The Daily Stoic - What Does It Change? | How To Stay Unbothered In Chaotic Times

Episode Date: October 24, 2025

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it change in the real world? Well, that's much less clear, isn't it? So why are you subjecting yourself to it? Why do you continue to assume that your duty as a citizen is to watch and read about horrible stuff constantly. Seneca lived during the time of Nero. Epictetus lived in the time of Domitian. Cato's lifetime saw the fall of the Republic. Marcus Aurelius saw the beginning of the decline of the empire. They experienced famines and floods and wars and corruption and incompetence.

The Stoics were not unfamiliar with the feelings, the dread, the disappointment, the bewildering, and the outrage that we are feeling today. But you know what? understood? They understood what was in their control and what wasn't, and what made a difference and what didn't. Do you think a stoic and ancient Rome needed daily updates to know that Nero was deranged, or that what Caesar was doing was illegal and inexcusable? Part of being a thinking and a decent person is being able to discern what's going on, but part of being a discerning

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get inside your head, to not make you want to give up on your fellow human beings. And it's what we're going to talk about in today's episode. How the Stoics can teach us to master our emotions so we stop overreacting and we can focus on doing the work that desperately needs to be done. At the root of all of my problems, when I look back at my life, anxiety, worry, anger, fear, at the root of all of it was strong emotions that didn't end up making the situation any better. All the things I've been angry about, all the things I've been anxious about, all the things I've been worked up about. Did it make one fucking shred of difference?

No, it didn't. Mark Seriali says in meditation, The causes of our emotions are often worse than the thing we're worried or emoting about. That anger makes stuff worse. Anxiety makes stuff worse. When I look back at my life, I see how these strong overwhelming passions, as the Stoics call them, the things that get us worked up, they weren't helping me. They weren't even avoiding the things that I wanted to avoid or bringing me the things I wanted them to bring.

No, they were just causing me needless distress, needless worry. They were taking me out of the moment and preventing me from, from having peace, from having any stillness, and from being who I wanted to be. If you think being a Stoic means has no emotions, you're getting it wrong. It's not that the Stoics had no emotion, it's that they tried to have less emotion,

less anger, less greed, less lust, less fear, less ego. And they tried to replace that with something else. Mark's really says, the key to life is to be free of passion, but full of love, love for the present moment, love for other people, love for whatever the hand of fate deals you. That's what Stoicism is about.

It's not emotionlessness, it's less emotion. And in fact, one of the stories we have of Marcus is him grieving over a teacher that had died and how sad he was because he loved this person dearly. And so yeah, the Stoics try not to be angry, the Stoics try not to be jealous, the Stoics try not to be driven or ruled by emotions, but largely they're trying to avoid the distrously.

destructive emotions. And what they're trying to put instead in there is compassion, empathy, love, and connection. James Baldwin said hatred has never failed to destroy the person who hated. So this is an immutable law. The question to me is as you get older, as you go through the world, as you go through life, are you getting more jaded and cynical? Are you getting sick of people? Or are you actually feeling more compassion, more affinity, more connection to them? Stoicism has this idea of the circles. of concern, right? We start off as selfish, but they say as we go, there are these other rings, other people, animals, the environment. And they said it's this beautiful madness to pull these outer rings inward. So that's what Stilicism actually is. You should become more caring, more interested, not more detached, more disinterested. Do you ever caught yourself getting really mad while you're driving? It's like you're screaming in your car. They can't hear you. You're ridiculous. You're screaming. You're screaming. at yourself. You're making yourself mad.

Austin is one of the most frustrating cities in America to drive in. I mean, think of it. Austin's motto for a long time is, if we don't build it, they won't come. But people came anyway, so there's always ridiculous traffic. People can't understand the roads because they're all new. And then the locals don't want them to be here anyway, so they hate anyone they think it's from California. So anyways, I think driving is always a good test

of one's stoicism, of one's philosophy. philosophy or I always love someone gets angry and so they start driving really dangerously like who is that going to punish like you're going to die in an accident and that's going to be punishment for the other person I'm not sure how that works so I think at the core of stoicism is this idea for Marcus really says you know the consequences of anger are always worse than what provokes it Seneca's line you know he's like you wouldn't return a kick to a mule or a bite to a dog but that's what happened someone drives poorly at us or

someone's rude to us and we have to return the favor even if it literally comes at the risk of our own health, I mean, it's nuts. So the Stoic would hopefully be a kind and a generous and a forgiving driver, certainly a patient driver. Next time you see someone get really upset when they're driving, just realize that that's how bad you look. Like you look as insane as the frothing at the mouth,

veins bulging, you know, screaming, flipping people off driver, you are not better than them. And hopefully that shames you into a little bit better behavior. I think it's remarkable that Marcus continually talked about more than anything, get in control of his anger. And you know he had a problem with it because of how much he talked about it. Like he's not talking about,

you gotta remember Marcus, jokes are funny. Right, you know. Come on, man, lighten up a little bit. Right, he's clearly had a huge problem with it. I think it's probably one of the things he returns to most. Hadrian, the emperor who sets in motion, Marcus eventually becoming emperor,

there's a story. Hadrian gets mad at a secretary, messes something up, and he picks up a pen and he stabs it in the guy's eye. That's the level of power, and indulgence that the Roman emperor could get away with. The story is that he obviously feels bad about it after, and he goes, like, I'll give you anything.

Like, I'm so sorry, I'll give you anything to make it better. And the guy just says, can I have my eye back? Which is, I think, a poignant reminder that, like, the things that we do out of anger cannot be undone. I once told my wife that she was frustrating me, and she responded with probably the most frustrating thing you can imagine. She said, I can't make it.

I can't make you frustrated. But to the Stoics, this is totally true because we're responsible for our own emotions. Epictita says, if you find yourself offended, realize that you are complicit in taking offense. It takes two to tango, but also as the Stoics say, things don't upset us. We choose to be upset about them. It's our opinions that are to blame, not the objective situation. So this is a really important thing to remember. No one can make you angry.

They can't make you upset. No one can make you feel anything. That's a choice that you make. You're responsible for your own emotions. And I'm telling you that as much as I'm telling myself that because I forget it all the time. We're responsible for our own emotions. Nobody else. No one can make us feel, say, or do anything. Least of all, frustrated or angry. One of the things Marcus does in meditations is he quotes from playwrights or lines from the theater that particularly struck him. One of my favorites, this is a lost line from the poet Euripides.

I think it perfectly captures stoicism. He says, and why should we be? be angry at the world as if the world would notice. We don't know what this plays from. We don't know the larger context, but it's such a great Stoic line. Getting angry, being pissed off, being resentful, being bitter. The world doesn't care.

It doesn't care that you're angry at it, that you're calling it mean names. It is indifferent to you and I. All we can try to do the Stoics say is maintain that goodness, preserve our character, focus on how we respond. 2,000 year old advice for when you're insulted, when your feelings are,

hurt when you have been criticized. This is also from Epic Cheetos. He says, you know, when you are offended, when your feelings are hurt, when you let it get to you, you are complicit. You have chosen to take offense. Again, the remark is someone wrote the article, someone posted the tweet, someone put up the comment, but then you decided that that hurt you, that hurt your feelings. This is from the great Roman Stoic Cato. He was once punched in the bath. Someone bumped into him, that words were exchanged and someone threw a punch. And then afterwards, the person came to apologize and he said, what? I don't even remember. remember being hit. You can just pretend not to have hurt it. You can just pretend that it didn't

happen. Mark Serrilla says the best revenge is to not be like that. He says it only harms you if it harms your character. So the unfair criticism, the slander, the insult, whatever it is, that hasn't hurt you. But if you degrade yourself in how you respond, if you sink down to their level, then it in fact has hurt you because it has made you worse. The root of so many mistakes, the downfall of so many powerful people is what? It's anger. You never are glad you lost your temper and in fact you almost always regret it. One of the early Stoics advised the emperor, he said, whenever you feel yourself getting angry,

Caesar, don't do or say anything until you've repeated all the letters of the alphabet. Meaning take a pause, take a minute, don't rush into it, don't react emotionally, calm down. Your temper will not solve this problem. almost certainly will make it worse. People tend to think stoicism is having no emotions, but what I thought was so genius about Usashi, he's not only not-not-emotional, or he's so transcended his emotions that he's able to use emotion effectively. And like, I think about this, like, when a basketball coach will get a technical on purpose. If you think it's about stripping emotion out of things, maybe that is

part of it, but that's like beginner level. That's like, that's like, basic. But the real thing is to be able to understand emotions, process them, and then use them, or at the very least understand other people's emotions and be able to manipulate the wrong word, but use those emotions to help them or you accomplish what is supposed to be accomplished. Yeah, I mean, the proper idea to me is sort of a lot of what I meditate about and is in Buddhism where you don't try to repress your emotions because, first of all, you can't. We are emotional animals. And if ever you have tried to repress your emotions, particularly in a state of meditation, you see you have zero control over them, right? They're popping up. You know, it's the way we're

wired. So the proper eye stance is I'm not going to repress emotions, but I'm going to understand them. I'm going to see them as they occur with a degree of distance. I'm going to see that I'm angry in this moment. I like to imagine it as if I'm like six inches away from myself. I don't know why that metaphor come up but only six inches that doesn't seem that far well it's out this side it's like here however that's like a more like a foot I guess and I'm looking at what I'm thinking or feeling from that distance almost from the outside and I'm still feeling it but I'm seeing it as if it's from as if I'm another person I know this is a strange concept yeah but you can observe your own emotions while you're feeling them and then you they don't have power over you then you can say okay I'm angry

why am I angry so number one I recognize the emotion number two to why am I angry? Is it stem from something weeks ago, months ago, or earlier today? And then what do I do with my anger? Sometimes you want to use your anger, you want to channel your anger. So when you're in sports,

if you don't have that kind of drive and that anger, when you're in a bet, you know, when you're down by 12 points. It's like an extra gear. Yeah. You can pull. Yeah. There's a little bit of anger and even, I don't know, hatred or something, you just despise the enemy. You're going to crush them.

You use that emotion. But as Phil Jackson said, if that emotion controls you throughout 48 minutes of a game, you're useless. You drain yourself, you can't control it. You also make mistakes. You make mistakes. So you need to be focused, but you also need to be able to use those emotions. Just 30 days left to pre-order the new book, Wisdom Takes Work. I've been working on this series for six years now.

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Nobody's bringing the good, exciting, fun stuff to the emperor. He's getting the hard decisions. He's getting the bad news. He's hearing of the crises. And they're his problem. They're his responsibility. And so I think it's important when we see in meditations, Marcus Reelis is talking about how you want to be like the rock. He says, be like the rock that the waves crash over and eventually the

sea falls still around, right? A leader has to keep that even keel. It's not that the Stoics were emotionless, but Marcus tried to be less emotional, right? Because so much was at stake. It didn't matter what he thought. It didn't matter what he felt. It didn't matter that he was frustrated or tired. It didn't matter that he was worried or anxious. He had to be cool and calm and collected. General James Mattis, four-star general in the Marines, former Secretary of Defense, carry Mark Serialis with him on his deployments. He would say one of the things he's most worried about, he says, the biggest problem that leaders have in the information age, he says it's not enough space for reflection,

not enough solitude, right? They're too emotional, they're too caught up in the moment, they're doing and doing and doing, they're scrolling and scrolling and scrolling. They're not being like the rock that the waves crash over. They're not letting things sit still. They're not being calm. I think of Kennedy in the missile crisis as a great example of a leader being like the rock not responding immediately letting things settle seeing it clearly then making a clear decisive and courageous stand but not reacting emotionally and one of the things we can take from Marcus is that leaders can't be emotional in high-stakes situation there's a story I tell in discipline is destiny

about Richard Feynman one day it's like 10 o'clock in the morning he's out for a walk and he feels this pull wants to have a drink. He never saw himself as an alcoholic, he never had this problem with alcoholism, but he was deeply uncomfortable with this drive, this pull to do something. It was coming from a part of him that he didn't control. The Stoics say that's something you have to be really suspicious of. Seneca says slavery isn't just this legal status. He says everyone's a slave. He says someone's a slave to their mistress. Somebody's a slave to money. Someone's a slave to power and attention. And he said those people might be literally free. They might be powerful. They might be

important, but they're not in control. In Discipline and Destiny, I also tell the story of Eisenhower. He was told by his doctor that is smoking out, but he'd smoke like four packs a day for 40 years. It was hurting his health. He says, okay? And I love this. He says, I gave myself an order to stop smoking. And he stopped smoking cold turkey like that. It's going to be harder for some people, easier for some people. But the point is, you've got to give yourself that order. You have to say, who's in charge? This habit, this addiction, this vice that I have, this thing that I want. or am I in charge? I the boss or is it the boss? And that's what Feynman was reacting to. That's what Seneca was reacting to. That's what Eisenhower is reacting to. And ultimately,

that's what Epictetus is reacting to in the same court as Seneca. He looks around and he goes, I'm a slave, but I'm freer than these people because I'm in control of my habits. I decide what I do and what I don't do. And we have to give ourselves that power. You think you're the first person to live in political dysfunction? You think you're the first person to live in a time when it feels like the world is falling apart? You think you're the first person to live in a time when people are shitty to each other, when they're demagogues in power, when it feels like stuff is falling apart? No, you weren't. The ancient Stoics lived in the time of Nero.

You know, Socrates, he didn't live in the golden age of Athens. He lived in the time of 30 tyrants. He lived through a great power conflict. People have always lived in difficult times, but you know what they figured out? They figured out you got to focus on what's in your control. You got to figure out how to not let the assholes make you an asshole. You got to do good where you can. You got to remind yourself what's important.

You can't follow every news story. You can't be distracted by every outrage. You can't extrapolate everything into the end of the world. You have to ride it out. You have to focus. You have to stay good and stay decent. And then you got to make a positive difference where you can. You can't give up hope. You have to stand strong and you have to realize in times like these that there have always been times like these and people got through it and you will get through it.

Every city has its lessons to teach you and New Orleans because it's totally dysfunctional because everything's old and falling apart and it's been doing things its way for so many hundreds of years that the lesson is acceptance. Like I guess there's just a giant sinkhole blocking this street. I guess the street car is going to be super late because the driver decided to do to do whatever. This person decided to be incredibly rude. This person decided to be a maniac. It's a wonderful, amazing city. But it just teaches you that you're not in control. You don't get to decide the way that it should be logic doesn't get to decide the way that it should be.

Convenience doesn't decide the way things are going to be. No, it's going to be the way that it is, the way that it's always been, and you have to accept it. Epictetus talks about the art of acquiescence. New Orleans is a city that teaches. you the power of acquiescence. Seneca has another line about paying the taxes of life gladly. You pay the taxes that come from being in such a wonderful, beautiful, historic place. Not all of it's going to be fun, not all of it's going to be easy. Some of it's going to be more expensive than you'd like it to be. But that's just how it goes. That's what it is, and that's

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