all happen. That this is what bad leaders do. This is what indifferent, cruel, uncaring people do.

Even in the ancient world, there were rumors that Nero set the fire on purpose to clear out undesirable so he could build a bigger palace. Now, why does Nero have such a terrible reputation and is it deserved? I think we can all concede that a lot of what we know about Nero, and this is true for a lot of historical figures, including Seneca, who worked for Nero.

And a lot of what we know about him comes from people who didn't like him. Enemies, critics, historians writing after he was dead, who maybe had political agendas. So does Nero get a fair shake? Was he the villain that history has turned him into? Actually, this was a question that Smithsonian Magazine wrote about at length in 2020. The article, I remember reading it when it came out, it said, the new nicer Nero. And basically, the article challenges this reputation of Nero as a self-indulgent tyrant who, again, fiddled while Rome burned. And they claim that most of this reputation was shaped by hostile ancient sources, Tacitus and Soutonius.

And then, of course, the Christians who were opposed to Nero because of his cruel treatment of them. And then later that this reputation was continually reinforced in each subsequent generation and novels and plays in films, like for 2,000 years, this guy who certainly wasn't perfect, but perhaps wasn't as bad as people said, was turned into a caricature of a caricature of a caricature. And there are no shortage of modern scholars, namely John Drinkwater, who wrote a book called Nero, Emperor and Court, who claimed that much of what we've been told about Nero, Emperor and Court, who claimed that much of what we've been told about Nero, is exaggerated or misleading. If you go out into the street and ask someone to name a Roman emperor, it's almost certain that they'll say Nero. And most people just won't know why. He's become such a character that he's just an epitome of evil.

What has struck me in researching Nero is that people love evil. There's no doubt about it. And if you want a really bad, nasty character, this is Nero. The question is, really, do professional Roman historians believe this anymore? I mean, it's out there, but do professional historians really believe it? Can we say it's true? And the answer is no. Very little of it is in fact true.

So this popular Nero is not the Nero we know. And it is because of the way that the science of ancient history developed, that what this picture I'm giving you is the picture of a group of ancient sources. There are some Roman sources, Latin sources, Greek sources, but there are also Christian sources and Jewish sources. And these sources combine to give this hugely huge, negative picture of Nero. Now, what modern historians have done,

whether people like it or not, is to look at this information and to look at it forensically, to pretend that these sources, the author of these sources, are in court. And so you start probing, why are they saying this? And the answer is, really,

that they are biased in many ways. The main Latin and brick sources, their names are Tacitus Suetonius and Cassius Dio. They all come from a particular level of society. They're all aristocrats. The Roman aristocrats were against this system that Nero was head of anyway. And to some degree, they've all suffered from it. So they don't like anyone in Nero's position. And it doesn't matter if it was just Nero, that they're against.

against anyone who's in the top position. I think once this bad Nero is in circulation, you can't get rid of it. My wife and I often discuss what makes a classic. And the classic is something, a novel, in particular, or a play or a film, that once it's there, can be distorted in any number of ways. I mean, there are a number of ways that Alice in Wonderland has been portrayed.

I mean, there are ways for kids, are some very dark ways for adults. They're umpteen ways in which Sherlock Holmes has been portrayed, right? Once this model is in circulation, people can do with it what they want. And this Nero model, the evil Nero, is so useful. I mean, he's attractive in this curious way because people love to hate.

He can be used as a model of, of the tyrant. And the different sources, you know, as they're trying to rehabilitate Nero's reputation or trying to mitigate some of the claims, they'll come at it from a couple of angles. Like, okay, maybe he was poorly suited for the role, but not like a psychopath. That he was a young man thrust into power. And most young emperors didn't do a good job. Or they'll say that, you know, he actually did a great job allowing competent administrators

to govern the empire while he, focused on his interests. They'll try to break down each of the individual crimes that have been blamed on him and try to knock down this one or that one. Maybe they'll even point to the fact that he responded apparently decently well to the Great Fire of 64 AD, that he organized relief efforts, that there were some reforms after, and, you know, they'll point out that he wasn't actually fiddling. And then they'll look at some of the political murders, like his brother and his mother and go, well, he wasn't the only one. In fact, Athena Doreus and Arias didomus, as I talk about in Lives of the Stoics, had Octavian, the first emperor of Rome, get rid of

his half-brother Cesarian. So they're saying that Nero is not a monster or a saint, but a complex historical figure whose reputation was shaped by these hostile historical facts, rather than by, like, the actual evidence. And look, I myself have pized. on to Nero over the years. We did a YouTube video in 2024 about narcissistic leaders and why they always fail in the end. And this is what I said about Nero. The great biographer of power, Robert Caro, talks about how power doesn't corrupt. He says that's too simple. He says, what it does is it reveals. He says power doesn't corrupt. Power reveals. And what we see And Nero is not, the easy narrative of Nero is that he is corrupted as he gives power.

But it's actually more a process of the varnish coming off, the real Nero emerging. As Nero stops listening to his advisors, as he gets rid of his mother, as he dispatches anyone and everyone who could tell him what to do, the real Nero comes out. And it's not a competent Nero. It's not a open-minded Nero. It's a delusional. It's a vein. It's an egotistical Nero, and thus his collapse and his descent into evil was in this way inevitable.

One of the things that power reveals about Nero is something that's very true about most egotistical people, which is they're actually beneath what seems like confidence profoundly insecure and paranoid. And Nero is perhaps believing somehow not legitimately the emperor, perhaps knowing that he is hopelessly outmatched and unqualified for this job. And then the very real dangers of having. things that other people want. Nero is paranoid that people are out to get him. And slowly but surely, he creates circumstances in which he's able to get rid of his enemies, including his own mother, whom he assassinations. He finds her unbearable, so he gets rid of her. He gets rid of a distant cousin

because, you know, he hears of a meteor or a comet and he takes this as a sign that this guy's out to get him. I mean, he's just wildly exaggerating all these dangers. and as he gets rid of potential challengers after challenger, Seneca has to remind him, he says, you know, Nero, it's impossible for you to eliminate every one of your successors. He was making ultimately a very basic stoic point that we all die eventually and someone takes our place. But it's when his paranoia is empowered by his position

when suddenly he has the power of life and death over people, then he begins to leave this immense trail of bodies behind him. He just can't stomach the idea of anyone one day replacing him, even though inevitably, invariably, that was going to happen anyway. Although some Christians would later blame Nero for starting the great fire of Rome, he probably didn't, and he probably didn't fiddle while it burned. But like all incompetent overmatched leaders, Nero is not able in the moment of a crisis to do the job, right?

he's not able to properly direct fighting of the fire. And then once it's done, he uses this as a pretext for these enormous and vain building projects that he'd long have in mind. And instead of also taking responsibility for having screwed up, instead of using a tragedy to bring people together, you know, he scapegoats the Christians and begins a wave of persecutions that would last for hundreds of years. You really see, as Robert Green was saying, leader's true character in a crisis. And you see ultimately what a fragile, weak, and scared little man, Nero was. There is this whole group of Stoics that would become known as the Stoic opposition. And they find Nero to be repugnant. Although Seneca fancies himself the adult in the room,

the moderating influence on Nero, the other Stoics, Stoics like Gaius Ploutis, Thrasia, Helvidius. There's a number of Stoics who just refuse to go along with Nero. They defy him. They are what you might call the resistance. Nero just can't handle anyone not rubber stamping what he is doing. He can't stand that there's anyone or anything that disagrees with him that wants to challenge him. And so they get locked in this cycle of conflict. He doesn't like that there's a Stoic named Agrippinus who has a sort of hereditary,

hatred of emperors, Tacitus tells us. He just doesn't like that Agrippinus won't come to his parties. He just, he can't wrap his head around people not wanting to celebrate and love him. He thinks this is something he's entitled to rather than something he has to earn. Helvidius, one of the Stoics, is banished for having said something positively about Brutus, the killer of Caesar. Nero takes this somehow indirectly as a threat. Paranoia is just spitting him. out of control. Ultimately, Nero is just incompetent. He just doesn't have the stuff. This is the problem with hereditary rulers, but he doesn't do the work to be qualified to do this job. He doesn't take it seriously. And as he's piling up bodies after a body of critics of his regime, there's a story

about one conspirator against Nero who's put to death. And as he stares out into the grave, they're about to throw him in, he says, this too is not up to code. It was an embodiment of everything. that was wrong with Nero, it's not just that he was cruel, it's that he was bad at being in charge. Nero's greatest enemy is this stoic named Thrasia. And basically the source of their disagreement is that Thracia insists on truth and justice and reality that he tries to be good at his job. And this inevitably puts him on a collision course with Nero. He's a guy that says, this is not normal, that there's something wrong with this guy,

that this doesn't make sense. And so when Nero wants to shower his new wife with honors, Thrasia doesn't want to go along with it. When Drassia saw corruption, he called it out. But this was in parcel of what Nero wanted on what his regime sat on. And so they were inevitably going to be enemies. Nero's sycophants whispered that he has to kill Thrasia. He says, the country in its eagerness for discord is now talking of you, Nero.

One man whispered into his ear, they're talking of you and Thrasia as at once talked of Caesar and Cato. Cato was a hero, and Nero couldn't handle a hero existing, so he has to get rid of him. Nero expresses his displeasure to Thrasia. He expects him to throw himself at him, beg to be forgiven. Instead, Thrasia says, if you think I'm guilty of something, name your charges. Acuse me out in the open. And ultimately, they bring Thrasia up on these false charges, and he, is executed. We're told that some of his last words are,

Nero can kill me, but he cannot harm me, meaning that he refused to be corrupted by and degraded by Nero, even though Nero did have the power and life of life and death over him. But as it does for all gangsters and tyrants and bullies, eventually the support for Nero arose. And it erodes slowly and then all at once. Ultimately, Nero has to kill Seneca as well, and he sends goons to dispatch the man who had raised him, basically like a son.

And as everyone wept and cried in Seneca's house, Seneca stopped him. And he goes, why is this surprising to you? He said, who knew not Nero's cruelty? He said, look at all the other terrible things he's done to people close to him. He said, what's left for him to take me out too? It had always been there. Who Nero was was always there. Power just enabled it.

Nero had driven himself into a wicked downward spiral. He descended into madness. And eventually the Stoic opposition applies enough pressure. But of course, even at the end, Nero was a coward. He couldn't take responsibility. He couldn't take ownership. He couldn't go out like a man. One of the members of the Praetorian Guard,

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And sometimes, you know, I talk about this in the wisdom book, the idea of steel manning the case. So instead of letting Nero be a character, really argue a positive case for Nero. Because I think when you do that, you find, okay, some of the charges are spurious and some of the charges are ridiculous. but not all of them are. And when you lay it all out, I think there are some indisputable indications that he's a decent stand-in for all that is bad about bad leaders.

And there are other scholars who have dived in to Nero. What made him tick, was he really as good or bad as they think? I interviewed one on the podcast when we were just getting started. Let's start with Nero, because you,

seem to be the most qualified person I could ask this question, which I remain fascinated with. So bear with me a historical parallel. Marcus Aurelius loses his father when he's young. He has a very influential, strong mother influence in his life. He's then introduced pretty early on to a philosophy teacher, one who teaches him and introduces him to stoicism. As a teenager, he is put in line for the throne, and then eventually he becomes emperor. Nero loses his father early on, has a strong motherly influence in his life,

is introduced to Stoic philosophy, set in line for the throne, and then their stories wildly diverge. What happened? I think there are just different people. I mean, the two similar lines, and underneath that, and the thing about Nero is that he had a very, very,

problematic childhood, because he had this terrible mother, Agrippina, the mother from hell, really, because she wanted to push him forward, pushing forward and pushing forward, like those mothers who want their daughters to go to dance classes and become ballerinas. So it was very much like that. As he grew up in his teens, Nero decided that he didn't really like public life. What he really wanted to be was a professional musician, based above all, in the cultural capital city of the Western world, then Alexandria. That's what he really wanted to do.

And you can see his reign as not so much an attempt to implement the biceps of the stoicism, but more really to break away from the thought which his mother had laid for her. So this complicated picture of Nero is one that I think as a historical nerd I'm fascinated by, but I'll tell you who I was not expecting to nerd out about it with. When Bert Kreischer, the comedian, came on the podcast, he was promoting his new show Freebert, which was really funny. He and I were talking about Stoicism, and, you know, I think he'd heard about it from social media, and he'd heard about it from Tom Segura.

But I didn't know that he was a bit of a history nerd, too, because all of a sudden, we were just way down the Nero rabbit hole. And here's where that ended up going. I don't know if you know anything about Nero, but Nero's insane. Do I know anything about Nero? Are you kidding me? So Nero never, never danced while Rome burned to the ground. He didn't play the fiddle.

Play the fiddle. He didn't play the fiddle. He didn't do anything when it burned. He was the worst. No, no, no. So hang on. I get really hung up on Nero. Okay.

So here's what happened, okay? I did not think this was going to go in this direction. So Nero was a pretty, pretty good fucking emperor. Hang on. Okay. Let me just say, okay. Give me your tape.

Okay, so he's a pretty good emperor, and he lasted for a while. Yes. And the guy that came up next, he didn't really do anything and he kind of disappeared. He's like the Jimmy Carter of emperors, right? The next guy was the Gerald Ford of emperors. And then the third guy, Ronald Reagan, was like, dude, we got to let them forget about fucking Nero so I can carve my own path. So he goes, yo, let's retrofit the Nero fiddled while Rome burned so that we can remember him as a piece of shit. And that's what they were trying to do to George Bush.

No, I'm kidding. But that's what they did, Nero so that this guy could, because I listen, I listen to a lot of stuff, but I barely take in. He seemed like he took a lot in. And so that's what I heard about Nero. Okay. So basically, Seneca is in exile. The emperor Claudius is deranged. And he thinks that Seneca is having an affair with his sister.

And so he banishes Seneca. Seneca gets sent into exile to the island of Corsica, which is off the coast of Italy. It's where Napoleon's from. Yeah. So he's stuck in this rock in the middle of the ocean. He hates it. And he finally, he gets a letter. You can come back to Rome.

It's from this woman, if you tutor my son. And her son is Nero. So he gets called back in exchange for tutoring this young kid who's almost certainly going to become the emperor one day. And Nero's smart. Nero's promising. He seems like a good kid. Seneca teaches him everything he knows.

And then Nero does become emperor. And for the first five years, he listens to Seneca and he has another military advisor named Burris who he listens to. And so the first five years of Nero are great. They're actually known as the Quinium Neuronis, or the five golden years of Nero. But what happens is, you know, they say absolute power corrupts absolutely. The problem is Nero desperately wanted to be liked. And he desperately wanted to be liked as both an athlete and an artist. Like, so, you know, it's funny.

He sounds like Vladimir Putin. Yes, like people, it's funny, like people get the thing. You think that would be enough, but everyone wants, has their secret fantasy of what they want to be. So, Nero, like. Are you talking to the guy that's on testosterone about 325 pounds? Yeah, keep going. He fixes the Olympics so he can win as a chariot racer. He forces people to listen to his poetry.

He's delusional. He's not that good, but that's what he really wants to be known for. So he kind of starts to spin off the planet. And then he gets really paranoid that people are plotting against him, right? Absolute power crops, absolutely. At one point, Seneca. tells him, he goes, you know, it's impossible for you to kill literally all of your successors. The point being, eventually you'll die and someone will take your place.

Like, you can't kill everyone. I need a Seneca in my life. And at one point, he kills, he assassinations his own mother. He turns against his mother. He sends her out on this crew, on this boat ride, and he has her killed. I know about that. So he loses his mind. He really is shitty and he loses his mind.

And eventually Seneca, who becomes very rich working for near. He said, dude, I've had enough. I've got to get out of here. And Nero goes, bro, that's not how this works. And so he sends Seneca into exile. Eventually he kills Seneca, kills everyone. There's a joke. He has one of his generals killed.

And the general standing on the edge of his grave right before they kill him. And he looks down and he goes, even this isn't up to code. Like he's like, Nero sucks even at this. So he sucks. He's good at first. spins off the planet, sucks, and then this is where the story gets crazy. When the walls close in on him, Nero realized he has to kill himself, but he's too much of a coward to do it. So he calls one of his advisors to do it. He botches it. He sticks the knife in and he kind of screws it up. Nero does.

He calls one of his advisors and his advisor has to finish the job. And that advisor is the owner of Epictetus. So Epictetus is watching all of this happen. He's watching not just Nero spin off the planet, But he is watching Seneca, like, degrade himself by being associated. Like, Seneca writes all this great stuff about what it means to be a stoic, what it means to be a good person, and then has a day job working for a monster. It's a fucking fascinating, twisted world. And of course, it's endlessly fascinating. And I've talked about this many times Seneca's relationship with Nero.

Was Seneca an enabler of Nero? Is he complicit in what Nero did? Or was he the adult in the room? Would Nero have been worse without Seneca's influence? And one of my favorite all-time biographies, certainly one of my favorite books about stoicism by James Romm, called Dying Every Day, is about Seneca's time in Nero's court. This is something he writes in that book.

He says, the turbulence within Nero's palace also held huge historical importance The future of a dynasty, even of Rome itself, hinged on whether a mother could get along with a son, whether a husband could stay married to his wife, whether a tutor could get his student to respect and heed him. Nero's extreme youth at the time of accession, and his growing derangements afterward, made the task of managing him and the failure to do so critical to the fortunes of the empire and the world. For the empire, as the Romans like to believe, had by Nero's era nearly reached the confines of the world that contained it. And in fact, when I had James Rom on the podcast, I've interviewed him a couple times, but he came out to Austin. I was curious to hear his thoughts.

Like, what is it with something like Nero? Are they born that way? Is it something like Robert Caro says that power reveals? Or is it created? Is it a product of circumstances? And here's what he said. Yes, Mark, Israelis, is the anti-Nero in any ways. What's ironic is that his teachers had all learned from Epictetus, who had been present at the court of Nero and had probably seen the disaster with Seneca. So there is a direct line of transmission, really, from Seneca to Marcus. But the two of them are very distinct. And of course, Nero and Marcus are just antithetical, the one man who clung to his moral principles. Even in spite of immense duress, immense pressure, and the other who collapsed, really, as soon as the opportunity

for wrongdoing came around. And I wonder how much the swing vote is their mother? Because what does he say about his mother? Marcus's description of his mother is her reverence for the divine, her generosity, her inability not only to not do wrong, but to even conceive of doing it in the simple way she lived. not in the least like the rich. That's basically the opposite of Nero's mother. Yes, right.

And so maybe that's the swing vote. That could be, yes, the parentage. And of course, Nero also lacked a father. But so did Marcus. Well, Marcus was adopted and had a very positive role model to look up to in Antoninus. But the problem of Nero being fatherless for really his first 13 years. And then having Seneca as a surrogate father. who at that point was already, you know, almost two generations older and not a very paternal type.

I don't think never had children of his own. So, yeah, parenting was a big dividing line for those two. Yeah, that's interesting because Marcus is attached to Antoninus and Hadron probably thinks he's going to live for a few more years and he lives for like 20 years. And Marcus actually takes to this apprenticeship and decides like, yeah, I don't want to be emperor. right away, I'm fine being the number two. And Nero is basically that's what Seneca is set up to be, although he's not made emperor himself. And Nero listens to him for a little bit and then stops.

I always come back to that famous Barone statue of Seneca and Nero sitting together. And obviously it's not of the time. But you can see in Nero's body language some sense of what it would actually be like to have access. to potentially the wisest man of your time and think you know more or not be interested in hearing from them. Yes. Or to actively reject what he's telling you. The problem of Nero's love life right from the get-go divided Seneca Nero, because Seneca wanted to defend the legitimate wife, Octavia,

who represented the stability of the empire, the future dynasty, and the union of the two branches of the royal family. And Nero didn't want anything to do with that. Yes. He wanted the hottie. Yeah, it's at some level no one can tell the emperor what to do. But Marcus Aurelius is bound by some sense of tradition or honor or norms. And then I would say the philosophy itself.

Like the philosophy is telling him. Like Epictetus is telling Marcus what to do in that he has sort of laid down these precepts or these sort of ideals to aspire to. And Nero has none of that. And one of them spins off the planet and the other doesn't. Yeah, it's a fascinating study. The place of Stoicism in the heart of the Roman Empire in the palace and the fact that it later got banished from the palace as a threat to imperial power, that too is part of

of the story, you mentioned Domitian and the exile of the philosophers from the royal court. At that point, it had been determined that stoicism could not get along, could not be incorporated into the power structure. That time of Nero is so interesting because you have all these different kind of stoic characters and they each sort of show us a different way that you respond to tyranny or disfummel. or corruption. So you have someone like Agrippinus who's kind of this like marches to the beat of his own drummer. He says, I want to be the red thread in the in the white sweater. Then you have Epictetus, who's sort of powerless inside of it and just trying to focus internally, you know,

just how do I find freedom within myself when I am literally, you know, in chains. Then you have Seneca, who's the collaborator, you know, it's sort of mitigator, martyr type. And then you have a thracet. You have these other ones who are sort of more aggressively rebellious and revolutionary, I guess. And I mean, they all end up effectively in the same place. I guess the Stoics would say it doesn't bat. Like they all end up not making it out alive. But there's this sort of different paths that you can follow.

And then it's sort of left to us all these thousands of years later to say like, which role do you want to play? Yes, very true. And it's interesting that Marcus has become sort of our primary touchstone for Roman Stoicism and by far more popular, more widely read than either Seneca or Epictetus, and certainly more so than the other minor figures. You know, Marcus has really gripped the imagination. I think in part because of his royal power, because he was able to resist the pull into the, hedonism, into vice, into family murder. Of course, he did some bad things. Yes, we still grade him on a curve. We grade him on a curve, yes, very much so. And compared

to the things he could have done, and that Nero did, he comes out looking pretty good. So was Nero really that bad? I'll leave it up to you to think about. I think Nero's last which were uttered as he had Epictetus's owner stick the knife into his neck, being too afraid to do it himself. Give us a sense of the narcissism and the megalomania and the ridiculousness of this character. He said, what an artist the world loses in me. There's something kind of funny about that, not just because he wasn't a good artist, but although Nero feared the world was losing an artist with him, which again they weren't. His life has inspired and continues to inspire artists and writers and academics and creatives to this day. I hope you enjoyed

this deep dive into Nero. Let's talk soon.