The Daily Stoic - We Are Not In Decline | Ask Daily Stoic

Episode Date: November 4, 2022

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Marcus Arelius must have looked around Rome, besieged as it was by plagues and unrest and corruption and long for the old days. Seneca stuck in Nero's court long for the days of Cato and Cicero, just as Cato himself looked back at the days of his great-grandfather, Cato, the elder. The point is, it's always felt like things are in decline. It's always felt like society is coming apart that the most mayorum is losing its hold. But do you know how many years Rome stood after Marcus? That's even with his terrible son, Connus,

reigning after him. It's 296, almost three centuries. The end of the Republican Cato's time was 167 years before Marcus. In the 1600s, as the Puritans fled a plague-ridden London to the new world They thought they were living in the end times and yet America would still be going 400 years later And so would England as baddest things were as baddest things would get They are

Unquestionably on a whole much better. Why are they better? Because people made them better. Because not everyone was so cynical or despondent because not everyone disbared. Some people chose to imagine a better future strove to make a better future. Many of those people were still ex. In the time of Nero still ex resisted and fought, in the late 1700s a group of men steeped in Greek and Roman philosophy as Tom Rick's details in his wonderful book, First Principles. They sought to form a more perfect union, just as four score and seven years later Lincoln would carry on that work. What about you?

Have you given up? Have you chosen to see decline as permanent and not temporary? Have you decided that what's happening in the world and your country, in your neighborhood is not something that you control. You can look backwards with a sigh or forwards with a clenched jaw. What will it be? Hey, it's Ryan Holiday. Welcome to another episode of Ask Daily Stoke. You send us your questions at info at dailystoke.com. I do my best to answer. Specific questions are best. In depth is best. We talk about stoicism. We talk about life. We talk about anything

you guys are struggling with. And, uh, yeah, it's fun. Okay, so, Al is asking, is he allowed to pursue personal wealth and remain a line of stosism? I think it depends on how and why you're pursuing wealth and success. I mean, the undisputable fact is that many of the stokes were quite wealthy. Some were quite poor, but Cato was rich, Seneca was rich, Marcus, and really this was rich. Many of the others were as well.

I think what the Stoics tried to practice towards these things was what they called kind of preferred indifference. So the idea, if you're chasing money because you think money is going to make you happy, if you think chasing money is going to make you important, or it's proof that you're chasing money because you think money is going to make you happy, if you think chasing money is going to make you important or it's proof that you're a good person, you're going down the wrong road. If by pursuing what you love, if by pursuing excellence, if by getting good at what you do, wealth is a byproduct of that or success is a byproduct, I don't think the stokes would say you have to turn that down, right?

I think Seneca's point was, he's like, sure, it's admirable to see someone, eating off sort of earthen dishes, earthenware dishes. But he says, is it more admirable to see someone eating off silver dishes and not caring that they're doing that? So his point was, it's actually, if you have money, the real challenges, or if you've

earned money or you happen to have a lucrative career, whatever it is, isn't it actually more impressive to not need it, right? So his point is that you can have it, but you shouldn't need it. And that's kind of how I think about it. I've been lucky enough to be successful both in my writing career as well as in business. And I feel fortunate to have come from middle class family, so I don't have college loan debt or anything

like that. But I also, that's not what I think defines me as a person. That's not proof of my worth. And actually, I'm somewhat leery of obscene or extreme wealth, because I understand the temptation or the corruptiveness that can come along with that. So, this is the thing we've talked about before. Senika would practice poverty as a way of making himself

indifferent to his wealth. Monica's a realist would sleep on a hard mattress. He would maybe sold off some of Rome's famous palace furnishings to pay down Rome's debt. That the idea was becoming sort of immune to or not needing that wealth. The last thing I would say about Senaika that I think's interesting, he says like,

as long as your money's not stained with blood, like you're good, and I think that's a great way to think about the problem is Senaika's fortune probably was stained with blood. You can look up what's called the Budaqa rebellion, which is this sort of interesting rabbit hole with Senaika. It was partly responsible for the British colony rebelling against Rome, but also you got as money working through Nero. So making your money, becoming rich by being a drug dealer,

I don't think it's the same thing as say, like becoming rich because the car dealership you started has gone on to be successful or the invention that you have which improved the world also happened to enrich you in the process. So I think how you get your money, but more importantly, the relationship you have to that money is really what answers that question,

but really good one. Demetri asks, who are some famous people in history that have practiced stoicism or had a resemblance of a stoic mindset without even knowing what stoicism is? We know it's interesting, and I feel like that's what I try to do in my books. In cases, I'm not clear.

I'm not saying that Thomas Edison was a practitioner of stoicism. I'm saying that when his factory burned down and he embraced that sort of amorphati and rebuilt it, he was being a stoic. I'm definitely not saying Irwin Rommel, the Nazi general, was a stoic. I think the cause that he fought for was in Horan, but he proved an idea I was talking about in an isolated case in the book. And so this is why when you see the stoics

talk about Alexander the Great, or different philosophers, or different generals who didn't agree with them, they're looking at the attitude, not the allegiance of the person. And so I think that's really important. So if you see someone who's behaving stoically or embracing a stoic mindset in a specific scenario,

like support them, praise them for it, be a fan of it. They don't actually have to be a believer in what you believe. I think there's a sort of a stoic approach to Obama's mentality. Again, if you can put politics aside, he was very difficult to ruffle. He didn't get upset.

He endured a lot of crap. He stuck with it. He had that even keel that I think is key to the stoic mentality. And that's why I tell the story of his famous speech when he decided to see the sort of teachable moment with the Reverend Wright scandal in the 2008 election. So I am as fascinated as you, Dimitri, with examples of people who are proving the still principals, whether they know them or not.

I think the New England Patriots and the Atlanta Super Bowl, 28 to three, sort of deciding to see, 28 to three as just the score as a thing they could inch their way back from. To me, it was the embodiment of stoicism. Now some of the controversies involving the team, some of the egos involving the team, the football itself might not be at all aligned with stoicism, but that doesn't mean that we can't pick and choose and learn these lessons or extract some lessons or extract admirable mindsets or approaches from these people in an interesting way. Fabrizio is saying, what's my opinion of the people organizations and articles that are saying stoicism is not good or not working?

I don't care. I really don't give a shit. Because why would I? I mean, sometimes I'm interviewed for these pieces. They want to ask my opinion, and I do try to explain myself to someone who's asking in good faith. But when people have an axagrine, when people want to criticize, mostly I just see this as evidence that it is working, or that it is having an impact, I definitely don't spend a lot of time trying to convince people

who are not interested in what I'm doing, why they should be interested in what I'm doing or the benefits of stoicism. I do say I find some of the Silicon Valley criticism of stoicism that, oh, this is just a bunch of guys. Wealthy people using this philosophy in the wrong, what would you rather have computer programmers be reading other than a philosophy that preaches courage, justice, moderation, and wisdom.

Like, or, you know, it'll be like, oh, can you believe people on Wall Street are studying ancient philosophy? Why is that a bad thing? To me, that's a good thing. And I certainly think the criticism that my books are, you know, not as good as the real Stoics to also be equally ridiculous, because of course, they're not. My books are supposed to be an entry point into Stoicism.

So if people want to be interested in Stoicism purely from a self-help standpoint, and that's what gets them started, and I think that's what a lot of these trend pieces are sort of tackling, why would I complain about that? Why would I fault them? I think we should accept people where they are, we should encourage them to start to go down a road rather than mock them or criticize them for not being

as advanced as us. And so, yeah, that's sort of my pro. If there's, what I've not seen, unfortunately, what I'd love to have a discussion about is some smart discussions about what we dislike in stoicism, where it falls short, where other philosophies have things to add. That's the kind of conversation I would have. Unfortunately, that's rarely the one that we get. Rachelle is saying, in the last year, he became responsible. He or she became responsible

for making decisions about my dad's senior care. Growing up, he was not an engaged parent. He rarely told me no. He rarely helped her encourage me. He often says he was glad that I did not require much from him. Now they're responsible for his health and safety and the challenges to not fall into a reput you so mindset which helps no one, any word of advice. I would encourage you to look up a passage in epictetus.

He says, every situation has two handles. And he's specifically talking about a troublesome brother. And he says, you could pick up the handle that my brother is an asshole, my brother is a bad person, my brother has done this to me, my brother means this. Or you could go, hey, this is my brother, we're related, we're obligated to each other. I'm going to be the best brother that I can be even if they weren't a good brother to

me. And Epithetians is saying, what's a better handle to grab this situation from? I know we've done an email about this, but I love the line, speaking of brothers, from Bruce Springsteen's song, Highway Patrolman, where he says, sometimes when it's your brother, you look the other way. And I think Kato had that relationship with his brother. You know, Marcus really has lost his father and his mother pretty early.

So he had his adopted parents who were flawed and not great, but he found what he loved in them, what he could learn from them, and he tried to always honor them and do right by them. And so, look, I don't know the specifics of your situation with your father. I'm fortunate not to be at that place where I'm taking care of my parents for health or financial reasons, you know, yet who knows how things are going to go. But I think you should just think about like, are you being the person that you want to be?

That's how I would sort of make my decisions. M, not, is this what my dad deserves, but like, M-I living up to what I say is important, right? Don't be abused by a person, don't be taken advantage of, but also think like, what is the right thing to do here? What's the honorable thing to do here? What's the honorable thing to do here? What's the thing I'm gonna be proud of?

What's the thing I'm gonna be able to tell my children or other people about in the future? And I think that will help kind of prevent you from either being petty or holding onto grudges or trying to sort of project some very real and reasonable childhood issues you have with this person on them now as an old man. One of the things I heard that's good advice

I try to think about this with my parents, they were like, try not to think about them as the people they were growing up, but just think about them as old people you're not related to. And when it's an old person, you're forgiving, you're kind, you know, you're patient, you help more than you otherwise would.

So just maybe just thinking about your data as like how you would help an old neighbor, or an old uncle might help you get past some of those issues as well. So that's another episode of Ask Daily Stoke. This is always fun. We love your questions. Again, these are getting really specific and great.

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