The Daily Stoic - You Can Have This Joy | The Stoic Art Of Stillness (12 Keys)

Episode Date: February 6, 2024

Look, everyone is entitled to their own opinion and if in their opinion, that’s what Stoicism is in their view—God bless them. But the facts just don’t support it. There was literally a Stoic (Chrysippus) who laughed so hard he died, ok? What more do you need to know? Sure, Marcus Aurelius opens Meditations with some observations about how annoying and obnoxious people can be, but his personal letters to Fronto are filled with affection and wit—he even tells of a prank he pulled. Every somber note in Meditations is matched by reveries for the beauty of the natural world and gratitude for the gifts life has given him.-Stillness is that quiet moment when inspiration hits you. It’s that ability to step back and reflect. It’s what makes room for gratitude and happiness. It’s one of the most powerful forces on earth. In this video excerpt Ryan Holiday talks about some key Stoic practices that will help you find stillness.✉️ Sign up for the Daily Stoic email: https://dailystoic.com/dailyemail🏛 Check out the Daily Stoic Store for Stoic inspired products, signed books, and more.📱 Follow us: Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, TikTok, FacebookSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Welcome to the Daily Stoic Podcast, where each day we read a passage of ancient wisdom designed to help you in your everyday life. On Tuesdays, we take a closer look at these stoic ideas and how we can apply them in our actual lives. Thanks for listening, and I hope you enjoy. You can have this joy. They're depressing, they're cynical, they're negative. It's why Stoicism is a misguided philosophy, we're told, why it died out, because there was no room for happiness or joy or laughter in it.

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and if in their opinion that's what Stoicism is, God bless them. But the facts just don't support it. There was a literally a stoic, Chrysippus who laughed so hard that he died, okay? What more do you need to know? Sure, Marx really opens meditations with some observations about how annoying and obnoxious people are,

but his personal letters to Fronto are filled with affection and wit. He even tells of a prank that he pulled. The down notes in meditations are equally matched by reveries for the beauty of the natural world and for, and gratitude for the gifts that life has given him. And then there's Seneca, a Stoic who seemed to have the most fun of all of them.

He entertained, he loved the theater, he loved nature, he loved being active. Sure, he understood the darkness and unpredictability of life. He buried a child, was unfairly exiled, he witnessed Nero's evil. But it was from this that he came to fully understand how and where to find joy. Snatched the pleasures your children bring, he wrote, let your children in turn find delight in you, and drain joy to the dregs without delay.

No promise has been given you for this night. No, I've offered too long a respite, he said. No promise has been given even for this hour. You too can be a joyful stove. In fact, you must be. It's part of the whole deal. If you wanna focus more on your wellbeing this year, you should read more and you should give Audible a try.

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I don't need to become anything other than I am at this very moment, at this very place that I am in this very instant. That's it. It's enough. Stillness, it seems easy. It seems like the absence of action or discipline, but it really requires an immense amount of discipline and self-control. That's what Seneca was practicing there in that busy, noisy environment trying to focus.

In fact, Seneca said there is no greatness without stillness. Someone who's successful, but they're frenzied and busy and chaotic. Nobody wants to be that person. In fact, that's a horrible person to be. It's what Marcus Aurelius had to practice amidst the stresses and distractions of his job, and it's what we all have to practice in the chaos and busyness of modern life. I'm Ryan Holiday, I've written books about stoic philosophy, I've been lucky enough to speak about it to the NBA and the NFL and one of those books I wrote is called Stillness

is the Key and it's about how stillness unlocks our potential not just for professional success but for personal happiness and contentment and that's what we're going to talk about in today's episode. Stoic secrets, stoic strategies, achieving this stillness, which unlocks so much of what we need in life. Nietzsche said that only ideas had while walking have any worth. I don't know if that's strictly true, but I do know I've had a lot of really good ideas walking.

And that's just like an extra benefit. I mean, you're outside, you're active. Ideally, you're not on the phone. Maybe you're with people that you care about, you're present, doing what human beings were involved to do over thousands and thousands of years. So I try not to let a single day go by without walking. It rests, it relaxes the mind, it centers me.

I try to start the day with the walk, I try to end the day with the walk. The mind must be given over to relaxation to take wandering walks. It's part of the philosophical process. It's part of my daily routine, and it should be part of your daily routine too. Cable television news is like the worst thing

you could possibly put in your body. I'd rather drink soda or eat at McDonald's. You think about what the news is designed to do. It's designed not to inform you because if it informed you, you wouldn't need to watch any more news, right? The purpose of the news is to make you continue watching the news. People go, Oh, but isn't your civic duty to be informed? Yes. Your civic duty is to be informed.

I would argue that the best way to be informed is to read books. I'm gonna happen to be partial to books. News is typically worth what you pay for it, which is usually nothing. The number one predictor of social spread is how angry something makes you. So should it surprise us that whether you're a liberal

or a conservative, the news seems to constantly be showing how outrageous the world is, right? Of course it's not a coincidence. This is their business model. I'm actually not sure how bad things actually are right now and how much of this is a reflection of what the medium needs to provide for us. So we continue to consume it. I would urge you to think if you are someone who reads a lot of news, you

think, oh, I'm being informed. This is my civic duty. How many decisions do you actually make on this information? You already know who you're probably going to vote for. You already know most of your stands on the issue. What you're really doing is seeing where this is going to go. Here's a funny fact. It's going to go where it's going to go. You can just check in at the end. And so I try to consume as little news as possible. People ask how, again, how are you so productive? How do

you read so many books? I don't watch the news, right? I don't spend time doing this. And if I'm going to spend the news watching Mindless entertainment, I'm gonna watch something that's enjoyably entertaining, not something that tells me that the world is on fire. I have found like I've gotta get to the office early before I get sucked into other stuff. I've gotta have quiet time alone. If I'm trying to write in four in the evening,

if I'm trying to write in a busy coffee shop, if I'm trying to write in my office is a mess or disaster, I can't be in the headspace if I'm trying to write in a busy coffee shop, I'm trying to write in my office is a mess or disaster. I can't be in the headspace that I need to be to do what I need to do. We make these choices that facilitate the stillness that we need to access to perform at a peak or an elite level. I'm sure many of you read Anne Frank's diary

when you were in school, you've heard of it. She has this great line in her diary that I think about. She says, paper is more patient than people. Instead of vomiting your thoughts on your employees, on your friends, on the driver in front of you who's taking forever, put it on the page. These are some of Kennedy's doodles during the Cuban Missile Crisis. He was writing notes to himself, thoughts, but you can see his sort of brainstorming working out of the stressful situation

he's in. I was in Milan a few years ago and I got to see some of Da Vinci's journals just as a creativity exercise, right? The journal and the working, the sketching out, this is what creates the work, right? You can't have the last supper without the journals. The page is forgiving and patient.

It keeps secrets. Doesn't care if you're contradicting yourself. It doesn't care if you're being a baby. It doesn't care if you're being a baby. It doesn't care if you're whining. Just put it down on the page. The page will help. I love the idea of having distance between you and your thoughts.

Part of the reasons we're worked up and anxious and stressed is that we're trapped in our heads with all this stuff and you get it out and you see it from a distance and you go, I don't even agree with my own thoughts here. I don't even like this. I'm not gonna choose to carry this around. So putting it down on the page is just really important and this is what journaling can help us do.

So the idea of exploring, keeping a commonplace book, a place you collect ideas, you work out your thoughts, this is a really important exercise. The stoic speak of this idea of the inner citadel, this sort of part inside yourself that can't be touched by externals. and exercise. He did not meet with all the misfortune that he did not deserve. Nothing touches the inner goodness inside him. That's what meditation shows. It shows that despite the filth, the dust, the stress of life, what remains is the goodness.

He keeps that pure bubbling up always. When you watch the greats, when you see the Jordan, the Tom Brady, the great politicians, the great actors, you see a certain level of calmness too. That kind of changed everything for me. To me, being present is being extremely calm. Yes. It's Bill Belichick right there.

That's why I think he's the best coach because of his ability to stay calm no matter what. Big win, he'll smile a little bit and get happy, but a big loss, hey, got a butt kick. It's almost the same. A lot of people probably don't like that. Someone like an emotional coach. There's a guy named Rex Ryan, who's a hell of a coach.

Very up and down, emotional. And then you get a team like that. You get your family like that, whether you're the head of the household. Like it's important with your kids, with your wife, with your family, with your business, with whatever it is to stay that level. Yeah, like an even keel.

Everything begins with that level of calm. Yeah, I mean, my word for that is stillness. Stillness. The idea is that when I think about all the best moments in my life, whether it's like performance, whether it's happiness, like when I'm like, this was awesome. I wasn't at an 11. I was at like five.

You know what I mean? Like you calm things down. You were present. You were focused. You were still. And I think the tension though is like to be great at whatever it is you do, you also have to have an intensity that you have to really want it.

And you have to be aggressive and ambitious, invested. The default is you care a ton. And then you have to figure out how to ratchet that down because that intensity will make you not as good as you could be. You'll make emotional decisions, they'll take things too seriously. Obviously Bill Belichick loves football

and he is intensely driven to win. So he has to work that calmness has to sit on top. Everything you talked about, all the intensity, the put in the hours and the presence, everything. And then at that last stage, before you go out on the stage, the last thing to remember is the calmness, stillness. When you're watching the news, when you're freaking out about what's happening in the world, it's because you're looking at it up close.

You think all the things that you're doing are important. You think what you're worried about is important, but it's puny. And when we zoom out a little bit, we finally get some perspective. We get some clarity. We realize how exaggerated what a preposterous sense of our own proportions we have. Let me show you some. Ants, these are ants on my form. Marcus Reales talks about how even armies, nations,

are just like little ants fighting over scraps of land. So whatever you're focused on, whatever you're worried about, whatever you're convinced is of the utmost importance, I promise you, if you just zoom out a little bit, you see it from the 10,000 foot view. If you see it out of the window of an airplane, it will put it in its proper perspective and it will remind you that you're not nearly as important,

things aren't nearly as dire or significant as you think. Just relax, you can work your way through them. I try to remind myself constantly that this moment is enough. I don't need to be anywhere, I don't need to do anything, I don't need to become anything other than don't need to do anything. I don't need to become anything other than I am at this very moment in time, at this very place that I am in this very

instant. That's it. It's enough. The Stokes talk about poverty being not just a thing about your finances, but about needing, desiring, wishing, hoping, fearing that you are anything but what you are at this very instant to become present to lock in. That's the key to everything to me. That's what stillness is about. And that's really what happiness is too. There's three things I think people should do every day. These are really simple things I think they make every day a win. I think they should journal. It takes some time to write in a journal. Get your thoughts on paper from your mind. I think you should go for a walk. Quiet time, where you do nothing, you're just walking around. In nature, you're outside. Do a phone call on the walk,

if you don't have time to just go for a walk. Go outside, experience nature, have this sort of movement through stillness. So even if I live in a city? Even if you live in a city. Take a walk around a parking lot, look at the ground, you know? And the last one seems the same as walking, but it's different. Have some sort of strenuous exercise that you do. If you take care of your body, your mind, your spirit will be better.

You'll have ideas. I love swimming because there's no screens. You can't hear anything and you're staring down. You can have the shittiest day at the office. You could get the worst sales report, but you lifted a PR on your deadlift. You just had a really good run. You had like 30 minutes of winning.

Give yourself that every day. I'm curious how guitar, music, language, reading, all the other things that you did. How did that make you a better basketball player and how is that sort of informed even now when you think about with your kids? Yeah, I had a friend that told me your hobbies lead to greatness.

I always thought that fascinating and just that made me look back on things. And I did these things just to kind of get my mind off of the game. And one of the things that I found was, for instance, during the playoffs, I would cook dinner. You have to concentrate on the meal or it's gonna suck. I'm looking at the time, I'm checking the meat.

It's the thing that I have to focus on. Because if I don't, my brain is gonna start going and then we're gonna start thinking about tomorrow and I'm gonna be back in that rabbit hole. You don't wanna be there all the time. Once I start relaxing in my cooking or in me playing the guitar, I see some weird connection

to where I think about basketball. But it'd be like, oh, okay, I could put that to the side. It's like, it was this crazy thing of no judgment. Wow, I never thought of that before. This is the move I'm gonna do tomorrow. Yeah, sometimes when you're thinking about something else, create room for your brain subconsciously solve some problem. If you're got to solve this, I got to solve this, I got to

solve. You're not going to make any progress. Yeah. Because the grind will grind you down if you don't have anything to refresh. All the way down. Sometimes you just stink. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I've been there plenty of times. Go eat a delicious meal, go do something else, get out of here. One of my favorite passages in all of Meditations,

Mark Sparilis talks about being the rock that the waves crash over and eventually fall still around. There's something really special about water. I just went for this swim in Lake Michigan. I'm just standing here by the water, listening to the waves, trying to sort of slow myself down. I have a talk I have to give later today. I have to travel later today.

I have a bunch of stuff I have to do. I want to get in that place of stillness. Euphemia, as Seneca talks about, at Tranquility. I want to get to a place of peace. Even though everything is crazy, it's slowing down around me and I'm going to be able to do what I have to do to a place of peace, even though everything is crazy. It's slowing down around me and I'm gonna be able to do what I have to do for the day. Every day I send out one Stoic inspired email, totally for free, almost a million people all over the world.

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